C (1:54)

Yeah, kind of. Just. It was convenient for both of us. I needed a roommate. He didn't have a place because they had just broken up. And so he, you know, he moved in with me.

A (2:05)

Okay, so you took in this wounded bird or this wounded animal and you were trying to heal him and you guys fell in love with each other while he was moved in with you.

C (2:14)

Right. Okay, so now he lives with me. We hadn't been seeing anyone else, but he definitely made it clear that there was no commit. And it was kind of just convenient for both of us. But now we're pretty much. We're obviously a couple we do everything together.

A (2:30)

Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on. We're obviously a couple.

C (2:35)

Well, that's what I had thought until, until a few days ago.

A (2:40)

Did you ever, did you guys ever sit down and have the conversation like, I'm not going to see anybody. You're not going to see anybody. I just want to be with you?

C (2:47)

Well, no, not exactly.

A (2:49)

Okay, alright, go on.

C (2:51)

But basically, a few days ago, he just started acting distant. Maybe about five days ago he started acting really distant. He didn't come home one night and then the next day he was just really cold to me and he started telling me, you know, I told you this is no commitment. I told you no strings attached. And I basically found out that he saw his ex girlfriend again.

A (3:16)

Oh, this is the same one that burned him so badly that he came limping into your house?

C (3:20)

Yeah, exactly. She was horrible. She was so controlling. She talked down to him and it was a really abusive relationship. So now I'm really hurt. I assuming, you know, he's cheating on me and I can't believe that he would go back and get involved with her. I can't even believe it. After all we went through to, you know, to get them to break up for him to be able to break up with her. And now he's hanging out with her again.

A (3:49)

You saved him. You brought him into your house and you saved him and this is how he returns your goodwill by going around and sleeping with his ex? Is that what you're saying?

C (4:00)

Basically, yeah. And so a few nights ago he did come home and he had told me, you know, you can't tell me what to do, no strings attached. And he just kept saying the same line over and over, but it's like he lives with me, gonna be no strings attached, you know. So basically two nights ago I get a text message. I was like, oh, what's this? I opened the text message and it's a picture of him and his ex girlfriend in a very sexual position saying, don't tell me what to do.

B (4:34)

Oh, well, that changes everything.

A (4:36)

What a tool. Yeah, that does change things a little bit.

B (4:40)

It changes it.

A (4:41)

So it's a very. And you're sure it's him? You're sure it's her? It's a very graphic picture.

C (4:44)

Oh yes, very, very graphic.

A (4:46)

Okay.

B (4:47)

And why was his stuff not on the lawn right after you got that?

C (4:52)

I don't know. I'm pretty pissed right now. In fact, I'm so tempted. I just want to send this picture to everyone we know. I want to forward it to his friends and his family. I am just so beside myself. I can't believe that he had audacity to do this after he broke up with her and I took him in.

A (5:11)

So are you. Cause if you do this, this relationship, this friendship, everything is gonna. It's over. You know that, right? So you're ready. You're prepared for that Once you send this picture out?

C (5:23)

I mean, I don't see how we could still be friends after this. After he screwed me over, he basically made a fool out of me thinking that, you know, we were something while he's going behind my back and doing this.

A (5:37)

So do you have. So you have all the phone numbers of all friends, family, co workers also, or are you just keeping this exclusive for friends and family?

C (5:46)

Well, I didn't think about co workers, but maybe that's a good idea.

A (5:49)

Glad I could give that to you.

B (5:51)

I'm curious about the living status. So his stuff is still at your place, right? And you still think you all are roommates, right?

C (6:01)

Well, I mean, he was back here last night, and we kind of got in a huge fight and he stormed off. So his stuff's still here. I don't know what to do now. I don't know how to handle it. I'm just really pissed. And definitely there's no way that we can keep living together.

A (6:17)

All right, let's have a little debate here. Okay? Melissa, I want you to argue on the side of not sending the pictures out.

C (6:22)

Okay?

A (6:23)

And, Jen, I want you to be the malicious best friend that absolutely thinks that the picture should be sent out. So, Melissa, why don't you start? You're high road, Jen, you're low road.

D (6:35)

Got it?

