Vault: She Just Found Out She's The Other Woman In Her Relationship

Summary

The Bert Show — "Vault: She Just Found Out She's The Other Woman In Her Relationship"

Date: February 2, 2026
Podcast Host: Pionaire Podcasting
Episode Focus: Carolyn discovers she is the "other woman" in her relationship and navigates the aftermath with support and candid discussion from The Bert Show hosts and listeners.

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Episode Overview

This episode centers on Carolyn, a caller who recently learned she was unknowingly “the other woman” in a seven-month relationship. The Bert Show team (Bert, Kristin, and co-hosts) delve into Carolyn's experience—how she found out, her feelings, and whether she plans to confront her ex’s official girlfriend or even consider getting back together with him. The conversation expands to include listener stories and spirited debate about blame, forgiveness, and relationship pitfalls.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Technical Fumble with the Voice Disguiser [00:00–00:50]

• The show opens with humorous frustration as the team tries to activate Carolyn’s voice disguiser, setting a light, relatable tone.

2. Carolyn’s Story: How She Found Out [00:51–02:29]

• Background: Carolyn had planned to confront her boyfriend’s girlfriend on campus but didn't due to spring break.
• Instead, she was approached by someone connected to her boyfriend (an ex of his, who also knew his current girlfriend).
• The mutual acquaintance revealed the truth: “Yeah, you’re right. I am the other woman.” [01:13, Carolyn]
• Carolyn is clear: “Yeah, we're done.” [02:16, Carolyn]

3. The Aftermath: Emotional Processing [02:30–03:39]

• Carolyn admits she only began processing the betrayal four days prior and is already feeling better about the situation.
• The hosts use the “Sixth Sense” analogy—once the truth is out, everything in hindsight makes sense.
• “And everything that he says now, I just don't want to hear anymore.” [03:15, Carolyn]

4. The Other Woman’s Dilemma: To Tell or Not to Tell? [03:40–04:45]

• Discussion about whether Carolyn will, or should, inform the actual girlfriend: “I thought about it. I go back to school tomorrow, so we'll see.” [03:33, Carolyn]

5. Revenge Fantasies & Viral Stories [04:46–05:21]

• The team recounts a viral breakup revenge video from NYC, musing on the urge for dramatic public payback.
• “That kind of psycho, stepping in a psycho. That kind of anger could be in you...” [04:39, Bert]
• Acknowledgment that the other girlfriend may also be innocent.

6. Reflection and Resolution [05:22–05:57]

• Carolyn expresses mixed feelings: “I do miss him a lot. I wish it never happened, but, I mean, things happen. I have to deal with it.” [04:52, Carolyn]
• Firmly states she will not return to him, despite his attempts to win her back.

7. Hosts Debate: Can You Forgive This? [05:58–07:21]

• Hypothetical scenarios: what if he breaks up with his girlfriend and wants Carolyn back? “He's already started saying that, so it would be a while to even think about it again.” [05:22, Carolyn]
• Gendered forgiveness debate: “We're forgiving people.” [07:03, Kristin]
• Bert pushes for self-respect: “This here where the seeds of self-respect start right now. OK?” [11:04, Bert]

8. Listener Call: Another "Other Woman" Story [07:22–09:32]

• Melinda describes unknowingly being the other woman for a year, recounts a dramatic confrontation that nearly led to her arrest.
• “I beat the crap out of him in the parking lot. Almost go to jail.” [09:06, Melinda]
• The hosts express amazement at the emotional fallout and humor at the image of a large man explaining his black eye.

9. Listener Call: “Country Richard” Gives His Take [09:33–10:51]

• Richard (age 21, sounding much older) offers an unusual view, blaming young women for knowingly getting involved with older men, “That woman ought to be clobbered with a jackhammer...” [09:46, Richard], before conceding the man was also at fault.
• Hosts lightly mock his old-school perspective and clarify his age for the audience.

10. Closing Thoughts & Advice for Carolyn [10:53–End]

• Bert and the hosts urge Carolyn not to get back together with her ex, reinforcing messages of self-respect and moving on.
• “Let Bert be your relationship sensei.” [11:17, Kristin]
• The episode ends with a reminder that, ultimately, only Carolyn can decide what to do next.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Carolyn reveals her realization:
  “Yeah, you’re right. I am the other woman.” [01:13, Carolyn]

• Breaking up:
  "Yeah, we're done." [02:16, Carolyn]

• Processing the past:
  “And everything that he says now, it's just... I just don't want to hear anymore.” [03:15, Carolyn]

• Considering warning the girlfriend:
  “I thought about it. I go back to school tomorrow, so we'll see.” [03:33, Carolyn]

• Hosts on revenge:
  “That kind of psycho, stepping in a psycho. That kind of anger could be in you...” [04:39, Bert]

• Hosts on forgiveness:
  "We're a forgiving gender." [07:03, Kristin]
  "Hell no." [07:08, Bert]

• Listener Melinda’s confrontation:
  “I beat the crap out of him in the parking lot. Almost go to jail.” [09:06, Melinda]

• Bert’s advice on self-respect:
  “This here where the seeds of self-respect start right now. OK?” [11:04, Bert]

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• [00:51] Carolyn’s relationship recap and reveal
• [02:16] Carolyn confirms the breakup
• [03:33] Deliberation over telling the girlfriend
• [04:39] Revenge video anecdote
• [05:22] Carolyn on her feelings and closure
• [07:22] Listener Melinda's story of exposure and confrontation
• [09:33] Country Richard's (controversial) perspective
• [11:04] Bert’s closing advice

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Summary

This episode is a candid, sometimes humorous, but empathetic exploration of what it’s like to discover you’re “the other woman.” The hosts support Carolyn as she shares her journey from shock to acceptance, debate the merits of forgiveness, and field intense listener stories. Through it all, the show maintains its signature blend of authenticity, warmth, and laughter—offering guidance, solidarity, and a healthy dose of real talk for anyone facing a similar relationship revelation.

Transcript

[A]

The Burt Show. Carolyn, good morning. You're back on Q100 and you're on the voice disguiser. Hey, hey, hold on one sec, hold on. Voice disguiser's not on.

[B]

Who touches this?

[C]

It always happens on our first day.

[A]

What? Non bert show hands. Touch the voice disguiser.

[B]

Seriously, why are you pushing buttons, you idiots?

[A]

You know, there is actually a radio station on after 10 o'. Clock.

[B]

There's no reason to touch this. There's no reason, no reason anybody should touch us. Do you want to go? I will go into the lobby. I will kick your ass.

[A]

We're on the same team. Dude, I'm your friend.

[C]

Inhale, Exhale.

[A]

Seriously, hold on one sec.

[B]

Like, why are you touching this, you idiots?

[A]

Jenny, try it now I'm angry. Are you back?

[D]

Mm.

[A]

Okay, yeah, I think now it's on.

[B]

Can you just count to five?

[D]

1, 2, 3, 4, 5.

[C]

It's on.

[A]

All right, Carolyn, so the last time we talked to you, you were going to approach the girlfriend at Georgia State and just go, hey, I'm Carolyn. How you doing? I've been seeing your roommate now for whatever, a couple of months.

[D]

I had spring break last week, so I didn't get to meet her. But I did run into some other people that confronted me that. Yeah, you're right. I am the other woman.

[B]

They heard you on the radio? The other woman, they heard you on the radio or something?

[D]

No, they just knew about us. About both of us.

[C]

They knew about you.

[A]

You got me all confused. So if they knew the whole triangle that was going on and they're your friends and why didn't you tell. Why didn't they tell you before that this guy was jacking around on you?

[D]

Oh, she wasn't a friend.

[C]

Oh, okay, so the girl who came up and told you was a friend of his girlfriend's?

[D]

Um, not exactly. But she was an ex of his and met the roommate, so she kind of knows that whole situation.

[C]

And she also knows you.

[D]

Uh huh.

[C]

Okay.

[A]

Sounds strange. So after you found out that you were the other woman, did you approach your boyfriend?

[E]

Mm.

[D]

Yeah, we're done.

[A]

Yeah, I bet that was a pretty short conversation.

[D]

Pretty short. You haven't have any excuses to, you know, cover it up.

[A]

How long were y' all going out?

[D]

Six or seven months.

[A]

Man, how can you go that long?

[C]

Juggling.

