Full Show PT 3: Friday, April 3 [Vault]

Summary

The Bert Show — Full Show PT 3: Friday, April 3 [Vault]
Date: April 3, 2026
Podcast Length Summarized: Approx. 00:39:00
Main Crew Present: Jeffrey (Bert), Chris, various regular cast and callers

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Overview

This lively episode of The Bert Show is packed with real-life drama, ethically tangled listener stories, and signature humor. The cast navigates complicated situations involving graduation deceit, serious child safety concerns, relationship warnings from in-laws, and a hilariously awkward family “sex tape” mix-up. The tone is relatable, honest, and supportive, true to the show's promise of authenticity and laughter.

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Key Discussion Points

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1. Roommate Graduation Deception: Holly’s Dilemma

Timestamps: 00:39–10:06

Situation Recap

• Listener Holly debates whether to expose her roommate, who’s faking a college graduation to her parents.
• Holly seeks advice after wrestling with the moral and personal implications of "narc-ing."

Cast Predictions (01:45–02:35)

• Melissa: Believes Holly will talk to her own mom about it but not act further.
• Javi: Thinks Holly tells her parents only.
• Jeffrey: Thinks the roommate will pull it off and Holly will stay quiet.

Holly’s Update (02:37–05:58)

• Holly took the show’s advice and stayed out of it.
• At a breakfast with both families, the roommate announces she’s not “walking” due to missing the cap & gown deadline, not her academic status.
• The parents buy the story and remain in the dark about the truth.

Notable Quotes

• “She comes out with yet another lie... nothing about not being in school for three semesters.” — Holly (03:14)
• “She actually piles onto the lie and comes out looking better now than she did originally. That must have annoyed you all weekend.” — Jeffrey (05:08)

Emotional Resolution

• Holly focused on her own happiness and graduation.
• She expresses disgust at her roommate’s ease of deception but relief at moving on.
• Cast commends Holly’s maturity.
  • Chris: “It’s called maturity. I’m extremely impressed...” (07:53)
  • Jeffrey: “It’s not your problem. Deal with it, move on.” (08:26)
• Holly feels lingering guilt, wrestling with where moral responsibility ends.
  • Holly: “Maybe I’m just not mature enough to understand yet what I should stay out of and where I’m supposed to step in.” (08:58)

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2. Listener Call-In: Serious Child Safety Concerns

Timestamps: 10:06–24:31
(Trigger warning: Child sexual abuse content discussed)

Situation Recap

• Caller Hannah shares that her 10-year-old daughter disclosed that her best friend claims to have had sex with multiple people.
• Hannah is appalled and unsure whether to inform the friend’s mother, especially given previous confrontational experiences.

Details and Dilemma (11:05–16:46)

• Hannah’s history with the mother is fraught; previous attempts at addressing smaller issues (like skipping school) ended with harsh backlash.
• Hannah is forced to discuss mature topics with her daughter due to the friend's disclosures.

Notable Quote

• “This is an adult issue... not, ‘oh, we got into a fight at school.’ This is something kids cannot handle on their own.” — Hannah (11:49)

Advice from the Cast and Listeners (16:46–24:31)

• Universal recommendation: Report the situation to the school counselor, not directly to the mother.
• Callers and hosts suggest child may be being abused; school staff are equipped to intervene appropriately.
• One caller recounts a similar experience, showing how these situations can have complex, hidden causes (17:03–17:49).

Notable Quotes

• “If people aren’t going and doing anything about it because of her mother, then her mom’s hurting her on a whole bunch of different levels.” — Jeffrey (19:06)
• “One in three girls under 18 have been sexually abused — that’s just the cases reported.” — Melissa, caller (23:11)
• “This is just the kind of case where if you don’t get involved, it’s something that you’ll regret if something happens to that girl.” — Jeffrey (19:58)

Resolution

• Hannah agrees to seek the help of school professionals.
• The cast underlines the seriousness and duty to act, closing with supportive words to both Hannah and listeners.

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3. In-Laws Warning About Marriages: Should You Listen?

Timestamps: 24:33–30:50

Premise

• The hosts ask: Have listeners ever been warned off a marriage by in-laws or future in-laws, and did those warnings prove true?
• Listeners call in with stories—nearly all confirming that in-law warnings were based in reality.

Highlights

• Jessica: Was warned by her (ex-)mother-in-law that her son would never change. Ignored advice, now divorcing him. (25:23–25:59)
• Megan: Warned by the mother of her son’s fiancée, disaster averted as fiancée self-destructed before the wedding. (26:42–27:46)
• Sharisa: Preacher in-laws warned about husband’s infidelity. They were right—cheating occurred with multiple women. (28:28–29:02)
• Kim: Mother-in-law warned her but she married the “crazy” son anyway; they’re still together, issues and all. “Everybody has an assignment and he’s my assignment.” (29:33–29:44)
• Tina: Wishes she’d listened to her mother-in-law and avoided a doomed marriage. (30:11–30:40)

Notable Quote

• “If they’re pushed to the point of saying something, then I mean, they must be right.” — Chris (30:35)

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4. Awkward Family Moment: The VHS Tape Surprise

Timestamps: 30:56–34:47

Backstory

• Christina gifts her mom converted family VHS tapes for Mother’s Day, only to discover one tape is a homemade adult film starring her parents (“Intimate Moments”).
• Christina’s terror: did her mom receive that copy as well?

Update (31:59–34:47)

• Christina anxiously waits all day for her mom's reaction; when her mom finally calls, she says nothing about the tape.
• The crew speculates: either the mom hasn’t found the tape yet or is purposefully ignoring it. The unspoken agreement: don’t ask, don’t tell.

Notable Quotes

• Jeffrey: “You know she knows, but we are never gonna bring it up. I am a big fan of that.” (33:46)
• Various: “A mother's not gonna want to talk to her daughter about her sex tape.” (34:15)

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Memorable Moments & Quotes

• “That to me would have been a more of a moral issue than the telling the parents.” — Chris, on graduation deception vs. duping a school (09:30)
• “Go to the school counselor. The counselor will talk to the child individually as well and is capable of doing that and maybe get to the bottom of what’s going on.” — Various (20:44)

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Episode Timeline & Timestamps

| Time | Segment | |-------|-------------------------------------------------------| | 00:39 | Holly’s Graduation Dilemma | | 10:06 | Serious Child Safety Call-In (Hannah’s Story) | | 24:33 | In-Laws’ Marriage Warnings Stories | | 30:56 | VHS “Sex Tape” Family Mishap Update (Christina) | | 34:47 | Segment conclusion & sign-off |

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Final Takeaways

• Moral Dilemmas: The show often confronts questions of responsibility, honesty, and when to intervene.
• Support & Maturity: Cast and audience value growth, urging listeners to choose personal growth and do the right thing even if it's hard.
• Laughter Amid Chaos: Even sensitive or awkward stories get the light, supportive touch characteristic of The Bert Show.

Essential Bert Show advice, humor, and realness—made to help listeners feel connected, get perspective, and share a laugh (often at life’s expense).

Transcript

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[Various Callers]

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[Jeffrey]

All right, let's go around the room here and make predictions. Wendy, you aren't here, so I don't know if it's fair to ask you. Melissa, what did Holly do this weekend?

[Various Callers]

I think that. I think that she confessed to her mom and when her mom told her it's really none of her business, she got mad at her mom for not being as dramatic as her.

[Jeffrey]

How about you, Javi?

[Chris]

That's an extended prediction.

[Various Callers]

I'm.

[Chris]

I'm thinking that she definitely told her parents, but not the roommate's parents.

[Jeffrey]

Jeffrey.

[Various Callers]

I think she pulled it off without a hitch.

[Jeffrey]

The roommate.

[Various Callers]

The roommate pulled it off. Oh, you're asking what the girl did? I think she didn't say a word. And I think the roommate pulled it off without a hitch.

[Jeffrey]

I'm going with she talked to her parents, her own parents about it. Also, she didn't have the guts to go to the roommate's parents. But I think she probably went to her own parents. Shall we find out?

[Various Callers]

Let's find out together, will we?

[Jeffrey]

Hey, Holly, you're back on the voice disguiser.

[Various Callers]

Good morning.

Hello.

[Jeffrey]

Good morning. How are you?

[Various Callers]

I'm good. How are you?

Well, congratulations on graduation.

Thank you. It's official.

Yes.

[Jeffrey]

Does that feel good? Yeah, I bet.

[Various Callers]

So glad to be dawn. Good at senioritis.

[Jeffrey]

And how about your roommate? Did she graduate this weekend? Quote unquote?

[Various Callers]

She did not graduate this weekend.

[Jeffrey]

Not.

[Various Callers]

How did that come about?

Well, I did, after our conversation, I did take into account what you guys said, and I stayed out of it. And I did not say anything. I didn't call my parents, didn't tell anybody. I just figured that, you know, something would have to happen when she got there, and I was just gonna let it be there, you know, their deal. So our parents drove up together. We all went out to breakfast. At breakfast, thankfully, she says that she has something to tell them. That she knows that they're going to be upset and angry and that she's sorry that she didn't tell them, but she wanted them to know in person. So I'm thinking at this point, this is such a load off. She's finally going to come out with this. It's going to get done. It was early in the morning. The day would still go on. And she comes out with yet another lie of a long story, saying that the reason why she's not graduating that day is because she didn't notify the school in time and she missed the deadline to get her cap and gown so that she wasn't able to walk, but that she would get her diploma in the mail. Nothing about not being in school for three semesters, Nothing about anything. Like a complete. Another huge story.

