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Griff
The Bird show.
Host
We call this the guys panel on the Birch show. Look, now is the time we're gonna go one by one around the room with these guys and they have promised us complete honesty, which. Which normally means about 75% honesty if you ask me. Because they got women, they need to answer also. But Griffin, I could count on you for some honesty.
Griff
Of course.
Host
Any question you've ever wanted, ask a guy and get brutal honesty about. Let's go right around the room before we start taking the calls. This is Joel. And Joel, you're how old?
Joel
30.
Host
30 years old. And is now engaged.
Joel
Correct.
Host
Congratulations.
Joel
Thank you very much.
Host
It's actually a really cool engagement. I'm gonna tell him real quick how you propose. And I'm like, come on, come on. Soften them up before they hit you.
Joel
I basically surprised my fiance with a trip to Italy and proposed to her in front of the coliseum on a overhang overlooking Rome.
Host
That's strong.
Joel
Yeah. Pretty cool.
Host
Those are pretty big shoes for the.
Joel
You know, I figured if I made it elaborate enough, there was no chance she could say no. So it's a long flight home.
Host
So she was feeling the pressure.
Joel
Oh, yeah, she did.
Host
Pretty big shoes for her second husband to fill when he proposed. I think you did it right, dude.
Joel
Thanks for.
Host
Gary is here also. Gary, you're how old?
Gary
29.
Host
29 years old. Single.
Griff
Yeah.
Gary
No, no.
Caller
Dating.
Host
Dating. And your girlfriend told you to make that perfectly clear when you're on the radio?
Joel
Absolutely.
Host
Okay. I know she Did. And this is Griff here.
Griff
What's happening, man?
Host
Tell him how old you are.
Griff
I am 37 and I'm married. And it's funny because you got like the cool proposal story, but when I proposed to my wife in Miami, she thought I was going to tell her I had aids, Right. I promise you. Like, I took her to the beach and you know, it was early in the day and I was crying. I was starting to, my eyes got watery and she cut me off and she said, before you say anything, look, if you got A's, then I'm in it.
Host
Can I know?
Griff
She didn't, I swear. It's just stupid. I said, why would you say that? So I love my wife. That's my home girl.
Host
And you've got how many kids?
Griff
I'm a father. 5. Cause she had kids and. But most recently I got a 676 day old daughter that's 22 months, two weeks, five days, everybody. My mom has six grandsons, so she the first girl cousin, the first niece that. Yeah, she real important to my family tree.
Host
All right, so if you've got questions about family or how to deal with husbands or kids, Griff is your guy. And then we've got parent step parenting also. And Chris is here also. Chris, how you doing?
Chris
I'm doing well. I've been lying about my age for so long, I'm not even sure how old I am. So somewhere in the 30s.
Host
What's the birth certificate say?
Chris
I think I was born in 71,
Griff
but I'm not positive.
Host
71 and you are single?
Chris
I'm dating.
Host
Dating, yes. Okay, so Wendy, you want to start this whole thing off?
Wendy
Do you prefer a girl in jeans and a T shirt or done up in full makeup?
Joel
Depends on the occasion. What's the occasion?
Wendy
If you're just out and about trying to meet people. If you're single, trying to meet people.
Host
What's the question again? I was looking at the call. What was the question?
Wendy
Do they prefer a girl in jeans and a T shirt when they're out or a girl who's all done up?
Griff
I'm a jeans and T shirt dude.
Wendy
Okay.
Chris
Yeah, I would agree. I'm from the beach and flip flops. Jeans and a T shirt is always nice.
Gary
Okay, jeans and a T shirt are good, but I always like a nice sundress. Something cute.
Joel
I'm a done up guy.
Wendy
Done up guy. Because guys always choose the girl at the club or who's out, who's all done up. So I'm just wondering why Your jeans and a T shirt kind of guy. If you always pick the girl who's made up.
Chris
Well, the guy that likes jeans and a T shirt isn't at a club.
Host
Did you hear that?
Griff
Good.
Host
You didn't even hear the answer. You were over there, you're all yelling.
Griff
You didn't even hear his answer.
Chris
I was just saying that the guy that likes the jeans and a T shirt is typically not at the club.
Wendy
Well, just at a bar in general, you go for the girl with like, pounds of makeup and the hair done.
Host
Here's the problem with Wendy. It's in.
Griff
I didn't hear it already. Yeah, you are. You're still stereotyping us. And we're. We just told you. The three people just told you on this panel for it. And we like jeans and T shirts. And you said, why did you pick the girl? We don't. He likes that. Ask him.
Wendy
That's what happens.
