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Wendy
of am excited about a date. No, we actually talked earlier in the week about guys with kids and I've been meeting a lot of guys who have children recently when I've been out and about and just having great conversations but just kind of nervous about getting involved and didn't really. I haven't really wanted kids. I love kids to pieces. I get along with children but not really sure if I want kids especially at this moment in my life. I'm only 24 years old. I. I can't handle a kid right now so I've been kind of Questionable about even giving these guys a chance. But I've had conversations with this guy and they've been awesome. He seems like a really nice guy, but just haven't been out on a date with him.
Jen
How old is dude?
Wendy
I think he is 30 something. I think he's like 31, 32.
Jen
Okay. Old dude. Hope he can keep up with you.
Wendy
Oh, he's not old. He's older. No, but I got some really awesome emails and a great piece of advice from actually someone in this office about guys with kids. And they said they can always put somebody else first and they know how to put themselves second. But then they don't waste your time. And you're finding with like, guys my age, like, they waste a lot of your time because they just want something. They just want to get in your pants. They want to do stuff with you. That's all they want.
Elizabeth
So, like a single dad isn't going to waste his time dating somebody he
Wendy
doesn't really like, really like or wants
Elizabeth
really interested in because he doesn't have that much time.
Wendy
Right. They don't want to get involved with you. They want to either this either gonna go somewhere or it's not gonna go somewhere and they can drop it really fast. And this coming from somebody in the office. And then I got this awesome listener email about a guy she had dated. She was a single mother and talked to a guy that didn't want kids off the bat, but explained that she had a son and all this kind of stuff. And then it ended up really well. So she was like, why are you not giving this guy a chance? And I was like, huh? So I thought about it a little bit and actually made plans for Sunday with this guy.
Elizabeth
Okay.
Wendy
To go to dinner. Something really super casual. Nothing like really fancy or anything like that. So just hanging out.
Bert
Chuck E. Cheese.
Bluff
Yes.
Wendy
Chuck E. Cheese.
Bert
Fuddruckers.
Lindsay
No.
Jen
Not gonna go see that new tooth fairy move, right? No.
Wendy
But yeah, made plans. So I'm kind of excited about it, kind of nervous about it, because this is a part of my dating life that I've never even stepped into.
Elizabeth
I think it's cool. I think it's really good. It shows that you're open, that you're sort of broadening your horizons and you're not like limiting yourself. I think it's really cool. And I think if it goes great, then I think you could potentially change your mind about the kid thing. And if it doesn't go great, then it's not. You've at least given it a Shot. Yeah, I think it's cool. I think I'm proud of you.
Joanna
And I wasn't trying to step over you. Jen. I apologize. I just noticed Bert's expression where you don't think she should go at all.
Jen
I just, I have mixed feelings about it from the single dad angle. Like, I understand what the girls are trying to do here is like using dating as a verb where you should sample it all, you know, just try it. Except the stakes to me are so much higher when you have a single parent that the way I'm hearing it is like, so I'll give it a try. I mean, he's a single dad. I'll at least give him a try. But Wendy told us earlier in the week that she's nowhere near ready to be a parent. So why waste the guy's time if, like, in a couple of months, if this thing is getting serious, you're gonna end up breaking it off anyway.
Wendy
But maybe not necessarily. I mean, maybe it's something I could eventually want. And that's sort of what the listener email said. Like, he, the guy she talked to didn't want children, didn't even want had children on the brain. But as soon as they got to know each other and hang out, it was like instant connection. And then a couple months or months later, down the road, met the child and it ended up great. And they're now they're married. So I mean, not saying I'm gonna get married to this guy, but I. I guess I can't really write him off for sure having a child.
Elizabeth
So.
Jen
And I see that's that side of it also.
Elizabeth
I mean, I think whoever Wendy falls in love with, if she falls in love with anyone, I think whatever their circumstances is becomes less important. Oh yeah, you gott out with him once or twice to figure out if there's any chemistry, if there's anything there to even go on.
Jen
And he's an adult, I mean, and he's got a child. And I think that there just are, I think, different time management issues when you're a single parent than when you're not. Like, they just don't have a lot of time to screw around. So that's why when the debate always comes up, like, should I tell him that I have kids or not? I would think as a single parent, you'd want to do that immediately because you just don't have time to screw around with somebody that doesn't want to get involved with a child situation whatsoever.
Elizabeth
How did it come up with you guys when you first met.
Wendy
It was just right off the bat, like, he didn't hide it. It was just something right away that was just a natural.
Bert
She wearing, like, a number one dad T shirt or something?
Wendy
Actually, no.
Elizabeth
World's greatest dad.
Wendy
That was actually his beard mug. No, he was really open about it, which I thought was cool. He didn't try to hide that he had a kid. I mean, I thought that was really important, but I don't think it's going to make a difference.
Bert
Well, listen, you know, he's fertile, so if you go and get drunk, wrap it up before you do anything, okay?
Wendy
It's dinner, Wendy. Promise it's dinner.
Bert
Promise it's dinner.
Wendy
We're not.
