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The bird show let's turn.
Host
Our attention here to Jody. If you guys have missed this over the last couple of days, let me just give you the two minute audio recap of the phone call that we took from Jody on Friday.
Jody (Bride)
My big problem is this. I'm getting married in about three weeks and my fiance's sister has a really bad stutter and they've just decided the couple that they want her to read something at the wedding and I feel awful, but I don't want her to read something. You know, I really don't want the ceremony marred by someone who can't get the words out.
Melissa
How bad is it?
Jody (Bride)
When she's nervous it can take her 10 minutes to say something.
Melissa
So say something like a sentence or say something like a passage.
Jody (Bride)
Like a passage and you think that.
Melissa
You will be standing at the altar really upset about it. If it did say it does take her 10 minutes.
Jody (Bride)
It's my day, you know, I want everything to go smoothly. You know, I don't want to be there waiting for her to get something out.
Melissa
Oh, no, now you can't make fun of her. That's not fair. It's not something she can control.
Host
Have they already asked her?
Jody (Bride)
Yeah, I think they have. I mean, it came to me after the fact.
Melissa
Well, I'm kind of on both sides here because I think, first of all, you're the bride, so all decisions should be run through you because it is your day. But on the flip side of it, do you really want to make that decision and call your sister in law and say, no?
Jody (Bride)
You know, I think I should be able to say something.
Sarah
I think it's absolutely offensive. I mean, I think this is your family, this is your family member, and you're saying that it would make your day imperfect if she got up there and spoke, even though she can't speak as eloquently as you.
Jody (Bride)
Hey, Sarah, I know that the guy.
Caller (Carly)
Does not have much input in the wedding at all.
Jody (Bride)
And if this is his sister and.
Caller (Carly)
Something that means a lot to him.
Jody (Bride)
She needs to back down.
Caller (Carly)
Hey, Crystal, if you did want to get out of it, you always say that you've asked someone else to read and give her another part in the wedding.
Jody (Bride)
The only call we've gotten that agrees with Jody. Oh, Lord, I don't see why this.
Caller (Carly)
Is such a big deal. I mean, Jody has the right to her own feelings and it doesn't seem like she's saying, oh, you know, her sister is this stupid person, you know, because she has a speech impediment and she just, it's like, of all things to do, why would somebody give somebody who stutters reading?
Host
Now, we can say since that the calls haven't been nearly as lopsided and the emails haven't been nearly as lopsided. Like, most are calling. Well, about half are calling and saying, what is she thinking? And the other half are like, it's her day.
Melissa
Right.
Host
Let her do what she wants.
Melissa
More people are defending Jody as the bride than I would have ever expected.
Host
And I thought Melissa made a great point yesterday that this is really kind of a. It's like, it's a deep gesture.
Sarah
Yeah, if, if. And my thought yesterday was if the brother asked her or any family member had asked the. The woman who stutters to read. I mean, nobody is more self conscious and more aware of the stuttering problem than the woman that has it herself. And she's more self conscious than anybody ever could be about it. And for somebody to ask her to read to me would be just the ultimate. You know what? It doesn't matter how you talk. I want you to speak at my wedding.
Host
And.
Sarah
And to me, it would be like the ultimate compliment to her.
Host
So Jody's fiance was going to have the talk last night with his sister. Now, the one thing we universally agreed on is that he should have consulted Jody before he asked the sister. I mean, that's a pretty big part of a wedding. Yes, we all agreed on that. The thing we disagree on is the reason why she doesn't want the sister. The sister to read.
Sarah
Right, right.
Host
We can understand about our agreement.
Melissa
We are in agreement about the agreement. Okay, I agree. You know what?
Sarah
I. No, I'm just kidding.
Host
Hey, Mindy.
Jody (Bride)
Hey. I didn't think it was possible, but Jodi makes Super Bowl Sarah seem open minded.
Sarah
Very true.
Host
A lot of people are siding with her, though. I mean, because, and I've said this before too, because I'm being a little bit hypocritical here, that there are very few days, I think, in your life where you get to be 100, 100% selfish. All you have to do is think about yourself. And for that day, your wedding day is pretty much that day for a bride.
