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Bert (Host)
Tracy's calls are going right to voicemail, so I'll just read her email. Panic I recently found out that my husband is having an affair. He's in the military and is across the country for training. I knew something was going on but had no proof until I saw an email on his Facebook from her telling him that she loved him and cannot wait to start their life together. When I spoke to him about it, he said he is just lonely and wants to be with me and our kids. I don't know what to do. I can't afford to see him or have him come to Georgia to see me so I'm stuck. I love him and willing to look past this and be with him help. But I think she was entertaining some thoughts about letting him do what he's doing wherever he is and then once that's over, come home and be with the family.
Co-host or Panelist 1
Oh, he the one that should be coming home to be with the family?
Bert (Host)
What's that like?
Co-host or Panelist 1
Isn't he the one that should be trying to repair it and go home and be with the family?
Co-host or Panelist 2
Well, he's in the military. He's yeah, I think the situation is he's wherever doing his thing and he's got to be there for let's say nine months, a year, whatever. And she's back here in Atlanta and can't afford to go visit him regularly, can't leave her family. So she's like, well he's got needs she's, that girl's out there.
Co-host or Panelist 3
But this woman is saying I love you and I can't wait for us to start our life together. So is it just so that he can be satisfied or is that he really starting a new life with somebody?
Bert (Host)
Here's what we just don't know. There are going to be a couple of variables. Is he just telling this woman that? Is he misleading her? Not the wife, but the woman out in wherever she is the mistress, that he's more into her than he really is so he can continue to have sex or are they really in love? Have they really formed something that's intimate? Because I mean we've had, we've taken plenty of calls from women that have said I can get over the sex part of it. I can't get over it if he's in love, if it was a real affair. So I don't know, maybe things are different in the military. Maybe in some cases you sort of understand each other and you're just sort of okay. He's not going to be back for a while, so let him do what he's going to do.
Co-host or Panelist 3
I have no idea.
Bert (Host)
404,741Q100 hey Sarah.
Caller or Listener 1
Hey.
Military Insider or Expert
I am in the military and I have served overseas and I don't believe that this condones anyone to cheat on their spouse. He can get kicked out, especially if it's with someone he's cheating, competing with. Like if she's in the military, depending on his rank, he can have his rank yanked and she won't get in trouble if he's higher ranked than her.
Co-host or Panelist 2
Well, I think that's the problem. He's having his rank yanked right now by someone other than his wife.
Military Human Resources Specialist
Right.
Military Insider or Expert
Well, I'm saying that this is on the radio. So if someone knows this guy, they can go report it to his NCO and he could be kicked out. He could be given counseling statement depending on how long the affair has gone on or he could have his rank taken and then he won't be able to provide for his family. So he really needs to consider what he's doing and is it worth a few one night stands to lose your career over?
Bert (Host)
Run that rank thing by me again. If, if she is in the military
Military Insider or Expert
with him, if she's in the military too, and let's say he is an E7 and she's an E4, he will have his yank his rank pulled from him. He can lose all his rank, however much of his rank that his NCO wants to pull from him. She Won't have her rank pulled. We don't know that she's considered her
Co-host or Panelist 2
superior, but we don't know that she's in the military. The guy that. The girl that she.
Military Insider or Expert
If she is in the military, it's a lot worse.
Bert (Host)
Yeah. This is something I didn't know about the whole rank thing.
Military Insider or Expert
He's running the risk of losing his rank and being kicked out.
Co-host or Panelist 1
I wanted to ask you about affairs in general in the military. Is it something that's fairly common?
Military Insider or Expert
It is. It really is. A lot of people sleep around a lot. Me, personally, I don't. I could never do that. I have. I have three children. I'm happily married, and I would rather just go buy dildo and pleasure myself and cheat on myself.
Co-host or Panelist 2
Hello.
Bert (Host)
Okay. Okay.
Military Insider or Expert
You know, I mean, sorry to be vulgar, but, you know, there are other ways to get around camo.
Co-host or Panelist 3
There you go.
