Vault: It's Time For Chick Chat

Summary

The Bert Show – Vault: It's Time For Chick Chat

Release Date: December 24, 2025
Host: Pionaire Podcasting
Main Segment: Chick Chat Panel with Jessica, Tracy, Melissa, Jennifer, listener calls

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Episode Overview

This episode of The Bert Show spotlights "Chick Chat," a fun, empowering, and candid all-women segment where the female cast (and listeners) discuss the challenges of making new female friendships as adults. Inspired by the guys' previous advice panels, the women launch their own open, supportive conversation about loneliness, shifting social circles, and actionable guidance for building authentic connections.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Struggle to Make Friends as Adult Women

[01:40–03:40] Tracy’s Story

• Tracy introduces the heart of the topic:
  • At 26, despite having had many friends growing up, she finds it hard to meet new women to hang out with.
  • Her old friends are now married, raising kids, or living far away.
  • "I just need like some new girlfriends to have my Hump Day Supper club with." (Tracy, 03:41)

2. Why “Friend Dating” Feels Awkward

[03:41–05:00] Group Reactions

• The group relates to the weirdness of initiating “friend dates.”
• Jennifer:
  • Suggests letting it happen naturally: “I don’t think you can just ask a girl you meet one time to go out and do something…if they come on really strong, I think that it’s almost like a desperate thing.” (Jennifer, 04:13)
  • Recommends recurring, low-pressure environments (e.g., spin classes, work) for friendship to blossom.

3. Listener Calls: Shared Experiences and Couple “Shopping”

[05:07–06:06] Molly’s Call

• Molly:
  • Echoes Tracy’s issue, mentioning her own shrinking friend group after high school.
  • Describes “couple shopping” with her fiancé, emphasizing it’s not just a women’s problem.
  • Finds some success in the gym: “I’ve been going to hip hop with the same girl and then I found out that we actually hate the same roommate that we both used to have.” (Molly, 05:50)

4. Finding Friends Outside Bars

[06:06–07:20] Practical Suggestions

• Melissa:
  • Suggests pursuing activities of personal interest (volunteering, climbing, fitness classes) as natural ways to meet like-minded people.
  • "It's the non-bar, non-alcoholic activities that could be an avenue for some people." (Melissa, 06:56)

5. The Desire for a “Clique” and Expanding Circles

[07:09–08:01] Clique Aspirations

• Tracy: Wants not just individual friendships, but a cohesive group ("clique").
• Melissa: Points out that meeting even one new person could give access to an established friend group.

6. Age Gaps and Nontraditional Friendships

[08:11–09:08] Stephanie’s Call

• Stephanie: Shares that, as a young mom of 35, her friends are often at different life stages.
  • Urges looking for common interests over age and within the circles you already have: “My friends are usually not my age...I’ve got lots of friends that are ten years older than I am.” (Stephanie, 08:26)

7. Overcoming Hesitation and Starting Conversations

[09:08–10:22] Confronting Social Anxiety

• Tracy: Confesses hesitancy to ask casual acquaintances to hang out (“...she sees me every day, and she hasn't asked me to hang out, so maybe she doesn't want to...”).
• Melissa: Jokes that there should be a “friends.com.”
• Molly: Reassures that many feel the same and encourages being open about wanting new friends.

8. Acceptance, Chemistry, and Persistence

[10:22–12:39] Friendship is Like Dating

• Jennifer: Compares making friends to dating, noting chemistry is essential:
  • "You don't click with every girl you meet. You can't force it." (Jennifer, 10:27)
• Jessica: Encourages joining groups/activities as a way to encounter compatible people.

9. Action Steps and Real-World Applications

[12:39–13:00] How to Actually Do It

• Tracy: Summarizes the plan:

  • Join activities with people her age.
  • Don’t rush the friendship invitation.
  • “Just need to get over the sweaty palms nervousness and ask him out on a friend date.” (Tracy, 12:51)

• Jessica & Tracy: Joke about the need for a women’s-only, platonic “friendless party.”

• Listener Erica: Pledges to be Tracy’s friend, underscoring just how common the issue is.