Sarah
Yeah, But I mean, 100% selfish. I mean, but there's limits. Like, I think it's a day where all the bride is the, the center of attention. You know, the bride is the bride's day. But that doesn't mean she can be a total witch and nobody have any feedback about it. And the other thing, I think that if you put the ceremony, the ritual and the ceremony before the human beings that you're going to be a part of a family with, then your priorities are messed up. I mean, I think it, I think it goes beyond her the limits of how selfish she can be.
Melissa
And Jody is isolating her and her fiance as the only ones that mean anything in this whole wedding experience. But a marriage is two families coming together. And I think that that's kind of been the spin off conversations of this whole thing with Jodi is like, this woman is going to be your sister in law, you know, for the rest of your life. She's a part of your family. You can't treat somebody like that. That's in your family.
Host
And I think Jody said yesterday that, well, I'm not marrying the family, I'm marrying my fiance. Right.
Melissa
And you are sorely mistaken if that's what you think marriage is.
Host
Hey, Jody.
Jody (Bride)
Yeah.
Host
All right. So did your fiance talk to his sister last night?
Jody (Bride)
Yes, he did.
Host
All right, you take it from there.
Jody (Bride)
Okay. He spoke to her, and she was totally fine. One of his other sisters did. I told her, too, and she was fine with it, too. But then she told her parents.
Host
Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on. So your fiance goes to the stuttering sister and talks to her, and she.
Jody (Bride)
Was totally cool about it.
Host
And she was cool about it, but also goes to an older or a younger sister?
Jody (Bride)
Younger.
Host
Younger sister tells her, too. And the younger sister proceeds to go to what will be your future mother in law.
Jody (Bride)
And father in law.
Host
And father in law.
Sarah
Okay.
Host
All right.
Jody (Bride)
And the father in law was. He. He didn't take it in the. You know, I really didn't mean it.
Caller (Carly)
In a mean way.
Jody (Bride)
You know, it's just I didn't expect. You know, I don't want my wedding date to be martyred anyway, so.
Sarah
So what did the father and the mother in law, what do they do?
Jody (Bride)
Well, I got a very sharply worded email, and he said, I'm sending you this email because I want to choose my words carefully. And he went on to say that he was deeply offended that. I didn't know that stutterers don't stutter when they read. And I think somebody at your station should have told me something. I mean, no one mentioned that stutterers don't. Don't stutter when they read. I had no idea. I thought it was like, it was something that happened all the time to them.
Host
I didn't know that. I mean, why would you think that anybody in here would be educated on that?
Jody (Bride)
Well, you guys do run a radio station. I thought somebody would know something.
Sarah
So it's our fault.
Jody (Bride)
Yeah, it is your fault.
Melissa
Okay.
Host
Just because we have a morning show means that we would be educated on stuttering.
Jody (Bride)
I would think so. I would think you guys would like. I thought you guys were trying to help me. I thought, you guys. We're gonna look stuff up, know about things.
Host
Oh, so we research every call that comes in.
Jody (Bride)
For some reason, I thought you guys would.
Sarah
So we're in service of your wedding as well as everybody else.
Jody (Bride)
You know, I'm really sorry, but it's just. I was under the impression you guys would do a little research.
Host
Oh, so this is on us now.
Jody (Bride)
Yeah. I'm gonna say I'm very disappointed with your show. I mean, my boyfriend is, too. He's like. He's. We're determined to make everyone stop listening to you guys now.
Host
Hold on a second here, Usher. You brought this on yourself. This has nothing to do with us. So what was. I'm just curious what your response was. Back to the email or should we write your father in law for you?
Jody (Bride)
No, I'm gonna write him back in the next couple days after I've cooled down.
Sarah
And what are you gonna say to him?
Jody (Bride)
You know what, that's a private matter. It really doesn't.
Host
It's a private matter. You've been talking about it for three days.
Jody (Bride)
Yeah, but this is my father in law and I've got to choose my words carefully. I've got to decide when.
