1526 - Her Husband Was Secretly Hooking Up with Guys & She Found Out After He Died?! w/Adam

Summary

Strictly Anonymous Confessions – Episode 1526

“Her Husband Was Secretly Hooking Up with Guys & She Found Out After He Died?! w/Adam”
Release Date: July 21, 2026
Host: Kathy Kay
Guest: Adam

Episode Overview

This spirited episode takes a deep dive into the now-viral story of Brandy Hammond—a woman who discovered after her husband's sudden death that he had been leading a double life, not only cheating with women (which she’d known about) but also with men. Kathy and returning guest Adam riff candidly on secrecy, sexual stigma, and the layers of living a hidden life, incorporating both humor and personal anecdotes. They explore why such secrets endure, the consequences for loved ones, and fantasize about a would-be “cleanup service” to protect legacies—plus share their own tales of discovered secrets and mortifying postmortem surprises.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

The Viral TikTok Confession: Brandy Hammond (Blue Panties and Bourbon)

• Background ([05:27]): Kathy introduces the story of Brandy Hammond (TikTok handle: Blue Panties and Bourbon) who revealed online her shock at discovering her late husband’s secret affairs with men via his email notifications after he died unexpectedly.
• Known Infidelities Escalate ([06:45]): Brandy already knew about his affairs with women, but the uncovering of relationships with men hit a new nerve and became viral content as Brandy read out her husband’s salacious emails.

Why Secret Lives Happen

• Stigma and Stereotypes ([07:22 - 08:32]):
  • Kathy emphasizes the prevalence of “straight-appearing” men engaging secretly in sexual encounters with other men, driven by societal stigma.
  • “There are so many guys that are into like sucking a dick that don't talk about it and they're not like, they're not like what you think...there is such a stigma. And honestly, that's the reason why guys are doing this behind everyone's back...” (Kathy, [07:29])

Hidden Lives and Their Aftermath

• The Fallout of Postmortem Secrets ([10:07], [11:09]):
  • Kathy discusses how, upon discovery, a lifetime of positive attributes can be overshadowed instantly in the eyes of loved ones.
  • “...you spend your whole life probably being great in every other area...you know, to everything for your wife, the minute you pass and she finds this...you're just like a creepy perv that was lying and you're a Douchebag. Like everything...gets taken away.” (Kathy, [10:35])

The (Half-Joking) Solution: The “Cleanup Service”

• The Concept ([13:39 - 14:02]):
  • Kathy dreams up a service: a monthly-fee “insurance” where, once someone dies, a discreet team wipes their digital and physical secrets—emails, devices, dungeon gear, toys, and crossdressing kits alike.
  • “So maybe you sign up for...a cleanup service, quote unquote, where the minute you die...everything is cleaned up...whoever sets us up, they could...charge a lot of money for it.” (Kathy, [13:39])

Real-Life Tales of Discovery

• Adam’s Friend & the Basement Dungeon ([15:05 – 16:54]):
  • Adam recalls a friend who, believing her father wouldn’t survive a heart attack, found his full BDSM dungeon. He survived, leading to an awkward reveal and apology letter.
  • “He ends up pulling through and living. Now he knows. She, it's...Oh my God. She was horrified and he was so. He had to, he wrote to her in this whole letter. It was just. Oh my God, it was so hilarious.” (Adam, [15:55])
• Kathy’s Safe of Sex Toys ([18:53]):
  • Kathy shares her own over-cautiousness, storing her sex toy collection in a safe to avoid others’ judgments posthumously.

Humor, Humanity, and the Value of Secrets

• The Role of Secrecy and Kink ([26:18 – 26:43]):
  • Adam points out that for some, “secrecy is the kink” itself—the thrill is in what’s hidden, not shared.
  • “Sometimes it's fun to have something hidden. It's fun to have a secret.” (Adam, [26:19])
  • “That kink is like secrecy is the kink.” (Adam, [26:43])
• On Overthinking vs. Living Openly ([23:54 – 25:35]):
  • Kathy wonders at those who don’t plan for discovery: “I do admire people that aren't overly cautious like I am.”
  • Both agree—what matters most is not letting one’s sexual proclivities eclipse all other facets posthumously.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Kathy on stereotypes:
  “Everyone has this like stereotype in their head that a guy that's into guys is less than a man. It's really weird. And honestly, that's the reason why guys are doing this behind everyone's back...” ([07:29])
• On accidental postmortem “outs”:
  “You don’t want your on TikTok reading your salacious emails about sucking guys dick and outing you that you’re lying about your dick size.” ([11:00])
• Adam's friend's father and the dungeon:
  “She went into the basement and he had a whole dungeon... she finds all this hardcore BDSM stuff down there. He's living this crazy, wild life that she knew nothing about.” ([15:26])
• On the absurdity of hiding things:
  “People think sex is like this huge thing. Sex is like a very small part of people's lives.” ([25:35])