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Memorable Quotes & Moments

• Tracy:
  • "All my life I've always had lots of girlfriends, but it seems like at this point in my life...I don't know where to meet new girlfriends." [03:21]
• Jennifer:
  • "I don’t think you can just ask a girl you meet one time to go out and do something with you. I think it has to be a natural progression." [04:13]
  • "You don't click with every girl you meet. You can't force it. It's like dating." [10:27]
• Melissa:
  • "It's the non-bar, non alcoholic activities that could be an avenue for some people." [06:56]
  • (Joking) "We should start...friends.com." [09:35]
• Stephanie:
  • "I think you have to look within what you have today...sometimes you'll find that your best friend Melissa, and your other best friend actually have more similarities than you'd think." [08:26]
• Jessica:
  • "When you do meet a new friend, you're like, oh my God, conversation is easy." [11:08]
• Tracy & Jessica (on the “Friendless Party”):
  • “And the Bert Show needs to throw a party. Women seeking women that they don’t want to date.” [12:55]
• Erica & Tracy:
  • “I will be your friend.” / “Perfect.” [13:07–13:42]

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• [01:40] – Chick Chat opens, Tracy shares her friend-finding dilemma
• [03:41–05:07] – “Friend dates,” why making adult friends feels odd
• [05:07–06:06] – Listener Molly’s call on couple “shopping”
• [06:06–07:20] – The “no bar” advice, meeting friends through interests
• [08:11–09:08] – Stephanie’s call about age gaps in friendships
• [09:08–10:22] – Micro-anxieties, online “friend match” ideas
• [10:22–12:39] – Chemistry in friend-making, concrete suggestions
• [13:07–13:42] – Listener Erica volunteers as Tracy’s new friend
• [12:55] – Proposal of a “Friendless Party” by The Bert Show

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Tone & Takeaways

The conversation is upbeat, vulnerable, and relatable—peppered with humor and warmth. The panel acknowledges the mixture of loneliness and awkwardness that comes with seeking new friendships as adults, pushing listeners to be open, tap into personal interests, let friendships happen organically, and not to take rejection personally. The episode ends on a supportive and playful note, with the potential for real-life connection and community-building via the show.

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For new or longtime listeners, this Chick Chat offers a blend of practical wisdom, laughter, and empathy—reminding everyone that wanting adult friendships is normal, and that the best connections usually start with a shared interest and a little courage.

Transcript

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[Jessica]

The Burt show on all the hits. Q100 and this, my friends, is Chick chat. This is where we kick the guys out of the studio because you know, the guys have had this segment for a couple of weeks now where the women get booted out of the studio and they give girls advice on guys. And so it's just an all guy panel and we decided we need our own time too. So this is Chick Chat, the all girl panel. And it's gonna be really fun and.

[Melissa]

We want you guys to give spirit fingers now.

[Tracy]

Spirit fingers.

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[Jessica]

And Jessica here is here from Jessica Shops Atlanta. And Tracy is in the studio and Melissa and I are going to do some chick chat. Tracy's got a problem and we're going to solve it.

[Melissa]

Okay?

[Tracy]

Okay. So here's the thing. This is a brand new problem for me and it's something that I've never experienced. So I'm kind of traumatized by it, I guess. But I need more friends. Like I'm constantly listening to Jen Hobby talk about like, you know, going out, you know, she has her, what is it, your Wednesday night.

[Jessica]

Oh, the Hump Day Supper Club.

[Tracy]

Yeah, Like I'm so jealous of her. Hump Day Supper Club. I'm so jealous of all like, you know, her little days out with her girlfriends and things like that. And all my life I've always had lots of girlfriends, but it seems like at this point in my life, you know, being female, 26 years old, I don't know where to meet new girlfriends. You know, like going, you know, growing up, you always meet your girlfriends at school and then all of a sudden you're in college and you're also working in restaurants. And there's always so many fun, cool people my age that it just, it kind of naturally evolves where all of a sudden you're hanging out with a group of people and then all of a sudden you're just hanging out and gossiping with the girls that are in that group of people. And now like I have this job and although, you know, I work with a lot of really, really cool people, I'm finding it hard to meet great girls my age and all the girls that I've been friends with in the past, you know, don't get me wrong, before they get angry at me because they're all, you know, really cool and I love hanging out with them, but they've all kind, their lives have changed and they've got different priorities. You know, quite a few of them are married now, quite a few of them have children now. Quite a few of them live really far away. So I just need like some new girlfriends, some new girlfriends to have my Hump Day Supper club with.

[Melissa]

I don't think that's a unique problem. I think there's a lot of women in Atlanta that feel that way, you know.

[Tracy]

Well, so my question is, where on earth do you meet other girls you're own age to hang out with? And then once you do find a new cute, cool girl that you think, huh, we could be friends, how do you ask her out on a quote unquote date? Yeah, a friend date. Because I've come across that before where I meet a girl and I'm like, oh, she seems cool. We're about the same Age, have the same kind of lifestyle. But I've just met her. How do I say, hey, want to go out sometime?