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Co-host or Panelist 1
I just wonder, you know, if somebody's going to be gone for a year or two years. If each spouse just sort of kind of turns a blind eye to it, or if they talk about. You know, I wonder if they have communication about it. Like, hey, do whatever you want to do. Just don't fall in love with somebody. Or if they say, you know, you know, honey, let's Skype about it, or what? You know what I mean?
Bert (Host)
Like, what was that Jamie Foxx movie that came out was about the military a couple years ago? Jake Gyllenhaal was in it also.
Co-host or Panelist 2
Jarhead.
Co-host or Panelist 1
Jarhead.
Military Insider or Expert
Jarhead.
Bert (Host)
One of the storylines was Jake Gyllenhaal just going out of his mind, thinking of all the things his girlfriend might be doing with somebody else back home. I mean, you're so far from each other and you feel so out of control that your mind can really start to play nutty tricks on you, you know? Good morning, Terry. You're on Q100.
Caller or Listener 1
Hi.
Caller or Listener 2
I've been in the military. I'm not anymore. My. My other half still is. But I want to say that this does happen all the time, and she needs to find out whether or not it is an emotional aspect of the issue. And also. Turn off. And also that.
Military Insider or Expert
Turn it off.
Caller or Listener 2
My son's playing with the radio.
Co-host or Panelist 2
Sorry, just give him an elbow.
Caller or Listener 2
And I think the other thing, too, is I've been on the other side. I've been the other woman. Not even knowing that the guy was married. And we were on the same post together, and he actually lived one block away from me with his Spouse and his children. So she could. The other woman could very well not even know about it and just think that he's on a mission right now and they are going to have a life together. So he could very well not know, or she could very well not even know about it. And he had no intention of ever leaving his wife. That was the case with me.
Bert (Host)
Do you think the statistics of infidelity are higher in the military than they would be in other industries?
Caller or Listener 2
I absolutely think so.
Bert (Host)
Really?
Co-host or Panelist 3
Because you're forced away.
Caller or Listener 2
It's kind of the nature of the job.
Military Insider or Expert
You're gone.
Caller or Listener 2
Your spouse is gone all the time. And one thing I do have to say, it may not be for all women out there that are married to military service members, but a lot of times they seem to lose their identity. They're so caught up with taking care of their husbands and having to transition from one location to the other, having to make new friends. Whereas their spouse, that's in the military, they come into an office and they automatically have new co workers, new friends, and the spouses has to try to readjust and make new people or trying to find a new job, trying to find new sitters, and it's very difficult. So a lot of times the spouse may tend to lose themselves. I mean, I'm speaking from being on the other aspect of it, not being in the military anymore.
Bert (Host)
There's so many different levels to it. You don't even think about, you know.
Co-host or Panelist 1
Yeah, totally. And it sounds like from that email that you read, Bert, that this woman might be losing herself a little bit because she seems like. She doesn't seem mad about it.
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Co-host or Panelist 3
Well, I mean, I don't know, but I'm more concerned about the other woman, you know, on his Facebook page, saying how much she loves him and can't wait to see.
Co-host or Panelist 2
I mean, well, that could just be him saying what he has to say to her to get what he needs to do.
Co-host or Panelist 3
She's gonna have to deal with that woman.
Bert (Host)
And would you, if you knew he was married, would you do a public post like that?
Co-host or Panelist 3
Who knows? But I just know that what. Regardless of whether she knows he's married or not, that our listener has to deal with her, you know, and if she's in love with him, then it's going to be a little more complicated than him just cutting it off and him coming home.
Bert (Host)
And now she has. She should be able to have direct contact with the mistress if she knows she's a mistress or not.
Co-host or Panelist 3
Yeah.
Bert (Host)
Hey, Christina. Good morning. You're on Q100.
Military Human Resources Specialist
So I'm so glad to be on with you guys.
Bert (Host)
Thank you for joining us. What's up?
