Vault: Women Share Their Real Thoughts About Strip Clubs

Summary

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Podcast Summary: The Bert Show

Episode: Vault: Women Share Their Real Thoughts About Strip Clubs

Date: December 23, 2025
Main Cast: Bert, Kristin, Abby, Cassie, Tommy & Listeners

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Overview of the Episode

Theme:
The cast and callers candidly discuss the experiences and emotions women have when attending strip clubs with their romantic partners. Sparked by a celebrity incident involving Christina Aguilera, the show explores themes of jealousy, relationship expectations, gender dynamics, and whether including strip clubs in a relationship is as fun in reality as it is in fantasy.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Christina Aguilera Story ([01:21]-[02:29])

• The episode opens with the crew discussing a story where Christina Aguilera and her boyfriend had an argument after visiting a strip club together.
  • Christina bought her boyfriend a lap dance, then playfully gave a lap dance to another man.
  • Her boyfriend became upset and stormed out.

Host's Take:

"He is getting a lap dance from somebody professional. She is giving... a lap dance to some random dude that's in the bar. That is totally and completely different." – Host ([02:09])

• Discussion centers on difference between being aroused by a professional vs. flirting with a stranger in a club setting.

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2. The Double Standard and Emotional Responses ([02:29]-[03:14])

• Callers debate whether it's hypocritical for men to be upset if women participate, since jealousy can arise in both situations.
• The group discusses how men rationalize enjoyment from a stripper as transactional, while women may internalize jealousy more directly.

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3. Real-Life Experience: The Five-Year Relationship ([04:17]-[06:48])

• Caller (Robbie): Shares her experience taking her long-term boyfriend to a strip club.
  • Her idea, but boyfriend picked his own dancer before she could choose.
  • She says, “He was way too into it.”
  • The experience ended their five-year relationship.

Notable Quote:

"I thought it was gonna be cool... but I think it was the point that... he was way too into it." – Robbie ([04:53], [05:58])

• The cast debates what defines “too into it,” especially if touching is not allowed and the interaction is mostly one-sided.

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4. Jealousy: The Universal Gut Reaction ([07:46]-[08:45])

• Another cast member shares her own strip club experience with her husband.
  • Even with mutual participation, jealousy still surfaced.
  • The feeling is described as a “boiling feeling... you have to squelch.”

Notable Quote:

"Jealousy is such like a gut human emotion... there's this boiling feeling of jealousy, like, kind of coming up from your gut... it's so natural to feel jealous." – Caller ([07:46])

• The discussion turns to how hard it is to override this emotion, no matter how secure someone feels.

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5. Gender Dynamics: Would Men Accept Their Partners Getting a Lap Dance? ([08:45]-[09:02])

• Panel questions whether men could handle watching their wives get a lap dance from a male performer.
• Most agree men are less likely to be comfortable.

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6. “Wild” Experiences: Water Bottles & Walkouts ([09:20]-[10:42])

• Caller (Jessica): Describes her boyfriend's 21st birthday at a strip club.
  • Threw a water bottle at a stripper who got “too close” to her boyfriend.
  • Her actions were driven by sudden, overwhelming jealousy.

Notable Exchange:

"She spreads her legs in front of his face. I threw my water bottle at her." – Jessica ([09:48]) "What do you people think goes on in these places?" – Panelist ([10:07])

• Jessica’s actions lead to laughter and further conversation about misconceptions regarding strip clubs.

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7. Repeat Patterns: Who Suggests, Who Regrets? ([10:55]-[12:17])

• Caller (Lindsay): Similar story – suggested the club herself, felt blindsided by jealousy when her husband enjoyed the experience.
• Callers and cast notice a pattern:
  • Women often suggest the strip club, believing it will be harmless or fun.
  • They end up more upset than anticipated.

Panel Observation:

"Three of the three calls we took were all the girls' suggestion to go. And then they were the ones that got jealous and broke up." – Panelist ([12:17])

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Memorable Quotes

• "You want to say you’re so much bigger than jealousy... I’m so secure in my relationship... (but) it’s that gut instinct that makes you want to vomit." – Host & Caller ([08:35]-[12:00])
• "Take him to a batting cage or something instead." – Panelist ([12:25])

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Important Timestamps & Segments

• [01:21]: Show begins discussion of Christina Aguilera's strip club argument
• [04:17]: Robbie’s five-year relationship ends after a strip club visit
• [07:46]: Honest confessions about jealousy’s intensity in strip clubs
• [09:20]: Jessica throws a water bottle at a stripper, illustrating powerful, unexpected jealousy
• [10:55]: Lindsay’s story confirms the repeat pattern: woman suggests trip, but ends up hurt

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Tone & Style

• The conversation is playful but honest, blending humor, empathy, and candid confessions.
• The cast and callers don’t shy away from self-deprecation or calling out double standards.

