The Bert Show – Full Show PT 1: Wednesday, January 28 [Vault]

Date: January 28, 2026
Host: The Bert Show Cast (Bert, Kristin, Abby, Cassie, Tommy & team)
Podcast: The Bert Show (Pionaire Podcasting)

Overview:

This episode is classic Bert Show – mixing humor, real-life experiences, and honest talk. The two central themes discussed are:

1. Testing the theory that going to bed in sexy clothes (even alone) increases confidence the next day.
2. Relationship dynamics and chores, inspired by a book suggesting animal training techniques work on spouses.

Key Segments & Insights:

1. Can Sleeping in Sexy Lingerie Boost a Woman’s Confidence?

[00:01 – 09:55]

The Theory:

Bert shares a listener’s theory: If women go to bed wearing sexy clothes—even when alone—it increases confidence the next day.

• Quote:
  “She realized that if she gets herself all dressed sexy… that she would get up the next morning and she felt more confident all day long.”
  – Bert [01:00]

• Bert wants three single women who usually sleep in “the big dumpy T-shirt” or sweats to try this for a week and report back.

Hosts’ Analysis:

• The team discusses why this might work, suggesting it’s mainly psychological—putting good feelings about oneself to bed can carry over into the next day.
• Quote:
  “If you look good in that stuff and you put an outfit on that makes you look great at night … then there’s no reason when you wake up the next day that you would not feel the same way.”
  – Abby [01:25]

Listener Participation:

• Several women call in to volunteer and share similar experiences:

  • Rachel confirms it:
    “There’ll be times when…you go to bed…wearing that and you wake up the next morning… like, God, I’m sexy. Gives you that push for the rest of the day." [03:16]
  • Kim, Amber, Lena, Kishwana: All agree to try lingerie for a week and report changes in confidence.
    • Notable exchange:
      "It helped her out in all sorts of ways…. Not only did she feel sexier in the morning… but in business, when you’re more confident… you are better at business."
      – Bert [05:11]

• Jen’s advice:
  If old lingerie is “too tied to experiences with your ex-husband,” get new stuff. “If that's gonna bring you down, you gotta get some new stuff.” – Jen [05:50]

• Nikki chimes in, “It does work. I do it at night. When I get up in the morning, I’m like, wow. Yeah, because I'm feeling good right now. I do it all the time.” [09:12]

Host Reactions:

• Bert is “totally and completely trusting” of the theory and excited to report back.
• “I’ve never heard of it, but I think it’s a good theory.” – Abby [09:55]

2. Date Marathon: Getting Over a Breakup with Four Dates in One Weekend

[10:02 – 19:30]

Lena’s Story:

• Lena calls to celebrate the anniversary not of a relationship, but of a breakup—a year since ending a 3-year relationship.
• She decided to break out of her slump by intentionally scheduling four dates in a single weekend.

Date Deconstruction:

• Date 1: Group happy hour with friends and a co-worker. "Definitely not really a date." [12:21]

• Date 2 (Friday): “A real date” – dinner, drinks, together till 3:15am and ended with a kiss. “Like this guy wins.” [14:45]

• Date 3 (Saturday): Dinner and a movie, but “just no chemistry.”

• Date 4 (Sunday): Cancelled in favor of another outing with Friday Guy. Retread of the same movie she’d just seen, but Lena kept that detail secret.

  • Quote:
    “I have four dates lined up for this weekend.”
    “Four straight days of slump busting.” – Bert [10:49, 11:17]
  • Host analysis:
    “There is, like, some kind of comfort in numbers…if you throw enough out there, at least one out of four dates has to be, like, follow-up able.” – Bert [17:01]
  • “Maybe it’s that confidence that made it so great with Friday guy.” – Kristin [17:18]

Themes highlighted:

• Confidence is everything in dating and in moving on.
• Both the date marathon and the “lingerie experiment” center on actions that inspire greater self-confidence.

Gender Double Standard?

• Bert wonders if the audience would react differently if a man scheduled four dates in a row:
  • “Would you guys be all over him going, ah, stop being a whore…Or does it work both ways?” [18:29]
• Team consensus: It depends on attitude/intention.

3. “Training Your Husband Like a Dog”?

[19:30 – 30:49]

The Book:

Inspired by a Newsweek feature and Amy Sutherland’s bestselling book, "What Shamu Taught Me About Life, Love, and Marriage."

• The premise: Training your spouse using animal-training techniques (positive reinforcement, ignoring negatives, not taking things personally).

Core Techniques Discussed:

1. Reward Positive Behavior

   • “If your mate picks up just one dirty sock without being asked, give him lots of praise.” – Kristin [21:46]
   • Team jokes: “I don’t think the words are as important as you being naked is.” – Bert [22:16]

2. Ignore Negatives

   • No nagging about what’s left undone (least reinforcing scenario).
   • “So you can say, ‘Hey, thanks. I really appreciate you picking up that sock.’ But did you see your underwear…?” [24:21]

3. Don’t Take it Personally

   • “Laundry is just laundry. Not a symbol of how much your spouse loves you…” – Amy Sutherland (quoted by Kristin) [25:51]
   • Jen: “I interpret it in a personal way because I feel like I put so much thought…and the acts of service I do for him…and the fact that it isn’t returned feels like a personal insult.” [26:16]
   • Bert: “He’s been a slob since he was 4… How is that personal to you?” [26:17]

Gender & Generational Dynamics:

• Debate on gendered expectations, “nagging,” and chores.

• Example of role reversals: Josh, a male caller, is the neat “nag,” while his wife laughs at him.

  • “I'm the one that picks up…I'm fighting with her constantly to get her to…throw it in the…” – Josh [29:37]

• Kristin: “It's a whole generational thing, too.” Gender roles and responsibilities need a new model. [30:03]

Notable Quotes & Moments

• Bert, on dressing up for yourself:
  “You’re just wearing it to bed at night. In the morning, you take it off and then you’ll have a different attitude the next day.” [02:30]

• Listener Kim, on fresh starts after divorce:
  "I've only been divorced a couple of months, so I'm still in that man hating stage." [04:32]

• On emotional attachments to clothes:
  “You may want to ditch those and get some new ones…if that’s gonna bring you down, you gotta get some new stuff.” – Jen [05:50]

• Bert, on male multitasking:
  "Women are big picture. Guys are task oriented..." [28:18]

• Josh, the ‘neat’ husband:
  “I’m the one that picks up. I’m the one that washes, you know, cleans…” [29:38]

Structure and Flow

Segment Timestamps:

• [00:01 – 09:55] Sexy sleepwear experiment and listener participation
• [10:02 – 19:30] Lena’s “breakup anniversary” and her four-date experiment
• [19:30 – 30:49] Relationship dynamics, chores, and the “Shamu” animal-training book

Overall Tone

• Genuine, unfiltered, self-deprecating, and supportive.
• Humor and warmth in even the most personal admissions.
• Willingness to try new things and share results with their community.

Episode Takeaways

• Confidence can be cultivated in surprising ways—from self-care like wearing lingerie to bold moves like scheduling multiple dates.
• Relationship friction over chores is universal; new methods (even dog-training tricks!) can be fun to try.
• Gender roles and expectations are changing, often with humor and negotiation at the forefront.

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