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Show Host
Listen, it's the vert show, so we're gonna get into some real this is pretty brave stuff here. This is really, really bold stuff. Alison and her daughter, very open dialogue, just about everything, as your husband was explaining to me Saturday night. You guys really just talk about it
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
all, all of it.
Show Host
So when sex came up, this was. You are not scared about it?
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Well, you know, we've been talking, you know, as open as, I mean, as young as Hayden's age. You know, I heard you make that comment. Yeah. I mean, they come home with questions, you know, and they start very innocently. And, you know, I've a lot of I read went and read the expert advice about how to talk to your kid like I have my own. And then I read Dr. Laura Berman and her advice is exactly my advice, which I was like, astounded. I was thrilled. I was like, oh my God. And the whole point is to start an open dialogue when they're young is
Show Host
the can I take from this that, you know, it's time to have the conversation with your child when they come to you about it first?
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Yeah. Well, you know, part of it, like my daughter never put the pieces together. Like, she started off, you know, when she was like, you know, I gave the, well, you have a vagina and your brother has a penis and mommy this and but there was no how does the baby get made like it was, okay, there's sperm, okay, there's eggs, there's a baby, the mommy carries it. But it wasn't. How does the sperm get in the mm? So at one point when she was about 10, you know, like going into fifth grade, I knew she was going to middle school. I had to sit her down and go, so have you given much thought as to how that happens?
Show Host
So she never brought it up. You initiated the first conversation.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Not the very first one. I mean, they start talking and they start hearing about it. You know the question, my mother's an elementary school teacher and what she said to me was, you always answer their questions. And that's one of the things you'll hear on the tape is me saying, what are your questions? Not I'm just going and telling you how it is. Because she's not. My daughter is innocent. She's so which when you hear these questions, you're not going to believe it. But there's this point on the tape where it shows how innocent she really is. But they're hearing all of this stuff. You know, one of the Internet sites, just to let you know, there's a kid's website that's called the Dollhouse. And then there's. And it's spelled D O L L Z because D O L L H O S E is a porn site. So you got seven and eight year olds going to the doll's house and hello. And that's young. Like that was when they were 8. And I had to explain, yeah, there's naked people on the Internet and if you see that, don't go there. Yeah, yeah, that's another conversation with my son. You know that I have a 16 year old son as well. So that's a whole other different set of conversations than you have with your. And you know, why is that? Because, you know, mothers and daughters have a different relate. Girls are much different about talking about sex. And you know, I leave a lot of the conversation with my son up to my husband and you know, my husband and then the father of my kids. So I have a step, I have a step parent situation in my home. Okay. Yeah. So, you know, the men are empowering my son because it is uncomfortable to talk to your opposite. But then again, you know, you're gonna hear on the tape, my son is able to say the word vagina at the dinner table. You know, so, you know, I mean, if y' all didn't know this, you know, I mean, Melissa and Jen know because that's where we met. But you know, I'm Eve Ensler of the Vaginalogues. Vagina Monologues makeup artist. So, you know, to be able to say the word vagina, I mean, I probably wasn't until I was way. I mean, probably till I saw the Vagina Monologues. Could I actually, like, leave the. Leave the place going. Vagina, vagina, vagina. Okay, I can say it.
Co-host or Guest Commentator
You know, that's one of the points of the Vagina Monologues is for women to not be so, I don't know, protective or afraid to say it.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Afraid. Like it's like this taboo thing. And, you know, and part of it is, is that our genitals are on our inside. We're not empowered to understand our bodies. I started doing some statistics about orgasm, which is the first thing that she talks about on the tape. So when you play it, it's like, it's because I didn't even know girls could have orgasms until I was in college and my like told me about the nuts and bolts. But you forgot one important thing. Shoot.
Show Host
There's some married listening. Married women listening right now to find out about.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
It's insane. Like 35% of women can't have an orgasm.
Show Host
35%.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Look at the actual. I mean, my husband's like, don't look at all the statistics, blah, blah, blah.
Show Host
But the statistics, yeah, your husband was prepared, man. I mean, he sent us like a bio this morning. He said, you're with a book. He is ready.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
He's awesome. 43% of American women are either non orgasmic or will be non orgasmic for a significant period of their lives. Wow.
Co-host or Guest Commentator
43%.
Because I don't think. I think a lot of women don't know how to achieve that for themselves and they don't know how to do that.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
And that's the point. And that was the point of Dr. Lorpa. That's the point of. What I'm saying is that if there's so much mystery around this, if that's how many women don't have an orgasm themselves, how are you going to talk to your kid about it? I mean, you need to know your own body.
