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Demi Lovato
Are you really buying a car online on Autotrader right now? Really? I can get super specific with dealer listings and see cars based on my budget. You can really have it delivered or pick it up. Mommy, I think kid is walking up the slide.
Radio Show Caller
Really?
Demi Lovato
Autotrader, Buy your car online. Really?
Chris (Radio Host)
You're on the Vert Show. Hey, Chris.
Caller with Dad Story
Hey, guys. How you doing?
Chris (Radio Host)
Good. Good morning. How are you?
Caller with Dad Story
I'm doing pretty good. Just getting ready to catch a flight and head to D.C. bizarre.
Chris (Radio Host)
Bizarre story you have here, man.
Caller with Dad Story
Yeah.
Chris (Radio Host)
So you think your dad died when you were two years old?
Caller with Dad Story
I was told several different stories. I was told that he died when I was 2. I was told that he died before I was born. My grandma won't talk to me about it. My mom, you know, she says that he died before I was born. My aunt, she says that he died when I was 2. So, I mean, I really. I don't know. Like, I don't know anything about him. I don't. I don't know really much of anything.
Chris (Radio Host)
So how old are you now?
Caller with Dad Story
I'm 22.
Chris (Radio Host)
Okay.
Radio Show Panelist
Did you already have an idea in your head because it was different stories being told to you by different family members that something wasn't right about it?
Caller with Dad Story
Yeah. And, you know, I never really asked too much because I have such a great stepdad who I'm kind of afraid to offend in a way. So I feel like if I ask about my other dad in front of him, it's kind of like I feel like I'm gonna make him feel like he's not doing a good job.
Chris (Radio Host)
I can understand that. I want to go through the history here a little bit. Your stepdad came along when you were how old?
Caller with Dad Story
I think he came along when I was around 4.
Chris (Radio Host)
Okay, so he really is the father that you knew. So you weren't asking about your dad before that?
Caller with Dad Story
Right.
Chris (Radio Host)
All right, so as far as you are concerned, this is your father. And at what point did they tell you that this is your stepdad and this is not your natural father?
Caller with Dad Story
You know, I really can't even recall when they told me that. It's always kind of been like, it seems like I've always known he was my stepfather since I was little, so I'm guessing, you know, since I met him, pretty much.
Radio Show Panelist
So if you thought that your dad was dead and you have this great stepdad, what sparks the interest in knowing if he's alive or not? I mean, how did the whole question come up?
Caller with Dad Story
Well, just recently, I went and visited my grandma and we had plans all the time to go. Every time I go down there to go see my dad's grave site, but it always seems, you know, as his son, that's kind of important to me. I want to. I want to visit that spot, you know, I want to see that he's really not here, you know, and every time that ever comes up, it's like there's something else going on or we don't ever make it, or we're too busy. And it. And so it kind of made me kind of ask more questions. And the more different stories I got, the more curious I got about it. And I mean, I really. I really have never. I pretty much have taken people's words for it until just recently.
Radio Show Panelist
So you've never seen a headstone or a gravesite for your dad?
Caller with Dad Story
The only thing I've ever seen or know about my dad is a picture. That's it.
Chris (Radio Host)
So when you started getting curious, you know, you get the hints here from grandma that maybe it's not accurate. But when you went to your mom, what did she tell you?
Caller with Dad Story
Well, she stands by pretty much what she told me my whole life is that my dad was killed in California when I was. Before I was born. And basically he was trying not to get choked up. I'm sorry. That basically he was murdered by a friend of his. They got into an argument about a girl, and. And that kind of led something further. And so I kind of just. I kind of believed that my whole life, I mean, that, you know, that was. That was fact to me.
Chris (Radio Host)
It seems like everything's online, so if you did, like a simple Google or a Bing search, that you'd be able to at least look up some of the details on what hap. You know, that would. Collaborate. Collaborate.
Radio Show Panelist
Yeah, you're right.
Chris (Radio Host)
The story.
Caller with Dad Story
That's exactly what I did, too. And I can't find death records. I can't find anything that says that he did not. Actually, when I did a Google search, I found that it said that he was living In a Pittsburgh, California, is 46 years old, that he had an address and a phone number, and it had. Had all of his siblings on there, said possible siblings, Molly, Levi, Christina, and.
Radio Show Panelist
Wow.
Caller with Dad Story
That was. What's that?
Radio Show Panelist
I was just saying, wow.
Chris (Radio Host)
Now we're all kind of surprised.
Radio Show Panelist
Is it possible that your mom also truly believes that story? That she's not telling you a fabricated story, that that story was told to her and she really believes it too?
Caller with Dad Story
Well, I mean, possibly, but, you know, that's what my aunt says that's what my grandma says.
Demi Lovato
So, I mean, and I think if
Radio Show Panelist
it's the father of my child, I would want my child to see the grave site and everything. And just like a birth certificate, there are official death certificates, like you said. You couldn't find any records, so.
Chris (Radio Host)
Well, there's so many different levels of this thing to be, like, emotional about and curious about, because if it turns out not to be true, now you've got this whole line of deception sort of behind you with the people that you do know. You also have questions about yourself. You know, me and my dad had a disconnection for a very long time. And I found a lot of comfort when we finally got back in with each other on why I do certain things the way I do them. From what he told me about himself, you don't have that. So you're looking for closure in one area. But if you get closure in one area, it's going to open up a whole bunch of wounds in another area.
Caller with Dad Story
Yeah, definitely. Rock my world. If he's still alive.
Joe the Cougar Slayer
Wow.
Chris (Radio Host)
So if you have all the names and you found the address and you found the phone number, then there's, what's the story? Why don't you just pick up the phone or go to the house or start talking to some of the relatives that you already have the names for?
Caller with Dad Story
Well, when I did the search, it said it didn't give the address. You have to pay for this. And then when I was talking to my friend, my buddy was sitting right next to me, and he said that a lot of times when you pay for that, they really don't have anything at all. So it's better to get somebody else to do it. Who? Professional. Find that stuff. You know, I would agree with that on the Internet.
Chris (Radio Host)
Good morning, Julie. You're on Q100.
Radio Show Caller
Hi, Bert. I just want to say I love the show.
Chris (Radio Host)
Thank you.
