1547 - Steve Mastered Hands Free Orgasms

Summary

Strictly Anonymous Confessions – Episode 1547

Guest: “Little Dick” Steve
Air Date: August 8, 2026
Main Theme: Steve’s Journey to Achieving Hands-Free Orgasms

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Episode Overview

In this raw, revealing episode, host Kathy Kay welcomes back recurring caller “Little Dick” Steve (“LDS”), who shares his deeply personal journey towards achieving hands-free, full-body orgasms. The episode digs into the techniques, mindset, and resources that helped Steve reach this level of sexual self-mastery, with an eye towards inspiring and instructing other men. Alongside frank discussions of male sexuality, the episode branches into sobriety, the mind-body connection, and what it really takes to effect transformative change behind closed doors.
Tone: Conversational, playful, direct, nonjudgmental.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

Steve's Background & Why He's “Little Dick” Steve

• Steve explains the origin of his nickname, clarifies he's not actually poorly endowed, and jokes about gaining an inch after losing weight. [06:42]
  • “Remember one of your episodes you talked about losing weight and, and finding an extra inch of dick and that's pretty much what I did.” – Steve [06:42]
  • “So you're not ‘Little Dick’ Steve anymore now that you got skinny?” – Kathy [06:56]

The Hands-Free Orgasm Quest

How the Curiosity Began

• Steve’s interest sparked years ago from seeing videos and reading about hands-free orgasms online, initially with skepticism. [08:12–10:25]
  • “I know I had seen videos… it's like, I don't even know if that's possible. And then you start reading up on it.” – Steve [08:12]
• After deep dives on forums (pre-Reddit, old web pages), Steve shifted from disbelief—“That's not gonna be me”—to an open mindset.
  • “When you tell yourself you can't, you can't. So at some point I decided, you know what, I'm going to give this a fair shot.” – Steve [10:25]

What Was Steve’s Goal?

• Initially, his focus was on achieving a “hands-free, wet orgasm”—i.e., erection, orgasm, and ejaculation, with no physical contact. [11:03–11:23]

The Role of Sobriety

• After 270 days sober, Steve finds mental clarity and energy to seriously focus on mastering hands-free orgasms. [11:31]
  • “That’s when I really started working on it… I have this time, I have this clarity.” – Steve [11:31]

Key Practice: Pelvic Floor Muscle Isolation

• Steve likens pelvic floor training to isolating muscle groups at the gym. He begins consciously flexing the two muscle “zones” (for stopping urination and clenching the anus) during everyday activities like video games or driving. [09:18–13:25]
  • “The best description I found… the difference between stopping your urine flow and then clenching your butthole. There's two different kind of sets of muscles there.” – Steve [12:54]

Early Progress & The Breakthrough

• The addition of small amounts of THC (“a quarter of a gummy”) helped Steve relax enough to feel subtle sensations.
  • “Even that little bit was enough to kind of relax your brain enough to where you start to really… feel it.” – Steve [13:33]
• First major breakthrough: A full-body orgasm, out of nowhere, while sitting next to his wife on the porch after doing pelvic floor exercises and taking a slightly larger THC dose [14:33–14:56].
  • “I coughed or I moved funny. But it hit like I actually had a full body orgasm sitting on my porch beside my wife, accidentally out of nowhere.” – Steve [14:53]

Foundational Techniques

• Pelvic floor “reps” during routine activities (while driving, gaming).
• Controlled breathing, inspired by expert guest Leah Piper’s guidance.
• Mindfulness—learning to notice and dwell in zones of arousal (“zero” not turned on, “10” ejaculating, with attention to the states in between).
  • “She had described… there's, you know, zero is I'm not turned on at all. 10 is I'm ejaculating. And she said, you know, you can be anywhere from 0 to 10…” – Steve (referring to Leah Piper) [18:53]

Multiple & Dry Orgasms—Not Just One-Offs

• Steve describes being able to have “four-hour full-body orgasms” with waves rolling in one after another. [20:27–22:30]
  • “I was definitely laying in bed for about four hours before I could get up and move around again.” – Steve [20:39]
• Mastery of “dry” (non-ejaculatory) orgasms: During sex, foreplay, and even regular life, Steve experiences a range of orgasmic intensities, often without ejaculatory release.
  • “Now I can be having sex with her… having full body, like, 9.9 level orgasms while we're… and she’s having hers.” – Steve [29:42]

Separating Orgasm and Ejaculation

• Through practice, especially tease-and-denial games, Steve inadvertently learns to separate ejaculation from orgasm—having one without the other. [22:52–23:47]
  • “Now I know what ejaculation feels like without orgasm.” – Steve [24:15]
  • Kathy expands: "You can control them both separately...which is super interesting." [23:43]

Next Challenge: The Hands-Free Wet Orgasm

• Most men in forums achieve hands-free wet orgasms before mastering dry, but Steve’s tease-and-denial games led to dry orgasms first. He now wants to “bring it all together.” [25:17–26:31]
  • “Now you need to master the wet orgasm… getting to the 10.” – Kathy [43:51]
  • “That’s going to be my next little project.” – Steve [44:06]

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Practical Advice & Resources

Steve’s Step-by-Step Tips for Men (starting at [35:52–41:57])

• Step 1: Mindfulness & Body Awareness
  • “The first thing you need to focus on is that mindfulness, like paying attention to your body and actually learning your body.” [35:52]
• Step 2: Pelvic Floor Isolation
  • Practice targeting and flexing the “urine stop” and “anal clench” muscles.
• Step 3: De-emphasize the Penis
  • Focus less on direct penile stimulation, more on whole-body and non-genital erogenous zones.
• Step 4: (Optional) Direct Prostate Play
  • Some need direct prostate stimulation, others can achieve with muscle and breath control.
• Step 5: Energy Work & Visualization
  • Visualize energy “collecting” at the base of the penis/prostate; foster a “white hot ball of energy.”
• Step 6: Breath and Vocalization
  • Adopt techniques from yoga or tantra—control breathing, add humming or other vocalizations to intensify/anchor sensation.
    • “I’m chanting to myself and breathing… making noise. Almost like a hum.” – Steve [40:51]

Recommended Episodes & Resources

• Leah Piper (Episode 1459): Full-body/multiple male orgasms [18:22, 41:32]
• Kevin Anthony (Episode 1240): Last longer in bed, male multi-orgasmic sexuality [48:29]
• Vladimir (episode number not specified)
• Steve recommends the Reddit group “Hedonist Guide to the Galaxy” (with a PDF ebook/manual) [47:04], which advocates for controlled use of cannabis for relaxation/mind openness and shares step-by-step methods.
  • “They’ve got like a book… it’s an ebook or a PDF document called the Hedonists Guide to the Galaxy.” – Steve [47:23]

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Exchanges

• On Mindset:

  • “When you tell yourself you can't, you can't. So at some point I decided, you know what, I'm going to give this a fair shot.” – Steve [10:25]
  • “If that guy with his web page says he's having hands-free orgasm, then you can too.” – Kathy [10:25]

• First Breakthrough Moment:

  • “I actually had a full body orgasm sitting on my porch beside my wife, accidentally out of nowhere.” – Steve [14:53]

• On Multiple Orgasms:

  • “I think this is what [a woman]’s going through when she has multiple. It’s like… a whole body seizure.” – Steve [20:25]

• Kathy’s Real Talk:

  • “You’re not like cooking dinner and all of a sudden orgasming, right? It’s when you’re quieting your mind.” – Kathy [26:54]
  • “What you don't understand is you sort of—all this tease and denial you do is what helped you have orgasms without ejaculation… denying yourself is not helping.” — Kathy [43:14]

• On Timelines:

  • “It doesn't take six years to figure this out. It actually can happen in six to eight months. And you just need to commit to it and do the things that you did.” – Kathy [54:36]
  • “Once you committed to it… it worked super fast.” – Kathy [55:28]
  • “Hopefully they'll call and tell you all about it. And better than me.” – Steve [55:28]

• Steve’s Reflection:

  • “For me it was one day I was like, you know what? I'm going to chase this seriously.” – Steve [56:56]

• Kathy’s Motivation:

  • “If Steve can, I can. You know what I mean? And that's what's really... you know... I think anybody could do anything if somebody else can do it.” – Kathy [57:21]

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Other Noteworthy Segments

The Sobriety Angle & Physical Transformation

• Steve credits quitting drinking (and, later, smoking) for increased energy, mental clarity, and even “gaining an inch” back on his penis through weight loss.
• Both Kathy and Steve discuss the hidden calories in alcohol and the impact on body composition. [60:17–62:49]

Future Topics & Openness

• Kathy invites Steve to return for a sobriety-focused episode when he passes one year “California sober.”
• Steve and his wife’s mutual journey in reducing/cutting alcohol brings another layer of candidness to the conversation.

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• Intro, Steve's Background: 06:32–07:59
• The Hands-Free Orgasm Quest Begins: 08:12–11:23
• Pelvic Floor & Mindfulness: 09:18–14:33
• Breakthrough Moment - First Full-Body Orgasm: 14:53
• Expert Influence (Leah Piper, Kevin Anthony): 18:22, 48:29
• Steve's Techniques in Detail: 35:52–41:57
• Wet vs. Dry Orgasm Discussion: 25:17–26:31, 43:14–44:06
• Advice for Listeners: 35:52–41:57, 47:04–50:05
• On Timeframes, Realism, and Inspiration: 50:34–56:33
• Candid Sobriety & Physical Changes: 60:17–62:49

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Final Takeaways

• Hands-free orgasms are achievable for regular guys—Steve demystifies the path through honest storytelling and practical advice.
• Consistency, relaxation, and willingness to experiment (including breathwork, mindfulness, and, optionally, cannabis) are key.
• Change is possible when you get out of your own way, stay curious, and DO the work—not just read about it.

Kathy sums it up:
“If Steve can, I can. And that's what everybody should hear from your episode.” [57:21]

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For further resources, listen to the recommended episodes (esp. Leah Piper and Kevin Anthony), check out the Hedonist Guide to the Galaxy on Reddit, and remember—commitment and patience can lead to breakthrough experiences, in bed and beyond.

Transcript

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[Kathy]

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[Little Dick Steve]

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[Kathy]

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[Little Dick Steve]

No, no, he has no idea.

[Kathy]

And anything goes.

[Little Dick Steve]

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[Kathy]

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[Kathy]

He's sober now too. I'm like, I want that story on my show. I keep having him back on because he's cool, I like him. So. And I love this story. And because I have had experts on. He talks about the expert episodes that he's listened to that really helped him put stuff together. And you should listen to those. But I think in the way I like to Google when I want to know something is like, I like to know, like from the doctor standpoint, you know, in the professional or the expert. But I also love to hear from the real people that have done the whatever, you know, so that's what you're going to hear on this episode. He does talk, though, about the experts that you could go listen to to get the expert advice on what to do. But on this episode, you hear his own personal journey, which is super interesting. So anyway, I'm going to get right to it and be right back on with Little Dick Steve. This is the Strictly Anonymous podcast, Strictly Anonymous podc. Hey, Little Dick Steve. Lds. I had you in my phone as lds. And when you called him, like, are you like a Latter Day Saint guy? Were you one of my religious people that called in? You're like, no, we talked about it last time. Little Dick Steve. You've been on my show before. Were you Little Dick Steve on your first episode?

[Little Dick Steve]

I think you just posted it as Steve.

[Kathy]

But okay, but Little Dixie, we did mention it. You don't even have a little dick because I mean, I could do a whole episode on little dicks, right? You don't have like a micro penis, do you?

[Little Dick Steve]

No, I mean, I mean we talked. Remember one of your episodes you talked about losing weight and, and finding an extra inch of dick and that's pretty much what I did, so.

[Kathy]

Oh, that's good. So you got a big. So you're not little dick Steve anymore now that you got skinny?

[Little Dick Steve]

Yeah, medium. I gotta, I got a schmedium.

[Kathy]

Okay, so we're gonna talk about a couple things because you have figured out how to have hand free orgasms. And I feel like, you know, there's a gift in telling other guys about how to do that, right? Like you could pay it forward. The fact that you could have a hands free orgasm is pretty incredible. I' experts on talking about it, you know, but you're here as like a regular guy who actually did it. And I think sometimes it's so great to have both stories on my show because an expert explains it in one way, but a person explains it in a totally different way. You're going to talk about that from your perspective. You also recently quit drinking, lost a lot of weight, got an inch of your dick back, and we're going to work into that too. But let's first talk because I think that's another gift you could pay forward. Every guy would like to find a inch of their dick that's hiding underneath their fat bellies. You know what I'm saying? So, so we'll, we'll give them advice on that next. But let's first teach guys how to have a hands free orgasm. Remind me though, little dick Steve, are you, you're married, correct, or dating?

[Little Dick Steve]

I am.

[Kathy]

You're married. Okay. Okay, cool. So talk to me about hands having a hands free orgasm. Like, did you start reading books on it? Like what, how did you it even come up for you that you're like, oh, I'm gonna like master this?

[Little Dick Steve]

I don't honestly know how it really came up. I know I had seen videos of, of people doing it and you know, you see videos of just you see things that happen. It's like, I don't even know if that's possible. And then you start reading up on it.

[Kathy]

Yeah, totally.

[Little Dick Steve]

You read here and you read there and, and you know, you talk to this one lunatic on Reddit who's got this whole, whole message and then you start digging deeper and you find a whole bunch of other People who actually are chasing that.

[Kathy]

Well, because it's a real thing. And then you realize it's actually something that is possible. It's not crazy.

[Little Dick Steve]

Well, it is a real thing. And, and, and what, what really got me sort of interested in it was the concept of the, you know, like a prostate orgasm. Right. So that, that was one aspect. And, but also in reading, you know, you start learning about controlling your pelvic floor and, and isolate, you know, and any, anybody who's ever been to a gym knows about isolating muscle groups, right?

[Kathy]

Totally.