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• 05:27 – Kathy introduces Adam and the Brandy Hammond story
• 06:45 – Discovery of affairs with men postmortem
• 08:34 – Brandy reads husband’s cheating emails online for “therapy”
• 10:35 – The emotional fallout: legacy erased by secrets
• 13:39 – Pitch for “cleanup service” to erase secrets after death
• 15:05 – Adam’s story: friend finds father’s BDSM dungeon
• 16:54 – The father survives, leads to awkward family confession
• 18:53 – Kathy’s safe: confessions about her own secret stashes
• 23:54 – Overthinkers vs non-planners; open secrets and dungeons
• 26:18 – Secret-keeping as a kink
• 27:03 – (Bonus) Adam plugs his book on non-monogamous marriage

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Episode Tone & Takeaways

True to the “Strictly Anonymous” style, this episode is frank, funny, and laced with personal insight. Kathy’s candid, slightly neurotic humor pairs with Adam’s laid-back, bemused perspective to produce a lively look at why people keep sexual secrets, what it costs, and how society’s judgment amplifies the shame.

Biggest takeaways:

• The prevalence and complexity of double lives—especially tied to sexual orientation and kink—cannot be underestimated.
• The real danger of secrets isn’t always in the act itself, but in the posthumous hurt or shock it causes loved ones.
• Society’s judgment around sexual matters makes secrecy both more common and, sometimes, more exciting as a kink.
• There’s no perfect solution except, maybe, more openness or… a very discreet “cleanup crew” for the afterlife!

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Further Links & Resources

• Brandy Hammond (Blue Panties and Bourbon) on TikTok
• Adam’s Book: “Seek the Risk” (exact link in episode description)
• Strictly Anonymous Podcast Patreon & Community

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For listeners craving more unfiltered confessions, sexual self-discovery, and behind-closed-doors honesty, this episode is a must-listen—sharp, empathetic, and unexpectedly hilarious.

Transcript

[A]

Welcome to the Strictly Anonymous Podcast. Strictly Anonymous Podcast. Conversations with online strangers. We place ads online.

[B]

The Craigslist is definitely like the gift that keeps on giving.

[A]

Real people respond.

[C]

You go to Singapore or Thailand, you can't not do it. The temptation is just too much.

[B]

Your friend know that you're banging her? No, no, he has no idea.

[A]

And anything goes.

[B]

Motto of the show, let your freak flag fly. Probably the only good advice I'll ever give you is to re hide your whips. And ch.

[A]

There is your host, Kathy.

[B]

