Vault: He's In Love With His Co-Worker

Summary

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The Bert Show: Vault - He's In Love With His Co-Worker

Date: January 12, 2026
Cast: Bert Show team (Melissa, Jen, Jeff, Lisa), Dwayne (guest), Callers

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Episode Overview

In this episode, the Bert Show crew revisits the saga of Dwayne, a listener who has fallen in love with his co-worker after years of friendship and professional partnership. The episode captures the emotional complexities of Dwayne’s situation as he grapples with confession, mixed signals, and the intricate dance of early romance—especially when it overlaps with workplace dynamics. The cast and callers offer advice, commiserate, and sometimes josh about the highs and lows of loving someone you see at work every day.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

Background of Dwayne's Story

• Dwayne’s Crush Progression ([02:13]):
  • Dwayne has worked with his co-worker for four years, developed strong feelings but she was in a relationship until recently.
  • Upon her breakup, Dwayne decides to confess his feelings, not wanting to miss his chance.
  • Initial attempt at confession during a lunch fizzles: "I just couldn't do it."
  • Next strategy: Invite her to the Buckhead Beach Party—but she’s already attending with someone else, though she casually invites him to tag along.
  • At Jeff’s urging, Dwayne opts to confess his feelings while drunk. They make out, she spends the night (but nothing more).
  • She promises to call after her Saturday date; doesn't call. Dwayne is left in limbo at work all week.

Where Things Stand

• Mixed Signals & Avoidance ([03:49]):
  • Dwayne tries to arrange lunch to talk; she claims she's busy.
  • On the show, it’s clear he’s getting a “cool and professional” attitude at work.

    "She was just playing it really cool ... which I can understand because, you know, we're at work and, you know, we don't want to cause a big scene." – Dwayne ([04:00])

The Cast’s Advice & Analysis

• The “Intervention” ([06:45], [07:09]):
  • The panel senses Dwayne is too emotionally invested and vulnerable to mixed signals.
  • Jen asserts Dwayne shouldn’t chase: “You’re not thinking correctly, so we got to give him an intervention.” ([06:51])
  • Encouragement to “lay low” and wait for reciprocation, not to chase or appear “available.”

Is She Freaked Out or Just Not Interested?

• Psychoanalysis vs. Simplicity ([07:20], [10:24]):

  • Lisa believes she’s tried to see if feelings were there but realized they’re not: "I think that she's just decided that she doesn't (have reciprocal feelings for Dwayne)." ([08:21])
  • Melissa breaks it down: “She has shown you she's not interested... all you need to know is that is what's happening.” ([10:25])

• Game-Playing Dynamics ([12:11], [14:33]):

  • Debate about the role of “games” in early relationships.
  • Jeff and Lisa insisting on pulling away attention to regain power: “I would almost place a phone call... then don’t answer your phone... That’s the way to take power back.” ([13:36])
  • Melissa: “...there is always a certain amount of game playing that goes on in the beginning of a relationship. It is like a chess game.” ([12:11])

• The Dangers of Forcing Her Hand ([12:41], [13:03]):

  • Consensus that putting pressure on her or directly confronting may backfire, especially since they’re colleagues: “By forcing her hand, putting her in a corner, a woman is never going to say, ‘Oh my god, you’re right. I’m in love with you too.’” – Jen ([12:43])

Caller Contributions

• Brutal Honesty vs. The Game ([13:36]):

  • Male caller: “Just, you know what? Pin her down ... and say, look, I had a great time Friday night, but I’ve noticed you’ve been kind of avoiding me.” ([11:36])
  • Cast counters this may hurt more than help.

• Women “Sniff It Out” ([13:22]):

  • Multiple female callers and hosts point out that women sense desperation: “Women can sniff this out, too. ‘Oh, he’s sitting by the phone right now. I am definitely not gonna call.’” – Melissa ([13:22])

• Personal Testimony – Playing it Cool Worked ([15:49]):

  • Caller John shares his own college story: after being ignored, the woman pursued him and they're now married.

    “That's just kind of how it happened ... once the attention is taken away ... that's the worst thing you can do to a woman, is take attention away from her.” – John ([16:28])

  • Underlines the strategy the show recommends to Dwayne.

