B&T Extra: Alli Breen with Sexy Time

Summary

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The BOB & TOM Show Free Podcast

B&T Extra: Alli Breen with Sexy Time

Date: June 22, 2026

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Episode Overview

This B&T Extra episode features the popular "Sexy Time" segment with comedian and world traveler Alli Breen. The hosts and Alli address listener-submitted questions about relationships, trust, attraction, and dating etiquette, blending honest advice with irreverent, rapid-fire comedy. The crew weighs in on each scenario, often playfully suggesting breakups for problematic relationships and exploring the humor in everyday love dilemmas.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Alli's New Hairdo & Traveling Life

• [02:00] Alli logs in with a new "avatar-like" look, thanks to a ring light that broke, casting a blue hue.
• She's in DC after performing at The Ned, soon to travel to London—her jet-setter lifestyle highlighted.
• Notable Quote:
  • "It looks like you're an avatar." —Host B, [02:01]

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2. The Suspicious Girlfriend

Letter 1: Exercising and Accusations

• [02:55] Listener writes about his girlfriend acting suspicious because he started going to the gym and biking.
• She refuses his invitations to join, claiming he only asks because she wouldn’t want to.
• Crew’s unanimous advice: She’s acting unreasonably—"get out" now if you want peace.
• Memorable Exchanges:
  • "Am I dating a crazy person?" —Letter Writer
  • "Yes." —Host B, [03:11]
  • "You do not need that for the rest of your life." —Host A, [03:21]

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3. The Roommate Romance Dilemma

Letter 2: Attracted to Boyfriend’s Brokenhearted Friend

• [04:09] Listener feels a spark with her boyfriend’s roommate, who’s recovering from a breakup.
• Should she wait to see if he reciprocates, or bring it up?
• Hosts discuss whether to pursue the new attraction and recount personal stories.
• Notable Anecdote:
  • "I had this happen where my lady ended up with my best friend…they’ve been married 35 years." —Host A, [04:59]
• Advice: Break up with current boyfriend before making a move; honesty is best.

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4. Jealousy Over Past Hookups

Letter 3: Can’t Hang Out With Old Flings?

• [06:39] Listener’s boyfriend is upset after learning she hooked up with her (now-platonic) best friend in college; he now forbids further contact.
• Panel agrees: Her boyfriend’s insecurity is a red flag and a dealbreaker.
• Notable Quotes:
  • "You gotta break up with this guy, man." —Host A, [07:03]
  • "Why is everyone so insecure?" —Host A, [07:07]
  • "It’s so unattractive, too." —Alli Breen, [07:25]

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5. The Carless Twitter Date

Letter 4: Picking Up a Date—Too Much?

• [07:44] Woman has been talking to a man on Twitter, and he asks her to pick him up for dinner because his car is "in the shop."
• She’s put off by the request, likening it to picking up a kid from soccer.
• Hosts joke about possible reasons: DUI, cost-cutting, or maybe "he’s blind."
• Notable Exchanges:
  • "Isn’t that weird? Why wouldn’t he take an Uber like a functional adult?" —Letter Writer, [08:00]
  • "Huge red flag." —Host D, [08:40]
  • "Ask Captain Success why he doesn’t have a car or drive." —Host B, [08:59]
• Advice: Just tell him to Uber or meet her there; anything else is suspect.

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6. Church vs. Video Games

Letter 5: Sunday Morning Disagreements

• [09:43] Man’s girlfriend wants him to attend church; he’d prefer video games.
• She calls him immature; he asserts he’s a "grown ass man."
• Hosts riff on religious video games, cowboy churches, and the absurdities of church-tied relationship ultimatums.
• Notable Quotes/Anecdotes:
  • "You are a grown ass man…playing video games on Sunday morning." —Host A, [10:02]
  • "Maybe they’re not meant for each other." —Alli Breen, [10:53]
  • "You don’t make somebody go to church. That never works." —Host B, [10:55]
• Conclusion: Couples can go to separate things; don’t force it.

