7: Vault: Babysitters Are Hit On More Thank You Think

Summary

The Bert Show – Episode 7: "Vault: Babysitters Are Hit On More Than You Think"

Air date: February 10, 2026
Main Theme:
This episode shines a light on the disturbingly common phenomenon of young babysitters (and young girls in general) being sexually harassed or hit on by adult men—often fathers of the children they care for or other men in family/social circles. Through candid conversations and multiple real-life listener calls, the hosts discuss their own experiences and explore why these uncomfortable, inappropriate, and sometimes predatory situations are so widespread and, until recently, rarely discussed openly.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Introduction & Backstory (01:29 – 03:18)

• The episode begins with Bert recounting a shocking news story: two men went to jail after unknowingly having sex with a 13-year-old posing as a 19-year-old online. This sets the stage for a deeper conversation about deceit, age, and responsibility.
  • "I asked the provocative question: how young were you when you had sex with an older guy? When you misrepresented your age, like he thought you were 22 but you were really like 15 or 16." – Host (02:09)
• The most shocking call in the previous episode concerned a woman whose boyfriend learned, after a year of dating, that the girl he'd been seeing was 12 when the relationship began.

2. Babysitters as Targets of Inappropriate Advances (03:18 – 05:56)

• A listener from a prior episode revealed having an ongoing affair with the father in a family she babysat for, starting when she was underage—a story the hosts use to launch into the main topic.
• Jen, a show member, asserts, “A lot of young girls get hit on by the fathers of the children that they're babysitting for.” (03:18)
• Discussion about why these situations may occur:
  • Babysitters are frequently in the family home, which creates a sense of comfort and entitlement for the adults.
  • Many of these incidents happen when parents return home after drinking.
  • Teen babysitters face an awkward power dynamic: “[As a babysitter] you have respect for this person because they're essentially your employer when you're that young.” – Jen (04:18)

3. Why Victims Often Stay Silent (04:38 – 05:14)

• Teens hesitate to speak up due to wanting the job/money, fear of not being believed, or not understanding the inappropriateness at their age.
  • “Who's going to believe you? Like, if you went to the wife... is she gonna believe what you say? It’s an unfair position.” – Co-host (04:47)
• The hosts express genuine surprise at how prevalent these experiences appear to be, with Jen reiterating, “I would imagine it happens very often.” (05:11)

4. Listener Calls: Personal Stories of Being Hit On (06:19 – 15:01)

Sarah at Emory University (06:19)

• Sarah shares a particularly awkward tale: an older man hits on her at the gym, and later she’s referred to babysit for his family, discovering he’s the father. He was “flirty at the gym, uncomfortable at home.” (06:53)

Charlotte’s Cautionary Tale (07:21)

• Charlotte never babysat, but as a teen her friend’s dad would be “touchy-feely.” Now, as a mother, she doesn't let her own daughter go to many sleepovers.
  • “I was probably 12 or 13... That’s why I don’t let her go over to too many people's houses.” (07:42)

Kristen’s Story of Weed & Unwanted Advances (07:59)

• As a 15-year-old, Kristen’s employer would drive her home, discuss smoking weed, touch her leg, and make her feel unsafe. She never returned, and the family was angry (not knowing why).
  • “...he put his hand on my leg... I never went back after that.” (08:37)

Tori and the Drunk Dad (08:54)

• Tori shares multiple babysitting incidents with a “crazy family”—including a drunk father who hit on her and had her (at 15) drive herself home to avoid his advances.

Generalization: Most Women Have Had Experiences with Inappropriate Men (09:52)

• The hosts remark that almost every woman seems to have some story of being inappropriately approached, whether babysitting or just sleeping over at a friend’s house.
  • "I would be shocked to find one woman... who hasn't had some adult male be inappropriate to her at some point." – Co-host (09:52)

Stories Beyond Babysitting – Bars, Schools, Church (10:26 – 13:12)

• The hosts and callers broaden the discussion to other environments:
  • A host shares being hit on by drunk men while working in an Irish pub at 16.
  • Another recounts a “really creepy” music teacher eventually arrested for misconduct.
  • Rebecca tells how, as a 19-year-old college student, a 50-year-old dad made a lewd comment while she babysat: “I looked up and the dad was standing over me and he went, 'mmm, tasty.'” (11:48)
  • Stacy calls in about her 14-year-old sister’s two-year affair with a church deacon, who was never held accountable by the church or the man’s wife, leaving lasting trauma.

Carol’s Harrowing Overnight (13:49)

• Carol, at 13, had a father she babysat for crawl into bed with her drunk. She escaped to the sofa and “never babysat again. Ever.” (15:01)

5. The Psychology of Predators & Victims (13:12 – 14:56)

• The hosts discuss how adults often “test boundaries,” gradually escalating inappropriate behavior based on the teen’s reactions.
  • “I think that they test you out by saying comments or compliments or whatever and then it goes further and further depending on your reaction...” – Melissa (15:01)
• Emphasis on the victims’ lack of readiness to defend themselves at such a young age.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “A lot of young girls get hit on by the fathers of the children that they're babysitting for.” – Jen (03:18)
• “At 16 years old, when you get 20 bucks, that's a lot of money.” – Host (04:43)
• “I would be shocked to find one woman... who hasn't had some adult male be inappropriate to her at some point.” – Co-host (09:52)
• “He crawled in bed with me with his stinky boxers on, and he's drunk... I slept all night with my eyes open on the sofa.” – Carol (14:35)
• “...they test you out by saying comments or compliments... and then it goes further and further... at 14 or 13... your reaction to it isn't what it is when you're a grown woman and you can say, back off.” – Melissa (15:01)

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Key Timestamps

• 01:29 – Start of main topical discussion (skipping ads)
• 03:18 – Introduction of babysitting and being hit on as a recurring and underdiscussed issue
• 06:19 – First listener call, launching a series of real-life accounts
• 07:59, 08:54, 10:26, 11:22, 12:00, 13:49 – Additional poignant listener stories
• 14:56 – Discussion of how predators test boundaries and how teens are vulnerable

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Tone & Style

The Bert Show maintains its trademark conversational, often humorous tone, yet treats the subject matter with the seriousness it demands. The episode features open, occasionally explicit discussions and a supportive atmosphere for listeners sharing deeply personal, sometimes traumatic stories.

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Summary

This episode is a raw, eye-opening exploration of how pervasive and underacknowledged sexual harassment and predatory behavior are toward young women in roles of trust—especially babysitters. Through candid discussion, personal anecdotes, and a string of real and relatable listener calls, The Bert Show propels a necessary conversation about boundaries, responsibility, and the urgent need for awareness and intervention. The stories, while troubling, highlight the prevalence of these scenarios, the difficulty teens face in recognizing and reporting them, and the long-term ramifications. As the hosts empathetically remark, nearly every woman has a story—and it’s time this harsh reality was acknowledged.

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Note: The episode contains frank and sensitive discussions that could be distressing for some listeners.

Transcript

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[C]

Get it? THE Bird show we got into this story I was telling my wife, but these two dudes that went to jail because they had sex with a girl that was 13 years old. They didn't know it. Her MySpace page said that she was a 19 year old divorcee. Then they found out later after they had sex with her that she was 13 years old. One of the guys goes to her dad and goes, oh my God dude, I gotta tell you something, I had sex with your daughter. And I think he was 22 and the dad said I don't care, I don't care, you're going to jail. He prints out the MySpace page showing that she's portraying herself as 19 and explains, I met her here, she never corrected this, told me she was 19, picked her up on the street, went back to my place, had a date, but a bing. Bada boom.

[D]

13.

[C]

So dad says do the right thing. That says I don't care, I'm calling the cops and he does. And to make a long story short, he ends up in jail. Guy ends up in jail for.

[E]

And it happened twice.