Commercial Announcer
Well, I think you look at the other side of it. I mean, that's 57% of women are having a great time.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
No, they're not. No, they're not. The 57%. Only 30% of them can even. Can only. What is it? It's. Out of 100, only 17 can orgasm during intercourse. And they think there's something wrong with that, that they can't like, there's not enough information about. Hey, the part that gives you pleasure is not attached to your vagina, people. And that's not even like. That's. If you don't. I didn't know what that was, what a clitoris was like, what was that? Oh, that'. I mean, that was exactly what my daughter said to me when I was like. And when we talked about your vagina and this is your clutter. And what's that for? Oh, it's only attached to every nerve ending on your body.
Show Host
You use all those words. Everything with her.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Everything. Listen to the. No, I think it's time for the tape because you're gonna. It's. It's really. And, you know, and I just want to say, you're gonna teach a lot
Co-host or Guest Commentator
of adult women a lot of things, too.
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Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
It comes down how I've gone from makeup artist to sex therapist. Here is, you know, it's called Destiny. Yeah. You know. You know, just as a background, everybody, you know. Yes, I am a make, but also I have a sociology degree, and I was fascinated once I took my first women's studies class that I had had sex as much as I had had up to that. Not knowing that, you know, about having an orgasm, that I went on to take every sex class I could possibly take in college. So that I've always been fascinated by the study of sex. Like, I've just always been fascinated by it. So here we go.
Show Host
Jeff is going to play the part of the FCC today, so if there's anything that he deems would get us in trouble, he's hitting delay.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Okay, very good.
Show Host
And there are some parts of the audio that we had to beep out. My fear was that if we beeped out too much, it sort of takes away from what I want to learn today. You know, seriously, like, this is my blueprint at this point.
Commercial Announcer
So is this different than what the last that I heard?
Show Host
No, I think Josh beeped out everything that Rob asked him to beep out.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
And we have the names bleeped out, too, of a couple of the girls.
Show Host
Okay.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Okay.
Show Host
All right, so. And once again, if you're listening to this with kids in the car, I would suggest, you know, if you haven't had the talk, the birds and the bees talk, then this is probably not the time.
Co-host or Guest Commentator
Maybe.
Show Host
Or maybe it is. I don't know.
Co-host or Guest Commentator
Allison and her daughter and her daughter came to her with some questions, but just realized that the history with them. They've been talking about this for seven years already.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Yeah, Yeah. A long time. I mean, this is not an. This is not a conversation that happened one time. This is in involvement over with her comfortableness of being able to come to me, which is the whole point is that you want to be the source of information for your kid, period.
Show Host
And we're going to run these in clips rather than listen to the whole thing. We'll run it in clips and you can just go ahead and comment as the conversation went on.
Allison's Daughter
Okay, well, you said some. Like, you didn't explain to me well what a girl orgasm is. Is it just for, like, pleasure?
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Yes.
Allison's Daughter
That's not fair to the guy.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
No, it's not. Because they only can have one orgasm and we can have like, lots and
Allison's Daughter
lots and lots and then keep going and stuff.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Like, they don't wait until they're done usually. Why?
Allison's Daughter
Because they're too weak.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Because they're worn out. Because they just like, they just had millions of potential babies. One of most potential babies.
Allison's Daughter
He's slick, Mom. Well, he has an orgasm, too.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
This just shows how innocent she is. Now you got it. He's like, oh, naive, you know, like. And she's finally. I mean, I think we can all remember those times when, you know, we're watching a movie and finally the joke that you heard as a kid transforms into the joke as an adult. Like in Click. You know, she's watched that movie a hundred times and never got the part where he comes in 30 seconds and he's supposed to, you know, the rest of the whole movie.
Commercial Announcer
Can't use that word.
Show Host
Okay, you can say orgasm, but you
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
guys just see that I can say orgasm. Okay, okay.
Show Host
We're walking a really, really, really tight line here.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Giving me the rules, you know, to what I can say and not say. That will help. Okay, good.
Show Host
So we can't say that.
Co-host or Guest Commentator
But I want to say in that first clip, I mean, just the conversation you had there was educational for so many because that discovery about the number of women's ability and men's. I didn't figure that out until much older.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
There's no way I knew that as a teenager.
Co-host or Guest Commentator
I think it is fascinating. And she's like, wait, mom, that's the, that's the joke in that movie. Like, that's where she's learning this from.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
It's the movies.
Show Host
So she won't ask you it immediately during the movie. It'll be like a recall situation a couple of months or, or not even.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
I mean, it'll happen inside of a conversation later like she did there. We're talking about the difference between men and women and men and women's orgasms, which are totally different.