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7. Jewelry Receipt Mystery

Letter 6: The Unexplained Gift

• [14:24] Listener found a jewelry store receipt in her boyfriend’s car for items she never received—her birthday passed, no holiday approaching.
• Panel jokes about arson, then lands on directness: Just ask him calmly about the receipt.
• Notable Quotes:
  • "The best way to set a car on fire is…" —Host B, [14:39, jokingly]
  • "I think you just go, hey, by the way, this has just been bothering me…see what he says." —Host A, [14:50]

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• "Yes." —Host B answers the "crazy girlfriend" question instantly [03:11]
• "Just cheat. See what happens." —Host D, pushing the banter to an extreme, [04:59]
• "You gotta get rid of that idiot. I just have no patience for that kind of insecurity." —Host A, [07:15]
• "Ask Captain Success why he doesn’t have a car or drive." —Host B, [08:59]
• "You don’t make somebody go to church. That never works." —Host B, [10:55]
• "You could go to church and just take a Game Boy." —Host A, [11:44]

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Fun Segue: Cowboy Church & Breaking Horses

• [12:41] Brief detour about churches breaking wild horses inside the sanctuary and the existence of "cowboy churches." Spirited jokes about the pastor/pasture pun and wild church services.
• Notable Quote:
  • "No, you go to a pasture, not a pastor. Hello?" —Host B, [14:07]

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Closing & Contact Info

• [15:38] Alli Breen thanked for her advice and wit; compliments on her comedic glow.
• "You look well shagged." —Host A’s closing joke, [15:44]
• Listeners encouraged to email their questions to Alli: "A-L-L-I B-R-E-E-N on your favorite social media platform."

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Timestamps of Key Segments

• 02:00 – Alli logs on, new “avatar” look discussed
• 02:55 – Letter 1: Suspicious girlfriend & gym
• 04:09 – Letter 2: Attracted to boyfriend’s newly single roommate
• 06:39 – Letter 3: Jealous over ex-hookups
• 07:44 – Letter 4: Twitter date asks for a ride
• 09:43 – Letter 5: Church vs. video games
• 14:24 – Letter 6: Jewelry receipt mystery
• 12:41 – Cowboy church sidebar

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Summary

This lively episode of B&T Extra is a brisk, brutally funny run through the thornier sides of modern relationships. The hosts are quick to spot red flags and relentless in rooting out dysfunction, with Alli Breen providing thoughtful—and sometimes bitingly honest—insight. Each dilemma is played for comedic effect, but with real kernels of advice, especially around trust, personal boundaries, and the importance of clear communication.

If you missed the episode, you’ll walk away knowing:

• The crew isn’t afraid to tell listeners when to "get out" of a relationship.
• They believe insecurity and secrecy are relationship killers.
• No subject (or church, apparently) is off limits for a punchline.

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Transcript

[A]

Welcome back.

[B]

It's another Bob and Tom extra. This is Christopher. Not only is the Bob and Tom show live every weekday morning, but every afternoon we'll give you a little extra in case you missed anything on the big show today. Ali Breen with sexy time. It's coming up in just a minute. You've got weight loss goals, but hitting them is another story. That's why weight loss by HIMS now offers access to the FDA appropriate WeGovy pill and the FDA approved WeGovy pen. With WeGovy at HIMSs lose up to 20% or more of your body weight. When combined with diet and exercise, it helps you regulate your appetite and eat less, so success is within reach. Plus, WeGovy is the first ever GLP1 pill for weight loss, so there are no needles needed. And it doesn't stop there. HIMSS makes hitting your goals seamless by offering access to 247 messaging with your care team and in app lifestyle and nutrition support like recipes, meal plans, fitness videos, sleep content and more. It's nice, simple and convenient. Just the way I like it. Ready to reach your goals? Visit himss.com bobandtom to get a personalized, affordable plan that gets you. That's H I M S.com bobandtom hims.com Bobandom Weight loss by HIMS is not available in all 50 states. WeGovy is the registered trademark of Novo Nordisk. As to get started and learn more, including important safety information, WeGovy clinical study information and restrictions, visit HIMSS.com you asked for it, you got it. More Bob and Tom.

[C]

This is Bob and Tom.

[D]

Extra.

[B]

Let's see if we got the satellite working here. And we do. Oh, look at this new hairdo. There she is. It's the lovely Allie Breen in purple.

[C]

Is there a new hairdo?

[B]

Yeah, there's kind of a weird light. It looks like you're an avatar.

[C]

That's so funny. I got like this ring light to bring with me and yeah, it only is showing on this blue hue. I think it broke in my bag.

[B]

Now, are you in. Are you in Europe?

[C]

No, I'm in dc. I actually had a show at this place called the Ned last night. Leaving today.

[B]

Oh, you're heading to London today, is that right?

[C]

No, I don't go to London till the 23rd.

[B]

Oh, well, she's so such a traveler. I never know. Ali Breen is a comedian, a world traveler and she is also the host of the show we call Sexy Time and we try to help your love troubles. We have a Lot of experience in this room.

[A]

Oh, yes.

[C]

Oh, yeah.

[B]

And we'll see how we do. Allie, let's get right to the letters. What have you got for us?

