Vault: She dyed her hair to match her baby

Summary

The Bert Show Vault Episode: "She dyed her hair to match her baby"

Date: May 26, 2026

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Episode Overview

In this lighthearted and relatable episode, the cast delves into the topic of parents—particularly mothers—who alter their appearance to resemble their children. The conversation is sparked by Tracy's recent decision to gradually lighten her hair so she’ll look more like her baby daughter, whose hair is becoming increasingly blonde. The segment balances humor and empathy as the co-hosts and callers weigh in on parental identity, social perception, and the sometimes unexpected lengths people go to feel connected to their children.

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Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. The Origin of Tracy’s Hair Transformation

• Tracy explains her motivation: Her baby, initially born with brown hair like hers, is now growing in blonde hair, resembling Tracy’s husband. Tracy lightens her hair to maintain a visual resemblance.
  • Quote (Tracy, 02:17):
    “She was born with brown hair, and my hair is obviously brown...As her hair has been falling out and new hair is growing in, it’s blonde. My daughter is going to be blonde, and I don’t look anything like her.”
• Tracy admits she wanted a “mini me” but can't dye her baby's hair, so she changed her own.
  • Quote (Tracy, 02:54):
    “Maybe I wanted a little mini me, but I can’t highlight—I can’t dye her hair, so my only option was to highlight my own.”

2. Reactions from the Cast

• Surprise and skepticism:
  • Radio Host (01:56): "Tracy lightened her hair so she would look more like her daughter."
  • Co-host 2 (02:12): "I have never heard of anybody else doing it...I think it’s kind of odd."
• Questions about intent:
  • Radio Host (03:31): "Are you using your daughter as the excuse for a hair color you’ve always wanted?"
    • Tracy says no, claiming contentment with her brunette hair—until now.
• Playful criticism:
  • Tracy (04:47): “…this extended conversation has made you crazy enough that I’m starting to not like you, right?”
  • Co-host 1 (04:57): "That's not that crazy."
  • Tracy (04:59): “Yes, it is. It’s nuts.”

3. The Deeper Insecurity: Parental Identity & Social Perceptions

• Tracy fears strangers might not recognize her as her daughter’s mother because of the visual mismatch.
  • Quote (Tracy, 02:46):
    "If I take her to the store, people are going to assume she's my niece or she's my friend's daughter. They're not gonna think she's mine."
• The cast debates whether these concerns are valid or socially constructed.
  • Co-host 2 (04:13): "I always assume a baby with a woman is that woman's baby, just so you know."
  • Co-host 1 (04:18): Raises the scenario where two women are present, but agrees that most people will assume the woman is the mother.

4. Listener Stories and Support

• Caller 1 (05:28): A biracial daughter wonders if her white mom is supposed to change her skin color to match her. This highlights the limits of changing appearance and the realities of mixed-race families.
• Caller Daisy (06:08): Shares she has a daughter with dark brown skin and faced skepticism from a teacher about being her mother.
  • Quote (Caller, 06:18):
    “I went to meet her teacher once and her teacher told me that she wasn’t my child...It was heartbreaking."
• Caller Terry (07:36): Explains she would tan heavily so she’d look more like her brown-skinned kids.
  • Radio Host (07:41): “But yeah, I have two very brown skinned kids and my sister’s brown skin. I am very light skinned...So I would tan like crazy just so I’d match them.”
• Caller Karen (08:07): Admits she dyed her own hair red to match her daughter, after being mistaken for a grandparent due to early gray hair.
  • Quote (Caller, 08:37):
    “I did, because it’s actually my natural color...But we in my family, we turn white at a young age...So I now have red hair. I look like my daughter.”

5. Broader Reflection on Parental Appearance and Social Judgments

• The conversation touches on assumptions about race, hair color, and family ties. The cast and audience share stories of being misidentified or judged in public spaces, showing this is a surprisingly common issue.
• Some co-hosts suggest alternative, less drastic ways to “match” (e.g., matching shirts).

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Tracy (02:54): "Maybe I wanted a little mini me, but I can't highlight—I can't dye her hair, so my only option was to highlight my own."
• Co-host 1 (04:43): “Do what you want to do. But I just think it’s funny…maybe it’s an insecure—I don’t know if that’s the right word—that people will think she’s not yours.”
• Caller Daisy (06:20): “Her teacher told me that she wasn’t my child...I had to tell her three times.”
• Caller Karen (08:37): "My daughter has the most beautiful red copper hair...my hair started turning white...So I now have red hair. I look like my daughter."

