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Brian
Listen, it's the Vert show.
Bert
This has been the Birch show single girl boot camp week. And today is the finale. We got a panel of single guys in here. Southside Steve from Rock 100 is in here. I got it in for you, dude.
Brian
Yeah, come on.
Bert
Dolvett is here. Brian Duke and we have. Okay, Dutch.
Dutch
Hey,
Bert
that's no statement about you, dude. Than so if you have a question for our single guy panel then give us a call right now. 404-741-Q100. Although the lines are pretty jammed right now. Hey Jesse, what's up?
Caller
Hey, I was just wondering after a date, you guys have a great time, everything goes good. Should you always wait on the guy to call you or text you or like always.
Heather
Always.
Caller
Not even like, hey, had a good time? What are you doing tonight? I'm not talking about like 100 creepy
Dolvett
texts or anything, Mikey. From swingers.
Jesse
Yeah, don't do that.
Dolvett
If you want to. After the date, if you have a good time, sure. Send a note. Hey, had a great time. Good to see you. Let's leave it at that. At the very most, if a guy wants to see you, he will drag himself through a nuclear holocaust to want to be with you and to want to see you.
Jesse
I already know what that is.
Dolvett
I mean, he will absolutely do anything and go to the end of the earth if he wants to hang out with you.
Bert
Like, does it do you any good? Because what she's saying is, I mean, what you just said was even just a one liner saying, hey, thanks a lot, that's fine. Why even do it then?
Dolvett
Well, I mean, that's fine. Just acknowledging that, you know, you had a good time. Or you can if you want to leave the guy guessing. I mean, go completely radio silent.
Jesse
No, don't play games.
Brian
You had a good time. Say you had a good time.
Dolvett
But you say, don't play games. Everybody plays games.
Brian
No, no, no.
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Dolvett
Yes, they do.
Unknown Male Panelist
Yes, you do.
Dolvett
Yes, they do.
Jesse
Everybody.
Dolvett
Everybody.
Kiana
Everybody.
Jesse
Do you play games?
Unknown Male Panelist
Everything's a game. Do you play games?
Dolvett
Absolutely.
Jesse
Do you play games?
Kiana
Absolutely.
Unknown Male Panelist
It is.
Dolvett
And girls in this town are smart. Girls know what they're doing. I mean, they've been exposed to so much BS from guys like me. They know, they know where it's going.
Brian
But that's because you are the, no offense, you are the gamer. You're thinking, we're all gamers. But I don't think that you're not a gamer. Totally not.
Jesse
There's a guy who's completely committed when he's in a relationship.
Dutch
Thank you.
Brian
I'm about to work out at your gym. $4. No, I, I, I disagree with that. I think that you should text after I've had two dates in probably the past two weeks where girls did hit me with the text. Had a really good time. It was good. Seeing this was a lot of fun. And all it tells me is, okay, she's cool, she had a good time. That's checking in, but leave it at that.
Dolvett
Yeah, absolutely had a good time.
Jesse
I loved you. Soon. I love the conversation. Don't give me all that. Just, I had a good time. That's enough.
Bert
That's all you need.
Brian
That's all you gotta do. And that's classy and it's cool.
Bert
A little dude bait, that's all that is.
Dolvett
Yep.
Bert
Okay, Jeff.
Caller
All right.
Lauren
I've got a question about the full disclosure on dating. Like, you guys say, girls should assume that if you guys are dating that they're dating other people. Do you guys also assume that about women?
Dolvett
I do, yep.
Lauren
That they're dating other people. And what is that? Is that a good thing or is that a bad thing?
Brian
I love it.
Dolvett
It's a great thing.
Jesse
It's a good thing. It says that, you know what, you're in the hunt, so to speak, as opposed to hun. So it, you know, you, it qualifies you or not. It qualifies you, but it puts you at a certain. Okay.
Dutch
Makes it more attractive.
Dolvett
Quarterback controversy.
Dutch
If they have options. Because if they have options, it makes them more attractive. Like, well, I'm not the only game in town.
Jesse
You already think she's attractive. That's why you approached her in the first place.
Brian
It takes, you know what it does? It takes the pressure off. Because if I'm going out with you and I know you're dating other guys and I'm like, she's not going to go heavy at me at first. It gives me time to figure out if I even like you. If I decide I do like you, then I'm confident in who I am, that you're going to figure out that I'm the better guy for you and you're going to let the others go. But until I figure it out, it allows this thing to be very relaxed. Girls, you need to be dating more than one person in the beginning.
