Vault: This Simple Home Trick Is Saving Marriages

Summary

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Podcast Summary: The Bert Show

Episode: Vault: This Simple Home Trick Is Saving Marriages
Date: March 10, 2026

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Episode Overview

In this lively episode, The Bert Show crew dives into the creative and playful ways couples can rekindle excitement in long-term relationships. Centered around a "simple home trick"—sending teasing, flirty photos or texts at carefully chosen moments—the hosts share stories, listener experiences, and plenty of laughs about how small, spontaneous actions can have a big impact on romance and intimacy.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

The Simple Trick That’s Saving Marriages

• Host A shares a story about a friend's wife who rejuvenated their relationship by sending playful, sexy photos during moments when her husband couldn't immediately act on them—like in the middle of a meeting or dinner out.
  • “[She] snapped a sexy photo of herself... sends it to him while he’s in his meeting. Underneath it, it says, ‘9:30 tonight, come and get it.’” (A, 01:02)
  • The anticipation—being together but unable to act—was the key to keeping things exciting.

The Importance of Timing & Anticipation

• It’s not about constant sexting, but about the when and how—doing it at moments where nothing can be done immediately, creating a day-long sense of anticipation.
  • “He can’t capitalize on it right now, so he’s getting more and more fired up.” (A, 02:27)
  • “There’s a mental chase going on.” (C, 04:15)

Gender Perspectives: Does This Work Both Ways?

• The panel discusses whether this trick only works for men or if women enjoy it, too.
  • “For women, we wouldn’t need pictures. It would just be craftier words... Just in a written out text message, I think that’s just as exciting.” (B, 03:28-03:37)
  • The group agrees the psychological element—teasing, building anticipation—is universal, even if the style shifts.

Listener Stories: Real-Life Validation

• Angel calls in to confirm the trick works in her 17-year marriage:
  • “When I was at home, I would take pictures and send them to him at work or make a video… and say, hey, you’ve got a prize when you come home… It’s always, always on when that happens.” (E, 05:17-05:40)
• Kerry shares her own fun experiences working with her boyfriend:
  • “We do this quite a bit… it’s as awesome for me as it is for him… whether you’re dating or married, it can spark anything.” (E, 06:00-06:21)

Too Much, Too Often?

• The hosts and callers stress the importance of moderation—this trick works best when used occasionally and unpredictably.
  • “You can overdo this, so don’t overdo it… If you go too extreme on anything, it fails more miserably than if you never did it at all.” (A & D, 00:33-00:46)
  • “We don’t do it all the time because obviously, you don’t want to just make that… But, you know… it’s just fun.” (Kerry, 06:28-06:42)

Adding Humor & Creativity

• Ribbing each other, the hosts joke about how far you could take the trick—like sending a silly photo in dishwashing gloves with a turkey baster, keeping the mood light and playful.
  • “Take a picture of her topless wearing those bright yellow dishwashing gloves, holding a turkey baster... and just write, like, ‘9:30 tonight.’” (D, 04:16-04:29)
• Laughter and playfulness are underscored as crucial to keeping any long-term relationship fresh.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On the power of anticipation:

  • “You’re gonna have the visual all day. And he can’t or she can’t capitalize on it right there.” (A, 02:27)

• Listener validation:

  • “You just gotta keep a relationship fun and exciting and it’s just a great thing to do.” (Kerry, 06:42)

• Playfully acknowledging limits:

  • “I’m turning my phone off.” (A, 07:28, in response to co-host Jeff jokingly leaving the studio)

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Important Segments & Timestamps

• [00:13] — Introduction to the marriage-saving home trick
• [01:02] — Example: the office photo and building anticipation
• [02:27] — Key insight: timing and the psychological “mental chase”
• [03:14-03:43] — Gender dynamics: how anticipation and teasing work for both partners
• [05:09] — Listener Angel’s story of using the trick in a 17-year marriage
• [06:00] — Listener Kerry shares her experience and advice
• [07:07] — Final reflections on why the trick works and the importance of moderation

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Podcast Tone & Style

True to The Bert Show’s style, the conversation is candid, energetic, and sprinkled with humor. The hosts and listeners swap stories and advice with warmth and authenticity, making even spicy topics feel accessible and relatable.

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Takeaway

The Bert Show highlights how a small, thoughtful act—sending a flirty message or photo at a strategic time—can reignite connection and excitement in any relationship. When used sparingly and playfully, these gestures become powerful ways to keep the spark alive, no matter how many years you’ve been together.

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Transcript

[A]

Hey, the bird show. I feel some of you guys, I mean, I've been. I've been with the Same woman now 14 years. 14 years, that is a blessing.

[B]

And you are a lucky man.

[C]

Yes, I am. I love the way you say that.

[A]

14 years, though. I mean, you got to get creative, man. And some of you are in relationships right now. Things got a little bit getting a little routine and you're scratching your head on ways that you might be able to shake it up a little bit. Not in major ways, just little things that you can do sort of light the fire just a little bit. So let me tell you a plan that the wife of a friend of mine started a couple of months ago that has worked for them. Now, you can overdo this, so don't overdo it, okay?

[D]

You know you can. If you go too extreme on anything, it fails more miserably than if you never did it at all.

[A]

I think this is more of a case of just doing it too many times.

[D]

Okay.

[A]

And it's going to sound pretty basic in the beginning, but there's a real key to this one. Okay. And I wrote some of this stuff down so I wouldn't jack it all up. They first, they work in the same office together.

[B]

So the first home together and at work together.