[A]

Juggling like that. And yeah, he must have been working. That dude was working hard. When did you first have some suspicions that. Okay, this isn't right.

[D]

Do what?

[B]

When. When did you think it was? When did you. Well, she it was on the phone with us. She had no idea until she was on the phone with us.

[A]

You don't sound too broken up about it, though.

[D]

I'm a lot better now.

[C]

How long have you had to process it?

[D]

Probably about four days.

[A]

Is it one of those things where it's almost like that movie the Sixth Sense? Like, once you find out the information, then you start looking back through the movie, then it all makes sense.

[C]

All of a sudden, I'm tired.

[D]

And everything that he says now, it's just. I just don't want to hear anymore.

[C]

Yeah. Now, are he and his girlfriend still together? Do you know?

[D]

They still live together.

[C]

Really?

[A]

He's living with this girl.

[B]

Do you know if she knows? Like, have you thought about telling her or anything?

[D]

I thought about it. I go back to school tomorrow, so we'll see.

[C]

Hmm.

[D]

Little revenge that you didn't bother, did you?

[A]

See, it's probably not up yet, but I sent Tracy a video yesterday of a woman that just found out that she got cheated on. And I think it's in New York City. And she had one of these moments of just absolute. She stepped into crazy. She took all of her boyfriend's stuff that must have been over at his. At her house where they lived together. I'm talking about golf clubs, HGTVs, all of his clothes, all sorts of stuff. And pulls up outside of a New York City restaurant and opens up the truck doors and starts giving his stuff away. She's screaming and yelling and throwing all of his stuff on the floor while people are collecting these TVs and golf clubs and money and stuff. Like, you may. That kind of moment may be ahead of you.

[C]

Are you sure that's not an actor? That sounds like a New York City. Like some sort of acting group putting something up on YouTube.

[A]

It could be. We're gonna have the video up. It could be up already at all the hits q100.com. But that kind of psycho, stepping in a psycho. That kind of anger could be in you like the first time you see that woman, even though she's probably an innocent party in this whole thing also.

[C]

And she may not know.

[A]

She may not know, you know? Who knows what you'll do?

[D]

I do miss him a lot. I wish it never happened, but, I mean, things happen. I have to deal with it.

[A]

You're not gonna go back with this guy?

[D]

No.

[A]

Okay.

[C]

What if he says, I'm breaking up with my girlfriend, I'm moving out? I've realized you're the one I'm supposed to be with.

[B]

You can answer that.

[C]

Jen, are you gonna go? Are you gonna get back together with him? If he said you're the one, I realize you're the one.

[B]

Why are you giving her any hope?

[C]

Well, I'm just asking hypothetically.

[D]

He's already started saying that, so it would be a while to even think about it again.

[A]

I don't know what a 30 year old dude's date an 18 year old for anyway. I gotta be honest with you.

[B]

I can tell you why.

[A]

Okay. I don't know that there's anything else we need to go over. Really?

[C]

Well, we need to find out if you actually approach the girl on campus or if you guys get back together. Will you let us know?

[D]

I'll let you know. Yeah.

[A]

Hold on, Bubba. Bubba's got advice for you.

[D]

Okay.

[F]

Take the advice from the ex girlfriend.

[A]

What do you mean?

[F]

Well, well, remember a while back when you had the 18 year old that stole the boyfriend away and the girl is trying to get rid of the 18 year old. She should be telling her this just to get her out of the picture. She can get her boyfriend back.

[B]

It wasn't it, but yeah, he's. It wasn't the ex girl. It wasn't the current girlfriend who told her that.

[F]

No, I know, but I'm saying she was trying to find a way to get the 18 year old out of the picture.

[A]

Yeah, but it wasn't the girlfriend.

[B]

Yeah, it wasn't the girlfriend who told him that.

[C]

Just a mutual friend of all of them that spilled the beans. Right.

[A]

Carolyn, we'll have to follow up with you just to find out how this whole thing went down. But we saw the writing on the wall and you probably knew also. Like, in your heart, you also knew.

[D]

Yeah.

[A]

Okay.

[C]

I think I have a feeling they're gonna get back together.

[B]

Totally.

[A]

You think you'll get back together with this dude?

[D]

Probably not.

[C]

Probably.