Lauren
And I think women have a hard time with that because they feel like if they don't say something about it, then they're doing something sort of disloyal or dishonest or whatever. What, what does a woman say or not say in that situation?
Dolvett
Don't say anything.
Lauren
Don't say anything.
Bert
It depends on the situation. At some point it's going to have to come out, though. I mean, if you, I mean, I don't know if it's seven dates or eight dates. Yeah. But eventually you're going to have to have that.
Narrator/Advertiser
Yeah.
Jesse
I mean, you wait for him to
Bert
bring it up though, right?
Lauren
You wait for him to bring up
Jesse
what it comes, it comes on interest. You know, you, as you, as you get more and more interested in a person, you're on date number five. You're on date number seven.
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Jesse
You know, as you're on these dates and you're finding that you're kind of brushing the other guys off. You'll probably say to him, you know what? Just to let you know, I have been or was dating someone. But I like where we are right now. Be honest, be classy, be yourself.
Bert
But we are. We all agree. Are you guys all agreeing that let the guy bring it up?
Dolvett
Yeah, but we're talking seven, eight dates down the road. That's a couple weeks. This isn't after we had drinks after work during happy hour the first time and you're all of a sudden, I dated seven guys.
Brian
This has been the best hour of my life. I've been on the phone, in the bathroom. I've gotten rid of everybody. This is awesome.
Bert
So the advice really that listen to this single women, is that it doesn't ever hurt for you to wait to define the relationship. Let him do it. He'll eventually come to you and say,
Lauren
are we going to eventually bring it up?
Bert
Yes.
Dolvett
If it's going to work and you're cool, it will define itself. You're not going to have to worry about that. It'll just let it happen.
Brian
Let it breathe. Say it again.
Dutch
I would say with some guys, though, some guys will not ever say anything for as long as they have to.
Unknown Male Panelist
How long are we supposed to wait for that?
Bert
Enjoy that time.
Dutch
And there is no right time with Dovette. Saying is that you kind of have to feel it if you're feeling if the girls. If she is at a point where she's letting the other guys go and she stopped calling him back and is starting spending more time with this with you as one person, then that's about the time she says, by the way, we're not super exclusive, but I've stopped sleeping with other people. So they go, you can still go out on a date as long as you don't sleep with them.
Brian
And then, you know, you still feel it. Right.
Dolvett
Well, my best. My best friend is a girl. Her name's Jennifer. And we actually just had this conversation this week. And she's got this guy. She really likes him, you know, but he's not the one. I mean, he just isn't the one. She likes a lot of things about him.
Bert
But did he know that until just now?
Dolvett
Well, he may know it now. We won't say her last name.
Jesse
We met Lucy.
Dolvett
Yeah. So, you know, the thing is, she's asking me. She's like, you know, I don't know. I mean, what do I do? Do I continue seeing the guy? She was like, you know, we're having sex together. But I don't know if this is going to make it long term. But I don't really want him sleeping with other people. And so I'm like, well, you don't have that right. I mean, you just don't.
Bert
Please, let me give this advice. As a guy that's been married for 13 years, let me give this advice to the single population of Atlanta. When you know it's not going to work anymore, get the hell out quick, because there is no, there is no use in staying in a relationship that's not going to be long term for you. This is a city filled with 5 million people, hundreds of thousands of single people. You're gonna be married eventually. Go out and date now. Now do it. Don't stay in a relationship. That's not gonna work. No, absolutely.
Jesse
That's true.
Brian
No, you don't wanna waste any time.
Caller
If you'd like to make a call.
Brian
That person hung up.
Kiana
Yes, I would.
Bert
That's gonna be a good one right there. She wanted to know if an experienced guy is turned off by dating a virgin.
Brian
Ooh, good question. I'll take this one. Absolutely. And no way in hell would I take the virginity away from any girl. No guy should. No guy should do that. Unless. And I'm saying that to any guy. If you do, you are a tool bag douche from the word go. Because she's going to have that awkward look on her face. She might even cry. She might scream, I don't know what. But you know why I don't know? Because I've never done it and I won't do it. If you want to date me, you better be with me.
Lauren
Why does that even have to be a topic of conversation?
Brian
It's going to come up because it's going to be awkward and something that's going to be.
Lauren
So she doesn't want to sleep with you. Like girls that aren't virgins aren't going to want to sleep with you.
Dolvett
There's a.
Brian
No, that's not true.