[C]

Yeah, he, the first guy ends up in jail for a year with five years probation. And I don't know about the second guy but he went to jail also. And the 13 year old's MySpace page is still up online. And last when they talked to her father he's like, yeah, she's still out all sorts of hours of the night. So he wasn't doing a damn thing about it. So we got into this yesterday and I asked the provocative question knowing they were going to be shocking answers is like how young were you when you had sex with an older guy? When you misrepresented your age, like he thought you were 22 but you were really like 15 or 16. And the most shocking call that came in yesterday I think was from a woman that said that her boyfriend had been cheating on her for a year and the guy just broke up with his girl that he was having sex with two weeks ago and found out when they first started having sex she was 12 years old. 12 years old.

[E]

And then another call that we heard from was a woman who had had a three year long affair with the man of the head of the family that we babysat, that she babysat for.

[C]

And that's the focus today because Jen said she doesn't think it's going to, that's going to that strange a call because she thinks a lot of young girls get hit on by the fathers of the children that they're babysitting for.

[E]

Yeah, that's you Colin. Tell us your story. Because it definitely happened to me when I was younger, you know, cause you're, you're young and you're with their family or whatever so you're in their house all the time. So they are in a comfortable space where they feel in charge and very comfortable. And also when you're babysitting it's usually when the parents are going out partying. So, so it usually wouldn't happen or they wouldn't be inappropriate before going out. But then after coming home after having some drinks or whatever, then there was a couple of different times that that happened. But the only time it got really weird was one time when I was being driven home and I never went back and worked for that family ever again. But he just got inappropriate or saying inappropriate things or asking inappropriate questions or whatever. And I was probably 14 or 15, something like that.

[C]

How long did you say this went on for?

[E]

Oh no, just one time where I was certain it was inappropriate, and I never went back and worked for that family again. But I would imagine because you're young and you don't really know what's going on, you also have a respect to this person because they're, you know, you're essentially employer when you're that young and a babysitter.

[C]

Plus you want the money too. So you're thinking, you know, if I just shut up about it, is it that bad?

[E]

Right.

[C]

You know, at 16 years old, when you get 20 bucks, that's a lot of money. Sure.

[D]

And then who's gonna believe you? Like, if you went to the wife, do you, you know, is she gonna believe what you say? And it's just an awkward position. It's an unfair position to put the babies that are in.

[C]

So I'm curious if we can find women that at the time you were young girls where. Or maybe there's a young girl listening right now who's like, yeah, every time I go over to babysit, you know, dude gets hammered. And when he comes home and the wife goes upstairs to check on the kids, there he is. He's got his hands all over me.

[E]

Mm. I would imagine it happens very often.

[C]

Really? And you said that yesterday. I was really surprised by that.

[E]

Did you tell Stacey that part of it, or were you guys just talking about the other stuff?

[C]

We talked about the other stuff. We never got into that because I wondered if.

[E]

Cause she was probably a babysitter growing up, right?

[C]

She was, yeah.

[E]

I wonder if that ever happened to her too. Or she was ever in a place. Because I was only in a place where I was uncomfortable. But it never went, you know, any further than that. I was more uncomfortable the times that, you know, the parents had to drive me home. And they were obviously, you know, had been drinking a lot more of those instances than there were this, but I would imagine it happens all the time. And that caller yesterday, a three year affair for. With the dad of the family she babysat for.

[C]

And the most shocking part of that is when she revealed her real age to him. He didn't care.

[D]

He said, oh, that's right.

[C]

Remember, Wasn't she like 15? And they kept it going, right? They kept it going for three years. He was 41 by the time the affair was over and the wife never found out about it. But this doesn't have to be about sex. This is about just. It's about the husbands. Wives have zero idea. And you're the babysitter and they're coming on to you all the Time. Sarah, good Morning. You're on Q100.

[F]

Hey. Actually, I was. When I was a freshman at Emory University a few years ago, I was going to the gym a lot, and this guy, he was clearly older than me. I think he's about 45, 43 maybe. He's a lawyer for Emory. And he hit on me at the gym, and I kind of rejected him. I was like, no, thanks. And then my friend referred me to this family for babysitting. She was like, yeah, the dad's a lawyer at Emory. The mom's a doctor at Emory. They're super rich. Babysit for them. I go to the house when the parents get home. The father is the married guy, is the guy that hit on me at the gym.

