A (1:55)

So you were almost hiding it from her.

B (1:59)

I mean, I guess I never really thought of it that way. I mean, it just didn't occur to me. But you didn't.

A (2:06)

Okay, you're making me feel way better about my family for sure. So your mom shows up this weekend and when do you break it to her that, A, you're married and then the second part of the whole thing that you got a kid?

B (2:19)

Well, I was going to take everybody with me to the airport but you guys told me that would be a bad idea, so I didn't do that. I just picked her up myself and we just made small talk for most of the ride. And then halfway home, I said, I have something to tell you. And oddly enough, she said, what, are you married or something?

C (2:46)

You're like, well.

B (2:47)

Well, actually, yeah. And she was really happy about it. She was very happy about it.

C (2:55)

And did you follow that with your grandmother?

B (3:01)

That came as a little more of a shock, but she was happy about it, too, and she met them and she got along with everybody, and it ended up being a great weekend.

C (3:15)

So she wasn't mad?

B (3:17)

No, she wasn't. She. She actually. She told me she thought, you know, I was going to end up, you know, just kind of being alone. So she was kind of happy.

A (3:26)

Hobby. Can't understand this kind of family dysfunction. When we talk about this kind of stuff or I talk about how jacked up my family is, Jen looks at my case like she's looking at a display at the Smithsonian. Like, wow,

C (3:39)

it is a little bizarre that you don't tell your mother about a child that you had. That's pretty unique.

B (3:47)

I don't know. Our family is. Well, I mean, it's mostly just her and me, so it's always just been very. I don't know, I've always gone off and done my own thing. So. She really don't know much about her husband, you know.

C (4:05)

Well, when you have, like, phone conversations, don't you just say, what's new? Well, you have a belly. I mean, you're. I mean, you're pregnant. Yeah, that'd be the first thing I think about.

B (4:12)

It just. Honestly, it just never occurred to me. Tell her about it. Just because she's not here and, you know, it's not like she's living down the street.

A (4:23)

If you haven't been close to somebody your entire life like that, it does seem like an unbelievable story. But I can see the window of it being possible that you're just like, this is not something I share with these people because they almost don't seem like relatives.

B (4:36)

Yeah. I mean, I don't know, but. I mean, she's my mom, but, you know, it's just different with us, I guess. I don't know how to explain. It's just always been this way, you know, she doesn't know about boyfriends or she doesn't know really about that side of my life.

A (4:52)

Or husbands.

C (4:53)

Right.

B (4:53)

Or babies or children or baby, I guess.

C (4:56)

But I'm glad that she was happy for You. And I'm glad you had a great weekend. Now, my assumption is that you'll just go on as usual, and you just have the same relationship with her and you see her again. You see her again?

B (5:07)

Yeah. I mean, maybe she'll ask me, like, how the baby is, but it'll pretty much be same as before. I probably won't see her for another year.

A (5:16)

What's that look, Melissa? That's an unfamiliar look to me.

C (5:19)

Well, no, I mean, it's just listening, because it is. I don't think this is the ideal family situation, but it's her family situation, so it's just imagining the grandmother not seeing the baby for, you know, until it's going to school or something, so. But if that's. If that's how your relationship is, you know, established and you're all happy with that, then I'm glad that there was no tension this weekend.

B (5:40)

No, it was great. I mean, she didn't stay with us in the end, but it was great.

A (5:46)

What do you mean, didn't stay with you in the end?

B (5:48)

Well, she was supposed to stay with us in my house, and she ended up staying in a hotel.

A (5:54)

Was that her decision, or is that something that you suggested?

B (5:57)

Oh, no, that was. That was her decision.

C (6:00)

She's like, oh, I'm not just staying with you. There's a husband and a baby, so now I'm not gonna stay with you.

B (6:05)

Exactly.

A (6:07)

So in some cases, mothers would go, wow, that's. Or grandmothers would go, wow, I want to be around that baby as much as possible. But in other families, and I know this, it's like, well, it's gonna be a little loud, and I'll come check back tomorrow. We'll hang out a little bit.

B (6:21)

Yeah, she was more like that. You know, she came, she played with my daughter. You know, they had a great time. And then she.

A (6:29)

I gotta tell you, I understand where she's coming from.

C (6:31)

That is wild. It's like a stranger.

A (6:33)

Yeah, it almost is. You can definitely have family members that are almost like strangers. Weird.

C (6:37)

I can't comprehend that. I'm really trying. I'm really trying.

A (6:42)

Hey, Tracy. Good Morning. You're on Q100.

B (6:45)

Hey, guys. I just want to know, do you plan to raise your daughter the same way that you were raised? No. No. I mean, I'm sure my daughter and me will have a close relationship. I mean, I don't know. She's young, so. But no, I. I don't plan on doing.

A (7:01)

Oh, boy. She says, all right, good luck. Okay, thank you for sharing.

B (7:09)

All right. Thank you.

A (7:10)

Thanks. Bye. Bye. I am more disturbed by that call than I was by far. Why? Because it sounds like she's turning into her mom, you know, like, oh, I don't know. That's how she knows we're gonna have the same relationship. I know it's a little early to tell. She's young and all.

C (7:22)

Yeah, I know. I mean, I'm not. I'm not surprised by that, because that's all she knows. That's what she lear like. I think that. I think in your case and her case, Bert, because you talk about your family a lot. At least you're making efforts with your family so that you don't repeat the pattern, right? If you don't make efforts, you're going to repeat the pattern.

A (7:38)

It's the same family tree over and over and over again unless you decide to change it. I just feel like I'm going to cleanse from the show today. Get it off of me. Hey, the Birch show.