[Jennifer]

I think. I don't think that you can just ask girl that you meet one time to go out and do something with you. I think it has to be a natural progression where you kind of run into that person a couple of times, because otherwise they might think that it's kind of weird. I mean, I know that when I meet new girls, if they come on really strong, I think that it's almost like a desperate thing. Like, I'm wondering, why do you. Why do you want to hang out with me so badly? But I usually meet people, if I see them more than once, then it kind of just. It's a natural thing. So you kind of say, hey, you want to go to a movie sometime? But the first meeting, I don't know. Like, if you have a class, like if you're going to an aerobics class with someone or spin class, and you see that person repeatedly, I think it just evolves into that. I don't think you can meet somebody one time and then. And then ask them to do something.

[Melissa]

Right.

[Jessica]

And then go for it. Well, I think April shares your problem. April.

[Molly]

Hey, I actually have the same exact issue. I had, like a million friends throughout high school, and then just after graduation. And then up until recently in these last couple years, I'm down to like four or six friends. And I. I don't know, we just all kind of floated in an opposite direction. And recently myself, I've been kind of couple shopping, if you will, with my fiance, trying to see his. He's in the same boat that we are, too, so it's not just a girl thing, but it has been really hard to kind of just pick up and ask people to hang out. They're kind of doing their own thing, or off with their own little clicks. And the gym thing does actually work, though. I've been going to hip hop with the same girl, and then I found out that we actually hate the same roommate that we both used to have.

[Melissa]

That's funny.

[Molly]

One advantage, but that's really the only thing I have. So whatever you guys come up with, I'm sure it'll help more than one person in Atlanta. And not just females, too, because my fiance, as well as my brother and a couple of friends I know are in the same boat as you are.

[Melissa]

I think that some advice that I've given on people, and this is not necessarily about the girlfriend thing, but just somebody who wants to Meet friends and not interested in finding somebody to date necessarily. But I think that she hit on something because I think we're so often we are in the mode of finding somebody to go out with and date and we find them in bars. And of course you can't find a new, you know, you're not gonna find a new best friend in a bar, right? Cause that's gonna be weird. So I think that when she said the gym, like you tap into what you're interested in and you do those activities. So whether it's if you're a big rock climber or if you're somebody who loves to, then be active in that activity. And you will naturally meet people you know at these events. If you're somebody who loves nonprofit worker volunteering for certain organizations or certain causes are close to your heart, then volunteer with that organization on different things. And when you're there, then you meet people who are naturally involved in that same type of interest in that cause. And that can be something that you have in common and you can spark a friendship with. So I think it's the non bar, non alcoholic activities that could be an avenue for some people.

[Tracy]

But I want like a click, you know, like, everybody has like a little clique. Like Jen, you have a whole group of friends that come together for this dinner thing, you know, and Jessica, I think you guys kind of have a little couple clique.

[Jennifer]

We do.

[Tracy]

So yeah, I want like a group of girls. Like, I don't want, you know, like, don't get me wrong, I'm, you know, kind of desperate. I'll take one friend at this point.

[Melissa]

But.

[Tracy]

So if you want to go out with me, call me. But like, I want a group of friends that's all gonna get along together. Cause it seems like even the friends that I do have now, like, they don't all, like, they're such different groups of friends. You know, I can't take out, you know, my friend, my best friend Melissa doesn't typically hang out with my best friend, you know, my other best friend Jana, or Jana doesn't typically hang out with, you know, Alicia or, you know, things like that. So I want, not only do I want more individual friends just to go out and, you know, shop with or take a yoga class with, but maybe even like a whole clique of friends that we can all go out together.

[Melissa]

But the thing is, when you meet that one person, that person may already have an established clique that you can absorb into. So the thing is, just meeting one person is going to open up so many new doors for you on new friends.

[Jessica]

Hey, Stephanie, you've got some advice for us?

[Stephanie]

Yeah, hi. Thanks for having me on. I'm actually 35. I'm a working mom, and my friends and I have actually just been discussing this exact issue. And it's like, we want to do our own thing. And I think it's. You don't have to look as far as finding new people, I think you have to look within what you have today, and they're not. My friends are usually not my age. I mean, I'm a young mom with a six and a nine year old, so I've got lots of friends that are 10 years older than I am. So I think Melissa's right in terms of getting involved in different things that you already have interest because you'll easily meet, but it's also looking within those people and saying how common are my interests and how common are the interests within each other, because sometimes you'll find that your best friend Melissa, and your other best friend actually have more similarities than you'd think.

[Tracy]

Right. This is great advice. I mean, I'm definitely considering looking into some different types of organizations and classes and things like that. But I'm kind of like, I've. I've been in these situations in the past where I've taken, you know, like, I did boot camp with Phil, and there were lots of girls in there my age that I probably could have hung out with. And I saw them on a consistent basis every single day. But I never got around to saying, hey, want to hang out sometime? Because then in my mind, I'm thinking, well, she sees me every day, and she hasn't asked me to hang out, so maybe she doesn't want to, but.