Hey, welcome to the Strictly Anonymous Podcast with Kathy. If you want to follow the Strictly Anonymous Podcast on Instagram or Twitter, follow me at Strict Anonymous if you want to be on the show. It's called Strict Strictly Anonymous because they change everyone's voices and names. Okay, so if you have an interesting secret naughty life that you want to talk about while remaining anonymous or not anonymous, if you're out and proud, you could email me at strictly anonymous podcast gmail.com or go to my website, strictly anonymous podcast.com and click on Be on the Show. Now listen, if you have a naughty confession you want to leave on my confessions line, you could do that 24. 7. The number is 347-420-3579. That's 347-420-3579. Call from a quiet place. I can't use ones when people call where they're driving. Some of those confessions make it onto a confessions episode. The rest go on to my Patreon. Now, my Patreon is super fun and it's very inexpensive if you ask me. It's only $7 a month and you get every single episode. I do seven episodes a week. You get every single one them early before anyone gets them. As well as intro and ad free. You also get all the confessions and you also get Q&As that. I do like every other month where I answer a lot of questions as well as you get anonymous pics of probably every single girl that has called into my show. Every single female guest. I got pictures of them over on my Patreon. Like I said, It's $7 a month. The link to Patreon is in the description. If you do sign up for my Patreon or buy my book. I wrote a book. It's Strictly Anonymous Confession. Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. It's all stories from my show told in the third person. They're super fun. And the audiobook is coming out in August. So if you buy my book either in paperback or ebook or audiobook version the links are all in the description. I will also give you access to my private Discord. Like I said, if you join my Patreon or if you call into my show or if you buy my book, I will give complimentary access to my private Discord. My Private Discord is not a paid site. It is free, but it is private and you can only get in if I send you the link. I promise you, you will not be disappointed. My Discord is full of great effing people, okay? So if you buy my book, send me a screenshot of your purchase and I will send you the link to my Discord. Last thing I'm going to tell you about is if you want to sign up for SDC.com I do have a free trial for my listeners. SDC is like the world's largest online dating website. And it's not just a place where you hook up with people. You could learn all about the lifestyle. You could find out about all the lifestyle events and meetups and all kinds of things going on in your neighborhood as well as if you're going to travel and you want to have a little fun, you're going to find it all on SDC.com Like I said, you get a free trial if you use my code, 37712 or just go to the description and click on the link. That's 37712. Or just go to the description and click on the link. Okay, this is like a fun thing that I've been dying to do for a long time. I'm not going another hour show. I only have seven days a week. I do seven episodes. I give them all out for free. When people actually write in and complain about certain episodes, I'm like, are you kidding me? I do seven episodes. So I don't feel like bad if like one episode isn't for everybody because I feel like I give so many different kinds in a week. There's always something for everybody, at least one or two that people are going to love. You're never going to love all of them. I don't put them out thinking that I work my ass off for my show. I love what I do. And I've always wanted to add in a sex in the news series thing because I see stories, sex stories in the news that I just want to talk about. Because talking to sex for people for like 12 years, I feel like I have a lot to say about some of these stories that come out. And most of the times the stories that come out about sex are very Salacious, but they're like things that are happening on my show. And there was like a new thing that happened recently where a lady was out talking about the fact that her husband died and she found all his, like, emails and. And stuff, and he had apparently been cheating behind her back with guys. Okay. And that's what we talk about. I was like, oh, my God, I have discussed this on my show so many times. Let's do a little sex in the news app on this story. My Sex in the News episodes are going to be short, 15, 20 minutes. That's what I think. You know, if some kind of story comes out that's interesting that I want to give my opinion on. Adam has a really funny story to go with it. He's on this call with me and we discussed this poor lady's postmortem story of finding out who her guy really was or who a part of him really was. You'll hear us talk about it and I give a lot of my opinions. Adam has a really funny story that goes with it. So anyway, I'm gonna get right to it and be right back on with Adam and Sex in the News.

[A]

This is the Strictly Anonymous podcast. Strictly Anonymous podcast.

[B]

Hey, Adam, welcome back to this. Welcome back to that. You're sleeping on so much. You don't even. You just get right to it. Hu. Welcome back to the Strictly Anonymous podcast. Listen, I've been wanting to do a sex in the news thing for a long time. Every now and then a news story becomes a little popular out there and I'm like, oh my God, I'd love to chat about this because all I do is chat online about sex, right? And a lot of the stories that make it to the news or like, that's kind of going down on my show, you know? And so there's this big one that I was like, oh my God, let's do. Let's try a Sex in the News short thing. I'm not going to make a Sex in the News like an hour long thing. Right. Let's just rap about. You don't know anything. I just bringing this up to you. There is a tick tocker, okay? And sometimes I'm just going to give this disclaimer, okay. Because sometimes I just think in these, this day and age, anyone could create any kind of fake narrative that they think will sell and go viral for it. I don't know, but this is. But this woman's story seems real. It's something that can happen. It's something that I believe happens. And I have a solution for this and I've talked about it for many years on my show. But the story is this, like Brandy Hammond. Brandy with an I her, she's known as Blue Panties and Bourbon on. On Tick Tock. Yeah, she looks like a Blue Panties and Bourbon gal. She's cool. She's on there and she's talking about. And I actually retweeted it on my Twitter account, on my ex account because she's talking about the fact that her husband died unexpectedly, right? She had this husband who died unexpectedly. Now the news it like the story is, and because I went a little deeper is that she did find out that her husband was cheating on her with women throughout their marriage. She knew stuff like that. But when he died unexpectedly, she get notifications like from his email or something and like went in and started looking and then started reading his emails and found out that not only had he cheated on women, which she knew he had cheat, he was cheating on her massively with guys behind her.

[C]

Guys. Oh, wow.