[C]

Oh, really?

[F]

Yeah. Awkward.

[C]

See, the most. There's so many offensive parts of that story, but did he ever come home after being out with the wife and start hitting on you without the wife around?

[F]

No. He was actually very uncomfortable about it. But then when we go back to the gym and I'd see him at the gym again, he'd be very flirty. But at home, he was very uncomfortable, clearly, because he was, you know, he'd asked me out. And he's married, right? Yeah. Classy, huh?

[C]

Thanks for calling. Charlotte, good Morning. You're on Q100.

[F]

Hey.

[C]

Hey.

[F]

I never really wasn't babysitting, but I had a friend that when I was probably 12, 13 years old, go over and spend the night. Her dad would always try to hit on me and say things I eventually just wouldn't go over anymore.

[C]

What type of things would he say?

[F]

He never really said anything. It was just more or less trying to be touchy feely. I was probably 12 or 13. Have a daughter that age now. That's why I don't let her go over to too many people's houses.

[E]

Mm.

[C]

Kristen, good Morning. You're on Q100.

[F]

Hey, my name's Kristen. I was like 15 years old, and I was doing this babysitting job. I couldn't drive yet, so he would. He would always take me home afterwards. And one night he was taking me home, and he had just. He was talking about all his weird stuff. He was, like, in his 40s, maybe 43 or so. And the guy would talk about, like, smoking weed and how I should come and smoke weed with him sometimes. And then like a cat, occasionally he'd say something that was, like, really off the wall, and he put his hand on my leg. And then, like. Needless to say, I never went back after that. But then they called me and then they got pissed off at me because I wouldn't babysit for them anymore.

[C]

Right.

[E]

And then you can't tell them why.

[C]

The mom has no idea.

[F]

Right, exactly. And then, needless to say, the kids were awful. I mean, they didn't even discipline their kids. I mean, the whole situation was just ridiculous.

[C]

And you're not the only one. Here they come.

[E]

Yeah.

[C]

Good morning, Tori, you're on Q100.

[F]

Hey.

[C]

Hey.

[F]

Actually, this has happened to me a few times. I used to babysit for this crazy family. Literally, like their kids were like, the son put their cat in the microwave.

[D]

Oh, God.

[F]

And started it and it was crazy.

[D]

Wow.

[F]

But the dad has actually come home. He came home once or twice and has actually hit on me before. And he would be driving me home and he'd be drunk as mess and I would drive home. I would drive his car home.

[C]

You were, you were how old when you were driving his car home?

[F]

15.

[C]

15.

[F]

It was legal. And I would drive his car home because I wouldn't feel comfortable him drive me home. I get home and he'd leave and he would hit on me. He'd be like, so when you come over the next time, stuff like that. And I'm just like, hello.

[C]

Yeah, I think you nailed this one. It's like when they come home, they're all buzzed.

[E]

Mm.

[D]

And the sad thing is like, you know, we did have that caller that it wasn't a babysitting thing. It was just going over, spend the night with friends. But I would, I think most women, I would be shocked to find one woman in some scenario, babysitting, spending the night, doesn't matter what it is, has had some adult male be inappropriate to her at some point.

[C]

Years old and 16 years old. And that's jacked up because that 13 year old daughter of that woman now can't have sleepaways with her friends. Because mom's experience is that daddy's gonna be touchy, touchy guy. And then you got something warm.

[A]

Yep.

[C]

I appreciate you coming on the mic to talk now.

[D]

Yeah.

[C]

Hey.

[D]

I just shook my head. No problem. When I was 16, I used to.

[F]

Work at like a pub bar, like.

[C]

An Irish pub kind of thing, restaurant.

[D]

And we get guys that would just.

[C]

Be completely drunk at the bar and.

[F]

Hit on me non stop.

[D]

Of course I'm 16. I'm like, okay, no idea.

[C]

Just kind of like.

[E]

And how old were these guys?

[D]

Oh, like at least in their 50s. It was like older. It was older gentlemen.

[F]

They used to come in there of.

