The Bert Show — "Vault: She Just Found Out She's The Other Woman In Her Relationship"

Date: February 2, 2026
Podcast Host: Pionaire Podcasting
Episode Focus: Carolyn discovers she is the "other woman" in her relationship and navigates the aftermath with support and candid discussion from The Bert Show hosts and listeners.

Episode Overview

This episode centers on Carolyn, a caller who recently learned she was unknowingly “the other woman” in a seven-month relationship. The Bert Show team (Bert, Kristin, and co-hosts) delve into Carolyn's experience—how she found out, her feelings, and whether she plans to confront her ex’s official girlfriend or even consider getting back together with him. The conversation expands to include listener stories and spirited debate about blame, forgiveness, and relationship pitfalls.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Technical Fumble with the Voice Disguiser [00:00–00:50]

• The show opens with humorous frustration as the team tries to activate Carolyn’s voice disguiser, setting a light, relatable tone.

2. Carolyn’s Story: How She Found Out [00:51–02:29]

• Background: Carolyn had planned to confront her boyfriend’s girlfriend on campus but didn't due to spring break.
• Instead, she was approached by someone connected to her boyfriend (an ex of his, who also knew his current girlfriend).
• The mutual acquaintance revealed the truth: “Yeah, you’re right. I am the other woman.” [01:13, Carolyn]
• Carolyn is clear: “Yeah, we're done.” [02:16, Carolyn]

3. The Aftermath: Emotional Processing [02:30–03:39]

• Carolyn admits she only began processing the betrayal four days prior and is already feeling better about the situation.
• The hosts use the “Sixth Sense” analogy—once the truth is out, everything in hindsight makes sense.
• “And everything that he says now, I just don't want to hear anymore.” [03:15, Carolyn]

4. The Other Woman’s Dilemma: To Tell or Not to Tell? [03:40–04:45]

• Discussion about whether Carolyn will, or should, inform the actual girlfriend: “I thought about it. I go back to school tomorrow, so we'll see.” [03:33, Carolyn]

5. Revenge Fantasies & Viral Stories [04:46–05:21]

• The team recounts a viral breakup revenge video from NYC, musing on the urge for dramatic public payback.
• “That kind of psycho, stepping in a psycho. That kind of anger could be in you...” [04:39, Bert]
• Acknowledgment that the other girlfriend may also be innocent.

6. Reflection and Resolution [05:22–05:57]

• Carolyn expresses mixed feelings: “I do miss him a lot. I wish it never happened, but, I mean, things happen. I have to deal with it.” [04:52, Carolyn]
• Firmly states she will not return to him, despite his attempts to win her back.

7. Hosts Debate: Can You Forgive This? [05:58–07:21]

• Hypothetical scenarios: what if he breaks up with his girlfriend and wants Carolyn back? “He's already started saying that, so it would be a while to even think about it again.” [05:22, Carolyn]
• Gendered forgiveness debate: “We're forgiving people.” [07:03, Kristin]
• Bert pushes for self-respect: “This here where the seeds of self-respect start right now. OK?” [11:04, Bert]

8. Listener Call: Another "Other Woman" Story [07:22–09:32]

• Melinda describes unknowingly being the other woman for a year, recounts a dramatic confrontation that nearly led to her arrest.
• “I beat the crap out of him in the parking lot. Almost go to jail.” [09:06, Melinda]
• The hosts express amazement at the emotional fallout and humor at the image of a large man explaining his black eye.

9. Listener Call: “Country Richard” Gives His Take [09:33–10:51]

• Richard (age 21, sounding much older) offers an unusual view, blaming young women for knowingly getting involved with older men, “That woman ought to be clobbered with a jackhammer...” [09:46, Richard], before conceding the man was also at fault.
• Hosts lightly mock his old-school perspective and clarify his age for the audience.

10. Closing Thoughts & Advice for Carolyn [10:53–End]

• Bert and the hosts urge Carolyn not to get back together with her ex, reinforcing messages of self-respect and moving on.
• “Let Bert be your relationship sensei.” [11:17, Kristin]
• The episode ends with a reminder that, ultimately, only Carolyn can decide what to do next.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Carolyn reveals her realization:
  “Yeah, you’re right. I am the other woman.” [01:13, Carolyn]

• Breaking up:
  "Yeah, we're done." [02:16, Carolyn]

• Processing the past:
  “And everything that he says now, it's just... I just don't want to hear anymore.” [03:15, Carolyn]

• Considering warning the girlfriend:
  “I thought about it. I go back to school tomorrow, so we'll see.” [03:33, Carolyn]

• Hosts on revenge:
  “That kind of psycho, stepping in a psycho. That kind of anger could be in you...” [04:39, Bert]

• Hosts on forgiveness:
  "We're a forgiving gender." [07:03, Kristin]
  "Hell no." [07:08, Bert]

• Listener Melinda’s confrontation:
  “I beat the crap out of him in the parking lot. Almost go to jail.” [09:06, Melinda]

• Bert’s advice on self-respect:
  “This here where the seeds of self-respect start right now. OK?” [11:04, Bert]

Timestamps for Important Segments

• [00:51] Carolyn’s relationship recap and reveal
• [02:16] Carolyn confirms the breakup
• [03:33] Deliberation over telling the girlfriend
• [04:39] Revenge video anecdote
• [05:22] Carolyn on her feelings and closure
• [07:22] Listener Melinda's story of exposure and confrontation
• [09:33] Country Richard's (controversial) perspective
• [11:04] Bert’s closing advice

Summary

This episode is a candid, sometimes humorous, but empathetic exploration of what it’s like to discover you’re “the other woman.” The hosts support Carolyn as she shares her journey from shock to acceptance, debate the merits of forgiveness, and field intense listener stories. Through it all, the show maintains its signature blend of authenticity, warmth, and laughter—offering guidance, solidarity, and a healthy dose of real talk for anyone facing a similar relationship revelation.