Bert
Promise.
Wendy
Hotel or my.
Joanna
She's gonna get emails. She's gonna get those hate mails now.
Jen
Just saying, you know, Wendy has the rule. Only up my shirt on the first date. Okay.
Wendy
Okay.
Jen
Told you that before. Hey, Lindsay.
Lindsay
Good morning.
Joanna
She posted on her desk.
Jen
What's up, Lindsay?
Lindsay
Hey, good morning, guys. Wendy, I am actually married to somebody who has another kid. And I'm gonna be honest with you. That is the worst drama I have ever dealt with in my entire life. And probably the one thing that would drive us to divorce.
Elizabeth
What? Is because of the ex or because of the kid?
Lindsay
Because of the ex. Not because of the kid. Because of the ex.
Jen
Okay.
Elizabeth
That's a different story.
Lindsay
Yeah, that is a huge. I mean, I'm gonna tell you. I'm not. Everybody has a same problem, but there are so many people out there with baby mama drama or baby daddy drama, it doesn't matter. It's there and it's always going to be there. She's always going to be right there in your face.
Wendy
I mean, at the same time, it
Elizabeth
depends on the relationship. I have a good friend of mine who has a son, and her. It was with her boyfriend at the time. Happened in college, whatever. But her son's father is now remarried, and the stepmom is one of her best friends. Like, they want to, like, rewrite the book on step parenting because it's a really, really great situation. So not all of them have to be bad is all I wanted to say.
Wendy
And this might not even lead to anything, right? I'm not gonna be this child's stepmom on the first date. Like, I'm not, like, jumping into it saying, hey, I want to be a mommy.
Jen
What if he calls you mommy as soon as you walk in the door?
Wendy
Well, then that'll be a deal breaker.
Bert
Are you my new mommy? Are you my new Mommy.
Jen
I had another new mommy last week. This is great. Oh God.
Elizabeth
Save that, save that, save that.
Wendy
The child will not be on the date.
Bert
And you know the child can't go up your shirt no matter how many dates you have. Right.
Wendy
Oh my dollar.
Bert
I'm just. It's a new environment for her.
Wendy
I saved the email.
Elizabeth
Seriously, Let me, let me just.
Joanna
But let me ask Jen a question. So if this does work out and then Wendy ends up being with this guy and then becomes a mom like
Podcast Host
before you do, or you can be
Elizabeth
mad if she became a stepmom.
Wendy
Yeah, no, I think that'd be really
Elizabeth
cool because I thought that'd be funny. I know. You know, Joanna would be mad.
Jen
Oh, she'll quit.
Elizabeth
That's a good point. Joanna would be mad. I threw out the timeline a long time ago.
Bert
Wendy's like, this started with me going to Olive Garden and now you're getting me married before Joanna.
Joanna
I'm just saying, I just think it's, you know, insta mom.
Elizabeth
Even lesbians think like that. Even lesbians around down the alley.
Podcast Host
I'm still a woman. Hell.
Jen
Hey, Elizabeth. Good morning.
Caller
Good morning.
Jen
Hey, what's up?
Caller
Oh, not too much.
Lindsay
Going to work.
Jen
What can we do for you?
Caller
Well, I was just going to let her know that. Give him a chance. 10 years ago I met my now husband. I had an 8 year old son and he had no children, never wanted children, fell in love with my son, fell in love with me and they're best friends and we've been happy ever since. So just give him a chance. And as far as like the ex
Lindsay
goes, he was very comfortable with my
Caller
now husband and they have a great relationship. So give him a chance. It might not, you know, go more than a date, but definitely give him a chance.
Wendy
I feel like I should just at least give him dinner because he's nice and a good conversationalist and he'll be
Jen
able to sift it out pretty quickly. Also like, I mean, if things could go great on Saturday, but he may say, you know, because he's got to look at you in two different lights. He's got to look at you as a woman that he wants to date. Then long term wise he's got to look like, okay, is this woman capable of having kids right now?
Wendy
And that's a piece of advice I got. So that's why I decided to go to dinner with him, just to see how it goes. I'm not becoming a parent on Sunday. I cannot be a mom.
Jen
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Date: June 12, 2026
Main Hosts on Segment: Bert, Wendy, Jen, Elizabeth, Joanna, Lindsay
This episode centers around Wendy, a 24-year-old Bert Show team member, as she considers going on a date with a single dad for the first time. The discussion explores the challenges, benefits, and societal perceptions of dating someone with children, with the cast sharing personal experiences, practical advice, and plenty of humor. Listener calls further enrich the conversation, making it a candid and relatable exploration of modern dating dynamics.
The episode is upbeat, candid, and humorous, but also dives into genuine concerns about dating single parents—balancing personal readiness, respect for others’ time, and the unpredictability of relationships. The cast encourages keeping an open mind, trying new experiences, and communicating honestly, all while validating the very real challenges (and joys) of dating as a single parent or entering a blended family.
If you’ve never dated someone with kids or are curious about how it works, this episode is a funny, honest, and supportive look at all sides of the situation.