Radio Show Caller
And I think that he should leave it alone. I think. I mean, I have the same. A similar situation with my parents. And I've got a stepdad. And, you know, my grandparents had different stories about him. My aunt had different stories about him, and they were all pretty negative. And I think if your mom doesn't want you to know, maybe that's a good reason. Maybe you should just leave it alone.
Chris (Radio Host)
Could you live with that?
Bridget
Yeah.
Radio Show Caller
I mean, I'm fine with it. My stepdad is great.
Caller with Dad Story
I can't. There's too much. There's pointing that it's possible that he's alive.
Chris (Radio Host)
I couldn't find anything.
Radio Show Panelist
And if he's out there? Yeah. If he's out there, you can't. Because then it's always in the back of your mind. Is he the guy ringing you up at Kroger? Is he the guy that, you know, you just passed walking through the mall?
Ghost Hunter
Whatever.
Radio Show Panelist
Or my questions would be, does he know about you?
Chris (Radio Host)
Yeah.
Caller with Dad Story
Yeah.
Radio Show Panelist
Like, what was he told that happened to you? Does he know that you're out there and you have heard this story? Or was he forbidden to ever get in touch with you? Was. You know, what was the reason for the split? I mean, just so many questions. What does he know about you?
Chris (Radio Host)
I'd have to know.
Joe the Cougar Slayer
Yeah.
Caller with Dad Story
And see, that's another thing. What I'm leaning more towards believing is that it's possible that maybe because I know that before everything happened, that he was. He did get put in jail for. I'm not sure what it was. I think possibly drugs. So think that it's very possible that he might have actually committed the crime, and they just don't want me to know about it.
Chris (Radio Host)
But how are you sure? How are you sure about the story about the drugs?
Caller with Dad Story
I don't know, but, I mean, where did you.
Radio Show Panelist
But who would tell you? Who told you that?
Ralph
My mom.
Chris (Radio Host)
Yeah, see, that's what I'm saying. I mean, this is. He's almost. Damned if he does, damned if he doesn't here, because how do you live with all these questions? But if he pursues it and he gets the right answer and his dad's still alive, then he's got a whole different set of reasons to be on a therapist couch.
Radio Show Panelist
Yeah, I think.
And does his stepdad know the real story?
Chris (Radio Host)
Damn.
Radio Show Panelist
Because the thing is, I mean, if somebody's gonna go to that extreme to lie on something so important, they're protecting something, you know? So it's getting down to the reason that all your family had lied to you. If you find out that he's alive.
Chris (Radio Host)
Hey, Mike. Good morning. You're part of the bird show.
Mike
Hey, guys. I just want to say I just met my biological father when I was 32. I just turned 33. And I was lied to my whole life because when I was younger, I was abused and my dad tried to get custody of me because my mom's ex boyfriend was abusing me when I was little. And she kept moving from place to place, and everybody kept telling me, you know, my dad was dead and this and that. Well, in 2005, before my grandmother passed away, she told me. She said, mike, you need to know the truth. And I was like, and she told me that I, you know, my dad was alive and I had a sister. Well, my wife. And I was looking for him and everything. And then last year on my birthday, my father text, you know, sent me an email on MySpace and said, you know, are you Vernon Toby? And I was like, yeah. And she's in. He said, well, I'm your father.
Radio Show Panelist
That's soap opera stuff right there. Deathbed says.
Mike
And I said, well, you know, and I told him, you know, and I asked him, I was like, well, why did you leave me? You know, why weren't you there? And he said, you know, I tried to get custody of you and stuff. And my stepfather actually told me. He said, you know, go. You know, he said, you need to know the truth. And my father was like, well, you know, he flew me to Texas because that's where he lives. And he said, you know, I have all this information to prove to you, you know, that I didn't leave you. I mean, he had court documents where he tried to get custody of me and stuff. And my biggest word of advice to you is, do what your heart tells you to do. I mean, me and my biological father now, we have a great relationship. We talk at least two or three times a week on the phone. You know, my mom and I, our relationships, kind of rocky because I found out the truth, you know, but that's still my mom, you know, I still love her, you know, but, you know, there's always going to be that question in the back, your mind, if you don't do it, you know, what if. And you don't want to, you know, grow up? I mean, I'm 33 now, you know, you don't want to grow up saying, you know, what if? You know, why wasn't he there? I mean, did he not want me? And that's what I thought my whole life, because I had a lot of anger issues growing up.
Radio Show Panelist
I bet. I am fascinated by the power of parenting.
Chris (Radio Host)
Oh, my God.
Ghost Hunter
Yeah.
Demi Lovato
You know what I mean?
Chris (Radio Host)
It shapes your entire life regardless of
Radio Show Panelist
if you're in their life or not in their life. As a parent, you have to know that that child is so connected to you for the rest of their life.
Chris (Radio Host)
No need to put you on hold because we have all your info. But we'll have Blue Dog get in touch with you, and you can get aggressive with this if you want or don't, you know, I mean, there's. This is pretty serious stuff, and you're gonna go through an emotional roller coaster here. So I don't want to push you into something for the good of the radio, you know? So take your time with it, and when you're ready to pursue it, let us know, or Blue Dog will let us know, and we'll get some answers from you. At least start to try to get some answers for you.
Caller with Dad Story
All right, guys, I really appreciate it.
Radio Show Panelist
All right. I'm sorry you have to go through this, though, but.
Caller with Dad Story
Yeah, it sucks.
Radio Show Panelist
I've got to get answers, though.
Chris (Radio Host)
Yeah, totally.
Caller with Dad Story
Thank you.
Chris (Radio Host)
All right, Chris, we'll talk to you soon.
Caller with Dad Story
All right, guys.
Joe the Cougar Slayer
Bye.
Chris (Radio Host)
Bye.
Radio Show Panelist
And we haven't even talked about when he has a family and what he's going to tell his children about his. Their grandparents. You know, just.
Chris (Radio Host)
Man, the one thing that just keeps coming back to me is what we brought up initially is that the more answers he gets, the more if they're true, then the more alienation he's gonna feel to the people that have been lying to him all these years. So he's damned if he does and damned if he doesn't.
Radio Show Panelist
Depending on why they were lying. Depending if he finds his dad and doesn't like what he sees, then he may be. He may understand why his family lied
Chris (Radio Host)
to him, like, why they were trying to protect him. Yeah, you're on the Birch Show. Here's Demi Lovato.
Radio Show Caller
He.
Chris (Radio Host)
Thanks for coming in today.
Bridget
Thank you for having me.
Chris (Radio Host)
She's going to be at Phillips arena tonight. The headliner.
Radio Show Panelist
Gwinnett, yeah, Gwinnett.
Chris (Radio Host)
Yeah, Gwinnett, Gwinnett, Gwinnett, yeah. The headliner tonight.
Radio Show Caller
Yes.
Chris (Radio Host)
This is cool.
Demi Lovato
I'm really excited. I'm like, it's still surreal to me. Last summer I came here with the Jonas Brothers, not headlining, and now I'm headlining. It's crazy.
Chris (Radio Host)
What is the difference now? I mean, I know obviously you come on second and all, but is there, like a different respect you get backstage now? Like, I'm the headliner. Okay.
Demi Lovato
You would think I'm just kidding.
Chris (Radio Host)
No,
Demi Lovato
no, I. There's not really any difference. I mean, I just go on later.
Chris (Radio Host)
Yeah. Other than that, same attitude.
Demi Lovato
I mean.
Radio Show Panelist
Yeah, it's more prestige. I mean, that's where you want to be as an artist, right?
Demi Lovato
Yeah, I got a ping pong table.
Chris (Radio Host)
Okay.
Demi Lovato
Comes on the road with us. It's like a headliner thing, right?
Radio Show Panelist
Is that what you asked for? When they're like, what do you want? You know, like.
Demi Lovato
No, I was actually like. My manager was like that. He was like, your dressing room needs life or something. Like, get a pink ping pong Table.
Chris (Radio Host)
I was like, okay, here's Kennedy. She's been holding on for, like, 10 minutes. She can't wait to say hi to you. Hey, Kennedy.
Bridget
Oh, my gosh. Hi.
Demi Lovato
Oh, my gosh.
Radio Show Panelist
Hi.
Bridget
Is this really Demi Lovato?
Chris (Radio Host)
Yes.
Bridget
Seriously?
Demi Lovato
I promise.
Chris (Radio Host)
How can Demi prove it to you that it's really her?
Bridget
You have. Okay. Where is Sunny from?
Demi Lovato
She doesn't believe me.
Chris (Radio Host)
No, she doesn't.
Demi Lovato
Sunny is from Wisconsin.
Bridget
Oh, my God. It's really you. If you could choose a life, would it be Demi Lovato or would it be Sunny from Wisconsin going to so random and accomplishing her dream?
Chris (Radio Host)
That is a solid question.
Demi Lovato
That's a really good question. I've actually never been asked that before. I think that I would choose my life as Demi Lovato because I wouldn't trade it with anybody's. Really, really happy with my life. It's really awesome.
Chris (Radio Host)
Hey, Kelly, good morning. You're on Q100 with Demi Lovato.
Demi Lovato
I promise. It's me.
Radio Show Caller
I have a Twitter and I was just wondering, like, do you, like, see those and read those and stuff like that?
Demi Lovato
I do. You know what? I see so many. Like, I've had people like, well, actually, I got one this morning. It was like, a girl that was really mad at me. She's like, why don't you ever reply to me? I'm so mad at you. I'm not your fan anymore. I was like, oh, my gosh. This is the first time I've ever seen you, like, Twitter me. Like, I had no idea. I felt really bad. And I'm always on my BlackBerry when I reply to people, and it won't let me reply to people. Like, sometimes it'll say that the name is, like, non existent, but it is.
Radio Show Panelist
What does Saturday's tweet? That today was amazing. Hopping into bed with a big smile on my face because I haven't been this happy in a long time.
Demi Lovato
Meaning Because I'm really, really happy with my life right now.
Radio Show Panelist
Was there something specific on Saturday or you just realized?
Demi Lovato
I had a really great show. I, like, fell on stage, but it was awesome because I couldn't stop laughing. And it was one of those moments where, like, everybody in the audience, like, laughed with me. And I just instantly connected to every single person in the audience. And I know what you're getting at, though.
Radio Show Panelist
What?
Chris (Radio Host)
But I was gonna ask if he wasn't. So it's coming at you one way or the other.
Demi Lovato
It was really great show.
Chris (Radio Host)
Yeah. So it's part of this.
Demi Lovato
Do you Have a Twitter?
Chris (Radio Host)
I do.
Demi Lovato
What's your Twitter? You should, like, follow me directly.
Chris (Radio Host)
I think I might be already. I think once we knew that we were doing this, I think I might be. Yeah. It's a little creepy though, for a guy my age to be following you. I gotta be honest with you.
Demi Lovato
It's cool because you're like a radio dj.
Chris (Radio Host)
Yeah, that's the only excuse.
Radio Show Panelist
It's totally cool for radio DJs to follow teenage girls on the Internet. That's totally.
Chris (Radio Host)
Strictly professional. Is of part. Part of this happiness. Does this have anything?
Demi Lovato
I like your shirt.
Radio Show Caller
Thank you.
That's really cool.
Demi Lovato
How many followers do you have?
Chris (Radio Host)
I like yours too. Thanks. You have a lot of boys following you. Are you dating anybody these days that's making you so happy?
Demi Lovato
No, I'm really good friends with people.
Chris (Radio Host)
So there's no guy. That's part of the equation that's bringing you to this elevated level of happiness.
Demi Lovato
Yeah, you have, like. You meet people and you have really good friends and they tend to make you really, really happy.
Chris (Radio Host)
Did you hearing is yes. No.
Demi Lovato
It's always best to keep something private just because, you know, it's always best to keep things private, but sometimes you're just so happy that you can't help it, and then you get in trouble.
Radio Show Panelist
You've been around this block a few times.
Demi Lovato
What I have between people is between me and those people.
Chris (Radio Host)
Okay. That's a very good answer.
Demi Lovato
Thank you.
Chris (Radio Host)
That is very good. I like your shirt too.
Radio Show Panelist
What is the best advice that Selena or Miley has given you?