Military Human Resources Specialist
I'm actually just got out of the military as a 42 Alpha. I process human resource requests and actually things like this. The lady that called him the first time said he could get his ranking and stuff like that. That doesn't actually happen like that. You have to have proof. Unless the other woman's going to rat him out on it or he gets her pregnant or she can have two or more people say that he's actually doing this. She can't really do anything about it. So my advice to her would be if she loves him to work through it, get her over there where he's at. Definitely, though don't condone it because it happens enough in the military. They just need to work through that. But, yeah, I wouldn't definitely not say it's okay because he's gone.
Bert (Host)
All right, thank you. And Kim wants to be on the voice disguiser. Go ahead.
Caller or Listener 3
This actually happened to my family where my dad was having an affair when he was in the military with my. And just from the children's point of view, it can be. It's not a healthy situation from the children's point of view, because to this day, I will not date anybody in the military. It tore our family apart, and it tore my mother apart. And even when she chose to ignore it, she never was able to really ignore it, and it hurt her, and it destroyed us. And growing up and seeing your mom cry or growing up and seeing your mom, you know, and your dad playing happy daddy when, you know. You know, by the time that we kind of figured it out, we were all old enough to realize what was going on. And, I mean, I'm about to cry now because it hurts. And from the children's point of view,
Caller or Listener 1
I'm just saying that she may be
Caller or Listener 3
able to overlook it, but your children are going to remember that, and especially if you have boys, they're going to grow up and think that that's okay to do, and it's not. And you know, it is true that the military does look down on infidelity, and it can be a really, really, really big mess. And I went through this, and when it all came to head, I was in high school, and it was horrible. It was humiliating. And I still can barely speak to my dad to this day. Wow.
Bert (Host)
Thank you for calling. Here is Sally, who wants to be on the voice disguiser also. Hey, Sally.
Caller or Listener 1
Hi.
Co-host or Panelist 3
Hi.
Caller or Listener 1
I am Having an affair with two different military men at the moment.
Co-host or Panelist 2
Whoa.
Caller or Listener 1
Neither one of them know about each other.
Bert (Host)
Neither one of them know about each other. And the wives have no idea?
Caller or Listener 1
No clue. Are you worried, Feeling bad about this whole mistress? Because I can verify she knows about the wives.
Bert (Host)
You think so?
Caller or Listener 1
Oh, yeah.
Co-host or Panelist 2
So you are having this relationship with them, knowing that they're married because it's easy for you or because you're in love with them?
Caller or Listener 1
No.
Co-host or Panelist 1
Are you also married?
Caller or Listener 1
No.
Bert (Host)
Do you target military guys?
Caller or Listener 1
No.
Bert (Host)
It just happened that way.
Caller or Listener 1
Yeah. You know, I mean, it's just easy. And actually, the sad part about it is they want more of a commitment than I do.
Bert (Host)
Really?
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Caller or Listener 1
Well, I mean, you always do. In. In any kind of relationship. I mean, there's always something you're doing. Is there a kid in the background? They go away, and then they start calling again and they come back and
Co-host or Panelist 1
do they know about each other?
Caller or Listener 1
No.
Co-host or Panelist 3
And is one of. Is your child fathered by a military guy?
Caller or Listener 1
No.
Co-host or Panelist 3
Okay.
Bert (Host)
Is it just. Is it. Is it just an easier life? Because now I'm assuming they're not here in Atlanta?
Caller or Listener 1
No.
Bert (Host)
So it's easy for you, then they come home for a couple of weeks or a couple of months, you can have this affair, and then they take off.
Co-host or Panelist 1
What would you give advice to this woman? I mean, what would you tell her to do? The email that Bert read, she needs
Caller or Listener 1
to email this mistress, Because I can guarantee you that as soon as the mistress finds out that the wife knows, she'll drop them.
Co-host or Panelist 2
Would that's what would happen to you?
Caller or Listener 1
Well, it's the simple fact that the wife said, I know about you. I don't want to get involved in all that crap.
Co-host or Panelist 2
Is it safe to assume that the posting on the Facebook page, the public Facebook page, might be the mistress's way of letting the wife know?