So what did her parents react?

Well, obviously they were a little upset, but they more disappointed that she had been irresponsible and missed this little deadline, but nothing big. And of course she said, oh, well, we'll all watch. They would watch me graduate and she would sit with them and it was okay that she wasn't going to walk. She was starting. They were, like, you know, kind of upset. But, I mean, it was nothing. Nothing of what it should have been or would have been. And they still have no idea. They're gonna be sitting, waiting for the diploma in the mail.

[Jeffrey]

So you're on this emotional rollercoaster all weekend because you're like, you know what? I'm just gonna take the high road. It doesn't matter. It's all gonna pan out the way it's gonna pan out. And then you actually think, you know what? She's gonna come clean.

[Chris]

Good for her.

[Jeffrey]

This is the way I wanted it to happen. And then she actually piles onto the lie and comes out looking better now than she did originally. And that must have annoyed you all weekend.

[Various Callers]

Well, yeah. I mean, until we started partying. But it did annoy me during the graduation part. I mean, it was just absolutely ridiculous.

[Chris]

Did you feel like telling your parents the truth?

[Various Callers]

You know what? No. At that point, like, it had been. It's so past the point of frustration. And I really wanted to enjoy my graduation. I really was, you know, so happy to see my family at that point. Like, I just. It was almost just like, Patty. I just. I can't even deal with it, you

[Chris]

know, he didn't want it to be about her anymore.

[Various Callers]

Well, now I don't have to live with her anymore. I don't even want to be her anymore. Like, it's just so disgusting that she can be so good at lying.

[Jeffrey]

I'm wondering if there's anybody listening right now that never graduated from college, but your parents think you did.

[Various Callers]

Oh, I'm sure.

[Jeffrey]

Because she may be able to go her entire life and her parents would really never find out. I think there are some parents that want to see the diploma. The diploma. And want to see cap and gown and all that. And I think that there are others that would just let it go.

[Various Callers]

Well, like, for instance, I. In one of my many moves here in Atlanta, I lost my diploma. So I have to go back to UT, and I'm. some point, when I think about it, and get it reissued to me. So I did graduate, but I don't have a diploma. It's very. I mean, it. There is no. Most people don't have their diplomas posted on an office. Unless you're in confession that you have to show it. Yeah, exactly.

[Jeffrey]

So did we ask you. This is. Was your roommate being funded by her own parents for the last. She was. So all that. Where's that Money been going.

[Various Callers]

I don't have any idea.

[Jeffrey]

Oh,

[Various Callers]

but not your problem. Just like we said last week. And now really not your problem. Because it's like you said, you don't have to stare at it anymore.

Yeah. Now it's done. I mean, there's, you know, a part of me that really. Yeah. Was angry like you guys said, like I am. That, you know, she had all this extra money and she wasn't doing anything for it and all of those things.

[Jeffrey]

Yeah, I could see how that could bug you. I mean, you're struggling along here, trying to pinch pennies to graduate, and here you've got somebody in your own house that's wasting the money, not using it on what. What they should be using it on while you struggle. I can understand why you built some animosity there, but, you know, in the

[Chris]

long run, that you have the benefit,

[Various Callers]

you have the diploma.

Yeah, I know. I know. And it was worth all the hard work. I just. I don't even think that I really, like, until we talked about it the other day, I don't think I realized, like, exactly why I was upset or how upset or any of those things,

[Jeffrey]

you know, here's Chris, to use a word on the show that we don't use often, and it's called maturity.

[Various Callers]

Maturity. I'm extremely impressed with the fact that she actually grew up this weekend and realize that, you know, if someone gets away with something and it doesn't hurt you, it's really not your problem.

[Jeffrey]

Right.

[Various Callers]

And I just. I was thinking the entire time when we were talking, when you guys were talking about this last week, I'm like, you know, she just is pissed off because this girl's getting away with something and she doesn't like it. And, you know, it's really not that big of a deal. She has to deal with those consequences. It's not Holly's problem at all.

[Jeffrey]

You're right. But it certainly is legit to have those kind of feelings.

[Various Callers]

Sure, sure. I can understand having those. We've all had them. But, you know, it's a sign of maturity to actually realize that, you know, it's not your problem. Deal with it, move on. So I just want to say congratulations. You graduated from college. That's a big step. And, you know, you grew up a little this weekend, so I'm impressed.

Thank you.

I don't know. I felt more like it was a moral responsibility, though, too.

Oh, that's justification.

[Jeffrey]

Yeah. That probably.

[Various Callers]

That's you.

Yeah.

Like, I mean, if, you know, somebody's cheating on Somebody like you, don't tell them, yeah, it's not your business. But at the same time, like, whereas I don't know where all of those lines are yet, maybe I'm just not, you know, mature enough to understand yet what I should stay out of and what, where I'm supposed to step in.

