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The Baddest Bitch in the Building
Hosted by Neeki Motabar · EN
Join Neeki, your favourite Machiavellian Barbie, every Wednesday to learn how to take advantage of the patriarchy's loopholes and to unlearn the patriarchal conditioning keeping us small, quiet, nice girls.
"To learn the rules, you must play the game. To change the game, you must break the rules" 💋
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7 ways to make your feminine rage work for you
Jan 1400:30:56Tap to summarize📚 Want the first 20 Girly Laws of Power in book format? Get a SIGNED (!!) copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Feminine/female rage is the righteous anger we feel at a world that subjugates and violates us daily. Female rage has become a ubiquitous topic, but it’s time we discuss how to channel it productively. Unresolved anger turns into resentment, hatred, and psychosomatic symptoms like digestive issues and migraines. And guess what – we’re not contestants in the Suffering Olympics like Victimella is. So let’s put our female rage to work.Channel rage into creativity (6:14)Reconnect with your ancestors (10:25)Be so grateful it’s cringe (12:37)Recalibrate the algorithm of your life (16:29)Find a physical release (21:05)Understand the law of inversion (22:33)Be a bigger bitch than before (27:11)Note: If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to these timestamps.Here’s Shelby K Morrison’s podcast, The Serpent Signal, I mentioned.🎶 Music credit: Mozart - Requiem in D minor - K. 626 IIIf Lacrimosa © Chœur des Marais, Villefranche sur Saône, Fr.__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Girly law of power #30: Use people’s big egos to your advantage
Jan 700:36:07Tap to summarize❤️🩹 Try Stress Less by Semaine Health, a clinically formulated gummy designed to support healthier stress response and cortisol balance. Use code NEEKI20 for 20% off.📚 AND don't forget to get your copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy on Amazon or get a signed paperback, PDF, or EPUB directly from me. Free preview available here.What people show you isn't their true selves, it's their defence mechanisms. And if you look just beneath the surface, you'll see exactly what they're trying to hide. In fact, if you look deep enough, you might even see yourself.In this episode, I'll discuss:Why we need to stop being gullible & taking things at face valueHow to see beneath the empty shell of someone's big egoWhy certain people have big egos to begin with (it's not why you think)How to spot people's inversion patterns (aka what they're hiding)4 steps to deal with someone who's got a big ego✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.Love, Neeki__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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The 5 love languages: Genuine advice or Christian control in disguise?
Dec 3100:54:33Tap to summarize📚 AND don't forget to get your copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy on Amazon or get a signed paperback, PDF, or EPUB directly from me. Free preview available here.Most people think the five love languages are a pop psychology phenomenon. However, they're not rooted in psychology at all. The origins of the five love languages are closer to the Bible than to science, and they were never made as a tool to help women in their relationships.That's because they were created by Baptist preacher Gary Chapman, a man who's trained in Biblical counselling. His background involves no scientific or psychological training. The crazy thing is, that isn't even the most problematic part.I read Chapman's book, The 5 Love Languages, and in this episode I critically dissect his theory from a feminist lens in a way no one's ever done before. I'll discuss:The conservative & misogynistic origins of Biblical counsellingHow marriage counselling originated as a form of eugenics (& how this agenda found its way into the church)The sexist examples Chapman uses in his book, which shatter his credibilityThe HUGE problem with Chapman's sample (hint: they're all white, Christian, traditional couples)How the love languages map out PERFECTLY to the 5 points of Calvinism (a control-based branch of Protestantism that forms the foundation of Biblical counselling)Whether there's a better alternative to the love languagesSources:Awful '50s Marriage Advice Shows What Our Mothers And Grandmothers Were Up AgainstThe Biblical Counselling MovementThe “love languages” are a hoax by a Southern Baptist pastorThe Surprising History of Marriage Counselling __________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays💄 Want a discount on clean makeup from an Indigenous-owned brand? Shop Cheekbone Beauty and use code NEEKI20 for 20% off Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Unlock the secret to your best self by building your emotional fitness