[Little Dick Steve]

It's, it's how you sculpt your body, right? I want this muscle to look this way. Well, I got to do this exercise to do that and that kind of control that goes with it, right. So the first thing I really started getting into was, okay, let's isolate the pelvic floor.

[Kathy]

Okay, but let me just ask you this. When you went on to Reddit and you did a deep dive and you realized this is the real thing and I want to figure out how to prostate orgasm, did you go like reading books and shit? Like what, like how did you find out that you have to locate your muscles and all that stuff? Like, did you just get the advice from Reddit?

[Little Dick Steve]

So I actually predate Reddit, so some of this stuff I remember just finding, you know, people would have their own web pages. And this was, you know, late 90s, early 2000s, and, and a lot of times, you know, oh, I could never be that lucky. That's not going to be me. That's not gonna the way it's going to happen. And, and you kind of, you ignore that, you ignore that possibility and you, you kind of let it go and you tell yourself you can't. When you tell yourself you can't, you can't. So at some point I decided, you know what, I'm going to give this a fair shot. And, and maybe I can.

[Kathy]

Yeah. Because let me just tell you how people should think, because this is the way I think and I have, I tend to be like, I do have a successful personality in a certain way with the way I think. And I got to tell you, because everything's a mind, you know, I mean, and to me, if somebody can do it can. Do you know what I'm saying? And that's what, like, if that guy with his web page says he's hand having hands free orgasm, then you can too. Do you know what I mean? So why would you think you can? I don't get it, right? So like to me, if one person can. If one at 60 could have a killer body, then I can too. Do you know what I'm saying? So that's the way people. So you're like, I could have a prostate or it was prostate orgasm that you were going for in the beginning, correct?

[Little Dick Steve]

Well, as, as we talk through this, well, you know, we'll, we'll get it more in detail with it. I wanted, I wanted to be able to kind of get an erection orgasm and ejaculate without touching myself. The terminology is hands free, wet orgasm.

[Kathy]

Right?

[Little Dick Steve]

Okay, that's, that's, that's kind of what I wanted to, to get my, my body and my mind into.

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[Little Dick Steve]

So, and you know, this is several years ago. And, and so I think today, today is 270 days sober. And, and that's when I really started working on it. You know, I'm, I have this time, I have this clarity. I start really, really working on isolating those pelvic floor muscles. So one of the, one of the things I did, and this is going to sound like really, really dumb in some ways, but one of the things I did to kind of distract myself from not drinking is I would play video games. Right? But while I was doing that, the whole time I'm working on, I, I'm kind of almost subconsciously in the back of my mind, I'm working those pelvic floor muscles.

[Kathy]

What do you mean subconsciously? You're not even thinking about it or you consciously decided that while you're doing that on the back end, you're going to be doing it? Subconsciously means somehow your pelvic muscles were working and you didn't even know about it? I think you're using the wrong term. Were you just consciously working on it in the background while you were do. While you were working out? You knew that that's what you're supposed to do.

[Little Dick Steve]

That's a much better accurate.

[Kathy]

Okay, so that's much more accurate. The right word.

[Little Dick Steve]

Okay, so, but so it's, it's not like the forefront of what I'm doing, it's just kind of course you're doing

[Kathy]

it while you're doing it. Yeah. Okay. And, and how do you do that? What were you doing?

[Little Dick Steve]

So just trying to. The best description I found for it is the difference between stopping your urine flow and then clenching your butthole. There's. So there's two different kind of sets of muscles there.

[Kathy]

Okay.

[Little Dick Steve]

And once you can kind of isolate those and figure out how to, how to work those. And now, now I'm doing It. Standing here trying to, trying to remember it. Once you do that, you. You sort of. You can almost start a wave, right?

[Kathy]

Okay. Because you do it multiple times. You're doing it over and over again, okay.

[Little Dick Steve]

And you just do it over and over and over and over again, over and over again. It starts feeling pretty good.

[Kathy]

Okay.

[Little Dick Steve]

Well, one of the other things that I was doing as I'm not drinking, but I also needed something every now and then. So I had. My wife had, you know, the little gummies, right? And I would get like a quarter of a gummy, right? So we're talking like 6 milligrams, like almost nothing. But even that little bit was enough to kind of relax your brain enough to where you start to really. You can really start to feel it, right? So we had been, you know, me and the wife had been getting ready to fool around. You know, we'd talk about in the first episode a little bit. So one, one morning, I hadn't quit smoking yet. I was still smoking cigarettes, and we had gone out to the porch to smoke a cigarette. And I'd actually eaten about a half of a gummy, so a little bit. About 12 milligrams, a little bit heavier. And you know, that morning I'd been sitting there doing my exercises. We'd gone out, we're sitting on the porch, I'm doing my exercises, we're sitting there talking. And I don't know exactly what I did. I. I coughed or I moved funny. But it hit like I actually had a full body orgasm sitting on my porch beside my wife, accidentally out of nowhere.

[Kathy]

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[Little Dick Steve]

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[Kathy]

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[Kathy]

So you think that happened just because you were doing those exercises? So you're here to say that all you got to do is like play video games or while you're driving your truck. Truckers that are listening is like, keep doing those exercises for your pelvic floor. And then out of the blue one day you might be able to have a hands free orgasm. That's how it happened for you. Was there other stuff that you did?

[Little Dick Steve]

Well, the, the other stuff that happened was. So after we had talked, I'm trying, I'm trying to remember that lady's name and it escaped me. I wrote it down, but I don't have it.

[Kathy]

It's okay.

[Little Dick Steve]

Leah Piper. Okay, so Leah Piper came on and she talked about, talked about, you know, Visualizing the energy and, and trying to isolate the other nervous lines. The, the breathing, how important the breathing was the mu. You know, controlling your abdomen and your core. And she, she had described the. I, I really liked her description was there's, you know, zero is I'm not turned on at all. 10 is I'm ejaculating.

[Ad Voice]

Right.

[Little Dick Steve]

And she said, you know, you can be anywhere from 0 to 10, but

[Kathy]

you want to become aware of those places is what she talked about. Right.

[Little Dick Steve]

She talked about being aware of those. And that's what happened. I started, I started, I started becoming aware of those of like where you were at that. And I could get to like what I felt was like a, what I felt like was a five or a six. Interesting on that scale. Right. And I thought, yeah, I'm doing pretty good. And then that happened and I, you know, sitting on that porch, that first one was like a 9.9.

[Kathy]

Oh my God. Boom. I could imagine. Did you ejaculate?

[Little Dick Steve]

No.

[Kathy]

Okay.

[Little Dick Steve]

No, no. Come. Just whole body orgasm.

[Kathy]

Wow. Nothing. This is before you even. Your what, like you guys were just horny, in the mood about to. Or like what was happening again at that point?

[Little Dick Steve]

I was, I was, I was trying to get her to go upstairs with me.

[Kathy]

Okay.

[Little Dick Steve]

It was like a Sunday morning. Yeah. At nine o'.

[Kathy]

Clock.

[Little Dick Steve]

Hey, let's go upstairs and fool around. We got nothing to do today.

