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Host/Interviewer
The Burt show all right, this was Amanda on Friday.
Amanda
Well, I'm 33 now and I've never had a relationship last more than a year. You know, usually six months. It's starts to go downhill.
Host/Interviewer
So every day we're gonna get an ex boyfriend on with us who's gonna detail for us exactly why the relationship didn't work out. Cause she wants to sort of take a look at them all and try to figure out how she can get better moving forward. So we talked to this dude John yesterday who dated her 13 years ago in college. We didn't get a whole bunch. I mean it was 13 years ago.
Tracy
I think first and foremost, you know, it was a long time ago. We were kind of young. I'd say about half a year into being together. To me as a 21 year old, she just got really homebodyish and felt like we were in our 30s all of a sudden. And her excuse for all this was like, well, you know, we should. We should stay in because we have tests next week. And I don't know, I was more into, you know, partying 13 years ago.
Co-host/Commentator
Nothing that's typical. Like, you know, somebody in the relationship usually is more serious about it than the other, and it just, you know, so like, she was more wanting to be the, you know, cuddling at home rather than go out and party, and he didn't.
It sounded like too yesterday in the longer conversation that at first. The first six months, she was like a socialite and, like, wanted to go out a lot, and they had a lot, you know, stuff going in common. But then as the relationship progressed, she wanted to be home more. So he didn't like that. He wanted to still party. But he also was really nice about it and said, dude, we were 21.
Host/Interviewer
Right. You know, and he also said that she ended up graduating way before he did.
Co-host/Commentator
Yeah. So there we go.
Host/Interviewer
All right, so Nathan here is an ex boyfriend, and we don't have to go back 13 years. We just have to go back three years. Hey, Nathan.
Nathan (Ex-boyfriend)
Hey, guys. How you doing?
Host/Interviewer
Good. How are you today?
Nathan (Ex-boyfriend)
Good, good, good.
Host/Interviewer
All right, so you know what we're doing here, right? We talked to Amanda last week, and she's hip on doing this, so she's probably listening right now, and she's compiling notes, and we're gonna talk to her at the end of this week or maybe on Monday.
Co-host/Commentator
But you don't have to talk to her so you can be honest.
You're safe. You're in a safety. You're in the safety zone.
Exactly.
Nathan (Ex-boyfriend)
All right, good to know.
Host/Interviewer
So you guys dated three years ago?
Nathan (Ex-boyfriend)
Yeah, it's about three years.
Host/Interviewer
Okay, and for how long?
Nathan (Ex-boyfriend)
It was probably like seven months, I guess. Okay.
Host/Interviewer
All right, now, first guy was how long?
Co-host/Commentator
First guy was almost a year.
Host/Interviewer
Okay, seven months. And just sort of give us a history of the relationship. Things were great, obviously, at first. There must have been some kind of turning point eventually where one of you guys broke it off.
Nathan (Ex-boyfriend)
Yeah, I sort of broke it off just because, you know, at that time I was. I was wild and I was going out, and it just, you know, she wanted to. She wanted to sort of stay at home and relax, and she also had sort of a hard time getting along with my friends because there was a little bit of an age difference.
Co-host/Commentator
So what was the age difference?
Nathan (Ex-boyfriend)
Well, I'm 24 right now. So when we dated, I was, I was probably like 21. Just turned 21 and she was 30.
Host/Interviewer
She must have been 30 then. Yeah.
Tracy
Wow.
Host/Interviewer
She told us that before. Right.
Co-host/Commentator
That's not a little bit of an age difference.
That's a nine year age difference. That's a big one.
So it's the same issue with the same age of the guy. She was just different. A different age?
Well, no, because she was younger with yesterday's guy. They were the same age, right?
No, I'm saying he was 21 and this guy was 21. Yeah, even, you know, so.
So she's been. So she's been boring her whole life.
She's like dancing confused. But she likes about 21 year old, 21 year old guy. She gets older and they stay the same age.
