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Episode: B&T Extra: Comedians Gracie Kanan & Milana Vayntrub
Date: September 8, 2025
Guests: Gracie Kanan, Milana Vayntrub
Host(s): Bob & Tom cast, featuring Josh Arnold and Nick Griffin

Episode Overview

This lively episode of The BOB & TOM Show spotlights comedians Gracie Kanan and Milana Vayntrub, offering a blend of stand-up, candid conversation, and comic banter. The discussion flows through topics like comedians' self-care routines, urban life (NYC & LA edition), modern dating, therapy misadventures, and the camaraderie (and rivalry) of comics on tour. The episode is rich in memorable anecdotes and showcases the guests' comedic chemistry and vulnerability.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

Comedian Introductions & Name Games

• The show opens with playful riffs on the guests’ names and showbiz personas.
• Gracie Kanan: “There’s like, eight different ways to pronounce it.” (04:43)
• Milana Vayntrub jokes about earning commission from AT&T mentions, riffing on her commercial fame as “Lily from AT&T.” (04:28)

Beyonce & Shower Rituals

• Gracie shares her emotional experience at Beyonce’s "Cowboy Carter" concert—“It changed my life. I cried so hard.” (05:13)
• The group moves into a surprisingly earnest and funny discussion about shower habits.
  • Josh Arnold: “Queen Bee tells us, don’t use just one body wash. Mix them.” (05:16)
  • He shares his elaborate ritual: mixing numerous body washes and shampoos for a custom scent, incorporating shea butter and even eucalyptus branches:
    “My daughter every now and then brings me a eucalyptus branch and you hang it from your shower.” (07:10)
• