Vault: Is 35 too old to be a bridezilla?

Summary

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Podcast Summary: The Bert Show

Episode: Vault: Is 35 too old to be a bridezilla?
Date: June 16, 2026

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Overview

This lively episode of The Bert Show takes on wedding culture with the central question: "Is 35 too old to be a bridezilla?" The discussion dives into generational wedding expectations, the changing roles of friends and family, and whether age should affect how over-the-top a bride's demands or dreams can be for her big day. The cast shares personal experiences, hot takes, and critiques of "bridezilla" behavior, all while playfully ribbing each other about what is—and isn’t—acceptable wedding etiquette as you get older.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Age and the Acceptability of Bridezilla Behavior

• The segment opens with the "Bridezilla Critic" wondering if it's more tolerable to go all-out as a bridezilla in one's twenties rather than mid-thirties.
  • [01:17] Bridezilla Critic: "Are you allowed to be a 35 year old bridezilla? Because I know one right now... for whatever reason, to me, my perception is that this would be much more tolerable if she were a bride at 25 pulling these moves than at 35."
• The group debates the appropriateness of having a large bridal party at 35.
  • [01:49] Bridezilla Critic: "I just think it's a little outrageous to have 10 bridesmaids and 10 groomsmen when you're 35."
  • [02:02] Bridezilla Critic: "Putting all your 35 year old friends in bridesmaids dresses... just seems more ridiculous."

2. First Wedding vs. Subsequent Weddings

• The cast distinguishes between first-time weddings and remarrying.
  • [02:23] Wedding Discussion Participant 2: "If it's your first wedding, you should be able to get away with anything you want at any age. But if it's a subsequent wedding, then all bets are off."
• There’s consensus that first-time weddings are more flexible in expectations, regardless of age, but a sense from some that age should temper extravagance.

3. Practicalities and Social Pressures

• The ability to afford wedding expenses and how that changes with age is noted.
  • [04:04] Wedding Discussion Participant 2: "The irony is though, in your mid-30s, you can afford it. And when you're 24, you can't."
• The group sympathizes with friends of the bride who have likely “been in 14 weddings and are on their second kid” by 35, thus less likely to want to don matching pastel dresses.

4. Family Dynamics and Etiquette

• A controversial example is shared about a bride including only one sister-in-law in the bridal party on the basis of personal liking.
  • [04:10] Bridezilla Critic: "[She] has invited one sister in law to be in the wedding party, but not the other because she doesn't like the other one."
  • [04:22] Wedding Discussion Participant 2: "Oh, you can't do that."
• Discussion on bridal shower etiquette: being gracious versus controlling.
  • [04:29] Bridezilla Critic: "When you're a bride...the only thing you're supposed to do is say thank you and provide the list of names and addresses..."
  • [04:59] Bridezilla Critic: "Oh, no. This Bridezilla is getting all involved on what kind of a shower it's going to be...I'm like, really? This is somebody like doing something nice for you. You should sit back, shut up, and be nice."

5. Perspective: Waiting Longer, Wanting More

• The idea that waiting longer to get married makes women more determined about what they want for their wedding.
  • [05:16] Wedding Discussion Participant 2: "Jen has waited till 35. Jen, it is going to be perfect."
  • [05:43] Bridezilla Critic: "You've had longer to obsess about it."
• More set opinions and less flexibility linked to being older.

6. When Does "The Dream" Change?

• The show asks at what age the fantasy of a grand wedding transforms—if at all.
  • [06:29] Wedding Discussion Participant 1: "So when does the dream die? Is it 28? Is it 27? Is it 30?"
  • [06:34] Wedding Discussion Participant 2: "It's not the dream dying. It's just the ceremony and the way you celebrate... The celebration is changed to fit your age."

7. Tone Shifts and Humor

• Throughout, the cast keeps the discussion funny and real, with references to “muffin top weddings” and the “silliness” of some traditions at a certain age.
  • [06:49] Wedding Discussion Participant 1: "You can't have a muffin top wedding."