[B]

Now you say oh well, because you probably don't listen to those episodes on my show. But I can't tell you how many guys are doing that. And it's very unfortunate. You know what I mean? Very unfortunate. And a lot of times, like, she said she had no idea about it most of the time. I'm just gonna tell you, these guys don't present as guys that you think would be doing it. That's the whole point of my show. It's like there are so many guys that are into like sucking a dick that don't talk about it and they're not like, they're not like what you think or everyone has this like, stereotype in their head that a guy that's into guys is less than a man. It's like, it's really weird. And honestly, that's the reason why guys are doing this behind everyone's back because there is such a stigma. And like, I feel like the stigma has to come off of first before this kind of stops. I mean, people will cheat, have been cheating since the dawn of time and people will just cheat forever. But. But you know, the sad thing is, is that the. That I hear that guys do when their wives, like, leave the house is like out of control. You know what I mean? And Brandy, Brandy Hammond is literally reading. It's so funny. Okay. She's literally on there and her posts now are reading his emails to the guys and he's lying about his dick size, his age.

[C]

I'm glad that she can have A sense of humor.

[B]

No, she's not laughing about it. She's like giving. She says, like, literally, I'm doing this because I can't afford therapy. She's gonna be able to afford therapy now. She learns how to monetize her thing. And maybe she is monetizing and she's making a lot of money. I don't know. But I'm just saying that this is something that is very common and I like on my intro. Okay. There is a thing where I say, my only advice to you is to rehide your whips and chains. And that was like, literally when I started my podcast, we taped the first five guys in one day. My first five episodes were the first five I taped in one day, five hours with my co host. Tommy was so pissed at me that I made him do it. We talked to this guy who I think his name was Master Tom or something like that. And he was like a BDSM guy. He was like, I think number five, episode five. And I. My favorite question to ask when these guys are living these double lives, these married guys are living these double lives, is like, where do you hide your. Right. Like, seriously. Because. And can mean everything from whips and chains. Like that guy. To email trails of you talking to guys about your dick size and all your plans to meet them up. You are leaving behind tons of shit. That guy, Master Time. The reason I was like, re. Hide your whips and chains. He had a bag in his truck. In his. In his trunk. And I'm like, my mind car. Yeah. My mind thinks like this. You're going to be driving one day. You're going to have an accident. You're going to pass from that accident.

[C]

Whips and chains all over the road.

[B]

Yeah. No, no, not. Not even that. Worse. They're good. They're. Because they were hidden underneath something where he thought it was so smart. But your wife's going to have to come and claim the car and get all your out. And she's going to be like going through your stuff. Hi. And she's going to find the whips and chains. And to me, you know, you spend as a man or a woman, if this happens the other way. You spend your whole life probably being like, great in every other area. Right? Like, great husband, great provider, great partner, great whatever. Right. You know, to everything for your wife, the minute you pass and she finds this, you know what you are to her, all of that goes out the window. You're just like a creepy perv that was lying and you're a Douchebag. Like everything gets, gets taken away. Like that's not how you want someone to think of you postmortem. You don't want your on tick tock reading your salacious emails about sucking guys dick and outing you that you're lying about your dick size like. And his age.

[C]

Why do you care?

[B]

Yeah, is it age? It's a. Because it's your legacy. I'm sorry. So I was like you really? You know, I have a very wealthy friend who's a massive cheater too. One of those guys, you know. And there are. That's a certain type, you know what I mean? And he's got a lot of their

[C]

kink is almost cheating.

[B]

Yeah, yeah. And it's like they got a lot of. And some people are. And then there's that type, right? The guys with the kink. Like you said, there's that wealthy guy that's like, you know, he's got a girl in every port. You know. Then you have these guys that want to suck a dick and they're doing it behind their wives backs. You know, you have all these people that are cheating for whatever reason and they're hiding all their stuff. And my thing is always like when you die, like what are you going to do? I believe there should be some sort of like cleanup service where you know, you could sign up if you know you're somebody that's a cheater and you got some stuff. Because like I said, you don't need whips and chains in your back of your trunk or pantyhose stash, you know, and cross dressing clothes in your closet. Like and let me just tell you, by the way, the places that these guys hide their is the like the dumbest stuff ever. Okay. Like honestly, you know, and I'm saying guys because it's. I talk to more guys than women on my show. There's certainly women cheating but like the places that people hide their stuff isn't that great because they're thinking they're alive and stuff. But when you pass, what the gonna happen? You're so your partner's gonna go through your. I know you say you don't care when they die, but you know, you're that person if you have kids and stuff, that person's responsible of like telling your legacy for the rest of your life. Okay. And most people are petty. They're not gonna talk good about this.

