Vault: She Took A Big Risk To Meet Her Online Date

Summary

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The Bert Show – Vault: She Took A Big Risk To Meet Her Online Date

Air Date: December 11, 2025
Host: Bert Show Cast (Bert, Kristin, Abby, Cassie, Tommy, et al.)
Episode Theme:
A follow-up with listener “Kelly,” who recently traveled to another city to meet an online date shortly after being widowed, sparking concern among both the show hosts and listeners about her safety and emotional readiness.

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Episode Overview

In this poignant and candid segment, the Bert Show reconnects with Kelly, a recent widow who risked visiting a man she met online in a different city. The hosts discuss their initial concerns for her safety after losing contact, unpack the outcome of her trip, and delve into the complex feelings around dating after loss. The conversation is warm, gently humorous, and full of honest reflection – both from Kelly and the caring hosts.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Safety Concerns Around Online Dating

• Background:
  • On the prior Thursday, Kelly called in to say she was heading to another city to meet a man from an online dating site.
  • She had only given the show a single phone number, hadn’t shared the trip details with family or close friends, making the hosts and listeners anxious for her safety.
• Host 1: “We really didn't feel like she left herself a lot of safety net ... We only had one phone number for her and we were really concerned.” (01:55–02:23)

2. Kelly’s Vulnerability and Emotional Readiness

• Personal Context:
  • Kelly had lost her husband eight months ago and was hesitant to share her new dating adventure with her circle for fear of judgment.
  • Host 2 emphasizes: “Kelly was a little bit more vulnerable than the average online dater because she had just recently lost her husband ... so therefore wasn’t really telling anybody ... because she thought they would judge her for moving on too quickly.” (02:23–02:40)

3. Kelly’s Experience: The Trip Recap

• No Contact:
  • Kelly had no cellphone service most of the time, adding to the hosts’ concerns.
  • Kelly: “Absolutely no cell phone service whatsoever up there.” (02:53)
• The Actual Meet-Up:
  • The guy was “nice” and nothing alarming happened, but Kelly felt uncomfortable and realized she was not ready for such a step.
  • Kelly: “It just wasn’t exactly what I expected, and I wasn’t really ready for it, so I was glad to come home.” (03:12–03:24)
• Constant Vigilance:
  • The previous conversation with the show left Kelly nervous, never letting her guard down during the weekend. (03:28–03:40)
• “I do think it was just still a little too soon ... after talking with y’all on Thursday, I was nervous the whole weekend, so I never exactly let my guard down.” (Kelly, 03:28–03:40)

4. Expectations vs. Reality

• Mismatch:
  • The man seemed to expect a deeper romantic connection than Kelly intended.
  • Host 1: “So you were going there more as a friendship, and he was going there thinking it was going to be something a little more.” (03:49–03:54)
  • Kelly: “Yes.” (03:54)

5. Reflections, Growth, and The Grieving Process

• Emotional Realization:
  • “I think it was more fun talking and thinking of the idea of doing it than it actually was doing it.” (Kelly, 04:25–04:35)
  • Kelly recognizes her journey through grief is ongoing and she needs more time before dating.
  • Host 1: “Everybody heals differently ... eventually you gotta, I guess, at least try to jumpstart something. And for you, that was seven or eight months.” (04:36–04:56)
  • Kelly: “But it’ll be a while now ... Yes.” (04:56–05:01)

6. The Importance of Caution and Community Support

• Learning from Experience:
  • Kelly appreciates the show and listeners’ concern, saying their warnings made her more cautious.
  • Kelly: “All the comments from Thursday ... made me actually think about what I was doing and be a little more cautious while I was there.” (05:02–05:13)
• Host 2: “I think next time you need to be a lot more cautious, not just a little bit more cautious, because you lucked out that nothing bad happened.” (05:13–05:22)
• Kelly: (Concluded) “I don’t think there’ll be a next time. I think the online dating out-of-state thing is over for me now. ... It was a little too strange being up there with no service, no car, in the middle of a small town where everything closes at 5:00.” (05:31–05:38)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Host 2 (lighthearted): “Don’t you ever leave again without giving us a phone call, young lady. You had us worried sick all night.” (03:59–04:03)
• Host 1: “We’re not mad. We’re just disappointed.” (04:05–04:08)
• Kelly: “I'm sorry I had everybody worried ...” (06:01–06:04)
• Host 1 (joking): “Just don’t do that again, young lady. All right? You go to your room and you think about what you’ve done. You’re grounded.” (06:05–06:12)

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Key Segment Timestamps

• 01:55–02:23 – Explaining initial concerns for Kelly’s safety and lack of a “safety net”
• 02:40–03:12 – Kelly rejoins the show and explains where she’s been
• 03:12–03:24 – Kelly recaps her trip and why she was happy to return
• 03:28–03:40 – The influence of the show’s warnings on her actions
• 03:49–03:54 – Realization of mismatched expectations with the online date
• 04:25–04:35 – Emotional insight: “It was more fun talking and thinking of the idea ...”
• 05:13–05:22 – Hosts stress stronger caution for future situations
• 05:31–05:38 – Kelly decides to stop online dating out of state

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Tone & Atmosphere

The tone is affectionate and protective, with supportive but candid advice. The hosts alternate between parental concern, gentle ribbing, and empathy, making for a warm, relatable, and at times, humorous exchange. Kelly is honest and grateful for the community’s support, and the conversation turns reflective about grief and readiness for new relationships.

