You don’t feel behind because you are behind.
You feel behind because you’re measuring wrong.
Comparison isn’t the problem.
It’s human.
It’s biological.
It’s ancient.
Your brain was designed to scan the tribe:
Who builds better shelter?
Who hunts better?
Who leads?
Who survives?
But we don’t compare like we used to.
We used to compare to stay alive.
Now we compare and slowly kill our confidence.
Your behind-the-scenes to someone else’s highlight reel.
Your chapter three to someone else’s chapter twenty.
Your real life to someone’s curated performance.
And your brain reads it as data.
Objective. True. Final.
It sees the gap.
It interprets “losing.”
And motivation drops.
But here’s what most people don’t understand:
Your brain doesn’t release motivation when you hit the goal.
It releases motivation when it sees progress.
If you can’t see progress, your dopamine system stays quiet.
And when dopamine drops, confidence drops.
So this isn’t a positivity issue.
It’s chemistry.
In Part 2 of this confidence series, Leah Roling breaks down:
• Why comparison is hardwired — and why you can’t opt out
• The neurological “gap trap” that’s silently draining your motivation
• The science of dopamine and perceived progress
• How to plan forward but measure backward
• Why comparing you to yesterday is the ultimate confidence accelerator
You are going to compare anyway.
The question is — will it shrink you or expand you?
If you’ve ever scrolled and felt smaller…
If you’ve ever looked at someone else’s success and questioned your own…
If you’ve ever thought, “I should be further by now…”
This episode will feel like a mirror and a breakthrough at the same time.
Because confidence doesn’t grow from staring at the gap.
It grows from seeing the gain.
Press play.
Your potential deserves a better scoreboard.

172. You're Measuring it Wrong