Sarah
So your father in law is different than your sister in law. Like it is.
Melissa
He's.
Sarah
I don't know. I'm surprised that you're going to show some respect to him.
Host
Yeah, you know that the relationship is damaged at this point anyway. I mean, just for the fact that you wanted to pull out.
Melissa
And I'm curious, now that you know she won't stutter when she reads, can she be in the wedding or will she still mar the perfect wedding? Except ban.
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Jody (Bride)
We're still. We're just still discussing that today.
Sarah
So the damage is done though the sister in law already her. You know, you already rejected her. So it. It doesn't matter at this point.
Host
Did your fiance tell you what his approach was with his sister? Did he say, look, my fiance, Jody isn't comfortable with this? Or did he say, look, I jumped the gun here and I invited you to be the wedding reader even without Jody's.
Jody (Bride)
I think he told her he jump the gun.
Host
Okay, so it's not. He didn't put it entirely on you.
Caller (Mario)
No, of course not.
Host
Okay, that's actually. I think that's the wise move on his part.
Sarah
Yeah, but she still knows the truth.
Melissa
I'm sure she knows the truth. I'm sure it's like Melissa was saying yesterday. It's something she's insecure about already. And I'm sure that if her feelings were hurt, she was not gonna tell her brother.
Jody (Bride)
Her feelings weren't hurt.
Melissa
You don't know that.
Host
Well, I mean, if they haven't figured out that it was you that this is coming down from, then your father in law wouldn't have written you an email.
Jody (Bride)
Well, he wrote it to the both of us. It wasn't just to me.
Host
Now hold on one sec here. Hey, Brooke, you're on all the hits Q100.
Caller (Carly)
Oh my gosh. Okay, here's what I think. The first, the moment that she Tried to blame this on you guys. You should have hung up on her. It is not your fault. She is trying to find somebody to take the fall for being so mean. I think the only thing that would make this fair is if she had jumped on the gun and taken care of this herself instead of letting her fiance do it.
Host
Well, you know what? I would agree with Jodi in this way. In that he had to write what he did was wrong because he shouldn't have invited her in the first place. So he had to write that. And to save the relationship between the in laws and Jody, I think the only way to approach that was to say, look, not even mention the stuttering thing. It was just that I made a mistake by coming to you first without talking to my fiance about a very big part about our wedding.
Sarah
No, I think the way that it was better is for Jodie just to say, you know what? That would be cool to have your sister in the wedding and then everything would be fine.
Melissa
Exactly. I totally agree with you, Melissa. I think that she should have allowed her to be in the wedding and call it a day.
Sarah
Great idea, honey.
Host
What I don't understand here is now, if you know that stutterers don't stutter while they're reading, then why is this still even an issue? I think Jim brings up a great.
Jody (Bride)
Question because it's a long passage and I really. I really didn't want any reading in the wedding, you know, in the ceremony anyway. I just wanted. I wanted a quick ceremony in a church. In, out, you know, I didn't want a whole half hour wedding ceremony.
Host
Carly.
Jody (Bride)
Yeah, go ahead. What is wrong with you? There's nothing wrong with you.
Caller (Carly)
There's nothing wrong with you. Okay, first off, if you didn't want speaking in your wedding, then why didn't you just say that to begin with instead of hurting this woman feelings and saying this?
Jody (Bride)
Because she stutters.
Melissa
Good point.
Caller (Carly)
And what are you. You're gonna blame the bird show? They're supposed to do research for you. What? Do you not have a computer? Do you not have the Internet?
Jody (Bride)
No, I don't. I don't have the Internet.
Sarah
She's gonna email her father in law back somehow miraculously, right?
Jody (Bride)
Yeah.
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Host
Well, how'd you get the email? And a smoke signal?
Jody (Bride)
Yeah, no, it was. It was on my. My fiance's computer.
Caller (Carly)
So he has a computer?
Jody (Bride)
Yeah.
Caller (Carly)
So why didn't he research it for you?
Jody (Bride)
Or it's his sister.