[C]

Dear Allie, I just started going to the gym and biking because it's nice weather, and my girlfriend is acting like that is suspicious. I invite her to go with me, but she says I'm only doing that because I know she's not gonna want to go. Am I dating a crazy person?

[B]

Yes.

[A]

Get out.

[C]

Now.

[A]

The answer, unfortunately, really is yes.

[B]

She's not the one for you.

[A]

You do not need that for the rest of your life.

[C]

No.

[D]

Yeah.

[C]

Also, if she went with him, I don't even know what would change.

[B]

He's still the size of her ass.

[A]

That often

[C]

is the cause of.

[B]

I'm just saying, diet and exercise wouldn't help you there.

[A]

Heavy. Yeah. This isn't for you.

[D]

Why are you assuming she's a happy?

[B]

Well, just so I can tell it's her pros.

[A]

If she's unreasonable, she'd be unreasonable ordering from a menu.

[B]

Okay, you can reach Ali Breen A L L I B R E E N at your favorite social media platform, and just ask us your love troubles. For example, this one. What have you got, Allie?

[C]

Dear Allie, my boyfriend's roommate just went through a breakup, and he's been hanging out with us a lot for moral support. I'm starting to feel like there's kind of a connection between me and him, and I don't know how to ask if he feels the same. Do I need to wait and see if he brings it up? I really think he might be a better match for me. What do I do here?

[B]

Wait a minute. Go slow. Here, someone walk me through this.

[D]

Her boyfriend, his friend just went through a breakup, and he's been hanging out with the two of them a lot.

[B]

Oh, so she. She's more attracted to her boyfriend's buddy.

[C]

Yes, Yep, exactly. And thinks that he feels the same, but doesn't know how to put out

[D]

the feelings to move to another state. And you won't have a friend anymore, but just have sex with them.

[A]

See what happens.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

See if it clicks before you've ruined a relationship. This is a bummer. Yeah.

[D]

Just cheat.

[A]

Yeah, she's. I. I had this happen where my. My lady was. Ended up with my best friend, and they are. They've been married for 35 years. See, that's the thing. Two kids. It's like the.

[D]

Are they still friends with them?

[A]

Oh, God, no. I hate them. Right. But it was like the right Thing for them to do.

[D]

Yeah, yeah.

[C]

Like it. Actually, I knew a couple that happened to too, in la. It was a comic and an agent, and the agent was cheating on her with her best friend.

[A]

Well, I thought he was only supposed to take 10%,

[C]

Man.

[A]

I. You know, the answer is you got to break up with the guy you're with. You're all. You've already found somebody you think might be better, which means there are probably other guys out there.

[B]

So if you break up with him and you go to the other guy and he doesn't, like, won't have anything

[A]

to do with you, then you move on completely.

[D]

Yeah. You have to find somebody and you

[B]

got to go to the guy in the first letter because he's going to be single. Right?

[D]

Because.

[B]

Yeah, yeah, because he dumped Chuckles.

[C]

Yeah, that's what we should start doing is mashing up the people from all of the letters.

[A]

Oh, that's a great idea.

[C]

The worst dating site ever.

[B]

That's actually. That would not be a bad premise for a Hallmark movie.

[C]

I don't know if it's Hallmark, but.

[B]

Or a porno.

[C]

Yeah, yeah.

[B]

Yes. Some radio show where they, you know, you could. They hook up people and be kind of fun. Let's just move on.

[A]

Sorry.

[B]

Ali Breen is our guest. We have sexy time. More letters from you to help you with your problems. What have we got, Ally?

[C]

Dear Allie, my boyfriend just found out that I used to hook up with one of my best friends and now he won't let me hang out with him anymore. We had hooked up in college and I'm now 37, but he says whenever he sees me, he's probably thinking about the times that we hooked up. I told him he's nuts. We've been friends forever. The hookup phase was only for like a year. We've been friends with no tension forever. He said, that's one sided. What do I do about this?

[A]

You gotta break up with this guy, man.

[D]

Jeez.

[A]

Why is everyone so insecure?

[D]

I don't know.

[B]

All I know is we got a three way now with letter number one, number two, and number three.

[A]

Yeah, leave them. You gotta get rid of that idiot. I mean, I just have no patience for that kind of insecurity.

[D]

Yeah, yeah.

[C]

It's so unattractive, too. I don't know why.

[D]

Why she would want to be with that guy.

[C]

Exactly. It's great.

[A]

Yeah. Okay, move on.

[B]

This is one of the rare times we've just got nailed every one of these. Wow. We're the Nobel Prize.

[D]

We're going to be called the breakup show soon.

[B]

Okay, Allie, what do you got?

