Vault: Guys Panel Part 1: Woman ask men dating questions

Summary

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The Bert Show: Vault - Guys Panel Part 1: Women Ask Men Dating Questions (June 17, 2026)

Episode Overview

In this lively, candid episode, The Bert Show hosts a panel of single men to answer women’s burning questions about dating from a male perspective. The roundtable, featuring personalities from Atlanta's radio and entertainment scene (including Southside Steve, Dalva Quince from Body Sculpting Inc., Brian Duke of "The Bachelorette" fame, and Dutch from 99x promotions), offers an unfiltered look into what men really think about dating, attraction, approachability, and relationships. The episode is full of humor, debate, and practical takeaways for single women looking to better navigate the dating scene.

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Panel Introductions

Timestamp: 01:31-04:18

• Host (Birch) sets the scene, dubbing this the "Single Girl Boot Camp grand finale" and introducing the panel of "hall of fame" single guys.
• Southside Steve: Radio personality from Rock 100.5, known for his outspoken, cheeky humor.
• Dalva Quince: Owner of Body Sculpting Inc., brings an energetic, gym-enthusiast perspective.
• Brian Duke: Former "Bachelorette" contestant, known for his infamous naked pool jump.
• Dutch: Promotions director for 99x and Rock 100.5, brings nightlife experience.

Memorable quote:

• Birch: “As I look around the room, this is hall of fame stuff right here.” (01:31)

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Key Dating Questions & Insights

1. Why Don’t Some Women Get Attention at Bars/Clubs?

Timestamp: 04:19-05:33

• Initial reactions were blunt:
  • Brian Duke: “She’s not hot, pretty much.” (04:52)
• Panel debates the notion, with banter about women traveling in groups that may (strategically or not) highlight certain friends.
• Southside Steve: "Hot girls travel with ugly girls to stick out more.” (05:06)
• Female panelists dispute that theory, seeking more nuanced insight.

Group Size Advice:
Timestamp: 05:47-07:51

• Ideal group for approachability: Three is the magic number.
  • Brian Duke: "No guy is gonna have the guts to come up to a group that big [8–9]. Three is manageable." (06:24–06:48)
  • Dalva Quince: “With three, you have two that can talk to each other if you’re interested in one.” (06:50)

Practical Takeaway:

• If you’re with a larger group, break off into smaller groups of three.
• Groups of three or four are best for approachability; large groups intimidate men.

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2. Are Men Turned Off By Sexually Aggressive Women?

Timestamp: 07:54-10:32

• Caller Sophia asks if men are put off by women who are the more aggressive/initiating partner sexually.
• Panel immediately debunks this:
  • Dalva Quince and Southside Steve: “No, that’s not true.” (09:05)
  • Dutch elaborates: Sometimes, if a man is put off, it’s more about his own insecurity or mismatched preferences, not the woman’s confidence or initiative. (09:08)

Honest Moments:

• Southside Steve: “I had a school teacher I dated that [wanted sex] three a day...it was too much for me, I can honestly say.” (10:09)

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3. Are Men Hunters? Should Women "Let Them Hunt"?

Timestamp: 10:32-12:47

• Female panelist asks about the common advice: “Men are hunters. Let them hunt. How true is that and why?”
  • Panel agrees it’s true – men like the thrill of the chase.
  • Brian Duke: “Men want what they can’t have...once that thrill, once that chase is over, in a lot of cases, then it’s done.” (11:36)
• Southside Steve offers tactical advice:
  • “When you go out on a date, give him a nice kiss, but get out of the car. It’s going to drive him nuts. ... Make him earn it ... I wouldn’t give up the home run for a couple months.” (12:07–12:47)

Memorable moment:

• “Any girl that’s ever played me like that...I was into her like a freight train.” – Southside Steve (12:47)

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4. Are Men Intimidated by Very Attractive Women?