[Kathy]

Yeah.

[Little Dick Steve]

And, and you know, and it, it, it. I'm just rolling.

[Kathy]

Yeah. That's amazing.

[Little Dick Steve]

Just, just feet, like whole body. And the best description I could have that I really can, can give is if you've ever watched a, you know, a woman have an actual multiple orgasms. Right. It, the, it's like I, I think this is what she's going through when she has multiple.

[Kathy]

Right. It's like they're seasoned. It's like you're seizing.

[Little Dick Steve]

Yeah.

[Kathy]

Seizures. A whole body seizure. Yeah.

[Little Dick Steve]

Yeah. And, and, and it took me about an hour. I think. I, I was, I was definitely laying in bed for about four hours before I could get up and move around

[Kathy]

again because it, because it just zapped your energy. It was that intense is what you're saying.

[Little Dick Steve]

It just kept going. Like I, I just kept, I just kept doing whatever it was I was doing and kept going.

[Kathy]

And what were you doing?

[Little Dick Steve]

Just flexing those pelvic muscles, controlling my breathing.

[Kathy]

And it kept it going.

[Little Dick Steve]

And it just kept going.

[Kathy]

Right. This isn't just hands free orgasm. This is multiple orgasms, which I think she talked about, right?

[Little Dick Steve]

Yeah. She took. Yeah. She. This Is this is all stuff like I just listened. I had just. I think this was right after I had talked to you or. Yeah, it was right after I had talked to you. You had said, hey, go check out Leah Piper's episode. So I went and checked out Leah Piper's episode and you know, I paid attention to everything she was saying and her, y', all, the discussion y' all had. Took a whole bunch of thing like little pieces and put it together. Snapped them all in together into one big picture and it happened.

[Kathy]

But what's so interesting is that you had this foundation of doing these exercises not subconsciously, but just consciously like in the background while you. And that's what's great about those exercises. You can do them when you're doing other things and nobody would have any idea. Right. And you had been doing that for months. Correct, Correct.

[Little Dick Steve]

Right.

[Kathy]

Okay, good.

[Little Dick Steve]

So I would do, I would do it when I play video games. I have like a 45, 45 minute drive one way to work. So in the, you know, driving to and from work.

[Kathy]

Right.

[Little Dick Steve]

Which I'd be doing the same thing.

[Kathy]

Yeah, major, you know. Uhhuh. Right. So you had that foundation and then when Leah comes on, it just puts stuff together for you then. And now you're orgasming for four hours.

[Little Dick Steve]

Right.

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[Little Dick Steve]

And, and I've done that several times. Like where I've just gotten in the, into the right frame of mind. Everything is just right and I can just sit there and it just rolls.

[Kathy]

Yeah, that's crazy.

[Little Dick Steve]

It's just wave after wave after wave. So now the, the really interesting part for me is what most people, most people, it doesn't happen that way. Right. So the, the really interesting. So she had talked about it and then I'm trying to remember the other gentleman that had talked about separating.

[Kathy]

Yeah, I remember him separating. Another expert.

[Little Dick Steve]

Orgasm and ejaculation. Right. And I had managed to do that inadvertently. So one of the things I had been doing was when I was jerking off, I would ruin my orgasm. So I wouldn't actually I would ejaculate, but not orgasm.

[Kathy]

So you were trying to separate them since you knew that it's a possibility. The fact that people orgasm and ejaculate, and this was something I learned from talking to experts and I never knew, is that, you know, orgasms and ejaculation don't have to occur at the same time, they typically do, but that's not how it has to be. And that's what I think is kind of mind blowing for a lot of people.

[Little Dick Steve]

Yeah. So they're, they're biologically tied together like kind of naturally.

[Kathy]

Right.

[Little Dick Steve]

So you have to. But they're not the same process.

[Kathy]

Exactly. Which is super interesting. And you can control them both separately.

[Little Dick Steve]

Right. And. And that's another thing that I think I learned from either Leah or that guy. That, that guy.

[Kathy]

Yeah.

[Little Dick Steve]

And I like. Okay, so let's try to figure that out. And. But I did it accidentally. I didn't, I wasn't trying to do that. I just.

[Kathy]

No, you said you started to ruining your orgasms. Weren't you doing that?

[Little Dick Steve]

There was a different, there was a different reason for that.

[Kathy]

You're just into a little torture. She's in denial.

[Little Dick Steve]

Yeah.

[Kathy]

Okay, so. But that, that was something that actually helped you to separate it.

[Little Dick Steve]

But that, but that helped me separate the two in my head because now I know what ejaculation feels like without orgasm. Right. And I, I did it. You know, I was doing it. Let's, let's say I would only allow myself to orgasm like once every 10 times. I would jerk off. Right. So now I've got this a. I've got this spot where I, I know what the ejaculation feels like and I can back away from that. And then that, that, that morning sitting on the porch, I had an orgasm. Like, and, and it was full body multiple orgasms and it just kept going. And so I kind of tucked all that away and I kept working at it. Kept working at it.

[Kathy]

You're working on trying to have the wet orgasm during all of that. I mean, what were you working on at this point? We already know that mastered the hands free orgasm, but you wanted a hands free wet orgasm.

[Little Dick Steve]

Correct? That's, that was my end goal. That's what I thought I was trying to get to and I, I skipped that part entirely and went to dry. Most of the literature, most of the, the guys that I've, you know, either discussed with on the Internet or I've read their, their posts or anything. They, they all get to the hands free wet orgasm before they get to you. A dry orgasm.

[Kathy]

Right. But you happen to get the dry orgasm because you were doing tease and denial with your girl and had learned to like, you know, have dry orgasms before that because of this tease and denial you were doing. Right?

[Little Dick Steve]

That's, that's what I think. Yeah.

[Kathy]

Okay. Okay. Yeah.

[Little Dick Steve]

So a lot, a lot of the, A lot of the, the process that a lot of the other, you know, the other people on the Internet that I've read, what they'll do is they'll use, they'll use a vibrator or a, a toy on their prostate weight and they'll directly manipulate the prostate with a toy or their fingers or something. And, and that they'll use that to trigger a hands free orgasm because they're not touching their penis. Right. Whereas I'm not touching anything. I'm just sitting there.

[Kathy]

Right, right.

[Little Dick Steve]

And, and I just. It's. It's a little bit different. It's a little bit it out of the norm. And my. What I've been looking at lately and trying to study a little bit more is kind of the tantric side getting into energy and, and, and that flow of energy that they discuss, like I have trouble visualizing it sometimes.

[Kathy]

You obviously are not having trouble because this is all happening for you. You've. You caught the wave somehow. You are able to tune in and do what you're supposed to do somehow. I mean you're not like cooking dinner and all of a sudd orgasms, right? I mean it's not, it's not like just happening out of nowhere, right. It's when you're quieting your mind. Correct?