Lauren
Like, why does. But why does virgin have to bring that in conversation? That is a frustration. Frustration for me. Women who have either very little experience or are virgins, like, wear that like some sort of badge of honor. Just shut your mouth about it.
Heather
Right?
Lauren
Then it's never an issue.
Dolvett
Right? Don't, don't.
Lauren
I mean, until you get to the point where maybe you want to get physical or whatever. But like you said, that's seven or eight dates down the road and then you're talking about a completely different thing. I don't think you need to drop the virgin bomb until you've been dating
Dolvett
for a couple months. In men's eyes, if you're dating someone that's, you know, between the ages of 25, 35, whatever it may be, and she comes at you and says, I'm a virgin, I've never had sex, you're automatically going to be like, whoa, no way.
Bert
Why? What does it say to you?
Dolvett
Says that, you know, if you do wind up having sex with this person, first of all, you're gonna feel guilty for stealing her virginity if you don't have intentions of carrying it through, you know, to the finale.
Brian
True.
Dolvett
Of getting married. And secondly, if you do have sex with her, then she's gonna be very clingy. She's gonna be emotionally attached to you forever. That's just the guy's mentality.
Lauren
That's honest.
Brian
Crying in the bedroom.
Lauren
Thank you for being honest.
Brian
Crying in the bedroom. Never cool. Girls don't do it. If you cry in the bedroom, you're done.
Dolvett
I always cry.
Brian
I don't care what. She won't hold till you start crying.
Dolvett
I cry.
Caller
I crawl out.
Lauren
I guess it's never been that good for her.
Brian
You know, there's been about 40.
Jesse
Wow.
Brian
I know there's been about y'.
Caller
All.
Brian
I know it's happened. Everybody in this room. Cuz I can spot players. I've had probably about 30 or 40 girls that have gotten emotional and I'm like, I'm getting out of this eject tomorrow. It has happened to all of us. And that's when we eject. We're gone. We are plotting our escape right there.
Dolvett
Absolutely.
Bert
Here is Lauren. Good morning, Lauren. You are on with the Single guys panel.
Caller
Hey, Bert. Show and friends, what's going on?
Jesse
Hey, Laura.
Caller
I actually just wanted to know, like, if you're really into a guy and you guys are dating for around like three months and everything's really great, and all of a sudden he just stops calling, stops texting. What does that mean?
Dolvett
He found up something. He found a better opportunity.
Brian
There you go. Yeah, that's a simple.
Dutch
He's with somebody else.
Jesse
No call.
Bert
At the end of the day, does it matter? I mean, if he's not calling and he's not texting, he just stopped. Why do you need an answer? It's over.
Unknown Male Panelist
Women need closing.
Caller
Well, I mean, because like, he keeps popping up, you know, like when you start forgetting them, they come back around and they'll text and see what you're doing. If you want to Out. But it never comes around to that.
Dolvett
That's a little game we like to call push pull. You know, it's. He can look at it. You. You're probably a booty call to the guy. He's got other options that he views as better than you. And he's. I mean, that's just the way it is. I mean, it's tough love. But he. On a Sunday night, when he wants a Sunday girlfriend, that's when he calls you. I mean, he'll probably send you or a text late night when he's out.
Bert
Isn't it weird to you guys to listen to a call like that and say, and she legitimately didn't know the answer to that?
Dolvett
Yeah.
Bert
Like, it seems so obvious.
Unknown Male Panelist
Women need closure. If it was opposite and a girl stopped texting, you wouldn't. You want to know why?
Jesse
No.
Dolvett
We know she's not digging. We know she's not into you. Essentially, that just happened to me.
Dutch
These guys are like. That never happens to me.
Dolvett
They always just keep bothering me.
Lauren
I don't know,
Dutch
what is this? Not calling me, Kidding me?
Brian
But, you know, if you're cool, stupid question. If you're nice guys, a lot of times play it. And I think these guys do the same thing. I'm gonna be nice to every girl. There's not one girl I haven't gone out with that I can't go back out with because I didn't do anything stupid. I didn't yell at her. I didn't. I wasn't mean to her. I was cool. And what I did is I just quit calling. And when you do that, it freaks you girls out, and it allows us to come back for round two when we want to keep in the door. How many girls have you run into six months later in bucket or something like, God, you know, I lost your number. I was going through something. I'll be honest with you. Next girlfriend call back, or my father was sick, and the next thing you know, bam, you're right back, and three days later, you're not calling her again.