Timestamp: 13:05-14:46

• Caller Carter asks: “Are guys intimidated by really pretty girls?”
  • Brian Duke: “There is a certain intimidation that goes along with being really, really hot. And you know who you are.” (13:36)
  • Panel discusses that super attractive women often feel pressure to maintain their appearance, leading to potential insecurities.
    • Dalva Quince: “You get compliments, compliments... After a while, you’re like, ‘Okay, I gotta keep this up.’” (14:15)

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5. How to Spot a Player vs. a Relationship-Minded Guy

Timestamp: 14:47-17:55

• Female panelist asks: “How can a single girl recognize who’s a player and who’s maybe there for a relationship?”

  • Dutch and panel agree: "All guys, in a sense, will be players if they could be, until they find the one person that makes them not be a player." (15:09)
  • If a guy is out actively dating, he’s probably a player for this period, but it may change if he meets someone special.

• Southside Steve identifies warning signs:

  • “If a guy is just totally trendy...there are guys that give off those signs... steer clear of the douchebags...watch how guys are dressed and carry themselves.” (16:28–17:04)

• Honesty is important in early dating, but women should allow men to date around during the getting-to-know-you stage.

Quote:

• “If I’m going out with four girls, it does not mean I’m a bad guy. It means I’m at different stages. I’m testing it out. ... If he’s into you, he’ll come to the table.” (Southside Steve, 17:38–17:55)

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Memorable Quotes

• Brian Duke: “She’s not hot, pretty much.” (04:52)
• Southside Steve: “Hot girls travel with ugly girls to stick out more.” (05:06)
• Dalva Quince: “With three [women], you have two that can talk to each other if you’re interested in one.” (06:50)
• Dutch: “All guys, in a sense, will be players if they could be.” (15:09)
• Southside Steve: “If I’m not in [a relationship], there are no rules. Dating is dating. ... If I’m going out with four girls, it does not mean I’m a bad guy.” (17:07–17:38)

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Notable Moments and Tonal Highlights

• Frequent banter and playful digs among the guys, balancing blunt honesty and humor.
• Female panelists push back on “shallow” male logic, extracting more nuanced perspectives.
• Panelists stress confidence, group dynamics, maintaining a bit of chase/mystery, and managing expectations.

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Key Takeaways for Single Women

1. Group size at bars/clubs matters – go out in threes for maximum approachability.
2. Sexual confidence isn’t a turn-off – be yourself.
3. Let men do some of the chasing – don’t rush physical intimacy.
4. Super attractiveness can come with its own social challenges – don’t assume beauty means confidence.
5. Most men “play” until inspired to commit – look for genuine connection and honesty rather than superficial cues.

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• [01:31] – Panel introductions & chemistry
• [04:40] – "What are single women doing wrong in bars?"
• [06:45] – Ideal group size for women at clubs (three is best)
• [07:54] – Are men put off by sexually aggressive women?
• [10:32] – Are men "hunters," and should women let them chase?
• [13:05] – Are men intimidated by attractive women?
• [14:47] – How to spot a player versus a relationship-ready guy
• [17:07] – The “rules” of dating and honesty in relationships

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Summary
This episode delivers a frank, humorous look at the single men’s psyche with actionable advice for women navigating the dating world. The panel doesn’t shy away from tough truths or playful roasting, offering both entertainment and real strategies for modern dating.

Transcript

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[Southside Steve]

Get it the bird show.

[Host (Birch)]

All right, all week long we have called this the Birch show single girl boot camp. And every day we've highlighted just a. A different way for women that are single in Atlanta. Sort of just get the best out of being single here, right? And today is like the grand finale. We got the single guy panel and this one, this, this is hall of fame stuff right here. As I look around the room, this is hall of fame.

[Southside Steve]

This is gonna be good.

[Host (Birch)]

Southside Steve from our rock station, rock 100.5.

[Southside Steve]

The regular guys. I was told to say that at least once.

[Host (Birch)]

I just heard, I heard the instructions.