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Takeaways

• Many women enter strip club experiences with partners expecting fun or novelty, only to be surprised by feelings of jealousy and discomfort.
• The transactional nature of strip clubs doesn’t negate gut-level emotional reactions.
• Jealousy remains a tough emotion to predict or control, even in secure relationships.
• The cast suggests that, while the idea of a strip club date sounds good in theory, the reality is often messier—sometimes relationship-ending.

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This episode offers humorous, unscripted insight into the complex emotions surrounding strip clubs and relationships, with multiple real-life stories highlighting both the unpredictably of human feelings and the commonality of jealousy, no matter how "cool" we aspire to be.

Transcript

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[Host (The Burt Show)]

The Burt Show Hey Robbie, can you hold on for just a second while we reset this?

[Caller 3]

Yes.

[Host (The Burt Show)]

All right, hold on one sec. All right, so Christina Aguilera and her boyfriend looks like they're splitting because one of them couldn't handle the experience of being in a strip club together, right?

[Caller 4]

Christina Aguilera's friend is coming out saying that they were having a great time at this strip club called Scores in Manhattan and everybody in the place was really envying her boyfriend because not many women let their men enjoy that kind of fun. What she's talking about is Christina had hired a a lap dance for her boyfriend. So while her boyfriend was getting a lap dance from one of the strippers, Christina Aguilera proceeded to joke around and pretend like she was giving a lap dance to another one of the male customers and who was there. Now, her boyfriend got really upset about it. As soon as she saw, you know, her playfully giving some guy a lap dance, his face froze, he stood up, he threw the stripper off of his lap and supposedly stormed out yelling, bleep.

[Host (The Burt Show)]

You see, now I think in this case he's totally legit legitimate to be upset in this case because, and my, my Defining point here is that he is getting a lap dance from somebody professional. She is giving. Christina is giving a lap dance to some random dude that's in the bar. That is totally and completely different.

[Caller 5]

See that? Okay. What? Okay, based on that. So, yeah, the stripper is getting paid. So she doesn't. I mean, she doesn't care anything about the person she's giving the lap dance to, but he is getting aroused by her. Now, Christina probably didn't give a crap about the guy. He was probably a fan and probably didn't give a crap about the guy that was sitting in the chair. But you would be upset because he was getting aroused by it.

[Host (The Burt Show)]

Yes, because he's getting aroused.

[Caller 5]

Again, it's the somebody else, and you're by somebody else.

[Host (The Burt Show)]

That is her job. Okay, So I am.

[Caller 5]

It's okay to get aroused because she's getting paid.

[Host (The Burt Show)]

Yes. While. And she should not. Yeah. And it just totally changed the level of things if she's getting aroused by some random guy. Yes.

[Caller 4]

Stacey, where's the warm line?

[Caller 5]

My argument is that the both of the men are getting aroused and both of the women don't care about the guys that they're arousing.

[Host (The Burt Show)]

See, we couldn't even get Stacey on because this is a conversation. She can't even imagine this because I can't get her to go to one of those places. She thinks it's degrading. She thinks I'm a per for wanting to take her there. So this is off limits for me anyway. And I think that's why I find it all curious.

[Caller 1]

Your honor, I'd like to recall Ghostbusters versus Stay Puff Marshmallow Man. The door swings both ways. I think if he's getting the dance from the dancer, if she wants to get up and play around, it's our prerogative. You're there to have a good time. You're having a few drinks, you're both going to walk out of there. Still boyfriend, girlfriend. It's a little bit of a sexual turn on. Not a big deal.

[Caller 5]

All right.

[Caller 1]

Rest my case.

[Host (The Burt Show)]

You're going to be a little bit more relaxed about this than I would be then. So what I want to know is this probably looks really good on paper to most guys.

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[Host (The Burt Show)]

I'll take my wife or I'll take my girlfriend to the strip club. We'll both get a little turned on by it. Then we'll come home and shabba ding a doo doo shake a ding a da da. But a lot of times, I'm guessing somebody Gets so upset by what's going on at the strip club that it breaks out in a big old argument. And you are the people that we want to talk to. 404-741-1005. Hey, Robbie.

[Caller 3]

Hey.

[Host (The Burt Show)]

What's up?

[Caller 3]

Not much. I went to a strip club with a guy that I was dating for five years, and it was my idea to go.

[Caller 2]

It was horrible.

[Caller 3]

He was like, I'm gonna let you pick the girl that's gonna dance for me. And I turn around, I'm like, okay, I'm looking for which one I want to dance for. And by that time, he had already chosen her. So he's getting a dance from her or whatever. I'm sitting there and I'm like keeping the drinks coming because I can't even handle it. And after that, when I got home.

[Caller 2]

I broke up with him.

[Caller 3]

I couldn't even deal with it, really.