[C]

Course, it's like the weekend they'd be completely plastered.

[E]

There was a music teacher at my school growing up that was always inappropriate with the girls.

[C]

There's always one creepy swingin looking teacher.

[E]

Yeah, definitely. He was really creepy. And he was let go from our school and then several years later was arrested for inappropriate behavior at another school. Oh, so creepy.

[D]

The two at our school there was the women's basketball coaches for both the junior high and the high school. And they were guys. And they both were brought up on charges years later.

[C]

Rebecca, you're on Q100.

[F]

Hey. When I was 19, I went to University of Tennessee. Go Vols.

[D]

Govalls.

[F]

Yeah. And I used to babysit for this family. The dad was probably about 50 and, you know, young and cute, had on some short shorts. And I was in my car in their driveway and I leaned over to the passenger seat, you know, and I felt this presence. And I looked up and the dad was standing over me and he went, mmm, tasty.

[E]

Oh.

[C]

Did that line work? Oh, Stacy, you're on Q100. Good morning.

[F]

Yeah, my sister, it actually wasn't me, but my sister, she was about 14. And our church at the time there was an older man and he was about 40, 45. And he had a son the same age as my sister and he had an affair with my sister for about two years.

[C]

He had a position at the church.

[F]

Yeah, he was like a deacon.

[C]

Oh, deacon. Mean. Is that okay?

[F]

Yeah. Totally scarred for it for the rest of her life. She was how old she is now? She is 20, but she was 14 at the time.

[C]

Good God damn. What do you say to a 14 year old? And you know, I've never been around this kind of thing, so like there's some part of me right now going, I don't know, like maybe it's misinterpreted.

[D]

A 14 year old doesn't. I mean, the thing is that he.

[F]

Would tell her that he loved her and that he was going to leave his wife and all this stuff. And then after everything went down, they didn't say anything to the man. The preacher didn't say anything to the man about it. And the wife didn't believe anybody. But there was one time where we came out of high school one day and there were like flowers on the car from him and stuff like that, and it was bad.

[C]

It's hard to misinterpret that.

[D]

There's so many stories that women have about this and I think that it's never the girl's fault. Like it's I mean, if you. Especially if you feel at a time you feel awkward, you don't feel attractive, you probably are arguing with your mom or your parents. And then if somebody comes into your life and talks about how much they care about you and how much they think you. You know, for some girls, they just, you know, it's not that they 100%, like, follow along and. Okay, I'll do this. It's just this awkward. Okay, well. Okay, well, I don't know. Okay, this is weird, but they.

[C]

I mean, just easy prey.

[D]

Yes, absolutely.

[C]

Go ahead, Carol. You're on Q100.

[F]

Oh, I'm sorry. I'm on the gas station.

[D]

I'm guessing you guys, you're going to.

[C]

Be there a while, so we got plenty of time.

[F]

How'd you call it?

[E]

I was there.

[F]

How'd you call it? One night, this lady was a flight attendant, and I had to babysit for this couple. And the husband was 50 years old, and I had to stay over, and the husband came home one night, and in the room I was sleeping in, he came in the bed and he was sleeping there, and he was drunk. I had to roll off the bed easy and go downstairs and make sure that he wasn't following me back downstairs.

[C]

And you were how old? And he was how old?

[F]

I was 13.

[C]

Damn. And he was how old?

[F]

50.

[E]

50.

[C]

Just climbs in bed with you, crawled.

[F]

In bed with her. He crawled in bed with me with his stinky boxers on, and he's drunk and I don't even know if he even did it. And I crawled off the bed, went downstairs on the sofa, shaking, and I slept all night with my eyes open on the sofa.

[C]

No doubt, no doubt.

[F]

It was just most. I never babysit again. Ever.

[E]

Yeah, it's funny, too, like what Melissa was saying, like the progression of the weirdness, because I think that they test you out by saying comments or compliments or whatever, and then it goes further and further depending on what your reaction to it is, you know, and at 14 or 13 or whatever, your reaction to it isn't what it is. When you're a grown woman and you can say, back off.

[C]

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