B (1:58)

That's true.

A (1:58)

Like, if it's, like, after December 15th or something like that and you're not happy, you got to stick it out until January 1st.

B (2:04)

Right? So because you don't well. And well, that was so that you would not hurt the feelings of the person that you were about to break up with. But in her case, it wasn't. She was concerned about hurting his feelings. She want to make sure that she got something. She got her goods before she left.

A (2:17)

Hey, Angela.

C (2:18)

Good morning, bro.

A (2:19)

How are you?

C (2:20)

Sorry about this morning.

A (2:22)

That's okay. We got so late.

C (2:23)

Okay. And one more thing. Am I on the voices? Kaiser?

A (2:26)

You are.

C (2:27)

Okay. Just checking. My baby's listening.

B (2:30)

Your baby?

A (2:32)

So you guys are still together?

C (2:34)

Yeah. Oh, okay.

E (2:37)

He must have given you something good.

C (2:39)

Oh, my God, he did. He gave me. He gave me a diamond tennis bracelet from Tiffany's and he got me little diamond style tears. So I was really happy. That was my birthday, which is a couple days before Christmas. And then for Christmas I got a Wii with all the freaking accessories. And it was great. It was wonderful. But. Yes, let me tell you the story. So I had something for my rookies a couple days before Christmas. And we, during my birthday weekend, we sit down and we have this discussion. And he's like, baby, I sense that you're pulling away from me and I don't want to lose you. And I want to sit down and let's talk about what's wrong with you. Let's talk about this relationship. Put your trust in me. Don't leave me like you did the other guys. I'm different. I was like, okay, babe, sure. I sit down and I'm thinking to myself, can I be real with this guy? Can I actually get married? And I decide I can. And I take the relationship completely. And so I don't break up with him after Christmas like my plans were. But a couple days after that, my mom threw me this huge I'm turning 30 party. I mean, she outdid herself. She invited some of my high school buddies, some friends from college. I think some of my international friends even flew in for it. Well, my high school sweetheart found out about the party through one of my best friends and he flew in for my birthday party.

D (4:00)

Really?

C (4:01)

Yes. It was. It was so awesome. And we spent the whole night talking and catching up and all this great stuff. And at the end of the night, he proposed us with a freaking huge ring. Okay, the ring is huge.

A (4:14)

Wait, wait, wait. I'm gonna back up for one second because wasn't. If I remember the story correctly, isn't the high school sweetheart one of the guys that you were engaged to at the same time as the other guys?

C (4:23)

Yes, he was one. He was the one that I Also wanted to try it again with.

B (4:26)

Right. She did tell us that this is the one that she still had feelings for.

A (4:29)

Okay, so.

D (4:31)

So your current sweetheart was not at this party?

C (4:34)

Oh, no. My mom can't stand him, so he wasn't invited.

A (4:36)

Okay.

D (4:37)

That's how the high school boy got in.

A (4:39)

All right, got access. And chronologically, here it goes. Conversation with current boyfriend, Christmas, whole bunch of gifts. And then the party.

C (4:48)

No, no, it goes. Conversation with boyfriend, birthday, whole bunch of gifts.

A (4:52)

Gotcha.

C (4:53)

Then the party.

A (4:54)

Got it.

C (4:55)

Then proposal.

A (4:56)

Okay.

D (4:57)

Wow. And what'd you say?

C (4:58)

What do you think I said? This is Angela, the black widow here.

B (5:01)

Okay.

E (5:02)

You said yes?

C (5:03)

I said yes.

A (5:04)

So this is the second time you've been engaged to this guy?

C (5:07)

Yes, this is the second time. And you should have heard the proposal. He was like, I know we tried it before, but I still love you. You're the only one for me. Soulmate. Yeah. Womp, womp, womp. It was beautiful, guys. It was beautiful.

A (5:19)

And the current has no idea of any. Does he know yet that you're engaged?

C (5:23)

It depends on how savvy he is. If he's really good at being my baby, he knows that I'm talk about him now on the radio, but other than that, no, he's.

E (5:31)

So this is the. This is the first time he's going to hear about it. It's broadcast on Q100.

C (5:35)

Yeah, yeah.

B (5:36)

Where's the ring? Where do you hide the ring he has?

