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The Bird show early on Friday morning took a call from Janice and from time to time we like to do this. We call them first date Fridays. Like if you have a date planned for the weekend, we check in with you on Friday. And if it's a really unique situation, we'll check back with you on Monday just to find out how everything went. And Janice called us on Friday between like 6:30 and 7 and said that she was anxious but excited because her parents were setting her up on a blind date with a 48 year old man. She's 24 years old.
D
This is like first blind old man out of town date Friday.
E
Yeah, this is a lot of strikes going into this one blind date and.
F
It'S our first Friday to do that. So I can't wait till this one.
B
So so many people have been calling over the last couple of hours to find out what happened that we're gonna do this. We're gonna play this in two parts. We are going to play the original call that we took on Friday morning. For those of you that didn't hear that, you'll get invested in it. And then after that we'll play the call that we took from her this morning telling us everything that happened over the weekend. So let's go back to Friday between 6:30 and 7. And this is Janice calling us, telling her about her blind date. Hey, Janice. Good morning.
G
Good morning.
B
How are you today?
G
I'm doing all right, I guess. I think Nerves have set in a little bit. I've been a little bit sick this morning. I'm on my way to the airport. But it's gonna be a good weekend, I think.
B
I mean, this, the stakes are high here. I mean, you are investing a lot. If you are investing on flying to Miami and you've got a, what, 8:00 clock flight out of here?
G
Yeah. 7:55. And it's like an hour and 10 minutes away and I'm not there yet.
D
Just because I don't really trust Bert's memory from reading his email, will you tell us the background of this date you've got this weekend?
G
Okay.
B
Yeah.
G
I do want to first of all clear up. My dad and my mom are divorced and my dad is totally 100% against this, but my mom is dating a man who's a really great guy. And this is a friend of his, and he does live in Virginia. And I'm actually flying this morning to Jacksonville, and he's going to pick me up in Jacksonville this morning and fly me down on his plane to Miami. He's a pilot, so he does have, you know, transportation here and there. But he is 48. I am 24, and we've been talking on the phone for just over a week now. And he seems to be a nice guy. So we'll see how it goes.
E
All right.
B
404-741-1005 Let the judging begin.
E
Not going to judge. I'm just going to ask some questions and I like to ask these questions of Jen and Melissa. As of you. Like, do you think in your mother's role is protector, she should raise a red flag about you meeting this man for the first time and not only having him pick you up at the commercial airport, but then driving you to his private plane and getting on a plane with you.
B
You don't think it's safe?
E
No.
G
Well, I did talk to my mom about that and she's definitely. She thinks he's a really nice guy. She's met him a few times. I mean, she's talked to him a lot, but she's met him a few times and he's been flying for 23 years. We don't think the whole plane is. She's gonna be like dangerous. But he seems to be a really.
E
Nice guy at the plane. It's the alone with him and Jen and Melissa would. You're any circumstance where your mom would be.
F
Okay, Well, I think. Well, let me ask Janice a question, because my answer is, do you consider your mom your best friend?
G
I do, yeah.
F
Because I think the difference between me and Millie Pete is I don't consider Millie Pete my best friend. She's still my mom. So I would never like share dating experiences or, you know, anything like that with her. Like she, there's still this hierarchy, so. No, no.
E
Wouldn't you ask your mom though if you told her the story of. Yeah, I'm flying to Jacksonville, I'm getting on this guy's private plane. I've never met him before. Talk to him on the phone a few times. Even if your mom had met him two or three times.
B
As a father, I think there's a.
F
Difference between being best friends with your mom and a mother daughter. Because some women consider their mother their best friend and not somebody who is their mother.
B
Right. Janice, let me ask you this question also about this guy because I think as a parent, you obviously want to set your children up with somebody that can provide a future for them. And what you're talking about is a 48 year old man that has his own jet, so he's doing really well for himself. Do you think that your mom could be swayed just because the dude obviously has a lot of money?
G
I don't think so. I mean, she's really not that type of person. I do want to clear up one more thing. She is actually my dad's second ex wife. So she was my stepmom at the age of 12 and till 17 when they divorced.
E
So she's not, she's not your biology.
G
No, she's not my biological mom, but she became, you know, my mom figure at age of 12 and then they divorced at 17 when I was 17. And so since then is when, you know, we've been like best friends since then. So it's not my biological mom though.
B
Here's where I think the comfort of and the security of the money comes in. I think that her mom is looking at a guy that is doing really, really, really well. And when you've got that kind of cash and that kind of security for your daughter, then all of a sudden that guy becomes a lot better catch. I think maybe.
F
Well, I don't.
G
I've dated older men before too though.
B
You have? How many, how many older men have you dated?
G
Significantly older? 3.
E
Betty's boyfriend significantly older is double your age or older.
G
I dated when I was 17, a man who just turned 49 last month.
F
Oh my goodness, Janice.
G
And for three years I dated a man who just turned 40 December. So he was only 20 and a half years older than me.
B
What kind of 49 year old man would date a 17 year old girl?
E
Pedophile.
G
She was like 41 then or so.
B
Even so 41 and 17, that's.
E
Yeah, somebody's looking for a daddy.
G
I'm quite. No, no, I'm very mature.
E
Right.
G
I'm really Janice.
D
Do you, I mean you don't. So you don't have any issues with the age difference?
G
Not the age difference, just. It was just a little bit weird that my mom was like okay with it and setting me up with them because I date. The age difference doesn't bother me. I date older men anyways.
B
For what reason?
G
Just, I mean they don't, they're over the whole playing games. They don't want to have to date everyone every time. It's not every weekend you have a new boyfriend, a new date. I mean it's just something that's more steady and they're content with just one person.
E
Let me tell you something, if you're a 41 year old guy dating a 17 year old, you're all about playing games.
G
But I'm not 17 anymore though.
B
Go ahead, Jen.
D
Janice, have you ever dated a guy your own age?
G
Yeah, I did. I've been out on a couple dates recently. I've recently lost £68 and so I've tried to been dating a lot more and I dated a man who was 29 years old, we went out twice and he decided to just ignore me. And I've seen him probably three times since then and never wants to explain what happened. You know, just stop talking to me. And every time I date someone who's young, it's like all of a sudden this is what I want and I'm a nice person, I don't change anybody and it just doesn't ever work out.
B
And you said you've lost 68 pounds?
G
Yeah.
D
Do you think he expects to sleep with you this weekend?
B
Yes.
G
I don't think so.
B
Oh, Jen is.
E
Yes, he does.
B
I'm trying not to be judgmental of all these, of all of this, but I gotta tell you from a guy's perspective that if he's picking you up, taking you down there, flying you down there, you guys are spending the whole weekend in his hotel room. This man is expecting something physical over the weekend.
G
Now I did come prepared for that, but I talked to my mom last night when I dropped my daughter off at her house and she said now just want to let you know because she talked to her boyfriend, she said he may not try anything because he's a really Nice guy, and he's a gentleman. Don't you just throw yourself on him? But, I mean, I'm prepared if that happens. But I do a little shopping.
B
Let me just ask one more piece of the puzzle real quick. How long have you been talking to him on the phone?
G
Just over a week. I talked to him for the first time last Sunday, and he asked me to go to Miami with him on Monday.
B
Two weeks, so, yeah.
G
Two weeks. Yeah.
B
Okay.
F
Now, Janice, you said your father's totally against this. I want to know the conversation you had with him.
G
Well, he's remarried, and I actually told his wife first. Break it to him. And he told. He got on the phone, he said, now, Janice, with his real stern voice. And I was like, yes, Daddy. He said, I don't think you should go. I'm totally against this. I don't think this is the right thing. And you know what he's after, and we don't need to talk about this, but it's just, you need to be very careful, and I don't think this is what you need to do. But, Daddy, he's a nice guy. He said, I don't care how nice he is. You don't need to go.
B
You don't know that he's nice. I mean, you've only talked to him for two weeks.
E
Just he's nice. Three. Just three quick questions. One, do you know. Do you know what he looks like?
G
Yeah.
E
Did he pay for your plane ticket down to Jacksonville?
G
Yes.
E
And.
B
I'm a little nervous about this. He seems nice in two weeks kind of thing. You don't know. I mean, you have no idea.
G
I have no idea. But on the phone he seems nice, from what I've heard. And my mom says he's nine.
B
Yeah. That guy that would flee to England a couple of weeks ago after doing that to his family. Everybody said Senior seemed like a really nice guy also, and they knew him for years.
G
I didn't hear about that.