Commercial Announcer
Sure. Wait till Hayden goes and watches up as a grownup.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Oh, my God.
Co-host or Guest Commentator
Don't mess with Disney.
Allison's Daughter
Stop.
Show Host
There's gotta be another movie you can play with. All right, that's a sweet. Here's more with Allison and her 14 year old daughter.
Allison's Daughter
It was funny. Like, there's this girl at her school that just kept screaming all the time, orgasm.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
And then she texted saying, I'm orgasming, I'm orgasming. And then the kid says, where?
Allison's Daughter
You don't get what she's talking about, do you? He's like, no, no.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Because most boys don't even know that girl.
Show Host
Explain that up to that point.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Okay. So he, she. They're texting, you know, are you orgasming to each other? Yes.
Show Host
Just as a joke.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Yeah, as a joke. Are you orgasming? Are you orgasming? Are you orgasming? And then the kid's like, where? And it was like, like, you know, so if you're saying I'm blanking, I'm blanking. Well, where are you blanking?
Show Host
Like, are they talking about in a classroom?
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Yeah. And they're texting back and forth. And in fact the kids are texting
Show Host
that it's just a big old joke.
Allison's Daughter
Sexting.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
That's what the doctor calls it. Is the Dr. Berman from who's the Expert on the Oprah show says it's called sexting. I didn't even know that word until before I was like, oh my go. God. It's like sexting.
Caller or Listener
Like, wow, wow.
Show Host
So here's where I'm confused. Are they having sex talk with each other or they're just joking about it comes.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
That comes on where? Later where they're talking back and forth about. I'm like, well, where do you learn this from? She goes, oh, they learn from each other. We learn from each other. And I'm like, are there any parents? Because, oh, no, none of the kids talk to her kids. I said, are you the expert? And she's like, yeah, well, kind. Everybody's coming to me. I'm like, oh, wow. Oh, like. And I know all these girls. I didn't learn that girls could mean.
Allison's Daughter
I'm like, nothing.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
I didn't learn that girls could have orgasms until I was in college.
Allison's Daughter
But seriously, like In Friday the 13th, some people like asked, what does she mean? Because when two of them were having sex and stuff and they both were like, I'm like, I'm close to him
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
and stuff like that.
Allison's Daughter
She didn't know what that meant.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Right. And I'm like, yeah, well, I didn't know what it meant either.
Show Host
So they'll ask each other. They'll see the movie, then they'll come to school and they'll ask each other.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
That was at a sleepover.
Co-host or Guest Commentator
Well, that's like. That's like 13. That was in fifth or sixth grade, and we were reading Judy Blume Forever. I don't know.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Absolutely.
Co-host or Guest Commentator
That, you know. And that topic was in the book. And I remember what it was. I don't know what we're talking about.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
My first lover. Did you blank? I looked at him. I was like, I guess so. Actually, I think I say that to her. I was like, I had no idea. I think it's on there. Coming up.
Show Host
I'm not sure which one, because I'm sort of moving all around here.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
We'll find it. Or not.
Show Host
This is more the conversation about that kids have at school about sex.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Will you talk about it yet? No, I don't think nobody can talk
Allison's Daughter
about it usually, like. Only I don't ask them if they talk about that crap with their parents.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Well, does anybody just talk about it? I mean, do you make jokes about it now?
Allison's Daughter
Yeah, of course we do.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Does anybody know what they're talking about?
Allison's Daughter
Some of them.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
I mean, they make jokes about all of it, but do they know what it means?
Allison's Daughter
They don't text me. Yeah, they do. Yeah, of course they do. They probably. They don't learn it from their parents. They learn it from their friends.
Show Host
So the message there is loud and clear that parents aren't talking to the kids. They're learning. The kids don't have any idea what they're talking about yet. They're educating each other.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Right, right, right. Yeah. Yeah. Some of these statistics, you know, are saying that only 4% of girls say their beliefs about sex are mostly influenced by their mothers.
Co-host or Guest Commentator
4%.
Show Host
Read that one more time.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Only 4% of girls say their beliefs about sex are mostly influenced by their mothers. Wow.
Show Host
Then where are they getting the biggest influence from?
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
From their friends.
Co-host or Guest Commentator
From their friends?
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Yeah.
Show Host
4%.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
In the bird show and where are the. Yeah, in the bird show and where. But the question is, is then where are they getting this information? Everybody. The Internet.
Co-host or Guest Commentator
And it sounds like to me from the conversation with your daughter, pop culture.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Yep. Movies. Movies.