The Denise

• Final Advice and Emotional Takeaways ([17:03], [17:34]):
  • Let her go and move forward: "Forget about her. Forget about her." – Melissa ([16:51])
  • “If it's authentic and she's not into you, it wasn't supposed to happen anyway, man.” – Melissa ([17:04])
  • Do not call her Saturday with news of reservations or plans—the consensus: cut the cord unless she reaches out.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Dwayne, conflicted, after being advised to lay low:

  "You know, what if I just don’t call her at all on Saturday?" – Dwayne ([17:31])
  "That’s exactly... Don’t call her at all. Just you and Ear on out." – Jen ([17:34])

• On “The Game” & Relationship Power

  "You become a hot commodity when you're something she can't obtain." – Melissa ([17:43])
  "This is the game ... Too honest, too soon ... same deal here, Dwayne. You gotta play this game, dude." – Melissa ([16:51])
  "It is a power struggle. I mean, this is basically what this is. And she has all the power, and he's just gonna have to let it go." – Jen ([14:26])

• Female camaraderie on being “complex”

  "We play these games with men because they're simple and stupid, but you have to play these games with women." – Lisa ([14:45])
  "There’s no swords involved. Women are women. Their minds are not simple." – Jen ([14:57])

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Timestamps for Major Segments

• 02:13 – Jen lays out Dwayne’s situation for the audience
• 03:49–05:16 – Recap of previous convo with Dwayne & current status
• 06:45–07:20 – Cast intervention and first advice barrage
• 08:21–09:22 – Lisa and Melissa outline the “ignore her” strategy
• 11:35–12:43 – Callers and panel debate brutal honesty vs. game play
• 13:36–14:33 – The “power” of game-playing in the chase, perspectives from male and female hosts
• 15:49–16:51 – Success story from a male caller about ignoring leading to eventual romance
• 17:04–17:34 – Final consensus: let go, move on; no more pursuing, Dwayne

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Tone & Style

The conversation is fast-paced, layered with teasing, empathy, and first-hand wisdom. Though playful and irreverent, the team is truly invested in helping Dwayne—and listeners—sift through the messiness of workplace romance dynamics. The mix of warm support and gentle ribbing is classic morning radio style.

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Conclusion

This episode of The Bert Show uses Dwayne’s real-life romantic dilemma as a springboard for candid, often funny debate about love, work, and the early days of potential relationships. The message: When it comes to romance (especially at work), sometimes the best move is restraint. Dwayne is encouraged to stop pursuing his co-worker and focus on moving on—if she’s interested, she’ll make the next move.

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For Listeners Who Missed It

You’ll come away understanding both the emotional rollercoaster and practical anxieties of confessing to a co-worker, plus get a dose of relatable, sometimes blunt relationship advice—with plenty of laughs along the way.

Transcript

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[Caller or Listener]

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[Melissa]

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[Jeff]

Get it.

[Melissa]

The bird show. All right, Dwayne, who is Dwayne Melissa, and why are we talking to him?

[Jen]

Well, Dwayne has worked with this woman for four years. And he, his feelings for her developed into one of love. I mean, he's. He literally said he is in love with her. But she had dated this guy for, I want to say, three of those four years. And she got out of the relationship and he decided, you know what, it's time for me to tell her. Because the last thing he wanted was to keep his mouth shut and then her start another long term relationship. So he came to us to say, you know what, I'm going to do it this week and I'm going to tell her this was a few weeks ago. And then he kind of choked. They went on at a lunch, it was a business lunch, but he said, you know what, I just couldn't do it. So then we talked to him right before the Buckhead beach party last weekend, and we suggested, why don't you invite her to the Buckhead beach party? You go together, maybe you'll do it there. Well, he brought it up to her and ends up she was already going to the Buckhead beach party with someone else. But she kind of said, and you know, after the fact, well, and if you want to go with us, she can. He came on the air with us after that and said, what do I do? We're like, dude, don't be the third wheel at the Buckhead beach party. The Friday before the Buckhead beach party, just, you know what, tell her how you feel. And Jeff's suggestion was to get drunk and tell her how he felt. And that's exactly what he did. He took Jeff's advice. He told her how he felt. Then they ended up making out and she ended up spending the night with him. Nothing happened, but she, she was there with him. She said, I will call you on Sunday after the Buckhead beach party. She already had the date on Saturday night. That Sunday, didn't hear from her. And then on Monday they were at work and he was gonna ask her to lunch so that he could ask her out on an official date. Asked her to lunch. She was already busy for lunch. So it just seemed like we were afraid that she's kind of avoiding him now after that happened on Friday night.

