Why do people fail, not physically, but psychologically?

In this sharp solo episode, Abi breaks down the three hidden reasons smart, driven people can't make their health changes stick: a refusal to raise their standards, an unconscious preference for comfort right now over results later, and a self-concept that's quietly sabotaging every new habit they try to build. No fluff. No filler. Just the uncomfortable psychology, and exactly how to break out of it.

Studies & Sources Referenced:

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[6] Clear J, Atomic Habits, Penguin Publishing Group, 2018. https://jamesclear.com/identity-based-habits

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