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Burch Show Our listener Michelle is the one who wanted to bust her brother in law. Her sister was told by her brother in law that he was gonna go to the super bowl on their anniversary weekend.
Melissa
10th anniversary.
Bretzky
Yeah. She said, I don't like that idea. He said, okay, I won't go. And then suddenly a business trip came up. This is Michelle, who is actually the affected woman's sister, joining us on Friday morning.
Michelle
I need Bert's help to help me bust my brother in law. He had made plans to go to the super bowl and it's their 10 year anniversary. My sister was telling me this and I was like, are you kidding me? This is insane. So she said, you can't go. This is our anniversary. So he said, okay, you know what, you're right. You're right, I won't go. And then suddenly he says, babe, I've got to go to Milwaukee for work over the weekend. It's last minute. This is what he said. He's got a cover for other people who are going to the Super Bowl.
Bretzky
So that was on Friday morning and she wanted us to recruit Bert to be involved. I have to be totally honest with you. I completely forgot to talk to Bert about it.
Wendy
Oh, really?
Bretzky
Yeah.
Melissa
Oops.
Bretzky
Well, you know what? I was only 5050 about it because it technically still is his vacation. You know what I mean? Like, I seriously would be a little bit annoyed if you guys called on a vacation day. I probably could have been cool mention it to him, but I didn't. So, Michelle, good morning. Welcome back to the show. And you're on the voice disguiser.
Michelle
Hi, how Are you.
Melissa
Good morning.
Michelle
I'm okay. How are you guys?
Jen
Pretty good. Did you find anything out? Even though we didn't have Bert's help?
Michelle
Yeah. Well, no, actually, my sister heard me on the radio.
Bretzky
Okay.
Michelle
Oh, boy. And she was pissed.
Jen
Yeah.
Michelle
Why? She said, it's her life. Stay out of it. She can't believe I called the radio and we got in a huge fight, and I said, I'll stay out of it. I said, fine, I'll stay out of it.
Jen
So you still don't know if he actually went to the super bowl or not?
Michelle
I know. I never, you know, I don't know.
Jen
Have you.
Michelle
I mean, huge fight. She just said, this is her life. How could I do this behind her back, basically? And she was just like, stay out of my life.
Bretzky
Do you agree with her? Do you see her point of view?
Michelle
You know, I guess a part of it, but if my. I just don't understand why she treats him the way she does, lets him get away with what she does. And if it were my husband and I was seeing signs like that, I would. I would really want to know.
Melissa
So, out of curiosity, have you ever had a fight where she said before this, where she said, stay out of my life?
Michelle
No.
Melissa
So that's the first time she's ever said it to you?
Michelle
Yeah.
Melissa
Okay.
Bretzky
We had callers on Friday, and I'm sure people are going to be calling now. Who gave you that same advice? Like, you can't be that shocked, can you? I mean, were you really that surprised that she said, I really thought she
Michelle
would want to know? Yeah, I really did.
Jen
Have you guys?
Michelle
You know what? People can be shocked, but it's different when you're in that situation, too. You know, you can sit there and say that's, you know, you're butting into somebody else's business. And. But if it's happening to your family member, I don't think you would just sit back and say, okay, I know,
Melissa
but there's a fine line between really trying to control someone else who is not on board with you. Like, it's one thing if a friend or a sister or somebody came to you upset about it. And I mean, you said that. I guess she had come to you, but I mean, really upset about it and asked for your help in doing something. Or you can always give your opinion if you feel like you need to butt in once and just speak your piece and let somebody know how you feel. But then you do have to back out because it is their relationship that they are trying to work Out. And another thing that concerns me is this is your brother in law. It's not just some guy that she's dating. So I think unfortunately sometimes you have to bite your tongue because it is still family. He is your family.
Michelle
Yeah. And it's her choice, you know.
Jen
Have you guys spoken since you got into your big old fight?
Michelle
No. I mean, I'm sure we will, but we just haven't.
Bretzky
Would you. If you are 1000% sure this is happening to one of your siblings, I'm asking Jen and Melissa and Wendy, because I an only child. But if you guys, if you guys were 100% certain it was happening to a sibling, sibling of yours, would you butt in?
Melissa
But what is happening even after.
Bretzky
If you were 100% certain that there was shadiness going on, that your sibling was being lied to and choosing to ignore it, would you butt in?
Jen
Yes, I would butt in in a different way though. I think I would call the significant other directly. Like if I couldn't get through to my brother on something going on or, you know, he said back off and stay out of it, but I felt like I knew something was happening. I think I would call his significant other directly.
Melissa
See, I would, Yeah, I don't think I would do that, but I would have a conversation. But I wouldn't. It wouldn't be this telling them what they need to do. It would be out of concern. I'm going to share what I think. You know, I support you either way, but I just want to let you know where I come from and what I, you know, and that I'm just. I don't want you to be hurt. But I, so I, yeah, for my sister, my brother, I definitely would say something to them, but relationships are complicated. And, you know, I mean, and I also think it depends on what I think's happening. If I have complete proof that they're getting cheated on, then, you know, that may be a different conversation than somebody lying about wanting to go to the Super Bowl.
Jen
Yeah, that's true.
Bretzky
Hey, another listener. Michelle. Not our caller. Michelle. Hey, Michelle.
