The Bert Show – “Vault: You'll Never Guess What He's Requesting Of His Wife”

Release Date: January 15, 2026
Host: Bert and The Bert Show Cast (Kristin, Abby, Cassie, Tommy, et al.)
Featured Caller: Melanie (voice disguised)
Key Guests/Commentators: Jen (Expert), Crash, Stacy, Michelle, Bless (callers and recurring commentators)

Episode Overview

This episode dives deeply into a listener’s marital drama: Melanie calls in seeking advice about her husband’s request to bring another woman into their relationship, particularly during her pregnancy. The Bert Show cast, alongside expert Jen and various callers, dissect the emotional and relational implications of her husband’s request, the couple’s past, and the underlying communication struggles. The conversation is candid, funny at times, but also empathetic, focusing on respect, change in relationships, and the difficulties of mismatched expectations as life circumstances evolve.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Melanie’s Story: A Marriage in Transition

[01:18–05:53]

• Melanie reports feeling unattractive to her husband during her pregnancy. She’s gained 50 pounds and he avoids intimacy, which is a shift from before the pregnancy.
• Attempts to rekindle romance fail: Melanie notes, “I try to start it, and he'll get up or… make excuses not to have sex… He’ll want to do things away from the house.” ([01:42])
• Communication breaks down: Conversations about their sex life devolve into blame or arguments, with her husband accusing her of “holding a grudge or holding on to something that has happened in my past.” ([03:33])
• Husband’s request: He proposes bringing another woman into their bedroom to ‘fix’ the situation, referencing her prior openness to the idea and their history, which included some threesomes during earlier, more carefree days. ([04:38])
• Melanie is no longer comfortable with threesomes, citing her new identity as a mother and changes in how she feels about that kind of intimacy.

2. Sexual Intimacy & Pregnancy

[06:06–07:57]

• Bert and cast discuss common discomforts around sex during pregnancy:
  • Bert admits, “I didn't enjoy it that much… there was nothing sexy about it, nothing sensual.” ([06:23–06:55])
  • The group acknowledges some men are uncomfortable being intimate with a pregnant partner, sometimes for irrational reasons.
  • Physical and emotional barriers are common for both partners during pregnancy.

3. The History and the Proposal

[08:10–11:34]

• Swinger community connections: Melanie’s husband continues to push for swinging, with pressure mounting from his friends—who are swingers.
• Melanie’s hesitance is met with criticism: She shares, “I told him that’s not something I want to do because I’m a mother. And he’s like, ‘You’ve changed, I don’t understand why you don’t want to do something like that.’” ([11:34])
• Panel consensus: The group points out that wanting to change behaviors as life circumstances change is normal and expected. The problem is “they are not making a decision together.” ([11:01])
• Respect and flexibility: Bert reflects, “You start to become different people… and you have to be flexible with each other.” ([13:22])

4. Callers Weigh In: Different Perspectives

Michelle’s Analysis ([12:24–13:21])

• “They’re at different stages in their life, and they need some deep therapy… She wants to settle down. He’s probably still back there in Panama City trying to get his freak on.”

Crash on Change and Respect ([13:37])

• “Your respect level has to stay the same… You’ve gotta be able to move with the ebbs and flows of the relationship… he’s not showing her the same respect that he did when they first met.”

Bless’s Advice ([14:57–16:56])

• Raises the issue of infidelity: “If son is still doing this… then you might want to look in to see if he’s creeping around.”
• Offers encouragement: “All I can say, baby, is keep your head up… Everything will probably go back to normal. But if not, then you might want to take the suggestion you’re getting… that he might still be out there creeping or swinging with somebody else and not you.”

5. The Swingers Community: “Even swingers have a code”

[17:09–17:27]

• Jen points out that successful swinging relationships require mutual respect and explicit codes or agreements—something she feels is lacking for Melanie:
  • “Even in the swingers community, couples can remain solid because they have a code between them. And I don’t even think Melanie has that with her husband.”

6. Deeper Issues & The Path Forward

[18:03–19:30]

• Jen cautions against succumbing to pressure to lose pregnancy weight for sexual reasons: “You shouldn’t have to worry about losing the baby fat, especially for purposes like this… If you’ve never been with another couple with him, I don’t think starting now is going to improve your relationship.”
• There is broad agreement that the core problem isn’t swinging vs. monogamy, but poor communication, mismatched expectations, and respect.
• Counseling is discussed as a potential step:
  • Crash: “Would he go to counseling with you?” ([19:20])
  • Melanie: “I think he would. Yes.” ([19:22])
  • Jen: “Well, I think it’s worth it. You got two children together.” ([19:25])

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Bert, on intimacy during pregnancy:
  “I didn't enjoy it that much… She didn’t find a lot about it attractive either. And there was nothing sexy about it. There was nothing sensual about it.” ([06:23–06:55])

• Michelle, caller:
  “When you get older, your life cycle changes and your expectations of life changes. When they met, she was in Panama City doing threesomes and getting drunk… but now she’s a married woman, pregnant, and she wants to settle down. I see nothing wrong with that, except the fact that he’s probably still back there in Panama City trying to get his freak on.” ([12:24–13:02])

• Jen, expert, on the heart of the issue:
  “What I do think, though, is that there is a problem between the two of you… I don’t think that you are a part of that with him. Like, you’re not working together, right?” ([11:01])

• Bless, caller:
  “That’s the best loving any man can get in the world is when your woman is carrying your child… don’t let it stress you.” ([15:12–16:22])

• Jen, on respect among swingers:
  “Even in the swingers community, couples can remain solid because they have a code between them. And I don't even think Melanie has that with her husband.” ([17:13–17:27])

Key Timestamps

• 01:18–03:58: Melanie details her relationship struggles during pregnancy—avoidance, loss of intimacy, communication breakdown.
• 04:38–05:53: Husband’s request for another woman emerges; Melanie details their “threesome” history.
• 06:06–07:55: Candid discussion about the realities of pregnancy sex.
• 08:10–11:34: More on swinging, Melanie’s discomfort, and changing relationship dynamics.
• 12:24–14:14: Callers respond, emphasizing life stage changes and need for therapy.
• 14:57–16:56: Bless brings up the possibility of infidelity; offers support to Melanie.
• 17:09–17:27: Discussing the importance of “the swingers code.”
• 18:03–19:30: Summary advice—counseling, honest conversation, focusing on respect and shared values.

Takeaways

• Relationships need continual adjustment: Couples naturally change over time, and a willingness to adapt and communicate is critical.
• Shared agreements and respect matter: Whether in monogamous or non-monogamous relationships, both parties need clear agreements and mutual respect.
• Therapy and honest communication can help: The hosts and callers agree that Melanie and her husband would benefit from counseling and deeper, more authentic conversations about expectations, boundaries, and respect.
• It’s normal to change after becoming a parent: Many hosts, callers, and commentators affirm that changing desires and boundaries as life evolves—especially after having children—is normal and should be met with understanding rather than criticism.

Overall Mood:
Real, unfiltered, empathetic, and a little bit irreverent—true to The Bert Show’s morning-show vibe.