C (5:40)

I wear his. The high school sweetheart ring because it's huge, and I just kind of take it off and put it in the ashtray every time I see my. I guess, first fiance in the car ashtray? Yeah.

B (5:51)

Okay. It's in your car. Okay.

A (5:55)

I don't understand. Like. I mean, you seem so. The thing that I find so interesting about you is, you know, all of this is so wrong, yet you're so callous about it, and you really, like, can go from guy to guy and you really don't care.

C (6:06)

Whoa, whoa, whoa. Wait. Wait a minute. Wait, wait, wait. First of all, I didn't go from guy to guy. He came to me. He came to me and he was. Cause we talked. My high school sweetheart, we talked the entire night. He was well aware that I wasn't engaged and set to be married in three months. He was willing to. You know, he was like, baby, you're making a mistake. Let's try it. And so if he knows that I'm already engaged and he's willing to wait for me to work it out, it is not my fault.

D (6:32)

Now, was this more orchestrated from your mom than we even know about?

E (6:36)

Yes, totally.

F (6:37)

It could have been.

C (6:38)

Because, like I said, he was out of the country, and I don't have information from him. He's in the military. But, you know, it makes sense. Cause he landed a couple days before my birthday, and he does talk to a lot of my friends a lot. So he could have just heard about it through them.

A (6:51)

Don't you? The more we talk to you, the more I realize you just like. You like the celebration of you like. I'm not really sure this engagement is really gonna go anywhere, but. You like to get presents on Christmas. You like to have birthdays thrown for you. You like to get engagement rings. You like the whole process. You just like the celebration of you. Do you really love this guy?

C (7:13)

I really love, I guess my current fiancee, the one I'm marrying in March. I really love him. Really do. I really want to marry him. But that's my high school sweetheart. I've loved him for so long. I'm not. It would be wrong for me to say, well, no, I'm not gonna entertain this because you're a couple months too late, you know?

B (7:31)

Did you say March?

F (7:33)

March?

C (7:33)

Yeah.

A (7:34)

Okay, I'm confused now. We're talking about so many guys now I got it all confused. So you just said that you're really in love with your current, but you're prepared to marry the ex high school sweetheart?

C (7:44)

Yes.

B (7:45)

Who are you marrying in March?

C (7:48)

That's when our wedding date was set for the current.

B (7:50)

With the current one?

D (7:51)

Yes.

C (7:51)

The one I was gonna break up with.

D (7:52)

The Tiffany's bracelet one.

C (7:54)

Yes.

A (7:55)

Are you lying about all this?

C (7:56)

Oh, dear. No.

A (7:58)

So why wouldn't you just tell him?

C (7:59)

Then?

A (8:00)

The engagement is off and I'm gonna be with the ex.

B (8:03)

Oh, that's silly, Bert. Because then she'd be cutting off some of her goods. The tennis bracelet cut off the engagement ring, and she's got another engagement ring.

E (8:12)

Why would she end the celebration of her.

D (8:14)

That's true.

C (8:15)

You guys make me sound so bad. No, no, no. I mean, if you don't want us.

E (8:20)

To make you sound bad, we'll take calls.

C (8:21)

No, no, no, no, no. I mean, my current boyfriend. I mean, my current fiance. I told him. I was like, you know, I had this big birthday party. My ex was in town, and I wanted to hang out with him. He knows I'm hanging out. He just doesn't know. He asked me to marry him, and I'm gonna tell him. It's just that it Was the holiday time, and I couldn't find the right moment.

A (8:39)

All right. Stephanie thinks you're making this whole thing up. Hey, Stephanie.

C (8:42)

Hi.

A (8:42)

Hey.

F (8:44)

I have a girlfriend who is just like her. She is a narcissistic, delusional liar. Just crazy. There may be a little bit of truth to her story, but the rest of it is all embellishment. She's embellishing this story.

A (9:00)

Angela, you promise you're not making any part of this up?

C (9:02)

I promise I'm not making any of this up.

E (9:05)

Why do you say. I'm curious to why she thinks that the same thing that applied to a friend applies to. To her.

A (9:12)

I don't know. She's gone.

C (9:14)

Hello? Where'd she go?