[Little Dick Steve]

Most of the time, yeah. But every now and then, you know. So what was. I saw something the other day and it, but it wasn't like, it was not like erotic at all, but it just triggered something. And the next thing I know I, I'm. I'm like feeling like a, a six or a seven orgasm. Right. Just out of nowhere. Like it's just boom, right there. And. But it, it wasn't like I was looking at porn or anything. I was just, you know, you got

[Kathy]

a wave of horniness. But now that you're wired in that way, your wave of hornies, horniness will turn into an orgasm. Whereas a normal guy just gets a woody. You'll get an orgasm.

[Little Dick Steve]

Right. And one of my favorite aspects of this so, you know, a couple nights ago me and the wife were, were having sex and we were, you know, taking our time. A lot of foreplay. I don't even think I had eaten a gummy. I think we were just, we just started kind of making out and, and there was no real like plan or hey, we're going to do anything. But we wound up having sex for a, for a little bit and you know, halfway through making out I start having you know, threes and fours and fives and we keep you know, four doing foreplay and touching each other and, and going around and, and the next thing you know, we're not even having sex yet. And I'm, I'm already at like an 8 or a low 9 while we're just kind of making out about.

[Kathy]

So when you're saying six or seven, you're talking about an orgasm. Because when she was talking about six or seven, she was talking about states of arousal, like where you're at to actually being able to come. You're not like you're coming at a six or. You know what I mean? But you're saying I'm having something at us. I'm at a seven and you're. And you are having an orgasm at those times, correct?

[Little Dick Steve]

Yeah. My, my interpretation of what she was saying was that tan is ejaculation. 9.9 is orgasm.

[Kathy]

But you're saying 7's an orgasm for you.

[Little Dick Steve]

Yeah, it, it, it's, it's just not as strong as a nine, and it's stronger than a five. I wouldn't call a four an orgasm. I call four being really turned off.

[Kathy]

Okay, but it's an orgasm. But it's not. It's a dry orgasm.

[Little Dick Steve]

Yeah.

[Kathy]

Okay.

[Little Dick Steve]

It feel, it feels good, right? It, it has, it has the same effect as, as an orgasm, right? You, you feel that tension build up and then all of a sudden it just all releases and lets go. Not as strong as some of the other ones, but, but that's kind of, you know, that's kind of where we're at. And, and now I can be having sex with her. Like this last time we had sex. Sex, we were having sex. I was having full body, like, 9.9 level orgasms while we're, while we're, and you know, she's having her orgasms and we're just, you know, and it was incredibly erotic. Like, it was. She said it was the best sex she's ever had in her life. And I'm pretty sure it was the best sex I've ever had in my life. Like, even better than anything we've done in a, in a long time. And it was, it's incredible.

[Kathy]

Because of your orgasms.

[Little Dick Steve]

Yeah. So I'm, I'm, I'm, you know, and, and, and one of the things I think that kind of, it's almost like a side effect is I don't, you know, sometimes guys, they're like so focused on not ejaculating that they, they're almost like not present. Does that make sense? Like, yeah, they're. They're thinking, they're thinking baseball. They're thinking. Whatever it is they're thinking to not, you know, ejaculate because they like, like Leah Piper said, they get 3, 4, 5, and then they jump straight to 10 and they're just done right. Well, when I get like really kind of in the zone, I can be hanging out in the 89 range and I don't even have to focus on not hitting tan it. I, I just almost naturally just relax into that state of mind, that state of being, and just go with it.

[Kathy]

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[Kathy]

What would you tell guys on how to do it if you were going to, your buddy was like, hey dude, how could I do this too?

[Little Dick Steve]

I think the first thing you need to focus on is that mindfulness, like paying attention to your body and actually learning your body. So part. And, and the reason I say that is the male exper. From my point of view, the male experience up until the last, you know, year or so has been very focused on the penis and external internal stimulation of the penis. Right. You know, and, and I think a lot of, a lot of guys, that's kind of the mentality is it's all about the penis. And what you kind of have to do is you have to kind of relax and pay attention to those other parts of your body that are also erogenous. And, and it feels good to be touched and played with. And I'm not necessarily talking about digging Straight into your, into your butthole or anything. But like the, the feel of someone touching your leg or running their hand over your arm or when, you know,

[Kathy]

you have to get really in touch with physical sensations and out, out of your head.

[Little Dick Steve]

Okay, but the, the. Away from your genitals, right? And, and you almost have to ignore your penis, as, as silly as that sounds, but that's what you got to do. You have to focus on everything else and, and, and expand your mind and connect with those other sensations. And as, as you do that and you start to learn to receive pleasure from those. Now, now you start adding in the, the prostate. Right? So some, some people. I would. Would swear that direct manipulation of the prostate state is a requirement. I don't think so. Well, I know, I know so. But there is another pleasure center right there. There's a lot of nerve endings right there. And I figured out with that isolation of the muscle musculature how to activate that pleasure center. Whereas some, someone else might need to physically touch it. And the only way you're going to do that is by putting a finger near butthole. So, and then once you, once you understand the physical sensation and I know where that pleasure center is and I can access that pleasure center. One of, one of the ways that I kind of visualize this is everybody has a certain amount of energy, right? And if you're, you're kind of in a, in a ground state where your energy is just kind of there, it's floating, it's not really doing anything. You're just kind of sitting there. And if you take that energy and you start to focus it on that pleasure center, and, and, and you, you put all your attention on that pleasure center and all your focus there, you can start to build that sensation and you can feel it growing. There's, there's a bunch of different descriptions I've, I've read online, but for me it feels like. So from a physiological standpoint, the p. The shaft of the penis goes back into the body about three more inches is towards, towards kind of towards your. And, and the prostate, you know, before there's the before and after, I guess. So before I would, I would feel pleasure from like the head of my penis and from touching the shaft. Whereas now I feel that it's almost like a ball of energy at the extreme base of my penis in the prostate almost. That's where I feel that. That energy focus. So it, it's somehow in my mind. I have shifted that pleasure sensation to that other part. I still get pleasure from the head and the shaft, but it focuses and collects further back and it, it's just like this white hot ball of energy.

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[Kathy]

Okay.

[Little Dick Steve]

So, so. And again, you start. You control your breathing. It's the, the best analogy I have is like, kind of like meditation and yoga. You're. You're clearing your mind, except for that sensation. You're. You're controlling your breathing. And one of the things that really helped me, especially coming from Leah Piper, was the, the. The visualizing your. Your nerves. Right? She's. So there's the, the nerve that runs down the front of the body. And the other big trick that I think I got from her was you're breathing and, and actually vocalizing while you're breathing. So, I mean, sometimes when I'm driving, I look like I must look like an absolute idiot because I'm. I'm chanting to myself and breathing while I'm driving.

[Kathy]

What do you chant?

[Little Dick Steve]

Well, I'm not really chanting anything. I'm just making noise. Like, almost like a hum or a. Like.

[Kathy]

Right. I'm just gonna let people know because, you know, they don't know what the. You're talking about. She spoke specifically about not only having a feeling, putting a. Putting a sound to it and how important that was. Okay. And that's where the humming is coming from. That's why you're humming. It's anything that you could do to put a sound to it. It's the breath, it's the sound, it's the feeling. You bring that all together, and that's the. That brings all the awareness to what you need to do it. So that's why you were doing the humming. It's any kind of sound.