Melissa
I can't hear you.
Caller
I just wanted to tell Michelle that it's her sister. I understand that she's very concerned about what's going on in her sister's life. I have the feeling that every time something goes wrong, her sister calls her. And as a big sister, she's used to solving her sister's problems. But the person that has to change, well, all of you have to do some change and you have to set boundaries. Okay. And she has to learn how to stand up for her.
Bretzky
So wouldn't that. So are you saying that the better solution would be teaching Michelle, teaching her sister how to be a stronger person rather than trying to.
Caller
Only the sister can decide to do that. Michelle has to step back. Okay. The sister keeps calling, whining. Well, it's just like you don't get involved. You just say, well, you know, what are you going to do about it? Or what would you like to do? Or would you like to go to the movies? I mean, you can't give her an answer because she's not really looking for one. She knows what her husband is doing, right?
Bretzky
Hey, Dwayne, welcome to the bird show.
Caller
Good morning.
Melissa
Good morning.
Caller
I wanted to say, I think her name is Michelle. I think she should mind her business. Her sister should be on the radio actually saying all of this stuff instead of her. Actually, I think she wants the brother in law.
Bretzky
Hey, Nicole, welcome to the bird show.
Melissa
Such a guy thing. Yeah, she wants her call.
Caller
I mean, I wanted to tell Michelle, don't feel too bad. I have four sisters and they used to tell me all of their business. And then they used to let me get built up. They used to build me up intentionally so I could go cuss out their boyfriend. And then they would go and say, go inside with the boyfriend. Don't ever let anybody build you up, honey. For a whole weekend. No, they into. Don't. Don't put her in the business. If she knows she's going to get mad. The sister is wrong here. And I can see why anybody's not blaming the sister. If you don't want anybody butting in your business, don't put her in the business. And Michelle, if I were you, I would tell her, from this point on, we can be cool, but don't put me in your business.
Melissa
I mean, I see what you're saying, but like for instance, Katie and I, I mean, over the course of time, it's gotten to where we almost tell each other first. Like, all I'm doing is venting. I don't want a solution. I'm venting. And then there's another time where I'm coming to you for a solution. So there's two completely different types of conversations. The way that I express myself to her may be completely the same, but the result of what I want is different. So it sounds like your sister was venting to you and didn't want you to all of a sudden take control and then tell her what to do. It was that she just was expressing her Concern to her sister, which I don't think is a. I don't think is a bad thing.
Bretzky
What Michelle did was a very guy thing to do, like, get to the bottom of it, find a solution. Hey, Stacy, welcome to the show.
Caller
Hi. Good morning.
Bretzky
How are you?
Caller
Good, Good. Actually, what I wanted to call in, say is that I totally agree with Michelle. If that was my sister, I know I would be doing the same thing. Actually, the situation is pretty suspicious. I don't even know if my sister would have to tell me. I think I would do my investigation myself, but I definitely would be in with it with my sister.
Jen
And then what do you do, though, if you find out something bad and she stays with the husband anyway?
Caller
Well, that. Then that would be her decision. But if I knew something was going on and if my sister knew that something was going on with, you know, my significant other, then I would want to know, and then it would be my decision whether I wanted to stay or not. But I would rather know than not know.
Melissa
Could you let go, though? Seriously? Could you let go of all that controlling and then if they decided to stay, like Jen said, could you literally let go and then all of a sudden, you know, be cool about it?
Caller
I don't know if I'd be cool about it. But she's going to have to let go either way. I mean, yeah, let go because, you know, she suspects it. But I mean, if she found out something, she'd have to go. I mean, let go either way then. So no matter which way she goes, she's going to have to let go. But I think I would want to know, you know, if something was happening behind my back.
Bretzky
Hey, Christy, you'll be our last call.
Caller
I just wanted to call and tell her, don't feel so bad. I have two sisters. One sister, if I tried that, she would totally chew my head off. And then the other one would totally be gameplay. She would probably want to fly out there and see it. So, you know, don't feel so bad. It's all about sisters and being able to read them. I mean, some people, you know, they don't want to know the truth and they don't want to see that, you know, the sneakiness is going on. So just don't feel so bad. Don't beat yourself up about it. You just, you know, wanted to help and she just didn't want the help.
Bretzky
Like every call now is calling up to agree with Michelle.
Melissa
Well, I just think that families are complicated, and this is not the. I just. I just have this sense that Michelle is, you know, the brother in law knows exactly how Michelle feels and the sister is caught, like I said on Friday, in the middle of the sister that doesn't like her husband and her husband who doesn't like her sister. So I feel bad for the sister because this is not the first time in my assumption that Michelle has jawed in her ear about what her. About, you know, what a bad husband she's got.
Jen
You're probably right. I mean, I think. But she's still gonna be married to him.
Melissa
Yeah. That's her husband, though. Yeah.
Bretzky
Well, Michelle, thank you for sharing the story with us. Good luck at the next holiday gathering.
Michelle
Thank you.
Bretzky
You're welcome. She's just so miserable today.
Melissa
Well, because she thinks she's right and she's not willing to compromise or back off and she feels like, well, my sister's wrong and I don't know, I just feel like she's too controlling.
Jen
She's going to be unbearable if it ever comes out that he isn't being good.
Bretzky
Oh my God.