[A]

Together and work together, right. So they're seeing each other all the time. But what happened a couple of months ago was he was in a meeting, a high pressure meeting, closed door conference, right. And she got kind of a crazy hair. So she decided to go into one of the empty office offices in their own building, and she snapped a sexy photo of herself. I'm not exactly sure if it was nude or just a little peaksy. Peaksy. And she sends it to him while he's in his meeting. Funny. And underneath it, it says, 9:30 tonight, come and get it. So while he's in. So while he's in the meeting, he sees this. Now here is the whole trick to this for him is that it differs from your normal sext message or your normal picture because he's around her all day long now. So the visual is in front of him. And he's constantly reminded all day long of what's going to happen later on that night. So he goes home that night, 9:30 rolls around, and he says the hotness happens.

[C]

But I also think, and tell me if this is also key, if this is also key, because he sees he's with her all the time. But at the moment she sends that picture is a moment he can't Take advantage of anything.

[A]

That's exactly right. He's. He can't do anything for.

[C]

No, it's the one time that he has no control and cannot see her. And that's when she sends. I think that's also.

[A]

That's a key right there so that you're gonna have the visual all day. And he can't or she can't capitalize on it right there. There's gonna be a couple of hours. So he says. Then a couple of weeks later, they are at a restaurant with a whole bunch of their friends. And it's about an hour long dinner and about halfway through, she skips out and she goes to the bathroom. It's a private bathroom, so not one of those nasty stall type deals. And she does the same thing. She takes just a real quick picture on her phone, sends it to him on his. And the caption just says, when dinner is over, dessert is waiting for you at home. So now he goes back to the table, she's right next to him again. He's constantly reminded of what's gonna. He can't capitalize on it right now, so he's getting more and more fired up. As dinner goes on, they get home, the hotness occurs again.

[D]

Does this work the other way?

[A]

I don't know. I think as guys we would say no, but I'd have to. I don't know. Does it.

[B]

Yeah, I think so. Yeah, I think it definitely does.

[D]

Well then I'll be right back. One of you ladies is about to get.

[B]

I think for women though, I think for women we wouldn't need pictures. It would just be craftier words.

[A]

Okay. Because the guys are visual, guys are more visual.

[B]

But if you say things to us like what you're gonna do later, right? Just in a written out text message, I think that's just as exciting.

[A]

She's done it a couple of more times than that. At Thanksgiving dinner at his parents house, she did it also saying basically, you know, like, when Thanksgiving dinner is over and we get home, man, are you gonna get it? She did at a formal event a couple of weeks ago also awesome. Where she pretends to go to the bathroom or whatever. And just a little sneaky kind of sexy photo and says, after the event tonight, I'm all yours. But like Melissa said, he can't capitalize on it right now. And all he can do is think of her and that picture for the next couple of hours. So when he gets home, it's a chase.

[C]

There's a mental chase going on.

[D]

But now there's a great opportunity for her to start jacking with him. Like, take a picture of her topless wearing those bright yellow dishwashing gloves, holding a turkey baster, and send the same thing.

[C]

Now, that would be hot to you.

[D]

This is weird. And then just write, like, 9:30 tonight, because he's gonna spend the rest of the day wondering if he should go into hiding or should go home.

[E]

He needs to hold one of those kashi meals.

[A]

So the bottom line, he says for him, is that he tried a couple of times in between these to where she would be at a different place. And she sent a sexy picture also, which was cool because those are always cool to get as a guy. But he said there's just something different when she's in another room and he's forced to be around her for 45 minutes, an hour and a half, three hours before the actual action takes place. Does that make sense?

[B]

Yeah, absolutely.

[A]

Hey, angel. Good Morning. You're on Q100. Hi.

[E]

I do this for my husband. We've been together for 17 years.

[A]

Wow.

[B]

Congratulations.

[E]

But, you know, you get to a point where things can get a little stale or whatever. And he was working days, I was working nights. And when I was at home, I would take pictures and send them to him at work or on occasion, make a video for him. And then I would send him a text message or a phone call and say, hey, you've got a prize when you come home kind of thing. And it's always, always on when that happens. He just loves it.

[A]

Guys are visual, so if you do this anytime, it's gonna be a win. But his key for him was being next to her, not only sending the picture, but she was gonna be next to him. And there was nothing he could do about it for a couple of hours. So there's a little bit of a difference there, you know?

[B]

Mm.

[A]

Hey, Kerry, you're on Q100.

[E]

Hey, guys. How are you?

[A]

Good. How are you?

[E]

Wonderful, actually. I'm sitting in my car laughing, because I actually work with my boyfriend, and we do this quite a bit. And it's as awesome for me as it is for him. And I'm telling you, for any couple, whether you're dating or you're married, it can spark anything.

[C]

Can I ask a question? Is that how your relationship started?

[E]

No.

[A]

Okay. Yeah.

[E]

Not at all. It actually, we only started this, I'd say, a couple of months ago, and he just randomly sent me something. And we don't do it all the time because obviously you don't want to just make that. Yeah, exactly. But, you know, he was on his way to a very, very important meeting and I ran into the bathroom real quick and took a cute little picture and sent it to him and said, good luck on your meeting. And it was just. It was. It's just fun. You just gotta keep a relationship fun and exciting and it's just a great thing to do.

[A]

Sure. As I said, it's always gonna be welcomed. But the extra kicker here is the picture that you. That is delivered to him while he's still around you, you're in the other room or you're stuck at dinner together.

[C]

Jeff's leaving the studio. That makes me nervous.

[B]

But you wanna take a picture?

[C]

I don't mean to interrupt. I'm just saying.

[A]

Warning.

[C]

Warning.

[A]

I'm turning my phone off. Hey, the bird show.