[Melissa]

Getting some serious mixed messages. This is 90 seconds of the last conversation that we had with Dwayne.

[Dwayne]

I talked to her about going to lunch and she had a lunch date already. An old roommate of hers, I guess was in.

[Melissa]

God damn.

[Jen]

How was, how did she treat you when you talked to her yesterday?

[Dwayne]

She was just playing it really cool, you know, she's like just being really cool. And which I can understand because, you know, we're at work and, you know, we don't want to cause a big scene at work of any kind. So it's just, you know, she was being very professional and very cool and hopefully I'll get a chance to ask her out for this weekend.

[Jen]

Are you sure she's maybe not freaked out by what happened Friday night? I mean, do you think she giving you the cold shoulder? A little bit.

[Dwayne]

I mean, I didn't full on tell her that I was in love with her because, like I said, I didn't want to. I didn't want to throw that on her. But I, you know, I kind of was. I pretty much came clean about the fact that I'd had really strong feelings for her for a really long time. And then, you know, of course, we had a. We had a little. We kissed a little bit, we made out a little bit. And then, like I said, she stayed over Friday night.

[Jeff]

I think if he wants to salvage the friendship, then it's over. Like, he never asks her out again. He never. And Friday night is the night to never be spoke of.

[Jen]

I don't think he. I don't think they can do friends, though. I think he's too involved.

[Melissa]

Dwayne, I would say lay low, dude. Don't do anything. Hang out. I think she'd give you all. Silence could be gold in here. If you don't say anything or you don't call her and she doesn't call you, then you know how she feels about it over the next 48 hours.

[Raj]

Okay?

[Melissa]

Okay. Good luck. So that's. That was a little over our conversation with Dwayne the last time we had him on. And we're dying to find out what's been going on since then. Hey, Dwayne.

[Noah]

Hey.

[Dwayne]

How y' all doing this morning?

[Melissa]

How are you today, sir? How are you? Is the question.

[Dwayne]

Oh, I'm doing all right.

[Melissa]

You're not ecstatic, but you don't sound depressed.

[Jen]

Yeah, we're trying to read into how your tone.

[Dwayne]

No. Well, I ran into her yesterday afternoon and I asked her if she wanted to go out this weekend. So she said she wasn't really sure how her weekend was shaping up yet, and I should call her on Saturday.

[Jen]

So she said to call for you to call her on Saturday because she doesn't know how her weekend shaping up.

[Dwayne]

Yeah, exactly, Dwayne.

[Jen]

I think that she's freaked out because if a woman. Or man. But, you know, since it's usually the woman that's asked out if she's excited about you, then she's. She's gonna say yes. And I think that the. Well, let me see how my weekend is. Is a way. She doesn't want to hurt your feelings by saying no. And more than likely, you'll get a voicemail message on Saturday.

[Lisa]

Did you know that already?

[Dwayne]

Well, you know, I kind of felt like. I mean, I actually. I made some reservations for Saturday night and sort of started putting some plans together in the hopes that she'd be around and available.

[Melissa]

Oh, boy. This is not good.

[Jeff]

Even if she is around and available, you can't look like you were planning for her to be available if she is not committed. You know what I mean?

[Melissa]

So it comes back to the chase, man. I mean, if you're making yourself available and you answer on the half ring when she calls and stuff like that.

[Jen]

Yeah, this is. We're gonna have to perform an intervention on Dwayne because Dwayne is in love. And when you're in love, I mean, just a. If you get a dusting of attention, then you just are sucked right into it. And that's, you know, he's not thinking correctly, so we got to give him an intervention. And Dwayne, she's.

[Melissa]

She's some tough love.

[Jen]

Yeah, Dwayne, she's not. She's freaked out. She's a little regretful or confused about what happened, and she doesn't want to deal with it. And so I think that. I don't. I don't. I think she canceled those reservations.