[Southside Steve]

Yeah, he came in to make sure you knew it was that him playing

[Host (Birch)]

alpha dog right there?

[Southside Steve]

Pretty much.

[Host (Birch)]

Okay.

[Southside Steve]

Larry's a little upset that he's not in here, but he just doesn't have the skills.

[Host (Birch)]

Well, he's not a single guy either.

[Female Panelist]

Yeah, wouldn't matter to be single.

[Host (Birch)]

He thinks he's the expert on it.

[Southside Steve]

Yeah.

[Host (Birch)]

Okay. My friend Dolvette, who we've been talking to this morning from Body Sculpting Ink.

[Dalva Quince]

Body Sculpting Inc. Dalva Quince, 31. I'm done. I'm done. I'm joking. You have the address. Look at.

[Host (Birch)]

I would bet that if you. For every time you say Body Sculpting Ink today, if I got a dollar, I'd be up about $100 today by the end of the show.

[Dalva Quince]

I'm gonna go with 250, but he's probably right.

[Host (Birch)]

Here is Brian Duke. What's going on? Brian, good morning.

[Brian Duke]

How are you?

[Host (Birch)]

Now, were you on the Bachelor? Bachelorette.

[Brian Duke]

Bachelorette, okay. Rapidly punted off the show.

[Host (Birch)]

So you were the dude that jumped into the pool naked?

[Brian Duke]

Yeah.

[Host (Birch)]

Okay. That's how you'll know him.

[Dutch]

Yeah.

[Southside Steve]

Well, obviously you're a shower and not a grower, otherwise you wouldn't have done that.

[Brian Duke]

Exactly.

[Host (Birch)]

Brian, I working out at Body Sculpt and Ink now for months and months and months and I never knew you were on that TV show.

[Brian Duke]

Yep, never.

[Host (Birch)]

All right. And here's Dutch also.

[Brian Duke]

Hello.

[Spin Quest Announcer]

Hello.

[Host (Birch)]

What's going on, dude?

[Dutch]

You know, another beautiful day. Another beautiful day. It was a little bit. A little bit of a late night. Ended up hanging out for this winter parts thing. And then the. The production company, production crew from MTV is doing a new show with Teen Wolf. Suppose they're in town filming that. So it was late.

[Host (Birch)]

Okay, now the last time you were on one of these panels, didn't you live with like a girl the last time you were on the show?

[Dutch]

Yeah, I had a long term girlfriend. It was the last time I was on the show and. And it didn't work out, clearly.

[Bluff]

Why are you still here?

[Host (Birch)]

Clearly, that's why you're on today.

[Dutch]

So. Yeah, yeah, that's. That was about a year ago. So I've been back in the single game for about a year now and it's pretty great. Are you loving it or has it

[Host (Birch)]

been harder than you thought it was going to be? Is it easier than you thought?

[Dutch]

It's actually fortunately, because of my job, I spend my entire life out, you know, out on the city doing different events, going.

[Female Panelist]

What is your job?

[Dutch]

99x promotions, director and rock 100.5 with Southside Steve.

[Southside Steve]

I'm glad to see that was so secondary. You actually had to think about it. Oh, yeah, I do that rock station, too, with that guy over there. Explains a lot.

[Dutch]

You're representing the Rock today.

[Brian Duke]

I'll do 99X.

[Southside Steve]

Okay.

[Dutch]

I gotta wear two hats.

[Bluff]

All right.

[Host (Birch)]

All right. So if you have any questions, if you're a single girl and you've got any questions for the single guy panel. 404-741. Q100. All right, the first one that we normally get is. This one here is, what am I as a woman? What am I doing wrong? Single women. You're in a bar, you're in a club, and they can't get any attention at all. What's the thing that they're doing wrong?

[Southside Steve]

Anybody want to jump on it? I got an idea. You got one?

[Dalva Quince]

Yours Go or Dutch.

[Dutch]

So girls, basically, she's not getting any attention. She's sitting against the bar with her friends.