Caller (Carly)
How long has he known her? Five days. He doesn't know that stutterers don't stutter when they read.
Jody (Bride)
Apparently not.
Caller (Carly)
Apparently not. Well, how are you going to sit there and blame the bird show? If I was this guy and I was marrying you, I would run in the opposite direction. First off, because you are a self centered, egotistical person sitting there thinking about yourself. You're marrying his whole family, honey. The whole family. And you are never going to live this down. You're gonna be known as the wicked witch that wouldn't let the sister read at the wedding because she had a stuttering problem.
Jody (Bride)
Uh oh, and Jen could probably back.
Caller (Carly)
Me up on this. Her mother will never forget that.
Melissa
Oh, no, no, no.
Host
The father could get over this, but the mother will never be.
Melissa
The mother in law will catalog this forever.
Host
Hey Mario.
Caller (Mario)
Yeah. This lady is just incredible. She is so amazing. I cannot believe that there's people out there that exist like this. She has no heart, no compassion. I mean, I feel bad for her husband, I really do. I feel really bad and I wish him the best of luck. I don't know how in the hell they're gonna get this to work out. I really don't. I feel I'm just so destroyed by what she has said. She's making a birth show Research.
Host
Yeah.
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I'm not even. I'm brushing that off. I'm not even.
Melissa
Yeah, that's just. Yeah, she's just clutching at straws because she didn't know that. And she made this big stink and she feels stupid. She made a big stink over.
Jody (Bride)
I thought you guys offered a community service.
Melissa
Uh huh.
Sarah
We were trying to stop you from making the stupid mistake you made. We were trying to help you. I'm curious because yesterday, you know, like we just said before we got Jody on the phone about how many people were supporting her, but yet we haven't heard those phone calls. I'm curious if anybody. Yeah, where are you? Where's Jody supporters?
Host
Now here's Michelle, who is a speech therapist and she could tell us if it's true that stutterers don't stutter when they're reading. Hey, Michelle.
Michelle (Speech Therapist)
Hey. How you guys doing?
Host
Good. Can you confirm that for us?
Michelle (Speech Therapist)
I can kind of confirm it. It depends on the person, of course, but most people, once they've practiced a paragraph over and over, are able to read with perfect clarity. So that is actually true. If Jody's sister in law did practice, she would be able to do it very well.
Host
Okay, Jody. So does that change anything for you? All she's got to do is practice it.
Sarah
It's just too Late.
Michelle (Speech Therapist)
It's not.
Sarah
The sister's already been. No, but the sister's already been told. The offer has already been taken back. So it doesn't matter at this point what you do. The damage has been done.
Michelle (Speech Therapist)
Right. And the other big point to make is stutterers know their problems. You know, they're the most aware of them. And it's a big thing for Jody's sister in law to want to do this. I mean, that's a huge step for her. Like, that's the biggest thing towards her getting through her stuttering problem. That's a big, big.
Host
So had Jody Stone some support here.
Michelle (Speech Therapist)
And actually Jody's actually done some damage to the sister's psyche, basically. And the other thing, and the other thing Jody needs to also remember is the wedding is not one day. It's your whole life, her entire life and her relationship with her future family depends on this day.
Host
That's the point I was trying to make. I mean, you're talking about two minutes out of your wedding for a lifetime.
Sarah
Of happiness that the damage has been done. I mean, we can talk all day long about it, but what we tried to prevent from happening has happened because.
Melissa
The father in law would have only written back his son if he knew. If he didn't think that Jody was involved, he would have written. What's your fiance's name again?
Jody (Bride)
Jeff.
Melissa
Jeff. So he would have written Jeff an email and he would have said. He would have said, jeff, I think it was a poor decision that you jumped the gun before consulting your bride. You've hurt your sister's feelings. Yada, yada, yada.
Host
Sent it to both.
Sarah
But he sent it to both of them.
Jody (Bride)
As both of us.
Host
Who? You wrote what? As both of us.
Jody (Bride)
We wrote the letter as we, we were. He spoke to the sister, he said, well, we both feel that we should have been. He, he was just explaining that he, they hadn't, he hadn't cleared anything through me.