[Melissa]

404-741-1005. Let me ask you guys this, though. Is she acting this way just because she's temporarily freaked out, or is she acting this way because she's really not interested? Because there are two totally different things here.

[Lisa]

I don't think.

[Jen]

I don't know what just came out of my mouth. Do you understand? Do you understand my monkey speak?

[Melissa]

Let's try it one more. Let's hear it one more time.

[Jen]

I don't know if I can recreate.

[Melissa]

That.

[Jeff]

Wasn't it.

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[Jeff]

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[Jen]

That sounds like something completely different, right?

[Jeff]

That's what it sounds.

[Jen]

That's what Dwayne's hoping for.

[Narrator/Advertiser]

Yeah.

[Jen]

I don't know.

[Melissa]

Let's start with you.

[Lisa]

Gather your thoughts over there. Melissa.

[Melissa]

Well, she gets a hold of her uvula over there.

[Jeff]

Are you having another mini stroke?

[Jen]

I'm having another stroke.

[Dwayne]

Oh, my God.

[Lisa]

Oh, Mr. Sound Effect over there doesn't.

[Raj]

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[Lisa]

My thought. Dwayne honestly is that she decided to kind of dabble and figure out if she could have reciprocal feelings for you on Friday night. And I think that she's just decided that she doesn't. But you've been such good friends and such work great work companions for so long that she doesn't want to ruin the relationship. So I think at this point, don't force her to because you're trying to force her hand right now and she's trying to placate you and be nicey girl because you still have to work together. And I think she's realizing now that Friday night may have been a mistake in her boat and that she's gotta salvage some sort of friendship with you so that you can continue a working relationship. And if you force this hand, it's not going to be good. I just think that you've got to cut your losses. And the only shred that I would give to him is if he completely turned the other direction and started ignoring her. Maybe she might miss that attention.

[Melissa]

Exactly how I would play it. It's exactly, exactly how I would play it.

[Jen]

You would be surprised at a woman's reaction when she doesn't get attention.

[Lisa]

You just bet drop her like a bad habit and then she may come back around.

[Melissa]

Hey Lisa, you're on all the hits. Q100. Giving Dwayne advice that he didn't ask for.

[Caller or Listener]

I feel like he's just. She's just not that into him. She. When you're drunk, you're drunk and you know he was there.

[Jen]

How much did she have to drink?

[Dwayne]

I don't really. I don't think she really had. Had that much to drink.

[Jen]

And I'm not contradicting myself. I don't think alcohol is an excuse. But an alcohol is a way that some people dabble when they wouldn't. When they're sober in something they're tempted by. And now that she's sober again, I'm with Jen. I think she's wondering whether that was really something she wanted now that she's not hazy anymore.

[Melissa]

See, we could try to get this is typically women right here. You're getting very psychological answers from Melissa. Very in depth psychological answers from Jen. Here, let me just break it down for you because guys, we talk about what we know.

[Jen]

We're talking about a girl.

[Melissa]

Here's what we know. Here are the symptoms. Here's what we know. Melissa, we know she's turning the other cheek. We know that she's showing you everything she's showing you. If she's not interested. That's the only thing we know. We don't even need to know why that is. All you need to know is that is what's happening. She has shown you she's not interested. And that's why I think you take Jen's advice and you totally turn the other cheek and act disinterested. Because that appli. Then you've got two things going for you. A, you never really know why she's not into you, so you could put it on her and not on yourself. And secondly, like these guys said, it's the chase, man. Once she finds out when you're not around, all of a sudden you become a hot commodity. You're a gold bar at that point.

[Jen]

But you ha. You know. But my concern, Dwayne, again, because I'm factoring in the fact you're in love. That changes the game for you. That when you ignore her, you have to start letting her go too. Because if she does not turn around and chase you down, then you're letting go and you move on. If she turns around and chases you, then you deal with it then. But I'm afraid of him ignoring her complet just for the sake of getting her attention and then being disappointed again. It doesn't work out.

[Melissa]

Good morning, Matt, you're on with Dwayne.

[Dwayne]

Hey, guys.