[C]

Actually happened to a friend of mine.

[B]

Wait, let me finish with my cleaning service and then we're gonna get to your story. I know you're okay. Okay, so the cleanup service is this. You are a cheater. Okay? You know, you got some stuff. And like I said, doesn't need to be whips and chains. They could be email trails, you know, profiles on Ashley Madison or on Sniffies or any wherever the you're doing your. Okay, that stuff needs to be cleaned up after you pass. So maybe you sign up for like someone creates a service, a cleanup service, quote unquote, where the minute you die, like you have like a life alert on. On your body somehow. Like, this is how I think of it, right? And like you pass. And the minute you pass it is alerted that this person, like there's no sign of life here anymore. And that, you know, triggers the cleanup service to go. And wherever you sort of cop to the fact your is, everything is cleaned up if it's on your computer. Your computer is like, you know, what is that called when you take everything off? You reboot it? No. What is that the term?

[C]

Yeah, you wipe and you wipe the hard drive.

[B]

No, there's a real. There's a better. There's a scary term that's always like, oh, you could do this to your phone. And you're like, I'm afraid to do it because it takes away everything. Whatever that is. It does that. Or it goes to your car and takes out your whips and chains and all this. You know what I mean? And a lot of. And you charge for it monthly. It's like insurance. Right. I really think whoever sets us up, they could. I think the hardest thing is getting the chip inside the body to tell you when they die.

[C]

Right, exactly.

[B]

You know, that's a little far fetched, but if someone had this cleanup service, you know, especially for the wealthy, you could charge a lot of money for it. And the minute you die, people come in and clean your and take it away. So, you know, you don't go down like that because that's a very horrifying way. This poor guy. And I don't say poor guy. I mean this guy, he's not a poor guy, right? He was like literally living this life behind his wife.

[C]

He was cheating. He was presenting him to be someone he wasn't. That's.

[B]

But it literally. She knew he was cheating now with men and he's lying about. And now she's literally reading. She talked to some of the people she went to. You don't want that going down. So someone should start up a cleaning service for. For this kind of. Because I know that like, you know, the high and mighty will be like, well, people just shouldn't do it. It's like, yeah, very black and white. Like, we, like, we only wish that that was the case and that was, it was that easy. But the reality is this kind of stuff has been going on since the dawn of time. It will always go on. And what do you do about it? I think a cleanup service is great. What's your story, by the way? I'm done. I'm done talking.

[C]

I mean, it's something similar. It's sort of in the same vein. It's not exactly the same, but a friend of mine who's a little younger than me, her father died or had had a heart attack and was like, they, the doctors gave him, no, no chance. He's not gonna live. And so she went, you know, she flew over there, went to his house. He's in the hospital, he's not even conscious. They're like, they gave him like a day to live or whatever. And so she's went to his house to go stay in his house and she went into the basement and he had a whole dungeon. Now see, she's younger than me, so her a little bit, little bit older than me if I was like in her 60s, right? And so she finds all this hardcore BDSM stuff down there. He's living this crazy, wild life that she knew nothing about.

[B]

And so your story is exactly what we're talking about. How do you say, wait, it gets greater.

[C]

Yeah, go on.

[B]

This is like perfection.

[C]

Yeah, hold on. He ends up pulling through and living. Now he knows. She, it's, it's. Oh, my God. She was horrified and he was so. He had to, he wrote to her in this whole letter. It was just. Oh my God, it was so hilarious.

[B]

I need to have her on my show and tell that story. That's it. And you know what? Maybe the cleanup service wouldn't like. So what happens in that case? The cleanup service comes in because you're about to die, cleans up and takes away your dungeon, but you live. And now you're. And you got to get a whole new dungeon. What do people that have like full on rooms like that? Because he's not the only one that has a dungeon. Like, what do dungeon people think is going to happen? Like, what if there someone comes in and shoots them and kills them? I watch a lot of Dateline couples die all the time in their homes. Okay. At the same time, like, what are you thinking? I just don't think people think it through. Did they go, what did the guy say? What did he say in the letter?

[C]

I, I, I. She didn't show me the letter, but I'm just like, oh, my God, he lives. And now.