Joel
But here's, here's also the deal. When you're at the club, how many dudes, how many girls in jeans and a T shirt do you actually see?
Wendy
Well, not. I mean, even like at a bar, the girl who's done up, that's who the guy gets.
Host
Stop, stop. This is when this is an individual Wendy problem here. Because the thing is, she doesn't know which outfits are appropriate to venue she's in. So if she's just hanging out at like Park Tavern, she's dressed up in the sexy ass miniskirt with the boobs all hanging out and the stiletto heels and all. She doesn't know, like, what to wear to each venue.
Griff
I think a woman that rocks the jeans and a T shirt is so confident about her look that she, you know, trumps all the girls with the made up. To me, that's why I like the most confident female in the room. Not so much the. I don't like that much makeup anyway.
Host
Chris, you agree with that or she's broke.
Chris
Just rolls of jeans and T shirts.
Host
That doesn't bother a guy?
Griff
Nah, we're easy.
Host
How about you?
Gary
I like the jeans and a T shirt.
Host
Yeah, I mean, there's something about that also that is, like, simple. It's less intimidating to approach. Also. It's like a girl drinking a beer. To me, that's like, it's more approachable. Suzanne, you've got a question for the guys panel?
Caller
Yeah. I wanted to get the perception on women and young children. When I go out and meet people, you get like a mixed bag of, oh, it's great. And then you look in their eyes like, oh, my God, oh, my God, oh, my God. You know, I'm not looking for you to be their father. I just want to find somebody cool and hang out. I mean, what's the panel idea of women with kids?
Host
So you're single and you're out in a bar or whatever, and you're starting to get your chemistry on pretty good with a girl and she tells you that she's got kids. Joel, what's your immediate impression? Honest.
Griff
Well, look at his face.
Host
Yeah.
Joel
Honest.
Host
Yeah.
Joel
Baggage.
Host
Baggage. So that's not for you?
Joel
Nope.
Host
Okay. Gary.
Gary
I think it's considered baggage, but kind of depends on the situation. Depends on the girl, you know.
Host
What do you mean?
Gary
How old the kids are, if they're gonna be, you know, somebody. Some people you have to take care of or, you know, if you and your girl getting, you know, getting on and everything's working. I don't think the kids should really matter at that point.
Host
Griff, you probably have a totally different answer here.
Griff
Yeah, I actually always liked women with kids because to me, it just said that they was real women. Like, they had completed that circle of, you know, a complete female. Like, I think a female without kids only have to love themselves. So, you know, when you have children, you have somebody else that you have to love more than you. And I always thought that was attractive.
Chris
I think that's a good question. I think you need a man to be a little bit more emotionally mature, that he's going to be able to, you know, to. To be comfortable with that. So myself, I probably wouldn't be, but. No, it's.
Joel
It's.
Chris
You know, I eventually still want to have my own family someday, so I'd prefer to find someone that doesn't yet have children. But, you know, as time goes on, I think that attitude may change a
Host
bit as a guy. This one always comes up as a guy. When do you want to find out she has kids? Do you want to find out on the first date? Do you want to find out on the third date? Do you want to find out on the fifth date?
Griff
But you should know on the first date. Like, that ain't. The kids aren't shoes. You can't just say, yeah, we've been dating a month, man, I got a 17 year old. Forgot to tell you.
Chris
What's your name?
Host
We've had Brenda. We've had women on this show before that try to hide their kids the first couple of dates.
Griff
It's not attractive.
Gary
You need to know up front. Absolutely.
Host
Joel, you Agree.
Joel
Absolutely. There's nothing worse fun now that, you know, two or three, day 10. That just completely shoots all the holes and all the honesty for that relationship.
Caller
Been on this show before.
Host
Denise has a question. Go ahead, Denise.
Caller
Hi. If a guy, like, says that he really. It doesn't matter when you sleep with him, is he being honest about that or really does it really does matter if you make him wait or if you do it?
Griff
In the beginning, I always said that it doesn't matter matter when you sleep with him because he already sleeping with somebody, so he's not. Listen, I'm being honest. I know when I used to say that, I was never pressed, like, I was never pressed because I already had other females. So whenever you wanted to. That's all good.
Host
I think the question here really, like, the broader question is, what do you think about a woman that sleeps with you on a first date? Do you look down on it? It doesn't matter to you at all? Are you more attracted to it, Chris?
Chris
Well, you know, I mean, certainly some questions in your mind if, If. If you all slept together on this on the first date. So my. My answer to that would be, if a guy's pressuring you to sleep with them, then. Then, you know, that probably raises bigger questions.