Caller or Listener 1
Oh, yeah. It's one of two things. She's fallen deeply in love with him, and she now wants to be heard. She wants everybody to know that she is here, and she wants him. And she wants him to leave his wife and his kids and come be with him or crazy or she is, you know, done with him, and he keeps calling her, and she's like, you know what? Fine. You know, if you're gonna keep bothering me, then I'm gonna make sure everybody knows that you have been having an affair.
Caller or Listener 2
Wow.
Bert (Host)
Okay. And those are the words from a woman that's having affairs with two different military guys.
Co-host or Panelist 3
Yeah. It's like I said earlier, our listeners are gonna have to deal with that woman, you know, and it's not something
Bert (Host)
that can be avoided. You can't live with that. Can't live with that. I mean, even when he comes home, like, you're supposed to just pretend you don't have that knowledge of just what happened the last couple of months. Who can live with that?
Co-host or Panelist 3
Well, nobody should.
Co-host or Panelist 2
And who has the time to have such a complex life? Like, seriously, like, you're juggling two married dudes. Like, how?
Bert (Host)
But it's easy because they're both out of town.
Co-host or Panelist 2
Yeah, but still, you got it.
Bert (Host)
It's easy for her. Complicated for them.
Co-host or Panelist 2
I can't even pay my phone bill on time.
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Date: May 5, 2026
In this emotionally charged episode, The Bert Show crew tackles a complex listener dilemma: a military wife from Georgia, Tracy, suspects her husband—currently stationed across the country for training—of having an affair. After discovering incriminating messages, she’s torn between confronting the betrayal and holding her family together. The team dives deep into the realities of infidelity among military families, bringing in calls and insights from those with firsthand experience. The episode explores trust, loneliness, military rules, and the ripple effects on partners and children.
"I love him and [I'm] willing to look past this and be with him. Help." — Tracy's email, read by Bert (01:01)
"Isn't he the one that should be trying to repair it and go home and be with the family?" — Co-host (01:49)
"I can get over the sex part of it. I can't get over it if he's in love, if it was a real affair." — Bert (02:22)
"If someone knows this guy, they can go report it to his NCO and he could be kicked out." — Military caller (03:32)
"Unless the other woman’s going to rat him out on it or he gets her pregnant, or she can have two or more people say that he's actually doing this, she can't really do anything about it." — Military HR Specialist, Christina (08:44)
"A lot of people sleep around a lot. Me, personally, I don’t... I would rather just go buy [a] dildo and pleasure myself than cheat." — Military Insider (04:43)
“A lot of times [military spouses] seem to lose their identity... it’s very difficult.” — Former military spouse (07:05)
"It tore our family apart, and it tore my mother apart... your children are going to remember that, and especially if you have boys, they're going to grow up and think that that's okay to do." — Caller (09:35, 10:24)
“As soon as the mistress finds out that the wife knows, she’ll drop them.” — Caller (12:36)
"Is it safe to assume that the posting on the Facebook page... might be the mistress's way of letting the wife know?" — Co-host (12:59)
"You can't live with that. I mean, even when he comes home, like, you’re supposed to just pretend you don’t have that knowledge... Who can live with that?" — Bert (13:54)
Military insider on military discipline for affairs:
“He could be given [a] counseling statement... He could have his rank taken and then he won’t be able to provide for his family. So he really needs to consider what he's doing and is it worth a few one-night stands to lose your career over?” (03:32)
On spousal trauma:
"Even when she chose to ignore it, she never was able to really ignore it, and it hurt her, and it destroyed us." — Caller (10:09)
On practicality of affairs:
"It’s just easy. And actually, the sad part about it is they want more of a commitment than I do." — Caller (11:41)
The Bert Show brings forth a nuanced, honest conversation about military family life, loneliness, infidelity, and the tangled web it weaves. Listeners and panelists agree that open confrontation and self-care are crucial, and that turning a blind eye only perpetuates pain—especially for children. For Tracy and others in her shoes, the message is clear: real resolution demands honesty, communication, and boundaries, no matter how complicated the circumstances.