[Caller 4]

Five year relationship.

[Caller 3]

Five years.

[Caller 2]

It was horrible.

[Caller 1]

But this was your idea. What did you expect?

[Caller 3]

I don't know. I don't know what I expected. I thought it was gonna be cool. I thought it was like, hey, let's do this. We've been dating for a long time.

[Caller 2]

Let's go.

[Caller 3]

You know, But I think it was the point that we had decided that I'd choose a girl. I turn around, he's already got a girl coming.

[Caller 5]

Oh, listen, he's already chosen her.

[Caller 4]

Well, it wasn't her choice.

[Caller 3]

And he was way too into it. Way too into it.

[Caller 5]

Now, look, let me. I mean, because for those. And crash. Help me explain this. Like, for those who have not been to a strip club. Not saying that I've been to a strip club, but for those who have not been to a strip club, a lab dense like the guy is not allowed to touch the woman. He's sitting there completely still. She's doing all the work. So it's not like if somebody's thinking, I've never been to a strip club, what actually happens? I mean, she's performing for him and he is. I mean, he. No touching allowed. So he's not doing anything.

[Caller 1]

Yeah. And these girls. These girls absolutely want nothing to do with you. I don't. The only thing they want with you to do is the color of your American Express. Exactly that. Is it.

[Host (The Burt Show)]

What was so offensive to you that after five years that you broke up with him? Was it the fact that he was too into it or the fact that he had a woman picked out before you even had drinks in your hand?

[Caller 3]

I think it was more of him being Too into it. He was. You don't understand. He was way too into it. But the girl, she was the nicest person you ever wanted to talk to. While she's dancing for him, I'm sitting next to him. She's having, like, a whole conversation with me.

[Host (The Burt Show)]

But this was your idea. But it was your idea.

[Caller 4]

It's her idea. But, like, her idea was to get him a lap dance, not for him to enjoy it. I think.

[Caller 3]

Wait a minute.

[Caller 4]

I think.

[Caller 3]

No.

[Caller 1]

Hey, Jen, here's some. Here's some ice cream. I don't want you to taste it and like it.

[Caller 4]

I'm telling you. I think that's the part that surprised her, is how much he actually enjoyed it.

[Caller 1]

It's like, okay, it's your fault, honey.

[Caller 4]

You can sit there. I'm gonna put it in your. You know, put something else there in your face. But if you enjoy it, then I'm gonna get jealous.

[Caller 3]

Then don't ask if he just enjoyed it. But you don't understand.

[Caller 5]

Explain, like. Because I just explained what happens in a lap dance, you explain to me what defines him being too into it.

[Caller 3]

Yeah, too into it is. I mean, like, staring too into it. He was just too into it in his face. What is he gonna do? Different ways to see different angles.

[Host (The Burt Show)]

This is the reality. The reality of actually going through with this and doing it are two different things.

[Caller 1]

You know what? Honestly, it's your. Yeah, your. Your own insecurities destroyed. Your own relationship. Deal with it.

[Caller 5]

You know what?

[Caller 3]

Next time if I want a guy to go, I'm just gonna send him with the money, and I'm.

[Caller 1]

No, because he'll probably still come home and you'll be all freaked out. Cause then you won't know how into it he was.

[Host (The Burt Show)]

That's right. Yeah. Cause then exactly. Your mind would be going crazy thinking that he was way into it, even when he might not have been.

[Caller 2]

I know the rules.

[Caller 3]

I know the rules now. I know they can't touch and the person can't touch them and stuff like that. I know the rules. I'm not worried about that. I'm telling you. If you would have seen his face, you too would have said, you know what? He's way too into this.

[Caller 1]

You should see my face.

[Host (The Burt Show)]

No, you shouldn't.

[Caller 1]

Little guy from Disney World comes out with a broom and lifts my jaw up off the floor.

[Caller 4]

I think jealousy is so. Such like a gut human emotion that it is so hard to try to prevent it. Even if you go in with the mindset of going, oh, this is not Gonna be a big deal. There's still that twinge of it. Cause I have been to a strip club with my husband before, and he and one of our best friends bought both of the wives lap dances. So we both got lap dances, and then they both got lap dances. And there was still. Even though it was fine. And of course, I didn't cause a scene, but there was this boiling feeling of jealousy, like, kind of coming up from your gut feel that you have to squelch. Like, it's just so natural to feel jealous. Because first of all, you're like, okay, I'm insecure because this woman is totally beautiful and hot, and it's her job to be totally hot, and she's, you know, shaking it in his face. Like, there's a part of you that's like, oh, my God, I hate this so much right now. But.

[Host (The Burt Show)]

And you want to see. You want to say that you're so much bigger than jealousy.

[Caller 3]

Right?

[Host (The Burt Show)]

I'm so secure in my relationship.

[Caller 4]

No, it's like how you're trying to put that fire out the whole time.

[Caller 5]

How many guys would take a woman. Now, see, of course guys are going to buy their wives a lap dance from a woman, but how many guys are gonna sit there and buy a lab dance from a guy with his woman and sit there and watch it and not feel a little threatened by this chiseled guy who maybe a little, you know, more blessed than he is, and dancing with the wife?

[Caller 1]

Cause the guy's there to make a living. He's collecting a couple of bucks. My wife is laughing. We're having a few drinks. It's not that. That's why you go to these places. They're just entertainment. They're a little exploration. It's, you know. I mean, now if you're going into, like, you know, brothels and stuff, and you're getting your wife or your husband a prostitute, well, then there's a little bit of contact. Hey.

[Host (The Burt Show)]

Hey, Jessica.

[Caller 2]

Hello.

[Caller 5]

Hi.

[Caller 2]

Last year, for my boyfriend's 21st birthday, we went out with a bunch of friends, and they all decided they want to go to strip club. And I said, well, you can go if I can go. Well, I was 20 at the time, so I didn't think I was gonna get in. Well, needless say, they let me in, and my boyfriend's getting a. He walks up to the platform where the girl's dancing, and she spreads her legs in front of his face. I threw my water bottle at her.

[Caller 3]

And I went up there.

[Caller 2]

I went up there and I Grabbed by the ear.

[Caller 3]

And I told him he didn't need.

[Caller 2]

To be close enough where he can smell it. I was so pissed. I sat there the whole time. The girls were coming up, sticking their foot on my shoulder, and asked me if I wanted a lap dance. I told them I wanted them to get their leg off of me.

[Caller 1]

I don't understand this. What do you people think goes on in these places?

[Caller 3]

I want to know what happened when.

[Caller 5]

You threw the water bottle at the stripper.

[Caller 2]

She kind of moved on. She didn't come back of him.

[Caller 3]

All the strippers were like, oh, you.

[Caller 2]

Want me to give you a free birthday dance? And I said, over my dead body. I'm standing there with my arms cross.

[Caller 1]

You know what?

[Host (The Burt Show)]

So I'm just. Yeah, I'm with Crash here. Like, what did you think was going on?

[Caller 2]

I don't know, but it was horrible. I'll never.

[Caller 3]

I told him if he needed to.

[Caller 2]

Go to strip club because I'm a pretty girl, I, you know, I have a nice body. I said, if you want me to dance, that's fine. You know, I. I said, you're never going again.

[Caller 4]

It's that jealousy streak. It's like some people can. I think it's always still there a little bit, but some people handle it and squelch it and real, you know, kind of mind over matter. But I think other people, like her, they just give into it.

[Host (The Burt Show)]

Hey, Lindsay.

[Caller 3]

Hey. How are you?

[Host (The Burt Show)]

Good. Same thing happened to you?

[Caller 2]

Yes, actually, I was with my husband, who's now my ex husband, but.

[Caller 4]

Oh, my God.

[Caller 2]

Yeah, it was. Well, it's not just because of that, but his cousin was in town and we were just out in Buckhead and he was talking about all the clubs in Atlanta, and I thought I could handle it. And I was actually the one who suggested that we go and we went and thought it was going to be a lot of fun and thought it was going to be a turn on. And we got in there in about 10 or 15 minutes afterwards. I think it was Jody earlier that said it was. It was just the way that her boyfriend was looking at them. Oh, my gosh.

[Host (The Burt Show)]

What are we supposed to do?

[Caller 1]

This is unbelievable.

[Caller 4]

Close your eyes and.

[Host (The Burt Show)]

Right. You can go to the strip club, but you're not allowed to watch.

[Caller 4]

Right?

[Caller 2]

It's not that, but if he's looking at this person differently, I mean, he's never look at me like that.

[Caller 1]

Because he sees you all the time. Honestly, I mean, seriously, it's a different one.

[Caller 5]

You don't know because you got upset about it.

[Caller 2]

I know it.

[Caller 3]

Well, it, you know, you think it's.

[Caller 2]

Going to be something different and you get there and it's not.

[Caller 4]

I am telling you, I can totally empathize with you. Is that as cool and as secure as you think you want to be? It's that gut. Oh, it's that gut instinct that makes you want to vomit.

[Host (The Burt Show)]

You wouldn't think that you're big enough in the relationship. This is not a big deal. I mean, he's going home with me.

[Caller 3]

What's the big deal?

[Caller 1]

But do you notice the pattern? Three of the three calls we took were all the girls suggestion to go. And then they were the ones that got jealous and broke up.

[Host (The Burt Show)]

That's right.

[Caller 1]

I mean, ladies, seriously, my advice, if you're thinking of doing this, take him to a batting cage or something instead.

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[Host (The Burt Show)]

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