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

"I just think it's a little outrageous to have 10 bridesmaids and 10 groomsmen when you're 35."
— Bridezilla Critic, [01:49]

"If it's your first wedding, you should go all out, no matter how old you are. Because I think it's all about the celebration and you want all your friends a part of it."
— Wedding Discussion Participant 3, [03:36]

"When you're a bride...the only thing you're supposed to do is say thank you and provide the list... Oh, no. This Bridezilla is getting all involved..."
— Bridezilla Critic, [04:29]

"It's not the dream dying. It's just the ceremony and the way you celebrate... The celebration is changed to fit your age."
— Wedding Discussion Participant 2, [06:34]

"You can't have a muffin top wedding."
— Wedding Discussion Participant 1, [06:49]

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• [01:17] — Main topic introduced: Is 35 too old to be a bridezilla?
• [01:49] — Debate about large bridal parties at mid-thirties ages
• [02:23] — First wedding vs. subsequent weddings
• [04:04] — Discussing the financial practicalities at different ages
• [04:10] — Family drama: excluding a sister-in-law from the party
• [04:29] — Wedding shower etiquette and controlling brides
• [05:43] — Waiting longer = more invested/bridezilla behavior
• [06:29] — Questioning at what age the big-dream wedding switches to something subdued
• [06:49] — "Muffin top wedding" joke

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Conclusion

This episode offers a candid, humorous take on evolving wedding norms and the infamous "bridezilla" stereotype. The Bert Show cast navigates generational differences, shifting social expectations, and questions of etiquette, concluding that while age might influence how a wedding is celebrated, everyone has their own dream—no matter how old they are when they walk down the aisle.

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Transcript

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[Bridezilla Critic]

I want to know, are you allowed to be a 35 year old bridezilla? Because I know one right now. Okay, let me just give you some examples of the bridezilla ness. And for whatever reason, to me, my perception is that this would be much more tolerable if she were a bride at 25 pulling these moves than at 35 pulling these moves, you know, but this is her first wedding and I get it. You're real excited, you know, it has

[Wedding Discussion Participant 1]

to be the perfect day, man. This is it. Thought about this my whole life. The days after it don't matter. This is the important day.

[Bridezilla Critic]

And I don't know, I just think it's a little outrageous to have 10 bridesmaids and 10 groomsmen when you're 35. I don't know why that makes a difference to me.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 1]

You're gonna have to do dude speak on this. Cause I don't. Why is it the Same way I sound out of.

[Bridezilla Critic]

I don't know why, it seems like when you're younger and you do like a big to do wedding, that makes more sense. But as you get older, to me, I don't know, putting all your 35 year old friends and bridesmaids dresses that all match and have to be designer and ordered and cut to fit and dyed shoes to match and all that kind of stuff just seems more ridiculous.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 2]

Katie and I have had this discussion because, like, because when we've talked about our own inability to get married. But if we have the ability to get married, we've had that discussion, both of us in our 30s. And I say, I think that you spend all your money on the reception, have a great party, and then just maybe, you know, the two of us just do something private with witnesses. And then she completely disagrees because she felt like, well, if it's your first wedding, you should be able to get away with anything you want at any age. But if it's a subsequent wedding, then all bets are off.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 1]

So we're talking about two different things here. If you're getting married for the first time at 35 or 37, are you also saying it shouldn't be the same? Like dressing all your bridesmaids up just

[Bridezilla Critic]

feels, it feels juvenile to me.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 1]

Okay, well, I had never heard that before.

[Bridezilla Critic]

I don't know why. And it's probably because I've been through a wedding before and if I ever got married again, it would be a much more small, like, you know, intimate affair.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 1]

But what if this was your first?