Host
I don't think the real question here is if a guy is pressuring. She wants to have sex with you on the first date. When you guys wake up in the morning, will you see her potentially as somebody you want to continue dating? Or now are you looking at her as a steady booty call?
Caller
Yeah.
Griff
Would you stay there all morning, though? Like, I mean, you had sex on the first date. It's kind of agreed on that. It's cool. I will holler at you when I see you again. Don't act all like that.
Host
You want an honesty. I'm not doing. I totally agree with you. Like, my theory on this has always
Griff
been this, not spending the night.
Host
I didn't want a girl to sleep with me on the first night. If you did, then the respect level for me came down, like, okay, that's cool. I'm gonna have sex with you. But we're probably. You're probably doing that with other dudes also. And if I'm serious about being with somebody, I'm not. I'm not.
Caller
It was my first time, too.
Griff
Yeah, right. That's another one.
Host
When a girl tells you that this is the first time I've ever done this, just across the room, do you guys ever really believe that?
Chris
No.
Griff
Then you're the Best. You just happen to be the gold winner in that category for the first time. Okay.
Host
Good morning, Nicole. You're on Q100. Hi.
Caller
Good morning, you guys. I've had, like, a few guys tell me that because I don't have. I've never had any kids and never been married because I'm in my 30s. Something was wrong with me. So is that, like, something that normal for a guy?
Joel
Absolutely.
Chris
Yeah. People try to tell me I'm not normal all the time.
Host
I can see that.
Chris
Yeah. I think that. I think it's. To me, I think it's a lot about someone who's willing to wait and wait for the right person, the right relationship for the right reasons, and not just get into it for the wrong reasons. And then we all have those friends that. That rush into something and end up, you know, messing up their lives.
Host
Do you guys agree that if a girl comes to you and tells you that she's 30 years old and she's never been married and never have kids, that's one thing, but if she comes to you and she's 39 years old and she's never been married and never have kids, you guys make a different impression.
Griff
Something is wrong with her. You 39 years old, never been married, never been proposed to. Like, yeah, I would. All kind of red flags go up.
Caller
Wow. Well, good thing I'm normal.
Host
39 years old, she's never been married, no kids.
Gary
There's probably something wrong with you.
Host
Really?
Gary
You're doing something wrong.
Joel
You know, there's something that you're doing to have jeopardized all those relationships in the past. Something's gone wrong down the road, and you said something or your attitude's been, one way. Something's throwing up some red flags for some guy never to have proposed to you at 39 years old.
Host
Now you women are yelling at your radios right now. You're pissed. But you wanted to hear what guys think. And this is a red flag for a guy right here. This is it. What's up, Jeff?
Jeff
I want to know about when you're pursuing a woman, what the response time should be for her. Like, we talk about it a lot on the show, like women being too eager or calling you too fast or returning call too fast or returning the text messages too quickly. And we talk about how men are hunters, Let them hunt. And so can you. Each of us, like, each of you go down the line and sort of maybe give us a guideline on response time when you first start dating someone.
Host
Chris, you want to start, oh, I get to. Chris always has this, this look of panic in his eyes. You guys promised to be totally honest, so do it.
Chris
It's not the honesty. It's. The questions are so subjective. I mean, it's, it is case by case, you know, scenario. But for the most part, it's just. It should be long enough to where they don't seem like they're waiting around, but not so long. Where they seem like they're playing games is probably the best way I can answer that. If a girl, for me personally is seemingly intentionally taking a long time to text back and it's routine, then you start to get annoyed and it's like, this is kind of, this is kind of waste of time. So, you know, that's about. It's a general. But it's.
Jeff
But if she hits you back in half a second, you think she's desperate?
Chris
Well, not necessarily. I mean, I'm assuming by the hit back we're talking about text in today's day. But I mean, it's. No, it's. If she's always that available, maybe. But for the most part, you know, the first few times you're getting to know someone, I wouldn't think it's. Wouldn't think it's weird.
Host
When is the appropriate time to hit somebody back?
Griff
Actually, you know what, it's weird, Burt, because I'm an entertainer and I've always been somebody to say, let me call you back, you know, and it might take me a day or it might take me way, way later than they would have expected. And I've never really got caught up in a female over texting and stuff like that, you know what I'm saying? Kind of used to getting over, text over called. I just have to call back at my own pace. I don't like people that say you said you was going to call and you didn't. Like that's a problem. You know that, like, that means you have little patience. That means you. And that's a huge flag too. Ladies. You said you was going to call back, but you didn't. I've been waiting for your call. Like things not to say, making yourself too available.