[Melissa]

Other people maybe had the same thing as you. And I just had this funny thought. We should start a, you know, an online thing, like, you know, instead of match.com, like friends.com.

[Jessica]

Hey, Molly.

[Molly]

Yeah, what's up? Hey. I was just gonna say, I mean, like y' all just said, it seems like everybody. Everybody has this need to find somebody. So just strike up a conversation about that. You know, just saying, you know, nobody's gonna want to be.

[Tracy]

Nobody's gonna want to be my friend. If I say I have none, will you be mine?

[Molly]

Well, I don't know. I think that would then let people feel it's not that you don't have friends. I don't think that it looks that pathetic. I think it's just. It's just kind of. You say exactly how you Feel. I don't think it sounds sad at all.

[Stephanie]

It just.

[Molly]

It's just the way things work out now. You know, a lot of people can relate to that.

[Jennifer]

But don't you think it's like. Don't you think meeting girlfriends is like when you meet a new guy? I mean, you don't click with every girl you meet. You can't force it. Just like you don't click with every guy. If you're a single girl and you meet a guy, you cannot force it. It just. It's like. I mean, it's a different level. But at the same time, you're gonna meet a lot of girls in boot camp, for example, that you can't stand.

[Melissa]

Are you from personal experience or just not?

[Molly]

No, Jess, not.

[Jennifer]

And then you're gonna meet, you know, then there's gonna be that one like you, and then you click, and then you, you know, and then you might hang out with her and then meet her group of friends that are going to be like her, which is going to be like you. Don't you think you are attracted to people who are like you?

[Jessica]

Yeah, and it does. It does come easily. When you do meet a new friend, you're like, oh, my God, conversation is.

[Melissa]

Easy, and that sort of thing.

[Jessica]

I think Tracy wants to know kind of like where to get that conversation started.

[Jennifer]

Right. I think Melissa had a great point with joining groups that interest you, because then you're going to meet other people who are interested in the same things you are, who will probably have a better chance of being like you.

[Jessica]

Hey, Jennifer.

[Stephanie]

Yeah?

[Molly]

I think this is a perfect opportunity to put something together, like a forum of people without friends.

[Jessica]

Like what Melissa was saying, like something online or like more of like a party or something.

[Melissa]

If you want a party for girls.

[Molly]

I know Melissa was talking about, you know, do something where there's no alcohol and do something where your interests are. If you could post it on the website and do, like a party that doesn't have that, that way everybody's still in their right mind and everybody's talking about what their interests are. And you could find someone like that.

[Melissa]

Because, I mean, the reason I bring that up, because I get emails all the time from people who ask this question, and that's the best I can come up with because some of my good friends have come from other activities, so, you know, and work. You know, a lot of my friends, though, that I still have been friends with for a decade are people that I used to work with, because I think in a work environment, it just Naturally happens because you spend so much time at work. But I think also if you tap into what you're interested in, I think as Tracy says, a 26 year old woman who is just learning about the things that mean the most to her and then you tap into that and then do these activities, I think you broaden your own the way you feel about yourself as well as you meet people who can be like core friends for you for the rest of your life.

[Tracy]

So basically what we need to do then is I need to join activities that might have other girls my age. Then I need to not ask them out so quickly as per Jessica's advice.

[Jessica]

Don't be desperate.

[Tracy]

And then I just need to get over the sweaty palms nervousness and just ask him out on a friend date.

[Jessica]

And. And the bird show needs to throw a party. Women seeking women that they don't want to date.

[Tracy]

Tracy needs my friends.

[Melissa]

Hi.

[Jessica]

Okay, Sounds good. Hey, Erica. Is she there?

[Molly]

I am Rowan in the same boat you are. I will be your friend.

[Jessica]

It's crazy.

[Molly]

Erica wants to be your friend. I have all my girlfriends just like yours. They're either married or they're having babies and different priorities. And I understand that. And I also have a lot of gay guy friends. And I'm like, how can I meet other cool chicks and other guys even that I want to date when I'm hanging out with a bunch of gay guys?

[Tracy]

You know, Erica, send me an email at Tracy all the hits, q100.com definitely.

[Molly]

And it's totally weird. And we don't have anything in common. We'll be like, you know what? Peace out. I'll go this way and we'll never talk to each other again.

[Tracy]

Perfect.

[Molly]

And we'll just see where it feels so weird to talk to a girl and go.

[Jessica]

I think we got a good idea here though. We'll do the. We'll do the friendless party. We'll talk to the boys about it and. And get it planned.

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