Demi Lovato
Selena's given me a lot of advice. She's given me. I was having a really hard time with my schedule. Just getting used to, like, touring on weekends and doing the show during the week and, like, flying to New York on the weekend, you know, coming back and forth and really not having time for personal life. And I came to her one time, I was just like, oh, my gosh, I don't know what to do. Like, I'm really working hard and I'm getting so tired. She's like, then don't be afraid to, like, say, hey, like, I need a day off. And once I learned that, now I realize how she keeps up with, like, her busy schedule and, like, still is sane because she's like, one. She has one of the biggest hearts in the world. And she's like, got the best head on her shoulder and she's really, really great with kids. Like, every single time that we meet fans, she's like, goes out of her way to talk to the kids and stuff like that. So she's like, just watching her, I think, because we've been best friends for like, literally a decade now. I think that watching. Being able to watch an example of, like, what I want to, you know, I don't know. She's like, in a way, my role model. Like, I want to be like her in a sense. Like the way that she treats her fans, the way that she's kept. She's kept a pretty personal life. I think I've learned more from watching the two of them than I have from, you know, getting advice from them. Because when we hang out, we're not like, okay, let's give career advice. Like, it's not really what we talk about.
Chris (Radio Host)
We're going to break off into discussion groups now.
Bridget
Yeah.
Chris (Radio Host)
How old were you when you started writing songs?
Demi Lovato
I was 10 years old. I'd always liked to write poet poetry and stuff when I was like 8 and stuff. But then I didn't turn them into songs until I was 10.
Chris (Radio Host)
What is an 8 or a 10 year old, like, write? Like, what life experience are you drawing? Yeah, tell us.
Demi Lovato
No, I know you. I wrote. I wrote a song about all the seasons one time.
Chris (Radio Host)
Oh, really?
Ghost Hunter
Yep.
Demi Lovato
And all the holidays and the seasons. I was inspired by the Night Before Christmas.
Chris (Radio Host)
Oh, really? Yep. Okay.
Radio Show Panelist
All right.
Chris (Radio Host)
You want to sing?
Bridget
Yeah, sure.
Chris (Radio Host)
Okay, let's do it.
Joe the Cougar Slayer
Gosh.
Demi Lovato
Wait. You kind of threw me off guard. Like I'm not really prepared or anything.
Chris (Radio Host)
You don't have to.
Demi Lovato
Well, how many of you guys know a song called La La Land?
Radio Show Caller
Yay.
Demi Lovato
Well, then let's sing that one.
Radio Show Caller
I am confident But I still have my moments Baby, that's just me
Bridget
and
Radio Show Caller
I'm not a supermodel I still eat McDonald's baby, that's just me.
Demi Lovato
Come on.
Radio Show Caller
Well, so they say I need to be afraid of losing everything because of where I had my start and where I made my name well, everything's the same in the La La Land Machine, machine. And who says I can't wear my Converse with my gentle baby, that's just me. And who says I can't be single and have to go out and mingle? Baby, that's not me no, no Some may say I need to be afraid of losing everything because of where I had my starting Where I made my name well, everything's the same in the La La Land Tell me, do you feel the way I feel? Cause nothing else is real and the La La Land A beep. I feel mistaken. Well, some may say I need to be afraid of losing everything because of where I had my daddy Where I made my name well, everything today and the La La land machine well, I'm not gonna change and the La La land the shade I will stay the same. I won't change anything in my life. Singing myself tonight la.
Chris (Radio Host)
There was a lot of pressure there. Trying to, like, clap as she was doing the song because I don't have any rhythm.
Demi Lovato
I do that sometimes. Like, in. In concerts, I'll be like, put your hands together in the middle of the song. And like, in the middle, like, they
Chris (Radio Host)
get like, they totally.
Demi Lovato
Yeah, I'm like, never mind, guys. We're hands down, it's all good.
Chris (Radio Host)
Tell us about Here We Go Again. It's out on July 21st. Do I have that right?
Demi Lovato
My new single, here We Go again is out July 21st. I mean, no, my album is out July 21st. My single has already come out. It's on itunes. So please check it out.
Chris (Radio Host)
You guys, put your hands together for Demi. She's going to be here for a little while and signing autographs for you guys. And she's got a busy, busy schedule when she came out just to hang out with you guys. So thanks a lot for hanging out this morning.
Radio Show Caller
Thank you.
Demi Lovato
Thank you for having me. Seriously, it's been so much fun.
Chris (Radio Host)
Anytime you're in Atlanta, please come on by. Duh. All right, listen, it's the vert show. All right, let's be totally honest. If this call was going the other way around here, we probably wouldn't even take it.
Radio Show Panelist
I know. I said, when you say get your man or whatever's like, yeah. And then I thought, no, see, if it was a 50 something year old dude going after a little 20 something year old female, I'd be like, gross, pervy.
Chris (Radio Host)
But in this case, it's a woman going for a.
Radio Show Panelist
Seems more empowering when there's a woman doing it.
Well, it does seem that there's a bell curve of interest in sexuality that starts much younger for men and gets better as women get older. Like, we should make sure that, you know, like, if you had a pie chart and one started on the left and the other started on the right and they had to cross where you, like, actually meet. I wonder what ages those would be. Like, where women are at their peak and men are at their peak. Because I'm guessing for men, it's in their 20s or early 30s. And I'm guessing for women, it's a lot closer to 40 or 50.
Chris (Radio Host)
Are you talking about, like, sexual peak?
Radio Show Panelist
Yeah, that's what I just said.
Chris (Radio Host)
I don't even think dudes are. Yeah, I think it's proven that dudes are in their sexual peak, like at 20, 19 and 20.
Radio Show Panelist
Really?
Chris (Radio Host)
Yes. Oh, yeah. 30s, you're. Yeah. Put us out to pasture. It's over at that point. And I think women. Don't they peak in, like, their early 40s, right.
Radio Show Panelist
Something like that. And I think, you know what's proven.
But it's just interesting where they. Where those two would meet.
I think it's also. There's gotta be a correlation too. And sexual confidence, because a woman doesn't have confidence in her sexuality till she's in her 30s. So for her to just start, you know, out the gate in her 30s realizing, wait a second, I'm gonna take control of this, then of course she's gonna peak higher.