[Jeffrey]

If you weren't so close to it, that's probably a pretty good argument. But you were so close to it that had you narcked on her and used the well, is it responsible for me just to let this go argument, I don't think many would have bought it. So I think you did the right thing.

[Chris]

I think it would have probably been more important for her to intervene if she was duping the school somehow rather than duping her parents. You know what I'm saying? If she was actually getting a diploma without doing the work.

[Jeffrey]

Uh huh.

[Chris]

That to me would have been a more of a moral issue than the telling the parents.

[Jeffrey]

Yeah, I think you handled it great. And it's over. I mean, now you can wash your hands, you'll lose your roommate, you'll never see her again. So who cares? Yeah, you got your diploma.

[Various Callers]

You got your diploma. That's what the highlight of the weekend has to be, needs to be, and all you remember about it, it definitely is.

So happy.

[Chris]

Can you tell us what school it was now?

[Jeffrey]

Don't do it.

[Various Callers]

No, don't do it.

[Jeffrey]

Don't do it. Get it. The Bird Show. My amex Blue Cash Everyday Card is my go to accessory. When I shop, I can earn 3% cash back on US online retail purchases. Try on the Blue Cash Everyday card. Learn [e-mail] Explore BCE terms and cash back cap. Apply. Hannah here, we'll call her. Wants to be on the voice disguiser. This seems like a slam dunk. Of course you go to the mom. Come on, man. 10 years old? I can't even imagine 10 years old. Hayden is just about seven now.

[Various Callers]

It's just. Yeah, it's too young.

Real seven or bird math?

[Jeffrey]

Seven. No, it's like real seven. It's coming up before you know it.

[Chris]

Seven.

[Jeffrey]

So to talk about 10 year olds.

[Various Callers]

So.

[Jeffrey]

And I'm gonna warn you again that we consider this the adult portion of the Burt show. That if you have kids that are listening right now, this subject matter may be way too deep for them, but we assume that they're in school or what have you.

[Various Callers]

Mm.

[Jeffrey]

So it may get a little more graphic than you want. All right, Hannah, you are on the voice disguiser. Hi.

[Various Callers]

Hi. How are you guys?

[Jeffrey]

Good. How are you? Look, I don't want to read your email and miss a detail, so why don't you relay exactly what's going on with your daughter so we don't miss anything.

[Various Callers]

Sure, sure. My daughter and I are pretty close. Usually I tell her, tell mommy anything, and we'll work it out after that, but make sure you always tell me the truth. And she came to me, and she basically said to me that her best friend just confided in her that she's had sex more than once with more than one person. So immediately, I was appalled. I was disgusted, and I wanted to speak her mom right away. I spoke. You know, at first, I told my daughter, it's okay if I speak to your dad about it, because I didn't want to betray her trust. I said, okay, sweetie, you know, mommy's gonna discuss the. Daddy, is this okay? And she said, that's fine. So I spoke to my husband about it, and because we have had problems with this particular mom before, he's like, you know how this woman is. She has a very bad attitude. And I don't want trauma. I don't want problems for our daughter. It's with her child. And I don't want, you know, problems with her, you know, seeing her. Her giving us an attitude.

[Jeffrey]

Let's just go off on a little tangent here for a second. What kind of problems? Just to define the mom that we're talking about here.

[Various Callers]

Her mom is one of those. One of those parents that, you know, don't tell me anything about my kid. Last year, she had asked my daughter if they can cut school together. Don't go on the school bus. Let's wait till your parents leave, and we can hang out at your house. And right away, my daughter told me, because she's terrified. She's like, you know, I don't want to see that. I'm not cool, but I don't want to do it. So I spoke to her mom about it, and she got upset with us because she's basically saying that, you know, she went to her daughter, and her daughter said, no, that's not true. She's lying. That's not true. And she basically said, get your facts straight before you come and tell me anything about my job.

[Jeffrey]

And it could have been an attitude thing also. Just, okay, all right.

[Various Callers]

So her child. Her kid can do. Her kid can do no wrong, no matter what.

Exactly, exactly. So because of that, my husband, he's like, listen, you know, we got a doorbell ringing in our ear late at night, and I'm upstairs hearing her mother chewing into you, telling you to mind your own business. He said, if you want to go through that again, you're on your own.

So she came over to your house after bedtime and confronted you in person.

9:30 at night when she got home from work. And we're just hearing the doorbell ding, ding, ding, ding. I'm like, who in the world is that answered the door? And she was like, you know, first of all, let me tell you, I spoke to my daughter and she said, your daughter is completely lying. And I'm very upset that you even believe your child before even coming to me. You should have found out first before you opened your mouth.

[Jeffrey]

This is about the ditching issue.