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• 01:32-03:20 — Tracy introduces her reasoning and the initial debate about her decision to lighten her hair.
• 03:20-04:55 — Cast questions and playfully challenges Tracy’s motivations and insecurities.
• 05:28-06:08 — Callers introduce stories of racial and visual mismatches, expanding the conversation beyond just hair color.
• 06:08-07:41 — Additional caller stories about being misidentified as a parent due to racial or hair differences.
• 08:07-08:45 — Karen’s story about reversing premature gray hair to match her daughter's vibrant red.

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Tone and Atmosphere

The conversation is warm, candid, and filled with humor, yet it touches on genuine feelings of parental pride, vulnerability, and the importance of feeling connected to one’s child. The show pokes fun at the lengths people might go to foster that bond, but also invites listeners to share their experiences—ultimately revealing a shared human desire for belonging and identification.

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In Summary

The Bert Show’s segment turns an unusual parenting choice into an engaging exploration of identity, appearance, and societal assumptions. Through personal anecdotes and live caller stories, the episode combines laughter with thoughtful consideration of how parents see themselves—and want to be seen—in relation to their kids. Listeners come away with insight into the little (and sometimes not-so-little) things parents do out of love, pride, and sometimes, insecurity.

Transcript

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[Commercial Announcer]

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[Radio Host]

What? Came up in a meeting.

[Tracy]

The hair. It's not a secret. It's not my theory.

[Radio Host]

It's just you have sort of been. I don't want to say obsessed about it, but you think it's odd.

[Tracy]

Well, she brought it up. Her. Yeah, I don't think it's odd. I think it's interesting. That.

[Radio Host]

Interestingly odd that.

[Tracy]

That. One, she would do it and two, admit to it.

[Co-host 1]

What are you talking about? Wanna fill us in?

[Radio Host]

What you talking about?

[Co-host 1]

What you talking about?

[Tracy]

Tracy lightened her hair so she would look more like her daughter.

[Co-host 1]

You did?

[Tracy]

Yes. I heard about this.

[Co-host 1]

Wait, what?

[Tracy]

Okay, so here's the thing.

[Radio Host]

And then Jeff puts his head down. Okay. And my part's done.

[Tracy]

Yeah.

[Co-host 2]

And Bert you don't think this is odd?

[Radio Host]

I think it's. I have never heard of anybody else doing it either. Yeah, I think it's kind of odd.

[Tracy]

She was born with brown hair, and my hair is obviously brown. And I was all excited that she was gonna look like me. She was gonna resemble. You know, she was gonna look like my daughter because she is my daughter. My husband has blonde hair and had very blonde hair when he was little. And as her hair has been falling out and new hair is growing in, it's blonde. My daughter is going to be blonde, and I don't look anything like her. If I take her to the store, people are going to assume she's my niece or she's my friend's daughter. They're not gonna think she's mine.

Aren't all. Aren't many babies blonde and then their hair darkens? Like, aren't many babies born with blue eyes and they darken to different colors?

Okay, well, maybe I wanted a little mini me, but I can't highlight. I can't dye her hair, so my only option was to highlight my own. So I'm gradually lightening my hair so I'll look more like my daughter.

[Radio Host]

Wow.

[Tracy]

Gradually.

[Co-host 2]

So how light are you gonna go?

[Tracy]

Like gens? No,

[Co-host 1]

no.

[Tracy]

I mean, I think I'll stick like this for a little while and see how blonde her hair gets. And I just want. I want her to look like she's mine.

[Radio Host]

I have never looked.

[Co-host 2]

You are willing to go blonde if Ella's hair turns blonde?

[Tracy]

Maybe not as blonde as, you know, you guys, but lighter so she looks like she's mine.

[Radio Host]

Are you using this as a. Is this a hair color that you've always wanted and you're using your daughter as the excuse?

[Tracy]

No, I've always been brunette and been fine with that until now, since your daughter's had brunette.

[Co-host 1]

That's hilarious. I mean, what's the harm in it?

[Co-host 2]

Who cares?

[Co-host 1]

Do what you want to do. But I just think it's funny that you've got that sort of. Maybe it's an insecure. I don't know if that's the right word for it, that people will think she's not yours.

[Tracy]

Well, I mean, it's not so much that. I just think it's adorable when, like, when you go to the store and you see, like, a mom and their child, and it's clear, like, Stacy and Hollis. Like, Hollis looks like Stacy. I mean, Stacy goes out with Hollis, and you can say, that is Hollis's mommy, right? But if I go out with Ella. People are gonna think she's my niece. And I just think it's cute when it's like, I understand her little.

[Co-host 2]

I always assume a baby with a woman is that woman's baby, just so you know.

[Co-host 1]

Unless there's two women there. So if you had a friend, like a best friend with blonde hair, and it was the two of you at the grocery store with Ella, then maybe they would think that. But if it's just you and just her, they're gonna know you're the mommy

[Tracy]

or they're gonna think you're her mommy.