Jen
Get divorced. I'd move the I told you so from Michelle is going to be out of control.
Bretzky
That would be. Yeah, that's going to make Christmas Christmas. That'd be a fun Christmas to go to. That'd be a fun family to marry into.
Melissa
No. Hell no.
Bretzky
Yeah.
Caller
No.
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Bretzky
The Birch show if you're playing if yesterday was 55 degrees and you played any Farmville, you're an idiot.
Melissa
No.
Bretzky
It's been arctically cold here for two weeks. Go outside and plant a real garden.
Jeff Dollar
Someone set their alarm last night for 1:30 so they could get up and water their crops.
Wendy
That's insane.
Bretzky
You said that. But I don't. I wasn't here when you were talking about that. And someone did.
Wendy
That's true.
Jen
People get up in the middle of the night to harvest their crops, get up in the middle of the night and water their plants in their home.
Wendy
Intern Reshma's.
Jeff Dollar
Yeah, Reshma, come on up here. Get over here.
Bretzky
Come on.
Jeff Dollar
We're just rehashing a conversation we've had already, but yeah, Reshma's mom, Right? So why aren't you getting up at three in the morning?
Melissa
Yeah, I got up this morning and I had a little extra time, so
Bretzky
I got on my farm just because I had it.
Melissa
And my mom went on last night
Jeff Dollar
into my Facebook and watered all my
Caller
plant and all my crops.
Bretzky
She got home at 2:30. What happened in the morning?
Jeff Dollar
No, she got home at 2:30. For those of you that don't know what Farmville is, it's a virtual farm. And you wake up in the morning and you're supposed to water your crops and pull the weeds and you get.
Bretzky
But what happens if you don't water your. Why do you have to water them at 1 in the morning?
Jeff Dollar
You don't water them.
Melissa
You have to harvest them. Otherwise they wither and then you lose your money.
Bretzky
Sorry. Lose the attitude. Okay? We're just talking. So what happens?
Wendy
It's an important game, Jeff. You don't understand.
Bretzky
So what happens if you don't harvest them at 1? Why can't you harvest them at 7? And when your alarm. Why don't you just set your alarm for $6.50 instead of seven and harvest them then?
Melissa
I think it's because the crops will, like, lose their money and they, like,
Bretzky
go bad in six hours. Yeah, that's.
Melissa
You got to beat the clock.
Jeff Dollar
I think this is unfair, you guys. I think that we're on here and we're judging farmville and none of us are on it.
Bretzky
I am not at all.
Jeff Dollar
I think one of us has got to do it just for a weekend. Not it just for a weekend. You're the only.
Bretzky
You're the last one out.
Jeff Dollar
Just for a weekend. Let me put all of our names in just for this weekend so at least one of us on the show can talk intelligently about time.
Jen
I don't have time. I don't have time to harvest a crop.
Jeff Dollar
Then your crops may be dead by Monday, but at least you could come on here and at least talk intelligently about it.
Jen
Let's have Melissa do it.
Melissa
I was gonna say she's got.
Jeff Dollar
She's got plenty of time.
Jen
She's sitting on the couch recovering.
Jeff Dollar
Will you email Melissa and tell her
Jen
she's not feeling well, but she harvest virtual crops?
Jeff Dollar
I think that's a great idea because she's been out all week. She's not doing anything else.
Bretzky
I'm gonna send her a text and just see if she's up. Chances of that are zero, but I'm gonna do it anyways.
Jen
There's no chance she's up.
Jeff Dollar
We keep ripping on farmville and none of us on here have actually played it. So we'll get Melissa to play it for this weekend and then she can tell us all about it on Tuesday.
Jen
She has no say in this.
Jeff Dollar
Melissa, by the way, you miss five days of show.
Bretzky
I'm gonna tell you two things that Melissa will never do. One, participate in a bird show. Bet that actually involves cash.
Jeff Dollar
Well, this one doesn't.
Bretzky
And two, set an alarm to get up when she doesn't have to go to a paying job.
Jeff Dollar
Right? No, and I respect her for that. But at least this weekend she can play it and she can come in here and she can tell us what's up.
Jen
Maybe so.
Jeff Dollar
And then we could see what if she gets.
Jen
She's like the gamer on the show. She enjoys that kind of stuff.
Jeff Dollar
Let's do.
Bretzky
Yes. Let's keep talking. Or justifying the fact that the weak person who's not here is the one that we just forced into that crap.
Jeff Dollar
Hey, Rachel. Good Morning. You're on Q100.
Melissa
Hi. Good morning.
Caller
I listen to you guys every morning.
Jeff Dollar
Thank you.
Caller
Okay. I am a rabid farm bill user. I pretty much use it every day. So I want to clear up this crop issue. What happens is there are like 38 different kinds of crops that you can plant or, well, like 50. And a lot of them take different amounts of time. So you can plant something that's going to take 12 hours or four days.
Michelle
And however long it takes to harvest,
Caller
that's how long it'll take to wither.
Jeff Dollar
Rachel, let me ask you this. I'm a results based guy, so if I get up in the morning at 2 in the morning and I harvest the crops or I pull my weed or whatever it is I'm doing.
Jen
That's what he said.
Bretzky
Bert, I thought you pulled your weed before you went to bed.