[A]

This dude has been living with another woman for seven months while you were going out with him, and the best you can do is probably.

[C]

No, no, we are forgiving gender.

[A]

Hell no.

[C]

We're forgiving people.

[A]

See, this is the reason right here. Guys hear this and they're like, we could take advantage of women as much as we want. I mean, what else does he have to do?

[B]

It's almost not even considered taking advantage of. It's just.

[A]

Yeah. You guys will put up with it, right? Melinda, good Morning. You're on Q100. Hey.

[E]

Hi.

[A]

What's up?

[E]

Now, I've been in her situation and it lasted for a year.

[A]

A year. How do you not know.

[E]

For a year I was stupid, naive in love and just blonde.

[C]

And then once you found out you were the other woman, what'd you do?

[E]

Oh, I went down. Well, she called me. Apparently she had found the phone numbers on his cell phone bill and call me and asked me who it was and I told her my name and I was like, who is this? And she told me who she was. I'm like, she says, are you seeing him? I said, yes. And she says, for how long? I said, for the past year. She says, well, I've been living with him for seven years. I'm like, okay. And about that time, he beeped in, he was on his way over. This is New Year's last year, New Year's night, just before 12 o'.

[D]

Clock.

[E]

And so I asked him who she was. I was like, who is Michelle? He goes, I don't know what you're talking about. I was like, don't play that with me. I know what's going on. So he goes, let me call you back. That was dead giveaway. They give away because he had to hurry up and go home or call her or something. So me and her keep talking and so I talked to her a little bit. Then I end up going down to the club where some friends were for New Year's, end up getting drunk and because I'm mad, I call him, tell him he needs to meet with me, we need to talk, we need to find out what's going on. And he shows up. I beat the crap out of him in the parking lot. Almost go to jail.

[A]

No.

[B]

Yes, you did go to jail or you almost went to jail?

[E]

Almost went to jail. I had some friends backing me up and he didn't press charges or anything because he knew what he had coming. He deserved it.

[A]

As a guy. When you show up to the office and you got black eyes and stuff, people ask you what happened.

[E]

He was six, four, like 300 and something pounds.

[A]

Yeah, you have to make up a real good story because you can't say my girlfriend beat me up.

[C]

And that's some anger.

[A]

That's serious anger. You can understand it. Totally justifiable. Hey Richard, you're on Q100. Good morning.

[F]

Yeah, quick comment about that 18 year old you just had on with a 30 year old date.

[A]

Country Richard. Hey man. Country Richard, what's up?

[F]

Not much. But back to that girl, man. That woman ought to be clobbered with a jackhammer. I can't stand. I can't stand people like this taking advantage of 30 year old men. That are 10 to 20 years older than. Than she is. She obviously wanted something out of him. And that's why she. Yes, that's why she continued to pursue this whole thing even though, you know, she. She knew that something was going on with the so called roommate.

[A]

So you say that she was taking advantage of him, not the other way around? Yeah.

[F]

I mean, sure, the guy was, you know, being a player, you know, he ought to have his lights turned off for that. But it's just. It's been. It's been a pattern I've been noticing. You know, these little college, high school to college age, you know, girls, which you are like.

[A]

How old are you?

[F]

21.

[A]

Okay, Richard, always. So we've had Richard on before. He talks like he's 62 years old.

[B]

It's important to point out his age.

[A]

Go ahead, Richard.

[C]

He doesn't sound it at all.

[A]

Right.

[F]

Yeah, well, that. Anyway, that's all I gotta say about that one. I appreciate you having me on.

[A]

All right, Richard. Thank you, man.

[B]

Thanks for listening.

[A]

Bye. Bye. All right, Carolyn, let's follow up with you in a couple of weeks. Do not go back with this guy. What are you thinking now?

[D]

Okay.

[C]

All right.

[A]

Come on.

[C]

But he says she's the one. He's realized.

[A]

No, he hasn't. This here where the seeds of self respect start right now. Okay? Do not go back with this guy. You're not going to listen to us? Talk to you later.

[C]

Let Bert be your relationship sensei.

[A]

Whoa, he's not going to listen to us. They never listen to us.

[B]

Javi went to yoga camp and she meditated.

[A]

And she knows she's got clarity that none of us can understand right now. The bird show.