Vault: Can "going commando" give you more confidence?

Summary

The Bert Show: "Vault: Can 'Going Commando' Give You More Confidence?"
July 10, 2026

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Episode Overview

In this lively and candid episode, The Bert Show dives into a surprisingly empowering piece of advice: the notion that going commando—i.e., not wearing underwear—can boost your confidence, especially in social or flirtatious situations. Prompted by a tip shared on the Rachael Ray show, the cast debates the psychological and practical merits of this “little secret," discusses personal experiences, welcomes expert input from a listener, and encourages listeners to test the “commando effect” for themselves.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

The Original Advice: Flirting Confidence Through a Hidden Secret

• [01:36-03:10] Jen Hobby introduces advice from the Rachael Ray show: women can instantly boost their flirting prowess—and general confidence—by secretly going commando before a night out.

  • “Apparently, if you do this one thing before you go out, it's going to give you the confidence and sort of this energy that exudes from you that nobody has to know about...” ― Jen, [02:30]

• The central argument: Confidence isn’t just about bold moves—sometimes being "secretly bad" gives you that subtle, energized edge that others pick up on.

Cast Reactions: Outright Skepticism, Curiosity, & Laughter

• [03:11-04:28] Reactions range from playful embarrassment to admissions of never daring to try it.

  • “I've never gone commando in my life. Not ever? ...I was shocked.” — ‘E’, [03:36]
  • The joke surfaces: one cast member apparently has the “commando brand.”

• The repeated theme is that for women who feel nervous or lacking in confidence around men, this secret could provide the mental distraction needed to get “out of your own head.”

  • “What I think it does is it takes the nervousness away. There's a distraction. ...That's enough of a distraction that's not gonna let your head go into that nervous ... place.” ― ‘F’, [04:39]

Expert Input: The Health Angle

• [05:51-06:49] Michelle, a women’s health nurse practitioner, calls in to give a medical spin:
  • “We are taught in school that women should not wear underwear on a regular basis anyway... it needs to breathe.” — Michelle, [06:16]
  • Adds that her husband even notices when she does wear underwear, since commando has become her norm.

Power, Secrecy, and Psychology

• There’s consensus that the secrecy of going commando is where the confidence comes from—giving you a sense of power others don’t know about.
  • “Maybe the secrecy of it gives you a sense of power... If you have a secret going on, then you feel like you’ve got the power back.” ― ‘F’, [08:20]

Listener Anecdotes and Rituals

• [07:30-08:20] Marie calls in to share that wearing thigh highs and a garter belt—rather than regular underwear—under her business suit made a striking difference in her professional confidence while training men across the country.

  • “I gave the most confident training... I knew that they didn't know, and something that I knew that if they knew, they'd pay even better attention to me.” — Marie, [08:04]

• Discussion also references previous episodes where women reported feeling more confident on dates when they’d slept naked the night before ([08:38]).

Practical Takeaways and Warnings

• The cast recommends that if you want to try this, it should be for yourself—a personal morale boost, not a party trick.

  • “You don't have to tell everyone. And certainly after a couple of drinks, don't start telling everyone.” — Jen, [07:15]
  • “This is your own little secret.” — ‘F’, [07:27]

• There’s an acknowledgement that the impact might wear off if you do it routinely: switching things up preserves the allure ([06:49]).

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “If you're not used to doing it especially, and then you do it. There is a difference. Yeah, there's definitely, definitely a difference.” — ‘F’, [04:39]

• “We are taught in school that women should not wear underwear on a regular basis anyway. ...it needs to breathe.” — Michelle (women’s health nurse practitioner), [06:16]

• “Sometimes I think maybe the secrecy of it gives you a sense of power...” — ‘F’, [08:20]

• “If you walk up to a guy drunk and say, I'm going commando, he's going to talk to you.” — ‘F’ (joking), [07:17]

• “You want to feel sexy, you know, go commando.” — Bert, [09:38]

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• 01:36 – Jen introduces the “commando confidence” theory from Rachael Ray
• 03:11 – Cast reacts with stories, laughter, and confessions
• 04:39 – The distraction/confidence hypothesis explained
• 05:51 – Michelle calls in with health perspective
• 07:30 – Listener Marie’s business travel “secret” for confidence
• 08:20 – Discussion on secrecy, power, and confidence
• 09:38 – Bert recaps the advice for listeners going into the weekend

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Conclusion

This episode uses the playful, frank tone The Bert Show is known for to address a quirky-but-compelling approach to boosting confidence: going commando. From TV inspiration to live listener feedback (and even medical advice), the cast explores how a secret act can change your energy and interactions. Listeners are left with a universal takeaway—sometimes, owning a little secret for yourself can give you that extra spark, whether you’re flirting, presenting at work, or just wanting to feel a little bolder for a night.