[Caller or Listener]

I get so mad when people play these games. Look, you guys are both adults. And not that you're playing the game, Dwayne, but you guys are both adults. Just, you know what? Pin her down the hall or something or in the break room and say, look, you know, I had a great time Friday night, but I've noticed you've been kind of, you know, avoiding me a little bit. What's the deal here?

[Dwayne]

Can we be friends?

[Caller or Listener]

Are you interested?

[Dwayne]

What's going on?

[Caller or Listener]

That way you know what's going on, you know how to deal with it and you can just move on. You can either be friends or you can start a relationship or something.

[Melissa]

No way.

[Caller or Listener]

I don't think she should be playing.

[Dwayne]

The game of oh well, my.

[Caller or Listener]

I don't know how my weekend shape up. Just get some balls and tell him how he she feels.

[Narrator/Advertiser]

No way.

[Melissa]

I feel very strongly about this. I know we all say we're just looking for an authentic, honest relationship. That's crap. All right? There is always a certain amount of game playing that goes on in the beginning of a relationship. It is like a chess game.

[Caller or Listener]

But I don't think it should be that way. You know, find out what's going on. Ask her what's going on.

[Jen]

It's not going to work.

[Caller or Listener]

And that way he's. He's totally cool with what's going on, and he knows the guy is in love with her.

[Jen]

Worst thing he could do. Worse thing he could do.

[Lisa]

The reason I disagree with you, though, is they've still got to work together.

[Melissa]

Yeah, it's true.

[Jen]

And it's the worst thing, because even if she. Okay, let's say there's a speck in her mind thinking, well, let me think about this a little bit. You know, let me really consider this by. For. Like Jen said, by forcing her hand, putting her in a corner, a woman is never going to say, oh, my God, you're right. I'm in love with you too. No, she's gonna make her. It's gonna push her further away by putting any pressure on her because she's already confused.

[Melissa]

Hey, Brandi, you're on all the hits Q100 with Dwayne.

[Caller or Listener]

Hey, I actually think that he needs to just leave her alone and move on because she is not going to be into him. She is not gonna. She's already proved that she's not into him by saying that she doesn't know how her weekend is panning out. That's. Oh, if I don't have anything else planned and you call me on Saturday. Yeah, I'll go out with you.

[Melissa]

Oh, yeah, man. Women can sniff this out, too. She's like, oh, he's sitting by the phone right now. I am definitely not gonna call.

[Jen]

Well, and she's not gonna answer the phone Saturday. I don't know if you. Dwayne, you understand that? But when you call on Saturday, she's not gonna answer the phone. Like, you're gonna get voicemail.

[Jeff]

Seriously, the best thing, you know, what you could almost do is play the game back, because these women are wily sort. And what you need to do is like, I would almost place a phone call to her sometime on Friday or Saturday and say, hey, give me now. This could backfire. But say, hey, give me a call, and we'll figure something out for later today. Then don't answer your phone. Don't respond to phone calls. If she happens to email you, text message you nothing, let her. That's the way to take power back. Now, the problem is you leave that message, and then, you know, Saturday comes around, and you're sitting around waiting to ignore her, and she never gives you anything to ignore. Then your life is ruined.

[Melissa]

She's not gonna call back.

[Jen]

It's a Power struggle. It's a total. You know what? I understand Jeff's theory. Cause like, Jeff, I mean, like Bert was saying about, you know, the.

[Jeff]

Cause you're one of the wily sort.

[Jen]

But it is a power struggle. I mean, this is basically what this is. And she has all the power, and he's just gonna have to let it go.

[Lisa]

You know what I'm saying?

[Melissa]

In every relationship in the beginning, do I call her too soon? Do I call her too late? Should I accept his phone call? Should I make it like I'm going out with another guy on the weekend even though there's nobody there? It's all game playing in the beginning.

[Jen]

Right.

[Lisa]

You know, the thought I just had is that we play these games with men because they're simple and stupid, but you have to play these games with women.

[Jen]

Yes.

[Lisa]

Oh, my God, how complex that would be.

[Melissa]

That's a tough sword match.