Jeff Dollar
I thought you were pulling my weed.
Bretzky
I thought you said pulling your weed helps you sleep.
Caller
For planning different crops, you get certain amounts of money.
Jeff Dollar
So how much is it for pulling a weed?
Caller
You can't pull the weed on your own lawn. You have to pull on other people's.
Bretzky
Why would you want to weed somebody else's lawn? It's not even fun doing your own. You get points for it, but I don't care.
Jeff Dollar
And at the end of the day, how much money are we talking about that you could get?
Caller
Well, from most of the crops that I plant, I get about 200 coins per crop.
Jeff Dollar
Does that translate into real coins, like. Like pennies and nickels and dollars and stuff?
Caller
No, it's just farm bill coins. They don't. They have no value in the real world.
Wendy
So why get prizes or anything?
Bretzky
Why do you want them?
Caller
Well, you get prizes like on Farmville, but I don't know why the game's so addicting, but it is. I'm on level 37.
Bretzky
Well, I got an idea. Why don't you and I get together this weekend? You can pull my weed and I'll give you some pretend money for that. We'll just do. We'll just meet somewhere, have a couple drinks, harvest each other's crops. I'll give you some gonzo coins. The bird show. You guys remember? God, how long ago was it that we all called our psychics? It was at the beginning of the summer. We all went to different psychics. And most of them were terrible. Yes, most of them were terrible.
Jen
Moles said psychic.
Melissa
Maybe I had a horrible psychic. Yeah, she was like, maybe this and maybe that, and nothing she said was even close to well, it turned out
Bretzky
that my psychic was at least the most accurate. You know, got a lot of the stuff right and was even coming up with stuff months after the fact. I still haven't listened back to it, but apparently she predicted that trip out to Los Angeles for the TV thing, right? So this past weekend, I talked to her. And I don't know who requested it, because I was in LA at the time y' all came up with it. And I don't know who requested it because I set up appointments for all of you guys to have with my psychic. And we're going to record those and see how those pan out. But then it dawned on me, and I realized this morning something very interesting. We don't need my psychic because there might be someone in this room who is psychic.
Jen
Really?
Melissa
Really.
Wendy
Oh, about my. About my dream.
Bretzky
About your dream.
Melissa
Oh, Wendy. Wendy.
Wendy
Okay. Cause I had a dream over the weekend, and I don't know where it stemmed from or what. I don't even know. But I went to sleep on Friday night, and the only thing I remember waking up in the morning is that Joanna got engaged. But she came to me in my dream, telling me and showing me a ring that she had gotten engaged over the weekend. And it was bizarre. Cause we were just in some random bar in my dream. And she just, like, casually showed.
Bretzky
You and Joanna being in a bar is not unusual.
Wendy
No, but like, who shows off their engagement ring, like, in a bar? Like, usually? I mean, I would expect her to come in studio and be like, hey, I'm engaged.
Melissa
I got engaged.
Wendy
And that sort of story. But we were just in a bar and she's like, hey, I got engaged. It was like, no big deal. But I'm like thinking all morning long, like, did she get engaged?
Melissa
I need her to come in.
Wendy
Did she get engaged this weekend?
Jen
I thought that same thing. The first thing I thought about when I woke up this morning and was, like, getting ready. I was like, I wonder if Joanna got engaged this weekend.
Bretzky
How was your weekend, Joanna?
Wendy
I got engaged this weekend.
Melissa
Oh, wait, wait. Turn the mic on.
Bretzky
Turn the mic on.
Melissa
Wendy, what did you say?
Wendy
I got engaged.
Melissa
Congratulations. Beautiful rain. Congratulations. Now, Wendy, when did you have your dream? Wendy?
Bretzky
This way.
Melissa
When did you have your dream, Wendy? I had it on Friday night. Weird. When did you get engaged?
Wendy
Saturday morning, Wendy. Thanks, Wendy.
Melissa
It is a Congratulations.
Wendy
He did an amazing job on my ring. And the funny thing. Beautiful. I sent a picture to my friend to show her what kind of ring I wanted. And this is more beautiful than the ring I Sent her.
Jen
This is gorgeous. And how do you do it?
Caller
How did you do it?
Wendy
Well, we went to the cabins. We went up to the North Georgia mountains this weekend. And I was telling Tracy about it. It didn't start off great because he wasn't feeling very well. And we got stuck in traffic. I don't know if you heard, but on 575 Friday night, there was this really bad accident that shut down all lanes of traffic, so we were stuck in that. So we finally got up there. It was really late at night, and we checked out the cabin and then went to bed. The next morning, I made breakfast. After breakfast, we were just sitting on the couch, trying to figure out what we wanted to do that day. And he's like, well, come outside with me. And there's this beautiful, like, outdoor fireplace outside. Because I said, my one requirement is that I want an outdoor fireplace. I love fireplace. So he's like, okay, let's go outside. Let's go sit in front of the fireplace. So we're sitting in front of the fireplace, and it's cold. The fire isn't really keeping me all that warm, but. And there's, like, a little bit of snow falling outside, so it was really pretty. And he puts his arm around me, and he says. And he has one hand in his pocket, which I thought was really weird. And one hand around me, and he starts saying, you know, I've never loved anybody before, and you're the only person I've ever loved, and you're the only person I ever want to love for the rest of my life. And then I knew that this was the moment, this was coming.