[B]

And let me ask you this. Like, did she say to you, like, oh, my God, I would have no idea. Like, my father never presented. Or was she like, oh, you know, it made sense. Like, my father seemed, like, a little freaky. Like, I don't know. Like, what do you remember? Like, her sort of.

[C]

Well, I happen to know that she is extremely freaky. And she's like, yeah. She's like, oh, my God, this is genetic. So it was just. It was really embarrassing for both of them because they just didn't have that kind of relationship, even though she was totally cool with all that, just not her father, so.

[B]

But was it, like a private room? Because, like, why had she never gone down there before and only went when he was, like, in the.

[C]

I mean, they lived in different cities, you know, she, you know.

[B]

Was he divorced at this time?

[C]

Oh, yeah.

[B]

Yeah, Right, right.

[C]

Fully divorced. He wasn't. He wasn't. He wasn't like, you know, cheating or lying. He just.

[B]

Of course, it doesn't matter, but it's still thing. Yeah, See, you're just. Now you're giving me another target to go after for the cleanup service. Is not even the people that are cheating. You're, you know, you're swingers, you're nudists. You don't want people to remember at the end of the day. And you got all your shit somewhere about any of that stuff. Like, you need a cleanup service, too, because that is gonna happen, right? A lot of people have. It's like the skeletons in. In the closet. I mean, you know what I mean? I really wonder what was in that. That letter, you know? Listen, haven't you. I mean, I. I have sisters and a sister and a brother and, like, friends and, you know, like, haven't you made jokes with, like, your friends or your relatives? Like, oh, my God, if anything ever happens to me, my toys are hidden here. You know what I mean? Like, I had to get a safe. I get so many sex toys for my job, you know, because of what I do, which is, like, killer. I even have a motor bunny. Like, I have so much. And I was like, oh, my God, my maid's gonna think I'm a freak. You know what I'm saying? So I literally bought a safe. I have a big, fat safe. And if somebody went into the safe, they'd be like, what the. Because they would just think I'm like, so obsessed with all my sex toys and stuff that are shoved in there. You know what I mean?

[C]

Does she think people are gonna steal her sex toys? Is she that paranoid?

[B]

No, it's. No, anyone would understand. Because you don't want people to see your.

[C]

I'm just saying it'd be funny if people thought it was because.

[B]

No, they're going to know exactly what someone's feeling. No, they're going to think. No, they're going to know exactly what. That's what it was going to be like. She was afraid someone stole her thing. She's going to be like. She was afraid people were going to know. She's, like, jerking off constantly with sex toys, okay? That's all that safest for. No one's thinking that, okay? The problem is, is that everybody. The minute they saw the safe, they'd be like, oh, we should probably not check in there. No one's gonna think there's money in there. They're gonna think it's something.

[C]

Oh, because they know you?

[B]

No, because they know people. I mean, do people.

[C]

Kidding. If I found a safe, like my parents, and I was like, oh, there's probably the. There's probably stuff in there that's really valuable. There's no piece me. We think there's sex toys in there.

[B]

I gotta say, a story that has nothing to do with sex, but it has to do with finding out someone's secret life. Like that father thing. And you reminded me of it. It's kind of funny. So I'm dating this guy and he had a basement that we never went down to. And we. He had his own house. He was like. We were both young at the time. Like, 17, 18. And he had in his. Both his parents died of cancer like a month apart. And he, like, inherited their condo. He had a car. Like, he had a lot of cash. He was like the best guy to hang out with. Like. And I was just, like, with him every day at his house. And at one point, he went away someplace. This is what you never do to someone. You never say, like, whatever you do, don't go here. You know what I mean? He said to me, we had never gone down in his basement. It was, like, off limits. And he said to me, because I was taking care of his cats or his dogs, whatever pet he had at the time. He said to me, whatever you do, don't go in the basement. No, it was cats. This. It was definitely don't go into the basement. So, like, how do you tell. Now, listen, at my age now I Am very trustworthy. If you told me that in your house, I wouldn't go down. You know what I mean? I'm cool like that now, but at 17. 17. No one's fucking cool like that, okay? At all. I think it took me till I was like 30 that I was that cool. You know what I mean?

[C]

Like, yeah, I totally.