[Jen]

Well, yeah. I mean, women, yeah, there's no swords. There's no swords involved. But I mean, yeah, women are women. They're not simple. You know, women are. Their minds are not simple. And she may be considering Dwayne. I mean, it is a possibility. Somewhere in her mind, Dwayne, she's thinking about it. But if it's not in the forefront of her mind, if it's not a priority to her, which obviously it's not, he can't push it to the front of her mind. He cannot push it. A man cannot force a woman into being liking you. It is that. It's like his was like fishing a bad analogy. But, you know, it's like, well, no, I'm not gonna do that. But it's like you, You. You're a little aggressive, then you back off, Then you're a little aggressive, and then you back off. I mean, it's a back and forth and back and forth to get a woman, rather than to think that you can just say, hey, I'm in love with you. Are you in love with me? And she say, yes.

[Melissa]

Hey, John?

[Caller or Listener]

Yeah?

[Melissa]

Good morning. You're on with Dwayne.

[Caller or Listener]

Hey, Dwayne, I gotta tell you, I was the same situation as you're in right now. I was totally chasing this girl. Then I was in college. We hung out together, we were friends, we all hung out together. And then we. At night, you know, we got together, we kissed, you know, whatever, like you did. And then I was totally chasing this chick. She was totally not even digging me. I was so upset. I was like, I can't believe this happened. We're friends and so my buddy came up to me one day, and he's like, man, you just gotta. You just gotta ignore her. And I. Obviously, I was in college, so I didn't have any, you know, try. You always think you have gay. But I would say, you know, I obviously wasn't, so I totally ignored her. Now we've been married for nine years.

[Melissa]

Is that right?

[Jen]

How long did it. What happened? I'm curious. What was the first move she made after you totally ignored her? Like, how did she approach you back?

[Caller or Listener]

Because we hung out the same crew one day, and she just came up one day. She's like, hey, what's going on? I was like, hey. And I just totally try to play cool. And she's like, you know, you haven't called me anything. I was like, oh, you know, I thought. You know, I was just. I kept. Thought I kept bugging you and stuff. And I was kind of. You know, I didn't know what to do. And she's like, oh, no. And that's just kind of how it happened.

[Jen]

Yeah. Yeah. Women. Yeah. It's telling you, dude, because once the attention is taken away from them, that's the worst thing you can do to a woman, is take attention away from her. Absolutely.

[Melissa]

This is the game that, like, Phil here, this frustrates me with him because he don't know how to play the game. Too honest, too soon. You know, same. Same deal here, Dwayne. You gotta play this game, dude. Forget about her. Forget about her.

[Jen]

You have to let her go.

[Melissa]

Let her go. And if it's authentic and she's not into you, it wasn't supposed to happen anyway, man.

[Jeff]

Right.

[Jen]

You know, I mean, I.

[Lisa]

You can do it.

[Jen]

I've waited four years for this one. I know. I've been behind you the whole time, Dwayne, but I think, you know, Friday night, that's cool. You made out worth it. That's great. That's an opportunity a lot of people don't get.

[Melissa]

And then you got up her shirt, dude.

[Jen]

And then now, yeah, you gotta walk away. But please don't call her Saturday and say that you had reservations for her, because that's just too. That's not. It's too much too soon.

[Dwayne]

Mm. You know, what if I just don't call her at all on Saturday?

[Jen]

That's exactly. Don't call her at all. Like, just you and Ear on out.

[Lisa]

Stop calling until she reaches out to you.

[Jen]

You got a working relationship, and that is it.

[Melissa]

The more you call her, the more you pursue her, the further you're gonna push her away from you because you're making yourself available. You become a hot commodity when you're something she can't obtain.

[Dwayne]

I gotcha. All right, well, then I'm rolling the dice and it's into the game we go.

[Noah]

That's right.

[Melissa]

Go get it, boy.

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Go get it.

[Melissa]

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[Jen]

That's it.

[Jeff]

It's your Rudy clap.

[Lisa]

Yeah.

[Jeff]

We'Re really bad at the Rudy clap.

[Melissa]

Now, Dwayne, if our advice doesn't pan out for you, you can't have your sister call and chew our ass out, all right?

[Jen]

Or Roxy's mom.

[Melissa]

All right, man.

[Jeff]

Talk to you later.

[Dwayne]

Thanks, guys.

[Melissa]

Good luck, dude.

[Jen]

Good luck, Dwayne.

[Raj]

Get it.

[Melissa]

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[Raj]

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[Noah]

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[Raj]

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