Bretzky
Really? Because you hadn't even thought about this ahead of time. You must have been in trouble just
Melissa
out of the blue.
Bretzky
Oh, my God.
Caller
He's not really gonna do this, is he?
Bretzky
I'm not ready. I don't know if I want.
Wendy
You know. And then he swayed to me, and he went down. Well, actually, he did say something along the lines of, I guess I should go ahead and get this over with, and goes down on one knee, and he says, you know, will you marry me? And it was beautiful.
Jen
I will say.
Bretzky
And that's exactly what you wrote for him, right?
Jen
Yeah.
Wendy
Okay. It was a little weird.
Melissa
Like, Oscar speech. He had the paper. He had the paper folded out.
Bretzky
No, like Sarah Palin. And had it written on his hand.
Melissa
Yeah, exactly.
Wendy
Well, I will say that I was a little thrown off because my best friend. Friend. I knew she was in on it the whole time. And when Friday came along, she said, hey, what are you doing Saturday night? Come with me. I want to check out this band. I was like, wait a minute.
Jen
She.
Wendy
She should be the one that knows that we're going to this cabin. So it threw me off because I was like, wait a minute. She would know the plan because you needed to be. Asked me what I was doing Saturday night. So she doesn't know the plan. But, yeah, I was surprised and I'm excited and I'm. And you know what? He's so cute. He wanted to carry me everywhere. Like, he kept picking me up and brought me into the house, picking me up. It was adorable.
Bretzky
Well, I think that's just yay.
Jen
Good.
Bretzky
That's just a size thing. Like, I do that with you and Bert and everybody. Sometimes it just makes men feel manly.
Jen
Well, Bert requires it if you don't. Are you going to the printers with your invitations today?
Wendy
Well, I've already bought two bridal magazines.
Jen
I'm like, knowing Joanna, she's already got the date. The reception hall, the church is already booked, and she'll be going to print today.
Wendy
Not too far off.
Jen
Really.
Wendy
I already have the dates.
Jen
You do?
Wendy
Yeah.
Caller
All right.
Jen
When is it gonna be?
Wendy
Next Memorial Day weekend.
Jen
Okay, so not this coming one. So a year and a half engagement.
Melissa
Did you say not the good one? Did somebody say not the good one?
Wendy
No, I said, that's a good one.
Jeff Dollar
Oh.
Melissa
I said you're like, not a good holiday.
Jen
I said not the coming one.
Melissa
Oh.
Wendy
So, yeah, that's a good weekend, though.
Bretzky
Why so long engagement?
Wendy
Well, we want to get married in Florida. Cause it's between both his parents and my parents. And I figure Memorial Day is a good weekend. Cause it's. Everyone has a long weekend. You can make kind of a trip out of it. And I don't think.
Bretzky
And this one's too close.
Wendy
Yeah, this is too close.
Melissa
And I think it gives people plenty of time to make travel preparation.
Bretzky
And are you worried about Jason changing his mind between now and then?
Wendy
No, I've already got the ring, so he can't.
Jen
Her bridesmaids have got to save up for what they're going to be spending, so she needed to give them a year and a half.
Wendy
And my best friend, I'm her maid of honor. And her wedding, and that one is coming in August, so it gives me time to focus on her wedding and help her. And then.
Caller
Sweet.
Wendy
Then Bridezilla.
Melissa
That is my time. Well, congratulations.
Jen
So fun.
Bretzky
That's one good for Filene's basement. So when we do running of the Brides, they just got one new volunteer for unpacking.
Jen
That's right.
Bretzky
That's right.
Jen
Yes.
Bretzky
Hey, Monica. Welcome to the bird show.
Caller
Hey, how you doing? Congratulations, Joanna.
Wendy
Thank you.
Caller
I called a couple of weeks ago and when you were talking about being engaged and I said how I implemented the ruled the expiration date and I got engaged. I want to be congratulate you. You didn't have to do that. I'm so happy for you. Enjoy this time. Enjoy your wedding. I'm in the process now. I'm getting married in August. And it's wonderful. Just, you know, take this time and savor each other and love it and enjoy your engagement. And I'm so happy for you.
Wendy
Thank you so much. He's been really cute and he's been like, very. He's like. Now that we're engaged, I can tell you all my ideas of what I would like for us to do. And it's really cute because for the wedding. Yeah. Actually wants to be very involved. We'll see how long that lasts. But right now he wants to be very involved.
Bretzky
The question is, do you want him to be really involved?
Wendy
I do. As long as they're good ideas.
Jen
Have you used the word fiance yet?
Wendy
Yes. And it's still weird. Isn't that funny? I still feel like I have to give the ring back at some point or something. I keep looking at it and I'm like, are you sure I don't have to, you know, give this back? It's so cool.
Melissa
That's awesome.
Bretzky
Did you. Did he ask your dad first?
Wendy
He did.
Bretzky
How far in advance did he do that?
Wendy
Well, he forgot his jackets in the house with quotes. He's like, oh, I gotta go back in and get my jacket. And that's when he showed my parents the ring and told him, I'm doing it tomorrow. I want your permission. And my dad said he started crying.
Jen
Your dad started crying? Sweet.
Michelle
Aw.
Wendy
Yes.