[B]

I mean, you tell me, whatever you do, don't go. So I go down, my. Me and my friend go up, and I'm just like, oh, my God, we gotta go into the basement. We go down and let me tell you, it was like there was cat on. It was like a, A, a, A basement litter box. There was cat on every part of that floor. Like, apparently what probably happened was his cat down there one day and he didn't clean it. And then they again, and he didn't clean it. And then they. Five more times and he's like, oh, now I can't really clean it because it's too much. And then they just decided to keep down there and he just left it as a big box. I swear to God. How did I not smell it? Because I guess maybe when it dries up, you don't even smell anymore. It wasn't in litter. It was all over the floor. Literally like 500 pieces.

[C]

So disgusting. Oh, my God, I'm gonna throw up.

[B]

So it was funny. We were dying. Dying. Like we. I could not believe because, like, you know, you're. You know that when you're going to go down there, you're going to find something. You know what I mean? Dead bodies.

[C]

Didn't expect to find. Catch it.

[B]

No, and not just catch it. Not like five pieces. Like 500 or 5,000. It was a big thing. It was like literally one litter box. It was like one litter box without litter. And whatever you do, don't go in my basement. Anyone that's. Anyone that's listening? If you have whips. Whips and chains or secret letters to your boyfriend that you're sucking his.

[C]

Or a basement of cat.

[B]

No, I don't care if I catch it. We're talking sex on this podcast. Anything. Sex that you don't want people to know about. Like, literally, like, hide your. And don't ever tell anybody. Whatever you do, don't.

[C]

All right?

[B]

And whatever. So anyway, so anyone could steal my cleanup service. I thought that this was something I needed to talk about because I always. This is something I think too much, right? Like, that's my problem in life. I admire people that don't think through at all, you know? I mean, like the, you know, Master Tom or whatever the his name was. I forget what I titled him. It was much better than that. But he, you know, I admire the fact that he didn't think that, you know, he could die in a car accident. People could fight. You know, I. I love people that aren't overly cautious like I am. I am that way. And that's why I always ask the question. That's why I always call people stupid when they tell me that their bag of cross dressing clothes is in the corner underneath their shoes. It's like, are you stupid? So I'm sure there's so many more stories. Okay, this is my call out. I'm sure there's so many more stories of people finding out even if it's not cheating. It's like, your girl's story was so great because it's like, it doesn't have to just be like a cheating, secret thing. If you're living a freaky life, which my show is here to say a lot of people are. Okay, Exactly. You need to hide that or be open and honest about it. I don't know what the moral of the story is, but I say hide your re. Hide your whips and chains, right? And someone could steal.

[C]

You can hide a dungeon, right? There's just no way to hide a dungeon.

[A]

No.

[B]

Maybe you have to be straight up honest about it. I don't know what you do. No, I want to hear from. I really want to know. Like, and this is, like, where I think, like, this guy's not thinking through. And I admire that because I think if I decided, oh, if I was really into bdsm, I would be like, oh, my God, I'm gonna set up a whole dungeon. And then I. My mind would immediately go to. But what happens when I die and someone comes to my house and they see the dun. You know what I mean? Like, I would. So. I would never create a dungeon because that's how overly cautious I am. So I want to hear stories of other people or people that have dungeons. What do you think's gonna happen when you die? Like, what do you think? Yeah, maybe I don't. That's what I want to know. I want to know. Like, you're guessing. I overthink things. I want to hear from the people that don't think. Like, what are you thinking? If you're not thinking, Is it that they're not. I think they're not thinking. You know, I don't think it's that they think and they don't Care. I think that they're not even thinking. And like I said, I do admire people like that. Because you know what? What if you really think about it, Adam, at the end of the day, what does it matter, right? Like you said, they're dead. I think with the guy that was sucking dick, I don't know about Bourbon Sally or whatever the. Her name is. Like, I don't know if she's got kids, but like, if there's kids involved in that story, that's not cool for the kids.

[C]

Yeah, I. I agree with that.

[B]

You don't want that postmortem for your kids, your children. I have a child. I would not want my child. My every bit of my time with my child that was spent great. Because, listen, just because he's sucking dick and he's a cheater doesn't make him terrible in every other area of his life. He could have been a great dad. You know what I mean? And that's the. That's a sad thing that that could happen in situations like that. And that's why you want to be, to me, cautious about that stuff, because you want. People take sex way too seriously. People think sex is like this huge thing. Sex is like a very small part of people's lives.