[Little Dick Steve]

Right. And, and when you put that all together, it just starts to build until you can. You get to where you're going. Right. So I, you know, I try to be careful doing anything while I'm driving. I don't, you know, I just do it till it kind of feels good and, and I leave it at that. But if I'm sitting at home by myself, like, I'll go all the way.

[Kathy]

And if you allow yourself to go all the way because you're not out and distracted in your home and you could like, you know, you know, seize without people wondering what the. You will let it go to a full body. Body, which is the 10.

[Little Dick Steve]

Yep. No, no, that's that. 9.9. So 10. I. I still consider 10 to be ejaculation.

[Kathy]

Ah.

[Little Dick Steve]

So. And, and that. So for the, for like the past, I'd say 15. Two weeks. But for the past two weeks I haven't been jerking off and I've only allowed myself to get to ejaculation when I'm having sex with my wife.

[Kathy]

Wife. Yeah, but you're just, you're. What you don't understand is you sort of. All this tease and denial that you do is what helped you have orgasms without ejaculation. So that's only hurting your. You having the. You got to bring it back to having an orgasm and ejaculating at the same time if you want to have a wet orgasm. So denying yourself is not helping. You need to start putting those two back together so then you could bring all your skin ma skills that you mastered together. Right now all you can't. Shouldn't be denying yourself more. That's just keeping you in the loop of not orgasm not coming at the same time.

[Little Dick Steve]

Right now I'm still kind of focusing on that hands free, dry. Just because I, I'm not. While I would consider myself to have achieved that skill, I don't feel like I've completely mastered it and I'm still working on really being the master of it. Does that make sense?

[Kathy]

Not really. But you know, it makes sense to you. It sounds like you master it because you could four hours, one day a week or one even once a month, you're having four hour orgasms without using your hands. That's a master in the real world. What more do you want to do? You want to have 24 hours. You can't.

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[Little Dick Steve]

Well, I mean that sounds like a goal.

[Kathy]

It's not a goal. Your wife will kill you. You have a. You have real life to get to tend to. Okay, it sounds like you mastered it it. But you know what I think you should work towards mastering is having the wet orgasm, getting to the 10 because that's what you want.

[Little Dick Steve]

That's. That's going to be my next little project. Once, Once I'm, I'm still, like I said, I'm still working on this one. Getting. Getting completely comfortable with that and I'm still researching and reading a lot trying to figure out. Exactly. I still haven't like wrapped my head 100 around it and as I.

[Kathy]

Well, it sounds like you don't need to. I mean it sounds like maybe sometimes when you're so wrapped in your head around something, it's like antithesis of what's going to help you do something at a certain part point. Doing what you're doing is about not having your head involved at all. It seems like you learned what you need to do. You're doing it, you're. Now you're doing it without thinking about it. So how much more in your head do you need to learn? You know what I mean? Like, I don't know. Like, you know, I think you're, I don't know. Yeah, I think you're good to go. You mastered it. I think now you need to master the wet orgasm. And what, what is, what do you think is stopping you?

[Little Dick Steve]

I, I don't know. I, I honestly don't know. I. So there's a, there's some, some documentation I've read there. There's a, a Reddit group I joined and I think it's, it really has to do with the direct prostate manipulation, I think, and need a little bit more, more, A little bit more input, I guess is the right way to put it.

[Kathy]

Right. Because you're not using your hands or anything. So you're saying it's like hard to like really push that jizz out without any kind of physical manipulation.

[Little Dick Steve]

There, there's, there's, there's like a physical trigger point I have to get to and because it's so ingrained in my, in my mind as being a physical thing.

[Kathy]

Right. It's so wired in that it happens when you're physically doing something, something I

[Little Dick Steve]

have to do something, I think to get it right to the edge physically. And, and then you use that last, you know, like hundredth of an inch. Just use the, the mental side to push up, to tip over the edge.

[Kathy]

I think when I get to start trading yourself. Right.

[Little Dick Steve]

That's, that's where it's going to go.

[Kathy]

Right.

[Little Dick Steve]

And, and, and I'm working on that some, but I'm just not quite ready for that. I'm not quite there yet, so.

[Kathy]

Right.

[Little Dick Steve]

That's, that's what I think is holding me up is I can't get myself close enough to the edge without using my hands.

[Kathy]

So what can you recommend for people as far as reading forums, groups, Facebook pages? Like what, what have, what have been the best resources for you? I'll give out Leah Piper's episode How Guys could have Multiple full body orgasms. 1459. And then the other guy, Vladimir was on and he talked about how to become multi orgasmic. He read a lot of books, he did a lot of things. He was like a yoga guy. You should listen to him. And then I'll find, as you keep talking, I'll find, give more resources for you. I'll find the expert so go on, talk. Give other people the resources. Website, forum groups.

[Little Dick Steve]

There's a, there's a wedded. A Reddit group called the Hedonist Guide to the Galaxy. And I think instead of the word two, it's the number two. If you're searching on Reddit, I'll, I'll email you. You the, the, the group. I wrote it down.

[Kathy]

No, just give out, you just give out the information.

[Little Dick Steve]

But they've got a, they've got like a, like a book. It's not, it's an, it's an ebook or a PDF document called the Hedonists Guide to the Galaxy. And, and I read through a lot of that and it's, it's, it's basically, it's like hey, have you ever thought about doing this, this and the, this being hands free orgasm. And it, it's got one of the, whoever wrote it, it's got their. Here's what I did to. And, and they're a bit, they're a big proponent of like using THC and the gummies and, and pot and stuff to, to ease and settle your mind. But just, you know, you said that Vladimir was a yoga guy. So, so you know that automatically to me says that he, he meditates, he's in touch with his body. He, he already the, the point of the gummy I think is it relaxes you enough to accept kind of what you're hearing and look to reach out and touch those parts of yourself.

[Kathy]

I'll give the episode for the guy, Kevin Anthony was his name. It was 1240. How guys could last longer in bed naturally. Right? That's what.

[Little Dick Steve]

Now the guy, the guy I'm talking about was like super early. He was like three or 400 number.

[Kathy]

Well, this guy, Kevin Anthony talks about separating orgasms and jizzing and all that kind of stuff. Like he's an expert that talks about that and all, you know, mindfulness with masturbation and blah blah, blah, all that kind of stuff. I don't know who the, who the regular guy was that called.

[Little Dick Steve]

Yeah, I'll, I'll, I'll email you that one and, and you can tack it on. But I would encourage anyone who's interested to. All these episodes you're calling out just by the titles. I already know that there's something to be learned from everybody and the, the mindfulness that, you know, that's kind of a foreign concept to a lot of guys. Like we, we don't engage in that very much at all. But it's mindfulness to your own self. Right, right there. There can be, you know, you can talk to 20 or 30 experts in this, but they can really only talk to themselves and tell you what they did to do it. And then you got to go and go take the, take their lessons, follow the kind of their lesson plan and their lesson guide and go. Okay, that doesn't work. This does work. That does work. This doesn't work. And you find the things that work for you and get you where you, you where you kind of want to go and you know, and it, it, it. And the other thing is time.