And I think it's more about desire. Desire changes from 20s to 30s. Totally.
Chris (Radio Host)
In what way?
Radio Show Panelist
For men or for women?
For women it just increases more. Like you don't wanna do it as much in your 20s as well. I'm experiencing, but you know what I mean? Like, I just really do think it changes. And I don't necessarily think it. It has to do with confidence or who you're with or experience or whatever. I really think that there's something chemical.
Chris (Radio Host)
You don't think that it's like. I mean, women basically have been told their entire lives that you're supposed to be virgins and you're supposed to feel guilty about your sexuality. And then in your 30s, do you just feel. You don't think that you just become more comfortable with, like, I'm not because I enjoy sex.
Radio Show Panelist
I'm sure it comes along with it. That confidence, I'm sure helps, but I think it is physical. I think it's based in your body.
Chris (Radio Host)
You agree with that?
Radio Show Panelist
No, but I think it's a combination of both. I mean, but we just both present our points. Yeah, I think it's. I think women, their sexuality is so attached to their mind that if you're not free in your head, you're not going to be free with your body.
Yeah, but you're free in your head as a woman when you get married, because then all of a sudden you go from not being able. Not being supposed to do it until you get married, and when you get married, you're supposed to be in. So I think all of that guilt or shame or whatever it is about sexuality goes away when you're married. I'm saying it still changes as you get older.
Chris (Radio Host)
Hey, Bridget. Hey. Can you hold on one second for me? Okay. And when we put you back on, I'm gonna need you to talk a little bit louder, okay?
Bridget
Okay.
Chris (Radio Host)
Thank you. I'm gonna do things in reverse order here. I don't even want to get Bridget on yet because there's a dude online too that even before we talk to Bridget, thinks he's the early 20 year old something. Oh really? That's funny. Richard may be stalking this weekend.
Radio Show Panelist
Hey, what's going on? I'm in my 20s and I know that all the older ladies want me. My name is Jimmy and I'm the Cougar Slayer. Welcome to my lair.
Chris (Radio Host)
Say that here is Joe, the Cougar slayer. Hey Joe.
Joe the Cougar Slayer
Hey.
Caller with Dad Story
Hey.
Chris (Radio Host)
Can you speak up a little bit?
Joe the Cougar Slayer
Can you hear me better now?
Chris (Radio Host)
Yeah. And you're on the voice discussor so nobody can recognize your voice, handsome. So we haven't even had Bridget on yet, but you are pretty sure that you are the young 20 year old something that our 50 year something wants to hook up with this weekend?
Joe the Cougar Slayer
I'm not sure. I've talked to a lot of my friends about this and everybody says I should go for it, but I think it's kind of awkward. I've never been with anybody that old and I mean she's a good looking lady and I don't know how often this happens. If this would be. I don't know if she would call up a radio station to talk about it. But she's extremely interested in me and I don't know, this happens to a lot of people.
Chris (Radio Host)
Now, how old are you?
Joe the Cougar Slayer
22.
Chris (Radio Host)
You're 22. And the 50 something year old woman is exactly how old?
Joe the Cougar Slayer
I believe she's 52.
Chris (Radio Host)
And how did you guys meet in the first place?
Caller with Dad Story
Work.
Radio Show Panelist
Okay, so your co workers, like your
Demi Lovato
principal, Is she your boss?
Joe the Cougar Slayer
No, I'm her boss.
Chris (Radio Host)
Oh, nice. Okay, that's an interesting layer. This is gonna be fun.
Radio Show Panelist
Now don't you have the concerns that all guys have that women are just sexualizing them in order to advance her career?
Joe the Cougar Slayer
I'm pretty sure she isn't. 99% sure.
Chris (Radio Host)
Did she come on to you or did you flirt with her first?
Joe the Cougar Slayer
I can't really remember.
Chris (Radio Host)
But you think she's hot?
Joe the Cougar Slayer
Yeah.
Radio Show Panelist
Okay, do you think it's your engaging personality that drew her into you?
Chris (Radio Host)
He's on the radio and nervous and stuff. So is there a chance that this is going to happen this weekend?
Joe the Cougar Slayer
I don't know. I mean, I kind of do, but I don't want it to be like. Like, I kind of at first wanted to do it just because I'd be like, you know, guys have records of how many people they've been with or what the oldest and youngest. And I don't know if I would want to do it for that reason and then feel bad afterwards.
Chris (Radio Host)
It's almost, you know. He brings up a really good point. I want to mention this to women that you don't know about guys. Jeff, back me on this. Go. But I think that dudes have sort of like a mental trophy case when it comes to sex, that each and every experience is that you have, you sort of put on your mental trophy case. So if you're a black dude and you hooked up with a white girl, that goes on your mental trophy case. If you're 22 years old and you hook up with. You have a one night stand after a night at five paces, one night stand is your goes in your mental trophy case. If you're 22 years old, you're sort of looking for somebody older because you don't have that trophy yet. And now that it's here, he may be able to put that in his trophy case.
Radio Show Panelist
It's like a giant. It's a giant game of Zelda. You're collecting the swords, you're collecting the gems, you're collecting the bow and arrow. And once you get it all, then you get to slay the master dragon.
And I think for women, we put you in the category of iconic. Believe I did that or I go back and do that again.
Chris (Radio Host)
And that's it.
Radio Show Panelist
That's it.
Demi Lovato
Yes.
Radio Show Panelist
Agreed.
Chris (Radio Host)
So, Joe, what is the. How old is the oldest woman that you have ever been with?
Joe the Cougar Slayer
31. And that was last year.
Chris (Radio Host)
Oh, you're crushing that record. And you said you're already physically attracted to her, so that part doesn't scare you at all?
Joe the Cougar Slayer
No.
Radio Show Panelist
Is the awkwardness mainly from her age or the. Are you working together?
Joe the Cougar Slayer
A little bit of both, I guess. I've had experiences before with work where it really went bad, and I don't want that to happen again.
Radio Show Caller
But once she.
Joe the Cougar Slayer
So I don't want to say old, but older than me. I'm pretty sure she wouldn't start drama.
Chris (Radio Host)
Okay, let's do this. I'm gonna put you on hold. Well, let me ask you two more things. Your office is in what county?