A (9:15)

She's gone. I hung up on her accidentally. I thought she was just done with her point. Hold on. Good morning, Deborah. You're on Q100.

C (9:23)

Hey, Bert.

F (9:23)

How are you guys doing this morning?

A (9:25)

Shaking our heads. How are you?

C (9:27)

Great.

F (9:28)

I think the girl is crazy.

B (9:31)

Okay?

C (9:31)

Loony.

F (9:32)

And if she think that she's not doing anything wrong, that just, you know, seals my case. I mean, why would you not think you're doing something wrong? I mean, why would you think that? It's just their. I mean, they're doing everything wrong and you're just reaping the benefits. I think she's crazy.

B (9:48)

Yeah.

A (9:49)

You know, you're totally toying with these guys. I mean, you're. You're toying them like they're catnip and you're a cat.

C (9:55)

Wait, no, no, no, because I'm. First of all, I'm not. Okay, the first three fiance's, when I was younger, that was all wrong. But this one is not. Like, I asked the guy to fly in for my birthday, and it's not like I told him to marry me and it's. I let him on.

E (10:09)

You said yes.

C (10:10)

You said yes That I was in. I had on my fiance's ring. He knew that.

E (10:16)

But you said yes when he asked.

C (10:18)

He asked in front of my entire. All my friends and family and nephews and nieces. What the hell was I. What the heck was I supposed to say?

A (10:26)

No, no, they all knew that you were engaged to another guy.

C (10:29)

Okay, but like, I'm still. There are still feelings there. And there is a. There are still feelings there that I would be wrong if I did not explore them before I walked down the aisle to another man.

A (10:39)

Well, I have feelings for the girl I went out with in the seventh grade.

E (10:43)

That's gonna be a fight later.

A (10:46)

I'm not marrying the girl.

B (10:49)

Well, you know, the people that hate her the worst are the people who can't get their boyfriends to. To ask them to marry him. Like our Birch show listener that's been married, dated the same guy for five years, and he still won't propose to her. And then every. I mean, I'm surprised that you can't go to the mall today and some random guy comes up and proposes to you. Like, what is it that you do that's different?

C (11:09)

I'm a great gal. I mean, hate to blow my own point in, but I'm a nice person, I guess.

D (11:16)

You got some sort of move. I need to learn something.

C (11:21)

What is it? Caliente kiss? Is that what Bert calls me?

A (11:23)

You got more than that.

C (11:24)

That's what it is.

A (11:25)

You got way more than that. Sarah, you're on Q100. Hey.

C (11:29)

Hey.

F (11:31)

When you're not that nice of a person, you wouldn't be leading both these guys on like that. But the thing is. And I used to be a lot like you, and I was engaged, like, six times before I actually got married, and now I'm happily divorced, but anyway, that's all beside the point. But the thing is, what you need to recognize is that this guy, the one from high school, he is disrespecting, like you and your current fiance and himself by just walking in and saying, oh, no, marry me instead, and it's just all a big mess. You're getting yourself into nothing but trouble, so just back away from Mr. High School.

A (12:02)

I mean, this is the second time now that you've been engaged to multiple people at the same time.

C (12:07)

This time, at least most parties know about each other.

D (12:10)

Most parties know about it.

A (12:11)

Well, you said he doesn't know about.

B (12:12)

Who knows about who.

C (12:13)

Okay, the high school sweetheart knows about my current fiance.

A (12:17)

Yeah, but the current doesn't know about the high school sweetheart.

C (12:19)

He doesn't know that I'm engaged. No, but if he does know that, we spend quite a bit of time together.

B (12:24)

And does the boy, the high school dude, know that the current you are engaged to him?

C (12:30)

He knows. What? I mean, he knows. He's seen my wedding dress. He knows the date. He knows everything.

D (12:36)

So who are you gonna marry?

E (12:38)

Neither of them.

B (12:39)

Nobody.

C (12:41)

I want to marry my current fiance because I love him.

D (12:44)

No. Who are you going to marry?

B (12:47)

Neither.

E (12:48)

We should have Hoss ask for a.

D (12:50)

Seriously, Are you gonna actually be able to walk down the aisle with either one of them?

C (12:54)

I want to. One of them?

D (12:56)

Which one? You just want to clone the good parts of both of them, meld them together, and then that's the guy you'll marry.