[Various Callers]

Wow. This is about the ditching issue. And my husband has basically come downstairs like, listen, you guys are doing this in front of the house. Why don't you come inside? She goes, no, I don't want to come inside. Tell your wife she needs to learn to mind her own business.

[Jeffrey]

Okay, so then why don't we go ahead and progress now with your daughter's friend's story.

[Various Callers]

So now with where we are right now, my husband basically said, listen, you know, stay out of it. And my thing is, I'm very concerned because, you know, this is an adult issue. This is not, you know, oh, we got into fighters at school. She pulled my hair. This is something that kids cannot handle on their own. First of all, I'm very upset because, you know, after that first day, she's been repeatedly discussing things with my daughter. I have to be able to sit down. My husband, I give my 10 year old, you know, education that I didn't want to do. I had to discuss hickeys because she showed my child a hickey, you know, on her chest. I had to discuss oral sex. I mean, things that I do not want to be touching, you know, but I have to force myself to discuss this with my daughters. I'm serious.

[Jeffrey]

I just want to get you guys into the mentality of this 10 year old for a second. So I'm going to read this line right from your email and it's, it's pretty nasty. It says that, you know, this little 10 year old girl approaches our listener here's daughter and her daughter says, no, that's nasty. So her 10 year old friend says, don't be scared. If you don't want to have sex, you can just suck it if you want.

[Various Callers]

Yes.

Oh God. I mean, I have been sick to

my stomach, but I will say that I Have a little update from when I spoke to your producer on Friday. Want the young ladies mother, her sister in law. And I have a, you know, more of a hello, how you doing? Relationship. So I approached her.

[Jeffrey]

Okay.

[Various Callers]

I spoke to her and she even told me, oh, I don't know if you want to discuss it with her mom, because her mom, you know, she's not approachable.

[Chris]

So her mom wouldn't believe you.

[Various Callers]

She's basically, she's saying that she's thinking her mom be so embarrassed because she said, you know, I don't want to start any problems, but I don't think her mom really likes you.

Well, I met a Birchall listener over the weekend that is a guidance counselor at an elementary school. And so I'm curious, does your school have one?

I'm not sure. I was actually thinking of possibly speaking to the principal because if you have

a counselor, I would, I would see if there's a counselor first at the school and that's who I would talk to instead of the mom. The mom's not going to be receptive to it because this, I mean, the girl is in trouble. This girl is definitely in trouble. And you know, and I think as a parent, as a parent, I would be concerned about her even being friends with my daughter. But if there's a counselor at the school, she is equipped or he would be equipped to. How to handle this situation.

Exactly. Because I personally, I don't want her in my home until I know that she is getting the help and the counseling that she needs. I no longer want her around my child.

[Jeffrey]

Here is Haley, who also wants to be on the Voice disguiser. Go ahead, Haley.

[Various Callers]

Hi. I wanted to say I went through this with. My daughter was in the third grade, about nine years old, and it was, it was a little bit different. Her friend told her she had been raped. And my little girl came to me because she didn't know what that word meant. So it opened up that whole discussion. But I went, we were friends with these people. I didn't really know how to address it. So we did go to the school counselors that way because once you report them like that, they have a duty to act on it. And as things progress, they didn't know that we were the ones instigated it. And they had a big counseling meeting with all little girls who had heard the story. But as it progressed, it came out that this little girl had not been raped, but her little, her, not her little brother, her older brother was being molested and she knew about it. And she was taking on his.

[Jeffrey]

Oh, wow. Yeah. I mean this thing psychologically is so much deeper than just a mom to mom conversation, you know.

[Chris]

Well, and yeah, I mean the children that are acting out in this way and talking about it in this way are most likely being abused.

[Jeffrey]

Sure.

[Chris]

I mean, it's not going on between 8 year olds or between 9 year olds if someone, it's not like she's

[Various Callers]

got a serious 11 year old boyfriend, that they've been together for five years.

[Chris]

Right. I mean they're, yeah, they're receiving some sort of abuse like she said or you know, somebody in the family is.

[Various Callers]

And that projection stuff thing is wild. Like that's worth looking. Yeah.

[Jeffrey]

There are two calls that are coming in more than anything else and one is go to the guidance counselor. That's the one call. And then there's one that's obvious also that Melissa brought up. Hey, Aniston, go ahead. You're on Q100.

[Various Callers]

If it were me and it was

my daughter, I would just cut the

friendship off and I would feel like,

you know, even if the little girl did get help, you know, she's still always going to have those problems and

I wouldn't want my 10 year old experience exposed to it.

And to me there's a fine line because you don't want to teach your child to judge her, you know, so I mean, it sounds so harsh, but there's got to be a way to bring those two things together. We need to get her help and you know, and somehow protect your kid.

[Jeffrey]

Yeah. There's a little girl that really, really, really needs some help right now. You know, there's a major white flag there. And if people aren't going and doing anything about it because of her mother, then her mom's hurting her on a whole bunch of different levels, you know, and you could be the one that could actually step in and do something and save this girl. And it sounds like the only avenue you can really take is go to the school counselors.

