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Tara Leigh Cobble
Hey, Bible readers, I'm Tara Leigh Cobble and I'm your host for the Bible Recap.
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Today we tackle more of Solomon's proverbs. And chapter 19 starts out with a lot of wisdom on relationships, including our relationship with God. I'll open with a confession beside 19:2. In my Bible I've written TLC, exclamation mark in all caps in the margin. Those are my initials and my nickname. So it's just my way of trying to call my attention to the fact that I struggle with this, particularly the second half of the verse. The whole verse says desire without knowledge is not good, and whoever makes haste with his feet misses his way. I've told you before that one of my old roommates used to say I do things fast and wrong. So when I read whoever makes haste with his feet misses his way, that's got my name written all over it. This is a reminder to me that I need to seek his guidance on things instead of just forging ahead on my own. And the first half of the verse has a different level of beauty and truth to says desire without knowledge is not good. If you were in a relationship with someone who said they loved you but didn't want to know anything about you, wouldn't that seem really off to you? Wouldn't it make you really skeptical about.
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Their so called love?
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It breaks my heart to see this kind of thing in the church where we have a relationship with God that is driven only by emotion and that has no actual knowledge of who God is. That's why I'm so glad we're in the Word here. Every day that you open up your Bible and put your eyes on who God says he is, you're displaying the kind of wisdom this verse calls to. Verse 3 describes a common occurrence, not just in the world at large, but even within the church. It says, when a man's folly brings his way to ruin, his heart rages against the Lord. Have you seen this happen? Or maybe this has even happened to you? Often when our sins lead to negative consequences, we blame God instead of ourselves. And he's so patient with us as we blame him and misunderstand Him. Even while we're angry with Him. He just keeps putting his true character in front of us and beckoning us to see the real Him. On a related note, verse 11 says, Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense. What Solomon is describing here is God. God identifies himself as slow to anger. We first saw this in Exodus 34 when God told Moses his name because of Christ's death on the cross, our sins have been covered. And even though Proverbs isn't law, this shows us the great wisdom in being slow to anger and in being hard to offend. What things offend me? Are they related to my efforts to maintain my identity and sense of self worth? God can be trusted to handle those things and I can be freed up to love others who don't value me because that's what God has done and I have the opportunity to image him to the world when I lay down my so called rights and reputation like Jesus did. You're probably familiar with 1 Corinthians 13 the famous love. Chapter 1 Characteristic of love is that it isn't easily offended. In describing love, 1 Corinthians 13 is essentially describing God. God isn't irritable or resentful. He keeps no record of wrongs. That means if you are in Christ, God is not mad at you. All your offenses have been paid for. As we're trying to live and walk In Wisdom, chapter 20 points out how rare that is. Verse 15 says there is gold and abundance of costly stones. But the lips of knowledge are a precious jewel. The lips of knowledge are a precious jewel. Jewels are precious because they're rare and beautiful and hard to come by. If diamonds grew on trees, their price point would drop dramatically. But because they're difficult to access and.
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They'Re beautiful, they're valuable.
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So when you speak knowledge and wisdom to a foolish and simple world, your words are rare and beautiful. Your adding value and beauty to a space that desperately needs it. You can have a mouthful of diamonds without getting a grill. So store up wisdom. That doesn't mean we should become arrogant and seize every opportunity to sound smart. Because remember, this book reminds us over and over again about humility and about holding our tongues. So those reminders really help us hold our newfound knowledge in balance with wisdom. Charles Spurgeon said it like this. Wisdom is the right use of knowledge. To know is not to be wise. Many men know a great deal and are all the greater fools for it. There's no fool so great as a knowing fool. But to know how to use knowledge is to have wisdom. Chapter 21 speaks some wisdom to wives, women who hope to be wives, and any man in search of a wife. There are two passages that talk about desirable traits for a wife, and these are obviously applicable to a husband as well. But sometimes Solomon rightly assumed that most of his readers in that day would be men. So it's natural that he's primarily writing to men. Verse 9 says it is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife. We also saw this back in 1913, which says a wife's quarreling is a continual dripping of rain. Being quarrelsome or antagonistic or nitpicky, those aren't desirable traits in any relationship, much less the person you're binding yourself to for life. And 2119 reiterates this, but adds another dimension to it. It says it is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful wife. Fear is also an undesirable attribute. When we're ruled by fear, we live out of a scarcity mentality or a victim mentality, and we miss out on the beauty and freedom of what it looks like to trust God for provision and protection. We close our fists around our non negotiables and it's exhausting. First to us, and then to everyone around us as well. That's not to say things aren't scary, but first Peter 3:6 paints a picture of what it's like to not fear the things that are frightening. It doesn't say that things aren't scary, it just reminds us to trust that we're eternally safe in the temporary storms. Even if you are committed to being single for life, we can still see the wisdom in asking God to eradicate those traits in us, because if they're not desirable in a relationship, they're not desirable in an individual. Today my God shot was in Proverbs 19:17 18 where God identifies himself with the poor. The verse says, whoever is generous to the poor lends to the Lord, and he will repay him for his deed. Elsewhere in Proverbs, Solomon has advised against lending money to people, not necessarily because of financial risk, but because of the potential relational risk. So this is an especially interesting thing for Solomon to say. But in addition to that, there are two important things to note when we read his words about lending money. First, Jesus talks about this in Matthew 5 and Luke 6, and he says not to lend, but to give. That doesn't preclude making or taking loans. It just points out that the kind of heart attitude that should be the foundation of it all is generosity. If you're interested in reading more about what the Bible says about borrowing or lending money will link to a short article in the show Notes. Second, when God has identified with the poor person in this proverb, where we're generous to the poor and freely give them something, God positions himself as the one who reimburses the giver. And the good news is he usually pays in a different currency, the eternal kind, which is far superior. God is not only identified with the poor here, but he's also still mindful of the person who isn't poor and who's generous to the poor out of their surplus. He's attentive to the rich and the poor, the content and the needy. No one is beyond his love and attention and provision. He's attentive, he's generous, and he's where the joy is.