[C]

You know, it's funny, that's a must have on my dating profile is that you have to take. I need someone who takes. Doesn't take sex too seriously.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And people make it like it's as big. That's why I could do a news story every day of the week, because the people like it. The sex things are so big. But sex isn't like a hundred percent of anybody's life. You know what I mean? It's a small slice of it. And people are a lot of other things besides like a cheater, besides a dick sucker, besides a guy who owns a dungeon, you know? And what happens though, unfortunately, is people are so weirded out about sex that they wind up judging every part of you by that. And that's what I think is sad. You know what I mean? I don't do that to people. Yeah, yeah.

[C]

No, it's. I mean, it's. The society we live in still judges harshly.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

People like that. And that's what's really the p. I mean, there's. There's two points, right? There's the point of. It's sad that. That you have to hide that. People feel they have to hide it. But then there's also the flip side of that is sometimes it's fun to have Something hidden. It's fun to have a secret.

[B]

Oh, that's the kink.

[C]

Yeah, you know that's the kink that. Oh, I'm leaving, you know, you know, I'm sitting upstairs, downstairs, I've got someone tied up on a tickler.

[B]

So whatever the. I don't know. Right. Yeah, that kink is.

[C]

But that kink is like secrecy is the kink.

[B]

Yeah. And that kink is like, but. And those people, that's where I admire. Like those people are just getting off for fun and they're not thinking really things through. Because if you think things through, someone's gonna find out about your kink when you pass. But anyway, that's sex.

[C]

That's sex in the news today.

[B]

Yeah, I don't know. I thought it was fun. It was great.

[C]

Every time there's a good story, we should do this.

[B]

I'm totally down. Awesome. Why don't you give a shout out to your book, Seek the risk. You dated a really slutty girl. People want a lot of hot.

[C]

I dated the sluttiest woman in the world. I. I went somewhat v. Vanilla person and I dated the literalist who had slept with 450 people when I met her and I still ended up dating her and marrying her. And it's a crazy story. Seek the risk. It's all about being trial by fire. Introduction to non monogamy.

[B]

No offense. I could have promoted your book a lot better than you, but you cut me off. But that's okay. Like next time let me do it. I know how. I know. Oh, you want to. Okay, you want to know what I would have said? Like, listen, I'm not going to edit out your thing. I'm just going to say what do people think pitch is better because like I would have said by his book, he dated like the sluttiest girl, like self proclaimed, like biggest slut. And she literally was into gang bangs, his friends. She like had dps. Dvps. I mean she everybody and anything and she was down and she. And you joined her in on the fun. So like all of those stories are in your book. So I personally think, I think I would have done a better job before, but now I'm like overthinking it. But your book is good. They can buy it at Seek the Race. I'll put a link to your book in the description. Okay, thanks, Adam. Bye. Okay, I just want to tell you before you go that my book, it's called strictly anonymous confession, secret sex lives of total strangers is now available. Not Only in paperback and ebook. But you can pre order the audiobook. It's still not going to be out till August 25, but you can pre order it. The book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show. I kind of picked one story from each category that I talk about on my show. Like there's a hot wife story, there's a cuck queen story, there's a cuck story, there's a gang bang girl story. Like I said, 17 stories. And they're all told in the third person and they're all true. I took the interview and rewrote it in the third person. And I wouldn't really call it like a total erotica book. Think like Penthouse Letter. It's more direct. It's not so over the top like erotica. I don't really like that kind of vibe. Right. But these are true stories, 17 of them. They're really short chapters, easy read. You could read, you know, one or two and then skip around. You could read the whole book. It's available in ebag format, paperback format, and finally, the audiobook is available coming out August 25th, but you could pre order it now. And if you buy my book in any format or pre order it, I will throw in a complimentary link to my Discord. My Discord does not disappoint. Okay? There's no way you get into My Discord any other way than getting the link from me, okay? I give it to people who buy my book. There's tons of people in there. Everybody shares content with each other and that's what you get to do there. You could post your own pictures and videos. There's tons of channels. We have lots of contests where you could win a lot of money. It's a super fun place to be. It's a total, strictly anonymous community and you will love it. I will be giving anyone who buys my book access to my Discord. It's private. Like I said. All you gotta do is email me a screenshot of your purchase. Whether you did the audiobook, the ebook, or the paperback. Send it to me at strictly anonymous podcast gmail.com. that's strictly anonymous podcast gmail.com and I will send you the link to Discord. So anyway, thanks so much for tuning in.

[A]

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