[Various Callers]

That's definitely.

[Chris]

I would take, it would be speculation to say something, but the mother may be defensive because there's a man in her life that she's defending or protecting who could be doing something to the daughter.

[Various Callers]

I mean, I'm just, I'm just completely. I'm disgusted because the fact that I went to her sister in law and she said to me, I'd be very careful with that one because I know how she is.

[Chris]

I mean, this is just the kind

[Jeffrey]

of case where if you don't get involved, it is something that you will regret if something happens to that girl.

[Various Callers]

There is something happening to that girl.

That's what I'm telling my husband. It is my obligation as a parent. Parent to get involved. I don't care. You know, she doesn't speak to me anyway. She's not, I'm going to lose a best friend over this.

[Jeffrey]

Right.

[Various Callers]

You know, so I really don't care about that. I just don't want, I don't really. What I'm afraid of is even if it's brought to the mom's attention that she may beat the child, she may attack her in a way that makes her rebel, but there's so many other things that can happen after, after, you know, its exposure is brought to light that to me, this little child obviously is looking for attention and love in a place that she's not getting it and beating her is not going to make her stop.

Well, I mean, there's only so much you can do. But by going to a counselor, the counselor will talk to the child individually as well and is capable of doing that and then maybe get to the bottom of what's going, really going on in that house.

[Jeffrey]

18 and did you want to be on the voice discussor also?

[Various Callers]

Yes.

I don't know if someone has made my point yet, but there, it could be that the little girl is being molested at home and the mother may even know about it and that's the reason she's so existent. So I mean, call Defects or somebody let somebody know. You just can't keep quiet about something like that.

[Jeffrey]

You really can't. I mean, and that's what everybody is saying across the board. You just can't hold this just because of the mother.

[Various Callers]

But I think that, I think that, but the consensus not to go back to the family.

[Jeffrey]

Right.

[Various Callers]

That's, that's, you already know how that is and I know that your husband's concerned. So that's, don't go back to the family now. You have to go to the, you know, some person of authority.

[Jeffrey]

I wonder if she, if you don't get any kind of reaction from the school administrators or counselors. She will, I wonder if you go to Defects directly.

[Various Callers]

She will. Because once, once you report that to the school, like the earlier caller said, there's an obligation to follow up and they probably, I guarantee you the school already has representatives at the government, appropriate government agencies. So the counselor would be the first step. Then they would probably call on this person and then, and then it's out of your hands. And Then it's out of your hands, because they will determine the severity of the situation and handle it.

And that's what counselors are there for. They're trained for matters like this. So that's what counselors are in schools for.

And I would feel more confident going to a school counselor rather than directly to dfax, because I just think that agency is so overwhelmed that folders get misplaced, things get lost in the shuffle from, you know, whatever.

[Jeffrey]

And I think it's been my experience that they act very, very quickly.

[Various Callers]

And then I think. But I think if you have the school counselor involved, that's another voice who will be following up and making sure that things stay on track.

[Jeffrey]

I'm going to take one more call, and then we'll move on, because pretty much everybody's saying the same exact thing. But go ahead. Melissa, you're on the voice disguiser.

[Various Callers]

Yes, hi.

I just wanted to call because I'm

a parent of an abused child, and

I was also abused as a child myself, and I have gone to multiple support groups and all that. And the statistics on this is very overwhelming that one in three girls under the age of 18 have been sexually abused.

[Jeffrey]

One in three.

[Various Callers]

That's just of the cases reported.

A lot of front. Yeah. I had several friends that were. Mm. And they're. And they. Then they had this idea that their mothers didn't know, and in the end, they did.

Right.

Well, my mom. My mom has just found out about my abuse, and I'm 24 years old, and it happened, you know, from the time I was in about second grade till middle school. And it was my, you know, a neighborhood kid.

So, you know, it really.

I'm glad that y' all are bringing this up and talking about it because, like a caller said before about not letting the mother be friends with the child, that's the last thing that you want to do, because that teaches the child that that's frowned upon. And in society, we've made it so just horrible that this has happened to you when. And ultimately, it's never your fault.

[Jeffrey]

Well, Hannah, I mean, you really got to get some advice from a professional at school. I mean, that's what everybody is calling and saying. So if you were looking for advice from us this morning, this is actually one of the few times that we actually have real, solid advice from most of the listening audience telling you there's only one thing to do here.

[Chris]

Okay?

[Various Callers]

And I will take that advice. Unlike some listeners, I will take that advice.

[Jeffrey]

Please do. Please do. Yeah.

[Various Callers]

Thank you very much.

[Chris]

Thank you for calling Q100.