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Release Date: June 9, 2025
Host: Tara-Leigh Cobble
In Episode Day 160 of The Bible Recap, host Tara-Leigh Cobble delves into Proverbs chapters 19 through 21, exploring profound insights on relationships, wisdom, anger, and generosity. This episode offers listeners a comprehensive understanding of Solomon's timeless wisdom and its application in contemporary life.
The episode opens with an exploration of Proverbs 19, emphasizing the importance of knowledge in desires and the pitfalls of haste.
Desire and Knowledge:
The discussion begins with Proverbs 19:2: "Desire without knowledge is not good, and whoever makes haste with his feet misses his way." The speaker shares a personal confession, marking the verse with "TLC" to highlight struggles with hastiness. "Whoever makes haste with his feet misses his way," (00:30) resonates deeply, reminding the speaker to seek God's guidance rather than rushing independently.
Emotional versus Knowledge-Based Relationships:
A critical point is made about relationships driven solely by emotion without understanding, "It breaks my heart to see this kind of thing in the church where we have a relationship with God that is driven only by emotion and that has no actual knowledge of who God is." (00:55). This highlights the necessity of grounding relationships with God in knowledge and understanding rather than mere feelings.
Folly and Blame:
Proverbs 19:3 is examined: "When a man's folly brings his way to ruin, his heart rages against the Lord." (01:19). The speaker discusses common experiences within the church where individuals blame God for their missteps instead of taking personal responsibility. This verse serves as a reminder of God's patience and His consistent presentation of His true character even when we're frustrated with Him.
Transitioning to Proverbs 20, the focus shifts to the preciousness of knowledge and the importance of humility.
Lips of Knowledge:
Proverbs 20:15 states: "There is gold and abundance of costly stones, but the lips of knowledge are a precious jewel." (02:15). The speaker elaborates on the rarity and beauty of wisdom, likening wise speech to precious jewels that add value and beauty to interactions. This metaphor underscores the importance of speaking with intention and wisdom.
Humility and Wisdom:
The conversation highlights the balance between possessing knowledge and maintaining humility. "Wisdom is the right use of knowledge. To know is not to be wise." (02:55) — a quote attributed to Charles Spurgeon — reinforces that true wisdom lies in how knowledge is applied, not merely in its possession. This principle is essential to prevent arrogance and to foster meaningful, humble interactions.
Proverbs 21 is discussed with a particular emphasis on desirable traits in relationships and the virtue of generosity.
Desirable Traits in a Wife:
The speaker addresses Proverbs 21:9 and 21:19, which discuss the challenges of living with a quarrelsome and fretful spouse: "It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife." (04:00) and "It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful wife." (04:19). These verses highlight the strain that constant conflict and fear can place on relationships, advocating for peace and trust over discord and anxiety.
Fear and Trust in God:
Connecting to First Peter 3:6, the discussion emphasizes overcoming fear by trusting in God's provision and protection: "It doesn't say that things aren't scary, it just reminds us to trust that we're eternally safe in the temporary storms." (05:30). This trust liberates individuals from living in a scarcity or victim mentality, allowing for healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
Generosity Towards the Poor:
Proverbs 19:17-18 is highlighted as the episode shifts to themes of generosity: "Whoever is generous to the poor lends to the Lord, and he will repay him for his deed." (06:00). The speaker contrasts this with Solomon's earlier advice against lending money purely for financial reasons, emphasizing that true generosity stems from a heart of giving rather than calculating risks.
Heart Attitude in Giving:
Drawing parallels to Jesus’ teachings in Matthew 5 and Luke 6, the importance of a generous heart is underscored: "Jesus talks about this in Matthew 5 and Luke 6, and he says not to lend, but to give." (06:45). This approach ensures that giving is rooted in generosity rather than obligation, fostering a deeper connection with both the giver and the recipient.
God’s Generosity and Provision:
The speaker reflects on how God identifies Himself with the poor and generously rewards the generous: "God is attentive, he's generous, and he's where the joy is." (07:15). This reinforces the notion that generosity aligns believers with God's character and brings eternal rewards surpassing earthly gains.
Throughout the episode, the speaker intertwines personal reflections with scriptural insights, making the ancient wisdom of Proverbs highly relevant to modern listeners.
Balancing Knowledge and Humility:
The emphasis on using knowledge wisely without arrogance speaks to the core of living a godly life. Recognizing that wisdom should lead to humility encourages believers to remain teachable and compassionate.
Navigating Relationships with Grace:
By addressing both spousal relationships and broader interactions within the church, the episode provides practical advice on fostering peace and understanding. Trusting God during conflicts and avoiding a quick blame of Him for personal failings are pivotal themes.
Generosity as a Reflection of God’s Character:
The discussion on generosity not only highlights a biblical principle but also models how believers can emulate God's generous nature. Understanding that God rewards generosity with eternal blessings reinforces the motivation to give selflessly.
Day 160 of The Bible Recap offers a profound exploration of Proverbs 19-21, emphasizing the importance of knowledge, wisdom, humility, and generosity in nurturing relationships and fostering a deeper connection with God. Through engaging discussions and relatable reflections, Tara-Leigh Cobble provides listeners with actionable insights to apply Solomon's timeless wisdom in their daily lives.
This detailed summary encapsulates the essence of Proverbs 19-21 as discussed in the episode, providing listeners and readers alike with a comprehensive understanding of the key themes and practical applications.