Jen
Sweet.
Wendy
I've never imagined my dad because they
Bretzky
like him or don't like him.
Wendy
Because they love him.
Bretzky
Okay. Congratulations.
Melissa
Congratulations.
Michelle
Thank you.
Melissa
Now I was Wendy the psychic. Look at you.
Michelle
She is.
Melissa
Even before it happened.
Jen
Random dreams.
Bretzky
I will tell you, Joanna, that had you not gotten engaged, we were going to mess with you next week and have Jen walk in here wearing an engagement ring. We can do that with the guy that she's been out with for, I don't know, a month.
Melissa
Yeah.
Bretzky
Hey, look, I got engaged. All the good fun. Just kidding.
Wendy
That would have been hunger.
Bretzky
All right, so if you want to know more about Joanna's wedding. You can go to our website and she'll put a picture of her ring up, I'm sure and brag all about Jason. And if you want a psychic reading from Wendy, you can reach her Wendy Atlanta dot com. Hey, the Birch Show,
Wendy
Mountain View equipment and Sunnyside.
Jeff Dollar
Compren.
Bretzky
Mountain View equipment.
Melissa
Mountain View equipment.
Caller
Hey guys.
Wendy
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Wendy
Voice disguiser.
Melissa
Okay.
Bretzky
Voice disguiser. But we'll all have opinions because I'm gay. Yep. Mary is also gay.
Melissa
Okay.
Bretzky
She's one of one of your kind. And she's having some. And she's having some relationship problems.
Melissa
All right. Hi, Mary.
Michelle
Hi.
Melissa
Okay. And Mary's on the voice disguiser. What's going on?
Michelle
Recently I moved in with my best friend and we have started dating. Okay. It was meant to be a roommate situation, but we ended up dating. And most recently, while being physically intimate, she has mentioned that she is thinking about a guy. Okay. And originally it was okay. Fantasies are fantasies. You can deal with it. But now it's an every time kind of thing.
Melissa
So let's go back to that.
Bretzky
I just a few questions, personal questions for me, Melissa.
Michelle
Okay.
Bretzky
All female roommates have a sexual relationship.
Melissa
Anyway, I knew you could go down this path. Let me ask you a question. So you were best friends with her first. Has she ever been with a woman or dated women before you?
Michelle
Yes. That's all she's ever done.
Melissa
It's all she's ever done. Okay. And, and how old?
Jen
Around like what age range are you guys? I know you're on the voices Kaiser, so you don't have to say specifically,
Wendy
but early 20s, late 20s, mid 20s
Michelle
for me and mid 30s for her.
Jen
Mid 30s for her. Okay. Huh.
Michelle
Exactly.
Jen
She's never been with a man. She's only been with women.
Michelle
She has been, but never. It's never been emotional. It's, you know, just been physical occasionally.
Jen
Okay.
Wendy
Yeah.
Melissa
I mean, so it was okay before when she said this to you, that that's what Kind of. What? It's after 8:30, so. By the way, kids, you know, we talk more adult stuff. So she fantasizes about guys when she's with you? You said it was okay at the beginning, and now, I mean, how does it make you feel?
Caller
I just.
Michelle
I. I'm at the point where it needs to be done. I guess it. I either need you to be with me or decide you're gonna try to be with him. And I don't.
Melissa
Is it the same guy that she's thinking about?
Jen
Specific guy or guys? Oh.
Melissa
Oh, honey. Well, my first reaction is ba. I mean, because. Why are you putting.
Bretzky
You mean she's. By.
Melissa
Anyway, yeah.
Bretzky
I'm just letting you know that I'm gonna be fairly immature.
Melissa
That's okay.
Caller
That's all right.
Melissa
That's what we expect. It's okay, honey. It's all right. We love you as you are, but. Yeah, I say that I would not waste my energy with that. And you're roommates now still?
Michelle
Yeah, we moved in together probably five months ago. I went through a horrible breakup with my ex and she was the one that was there and we dated.
Melissa
So she's your rebound? She's your rebound?
Michelle
No, I've been in love with her for six years.
Bretzky
Oh, boy.
Wendy
Oh.
Melissa
Well, the reason. I mean, my initial. And it's of course, easier when you're on the outside looking in, but in any relation, it doesn't matter if you're gay or straight. It doesn't matter. I mean, if you're. The person you're with is fantasizing about a specific other person and telling you about that over and over again, then I wouldn't be part of that because you're. She's. I think she's pretty much telling you what she wants and it's. And unfortunately, I don't think it's you.
Michelle
And the thing is that she'll never have that. It's been mentioned that it'll never.
Melissa
So do you want to be second best?
Jen
Yeah. And don't you feel like it's a little disrespectful that she's telling you that?
Bretzky
That's the weird part. Why would somebody share that unless, like.
Jen
Cause to me, it's like she's testing you out. Like, can I walk all over her like a doormat? Can I tell her this and have her still be there for me? You know what I mean? It just seems disrespectful that she's even telling you.
Michelle
Well, it's actually become, at one point, has become an Actual integrated part, like spoken, mentioned during in the act.
Melissa
You have allowed this to be incorporated in the act, have you? Have you allowed her to pretend that you're him?
Jen
Yeah. Why?
Melissa
Oh, God, I can't even imagine. See, well, to answer your question about why she tells you now, is it because y' all were best friends and you still. You're still trying to maintain that best friendship along with sleeping together?
Michelle
I think originally that's what it was supposed to be. It was just supposed to be, I guess, not convenient. It was just there and it happened. And we had said a long time ago we wouldn't ever go back there.
Jen
But, see, you're in love with her, and for her, you're just there.
Melissa
Yeah. She's not in love with you.
Jen
She's not.
Melissa
And I know that's hard to hear, but I really think that you're in it and you want it to work out so badly. But I agree with Jen. She is completely using you and disrespecting you. And you deserve better than that. I mean, it was a rebound. Yes, you've been in love with her, but. And you went there. And at least you don't have to say that I never got a chance to try. But I'd say it's time to end it. And I'd say it's time to find another place to live, because that's not going to be a comfortable situation.
Bretzky
All right. Telephone number is 404741. Q100. As always, people are welcome to weigh in on this. And I know it's probably a long shot, but is the guy by any chance me?
Melissa
Oh, you're hesitating.
Michelle
The thing is, this weekend she told me she's in love with you.
Melissa
She said she was you.
Wendy
Yeah, I think she's just messing with your head at this point.
Melissa
Yeah, I just. Yeah. I just feel like in my life, first of all, being gay, I never settled for second best. I don't think I'm lesser than anybody else. So in my life, that's one of the reasons that I waited to find the right person that I wanted to be with and live with. That I do not participate. And I'm not judging other people for doing it. But this is just my opinion and my perspective is that I feel like a commitment ceremony that's not legal is just me trying to do something because I can't with somebody else. No, I want to be like everybody else and be part of a legal ceremony. So in my life, I've always tried to say I'm not lesser than anybody else. And I think a lot of times there are gay men and women who will put up with something because either they are insecure about themselves and they'll never have anything they really want or never have anything that's special again, so they're not gonna try. And straight people feel the same way, too. But I think it's so prevalent in a gay person's mind that they are not worth it, or they're not worthy, or they're not gonna find it, or they're lesser, that they're buying the hype that something's wrong with them. And so I just want to tell you, stand up for yourself and get what you want, which is a woman that really is in love with you. Because the woman that really is is not going to be telling you about her thinking about a guy, because she's not gonna be thinking about a guy
Jen
at all, and she's not gonna be thinking about anybody else but you.
Melissa
Exactly.
Jen
And you're gonna be. And that's the thing is staying in this relationship is preventing you from finding that woman, the right girl.
Melissa
That's right.
Jen
She's not gonna come into your life if you're continuing to put up with this and staying in this bad relationship.
Bretzky
Hey, Valerie. Welcome to the show.
Caller
Hey, how are you doing?
Bretzky
What's up?
Caller
I completely agree with you. Or with the radio. You guys. I completely agree with you guys. The partner is there. The girl that this girl is dating is completely using her just for her own needs. And it's just like if it was in a straight relationship. If you're in a straight relationship, you wouldn't settle for that either. This girl's in love with her and another girl taking advantage. Big.
Bretzky
Hey, Mike. Welcome to the Bird Show. Sorry.
Caller
Hey, I just wanted to say that
Bretzky
from a guy who is engaged in
Caller
a straight relationship, but it doesn't, you know, shouldn't matter if, like, my fiance was fantasizing about another person during intercourse or anything. I would be pretty upset enough to probably either address the issue because I'm engaged or whatever, or if I was in her position, I would dump her.
Bretzky
Hey, Jacora. Welcome to the Bird Show.
Caller
Hi.
Bretzky
What's up?
Caller
Hey. I just wanted to say to the caller that I think she should get out of that relationship because it's not healthy for her at all. I was in kind of a relationship like that myself. I'm straight and I was in love with this person, and I would do anything, but I didn't get the same from him. So it took me a while to get over him, but I did end the relationship, so she needs to do the same thing.
Melissa
And thank you so much for the call. And I'm afraid that if you don't end it, I'm not sure. And of course I don't know the situation, but I'm not sure. She's not going to cheat on you with a guy.
Jen
Yeah.
Melissa
I mean, and that. Or that guy or that guy. And that. I mean, can you really. I mean, do you really want to live with that?
Michelle
I'm fairly certain that's not something she
Melissa
would do because why she's telling you that she's thinking about him while she's having sex with you.
Jen
She's making you pretend you're him.
Melissa
Yeah, honey, that's.
Jen
That's not gonna be a dose of reality check on from the outside looking in. Like, that's not okay.
Melissa
Yeah.
Jen
And that shouldn't be. That shouldn't be okay with you. Right.
Bretzky
So there, there's your advice that you're not gonna take. But thank you for sharing it with the bird show.
Michelle
Awesome. Thanks.
Jen
You deserve better.
Melissa
You'll be in love again, I promise.
Caller
Okay.
Bretzky
That sucks. You will. I mean, that's a crappy place to
Jen
be in and you know, I think a lot of people in relationships will get into and stay in relationships where it's just not enough. It's not right. But they stay in, like you said, insecurity.
Bretzky
100% of the calls are all saying,
Melissa
get out, get out, get out.
Jen
Run.
Bretzky
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Jeff Dollar
If you're a Saints fan, whatever you do today, do not email or Facebook or tweet who dat to Jeff Dollar. He's very angry.
