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Sarah Lauren (0:00)
We do not need men. They are an added bonus and fun in our life. We are okay being single also, like, go to the bar and get guys to pay for your drinks. Flirt a little bit. You're single about it. To go back into that bad bitch energy, there's a few things that you need to focus on. Our mission, especially this summer, should be plans with your girlfriends, making more friends, being even more inclusive, making those fun memories with them and making your bond even stronger. Be more like, oh, my gosh, I get to go work out today. I get to go out tonight. We don't have anyone now begging us. You don't have to do what they want to do. You can do everything. You get to do it. Hello, everybody, and welcome back to Tall Belong. Hello, everybody, and welcome back to Tall Blonde. I was about to say Sarah Lauren, but this is hosted by Sarah Lauren, and this is for the tall blondes and I was gonna say the top lawns only, but it's not. It's just for people that want to give off Top Blonde energy this summer, let me tell you, okay? We are in a whole different energy. We are switching our mindset in this episode, okay? We are transforming ourselves from like, maybe it's a post breakup, maybe it's a slump, Maybe it's something that you're going through in your life, or maybe it's someone that you're talking to that you just don't think is it. We are switching our mindset to make us feel and know that we are the main character and we do not have to be in that slump. We can change the storyline, okay? I also think, because I. I guess I'm gonna call it a breakup, breakup recovery, okay? And there are so many things out there that we can look forward to and be excited about that don't have to do with boys. Yes, boys can add fun to it, but our mission, especially this summer, should be plans with your girlfriends, plans with your friends, plans with that group, making more friends, being even more inclusive, making those fun memories with them and making your bond even stronger. And then of course, if you meet guys out, when you guys go out for dinner or go out afterwards, that is an add on to the storyline, okay? That's an add on to the plot. That's something that you guys can all have a FaceTime or sit on a couch hungover and talk about. That's a story for you guys to laugh at. We do not need men. They are an added bonus and fun in our life. But we are okay being single. And I think to go back into that bad bitch energy. There's a few things that you need to focus on. One being who's your circle? How are you going to avoid being lonely? Because that's a big thing that does make you text your ex or text a past person in your life. And I've been a victim of it. I'm sure we all have. But what are those things that you can kind of distract yourself, and that is making plans with your friends, saying, okay, next weekend, I don't have any plans right now, and I'm probably going to be lonely. So let's do dinner, let's do wine and paint night. Let's do something that's fun, something that you guys would look forward to and have fun with. I think there's also, you know, things that if you don't want to drink and you don't want to go out, you can also do, like a full day of workouts, wellness, cold plunges. If you don't want to spend any money, do a walk, do a. Adopt a dog for the weekend. I don't give a. But do it and look forward to it and have things that you can look forward to that do not involve any guys. Of course. I mean, not of course, but I am talking to people in my life and guys. But, like, I'm not looking for a relationship, so I'm looking forward to making these memories with the girls. I don't think there's been a time in my life where I've never been talking to a man, like, even just a little bit, or having hope that there is going to be a relationship coming. So I think this is an even new era for me. This is different for me to not have, you know, someone reassuring me every second or saying, good morning, beautiful, or telling me I'm beautiful or giving me that physical attention or anything. Like, this is time for me to be comfortable with me, be. Be active. I always say, like, when you look good, you feel good. So I want to be more. Living that balanced lifestyle, more doing. I don't want to take myself away from, like, all the fun and boozing and drinking and partying and whatever, because I love that life. I love being social. But I think there's a way to do it with balance where we can still get to an even better place physically, mentally, you know, listening to those podcasts, reading those books, maybe watching a documentary or some. I don't know, or taking some new classes or going for more runs outside, staying active and making goals in that part of your life. And not just living for the weekends or the Fridays anymore because I feel like I kind of have been doing that. And not that I'm losing momentum in other parts of my life, but like, I'm proudly a very balanced person and I want to continue that. I don't want to lose that. So in order to do that, I need to make goals, physically working out more, making like sure that I set up, you know, book classes or even just write in my notes. Like on Monday I'm doing this, on Tuesday I'm doing this set time so that I hold myself accountable to do that and then also, you know, make sure I say I only want to. This might be a lot for some people and don't judge me, but I only want to go out three days max a week. Okay, three, I know, is a lot, but it's less than half. And if it were four and it were half, you don't have enough day days to recover. So I think three is a good number because I'm very social. I like to talk to people, I like to meet people. I'm still gonna make new opportunities and new, you know, memories that I can share with you guys and share on my socials and, you know, learn through them. But I also think that that