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Transcript

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[C]

Absolutely. You know how there's women who are just naturally good at flirting, they know how to talk to men and it just seems that for whatever reason, all the guys flock to them.

[B]

There's a confidence.

[C]

Yeah. If you're in a sports bar or you're out at Eastenders over the weekend, or you're wherever. There's just some women that attract a lot of men and just have this sort of energy about them and there's other women that struggle with it and they kind of clam up around guys. They get kind of nervous or they turn into their girlfriends and they giggle, and so. And they're the ones that don't, like, quite have the. Have the mojo with the guys there.

[B]

There seems to be, like, a gift that some women have that without being too overt about it, sort of as a guy, makes you feel like you really have a shot here without it really even being anything about, like, a sexual conversation. But she's so engaging that it really makes you sort of feel good about yourself.

[C]

Yeah, I think that there's something about the confidence and, you know, being able to engage a guy in conversation or while you're having a conversation, you know, some sort of, like, friendly touch of the arm or something like that or, you know, whatever it is. Some women are better than others at it. But this is going to level the playing field, because apparently, if you do this one thing before you go out, it's going to give you the confidence and sort of this energy that exudes from you that nobody has to know about, that you've done this before you go out, and every single person can do it. This is from the Rachael Ray show. This is a dating advisor who gives you this piece of advice. You ready for this, ladies? Everybody can do it.

[D]

We're gonna retire to the ladies room for a minute for the ultimate solution to keep yourself happy and hot. It'll be our little secret.

[C]

I'm scared.

[D]

Yeah. Something happens when you go commando, when you're flirting, you know, panty free. Hu.

[E]

I have. Oh, my God.

[D]

You know the secret?

[E]

Yeah.

[D]

It's ancient. It's been passed down generation to generation, sister to sister.

[E]

I did whisper to mama Gina, I can't believe I'm gonna say this in public. I've never gone commando in my life. Not ever? No, that's not. I was shocked. I said when I was a little girl, maybe when I was three. That's the last time that switch went on.

[B]

Stop yelling.

[E]

Well, it's just.

[D]

See, it's your little secret. Our little secret. Nobody knows. But it gives you, like, just, like, a very fun feeling.

[E]

I don't know. I might try it on date night just to say, I did it. I was in it to win it.

[C]

So this can go for any women, whether you're single, whether you're married, whether you're in a serious relationship. Apparently, if you go commando, it puts you in a completely different state of mind. You exude a different kind of energy and a different kind of confidence when you're in the presence of men. But they don't even have to know that you did it.

[B]

Is there anybody in here that would like to comment on that? Anybody?

[F]

She said, in the presence of men

[B]

or if you're attracted to women.

[C]

Yeah, I mean, I think someone in

[B]

here goes commando every day.

[F]

I said this.

[C]

How many years ago can Wendy and I both say, not it right now?

[B]

I mean, you sort of have a brand at this point. Yeah.

[C]

Have a brand.

[F]

Have the commando brand. That's the ad I should do. Yeah. Well, I think that if you're not used to doing it especially, and then you do it. There is a difference. Yeah, there's definitely. Definitely a difference. And it's always. Because what I think it does is it takes the nervousness away. There's a distraction. Like. Yeah, it's just. Yeah. Because I think a lot of times, if you're so in your own head, like you said, with women who are nervous around guys, and then they tap into that nervousness and they get obsessed about being nervous, and then it just gets worse and worse, and that's when they just kind of lose it. Where I think that if you have something like this that you know is going on and you kind of feel different because you haven't done it before, then. Then that's enough of a distraction that's not gonna let your head go into that nervous. I'm insecure. Oh, my God. I can't. Is he judging me right now? Place.

[C]

You know, and I think, too, you're kind of, like, secretly being bad. Like, there's kind of, like something secretly exciting about that, but nobody else has to know about it. But you've got this sort of, I don't know, different thing going on.