Joe the Cougar Slayer
I don't know what county it is, but it's.
Radio Show Caller
How do you not know what county?
Joe the Cougar Slayer
It's up 985.
Chris (Radio Host)
Okay. That's all we Need. I'm just trying to get a fact to figure out if this is the woman that you think it is.
Radio Show Panelist
If it's not, and we don't come back to you and you do have this relationship, just make sure you're safe so you don't get any STDs, like arthritis or Alzheimer's or anything.
Chris (Radio Host)
Come on now. Hey, I'm gonna put you on hold. Joke is, either way, we want to talk to you next week. Because even if Bridget is not the woman, you still have a story to tell.
Radio Show Panelist
Exactly.
Chris (Radio Host)
All right, so hold on one sec. Okay.
Radio Show Panelist
Have a good weekend.
Chris (Radio Host)
Go get. Go get your. Go get your Jaguar.
Radio Show Panelist
Go get got.
What if.
Chris (Radio Host)
Go get your. Get.
Radio Show Panelist
What if he. What if you're a 22 year old and you. And you hook up and you hook up with a cougar like that, you know, or a jaguar or whatever, lioness or whatever we're calling her, and he has some erectile dysfunction problems, he's the one who can't perform.
She'll be like, oh, well, back to Johnny's hideaway. Same thing there.
Chris (Radio Host)
All right, so this can go in a couple of different ways. Either Bridget is the woman, and then we get to put them both on the air together at the same time here, or she's not, and we get two stories on Monday. Stories. Right. Hey, Bridget.
Bridget
Yes?
Chris (Radio Host)
Did anything that that dude just said, Joe the jaguar slayer, say anything that makes you think that you are the jaguar that he wants to slay this weekend?
Bridget
Well, I don't work with him because I don't work off a 985.
Chris (Radio Host)
Okay.
Bridget
I do live off a 985, but I work in Atlanta.
Chris (Radio Host)
Okay, so it's not the same thing. Because Joe there. Right, because Joe's hooking up with his boss. So it's not the same. All right, so what's your story then, Bridget?
Bridget
Well, actually, I kind of go to a regular place that I hang out at, and a lot of young boys, I guess I'll say, always hitting on me. And lately here I've been very frustrated and dissatisfied with guys my own age that I've managed to hook up with and say it was my own bad taste of my own poor judgment. However, not too long ago, I dated a 34 year old, probably, I don't know, we kept something going for about three years and I kept breaking up with him because of his age, not because he was immature or anything. I just kind of felt, hey, I can't get a family. I'm not going to have any More kids. Da da da, da. You know, and I kind of figured he needed to meet some girls his own age too. However, the, you know, the one time thing or whatever, as far as that hurting a girl's feelings, from what he said, a lady might. If he's gonna put a trophy up on us, we'd be the Grammy. But I'm just, I don't know, it's. To me, I'm thinking this is like so wrong to be thinking this. And I think this because one of the kids hitting on me happens to be one of my best friend's son. And he got a bit carried away about a week ago and leaned over me at the bar and I mean leaned over me, all his 21 year old glory and all pretty much stayed there until he knew you'd get a reaction out of me. And I just managed to say something to him and I said, uh huh. I said, you keep that up and I'm gonna end up scooping you up and taking you home with me. And he just looked at me with this devilish grin and just said, I bet you could teach me something. Ew.
Chris (Radio Host)
But this is your. You say this is your boyfriend's son?
Bridget
It's my best friend's son.
Chris (Radio Host)
Best friend's son. All right, that's it.
Bridget
And I was real tempted at that point. He's a dollar.
Radio Show Panelist
But you've known him since he's in diapers, I bet.
Bridget
So I'm thinking to myself, I've really got to meet some guys that are my age that actually don't just talk and think about it, that can actually perform. However, in listening to y' all earlier, yeah, I think men, at about the age of 40, they start to decline in that area. I don't know if it's because they just don't care or they get too tired or if it's just their body parts just don't seem to work. However, women, I'd say, yeah, between 40 and 45, they do hit their sexual peak. And that's. I don't know. That's wrong. That is wrong. Whoever designed that did it really backwards. So I guess I'm trying to figure out, do I need to get advice from listeners on some other places to go and, or do I need to consider taking advantage of what I can?
Chris (Radio Host)
I don't, I just don't, I don't know, maybe I'm more liberal in my thinking. I just don't think it's a big deal. You're a 50 year old woman or whatever you want to hook up with a young 22 year old. Something you want to get a need filled. So do it.
Radio Show Panelist
I'm not comfortable with this.
Demi Lovato
Really?
Radio Show Panelist
Why?
Just talking about where to pick up young boys on this Michael Jackson kind of tribute day.
Chris (Radio Host)
Come on.
Radio Show Panelist
Just makes me uneasy.
Bridget
Well, we're not. We're not talking young boys and orange adults.
Chris (Radio Host)
I know, just being funny.
Radio Show Panelist
Yeah, you're talking about consenting adult who's how old again?
Joe the Cougar Slayer
22.
Bridget
He's. Well, there's one that hits on me. That's 21. Another one that's 22. And one other that's 23.
Chris (Radio Host)
Wow.
Radio Show Panelist
Oh, you should compare them.
Bridget
I definitely can't go there.
Radio Show Panelist
Yeah, I agree.
Bridget
Screw up a good friendship. Amongst other things, being as he's a virgin. And I won't do that either.
Chris (Radio Host)
Oh, no. If you're a virgin, you're like 22 years old and you hook up with a 50 something that is like. It's a little bit like never picking up a bat. And the first time you play a baseball game, you're trying to hit against John Small.
Bridget
Yeah.
Demi Lovato
No, no, no, no.
Radio Show Panelist
I don't know what it was about the word virgin that made all this turn into like a World cup soccer match audience.
Ralph
Yeah.
Radio Show Panelist
Let him lose his virginity to somebody.
Bridget
There's got to be some men out there that can still perform. I mean, I'm convinced that there are.
Radio Show Panelist
If you're worried about that, don't pick the virgin.
Chris (Radio Host)
Hold on. I think I found one for you. Hold on. Hey, good morning, Ralph. You're on Q100.
Caller with Dad Story
Hi, good morning. Hey.