E
I remember my third. Third question. Are you at age 24? And you said, you've got it. You said you took your baby over to your mom's house. Are you starting to feel like you're getting a little too old not to have a father figure for your child?
G
Not right now. I definitely think it's an important thing for a child to have a father. She does ask the question of, why do I not have a daddy? But, you know, I have answers to those. And she knows that right now she has just a mommy. And I don't really know if I want any man to be her dad right now because she's six years old. And for me to just have some man automatically be her daddy and tell her what to do and try to discipline her, I don't think I could handle that right now.
B
That question goes such to the stereotype of what guys think when they meet single moms, that the stereotype is it's a way easier target because these women are looking for a day.
E
Oh, no, I wasn't even thinking that. My thought was just the fact that she is moving so fast. We just talked to Jen Fallon, like, how long ago? About how she's starting to feel panic as people in her lives are, like, in a relationship and stuff. So it's making me wonder if she's. If Janice here is just panicking that she's 24 years old, she'll never find anyone.
D
I forgot what my question was gonna be for Janice.
B
Let me take one more.
E
There's just so many questions. We're all losing track.
D
Janice, I have a question for you about your daughter. You said daughter. What was her father one of those relationships with an older man?
G
He was 29 when I was 17.
D
He was 29 when he was 17. And do you mind if I ask what happened to that relationship?
G
Yeah, I dated him for four months. I met his parents, great people, and I told him I was pregnant, and he changed his cell phone number, disconnected his pager, and moved. And after we proved paternity, then his family would not speak to me, and I've not spoken to him since. And he is 100% disabled, so he not made to pay child support because of his disability, so he's never seen her. And I haven't talked to him since.
E
After talking to Janice. Bird, are you 100% certain that you and Stacy don't want to try for a daughter?
B
I have never been more certain than I am right now. Hey, Janice, I just. I mean, we're going to talk to you again on Monday morning between 6:30 and 7. Just make a, sure you're okay, and B, C, how it went. But you've got a daughter to protect here also. And I think when you put yourself in a situation like this where you're really vulnerable, you're not only putting yourself in this situation, but you're putting your daughter in that situation too, you know?
G
Okay, well, I've got people calling throughout the weekend on different rotations, so it'll be awesome. Everyone's checking in.
B
Okay.
G
All right.
F
Good luck, Janice.
G
Thank you.
B
I will talk to you Monday So that was the call that we took on Friday. Now this is the call that we took earlier this morning detailing exactly what happened over the weekend.
E
Hey, Janice. Hi, how are you?
G
Good morning. I'm doing good.
E
Are you back in Atlanta?
G
I am.
E
How was your weekend in Florida?
G
Wow. It was definitely a learning experience.
D
That's right. Okay, wait a second. So you flew to Jacksonville, right, and then.
G
Yeah, I almost missed my flight actually.
D
But yes, because you were chatting it up with us too long.
G
I just, I couldn't drive fast enough and I was running late and.
E
Yeah, so you flew Friday morning, when you were on the phone with us, you were getting on a commercial flight down to Jacksonville where you were gonna meet his private plane.
G
Yeah.
E
All right, take it from there.
G
And as soon as I saw him, and he was actually cuter than his picture and I looked really nice and I was quite impressed. I was like, oh, the bird said is gonna kill me on Monday because I'll have so much fun. But as soon as we got to actually flew into Fort Lauderdale, went into our hotel and we were gonna sit our stuff down and go to dinner and excuse me, I just woke up. But as soon as he got there, he started trying and I was like, damn, we just got here and he's already starting this. So I mean, I spent the whole entire weekend just trying to get him off of me.
D
So he didn't even like, try to make any, you know, like small moves? Like, was he trying to kiss you? What was he trying to do?
G
And his small move was we were unpacking our bags and putting our clothes away and he pulls out a box of condoms and says, see what I came prepared. And oh boy, had quite a big preparedness reaction. He bought a 12 pack and needless to say, he didn't need to even bring any because.
D
What did you say?
G
I was like, oh my gosh. And I mean, I was really stunned. I was like, are you kidding? He's like, no, I mean, I think it's very important and safe sex. And I was like, that's not sex at all, honey. And so after I told him that about 20 times and we actually had an okay time.
E
But didn't we tell you that going into it, like, if a guy is gonna fly you on a private plane and stay in a hotel with you.