[Host (Birch)]

But all of her friends always get attention and she doesn't.

[Brian Duke]

Real easy.

[Host (Birch)]

She's not hot, pretty much.

[Brian Duke]

I mean, let's just go ahead and call it like it is.

[Dalva Quince]

She's not hot. One to ten. One to ten. One to 10.

[Host (Birch)]

So unattractive girls should never go out because they're never going to get attention, which is totally opposite of what you just told Ryan.

[Dutch]

That's not true.

[Southside Steve]

Well, hot girls travel. It's true. Hot girls travel with ugly girls to stick out more girls that. That are hot or safe. If you're a girl.

[Female Panelist]

That is so not true.

[Southside Steve]

No. Yes, it is. If a girl's a seven, she's gonna hang out with a five to take herself up to a notch to get the action.

[Host (Birch)]

Oh, y'.

[Dalva Quince]

All.

[Southside Steve]

Y' all say that because you're like, we're with everybody. But, you know, you hang out with your hot friends when you're having a bad day and when you're having a. When. When you need a guy, you hang out with your not friends.

[Dalva Quince]

But these are sevens.

[Brian Duke]

I was about to say Steve just called you guys.

[Dalva Quince]

He just called you a three.

[Southside Steve]

I didn't say. No, I didn't say his opinion doesn't matter. No, I did not say that about them. I wasn't talking about anybody in this room. I'm talking about in general. Bert. I think that's the case. I think that the girls know which of their friends is unattractive. They do.

[Female Panelist]

I disagree with that because I feel like. No, they do. I feel like I run with a pretty hot crew. Girls but my, my point and clarifying maybe Bird's question is, what's the perfect number of girls to travel in? Like, if they're gonna travel in a pack and they wanna meet guys, what's the perfect number of women in that group for safety? Well, they're not coming to your bar. They're maybe going somewhere else.

[Southside Steve]

You're talking about safety routes. Seven are on a call.

[Female Panelist]

We're trying to help single girls, like, learn some things, right? So if you're gonna be in an approachable, like, manageable group where guys are gonna come over and talk to you.

[Brian Duke]

What if you're in a group of girls that's got, you know, there's eight or nine of you at a birthday party or whatever, that's gonna be a challenge. And no guy is gonna. I mean, well, most guys aren't gonna have the guts to come up to a group that big and they protect each other and starts, you know, running game on somebody right in front of all of her friends. Because if he fails and he's, you know, he looks like a total chump in front of her and, you know, a whole host of people.

[Southside Steve]

Your trainer's right. He's holding up fingers. He's nailed it. It's three.

[Brian Duke]

Three.

[Dalva Quince]

Because what happens with three is very simple, is three women, you have two that can talk to each other if you're interested in one.

[Host (Birch)]

All right, so the advice here, even if you're out in a big group though, a group of eight women, what you're saying is if a group of three of those eight just want to separate a little bit and go to a little table, one of those stand up tables by themselves, they may get way more attention than that than if they do hang with the.

[Dalva Quince]

Probably, yeah.

[Southside Steve]

Any guy will approach a table three because he's right. Because you don't feel bad taking the girl off table two. You take the girl, then the girl's by herself.

[Dalva Quince]

She's standing there like, now what do I do?

[Southside Steve]

It's not gonna work, dummy.

[Female Panelist]

So what would be the second best if you don't have three? Like four. Yeah, three or three or fours.

[Dalva Quince]

Anything like seven or eight or nine. So you know what? Y' all go have a good time.

[Female Panelist]

I feel like they're on, like girls night.

[Dutch]

That's usually a bachelorette party. And you don't even go near that.

[Host (Birch)]

This is major league stuff. You're four approaching four.

[Southside Steve]

You can do it.

[Host (Birch)]

For a guy like me, that would be, I'd be intimidated by that.

[Female Panelist]

So three is the gold number.

[Bluff]

Yep.