Bretzky
The who dat is a little. You're overkilling it, people. I understand you won, but preserve the phrase for coming generations. And it's a little overdose, man.
Jeff Dollar
If that's my team, that won't who datting it all day.
Melissa
Like next week I'd be like, okay, it's been a week. But yeah, I mean it's only been a couple days, and today's the parade.
Bretzky
All right, I'll give you today, but after today, no, until Mardi Gras new.
Jen
Yes. All the way through the weekend till Fat Tuesday. Who dat? Who that?
Bretzky
All right, you can only use it four times a day.
Jeff Dollar
Then you can put a quote at ceiling on it. I can understand.
Bretzky
I just got an email from someone in the lot. The signature line was who dat comma, like, instead of. Instead of sincerely, who dat? Well, tell me. Oh, comment logo. Look at your name. That's who that.
Jeff Dollar
I was listening to two Colts fans over the weekend, even before the game started, they were complaining that people have emotionally attached themselves to the Saints because of Katrina and everything the city went to, and they really felt like they were milking it for, like, a connection to their. What? What are you looking like right now?
Melissa
No, I'm laughing because Katie and I talked about how there were some people we felt were a little, like, who had never paid attention to New Orleans, even been probably since Katrina hadn't done nothing. And then all of a sudden, they're big Saints fans this weekend. So we were like, you know, I think there are some hardcore Saints fans that deserve this, and it's a fantastic victory. But then you have the bandwagon.
Jeff Dollar
These guys were saying, like, Katrina happened years ago, man. How long can you milk Katrina for?
Melissa
Oh, we didn't feel that.
Jeff Dollar
Yeah, I literally heard them say that.
Melissa
We felt that we felt for the people who didn't really contribute to Katrina and who hadn't really been to New Orleans, you know, that we were critical of the people that were milking it for themselves, but in. In their personal lives had never really.
Jen
But I think it was. The whole country was rooting for the Saints, not for, like, to claim them as their own team. Like, I was rooting for them, but not claiming, like, I was a Saints fan, but just happy for those fans. Yeah, happy for that town from the outside looking in, because they're still hurting at the same time cheering for them.
Jeff Dollar
You know, tourism in that town still isn't what it was at, you know, was at record levels for a while. So they're still hurting.
Bretzky
We'll be this weekend. I bet there's people who decided to go to Mardi Gras based on the course.
Jeff Dollar
Hey, Angela. Good Morning. You're on Q100.
Michelle
Good morning.
Bretzky
Morning.
Caller
I just want to say, yeah, I'm happy for the Saints. They were a great team. But I do agree with Jeff Dollar on the whole who that I finally got to Go to a Falcons game last year and it happened to be the Falcons Saints game. And it was a close game and the Saints won, but it was just so annoying trying to leave the dome and that's all you could hear was, who dat? Who dat?
Michelle
Who dat?
Caller
The most annoying thing I've ever had to deal with.
Jeff Dollar
If that's your team, let them have it.
Bretzky
I'm fine with it happening at the sporting event. I'm just saying you're becoming dangerously close to burning out the who dat because of the way that you use it
Melissa
signature in your email.
Bretzky
Yes. So I'm just asking. I'm saying perhaps, I mean, if you want to do it, that's fine. That's great. But people are going to get annoyed quicker. Let's spread it out. Let's make it last, people.
Melissa
I don't think people care if it's gonna annoy you or not.
Jeff Dollar
I think one guy was calling New Orleans the Saints, the new America's team, which the Cowboys used to have that handle and now they're saying that that's the new America's team because everything had happened in Katrina and now that they've won a Super Bowl. Hey, Shane, Good morning.
Caller
Hey, Jeff. I just wanted to say.
Jeff Dollar
That's not gonna help.
Bretzky
Yeah, he hung up.
Wendy
That's all he wanted to say.
Bretzky
That's his status right now on Facebook.
Jeff Dollar
Saints fans, congratulations. Enjoy it right now for sure.
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Date: June 22, 2026
Hosts: Bert, Kristin, Abby, Cassie, Tommy, and the Bert Show Cast
Episode Theme: Tackling complicated personal dramas, relationships, and celebrations with humor, authenticity, and listener engagement.
This episode features a mix of listener relationship dilemmas, lively debates about boundaries within families, celebrations of personal milestones, and some signature Bert Show playful banter. The hosts welcome a series of callers, share their own takes on tough situations, and sprinkle in plenty of laughter and solidarity. From “busting” a possibly cheating brother-in-law to a surprise on-air engagement, the team keeps things real, unfiltered, and entertaining.
Timestamps: 01:01 – 12:47
Situation Recap
Discussion Highlights
Notable Quotes
Memorable Moment
Timestamps: 14:48 – 21:02
Discussion Points
Notable Quotes
Memorable Moment
Timestamps: 21:02 – 29:32
Discussion Points
Notable Quotes
Memorable Moment
Timestamps: 30:34 – 40:07
Situation Recap
Discussion Highlights
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Timestamps: 41:00 – 44:39
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Visionary Podcasting:
Friendly, open, and full of teasing banter, balanced with real empathy during tough conversations. The Bert Show specializes in taking listeners’ dramas seriously, but always circles back with humor and unity — and plenty of warm, relatable moments for their community.