[Jeffrey]

What you hear is what you get. Real people, real radio. The Burt Show. Q100. You're on the Burch show. So the question here really was like, is there anybody listening right now that you're all lined up, you're getting ready to get married and your in laws, you know, maybe your future father in law or your future mother in law pull you to the side and go, my baby girl's not good enough for you? Or are you sure you know what you're doing? You sure you know who you're marrying?

[Chris]

Here they come to you and say, don't marry my son because of blank, blank, and blank. Or I don't think you should marry my daughter because of blank, blank, and blank.

[Jeffrey]

Zero shortage of calls here. Jessica, do you want to be on the voice disguise or.

[Various Callers]

No, please.

[Jeffrey]

Okay, go ahead.

[Various Callers]

So about four or five years ago, my current husband and I were dating, and I. He's one of those guys that just needs to be taken care of. And so all of the issues that I was having, his mom had taken care of him. So I talked with her and she's like, the problems aren't going to change. He's not going to change.

He's going to be the same.

So leave him now if you don't want to be okay with those problems, leave him now. And I married him anyway. And I'm currently going through divorce

for those reasons.

Yeah, actually.

Really?

[Jeffrey]

I wonder if by the time we're done with this, I wonder if we're gonna find a reoccurring theme that if the future in laws warn you that maybe you should take the advice. Really take the advice. Because that's the first one. And she said I didn't listen. And now I'm in the middle of a divorce.

[Chris]

Why wait until the wedding day?

[Jeffrey]

It doesn't necessarily have to be. I mean, it could be a week before. It could be two weeks before.

[Chris]

Yeah, but that's when there's no turning back. That's why they bring it up. Then everybody's a procrastinator.

[Jeffrey]

Go ahead.

[Chris]

I was gonna say everyone procrastinates, even on emotional issues. Just work deadlines.

[Jeffrey]

You're on the voice disguise for Megan. Go ahead.

[Various Callers]

I am the mother of my son and the mother in law of my

future daughter in law.

She actually called me up and she's like, you don't want to let this happen.

She's gonna destroy him.

Your son is a good boy. He's hard workers going to school. He's got his life together. She will destroy his life, not do this.

[Jeffrey]

So wait a second. I think I have this little twisted. The mother of the daughter of the daughter was calling to warn you to tell your son not to go.

[Various Callers]

Not to go through with the marriage.

[Jeffrey]

So from like mother to mother, we got to talk here.

[Various Callers]

Yes, and I am so glad that she did that. Actually, two weeks before the. Before the wedding, the girl just went.

She went absolutely psycho.

And she like what the mother, when she tried to warn me, she just self destruction. She just. She cheated on them, on my boy. And it was absolutely. It was crazy. So they didn't end up getting married, but it was. She actually called me up and warned me.

She's like, did you have any indication before that call came in?

I had some indications I didn't like

her, but I was.

I'm a strong believer that the more I would push my son away from

her, the more it would push him towards her.

So I just let it be and let. And let things happen. But did I like her? No, I didn't. But am I glad that the wedding never happened? Yes.

[Jeffrey]

All right, so here we have our first two examples where the future possible in laws were warning. And they were both right.

[Various Callers]

They were right.

[Jeffrey]

Okay. Good morning, Sharisa, you're on the Voice.

[Various Callers]

Good morning.

[Jeffrey]

Good morning.

[Various Callers]

Actually mine was that my future in laws preachers actually warned me before I got married marry my husband because he had issues being faithful. And come to find out they were very much right because not only did he cheat on me with a family member, it was family member, her friend.

And then when I was pregnant with

our child, he actually cheated on me with someone else. And she was pregnant at the same time I was. Wow.

Oh.

[Jeffrey]

And so they were. So the advice that they gave was absolutely right. Family member, three for three.

[Various Callers]

I hope she Nike.

[Chris]

I hope that was on her side.

[Jeffrey]

Kim, you're on the voice disguiser.

[Various Callers]

My mother in law, when she found out me and my husband were going to get married, she was like, why do you want to marry my crazy son? You know, I just took it jokingly like, okay, he's not really crazy, but he really had some issues. And we are still married today. And I love him for who he is, but yeah, she was right.

[Chris]

She was right.

[Various Callers]

She was right.

Yeah, he had issues.

Did you appreciate the warning?

[Jeffrey]

She does not.

[Various Callers]

I still would have married him.

You still would have married him?

Yeah, He's a great guy, but I think everybody has an assignment and he's my assignment.

[Chris]

There happens your assignment.

[Jeffrey]

That's sad.

[Chris]

But still, that one stayed together. So it's only what, three out of four now?

[Jeffrey]

Three out of four.

[Various Callers]

That's so sad.

I don't have a real assignment.

[Jeffrey]

The one thing that we do hear though is that the mother in law was right. She wasn't making anything up.

[Chris]

That's right.

[Jeffrey]

Hey, Tina, go ahead, you're on the voice disguiser.