B (6:36)

All right. I think that, you know, any action in the heat of passion is the wrong thing to do. I think that it is a bad idea for you to take that picture. And because you're going to lower yourself to his standard, and I think that you have to be the better person, and you have to understand this. What's gonna hurt him more than sending pictures out of him, you know, doing somebody is to actually let him have a place to live. Like, you just have to say, you know what? The agreement's done. I'm not taking care of you anymore, and that's it. And then just erase the picture.

D (7:05)

I say go ahead and send it out to everybody. Get all the contacts in his cell phone and send it out to everybody because he deserves it. He absolutely sent that to you to be malicious, so why not be malicious right back at Him. Give him a dose of his own medicine and send it out.

A (7:22)

Eye for an eye. You say low road.

D (7:24)

Do it.

A (7:25)

Morning, nicole. You're on Q100 TJ low roach.

E (7:27)

Good morning, guys. My thing is, I honestly. I understand what he did to her was wrong, and I definitely feel for her, but in actuality, she did this to herself. He was very forthcoming with her. He told her exactly what the deal was. And a lot of times as women, we tend to either hear what we want to hear or think. You know what? After a while, I can change his mind. Karma is a son of a gun. It will come back to him. Trust me, sweetie, you don't need to do anything. You don't need to play any cards. It's gonna come back to him, and hopefully you're there to see it when it does happen. But let it go. Let it go and kick him out.

A (8:04)

Here's the part I don't agree with you on. Yeah, she might have brought this on herself, but the way that he handled the breakup part of it was so malicious and so angry and so aimed to be hurtful that I can certainly understand why she'd say, okay, you want to play that game? Then let's go ahead and play that hurtful game.

E (8:23)

And you know what, Burke? I definitely understand what you're saying. But keep in mind, everything that he has told her bad about the ex girlfriend, he's doing the same thing to her. Anytime you're with someone, whether it's a male or female, and they're trashing their ex, what happened with their ex is none of your business. And if they're telling you negative stuff about their exact. Trust me, that person is not honorable. And in the ex will see that. I guarantee it.

B (8:49)

I do think that is a definite red flag. If you get with somebody and they're complaining about the ex, as if the ex did everything wrong and they didn't do anything wrong, it's like, wait a second. Yeah.

D (9:00)

But I do think she was the rebound.

B (9:02)

Oh, for sure. Yeah.

A (9:03)

Although a rebound doesn't usually last that long, though. It's usually.

D (9:08)

Well, how long have you guys been together?

C (9:12)

It's been about a year now.

D (9:13)

Oh, really?

A (9:14)

That's a long time. It's a long rebound.

D (9:15)

Yeah.

C (9:16)

Well, no, no, no. We've been living together for a few months, but we had been friends for a year, so just a few months.

A (9:23)

Maybe.

B (9:24)

I take it he wasn't paying rent?

C (9:26)

Well, he gave me some money here and there, but we didn't split it evenly.

A (9:31)

Stephanie says, send those Damn pictures out. Hey, Stephanie.

C (9:34)

Hey.

A (9:34)

Hey.

D (9:35)

How are y'?

C (9:36)

All?

A (9:36)

Good. How are you?

C (9:37)

I'm good. Yeah.

E (9:38)

When I first started listening, I was like, well, you know, you brought that on yourself. You really shouldn't do that. But when I heard what picture he sent, I think you should send the picture to everyone you can think of.

C (9:49)

I agree. That's what I definitely think I should do.

D (9:53)

I just can't believe he came home last night and you spent the time fighting with him after he sent the picture.

B (9:58)

Yeah, I'm just.

C (10:00)

Yeah. I mean, I don't know. I figured he'd come home eventually, and I definitely had a lot of my mind to say, so I just let him have it. And all he said was, I told you not to tell me what to do.

A (10:12)

There are more calling saying send it out than don't. Hey, Kathy, you're on Q100.

C (10:18)

Hey, guys.

A (10:19)

Mostly women, I should add.

E (10:22)

I have a friend going through a very similar situation. He moved in with a girl, and he told her, you know, we're just going to keep casually dating. She can't get over that he's dating other people. She goes nuts. And I think sometimes girls just get so attached to nothing that you gotta do something crazy to make them go away.

A (10:41)

Now, are you sure you want him away? Because this is definitely gonna do it.

