The Bert Show

Episode: Vault: Her Husband Wants To Attend His Ex's Wedding?

Aired: February 13, 2026

Episode Overview

In this episode, Monica calls in to share a dilemma: her husband wants to attend his ex-girlfriend's wedding, and Monica is uncomfortable with it due to the couple's history—including secret meetings and ongoing contact. The cast debates the situation, weighing in with personal experiences, listener calls, and pointed advice, creating a lively, candid, and sometimes humorous discussion about boundaries, trust, and priorities in marriage.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Monica’s Story & Relationship History

• Monica (voice disguised) explains her husband wants to attend the wedding of his ex-girlfriend, whom he dated for over three years.
• She reveals she was his next relationship, causing some to joke about her being the "rebound."
• Monica shares that while engaged (not just dating), her husband secretly met with his ex, scheduling lunches without Monica’s knowledge. She only found out by happenstance when answering his phone.
  • Quote: “I answered his phone one day and then like the past phone call, there was a phone call from her and I was like, oh God.” — Monica (03:00)
• Monica also suspects her mother-in-law wishes he had married the ex instead.

2. Ongoing Relationship with the Ex

• Her husband and his ex are still in contact, primarily through email, allegedly as "just friends."
• The ex’s "save the date" wedding magnet is on their refrigerator—another sensitive point for Monica.
• Monica has voiced repeatedly that she doesn’t want her husband to have contact with this ex.

3. Cast's Immediate Reactions

• The cast generally agrees Monica’s discomfort is justified, especially given the secret meetings during their engagement.
• Host Bert notes that sneaking around changes the situation entirely:
  • Quote: "If there wasn't this history... I would say just get over it... However, because he has all of this past history with her and all this going behind your back stuff, that does change things.” — Bert (04:18)
• Co-host Courtney expresses a conservative view:
  • Quote: “Why does an ex have to be that important to somebody? If your partner's threatened by this ex, then why is it so important for you to keep him in your life?” (05:00)
• The team highlights the lack of friendship between Monica and the ex, adding to the concern.

4. Listener Calls & Additional Perspectives

• Ashley (listener) suggests it should be okay if both partners are secure and emphasizes trust, but admits exes can create complex situations (07:22–08:15).
• Another caller, Ashley (later in the segment), notes:
  • Quote: “The person he should be most concerned about respecting and honoring is you.” (11:06)

5. The Priority Debate: Marriage vs. Friendship with Ex

• The cast discusses if it’s reasonable—or even fair—to expect exes to be cut off after marriage.
• Monica shares her philosophy: “When you get married, the exes go away.” (08:42).
• When Monica has asked her husband to end the friendship, he dismisses her concerns as “stupid or jealous.” (08:53)

6. Compromise and Respect in Relationships

• The cast debates whether Monica is being “petty,” as her husband claims, or if he is being disrespectful.
• Co-host Jenna offers a compromise strategy:
  • Quote: “Sometimes one person has to completely sacrifice over another… this is one of those things… and this is what I want you to do.” (09:11)
• The consensus among the cast leans toward: regardless of whether Monica's concerns are “rational,” her husband should prioritize her comfort.

7. Trust, Firm Boundaries, and “Picking Sides”

• Host Bert: “He is essentially picking the friend over you is exactly what he's doing. And that is dangerous.” (12:32)
• Co-host Dave challenges Monica to be firmer: “I don't think you've been firm enough on how you feel...he will if you keep pushing back that boundary.” (12:40)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Bert: “If there wasn't this history...I would say just get over it...However, because he has all of this past history…and going behind your back stuff, that does change things.” (04:18)
• Courtney: “Why does an ex have to be that important to somebody? If your partner's threatened by this ex, then why is it so important for you to keep him in your life?” (05:00)
• Jenna: “When you're an ex, you're an exact.” (07:18)
• Ashley (caller): “The person he should be most concerned about respecting and honoring is you.” (11:06)
• Bert: "He is essentially picking the friend over you and that is dangerous." (12:32)

Major Timestamps for Important Segments

| Timestamp | Segment Description | |------------|------------------------------------------------------------------------------| | 01:31 | Monica introduced (caller, issue explained) | | 02:09 | Monica shares secret meetups while engaged | | 03:37 | Monica describes ongoing arguments about the ex | | 04:18 | Bert lays out two perspectives on exes and trust | | 05:00 | Courtney on priority and emotional investment in exes | | 06:03 | Cast jokes about uncomfortable wedding scenarios | | 07:02 | Bert relates his own past with an ex, and how he ultimately cut contact | | 07:22–08:15| Listener Ashley: Insight on trust and priorities | | 08:42 | Monica says: "When you get married, the exes go away." | | 09:11 | Jenna’s compromise strategy discussion | | 11:06 | Ashley (caller) emphasizes spousal priority | | 12:32 | Bert: "He is essentially picking the friend over you..." |

Summary & Listener Takeaways

• This episode explores the messy reality of maintaining friendships with exes after marriage, the boundaries necessary for trust, and the importance of respecting a spouse's feelings—even if they seem irrational.
• The consensus among the show’s hosts and most callers is that Monica’s husband is prioritizing his friendship with his ex over Monica’s comfort and boundaries, which is a red flag for the relationship.
• Co-hosts stress that, while compromise has a place, core issues like trust and respect can’t be ignored—especially when history includes dishonesty.
• The final advice is split: some believe Monica should stand her ground and insist on new boundaries, others suggest she attend the wedding if he insists, but no one supports the idea of him going alone.
• Courtney: “Either he doesn't go to the wedding, or you go with him. Like, I don't think that you need to let him go out of town and be around her with alcohol alone.” (13:01)

Overall Tone: Honest, lively, slightly irreverent, with a mix of humor and empathy typical of The Bert Show’s morning style.
For listeners: A thoughtful, spirited debate on a real relationship quandary with practical insights on boundaries, priorities, and partnership.