Feb 26, 202500:49:08Tap to summarizeHELLO IT’S OUR FIRST GUEST EPISODE💓You know how I always tell you that mentally I’m in Barbieland and I’m kind of delusional? Well it turns out that having a positive worldview can actually rewire our brains. You don’t have to take my word for it, that’s why I invited a scientist onto the show.Today, the baddest bitch in the building is Dr. Laura Beavin-Yates, PhD. She’s the Chief Marketing Officer of SIX, an app which helps you measure and find the hidden moments in your daily life that shape your emotional wellbeing. The app uses 20 years of neuroscience research and links to your wearable technology (e.g. your Apple Watch) to pick up the automatic signals your brain sends throughout the day and measure how your body responds to different experiences. Prior to filming this episode, I used the app and found out some fascinating stuff about my daily activities. In this episode we discuss:- Whether it’s a myth that women are more emotional than men- A surprising finding about feelings (hint: they’re not actually objective reactions to the world)- The neuroscience behind being delulu, manifestation, and the law of attraction- How we can rewire our brains and create more positive outcomes for ourselves- How to build our emotional fitness (just like we build our physical fitness)- How to identify daily experiences that give us fulfilment and take control of situations that make us feel not so fulfilled - Laura’s two patriarchy hacksThis episode is especially relevant for anyone who feels like they’re in a rut or struggling to find their spark. Love, Neeki xo📲 Download the SIX app📍Follow SIX on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, and LinkedIn🌐 Learn more about SIX on their website🌸 DM/follow me on IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 DM/follow me on TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg🖥️ Watch this episode on YouTube💌 Email me for collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com
Transcribe →Girly law of power #11: Never demand anything, use the power of suggestion
Feb 19, 202500:33:54Tap to summarizePeople don't like being told what to do. But you need people to do things. So WHAT is a girl to do?!? A girl needs to stop telling people to outright do things, and she needs to learn how to use the power of suggestion.Using the power of suggestion is like planting a seed, and letting the other person fill in the gaps. You want your man to buy you flowers? Start admiring flowers when you go out and stopping by flower shops to smell a bouquet. I mean, you could ask him to get you flowers...but the magical thing about nagging your partner is that it makes him do the exact opposite of what you want. And you also don't want to set the precedent of "if she wants something, she'll just ask." The same applies to friendships, work, roommates, and all other dynamics .In this episode, we’ll discuss:- The fundamental aspects of psychology and human nature behind why people need to feel a sense of autonomy behind their decisions- How to make people lower their defences by priming your relationships (aka getting the soil ready to plant the seed) so that you make people feel safe in your presence, which will allow the power of suggestion to work almost effortlessly - Examples of how to use the power of suggestion with someone you're dating, your significant other, your colleagues, your roommate, and yourself- Psychological and hypnotic tricks on how to make your suggestions more compelling ✨Hope you love it and can use this Law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.Love, Neeki xo🌸 DM/follow me on IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 DM/follow me on TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg🖥️ Watch this episode on YouTube💌 Email me for collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com
Transcribe →Unscripted: Is marriage a scam?