[Female Panelist]

That's good advice. That's really good advice, because I think girls sometimes go out in pairs and don't think that that would be sort of an obstacle for meeting dudes.

[Host (Birch)]

Here's Sophia. Good morning, Sophia. You're on with our Single guys panel.

[Caller (Sophia/Carter)]

Hi, guys. How are you? I listen to you guys every morning on my right to work.

[Host (Birch)]

Thanks. What's up?

[Caller (Sophia/Carter)]

I have a question. My ex told me that, well, in our relationship, I was actually the most. The more aggressive one with. When it came to sex. And he told me that guys are actually put off by girls who. Who are sexually aggressive, who are really

[Dalva Quince]

punk. Oh.

[Spin Quest Announcer]

Oh.

[Host (Birch)]

Put off by what? He was put off by you being sexually aggressive.

[Brian Duke]

Yeah, that's not true.

[Caller (Sophia/Carter)]

And I was just. I was stunned. I was like, so you don't want sex?

[Host (Birch)]

So let's define this. So you wanted it more than he did, and he was telling you that that's sort of crazy that guys are turned off by that.

[Caller (Sophia/Carter)]

Yes. That if I was single, that I wouldn't. That I wouldn't have a response to guys or guys wouldn't have a response to me because I am a little bit more aggressive than most, I guess.

[Dalva Quince]

So Dutch is like, call me.

[Southside Steve]

And you know what? When you're done with him, call me same night. I don't care.

[Host (Birch)]

So not true is what I'm hearing.

[Southside Steve]

No, that's not true.

[Dutch]

I think, and this is the weird part about that, is that you kind of look a little bit deeper into what that means, like, what that conversation sounded like. Because what it sounds like to me is maybe he didn't really like you being too aggressive. And maybe either he was insecure about it and can't handle that aggressiveness, or he didn't. No offense, didn't like what you were doing, and it was too aggressive for him because maybe there was some physical. You know, maybe it was a little harder, something that he liked, maybe it was a little tougher. And, you know, I think that's a little more unique than you being aggressive. There are guys out there that are like that.

[Caller (Sophia/Carter)]

Right.

[Host (Birch)]

We've talked to guys on. On the show before that we've had to put on the voice disguiser that said that they couldn't keep up with their girlfriends. And it's embarrassing as a guy because, I mean, that's what you're. I mean, that's what your manliness is based on right there. So you could see that if guy couldn't keep up with his girlfriend, how he tried to play that mind game with her and tell her that, you know what? Most guys don't even like that.

[Dalva Quince]

Here it is. Body Sculptor, Inc. Dot com. That will do it every time. Stamina. Stamina. That's one. That's one dollar. That's one dollar.

[Southside Steve]

I'll be honest with you. I had a school teacher. I dated that three a day. And it was too much for me. I can honestly say that I was like, literally three times a day, and I'm like, you know what?

[Dalva Quince]

Did you have a job?

[Southside Steve]

No. Yeah, dude, you'd be surprised. I multitask.

[Host (Birch)]

But it must have been very difficult for her to conjure up fantasies, all those other guys while she was with you every day.

[Southside Steve]

Wow. I'll let you have that one.

[Caller (Sophia/Carter)]

All right.

[Female Panelist]

I had a single girlfriend who gave me some advice, and she said, men are hunters. Let them hunt. How true is that and why?

[Dalva Quince]

Very, very true.

[Southside Steve]

Very true.

[Dalva Quince]

Do you want that one?

[Brian Duke]

Yeah, tell me about it.

[Dalva Quince]

Brian.

[Brian Duke]

Well, I mean, guys, just by nature. Well, by my nature is to go out. And, I mean, Olvette and I have talked about this, and I've always said that men are as single or as faithful as their opportunities. In a city like Atlanta, there are hundreds of thousands of single people that are very attractive. And so when you have that coming at you all day long, every day, everywhere you go, especially if you live inside the perimeter or wherever, you've got a lot of options. And if you're out and about in the scene a lot, you like that. You like that hunt. You like that thrill of chasing someone. And once, I mean, it's just like anything else. Once you know you've got them, you don't want them anymore.