Co-host or Guest Commentator
TV shows. Like the cw. Who's gonna have the threesome on Gossip Girl? So do they even know what a threesome is?
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Oh, yeah.
Co-host or Guest Commentator
Oh, yeah, they do.
Oh, yeah.
She knows what that means.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. The first time I had sex. First time I had sex, the guy asked me if I was gonna. If I was gonna. I had no idea what he meant.
Allison's Daughter
Did he have to tell you?
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
No, I just kind of pretended like I knew what he was talking about. Seriously? Never told me. I didn't know until I was in college and then I was in my class and I went, oh, well, you kind of left out the important part that girls don't necessarily have orgasms while they're having intercourse.
Co-host or Guest Commentator
Oh,
Caller or Listener
wow.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
And if you don't, you had to take a class on that. Yeah, I took a great class.
Show Host
If you're just checking us out this
Co-host or Guest Commentator
morning, class on that. She's like fascinating.
Show Host
Allison here recorded one of the conversations that she had with her 14 year old daughter about sex and this is the result of it here. Has she ever come to you with something that is so graphic that you couldn't answer?
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Not that I couldn't answer. You know, one of the things that Dr. Berman says is that when they come to you, you have to be as least reactive as possible. That if you hesitate for a moment, they're not gonna come to you again.
Show Host
What was the subject matter?
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Oh, it was about, I don't know, how do I say, how do I say?
Co-host or Guest Commentator
Just write it down.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Okay.
Co-host or Guest Commentator
Every time you open your mo, I'm having a panic attack.
Show Host
And while she's writing, the SEC's not nearly as liberal as I am while
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
she's writing that I'm doing my best
Co-host or Guest Commentator
because I remember in that Judy Bloom forever that I was talking about that Millie Pete, who's much older than me, my friend, and I did not know what some of these passages meant in that book. And I remember us reading mom the passages in the book. And I remember being relieved when she didn't react, when she just flat out as matter of factly. Now I would love to go back to her now and talk about the panic she had. But we were in fifth and sixth grade talking about these adult teenagers in this book having sex and everything about it. And I remember these matter of factness that my mother had in explaining or talking or saying it's okay that you read that and feel free to come and ask me any more questions. The sense of relief I will always remember. And I never felt a block in asking my family questions, her or my older sister from then on, which I think was a lot safer for me than it would have been if I had gone to ask myself. 12 year old, you know, I'm only 10. So let me ask a 12 or 13 year old about what this means, and they may have tried to show me what that meant, you know?
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Oh, yeah, yeah. So one of the main things that she said is it's. Yeah, you can't say that, you know? Yeah, I can't say that. So oral sex, where the male is the recipient.
Show Host
Gotcha.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Okay.
Show Host
And how old was she when she asked you?
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Just a couple months ago.
Show Host
So that's 14 years old.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Oh, yeah, yeah. And that was. But she was so concerned about what that was like. Okay, what is that? What is that?
Show Host
Did she use the initials for it when she came home?
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Oh, no, it was a. It was the actual slang word for it. Slang word for it.
Show Host
Okay.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
So.
Co-host or Guest Commentator
So she had heard about it from her friends. She immediately comes home to ask her mom about it, which I don't think a lot of girls would do. I don't think I would have at that age.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
And she's so. And she gets so flustered, like, you'll hear. And I'm like, what is that? And then when I tell her, she's like, oh, my God, it's disgusting. I'm never doing that. Oh, my God, how do people do that? And I'm like, well, I guess you'll find out. Know. I mean, apparently it feels really good.
Show Host
Here's Jared. Good Morning. You're on Q100.
Caller or Listener
Good morning, Barto.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Good morning.
Show Host
How are you?
Caller or Listener
Wonderful. I had a comment, something I wanted to add. The male orgasm is one in its own. Because a lot of times men think that an orgasm and the act of ejaculating are the one and the same, and actually they're not. A male can have multiple orgasms without ejaculating.
Show Host
Isn't that the whole tantra thing, Tantric thing?
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
You know, I'd say that as if I'm interested in hearing you're saving tantric sex till 15.
Show Host
That's the advanced course.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Yeah, that is the advanced course.
Commercial Announcer
I think so. Hey, no tantric sex till you have your driver's permit, young lady.
Co-host or Guest Commentator
I think some of the fears from parents in talking to their kids about it and being open about it is that it gives them permission to go do it.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Yeah.
Co-host or Guest Commentator
So what would you say to a parent who said, well, I don't want to talk about that with my kids because if I tell them what that slang word means, then they're gonna go do it.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Okay. It's the main thing that I'm gonna say over and over is information is not permission. Information is not permission.