[Bridezilla Critic]

See, I don't know if I even have the. I could even have the perspective on it because I already did that. You know what I mean? But I feel like I don't know something about it. As you get older, I think that subsequently your wedding should get more.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 3]

See, I think it's different if it's Shannon. Yeah, I think it's different if it's your second or third wedding. But I think your first wedding, you

[Wedding Discussion Participant 2]

should go all out, no matter how

[Wedding Discussion Participant 3]

old, no matter how old you are. Because I think it's all about the celebration and you want all your friends a part of it, especially if it's your first one.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 1]

Now Wendy's saying that as 24 years old, right?

[Wedding Discussion Participant 3]

I mean, I'm not in my 30s yet.

[Bridezilla Critic]

I guess I just feel like by the time that your friends are 35 or 37 or whatever it is that they are, they've already been in 14 weddings and they're probably on their second kid. And they don't want to be in a designer dyed, you know, pale pink gown.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 2]

The irony is though, in your mid-30s, you can afford it. And when you're 24, you can. It's true.

[Bridezilla Critic]

So anyway, I know a Bridezilla right now who's doing all kinds of stuff like that. The other thing is that she has invited one sister in law to be in the wedding party, but not the other because she doesn't like the other one.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 2]

Oh, you can't do that.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 1]

That's a quick way to divide the family right there.

[Bridezilla Critic]

Yeah, yeah. One in the wedding and one not in the wedding. Not cool.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 2]

Not cool.

[Bridezilla Critic]

Like you can't do that. No, because she is closer friends with the one sister of the groom and not the other one, but has like picked one to be in the wedding party and the other one not to be. And then the other thing is that some friends are throwing or trying to throw like a nice shower for her. And when you're a bride and you are getting showers thrown and parties thrown for you, the only thing you're supposed to do is say thank you and provide the list of names and addresses for the the hosts of the party.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 2]

Cause the host handles everything.

[Bridezilla Critic]

The host handles everything. You're just supposed to be quiet and gracious and whatever it is that they want to do for you, that's what you do. That's the etiquette, right? Oh, no. This Bridezilla is getting all involved on what kind of a shower it's going to be, who's invited, whether it's all women, or whether it's going to be couples invited to the whole thing.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 2]

And like Jen has waited till 35. Jen, it is going to be perfect.

[Bridezilla Critic]

And like getting all in the mix and involved in all of that kind of stuff, I'm like, really? This is somebody like doing something nice for you. You should sit back, shut up and be nice, you know, and like be gracious about it. But she's like all up in arms about it. But you're right, it's because she's waited this long and she's in the whole.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 2]

Yeah, you know, more of what you want at 35 than you do at 24 or 25 or you've had longer

[Bridezilla Critic]

to obsess about it.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 1]

Maybe you're more set in your ways. And like, this is what I want. There's no flexibility about it.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 2]

Exactly.

[Bridezilla Critic]

Yeah. To me it just seems a little ridiculous as you get older. But I had this debate with some of my friends and some of my friends feel the way that Wendy does. Like, if it's your first wedding, go all out. Doesn't matter how old you are. But to me, as you get older, the wedding needs to get a little bit more manageable.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 2]

If I was straight and getting married at 39, I am not having the same wedding that I would have had at 23.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 1]

Because much more subdued version of the moment.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 2]

It almost looks silly. It almost looks silly to me.

[Bridezilla Critic]

It seems silly.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 1]

I never even thought about it.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 2]

39 year old walking out there in her big old white dress. Yeah, I just. I feel.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 1]

I would feel.

[Bridezilla Critic]

So the white dress, I'm fine with the huge wedding dress.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 2]

I'm talking about the big prom. Like, no, I don't know.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 1]

So when does the dream die? Is it 28? Is it 27? Is it 30?

[Wedding Discussion Participant 2]

For y', all, it's not the dream dying. It's just the ceremony and the way you celebrate. Like, you know, Wendy's keyword celebration. The celebration is changed to fit. Fit your age.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 3]

I'm heading to.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 2]

It's like, it's like. It's like showing your midsection. There's a certain age you just can't.

[Bridezilla Critic]

You can't have.

[Wedding Discussion Participant 1]

You can't have a muffin top wedding. It's the vert show.

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