Ralph
I can't believe what I'm hearing. Yeah.
Chris (Radio Host)
Ralph, Bridget is 50 years old and she says there aren't any old dudes that can keep up with her anymore.
Ralph
Oh, man. She's hooking up with the wrong guys.
Chris (Radio Host)
How old are you, dude?
Ralph
I'm 61, baby. And I'm still growing strong.
Demi Lovato
Ralph, you go get you some.
Chris (Radio Host)
Ralph, go get your Jaguar. You a married guy?
Ralph
Yeah, she's got me pinned down. But I'm telling you, you know, everybody says when you get older, once a baby every night.
Radio Show Panelist
See, you know what? That's why he's still married.
Chris (Radio Host)
Probably so.
Radio Show Panelist
Right, right.
Chris (Radio Host)
Is it still at the point where you're like, is she like, leave me alone already? It's been 20 years when you just leave.
Ralph
Well, I'm. He's 11 years younger than I am.
Mike
And.
Ralph
And she's. She's just. She's after it too. I just thought. I just got lucky, I guess.
Chris (Radio Host)
I don't know, that's awesome.
Ralph
But I changed. I got. I got a beautiful woman, but I've been with her for 14 years. And we knew each other for a long time, but I was single for a long, long time. And, you know, everybody kept telling you where you're gonna reach your peak. You're gonna reach your peak. I said, hey, dude, I don't know what's. What's going on? I said, but I'm not ready. You know, it's not happening. And it's just. And I know a lot of my friends are the same way. They keep talking about, well, what are they talking about? Sexual peak. And I said, I don't know. I said, just forget it. They must be talking to someone else in a different country.
Chris (Radio Host)
He's ready to go. See, so they're out there, but where do they go?
Bridget
Where do they go, Ralph?
Chris (Radio Host)
I don't know. He's gone. Well, he's married.
Bridget
Most of the people at my age that. At least some of the good ones, they're married and still married if they're definitely still performing.
Chris (Radio Host)
Yeah, I think that's the problem that you're going to run into is that most people in their 50s and 60s are probably couples. And if not, they're over at Johnny's Hideaway.
Bridget
Yeah, exactly.
Chris (Radio Host)
You need to go get a. Get. Go get yourself a young guy. Go trolling this weekend for some young guy and tell us about it on Monday. You know, that's what you want to do.
Bridget
All right. I just want. I just wanted to make sure. I know. I think it's wrong, but then again, I'm beginning to think it's not so wrong after all.
Radio Show Panelist
It would be wrong if you went after your best friend's son.
Demi Lovato
Yes, that would be so wrong.
Chris (Radio Host)
And not the virgin. So virgin. This is the bird show. Atlanta Ghost hunters are here. What's going on, guys?
Ghost Hunter
What's going on, man? You doing all right?
Chris (Radio Host)
It's been a busy morning.
Ghost Hunter
Yes, indeed.
Chris (Radio Host)
There's a weird texture to having you guys in here. This is the day you normally are in here. We didn't go like, hey, what can we do for the Michael Jackson thing? You know what people would be talking about death. That's called the ghost hunters. I mean, that would be dumb. You are scheduled to come in today.
Ghost Hunter
Yes, sir.
Chris (Radio Host)
It's the last Friday of every month.
Radio Show Panelist
And that's your latest weather.
Chris (Radio Host)
Whoa. Did you guys just hear the ghost?
Ghost Hunter
Al Ro.
Chris (Radio Host)
So where'd you guys stop this week?
Ghost Hunter
Well, this month we did a follow up on the investigation that we actually did last month, the murder that took place back in 1995. I've had a whole bunch of stuff going on back in my life, so we kind of didn't get to do a whole lot of investigations this month. But we did do a follow up on the investigation that we did last month, where there was a female that was murdered back in 1995, still unsolved crime. And we went back to the house, and we also went back to the location where her body was found.
Chris (Radio Host)
Can you quickly refresh my memory on that one?
Ghost Hunter
Yeah. It was a murder took place back in 1995 in Roswell. Several months went by, body was missing. It was discovered three months later and off in some woods. And we went back after, gosh, 14 years. You know, the family contacted us. They. They started having some. Some people contacting them, saying that they needed to kind of, you know, bring the body back up and kind of reinvestigate this entire thing.
Radio Show Panelist
Because these people had. Had some dreams or something, Right. Some really vivid dreams from separate people. That's right.
Radio Show Caller
Random.
Radio Show Panelist
Who contacted the family on the same day saying, look back into this investigation.
Ghost Hunter
Absolutely. So we went back, and if you recall, that was the one where we actually heard the screams right outside the window. Right outside the window. We heard distinct three screams. So we went back to investigate the property, and again, we got more stuff. This one is very much like a progression with other investigations that we've done is as you go back, they start talking more and more and more, and they realize why you're there and that you can hear them. And. And this was, I believe, one of those cases, because it's starting to get a little bit clearer now than it was on our first investigation. So one of the first clips that we're gonna play is we know that her father died in the same house several years prior to her actually passing away. And one of the questions we asked is, is your father John with you? And you'll hear a man respond back, I'm here.
Chris (Radio Host)
That's the first one you have on your list, John. Oh, John. Okay.
Ghost Hunter
Angela, does your dad, John, does he come visit you here? Now, if you'll play the zoomed in, you'll hear it says, john zoomed. It says, I'm here.
Mike
Whoa, I heard it.
Radio Show Panelist
Hello.
Chris (Radio Host)
Whoa.
Bridget
Hi.
Chris (Radio Host)
I heard it. Let's hear it again. And you guys get to hear this better than we do in the headphones.
Radio Show Panelist
Oh, yeah, that's pretty clear.
Yeah, that's pretty good.
Wait, play the long one again.
Ghost Hunter
Angela, does your dad John, does he come visit you? And again, you can. You can hear it as I'm talking, and it's just off in the background. I wanna do it again.
Chris (Radio Host)
I wanna do it again.
Ghost Hunter
Angela, does your dad, John, does he come visit you here?
Joe the Cougar Slayer
Wow.
Caller with Dad Story
Wow.
Radio Show Panelist
How do you train your ear to pick that stuff up? Because I think I would just blow right by that and focus on your voice, not be able to pick up the whispers.