Host/Interviewer
But she's showing a pattern here. Like maybe because she's not that way. She's attracted to guys that are.
Co-host/Commentator
Maybe you got party guy in college.
Host/Interviewer
Now when you guys initially met, did you meet in a bar or a party setting or how did you initially meet?
Nathan (Ex-boyfriend)
Well, she has a younger brother and I met her through her younger brother.
Host/Interviewer
Okay, okay. Was it party, party, party in the beginning of your relationship? And then at some point it tailed off?
Nathan (Ex-boyfriend)
You know, I think she put on a good face, you know, for maybe a week or two. But then it pretty quickly was, why don't we stay home tonight? Why don't we? I have to go out. So I was 21 years old. She's a really great girl, but, you know, I was 21 years old and I wanted to go out and have fun.
Co-host/Commentator
But you must have liked her if that happened right away in the relationship.
Nathan (Ex-boyfriend)
There's definitely a lot of chemistry there. There's definitely a lot of sexual chemistry. So cool.
Host/Interviewer
Okay, okay. When you guys would go out and you would do your party thing, would she get her drink on pretty good or was she always sober and sort of in control of things?
Nathan (Ex-boyfriend)
Sober? She was the DD for me and my friends a few times.
Co-host/Commentator
That's sad. Hey Nathan, can your come get us? To my girlfriend. Stop saying that. Kicked your ass in beer pong and you're just mad. Take you down and flip cup too.
Host/Interviewer
Would she get annoyed by you and your friends because she was sober and you guys were hammered all the time?
Nathan (Ex-boyfriend)
Like I said, she put on a good face a little while. But yeah, it was pretty clear that there was a problem with, with the partying, you know, like I said, we were 21 years old. We were going out to get drunk, not just socialize. So that really wasn't her scene.
Host/Interviewer
She certainly knew what she was getting into. So even though she's saying it's not her scene, it's the same. But it's the exact same scenario yesterday. So we are starting to build a pattern here that she dates party, party, party guys, and she doesn't like to party.
Co-host/Commentator
Right.
Host/Interviewer
Okay. Anything else there?
Narrator/Advertiser
And she didn't give you a hard
Co-host/Commentator
time about going out and partying? She was cool.
Nathan (Ex-boyfriend)
No, I mean, she wanted me to stay home with her all the time. So, yeah, I mean, it sort of became an issue. That's. That's ultimately why we broke up. You know, it was an issue with I don't want to go out, and I did want to go out.
Co-host/Commentator
So if you were going to give her some advice now on her next relationship, what would it be?
Nathan (Ex-boyfriend)
I would say whoever she dates, she's got to meet halfway because she was pretty obstinate towards the end there. I mean, she. Like I said, she's a nice girl, but towards the end there, it was just my way or, you know, the highway, because I was sort of the one that broke it off. But, you know, it was. It just go out and, I don't know, don't be such a homebody.
Host/Interviewer
So she wasn't even willing to go out with you at the very end. She's like, you go do your thing. Come on back.
Nathan (Ex-boyfriend)
Last two or three months. Now definitely not.
Host/Interviewer
Okay, cool. All right, this is a nice big piece to the puzzle here then.
Co-host/Commentator
Thank you, Nathan.
Host/Interviewer
All right, guys, really appreciate your time, man.
Nathan (Ex-boyfriend)
All right. Yeah, glad to help.
Host/Interviewer
Thank you.
Nathan (Ex-boyfriend)
Bye.
Co-host/Commentator
Sounds familiar. She doesn't need to date a 21 year old. She needs to date a guy. That's okay to be a homebody.
55 year old.
Host/Interviewer
Now, she did tell us initially that she did d younger guys, right? So she sort of gave us that red flag.
Co-host/Commentator
I usually date a year or two younger.
Narrator/Advertiser
I think 10 years younger.
Co-host/Commentator
I go laugh if every one of these damn ex Boyfriends is 21 years old. It's being like, this is kind of weird.