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[Little Dick Steve]

It's going to take time. So this has taken several years to actually complete.

[Kathy]

No, you're, you don't know what you're talking about. It doesn't sound like it took se several years. You said you didn't even start this till you quit drinking 270 days ago. So I don't know what you're talking about. Years.

[Little Dick Steve]

That was when I seriously started pursuing it. But I had been pursuing it for several years before that.

[Kathy]

You're just reading about it. You actually. But when you actually started doing what you needed to do, it took 270 days. Not even because you start. So it didn't take that long. And none of these people say it takes that long either. So it doesn't take years. It can happen in months. And it did for you when you actually started to implement all the things that you were reading about about. It took you within two, way before 270 days. So actually if you're committed to doing what you need to do physically, it could, you can get to the place where you're doing this in like a year or something. I remember Leah Piper talking about that too. It doesn't take years. It only took you years because you didn't do anything about it, right? So don't count those years.

[Little Dick Steve]

I, I would, I would, would suggest that the mindfulness.

[Kathy]

You took weed. Listen, you took weed to get mindfulness. So you, you can't talk mindfulness here, okay, Go do yoga. But you took a little gummy. So you got the mindfulness in, in, in 20 minutes after it Started kicking in. So what are you talking about? Mindfulness.

[Little Dick Steve]

But, but you, but you still have to, you still have to kind of.

[Kathy]

No, but you have. I listen, I listen to your whole story, okay? I'll tell you, I, I'll tell people what they need to focus on. They need to focus on committing to doing those exercises and stuff. The way you were able to get mindfulness is you had quick drinking, you got like real present with yourself. That just naturally makes you more present. But then you also took help, you got, you took a little gummy and you tell it, you're telling me that these books that you read, they tell you to do that if you need a little help, you know that that's, that's how you got there. Other people, maybe they, they're already, you know, they're into yoga or they do things that they have that mindfulness naturally. So they know that and they could tack that on, you know what I mean? But when you actually start doing the physical things you need to do and you start humming and chanting and all the, that you're talking about, you know, you could have results within six months. Six to eight months.

[Little Dick Steve]

Yeah, that's probably, probably reasonable. Yeah.

[Kathy]

What do you mean reasonable? You just told me your whole story. How many months is 270 days? It's not a year.

[Little Dick Steve]

I don't, I don't know. I can only speak to my own experience.

[Kathy]

Yeah, your own experience was months, okay? It wasn't years. Years. You're painting, you're, you're not telling the correct story. Years. You're took years because you didn't do anything about it. You wanted, you had a goal and you didn't do one thing to work towards it. Okay, you were reading about it, it was a fantasy. The minute it's like telling someone that like I, you know, that wanted to work out and they started working out five months ago, but they wanted to work out for 10 years that it took them 10 years to work out. No, they start, it starts when you start doing something. You're, you're becoming multi orgasmic. Started 270 days ago. I don't care that you were reading about it before Reddit was involved, okay? You didn't do one thing for it until then.

[Little Dick Steve]

I'll accept that.

[Kathy]

What do you mean you'll accept it?

[Little Dick Steve]

It's just a fact.

[Kathy]

I have you on. I mean, oh my God, I should be like a police reporter. Like you don't ever be next to someone that gets murdered because you're going to get pinned on it just because you don't even know how to tell a story and you're not even even like. And I know it's not because you're lying. Like you will be convicted of the murder even though you didn't murder somebody. Because the way you actually talk about when someone is grilling you is so bad.

[Little Dick Steve]

I know, I know how to tell that story, Cat. I know how to tell that story. It's a one word story.

[Kathy]

I didn't do it. And they won't.

[Little Dick Steve]

No lawyer.

[Kathy]

Yeah, have your lawyer talk. Don't you talk.

[Little Dick Steve]

Let somebody else talk.

[Kathy]

You will be convicted because, because you don't know what the you're saying half the time.

[Little Dick Steve]

Yeah, yeah, I, I will not talk to the police.

[Kathy]

I'm telling your story and your story is. And because I've taught and listen, because I've talked to other guys who have mastered this. I've talked to other people. It doesn't take six years to figure this out. Okay? It actually can happen in six to eight months. And you just need to commit to it and do the things that you did, which were the exercises, the breathing, putting a voice to it, starting to become very body focused and all those things. It doesn't take you years of doing that to have that, that work unless you're not committed. Once you committed to it, which was 270 days ago, because you got serious about it, because you had nothing else to do, because you quit drinking, you were playing video games and you had that time. It worked super fast. So for anybody else, it's not going to take years. They don't need to read about, they're not going to be reading about it for years. They heard your episode and now they're going to start today. So within 270 days from now, some guys could be happy having this happen too, because it happened to you.

[Little Dick Steve]

Yep. Hopefully they'll call and tell you all about it.

[Kathy]

Oh my God.

[Little Dick Steve]

And, and better than me.

[Kathy]

Oh, little dick. Steve is bad stories. But I do think your story is inspiring. I do think it's, it's amazing what you were able to do. And I do hope that like, you know, listen for you, you listen to Leah and the other guy and everything clicked for you and you read. You know, I'm hoping that, you know, there'll be other guys that listen to your story and are like, oh, now I'm going to do it because he can, you know what I mean? It will inspire other guys to try this, do these basic things. And I think it is very hopeful and helpful to let people know that this can happen like within a year. Like it doesn't take that much. It's not, not, it's not about the time. It's just about the commitment and really. And the focus. Right. And all that kind of stuff. And to me if you could, if you could master those, you know, from what the experts have told me and from what happened to you, it can happen within a year. And that's pretty amazing.

[Little Dick Steve]

A lot of people, you know, you, you look on the Internet, you see people with talent doing, doing things. It's like I'll never be able to do that. I'll never be able to do that. Right. And, and, and you see something like, like a hands free orgasm. You're like, man, I would love to be able to do that but you don't think you can. And then one, you know, for me it was one day I was like, you know what? I'm, I'm going to chase this seriously. And that's.

[Kathy]

Yeah, well, and that's full circle. You, you mentioned that in the beginning. I think I said like I believe if I one person can do then I can. If you can little dick Steve. If little dick Steve can do it while he's playing video games, then I can too. And that's what everybody should hear from your episode. If Steve can, I can. You know what I mean? And that's what's really. And, and that's, and you know, I think maybe you just needed to stop drinking so you could be clear headed enough to know that that is a reality for anybody. I always see things like that. But I'm sober 27 years, you know what I mean? Like maybe I didn't think that before, I don't know. But like anybody could do anything if somebody else can do it. You know what I mean? Listen, it's not like no one could play like be a virtuoso I on certain things. You know, some people do have God given talent but something like this can be done. It like I have the step by steps from the experts and I love this story because this is like you followed some steps and not even all of them and it just all came together for you. So I think it's even more interesting from your perspective. But I love your story. When you got a year of not drink, you're not really, you're like California sober, you're not really sober, right? You just didn't want to drink, right?