Ghost Hunter
Well, Dream is our EVP specialist. And you really have just got to. You've got to be able to focus in on nothing but listening into the background. When you. When you really start listening to these things, you don't even pay attention to what it is the investigators are saying. You're just listening to that hum in the background because that's where you catch them. And then if you think you caught something, then you go back and listen. Okay, what were they actually talking about just then? So. So again, this is intelligent. This is something responding back. You know, that sounds like, to me that the dad's there with her. So now the. The next clip says, me too. I'm trying to recall what the whole clips. How this whole clip goes to play, but I know in the back you'll hear her say, me too.
Radio Show Panelist
I heard it.
Chris (Radio Host)
It's almost like I heard two things there.
Ghost Hunter
Well, at the very beginning, she says, that was me. Jen can vouch for us on ghost hunts. I don't know why. Stomachs growl like crazy on paranormal investigations. It just ends. Her stomach had just growled, and she said, that was me. And then right after that, just a few seconds later, you'll hear someone say, me too.
Radio Show Panelist
Yeah, I can hear it faint, but you can hear it.
Chris (Radio Host)
Is that at the very end there?
Ghost Hunter
At the very end?
Joe the Cougar Slayer
Yeah.
Radio Show Panelist
It's so faint.
Ghost Hunter
It is very faint.
Radio Show Panelist
Yeah.
Ghost Hunter
All right. I knew they would. This one was captured very, very early on into the investigation. But we were in the hallway leading back to the room where she was actually. Where we believe she was murdered. And it says, I knew they would. Wow. And we were just walking through the hallway.
Bridget
Wow.
Chris (Radio Host)
Now, there was no specific question there.
Ghost Hunter
There was no. We were just walking.
Radio Show Panelist
What is the phrase again?
Ghost Hunter
I knew they would.
Radio Show Panelist
I knew they would.
Ghost Hunter
I knew they would. It's kind of what it sounds like.
Chris (Radio Host)
That one's coming in under my radar.
Ghost Hunter
So I don't. I don't. I don't know what they're responding to. But. And then this last one, we actually, while we were there, heard this extremely weird, like, whistle sound inside the room. We did catch it On. On audio. But I have absolutely no idea what this. What this sound is, though. But, Lord, it was insane.
Chris (Radio Host)
I mean, I hear that it was like. And there was no windows. Well, obviously you're not in the middle of a tornado,
Ghost Hunter
but Lord, it was insane. And every one of us in the room heard that. And it was. Nobody really said it at the time until one of the guys in the room was like, did y' all just. Did y' all just hear that? So. Lord, it was insane.
Chris (Radio Host)
Oh, yeah.
Radio Show Panelist
It's almost like a bird call or something.
Ghost Hunter
But it definitely came from inside the room, which was pretty interesting. So didn't get anything out at the site, though, where the. Where the body was found. So everything we've got so far at this point is. Has been inside the house.
Chris (Radio Host)
If you guys think there's something going on in your house right now and it can't be explained and you guys can always email this free for you.
Radio Show Panelist
Yes.
Chris (Radio Host)
You know, that's why I still think they have credibility with me, is that it's free. I mean, they're not making any money off of this.
Radio Show Panelist
It's out of passion.
Chris (Radio Host)
I. You know what? I just really quickly want to. Craziness Crazy. What's the name that ghost show on? Is it TLC that does a ghost show? Ghost Hunting? Ghost Hunter.
Ghost Hunter
There's Ghost Hunters, there's Paranormal State, There's a whole bunch of them.
Radio Show Panelist
Is that the one where you never
Chris (Radio Host)
hear anything and he's a total douche?
Ghost Hunter
You're talking about Ghost adventures.
Chris (Radio Host)
Okay. You know which one I'm talking about?
Joe the Cougar Slayer
Yeah.
Ghost Hunter
Yeah.
Chris (Radio Host)
That's funny.
Ghost Hunter
I'll be getting a phone call later on today.
Chris (Radio Host)
He's so dramatic. When do you like this guy? Because he's got that look that you like. Spiky hair and everything.
Ghost Hunter
Big football looking guy.
Demi Lovato
I have to watch it now.
Chris (Radio Host)
And he's so full of himself and he's such a douche that I. I can't believe they gave this guy a show and he never finds anything.
Radio Show Panelist
Like you said the one. What was the one that you said
Ghost Hunter
before that ghost Paranormal mistake.
Radio Show Panelist
No, the next Ghost hunters. I think that one, everyone. They do. At the end of it, they're like, well, we did the research here. We couldn't really find anything. It's like Melissa sniffing out virgins. Like, they claim they can do it, but the reality is.
And for somebody who does not know anything about that explanation of my superpower, they thought right there, I'm really creepy.
Melissa the virgin snipper.
Chris (Radio Host)
Hey, thanks for coming in. You guys.
Ghost Hunter
You got it, guys. Thanks.
Chris (Radio Host)
This is the bird show.
Air Date: April 10, 2026
Host & Panelists: Bert, Kristin, Abby, Cassie, Tommy, Chris (Radio Host), with Demi Lovato as a special guest
Notable Guests/Callers: Joe the Cougar Slayer, Mike, Bridget, Ghost Hunters
This episode of The Bert Show delivers a blend of authentic and lively morning radio, ranging from heartfelt listener stories and celebrity interviews to candid panel debates. The main themes include unraveling hidden family truths, exploring age dynamics in relationships, candid discussions about sexuality, and a segment on real-life ghost hunting. Demi Lovato drops by for a charming, genuine interview and live performance.
Timestamps: 00:15 – 11:46
Timestamps: 12:32 – 23:25
Timestamps: 23:42 – 32:22
Timestamps: 26:47 – 39:41
Timestamps: 40:00 – 47:46
The episode is honest, heartfelt, and humorous—true to The Bert Show’s reputation. Conversation flows naturally, with friendly teasing, moments of empathy, and plenty of laughter. Demi Lovato’s segment brings genuine fan interaction and a spontaneous live performance, balancing the heavier family story and risqué relationship chats. The ghost hunting wrap-up delivers a quirky, slightly spooky finale.
Summary prepared by The Bert Show Podcast Summarizer.