F
Like, how old is he again?
G
48.
F
Okay, a 48 year old man is not gonna, well, beat around the bush. He's going to want to. I mean, I. I'm not surprised. I mean, it goes with what Jeff said, But on top of that, the fact that he's 48, like, he's.
D
He's old enough.
F
Like, you know what? This is what I want. This is what we're gonna do. Let's go.
E
And plus, you're setting yourself up as a 24 year old woman. You're like, sure, I'll get on a plane with a stranger and fly down and stay in the same hotel room. Like, you know what he's thinking? Yeah, she's into it.
G
Yeah, well, we. We didn't. We had an okay weekend. I was definitely glad to be home yesterday, and I was counting down the minutes on Saturday nights and. But it was an okay time. I had a good experience. But while I was down there, I mean, we do a lot of stuff and. I'm sorry. Will I go out with him again?
F
Will you go out with him again?
G
No, not a chance.
F
Okay.
D
Janice, did you ever, at any point, feel unsafe throughout the weekend?
G
No, not unsafe at all, really, at any time. I could have called any of my friends actually live there in Hollywood, Florida, which is not too far away, or Jacksonville, or my mom. I mean, I could have called anyone and just hopped on a plane or in a car and gone. So I didn't feel unsafe.
E
Now, did you report this back to your mom, who's the one who set you up on the date?
D
Stepmom.
G
I was actually. I was gonna wait until I got home to talk to her about it, but I had actually had a little too much to drink on Saturday, and I ended up calling her Saturday night, and I was just telling her everything. I'm like, this man won't quit hitting on me. This is disgusting. But, you know, she apologized. I'm so sorry. So I thought he was such a nice guy, and so I guess you never really know anyone until you're actually in a personal setting with him. So she felt really upset, you know, really bad about it, but I mean, it's not her fault and needed to go through it. At least it was with someone that was not going to take advantage totally of the situation and, you know, let it come out.
E
All right, so where did you guys still stayed in the same hotel room?
G
Yeah. The whole entire time. And it wasn't until I was leaving that I realized that the sofa pulls out into a bed. So I could have been in the sofa the whole time, and it would have, you know, relieved some of that tension.
F
So you were. You slept in the same bed with him the whole weekend?
G
Yes, but I wore clothes.
E
Okay.
G
And he started off Wearing clothes.
D
Did he start, he started nodding off.
G
He just kept trying and trying and trying. And I was like, no, it was crazy.
D
So you weren't that crazy. It was kind of what we expected. It was just sort of crazy to you?
G
Well, yeah, y' all expected it, but.
F
You were just naive to it.
D
Why was that sort of hard to believe?
G
Because, I mean, I've dated people around his age before and it's never been that way. I mean I just, I mean, I guess all 48 year olds are different.
E
But as we tried to explain to you before when you were on with this Friday, like about the 20 year old guy who's the father of your baby. Like not all 20 year olds are exactly the same. Just like not all 40 something year olds are exactly the same. Like you can't. Just because there's somebody's a certain age, it doesn't mean they've had the same, you know, number of laps around Daytona Motor Speedway.
G
Right.
D
But they all are the, they, they all are the same in that they're men.
B
Yeah.
D
And that, you know, a lot of times we say, I mean it's early so we have to be careful about what we talk about, but we say that, you know, men are interested in the same thing. Especially if they are going this above and beyond for a blind date first weekend.
F
Yeah, that's the difference. Also, I would assume and the other 40 somethings you've dated that you haven't agreed to be on their private plan and go to a different city with them on the first date.
G
Right. That definitely was the first for me, but I'm not against it. I mean, so if anyone else would like to take me on a first date and find me somewhere I'm not, maybe not first date.
F
Hey, guess what, Janice, they're going to expect the same thing this 45 year.
G
Old expected, but not a first date, a third date or something.
E
All right.
D
Do you think that you would do anything differently in the future after this experience?
G
I would have made sure I had my own room and my own rental car and that's about it. I mean we could have had a good time if we were just separated a little bit more so. But I did have a lot of people find me on MySpace and start emailing me and they weren't as negative as they were on the show, but they were definitely still concerned. So I had a lot of emails to write back to you last night.
E
What do you mean find you on MySpace? Just based on the stuff you said on the air, people tracking MySpace I've.