[Co-host 1]

That does happen with my best friend, Shay, because her daughter's blonde. So when the three of us are together, a lot of people do assume that her daughter is mine because of the blonde hair connection, but I don't think it makes her mad. I need to find out now. I never thought about it before, just

[Tracy]

for the record, because we had only spoken about it brief during the meeting. This extended conversation has made you crazy enough that I'm starting to not like you, right?

[Co-host 1]

That's not that crazy.

[Tracy]

Yes, it is. It's nuts.

[Co-host 1]

How harm does it do you're physically

[Tracy]

changing your appearance so that people you don't even know make assumptions that you don't even know they're going to make that fit into the mold that you have preset for those assumptions.

[Radio Host]

How's it any crazier than what you've done? The same thing for her daughter. You've been lightening your hair Before Ella was ever here, before she was ever even here, you had predicted she was gonna be that hair color. Good morning.

[Tracy]

I put sun in. Go out in the sun for me

because there's been so much sunshine lately.

[Radio Host]

Good morning, Q100.

[Caller 1]

Yeah, I'm calling because you. Tracy was saying how she didn't want to be mistaken for her daughter's aunt or niece, but I mixed, and my mom's white, so is my mom supposed to, like, paint her skin brown so she looks like me?

[Radio Host]

Creating a lot of problems there.

[Tracy]

I mean, it's not so. I'm not worried about what other people think. I just think it's cute that. I don't know. I just.

[Radio Host]

So instead of having matching shirts on, like some moms will do with their kids, you're just going with the matching hair color?

[Tracy]

It started when I was holding her. I looked in the mirror, and I'm like, I have dark brown hair and she has blonde hair. She doesn't look like my daughter. And I mean, blonde hair is pretty. Why not?

[Radio Host]

Daisy Good Morning. You're on Q100.

[Caller 1]

Good morning. I understand entirely what Tracy is going through. Wow. I have a beautiful daughter who happens to have dark brown skin and I don't. And I went to meet her teacher once and her teacher told me that she wasn't my child. And what's very interesting is her name is Daisy too. So there was no reason to misunderstand that I was her parent. And the lady argued with me that that was my daughter.

[Co-host 2]

I can't believe she did that.

[Caller 1]

I had to tell her three times. I had to ask the class to let everybody, all the students know me. So they're like, yeah, that's Daisy's mom. Yeah.

[Caller 2]

Because I.

[Co-host 2]

It doesn't matter what the child looks like. It doesn't matter the skin color, the hair color, the ey, whatever. If it is a single woman. I guess you're right, Jen. If it's a single woman with a child, I assume mommy and daughter.

[Co-host 1]

I do have a friend of a friend who's married to a black man and she's white, but their baby came out like real black. So she goes to the store with her child who's way totally different skin color than her. And people question it all the time. And she has this. She just looks at him, rolls her eyes and is like, yeah, this is my kid.

[Radio Host]

And I know I've seen this on like the playground before where some mothers will approach a woman that they think is like the nanny, but it's really the mom because there's zero resemblance whatsoever, really.

[Tracy]

And I think I'd be okay with it if like, maybe some of her features resembled me. But I look at her, I don't think she looks anything like me. Like if I didn't birth her, I'd question whether or not, like, she was mine.

[Radio Host]

Here's Terry. Hey, Terry, good morning. Here on Q100.

[Caller 1]

Hey, good morning. Love your show.

[Radio Host]

Thank you.

[Caller 1]

But yeah, I have two very brown skinned kids and my sister's brown skin. I am very light skinned. And every time I took them to the mall, they'd say, oh, your sister's kids are so cute. So I would tan like crazy just so I'd match them.

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[Tracy]

Doesn't Scott have blonde hair?

Yeah. I mean, she looks like skin. We got skin for him, but not me.

[Co-host 1]

Tracy's gonna have another baby. So that, that second one, darn it, comes out looking like her.

[Radio Host]

Hey, Karen, good Morning. You're on Q100.

[Caller 1]

Hi.

[Caller 2]

Hi. I just wanna tell you, Tracy, you're not crazy. I'VE done the same thing. My daughter has the most beautiful red copper hair, and it's actually my hair. But my hair started turning white when I was like in my 30s, so my hair is almost completely white. And I've had so many people ask me if she's my granddaughter and it's heartbreaking. So I now have red hair. I look like my daughter.

[Radio Host]

You changed the hair to match your daughter's hair?

[Caller 2]

I did, because it's actually my natural color. But we in my family, we turn white at young age.

[Tracy]

Yeah, blonde is my natural color too.

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