[Female Panelist]

So what does that. What does that mean for single girls? Because remember, this whole panel is to, like, help single women in the dating world. So what does that mean for them? Be less available? In what way does that translate for a single girl?

[Brian Duke]

Men. Men want what they can't have. I mean, and once that thrill, once that chase is over, in a lot of cases, then it's done.

[Lady Luck]

And then.

[Host (Birch)]

So define that. Then what does that mean? Don't call back within three days. What does that mean? Chasing means what?

[Southside Steve]

Well, I think what he's. What he's trying to say. Don't talk about it. If you talk about it, girls that all of a sudden, like, if I go out on a date with a girl, on the second she says, look, you know, I'm not going to sleep with you tonight, the second she says that, it tells me she's either bought into my reputation. Or she's, or she's, or she's just on guard. And all that tells me is, wow, this is only going to take two hours.

[Brian Duke]

Exactly.

[Southside Steve]

That night I will hit. Because you said that if she says

[Brian Duke]

that, it's like, Jim Nance.

[Southside Steve]

Oh, yeah, it's a welcome mat. It's like, oh, this is way too hard. Anytime, you know, everybody warns a girl, don't go near him. Don't go near him. I'm like, ah, this will take about a month, but I'll be there. So you totally agree with this. So what I'm telling girls, since we're trying to help. What you need to do is when you go out with a guy, don't talk about it. There's nothing wrong with having a nice date. When you, when you end the date, give him a nice kiss, but get out of the car. It's going to drive him nuts. Then when you go out again, make him earn it. It's got to be a first base, second base, third base. And I wouldn't give up the home run for a couple months. Any girl that's ever played me like that one girl did that for me for six months. I was into her like a freight train.

[Dalva Quince]

Into her like a freight train. I'm gonna write that down.

[Southside Steve]

You know what? You take that to Body Ink or put that on your wallet. Body sculptor. IMC body ink. Here is Jesus. $3.

[Dutch]

Let's go.

[Host (Birch)]

Here's Stephanie. Good morning. You're on Q100 with the guys panel.

[Dutch]

Go ahead.

[Caller (Sophia/Carter)]

Hi, guys. I love y'. All. I have a question. Are guys intimidated by really pretty girls?

[Host (Birch)]

I love this question, Carter.

[Caller (Sophia/Carter)]

For them to come up and talk to you.

[Host (Birch)]

I love this question. We get it every time we do one of these because I think this is a great excuse for good looking women that aren't getting hit on it must. I can hear your friends in your ears. It's only happening because you're so pretty.

[Female Panelist]

It's difficult for beautiful people.

[Southside Steve]

So hard.

[Host (Birch)]

Brian, you want to tackle this one first?

[Brian Duke]

Well, I mean, I think that, you know, and there's a multitude and there's so many beautiful women in Atlanta. So I think there is a certain intimidation that goes along with being really, really hot. And you know who you are. If you're like completely smoking, you're an absolute 10 and so. But as soon as men come to terms with the fact that there's a lot of insecurities that go along with women that are generally that hot, then you know, there's Some way to pick it apart, and there's some way to manipulate the situation in your favor.

[Host (Birch)]

So is it as a general rule, are you saying to yourself that the hotter that they are, the more insecure they are?

[Brian Duke]

Not necessarily, but, I mean, it happens.

[Dalva Quince]

Yeah.

[Dutch]

You're saying that very general, broad term.

[Dalva Quince]

Yeah. Yeah, generally, I would say, yeah, you got to keep that up. You know, you get compliments, compliments, compliment. After a while, you're like, okay, I gotta keep this up.

[Dutch]

I gotta keep this up, or, you

[Dalva Quince]

know, I'm done kind of a thing. You gotta be really centered.