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Summary:
This Bert Show segment offers a heartfelt follow-up on Kelly, whose risky leap into online dating after loss sparks a thoughtful discussion on safety, healing, and the courage to connect (or step back) after grief. The conversation balances real concern with humor and sensitivity, providing comfort and wisdom to listeners navigating similar waters.

Transcript

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[Show Host]

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[Host 1]

You guys gotta bear with us for just a couple of seconds because on Thursday of last week. Is that right?

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[Host 1]

Thursday of Last week around 6:15 we take a call from a woman that we're calling Kelly that was going to another city to visit a guy that she met online and a whole bunch of virtual listeners called up concerned because we really didn't feel like she left herself a lot of safety net, like she didn't tell a lot of people she was taking off. We only had one phone number for her and we were really concerned that she was going to his city.

[Host 2]

And Kelly was a little bit more vulnerable than the average online dater because she had just recently lost her husband about eight months ago, and so therefore wasn't really telling anybody in her. Any of her close friends and family that she was going to meet this person because she thought that they would judge her for moving on too quickly.

[Host 1]

So for four or five days now, we've been calling, trying to get her on the phone, and we were just a little nervous about her safety, and we were talking about it this morning, and now she's on the phone. Hi, Kelly.

[Kelly]

Hi.

[Host 2]

Where have you been, young lady?

[Kelly]

I've been gone. Absolutely no cell phone service whatsoever up there.

[Host 1]

Oh, that's comforting. Yes, that's very comfor. That's a good thing. We know that now.

[Kelly]

Yeah, definitely.

[Host 1]

So he took you into, like, some small, itty bitty little town in the middle of whatever state?

[Kelly]

Yeah, basically.

[Host 2]

And what happened? How did it go?

[Kelly]

Actually, the weekend wasn't that bad. He was nice and everything went fine. It just wasn't. Wasn't exactly what I expected, and I wasn't really ready for it, so I was glad to come home.

[Host 2]

What did you expect? And then what was it like? How did it not meet your expectations?

[Kelly]

Um, I do think it was just still a little too soon. And honestly, after talking with y' all on Thursday, I was nervous the whole weekend, so I never exactly let my guard down.

[Host 1]

Well, I kind of think that's a good thing.

[Kelly]

Yeah, I think it was.

[Host 1]

I don't feel bad about this. I gotta be honest.

[Host 2]

Was he expecting more from you, like more of a relationship?

[Kelly]

I think so.

[Host 1]

So you were going there more as a friendship, and he was going there thinking it was going to be something a little more.

[Kelly]

Yes.

[Host 1]

Yeah. Well, I was sorry it didn't work out, but, I mean, I'm glad you're okay.

[Host 2]

Yeah, we're glad you're back safely. And don't you ever leave again without giving us a phone call, young lady.

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[Host 2]

You had us worried sick all night.

[Host 1]

We're not mad. We're just disappointed.

It's good to know you're okay.

[Kelly]

Yes, I am.

[Host 1]

So what's your next step with this guy? Is the relationship over at this point, or. I mean, what have you learned about yourself and the grieving process now also?

[Kelly]

Well, I've definitely learned that.

Well, like I said, it is. It's definitely too soon. And I think it was just. I think it was more fun talking and thinking of the idea of doing it than it actually was doing it.

[Host 2]

I can See that?

[Host 1]

And I guess everybody heals differently. You know, I told you guys about this friend I have in San Diego that was dating within like four or five months after his wife passed away. But, you know, when I look at Stacey, I ever think if I was in your shoes, you know, your first thought is, I would. I'd never be able to get on my feet again. But eventually. Eventually you gotta, I guess, at least try to jumpstart something. And for you, that was seven or eight months.

[Kelly]

Mm. But it'll be a while now.

[Host 1]

Yeah. Is that what it made you realize?

[Kelly]

Yes.

[Host 1]

Yeah.

[Kelly]

But I do appreciate all the. All the comments that made me from Thursday that made me actually think about what I was doing and be a little more cautious while I was there. So it did help out.

[Host 2]

I mean, I. I don't want to be too harsh about it, but I think next time you need to be a lot more cautious, not just a little bit more cautious, because you lucked out that you. That nothing bad happened.

[Host 1]

I mean, you still went to this cell service.

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You went to the small town with. Yeah. I mean, with nobody knowing where you were and all that stuff. I just say just be a lot more careful next time.

[Kelly]

I don't think there'll be a next time. I think the online dating out of state thing is over for me now.

[Host 1]

Right.

[Kelly]

It was a little. A little too strange being up there with. With no service and no car and in the middle of a small town where Everything closes at 5:00 and.

[Host 1]

Well, if we scared you so much that you put your guard up more than you would have, then I'm glad we talked to you in the first place.

[Host 2]

Me too.

[Kelly]

Definitely.

[Host 2]

I thought it all worked out okay this time.

[Kelly]

Well, good. Well, I'm glad. I'm sorry I had everybody worried, but.

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Okay.

[Host 1]

Just don't do that again, young lady. All right? You go to your room and you think about what you've done. You're grounded. All right? All right, Kelly.

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[Host 1]

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Kelly.

[Host 1]

See you now.

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