Host
I think the real question here is if you are going to give women advice. Joel, if you're going to err, do you err on the side of being available or the she, I should say be on the side of being available or not being available for you?
Joel
You know, it's unfortunate that you have to, but you have to play the game. You have to. I mean, if you don't play the game, then you're, you know, the other person is. So I found that in my pursuit. By the way, I think I told you this. The Bible for guys is the game. If you haven't read that book, guys or girls, pick it up. Because, guys, it's all the best advice on how to pick up women, how to play the game, and women, it's everything that you're being done. Every game that's ever been played on you is in that book. So I would say err on the side of caution. When first starting to date a girl. My response time on eharmony is usually,
Host
gary, do you. Should a woman err on the side of being too available or being too. What's the word I'm looking for? Not available.
Gary
I actually kind of like it when a girl's available.
Host
You did?
Gary
When I send her a text or a phone call, I like when she answers back.
Host
You want it back immediately?
Gary
Not immediately, but if I know she's sitting around her house doing nothing, I want her to give me a text back.
Host
All right. And Chris, you said that's game to game, girl to girl.
Chris
You're in situation, situation. So it's, you know, but it's. I think the air would be on the side of just respect and what seems comfortable.
Host
Kimberly, good morning. You're on the Guy with the guys panel. Go ahead.
Caller
Good morning.
Host
Hey.
Caller
Love your show.
Host
Thank you.
Caller
I'm just calling this morning about strong personalities in women. How do you guys feel about that?
Host
Joel, you want to take that one first? Strong personalities in women. What exactly is your question?
Caller
My question is, is it a turn off for you for a woman with a strong personality?
Joel
You know, that's a good question because
Host
you picked a kind of passive one there. Molly. No.
Joel
Molly. Yeah, exactly. If anybody has a. An aggressive personality, you know, I think it depends on the personality of the guy. You know, for somebody that has a, you know, a lot of energy and a lot. Like, for me, I'm. I like to be the center of attention. So it helps to have somebody else that can share in that spotlight and be wild and go to bars and get crazy. But I've dated girls in the past that were very passive, and it just complete clash of personalities that just didn't work. I think it depends on the guy.
Host
How about you, Gary? Where are you coming with that?
Gary
I like a girl to be confident in her personality, but I don't want her to, you know, think she's better than anybody else. Think she's better than Me and. And, you know, just try to prove that on time in and time out.
Host
Is there. Have you ever met a woman that's too confident for you?
Gary
No.
Host
Never.
Gary
Never.
Host
Great.
Griff
I actually am the opposite. I love a strong. You know, what other men would call a mean female? I've never called a female mean. I don't think it's a such thing as a mean female. I think it's a bunch of soft dudes that let a woman that's assertive, you know, walk on them. But I think that's. I mean, I. Would a man, a real man, want a queen? You don't want somebody that's. My wife is a sergeant first class in the military, a recruiter. She a Scorpio. I mean, she is very aggressive female. But I love it though, because I make her be a woman.
Host
And I think guys get bored with passive women. For the most part. You just get bored at the end of the day.
Griff
Cause they just gonna be there. You know what I'm saying? They go, women, that's whatever you want to do. I want to cheat on you. How about that? The first show.
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Episode: Vault: Brutally Honest Men Answer What Women REALLY Want to Know
Date: March 27, 2026
In this engaging and candid episode, The Bert Show assembles a panel of men—Joel, Gary, Griff, and Chris—representing a range of relationship statuses and life experiences. The hosts and audience pose the kind of questions women are typically curious (and sometimes anxious) to ask but rarely get unfiltered answers to. Promising "brutal honesty," these men tackle common dating dilemmas, views on appearance, relationships with women who have children, thoughts on sex and respect, and the do's and don'ts of modern dating etiquette. The tone is direct, humorous, and conversational, making for an episode packed with memorable moments and revealing insights.
Core Question: Do men prefer women done up or casual when meeting someone?
Question: What do men really think about dating women with children?
When should a woman tell a man she has kids?
Question: Does it affect a man's view if a woman sleeps with him on the first date?
Caller Question: Is it a red flag for men if a woman is 30+ with no marriage or kids?
Question: Should a woman be quick to reply, or does delay build interest?
Caller Question: Is a woman with a strong personality a turn-off?
This episode delivers honest (sometimes blunt) male perspectives on dating and relationships—directly answering the burning questions women have. The discussion is packed with practical insights and a fair dose of good-natured ribbing. Whether it’s appearance, family status, sex and respect, texting etiquette, or female confidence, each panelist brings individual nuance but don’t shy away from what they see as inconvenient truths. If you want to know what guys really think, this jam-packed panel episode doesn’t hold back.