Feb 12, 202500:23:32Tap to summarizeHello to all the pretty girls tuning in…so hello everyone. Y’all asked for more unscripted episodes, so that’s what I’m bringing to the table today. Here’s some context for the new baddies: In between the girly laws of power, I'll be dropping these off the cuff, unscripted episodes. 24 hours before filming, I put a poll on my Instagram story for the baddies to pick a topic. The one with the most votes becomes the topic of the episode.There was actually a tie in the last poll, “is marriage a scam” and “are pick mes a product of the patriarchy” both got 44% of the vote! We’re going with the marriage topic, since a lot of you have messaged me over the last few weeks asking me to talk about whether marriage is a scam for women. Which is surprising given I’m not married nor have I ever been!!!!Anywhoooo I hope you enjoy hearing me yap about this. Let me know what you think - is marriage a scam? Or are there ways for women to negotiate a favourable outcome for themselves? I'll be responding to all comments and DMs 🩷Love, Neeki xoDM/follow me on IG: @baddestbinthebldgDM/follow me on TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldgEmail me for collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com
Transcribe →Girly law of power #10: Be selective with who you give your truth
Feb 5, 202500:26:52Tap to summarizeAs a woman, your truth is one of the most sacred and valuable things you have. What I mean by your truth is all your life experiences, thoughts, goals, insecurities, traumas….everything that makes you, YOU.Your truth is a garden that most people don’t deserve to access. The problem is that the patriarchy understands how valuable a woman’s truth is, and people are lying to you from every direction to try and access your truth. Telling the truth isn’t the default for most people.In this episode, we’ll discuss:- The different tiers of people who want to access your truth- An example of a silly man from the 1500s who made it known he was using the truth for bad intentions, and how people came together to send him on a 2000-mile wild goose chase for 1.5 years- A technique for testing someone’s reaction to your truth, without actually sharing your truth and making yourself vulnerable - How and why withholding your truth is different from “lying”✨Hope you love it and can use this Law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.Love, Neeki xoFeel free to slide in my DMs:IGTikTok
Transcribe →Unscripted: Is building a career a capitalist scam?
Jan 29, 202500:25:26Tap to summarizeThe baddies asked and I have delivered. I'M DROPPING WEEKLY EPISODES!!!In between the girly laws of power, I'll be dropping these off the cuff, unscripted episodes. 24 hours before filming, I put a poll on my instagram story for the baddies to pick a topic. The one with the most votes becomes the topic of the episode.The baddies chose "is building a career a capitalist scam," so that's what we're yapping about today. I share my own experiences of getting my soul sucked by working in a corporate job. After working with CEOs, execs, and boards, I've seen some STUFF. And I lived to tell the tale. I'll also discuss a way to save ourselves from the dementors.I feel like this might (??) be less applicable to jobs in certain fields (e.g. healthcare, teaching, etc.). But the capitalism pandemic is everywhere, so I'm curious to hear from the non corporate baddies. Drop a comment and lmk! I'll be responding to all comments 🩷And feel free to slide in my DMs:IGTikTok
Transcribe →Girly law of power #9: Act like a queen to be treated like one
Jan 23, 202500:33:39Tap to summarizeWe keep getting told to “know our worth” but like…how much is our worth? In the same way that Hermes will charge $50,000 for a bag, we can set our own price and make it as high as we want. The only catch is that we have to actually believe we’re worth that much. In this episode, we’ll discuss: - How to set your price, believe your worth, and stand on business - Why the way you carry yourself reflects what you think of yourself - How to set yourself apart from other people by using what I call the triple Ds (not to be confused with double Ds): 1. Dignified: Having unconditional self love 2. Different: Choosing not to blend in 3. Distinctly feminine: Being feminine in the way you act and dress (heavy on the “acting”) And guess what. Men have to be loud and obnoxious to command attention. Women can literally just ✨enchant✨ people with their presence. So we’re also going to talk about how to do that. ✨Hope you love it and can use this Law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building. Feel free to slide in my DMs: IG TikTok
Transcribe →Girly law of power #8: Know when to act dumb to get what you want
Jan 9, 202500:33:41Tap to summarizeThere’s a Japanese proverb that says, “The nail that sticks up will be hammered down.” A lot of the time, showing people how smart you are works in the opposite way you intended. People will feel envious, threatened, and jealous. So…sometimes, the smartest thing you can do is to play dumb. In this episode, we’ll discuss: - Two elements of human nature that we NEED to understand in order to effectively play dumb - Why making people feel good about themselves (and especially making them feel intellectually superior) will make you magnetic - Why most people are imprisoned in their own minds, and how to break out of prison and mentally free yourself - How to act dumb with men versus with women Here are my viral/popular reels that I mentioned: Reel 1 Reel 2 Reel 3 And here’s the book I referenced, “Why Men Love Bitches” ✨Hope you love it and can use this Law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building. Feel free to slide in my DMs: IG TikTok
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