gives me enough time to like be good and be sober for other days. So I think I'm going to for sure do the whole three to, what is it, three to four day ratio. Three days I can go and drink, but that drinking three days doesn't mean like drinking. Then you're hungover and you're right off the next day. You could be out till 3, 4am I don't give a shit. But you, if you're gonna do that and you're gonna hold yourself accountable to go out and not give a shit that night, you need to wake up and get your shit done the next morning. Like, you need to make sure that you're still doing that. Like that is balance. Balance isn't just, you know, being a write off and then like one day working out. It's if you want to have fun, you do that. But then you also hold yourself accountable. Yesterday I slept through my workout and I was so mad at myself. And some guy that I was doing work with said, if you're gonna be doing that, you gotta wake up the next morning and just go hungover. And I was like, oh my gosh, you are so right. Like, I cannot be doing that. And I never did. So it kind of like makes me mad that I allowed myself to Go down that path. It was a day, but whatever. But I'm still mad at myself because I know that I can do more, I can get there, I can do it. Maybe it's not the best workout in the world, but I'm still checking off my to do list. I'm not, not doing anything. And that's balance, baby. That's still having fun, that's still working hard. And then if you're balancing that and you're going to work out and you're having fun, not only are you mentally, you know, still stimulated in meeting new people and having fun, you're also physically feeling better. So there's no getting guilt. There's no, like, scaries. There's no. I mean, there might be scaries if you're doing crazy things, but, like, there's nothing too much to worry about. You're still balancing your life in a rate. I mean, like, if I never went and drank, I understand that I could probably have a six pack because I work out five days a week, but that's just not the life I want to live. And I don't want to be depressed for whatever, because if I hold myself inside and I don't do social things, that brings me joy, that makes me happy. If I take that away and just like 180, don't do that kind of lifestyle anymore, I will be so in a hole and so down bad that I don't even. I don't. I couldn't do it. I just want people to do it. So I'm gonna make sure that I'm making it still fun, making it still achievable, but putting myself on a good track for that. If I see any of my exes in the summer or out at any time, they're still gonna look at me and be like, oh, my God, she is still doing amazing without me. She didn't spiral, she didn't go down a dark hole. She's still doing probably even better without them. We need to start romanticizing our lives. Be more like, oh my gosh, I get to go work out today, I get to go out tonight, I get to wake up and. Or even sleep in on a Sunday by yourself and not have someone, like, pushing you or living their life, whatever. I'm talking about like a boyfriend, because they're always like, get up or whatever. I mean, that's my experience. But we don't have anyone nagging us. We don't have to do what they want to do. You can do everything. You get to do it. You don't have to. Now you get to pick and choose whatever you want to do. You're romanticizing and living the life that you wanted. You are now the main character in your own movie. How do you want this movie to play out? How. What do you want the girl in that movie that you're watching to feel, to do, to put herself out, to be? Like, chase those goals. Write them down. Put things into action. Don't just say it or think it, like, actually talk about it. Put it into existence and start making this life that you've never even known could be true. Like, we have to switch our mindset and start thinking, like, happy, go lucky, fun, entertaining, everything. Things that you want to talk about that you want to share with people. Like, start doing those things. Also, I think it's tough because if you don't live with someone, like, you might be lonely. But I think just making plans and things is so important. Or even, like, you don't. I understand. Like, even for me, like, I'm trying to budget, I'm trying to spend less. So me saying, like, going out or me saying, like, going, doing, like, workout classes and stuff, that's all costs money. But when I'm saying that, you can also do the alternatives of, like, going for a run, doing a, like, workout outside at a park, doing, you know, Pilates with your friend in a random. Maybe you guys have a gym in your apartment. I don't know, something. Okay, YouTube it and you'll find something. But you can have fun without, you know, having to spend so much money. And I'm trying to learn that myself. Also, like, go to the bar and get guys to pay for your drinks. Flirt a little bit. You're single. Have at it. And get guys to pay for you, because they probably will. Or just, like, make eyes with them. I fuck them a little bit. And they'll probably pay for your bill. So practice and you'll probably get what you want. Also, follow your goals and not your mood. I think that's what my roommate told me today. I was in a little bit of a slump, but she was like, remember, like we always say, follow your goals and not your mood. Wake up. If you don't want to do it, still do it. Because you'll be even more in a slump if you don't do it and you follow your mood. If you just do it, yeah, you won't be in the best mood. It might not be a 10 out of 10, but you still got it done. You can still redo it the next day. If you have to. But you still did it. You're not going to be mad at yourself. So because I brought up my roommate, because she's such an amazing human being, and because she's here, I'm gonna get her to join in with this one because she has high, high spirits today and we need that energy.