[B]

That's how I felt when I was running my Spanx.

[E]

Save that. Here's some bad Joe.

[B]

I was secretly being bad. Here's Michelle. Good morning, Michelle. You're on.

[E]

Hi, guys. How are you doing?

[B]

Good. Okay. The advice that Rachel Ray gave the other day is, like, if you want to be sexy, like, in conversations when you're talking to dudes and you want to, like, automatically make yourself a little bit more flirty without thinking about it too much, just. Just go commando.

[E]

I'm a women's health nurse practitioner. I have. We are taught in school that women should not wear underwear on a regular basis anyway.

[C]

Really?

[E]

Yes. That is the only part of your body that stays covered all the time, 24 7. And it needs to breathe. So don't put any underwear on.

[F]

Amen, sister.

[E]

And it is such a routine for me. When I do put on underwear, my husband's like, where you going with those underwear on? What you doing? Because it is an everyday thing. I am commando as we speak, ladies. And all my libraries.

[F]

That's gonna be the tagline for my ads if I do these ads, like, let her breathe.

[B]

But if you do this every day, though, like you said, I think that it takes away from the sexiness because then you're used to doing it.

[F]

I think you have to switch it

[B]

up from time to time. If your intention is just to get your flirt and get your sexy.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

If you're going out this weekend and you know you're gonna be wearing, like, your cute designer jeans and your cute shoes and your, you know, your cute top out, just go commando in those jeans and, like, see if it makes you a little bit, like, flirtier privately. And you don't have to tell everyone. And certainly after a couple of drinks, don't start telling everyone.

[A]

I mean, that's.

[C]

Keep it to yourself.

[F]

I guarantee, though, that if you walk up to a guy drunk and say, I'm going commando, he's going to talk to you.

[C]

Yeah, but you don't want that. No, you don't want that.

[F]

I'm going commando.

[C]

This is for you to keep to yourself. This is your own little secret.

[B]

Here's Marie. Good morning. You're part of the Burt Show. Hi.

[E]

I just wanted to let you know that years ago, I used to work for a company. It was a nationwide company. And I did the training. And the men that I was training when I would go to these different cities or the people I was training was always meant. And one, on one trip, I didn't have. I. Before I left, I didn't have any pantyhose. And all I had were thigh highs. So I just grabbed the thigh hides and the garter belt and I took it. And I found that when I wore the thigh highs and garter belt under my business suit, I gave the most confident training.

[B]

Really.

[C]

So it does work, I'm telling you.

[E]

And I started doing it every time I left to leave for training, because it was just something like, I. I knew that they didn't know, and something that I knew that if they knew, they'd pay even better attention to me.

[F]

Sometimes I think maybe the secrecy of it gives you a sense of power, because I think that it comes. There's always a power struggle when it comes to flirting or relationships or whatever. And maybe when you get intimidated is because you feel the guy has power over you somehow. And if you have a secret going on, then you feel like. Well, that you've got the power back.

[B]

Didn't we do this once before where some women called up and said that if they knew that they were going to be in a situation the following day, they were going to be on a first date. It made them feel sexier on the date if they slept naked the night before.

[F]

Yeah, we've talked to women.

[B]

Did women call up and say that also? So here's the advice from the Rachael Ray show about flirting. You want to get your flirt on right here. Then this is the way to do it. This weekend we're going to retire to

[D]

the ladies room for a minute for the ultimate solution to keep yourself happy and hot. It's. It'll be our little secret.

[C]

I'm scared.

[D]

Something happens when you go commando when you're flirting, you know, Panty free. Huh?

[E]

I have. Oh, my God.

[D]

You know the secret.

[E]

Yeah.

[D]

It's ancient. It's been passed down generation to generation, sister to sister.

[E]

I did whisper to mama Gina, I can't believe I'm gonna say this in public. I've never gone commando in my life. Not ever?

[D]

No.

[E]

That's not. I was shocked. I said I was a little girl. Maybe when I was three. That's the last time that switch went on.

[B]

So that's your advice going into the weekend right there. You wanna feel sexy, you know, go commando.

[C]

Commando.

[B]

Mentally and visually. I'm so happy that I'm hearing that on the Rachael Ray show and not on Paula Deen. Hey, the bird show.

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