[Little Dick Steve]

I definitely didn't want to drink. I tried, I try to be careful, smoke Weed.

[Kathy]

You just said you just do gummies every now and then, right?

[Little Dick Steve]

I do the gummies because I feel like I can control what I'm. What, I'm getting a little bit better.

[Kathy]

Right, Right.

[Little Dick Steve]

You can't always. I'll tell you, I'll tell you this. You can't always trust the gummies because I've definitely, you know, I've taken a 25 milligram gummy, cut it in, cut it, cut it four ways. So I only have a quarter.

[Kathy]

Huh.

[Little Dick Steve]

And it's like they didn't mix it, right?

[Kathy]

Oh, no, you got 25 and one quarter.

[Little Dick Steve]

Not, not 25, but I definitely got more than six.

[Kathy]

Oh, my God. You know, and, well, like, I'm, My whole point is, like, you, you, you quit drinking, but you're not like, sober, right? Like, you just quit drinking, though, for whatever reason.

[Little Dick Steve]

Yeah, I would consider myself California sober.

[Kathy]

Yeah, there you go.

[Little Dick Steve]

And, and I don't even, like, I, I'll eat the gummies like, once or twice a week. I, I don't, it's not like I go home and, you know, eat a bunch of gummies and vegetate in front of the tv.

[Kathy]

I just, that's fine. I'm not here to talk. My whole point of that is that if you want to, when you're one year California sober, if you want to come on the show and talk about your journey to sobriety, I have an episode of how my, my quitting drinking, you know, and being successful. Yeah, you never listen to it. You would love it.

[Little Dick Steve]

I, I don't, I don't know if I got to it yet.

[Kathy]

Yeah, it's okay. I have so many episodes.

[Little Dick Steve]

You give me a list of, like, four episodes I gotta go look at, and I, I don't have, I don't have anything to write it down. So.

[Kathy]

It's so good for people. I mean, you know, it's so good for people that quit drinking to listen to. It's called, I re. Air it every year on, like, either my getting sober day or in September, national surprise, whatever. But it's Kathy on getting sober and remaining sober for 22 years without AA. It's episode 1117. It's a great episode. You should listen to it. But I, I, I would love other people's sober stories on my show because I think so many people, you know, have issues with things and maybe they want to quit. And I think those kinds of stories are always super inspiring too. So I love those stories. So you could always come back on and tell me that, because the fact that your dick got bigger and you were someone that drank all your life and you quit drinking. It sounds like you quit smoking. Like, we could talk all about that. I think those are great stories to have on my show.

[Little Dick Steve]

Without even realizing, just quitting drinking and not going to the gym, I lost like 4,40 pounds.

[Kathy]

Yes. By the way, I. When I quit drinking, I got so skinny, people thought I was anorexic because I was already thin. Because I'm like a working out person. Very healthy, even though. But I. But I didn't realize how much calories I was packing on and keeping myself regular weight with alcohol. Right. So when I quit, I got like emaciated. I had to start eating and I was like lactose intolerant. But at that time, I was able to eat stuff. I was eating a pint of Ben and Jerry's every day just to keep. Keep myself heavier. You know what I mean? To keep the weight on.

[Little Dick Steve]

Just to keep some weight on.

[Kathy]

Yeah. Because you lose so much when you quit, you don't realize how much that alcohol turns to sugar in your body and how fattening it is. Right.

[Little Dick Steve]

Well, I'm gonna tell you one thing and then we'll go.

[Kathy]

Yeah.

[Little Dick Steve]

Between me and my wife.

[Kathy]

Yeah.

[Little Dick Steve]

Before I quit drinking in a week. So just me, I would go through probably 60 beers a week or more.

[Ad Voice]

Wow.

[Little Dick Steve]

And when I say.

[Kathy]

When I say that's like loaves of bread. Just so you know, there's so many carbs. And beer. That's the worst thing to drink for like. And fat.

[Little Dick Steve]

And I'm. I'm talking like IPAs.

[Kathy]

Oh, my God.

[Little Dick Steve]

And. And stouts and heavier, heavier beers. Like, I didn't drink anything less than about a 7% alcohol.

[Kathy]

Oh, my God.

[Little Dick Steve]

And so between me and my wife, we would go through two handles of bourbon a week.

[Kathy]

Did she drink? Quit drinking too, Too.

[Little Dick Steve]

Just by virtue of the fact that I did. She kind of.

[Kathy]

She hopped on board.

[Little Dick Steve]

She didn't.

[Kathy]

That's okay. Sometimes. She didn't quit.

[Little Dick Steve]

Totally.

[Kathy]

But she cut down.

[Little Dick Steve]

She didn't. She didn't quit. I mean, she doesn't drink, but it's only because I'm not drinking.

[Ad Voice]

Right.

[Little Dick Steve]

She doesn't want to drink because I'm not drinking.

[Kathy]

Yeah. It's not fun, right?

[Little Dick Steve]

Yeah. But we. When I say we were heavy drinkers.

[Kathy]

Yeah, you were.

[Little Dick Steve]

We were heavy drinkers.

[Kathy]

You're going to laugh when you read. Listen to my getting super. Because you were so less efficient than I am. Like, I. You told. Talk about how I used to drink like 40s. Because I hated beer and you have to drink so much beer to, like, get drunk. And my thing for drinking was to get drunk. It wasn't the taste of it, you know, I mean, so, like, I was like. I was like. I never understood why people drank beer. I would always go for 40s. I would bring it to parties because, like, you get drunk on one, it's so much, so high in alcohol. You're like sitting there drinking 60 beers a day. Is that what you said? Or a week?

[Little Dick Steve]

A week.

[Kathy]

Oh, my. And by the way, as far as fat running, as carbs are concerned, that's like one loaf of bread, like every beer said. Terrible.

[Little Dick Steve]

It's. It's. Yeah, yeah.

[Kathy]

Amazing. I can't wait for this story. So you. Only. You don't have much longer left that you're at a year, but call me

[Little Dick Steve]

when you're about 100. About 100 days. Yeah.

[Kathy]

Yeah, let's do that story. I love. I love another sober story on my show. I think it's so. And I think. And I love that your wife hopped on board, but she's not really. But she's doing it for you. It's like an interesting story for sure. Let's do it.

[Little Dick Steve]

It. Yeah, I'll go ahead and schedule it right now.

[Kathy]

Okay, cool. Look forward to it. Thanks, little dick Steve for calling in. This was a fun episode. You're cool.

[Little Dick Steve]

Thanks, Kathy. I like talking to you.

[Kathy]

Have a good day. Bye. And good luck with not drinking.

[Little Dick Steve]

Thank you. Okay, I'll work on it.

[Kathy]

Yeah, go listen to the episode. You'll like my getting sober episode. I will.

[Little Dick Steve]

I'll put it on right now.

[Kathy]

Yeah.

[Little Dick Steve]

Thank you.

[Kathy]

Bye.

[Little Dick Steve]

Bye.

[Kathy]

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