C (10:45)

I mean, how can I continue to live with him after he already did this?

A (10:49)

You can. I can't even believe, like Jen said, you even let him in the house.

C (10:52)

Yeah, I mean, he made it clear what he's going after now and what he wants to do with himself. So, I mean, if he. I don't know, maybe they're back together or something. Who even knows he didn't stay when he was here?

D (11:02)

Bert, don't you always say guys do make perfectly clear.

A (11:06)

Yeah, our actions. I mean, forget about the words. It's all about the actions right here. And he showed you exactly what he's about. This is. If he's capable of doing that, he's capable of doing much worse, right? I mean, that's pretty mean.

C (11:17)

I mean, we had been friends for so long, I thought I knew him really well. And, I mean, I trusted him. I trusted him with my apartment, with, you know, taking him in. And this is how he repeats me.

A (11:28)

Yeah, he's got mean inside of him. I mean, there it is right there.

B (11:32)

He took advantage of you. Period.

A (11:33)

Hey, Casey, you're on Q100. You'll be the last call on this. Go ahead.

E (11:36)

Gullible, gullible, gullible. Girl, Seriously, this girl.

C (11:40)

You. You.

E (11:41)

Honey, you cannot believe anything that a man says to you. The fact that you even let him in your apartment and accepted him in after he told you he didn't want to be with you is absolutely crazy.

A (11:51)

Now, wait a sec. What do you mean? You can't trust anything a guy says to you?

E (11:56)

Absolutely not. You can't trust women either.

C (11:58)

You know, they're.

E (11:59)

They're scandalous at times, but still. The guy is telling you he doesn't want a commitment with you. The only thing she was trying to do is change him. And, yes, what he did was wrong, but she was just hoping in the long run she could change him, and it didn't work. So if I were her, I just let it go.

A (12:13)

Yeah, I got to be honest. I don't think he did anything wrong up until the picture, because it sounds to me like he was telling you where he was at. He's like, no commitment. No commitment. No commitment. You assume that there was. So. Yeah, but, Casey, you're saying you can't trust a man on what he says he's been telling her all along. Look, there's no commitment here. So he has been honest. Now he just turned into an ass, though, about it.

E (12:34)

Well, I mean, the fact that he didn't tell her that he was seeing another woman, of course he's going to tell her that he doesn't want a commitment, so she should obviously know that's what he wants, and he's not going to tell her. Yeah, she should be smarter than that. For a woman to know, she should.

C (12:50)

Have been smarter than that.

B (12:51)

And the language you used was he made it clear that no commitment. Like, you use that language. So he made it clear. You admit he made it clear. And then you used the, you know, the powers of your assumption to think that all of a sudden you could create this fantasy world and it didn't exist.

A (13:06)

Chaz wants to tell you that if you send these pictures out, that it may be pretty dangerous. Hey, Chaz.

F (13:12)

Hey. How's it going?

A (13:13)

Good.

F (13:14)

Yeah, I had a similar situation with my ex girlfriend, and I was in the military, and we had some trust issues going on, and I had naked pictures of her, and I didn't send them out, but I posted them on MySpace and Facebook. And so all her friends, all my friends, everyone saw it, and she called me crying and just, like, said she was gonna take me to court and everything. It was just not a good time.

A (13:35)

So you wish, looking back at it, you didn't do that.

F (13:38)

Right. Because now we kind of are friends now because it was over two years ago, but it's just. It's never been the same.

D (13:44)

You guys gonna get back together?

F (13:45)

Oh, no way.

A (13:49)

All right, Michelle, what are you gonna do? You have any kind of like, hunch on if you're gonna send these things out or not?

C (13:54)

I mean, I'm leaning towards yes, but I guess I'll have to rethink about this and how. What's gonna happen afterwards.

A (14:02)

We gotta check back in with you. Let's check back with you over the next couple of days and find out if you sent them out or not. What happened.

C (14:08)

Sounds good.

A (14:09)

Okay. Thanks for calling. At least we gave you something to chew on on both sides there.

C (14:12)

Yeah. Thanks, guys.

A (14:13)

Alright, thank you for calling. Hold on one sec. We wanna get some more info from you and have you on in a couple days. The bird show.