[Various Callers]

Hi. My mother in law told me before I got married, she was like, just really think about it. I don't think it's a good thing. You know, he's already had a divorce before. I promise y' all will get a divorce. And I'm hard headed. So I didn't listen to her and I wish I would have because now we're getting a divorce and everything she said was absolutely right. I just wish I wouldn't have been so hard headed and I could have listened to her.

So I guess if they're pushed to the point of saying something, then they, I mean, they must be right.

[Jeffrey]

It must be accurate. So you're hearing four or five of them didn't work out, but all of them said the same thing.

[Chris]

If the moms were right, the mom was right. The one that worked out called her husband her what assignment?

[Jeffrey]

Yeah, listen, it's the Birch Show. Previously on the Birch Show.

[Various Callers]

I was visiting my parents in St. Louis. My mom, she has VHS tapes of family moments. And I thought, I'm going to get all of her VHS tapes, take them to get converted to dvd, take them to this place. And I asked them if they could deliver it to her a couple days before Mother's Day. And they also sent me a copy of the DVDs. One of them was labeled Intimate Moments. And I popped it in and no, no was not a montage of family moments. It was an adult entertainment tape that they had made back in the day. So my mom gonna open up?

Yes.

Yes, exactly.

Awesome.

[Jeffrey]

So that's where we were last.

[Various Callers]

Not really awesome.

[Jeffrey]

Not really.

[Various Callers]

That sucks.

[Jeffrey]

Yeah. And when we say awesome, we mean really, really uncomfortable. So Christina was going into the weekend and she thought mom was gonna open that whole thing up and there was tape and she's gonna be embarrassed and humiliated. So let's find out how it all went.

[Various Callers]

Hi, guys.

[Jeffrey]

Hi. How are you?

[Various Callers]

I'm good. I think I'm out of the woods.

Okay, what happened?

Well, I was of course dressing out all weekend, and yesterday I said, you know what? I'm just gonna get this over with as early as possible. So I called my mom at like nine in the morning or something. She gets up really early, so I figured she'd be up, but she was actually already. They were. My dad and my mom were at breakfast, and she tells me that she hasn't opened my present yet. So I'm like, okay. So she says, I'll open it as soon as I get home. And so, of course, I'm sitting there waiting and waiting and waiting, biting my fingernails. She doesn't call me until 8:00pm oh, my God.

[Jeffrey]

You must have been able to actually hear the seconds ticking off of the clock all day long.

[Various Callers]

It was horrible. It was horrible. But the good part is that when she finally did call me, she didn't say a thing about it. So. Not a thing. She was just like, oh, you know, I opened the present. It was such a nice present. Thank you so much. Didn't say a thing about it. So I don't know if she never got to that particular DVD or she just didn't want to say anything about. I don't know. I don't know what. I don't really care. Just. It's over and I'm just. Oh, my gosh.

Well, she didn't get to it.

She'll never say anything. She knows that's in there. She just is not gonna tell you.

[Jeffrey]

This is a. Yeah.

[Various Callers]

Unless maybe she just didn't know that I had a. I don't know.

[Chris]

She's hoping you don't know. You're hoping she doesn't know. You're just gonna leave it at that?

[Jeffrey]

This is don't ask, don't tell policy. Outside of the milit. Look, you know she knows, but we are never gonna bring it up.

[Chris]

That is it.

[Various Callers]

And she knows, or she has no idea that you got a copy of the DVDs, right.

I get. I am. That's what I'm thinking. She probably just doesn't know that I have it perfect.

Never tell her.

Yeah, yeah. I'm putting it behind. I'm gonna go get some therapy.

[Jeffrey]

She may put some, like, subtle questions at you over the next couple of months. Something like, did you ever get a call from the production company? Or.

[Various Callers]

No, she won't.

[Jeffrey]

You don't think so she's gonna let it go?

[Various Callers]

Yes.

Because a mother's not gonna want to talk to her daughter about her sex tape.

And you know what you need to do in order to insure it in the next week or so? Say, hey, next time I come visit, we need to watch the DVDs, because that will reassure in her mind that you have no idea what's on there.

Good.

[Jeffrey]

You know what I mean?

[Various Callers]

Like, you throw it out there and, like, now I want to make sure we get to watch those next time I come visit.

[Jeffrey]

Yes, exactly.

[Various Callers]

But then make sure you say, not the one of you and dad doing it.

[Jeffrey]

All right, Christina, thanks for giving us the update. And congratulations. You dodged the bullet this weekend.

[Various Callers]

Yes, I know. Thanks, guys.

[Jeffrey]

Bye. Bye. See why that sometimes full disclosure is a bad thing. This is non full disclosure right here. And it works out perfectly for everybody. Look, I know you know, but we're never gonna acknowledge it. I am a big fan of that. This is the Burt Show.