G
Never known that you could find someone that easily, but.
D
Yeah, we said she was from McDonough.
E
Oh, okay. All right, Janice.
G
All right.
D
I'm glad you're home safely. Yeah, agree.
G
All right.
E
And if you have any more dramatic dating stories, I mean, we'll certainly listen to them and give you unsolicited advice that you don't have to take.
G
Well, I doubt I don't have anything that exciting anymore.
E
All right, well, you'd be surprised once those MySpace guys start calling, there's a story behind every one of them.
G
All right, y' all have a good week.
E
Have a great Monday. Take care, Janet.
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Now, that's the first time I heard that. Also, because I had to do some stuff with Burt's big adventure earlier this morning, and I. I contend that she did end up sleeping with that guy this weekend, but she didn't tell him. She wouldn't come clean about it because.
E
She was drunk on Saturday night when she called her mom.
B
She says that she spent the weekend in his hotel room. In the bed with him. Yeah, all weekend long.
D
Been in a mal all weekend.
B
Fended him off all weekend long. She also said on Friday that she did prepare for that. I mean, that's a pretty broad term. I think she ended up hooking up with the dude.
E
See, I could see her not only because he blew it and that guy's an idiot because if he had paced himself a little more, he could have gotten it, but because he, you know, first thing he unpacks out of his, you know, carry on. Is the boxing. Slow down, chief.
B
If he just is cool about it in the beginning, he probably has a fantastic over the weekend or even plays hard to get.
E
And, you know, she's on him like white on price.
D
No, you didn't.
E
Couldn't think of anything else.
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Original Air Date: November 3, 2025
Podcast Host: Pionaire Podcasting
Episode Focus: Janice's First Date Friday – The Full Blind Date Recap
In this episode of The Bert Show, the team revisits one of their popular "First Date Friday" segments featuring Janice, a 24-year-old listener whose stepmom set her up on a blind date with a 48-year-old pilot from Virginia. The episode is presented in two parts: the Friday morning call before Janice embarks on her date, followed by a Monday morning follow-up where Janice recounts her weekend experience in Florida.
[00:47 – 05:26]
Quote – [02:32]
Janice: "My dad and my mom are divorced and my dad is totally 100% against this, but my mom is dating a man... This is a friend of his... I'm actually flying... to Jacksonville and he's going to pick me up... and fly me down on his plane to Miami. He's a pilot... He is 48, I am 24, and we've been talking on the phone for just over a week now..."
Concerns Raised by the Hosts:
Quote – [05:45]
Host: "When you've got that kind of cash and that kind of security for your daughter, then all of a sudden that guy becomes a lot better catch..."
[06:01 – 12:14]
Quote – [06:15]
Janice: "I dated when I was 17, a man who just turned 49 last month... for three years I dated a man who just turned 40 in December..."
Quote – [11:48]
Janice: "I told [my daughter's father] I was pregnant. And he changed his cell phone number, disconnected his pager, and moved... He's never seen her. And I haven't talked to him since..."
[12:14 – 12:51]
Quote – [12:20]
Host: "You've got a daughter to protect here also... when you put yourself in a situation like this where you're really vulnerable... you're putting your daughter in that situation too, you know?"
[13:01 – 19:32]
Quote – [14:26]
Janice: "He pulls out a box of condoms and says, 'See, look, I came prepared.' [...] He bought a 12-pack, and needless to say, he didn't need to even bring any..."
Quote – [14:48]
Janice: "I was like, oh my gosh. And I mean, I was really stunned. [...] I told him that about 20 times and we actually had an okay time."
Quote – [15:13]
Host: "A 48-year-old man is not going to, well, beat around the bush. He's going to want to... I mean, I'm not surprised."
Janice slept in the same bed but stayed clothed, "counting down the minutes" until departure.
She reports her stepmom apologized and realized she didn't know this man as well as she thought.
Quote – [16:25]
Janice: "[My stepmom] apologized, 'I'm so sorry. [...] I guess you never really know anyone until you're actually in a personal setting with him.'"
[18:47 – 19:32]
Quote – [19:07]
Janice: "I would have made sure I had my own room and my own rental car... we could have had a good time if we were just separated a little bit more..."
[20:15 – 21:13]
Quote – [21:01]
Host: "If he just is cool about it in the beginning, he probably has a fantastic time over the weekend..."