Host/Interviewer
It would almost be too obvious if that was.
Co-host/Commentator
Well, no, keep in mind that we keep saying that, but the one we talked to yesterday, she was only a year older than him. Like he was still young, but he was their boyfriend from 10 years ago.
Yeah, I understand, but I just find it interesting that regardless of her age, again, the guys are the same guys,
Host/Interviewer
same type guy, party guy. And she's not a party girl.
Co-host/Commentator
We'll see. If it happens again tomorrow, that'd be interesting.
Host/Interviewer
Tomorrow morning, same time, we'll have ex boyfriend number three on. Tracy here thinks that we're being unfair. Hey, Tracy.
Tracy
Hey.
Amanda
I just wanted to say, you know, you guys were saying yesterday that it seems like she kind of changed her personality. She was all outgoing at first. I'm talking about the first guy, of course. But what I wanted to stress was is that I mean, she was pre law at the time. Maybe her classes weren't as hard or as demanding, but I mean as that second semester rolled around, she really had to buckle down. And this guy today, it's like whatever, you're 21, are you kidding me?
Host/Interviewer
She chose him. I mean, that's the point that I think I'm making is she's choosing these guys that party a lot even though she doesn't party much. So maybe that will be the continued trend throughout the week. We don't know.
Co-host/Commentator
Who knows?
Amanda
We'll see.
Host/Interviewer
All right, Tracy. Thank you.
Co-host/Commentator
Hey.
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Podcast: The Bert Show
Episode Title: Vault: The Age Difference Ended Their Relationship
Date: May 18, 2026
This episode delves into listener Amanda's dating history as part of an ongoing series where ex-boyfriends share why their relationships with her ended. The main focus today is on Amanda's relationship with Nathan, an ex-boyfriend nine years her junior, and how their age gap—as well as their mismatched lifestyles—played a critical role in their breakup. The team analyzes Amanda’s recurring pattern of dating younger, party-enthusiast men, despite preferring a homebody lifestyle, and speculate on the reasons behind her choices.
“Well, I'm 33 now and I've never had a relationship last more than a year. You know, usually six months, it starts to go downhill.”
—Amanda
“Well, I'm 24 right now. So when we dated, I was probably like 21. Just turned 21 and she was 30.”
—Nathan (04:11)
“I sort of broke it off just because, you know, at that time I was... wild and I was going out, and...she wanted to sort of stay at home and relax, and she also had sort of a hard time getting along with my friends because there was a little bit of an age difference.”
—Nathan (03:47)
“You know, I think she put on a good face, you know, for maybe a week or two. But then it pretty quickly was, ‘Why don't we stay home tonight?’... I was 21 years old and I wanted to go out and have fun.”
—Nathan (05:20)
“Sober. She was the DD for me and my friends a few times.”
—Nathan (05:54)
“...there was a problem with... the partying... we were 21 years old. We were going out to get drunk, not just socialize. So that really wasn't her scene.”
—Nathan (06:17)
“No, I mean, she wanted me to stay home with her all the time. So, yeah, I mean, it sort of became an issue. That's...ultimately why we broke up.”
—Nathan (06:49)
“I would say whoever she dates, she's got to meet halfway because she was pretty obstinate towards the end there...don't be such a homebody.”
—Nathan (07:07)
“She doesn't need to date a 21 year old. She needs to date a guy that's okay to be a homebody.”
—Co-host (07:44)
“She chose him. I mean, that's the point that I think I'm making is she's choosing these guys that party a lot even though she doesn't party much.”
—Host (09:03)
This episode illustrates Amanda's persistent pattern of dating younger, party-oriented men, despite her preference for staying home. With candid insights from ex-boyfriend Nathan and commentary from the show’s hosts, the discussion highlights the critical importance of compatible lifestyles and mutual willingness to compromise. The episode offers both humor and empathy as Amanda (and listeners) confront the real challenges of dating patterns and self-awareness.