Dolvett
Right, Exactly. And that's.
Jesse
That's just disrespectful.
Bert
Look at you.
Dolvett
The combination of chivalry over here for you guys.
Lauren
How many dates do you have to go on before there's, like, an explanation required? Like, if you're like, if a girl's dating a guy for a little while, and then all of a sudden she's kind of, like, not really feeling it, do you just stop calling? At what point does it deserve an explanation?
Bert
Because that's not working for you.
Lauren
It's not working. This was a debate because Wendy had a date with a single dad.
Bert
Yeah. And I think that's a differ. I think that's a different category because
Lauren
Bert was saying that she needed to tell him she wasn't interested anymore. And I said just stop texting her.
Bert
Because for me, like, when you're a single dude, I mean, your time is just so compacted, you know? So rather than you can play games more with guys that don't have kids cause they've got the time to play with it. With a single guy, you just tell him. Cause he just doesn't have time for it.
Dolvett
Right.
Brian
Yeah, I agree.
Jesse
It depends on how much you disclose in every date. You know what I mean? The more you expose how intimate, you know, you can kind of judge it on that too, you know, I don't know how many dates you've been on with him or something like that.
Unknown Male Panelist
Just one.
Jesse
Just one.
Dolvett
Well then, yeah, you don't know the explanation.
Jesse
There is no, it's not necessary.
Bert
Has he text back or called or anything?
Unknown Male Panelist
Nope.
Bert
Yeah, you don't.
Jesse
So it's a wrap. Wrap it up.
Brian
I think the best advice for girls, period. And I think in any relationship, give 100% trust up front. Don't make it something somebody has to earn. Life's too short. Give. It's theirs to destroy. But trust him in the beginning because the guy may not be a player. You got to give somebody a shot. If you're going in there and you got your defense up, it's. You're not going to find it.
Jesse
Or he may be done with being a player.
Brian
True.
Bert
Here is your life, Anna. Good morning, Anna. You're on the Birch Show. Q100.
Caller
Hey, guys, my question is, do you have to dress like a whore to get attention?
Bert
You don't have to, but it helps.
Unknown Male Panelist
That's a great question because I mean, you can go out in jeans and a T shirt and guys won't hit on you, but if you go out with your boobs out, guys will hit on you.
Jesse
I don't necessarily treat you. I think jeans and T shirt girls can go out with that as well. I think if you're hot, you're hot. You know what I mean?
Brian
Pretty face. Pretty face goes a long way.
Jesse
A guy will talk to a girl that works at McDonald's like, we don't care.
Dutch
You could be wearing sweatpants and a flannel shirt.
Jesse
Uniform.
Dolvett
Seriously, it always makes me laugh. Like if we'll go to dinner at Genki or something, which, you know, is always a scene. You get all these younger girls that come in there, and they're all geared up like they're going to some, like, banquet or something. And they've got the Get It Girl gear on, you know, their butt and their boobs hanging out.
Jesse
Get it girl gear?
Dolvett
Yeah, the Get It Girl gear.
Brian
You mean the BP uniform?
Dolvett
Yes, exactly.
Brian
I date a lot of those. The BB girls.
Dolvett
Yeah. And so everything's bb. And my girlfriends that I'm with, they're just chilling. Like, jeans and just outside of prayer, a shirt. And it's like, I love my.
Jesse
What do you.
Dolvett
What are you doing getting all dressed up? You're trying to make a. Trying to put on a show here. And you don't need to do that. I mean, you're a pretty girl. Don't try and mask whatever insecurity you got by trying to dress up. You're going to eat sushi at some dive bar.
Bert
I've heard this before also, like, when I first met him, I was dressing provocatively, right? I was showing everything. And then we started going out, and then he was annoyed by the way I was dressing.
Brian
That's an insecure guy. You don't have time for that. Insecurity and jealousy don't put up with those two qualities in any man.
Jesse
Straight up.
Brian
Straight up. That is. That is going to be destructive. If a guy's going through your cell phone, who are you talking to? Any of that? And so many guys do it, man. You're a piece of property. And that guy's insecure. Let him go.
Dolvett
That's bad news.
Bert
We got time for one more. We could do this for the next three hours. Hey, Heather. Good morning. You're on Q100.
Heather
Hey, good morning. I love your show.
Bert
Thank you.
Heather
I am newly single. I was married for many years and actually started dating the guy when I was 13. So I never dated. I've never dated. And I'm, you know, I'm so new.