Show Host
Do you say that to her?
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Absolutely. That is. And she knows that. And she. She is so empowered. I. We were actually up last night. I was so. I wish I had the recorder last night, you guys. I gotta have one now. Because, one. She's totally into it. And she's also agreed. She thinks it's so important. You know, we ended up talking till midnight last night about all this because I was very concerned about revealing my identity. I was very concerned about people knowing that what she knows in these conversations, because that could be. I mean, if I. I don't know if I would have been that comfortable going, hey, I know all about oral sex, and I know all about all this stuff in front of other boys. Like, what would they think of me that I knew all that stuff? And she's just like, oh, no, I'm. You know, I'm totally empowered. She's a great. She want her on. She's willing to come and talk about it.
Show Host
Is that right?
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Oh, yeah.
Show Host
Okay.
Co-host or Guest Commentator
And I wonder if more information keeps them from wanting to go find out.
Allison (Makeup Artist and Sex Therapist)
Yeah, well, she now isn't afraid. Like, she's not afraid. And, you know, I just want to say. I want to say this one thing, you know, that Eve, a quote that Eve has. And if you don't know this, Eve Ensler has a play, a new play coming out that's called I Am an Emotional. I am an emotional creature, the Secret Life of Girls. And it's actually gonna be a V Day movement for teens. And it talks about a lot of these unspoken things with girls. And I've gotten to read the whole thing. It's just so I cried. I had my own emotional reaction to that because I had a very emotional, you know, teenager. But one of the things that she says is, is that the whole, you know, teaching your kid abstinence, like, oh, don't do it. Oh, don't do it. You know, it says there's no evidence today that abstinence only education delays teen sexual activity. Recent research shows that abstinence only strategies may deter contraceptive use among sexually active teens, increasing their risk of unintended pregnancy and STDs. Six in 10 teens have sex before they leave high school, and 730,000 teenage girls will get pregnant this year.
Show Host
Wow. That's astonishing. All right, we'll take some of your calls. People obviously want to talk about how they found out about it. The myth that they thought when they were younger and once they got an education, realized, okay, everything I knew when I was younger was wrong. You're on the vert show vrbo.
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Original Air Date: May 11, 2026
Hosts: Bert & The Bert Show Cast
Featured Guest: Allison (Makeup Artist & Sex Therapist)
This episode of The Bert Show dives into the challenging and often awkward territory of when and how to discuss sex and sexuality—"the birds and the bees"—with children, especially at a young age. The conversation is led by Allison, a makeup artist-turned-sex therapist, who has maintained a frank and ongoing dialogue about sex and bodies with her children. Allison shares candid conversations with her now-14-year-old daughter, highlights key advice from sexual health experts, and reflects on the impact of open parental communication in an age when most kids learn about sex through peers, pop culture, and the internet.
Dialogue Should Begin Early:
Answering Questions as They Come:
Developmentally Appropriate Honesty:
Different Dynamics for Sons and Daughters:
Normalizing Vocabulary:
Sexual Misinformation is Rampant:
Highlighting the Orgasm Gap:
Candid With Kids About Pleasure:
Innocence & Embarrassment:
Peers & Pop Culture Trump Parents:
Examples From Media:
Risks of Unmediated Exposure:
Kids Use Terminology Casually (Even if They Don’t Understand):
Introduction of 'Sexting':
Don’t Overreact:
Giving Information Isn’t Giving Permission:
Empowerment Reduces Risk:
"The whole point is to start an open dialogue when they're young."
— Allison (01:21)
"You always answer their questions."
— Allison referencing her mother, an elementary school teacher (02:43)
"You want to be the source of information for your kid, period."
— Allison (08:38)
"Only 4% of girls say their beliefs about sex are mostly influenced by their mothers."
— Allison, citing research (14:26)
"Information is not permission. Information is not permission."
— Allison (19:24)
"If you react with shock or discomfort, your child is less likely to approach you again."
— Allison on Dr. Berman's advice (15:58)
"The part that gives you pleasure is not attached to your vagina, people."
— Allison (06:27)
"She is so empowered... She's totally into it... She's willing to come and talk about it."
— Allison about her daughter (20:19)
"Abstinence-only strategies may deter contraceptive use among sexually active teens, increasing their risk of unintended pregnancy and STDs."
— Allison, referencing new research (20:23)
This episode is both revelatory and relatable, packed with practical advice, real family experiences, and a humorous, relaxed tone—a true representation of The Bert Show’s authentic approach to real-life topics.