[Dutch]

But you can pick that out too. I mean, you can sense that as you see a girl, she's standing there and she's way too focused on how good she looks and she's really, really

[Dalva Quince]

poor, or she's criticizing everyone else in the room. That's a highlight of, okay, you're too much on the left side. You need to.

[Southside Steve]

Yeah, don't come across that high maintenance. Nobody wants to deal with that.

[Dalva Quince]

Definitely.

[Spin Quest Announcer]

Gotcha.

[Female Panelist]

I want to know, how can a single girl recognize who's a player and who's maybe there for a relationship? Because I think a lot of single girls out there are eventually looking for a relationship, and a lot of single guys out there are looking to get some. So how is she able to determine who you are?

[Dutch]

I have something to say about that because

[Dalva Quince]

it's a good thing.

[Dutch]

You got a mic. Well, here's the thing. I think all guys, in a sense, will be players if they could be. If they could be players. If every guy could be a player, they would do it for a short amount of time, for whatever, until they find that one person that makes them not be a player.

[Southside Steve]

Exactly.

[Dutch]

So it's like, you know, sometimes you live your whole, you know, a year's, two year, three years as a player, and then you find that one, and then, boom, you can be done being a player. Sometimes it's about. It's about the game. It's about having fun and playing that. And then once you find that person, though, you can trip, fall, and then. And then you're done. And then a player thing is over. So for a girl to sense whether the guy's a player or not, if he's out and dating, he's probably a player, Right. For that amount of time, like he is, he's doubt he's out dating. He's looking for somebody either to hook up or to hook up with for a period of time. And then if it works out, then cool, then he'll eventually sway into relationship land.

[Host (Birch)]

Aren't there some dudes out there that are single right now that are looking to be in relationships rather than just be out there to. I mean, because I think most guys that are in clubs are probably just there to hook up, right? You're not looking for relationships. But aren't there some guys that are like that? Or should you just assume all guys just trying to get love?

[Brian Duke]

I mean, there's a reason if you're attracted to some guy. If he's got a great personality, he's a lot of fun, if he's good looking, then I mean, you're attracted to him for some specific reason. Well, there's a lot of other people that are attracted to him for the same reason. And he's probably going to leverage that and take advantage of it.

[Southside Steve]

And guys give off a vibe too, man, if they're just totally trendy. If a guy. I mean, I like Mark Nason boots. I wear them, but I don't wear the tack. But when you see these guys out there with that square toe, that's like making it look like they got a size 15 shoe, but they got a size 4, you know, or, or they're, they're, you know, and I think all of us, I'm looking, we're all fit, we live in the gym. But there are guys that give those signs. Yeah, there you go. But you know, steer clear of the, the douchebags. I mean, you know, it's what you're into if you see the Ed Hardy stuff like that. There are certain affliction shirts I will wear, but they don't have purple and they don't have little sequins on them.

[Host (Birch)]

But a lot of rules.

[Southside Steve]

How about a nice suit? But I'm telling you can watch how guys are dressed and how they carry themselves to whether or not they're just out for the hit. And, and I do disagree. I think guys can be monogamous. I'm not a cheater. I've never cheated in a relationship. But if I'm not in one, there are no rules. Dating is dating. Girls have got to figure out. You've got to know this. When you're dating a guy, he has every right to date somebody else because it's all about figuring out who's the one. And if I'm going out with four girls, it does not mean I'm a bad guy. It means I'm at different stages. I'm testing it out. I'm seeing who I like and I might pick the last one. I started dating.

[Host (Birch)]

So you tell them all about it.

[Lady Luck]

Be honest, right?

[Southside Steve]

You got to be honest. But you girls have to take that into if you want a guy just to be with just you, you're going to have him for three weeks. That's it. And he's going to have sex with you. He's going to walk. You've got to let guys date. Let them figure it out. Be yourself. If he's into you, he'll come to the table.

[Host (Birch)]

Strong words. Southside seat.

[Southside Steve]

Strong words.

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