Caller
Excuse me.
Heather
To all of this. And I don't have any single friends, really. All my friends are married. So my only option is to go to a bar or, you know, just someplace after work and hang out at the bar by myself. And I just feel like that screams insecurity or that I'm, you know, desperate.
Jesse
I'm gonna give you Brian's number.
Unknown Male Panelist
That's a great question. No, I'd like to go out by myself, too.
Bert
All right, so what. What is your impression of women that go out by themselves?
Jesse
I don't. I'VE gone out by myself. I don't know if it's.
Unknown Male Panelist
I don't, I don't know.
Dutch
I don't know.
Bert
What are you thinking of a woman that's sitting at a bar by herself though?
Jesse
I don't, I don't know.
Brian
She's a huntress.
Dolvett
Yeah.
Brian
Yeah. She's trying to get hers too. I mean, if you're by yourself, that means you're. You're prepared to hook up.
Unknown Male Panelist
Yeah, that's not necessarily true.
Dolvett
That's what we perceive it as.
Dutch
Maybe not hook up, but definitely.
Bert
The question is, Wendy, the question is for the guys, like, what is their impression? Not really what your intention is, but what do these guys think if they see a woman in a bar?
Dolvett
If I see some cougar with, you know, bolt on sitting at the bar by herself, I'm like, oh, she's in it. In it to win it, son.
Brian
He's talking about fake boobs. Fake boobs, yeah.
Jesse
You know what? He has many disease.
Dolvett
No, he has many terms.
Bert
So it's a sign that she is ready to roll.
Dutch
She's ready to meet a guy. Whether or not she's gonna sleep with you, that's whatever. But if she's alone at a bar, she's meeting a guy. That is her prime goal. The girls don't go out to a bars to hang out and watch a game. They go out to meet.
Jesse
So why do we, how do we solve this person's issue though?
Bert
Well, she's just so.
Brian
You can't fix everybody.
Jesse
Yes, sir.
Dutch
Here's what I would say. I would say, you know, start slow. Start slow. Meet some friends at work. Meet some friends at work. Go out just after work and hang out with them. And start slow. Build some friends to go out with. That's the hard part.
Bert
Thanks, Dutch. You've been great, man.
Brian
Appreciate it.
Caller
Thanks.
Brian
Really good.
Bert
Thanks, Brian. Appreciate it, man.
Dolvett
Yep. Dolvett, my pleasure.
Bert
Where you work, dude?
Jesse
Bodyscorping.com $5.
Bert
And Southside. Thanks for coming over, man.
Brian
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Dolvett
There you go. Dealer add ons, whatever you want to say.
Brian
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Episode Title: Vault: Guys Panel Part 2: Women Ask Men Dating Questions
Date: June 17, 2026
Host: The Bert Show
Panelists: Bert, Dolvett, Brian, Dutch, Jesse, Lauren, Kiana
In this lively and candid episode of The Bert Show, the cast hosts a "Single Guys Panel" featuring several single men (and a few women) fielding pressing dating questions from female callers and in-studio co-hosts. The honest, humorous, sometimes blunt responses from the male panel demystify "guy logic" around texting after a date, clarity around exclusivity, handling mixed signals, and what really attracts men. The conversation maintains a playful yet real tone, providing practical takeaways for anyone navigating modern dating.
Timestamps: 02:07 – 04:06
Timestamps: 04:07 – 07:11
Timestamps: 07:14 – 08:28
Timestamps: 08:33 – 10:23
Timestamps: 10:53 – 12:53
Timestamps: 13:02 – 14:07
Timestamps: 14:10 – 14:29
Timestamps: 14:33 – 15:58
Timestamps: 16:22 – 18:26
| Segment | Timestamp | | ------------------------------------------------ | ----------- | | Texting After a Date | 02:07–04:06 | | Dating Exclusivity / Disclosure | 04:07–07:11 | | Breaking Things Off / Moving On | 07:14–08:28 | | Dating Virgins – Honesty from Guys | 08:33–10:23 | | Sudden Ghosting Explained | 10:53–12:53 | | When Explanations are Owed | 13:02–14:07 | | Give Trust Upfront | 14:10–14:29 | | Does Dressing Sexy Matter? | 14:33–15:58 | | Going Out Alone as a Woman | 16:22–18:26 |
Overall, the episode offers a frank, valuable look into how men approach dating, why they do what they do, and how women can best navigate the mixed signals and sometimes confusing behaviors of early romance.