A (13:06)

Have you ever been married before?

C (13:07)

No. No, I haven't.

A (13:09)

So you've never gone through the, you know, the celebration of a wedding day or anything? So that's not. The idea of. It is intoxicating to you?

C (13:15)

Actually, the idea is kind of overwhelming.

A (13:18)

Well, yeah, because you've done it nine times.

B (13:20)

Well. And you have to stay there. Like, you have to stay with the same guy once you go through the.

C (13:23)

Ceremony and you got to stay faithful for the rest of your life.

B (13:26)

Yeah.

A (13:27)

You think. You think you have that in you?

C (13:29)

I'm going to marry my current fiance.

F (13:30)

I just.

C (13:31)

I. It would be wrong of me to go down the aisle and say yes to this man, knowing and wonder what could have been or what would have happened if.

A (13:39)

So are you going to pursue a relationship with the ex through the engagement and then just get married to the current?

C (13:47)

Not all the way through the engagement. We need some time to get to know me, because I haven't seen this man in about six years. I want to get a chance to get to know him, see what he's all about.

B (14:00)

Well, that's good.

C (14:01)

Say again?

B (14:02)

Yeah, you take before. Yeah, before you get to know him. It's. I mean, perfect. Perfect plan.

C (14:09)

Yeah, it is.

A (14:11)

It's so simple. Hey, Jennifer, you're on Q100.

C (14:14)

Hey, I think she's a gold digger. What the heck? What the heck? What the. Why do I need to. If you want to, then that would be fine. But you don't need to sit there and say engaged. Engaged means married for the rest of your life. You're taking marriage as a joke? How am I taking it? Okay, because obviously you're sitting here engaged.

F (14:36)

To three different guys. How is that not a joke?

C (14:40)

And the joke is on you because you're the idiot doing it. Much younger. I admitted that one was wrong. Okay?

F (14:46)

But this one is just as wrong as the one before, because you are still sitting here engaged to two separate men.

A (14:53)

Angela, you can honestly take a look at your own situation right now, and you can say, I'm not doing anything wrong.

C (14:58)

It's not like I called up my high school sweetheart and said, hey, come in and ask me to marry you because I need another engagement ring. I didn't do that. I didn't invite him to the party. I didn't ask him to marry me. I did not do anything wrong because I'm not out there.

E (15:11)

You said yes. You said yes.

A (15:14)

You already engaged me.

E (15:15)

The proper answer. The answer Is, I'm sorry. I'm engaged to someone else.

C (15:19)

Okay, so suppose I would have said no, right?

A (15:22)

Yeah.

C (15:23)

And my wedding day comes, right? And I am walking down the aisle and I see my high school sweetheart in the audience, and all of a sudden I am filled with, oh, my God, what would have happened?

E (15:32)

That's great.

C (15:33)

After I get married and supposed to be faithful to the man for the rest of my life, I cheat. Because I've always. I would have wondered what happened.

E (15:38)

Hey, black widow, listen, the proper answer is no. And then you go back to the other guy if you have doubts, and you say, hey, we gotta call off our engagement because I gotta explore some things with a past flame who's come into my life and maybe wants to rekindle some things.

A (15:55)

But, you know, you'd lose the guy, so you can't do that, right?

C (15:58)

I don't think I would lose him, would I?

E (16:03)

I hope so.

A (16:04)

Well, there must be a reason why you didn't tell him.

C (16:06)

Because he wouldn't understand. And he wouldn't say yes before. I mean, before even acknowledging Lord Amber.

A (16:15)

All right, we're gonna have to follow up with you.

B (16:17)

Wow.

D (16:18)

I want to find out what advice you would give to a friend of yours if she were going through the same situation.

C (16:23)

I would tell her to do the same thing I'm doing, except be honest with your current fiance. Let him know what play.

A (16:31)

But you haven't done that.

C (16:35)

I wasn't giving the advice to myself, though. You said my best friend.

A (16:38)

Okay, so it'll be different for you. All right. We'll check back with you in a couple of weeks, see where your head's at.

B (16:43)

Okay.

C (16:44)

All right.

A (16:44)

All right. Bye.

C (16:45)

Bye.

A (16:46)

The bird show.