[C]

Dear Allie, I've been talking to a guy on Twitter for a month, and he asked me out to dinner on Saturday. Then he asked if I could pick him up because his car is at the shop.

[B]

Fake.

[C]

I was kind of put off. Like, I'm a mom picking up her kid for soccer. Isn't that weird? Why wouldn't he take an Uber like a functional adult?

[B]

We. We had that survey. Do you remember the stat this?

[D]

What?

[C]

No.

[B]

3% of men would be willing to do that.

[D]

Oh, allow a woman to drive on the first day. That's right.

[B]

And didn't you do the math on this, Jeff? Wasn't that the percent of guys with DUIs?

[A]

Yeah, that worked out perfectly.

[B]

Yeah, that's weird. Something's going on.

[D]

But he's right. He could take an Uber.

[C]

Yeah, right.

[B]

This guy's like, she offered.

[C]

That's one thing. But yeah, for him to ask her out on a date and then be like, and also, can you come get me?

[D]

Huge red flag.

[B]

Unless he doesn't drive. Remember we had the guy, our comedian guest yesterday, doesn't drive at all.

[D]

Yeah, but you would say that. And our comedian guest, Derek didn't. He Ubered everywhere.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So, yeah, why don't you just tell him, hey, no, go ahead and Uber to the place.

[D]

I'll meet you there.

[A]

You don't need to ride us.

[B]

Why don't you ask Captain Success why he doesn't have a car or drive

[A]

and my wallet's being fixed? He wanted to save money for the dinner. Yeah.

[B]

Yeah. Maybe he's blind. I don't know.

[D]

You think that would come out before.

[B]

I don't know.

[A]

That would explain why his car is in the shop.

[D]

You think he'd wait to tell somebody you're blind until the first date?

[B]

Yeah, I ran into a pole right outside the dealership. Nobody said you had to be. Okay, well, another. Another problem solved. Allie Breen can be reached once again. A L, L I, B R E E N. Alli is a fine stand up comedian. Let's get to our next letter. What do you got?

[C]

Dear Allie, I just moved in with my girlfriend and she just started going back to church. That's fine for her, but she wants me to go with her and I'd rather stay home and play video games. She says that's immature, but I'm a grown ass man and I know this is gonna become a fight. What advice do you have for me? You are a grown ass man

[A]

playing video Games on Sunday morning.

[C]

Exactly.

[D]

You don't want to go to church.

[B]

We just had a conversation. Allie, before you joined us, Ms. Hooker said there's a video game where you pretend you're mowing the lawn.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Is there? And there probably is. I'm just asking, is there a semi religious game?

[A]

There are very religious games, actually, that

[B]

are biblical based games, take you through stories in the Bible or something.

[A]

Yes, those have been around since I was young.

[B]

Does it make like that sound do, do, do, do. Do you sound at the crucifixion?

[A]

I never got that far in the game.

[D]

Oh, my gosh, no.

[B]

This guy.

[C]

Wow.

[B]

It sounds kind of frivolous to be. If she's. She's exploring her soul and this guy's playing Pac Man. I don't know.

[A]

Maybe they're not meant for each other.

[C]

Like, you don't.

[B]

You don't make somebody go to church.

[A]

That never works.

[B]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[D]

I mean, just continue to go to church and then some wake up and go. Yeah, I think I'll try that. I'll go with you.

[A]

Yeah. But this is him writing us.

[D]

Oh. So I didn't play his video games. I just say, okay, go ahead.

[C]

Yeah.

[D]

I know a lot of friends who go to church by themselves and their husband doesn't go.

[C]

Yeah, sure.

[B]

A lot.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Yeah. I think we're. We need to get like, a quid pro quo here. Maybe in this case, a quim pro quo in which, if he doesn't go to church, he just gets no action.

[A]

Yeah, that's always a good Alyssa Strata action.

[C]

Yeah, that's probably what it'll come. I think that's what he's worried about, probably is some ending like that.

[D]

Sex as a weapon. What is wrong with you?

[B]

Nothing. I'm just saying it might work.

[A]

Why don't you just go. You could go to church and just take a Game Boy.

[B]

Another problem. Another problem solved. Can you put it. Can you put those on mute?

[A]

Can you imagine if it. You see the preacher and then it cuts to the. Everybody is sitting there and one guy just has those VR guns, like, punching in the air.

[B]

Yeah, yeah. Ever. On Sundays, you walk by the TV and there's some service on, and there's one guy that looks like he just came from the weight room. You ever seen this guy? He wears clothes a little too small, looks very hip, has the Madonna headset on, and he's walking around flailing his arms. That guy.