Sarah
What letter are you talking about?
Jody (Bride)
It wasn't a letter. It wasn't. It was when we talked, when he talked to his sister.
Sarah
He's not speaking very clearly right now.
Host
Yeah, right. I think we should end this conversation. You're starting to stutter.
Jody (Bride)
You know what? I'm just, I'm sorry. My mission, my mission for the next, the rest of the year is to try to get you guys off the air. You guys are not gonna have.
Host
You know what?
Jody (Bride)
You should absolutely work in radio by the year 2005.
Host
Please try that. Tell all your friends, all your friends about it.
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Jody (Bride)
I'm telling all my friends. I mean my friends who. My friends who know me are just totally on my side.
Host
You know what? Your friends are talking so much crap about you behind your back, they're embarrassed for you right now.
Jody (Bride)
You guys are all delusional.
Host
No, I've done some research on this. I did the research because as a morning show, that's what we do.
Jody (Bride)
I think you guys are sleep depraved and you're just like gibbering on the friggin radio.
Host
Very nice talking to you. Thanks for giving us three days of material.
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Host
Bye.
Melissa
Oh, you hate her.
Host
Find love in your heart. You know what you need, Church? You need to find more love in your heart.
Jody (Bride)
That's what I need.
Host
Good morning. All the hits Q100.
Jody (Bride)
Hey, this is Kai.
Host
Hi, Kai.
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Jody (Bride)
I just wanted to say I was originally a supporter of Jody. I just thought that she should be able to have the choice, not necessarily the way that she did it, but now I see she's just a complete idiot. I mean, who the hell thinks the Burt show should research? I mean, you called up a radio show, people are just gonna call in that's instantaneous. Nobody's in the background doing FBI backup checks.
Host
Now we have a whole staff, we have 13 people there that are researching every 10 topic that comes on the radio every morning.
Jody (Bride)
She's a fool. And I feel so sorry for the other side of the family because for one, they're going to make her pay. She's going to pay for this forever because that's their family. And now to see that she's just an idiot and she really just doesn't want that sister to read, even though she now knows that if she's not going to stutter reading.
Host
But Melissa said, I mean, at this point it doesn't matter.
Sarah
It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter if the sister reads or not, because it's what we try. What my goal was is to get her not to have that conversation or anybody have the conversation with the sister. Because that could have been not only the sister's most special day of her life because her family had asked her to do that, but it could have been the highlight of the entire wedding because everybody that would have been at the wedding would have known the struggles of the sister, would have seen her work to overcome it for that couple. And it could have been one of the best wedding moments ever. And Jody selfishly ruined it all.
Host
This show doesn't resort to name calling, but if we did, we'd Call her a dumbass, but we don't.
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Episode: Vault: Is This Bride Being Selfish About Her Wedding?
Date: December 18, 2025
Host: The Bert Show Cast (Bert, Kristin, Abby, Cassie, Tommy & more)
Theme: A controversial call from a bride, Jody, who objects to her future sister-in-law with a stutter reading at her wedding, sparks a heated discussion about weddings, family, and compassion.
This episode centers on a fraught wedding dilemma: Jody, a bride-to-be, asks if she's being selfish for not wanting her fiancé's sister—who has a severe stutter—to do a reading at the ceremony. The show's regular panel and listeners debate whether this request is reasonable or insensitive, digging deep into issues of family, inclusivity, and the meaning of a “bride’s day.”
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The episode moves seamlessly from empathetic attempts to understand Jody to sharp criticism, both from the hosts and active listeners. There is a mix of humor, exasperation, and genuine sadness over a missed opportunity for a memorable, supportive family moment. The hosts maintain their trademark candid, lively tone, with sarcastic asides and personal reflections layered between the heated debate.
This episode stands as an exemplar of The Bert Show’s signature blend of authentic debate, audience participation, and real-life drama. It is a cautionary tale on the value of empathy, the reality of family dynamics, and the weight of fleeting decisions on life-long relationships.