The Bert Show: “Vault: She Desperately Needs Some Tough Love – Part Two”

Air Date: November 25, 2025
Host: Bert and The Bert Show Cast (Kristin, Abby, Cassie, Tommy, et al.)
Special Guest: Private Investigator Sandra from Mate Check Pi
Main Contributor: Amber

Episode Overview

This episode continues the dramatic saga of Amber, who recently discovered concerning, explicit photos in her husband’s briefcase. She reaches out to The Bert Show for support and tough love. With the help of Private Investigator Sandra, the team dissects the troubling clues about Amber’s husband and discusses the next steps. The tone is candid, supportive, and sprinkled with the Bert Show’s trademark humor and realness.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Amber’s Discovery and Backstory

• Discovery of Explicit Photos
  Amber explains how her anniversary gesture—hiding a card in her husband’s briefcase—led to an accidental discovery of multiple explicit photos of his ex-fiancée, including some extremely graphic images.

  “I made the stupid mistake of pulling them out because I would rather have not known. [...] There were five pictures. Four of them were pictures of... the lady that he was married, not married to, engaged to, before he got engaged to me. [...] The last picture is very graphic. [...] I cannot describe it.” – Amber (01:45-02:53)

• Prior Incidents with Photos
  Amber recounts an earlier incident where she found photos of a nude young woman in her husband’s briefcase, which he explained as images from a rented movie, supposedly for a friend going through a divorce.

  “He said, oh, it was taken from this movie. [...] That he took those pictures off of that movie with his digital camera for his friend Dave, who has a divorce, who's going through a divorce and hasn't seen, you know, a girl or whatever in a while.” – Amber (04:05-05:04)

2. Analyzing the Husband’s Behavior

• Financial & Emotional Changes
  Amber notes a recent shift in her husband’s generosity and involvement with her children, refusing to buy Christmas gifts for them—a stark contrast to previous years.

  “This year he's like, I'm not buying any gifts for your kids. You know, I'm just not going to do it. [...] He spent thousand dollars on his kids. And then I had two. I was just. All I was getting with my kids was two pair of pajamas. [...] He was like, I'm not going to give it to you.” – Amber (06:29-07:09)

• Potential Warning Signs According to the PI
  Sandra, with 12+ years of experience, expresses concern—pointing out the red flags: hidden photos, changes in behavior, and sketchy explanations.

  "When you see pictures of the ex and then you see him treating you poorly, especially the children, and now things have changed in your house and the way things have usually worked... It sounds to me like something's up." – Private Investigator Sandra (07:24-08:17)

3. Debate: Trust, Boundaries, and Snooping

• Should A Partner Snoop?
  The hosts question if going through a spouse’s belongings is appropriate, with Sandra arguing there should be nothing to hide.

  “I don't think there's any problem when you're married going through a briefcase, with a guy going through a purse, because you shouldn't have anything to hide.” – Private Investigator Sandra (07:24-08:17) “That's probably a debate for another time. But I think there is something to be said for some personal freedom within your relationship.” – Co-Host (08:17)

4. Next Steps: Surveillance and Seeking the Truth

• Put a PI on the Case
  Amber agrees to proceed with hiring Sandra to surveil her husband, seeking concrete proof before taking any drastic action.

  “What we had suggested is calling you up and seeing if you could hire somebody here in Atlanta that could put a tail on him just so she has concrete, absolute proof…” – Co-Host (08:52)

• Why Women Need Proof
  Sandra emphasizes the importance of hard evidence, especially in relationships with children/history.

  “You're not going to give up your marriage just because things seem the way they are. Absolutely... Especially since they have children together... want to make sure before you boot them out.” – Private Investigator Sandra (09:22)

• Amber Clarifies Kids Situation

  “We don't have any children together. He has a 20 year old... I've got a 16 and a 19 year old.” – Amber (09:57-10:09)

• Logistics for Surveillance

  • Husband is off work for a month, claims to spend three hours daily at the gym (LA Fitness, Sugarloaf).
  • PI instructs Amber to email all pertinent details to begin the investigation.

5. The Show’s Real Talk and Humor

• Skepticism and Sarcasm
  The crew questions the husband’s “three hours at the gym” routine.

  “If he's at the gym for three hours, he needs to come back like after a week looking like Usher.” – Host (12:16)

• Candid, Irreverent Moments
  Jokes about holiday tipping for prostitutes and humor about “spending lots of time in the women's shower” keep the topic heavy but provide comic relief.

  “Sandra, the holiday tipping procedures for prostitutes—because I know your mailman's like 20 bucks. So what do you give your whore?” – Host (10:55)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

| Timestamp | Speaker | Quote | |------------|-----------------------------|----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------| | 01:45 | Amber | "I made the stupid mistake of pulling them out because I would rather have not known." | | 07:24 | Private Investigator Sandra | "When you see pictures of the ex and then you see him treating you poorly... it sounds to me like something's up." | | 08:17 | Co-Host | "I think there is something to be said for some personal freedom within your relationship." | | 09:32 | Private Investigator Sandra | "...You're not going to give up your marriage just because things seem the way they are." | | 12:16 | Host | "If he's at the gym for three hours, he needs to come back like after a week looking like Usher." |

Timestamps of Important Segments

| Timestamp | Segment | Content Brief | |-----------|----------------------|--------------------------------------------------------------------| | 01:32 | Start of Segment | Recap and Amber’s initial call; backstory emerging | | 02:53 | Crucial Discovery | Amber details finding photos in briefcase | | 05:43 | PI Input | Sandra weighs in with professional analysis | | 07:24 | Relationship Shifts | Discussion of husband’s changing behavior, money, and priorities | | 08:17 | Boundaries Debate | Exchanging views on privacy in relationships | | 09:10 | PI Surveillance Plan | Amber agrees to hire PI, logistics discussed | | 12:04 | Gym Routine Question | Doubt cast on husband's alibi | | 13:02 | Digital Evidence | PI discusses likelihood of deeper issues/photos on computer | | 14:24 | PI Contact Info | Sandra shares contact/web info for other listeners in need |

Conclusion & Next Steps

• Amber will email Sandra to initiate private investigation.
• The show remains invested in following up, expecting the PI’s findings to provide the hard evidence Amber—and countless listeners in similar situations—need.
• Sandra’s advice is to never act solely on suspicion; always get proof.
• Episode closes with supportive banter, promotional plugs for Sandra’s PI services, and the usual mix of earnest advice and sharp wit from The Bert Show cast.

For Listeners

• If you’re in Atlanta and need PI services: Visit matecheckpi.com.
• For more follow-up on Amber’s story, tune in to upcoming episodes of The Bert Show.

The Bert Show blends honest, supportive listener interaction with candid real-talk and laughter, making heavy topics feel approachable and never isolating listeners who face tough love moments of their own.