[A]

The body is a temple.

[B]

Yeah, but there's all kinds of different services out there. I wonder if there is one where the guy's got a controller and there's a screen behind him and he's doing the video game for the congregation.

[D]

I don't know, but I have. I heard one of the most unbelievable stories this week. They broke a horse at church the other day. A wild horse.

[C]

Oh, my God.

[B]

Oh, that's a. That's the cowboy. That's real common. There's hundreds of cowboy churches.

[D]

This isn't a cowboy church. It's right by my house. It's like.

[C]

Oh, they're.

[B]

They're. No, seriously. There are cowboy churches all over the country. And they do. They do. They're sort of traditional Christian churches for the most part.

[C]

Yeah, that's.

[B]

And they. And they do.

[D]

You've heard of this?

[B]

Yeah, they're called cowboy churches.

[D]

Seriously, this is not.

[B]

There are hundreds of them.

[D]

Okay. But this is a traditional Christian church that had. Maybe they travel guests.

[A]

Yeah, There you go. Yeah.

[D]

The house or the horse?

[A]

Boy, that's got to be. That's not easy. Inside the church?

[C]

Yes.

[A]

I mean, are you inside the church? Wait, what? Their point must have been that it

[D]

was inside the church.

[A]

Somewhat miraculous, because it takes months to break a horse.

[D]

That's what I would think.

[B]

Not if this is the same guy that got the guy in the wheelchair to tap dance.

[A]

Well, you sure hope that those. That kind of stuff isn't going on anymore. But. Yeah.

[B]

No, but, though, the. The cowboy churches are a real thing.

[A]

Right. But, I mean, the scams.

[D]

Well, okay, I could see that in Montana or something, but I don't know.

[B]

They're all over the place.

[D]

I just wish I'd never heard of that before. I was shocked.

[C]

No, I haven't either. And I've ridden my whole life. That's. Yeah.

[D]

You're a horse person. Yeah, exactly.

[C]

You don't go to a pasture to break your horse. That's insane.

[B]

No, you go to a pasture, not a pastor. Hello?

[A]

Very good, Tom.

[B]

They misread these. These right themselves. Let's try to get a good one next time. Tom.

[A]

No, that was good.

[B]

That's great. We're speaking to Ali Breen, comedian. We have time for one more letter. Ali Breen. What have you got?

[C]

Dear Allie, I was cleaning out my boyfriend's car and I found a receipt for jewelry, earrings, and a necklace that I never received. My birthday already passed. No holiday is coming up. Do I wait to bring it up or do I bring it up right now? This is gonna drive me crazy.

[B]

The best way to set a car on fire is to take A gallon of gas. And it was for his mom. No way.

[C]

Yeah, Mother's Day. Just how that could be.

[A]

Yeah, I think you can ask. I think you just go, hey. By the way, this has just been bothering me. I'm not accusing you of anything, but I would like to know. I found these. This jewelry receipt. Just see what he says.

[B]

Yeah, it's for. It's for a Pierce from space. Does your mom pierce any body parts below the waist?

[D]

And if he goes, what?

[A]

Right, right. Oh, no, I bought my mother something.

[B]

Well, it says here it's a cr.

[A]

Says, nipple rings.

[B]

Better. A better joke.

[D]

Yeah.

[B]

See if Pat has a comment. Yes. Yes.

[A]

Well, if she asks, what's.

[B]

What's the receipt for?

[A]

And he goes,

[C]

yes, exactly.

[A]

Kind of a giveaway.

[C]

Her reaction is everything.

[B]

Well, thank you, Allie.

[A]

You look.

[B]

You look great, Al. You've got the healthy glow now that you've got your new boyfriend. You look terrific.

[C]

Thank you so much.

[A]

You look well shagged.

[B]

That's it for another Bob and Tom show. Extra. Catch us on itunes, Google Play and Stitcher for Bob and Tom.

[D]

Extra.

[B]

This is Christopher. Take care, everybody.

[C]

Full send Golf.

[A]

You guys know how much I really, really love Golf.

[B]

Full send Golf 2v2. Me and VOD versus Big John and Kyle. Oh, it feels good to be back on the links with the boys.

[C]

Join the party on the golf course. Back to golf in a big way.

[B]

Now what?

[A]

Practice.

[C]

Let's go hit the range.

[A]

I was like, let's go to the range. We are headed to the golf cart, y'. All. You want to golf with us?

[B]

No.

[C]

You don't play golf?

[D]

No.

[A]

Try.

[B]

We gotta break par. I'm very, very excited. You excited?

[C]

Yeah. Full send Golf. Follow and listen on your favorite platform.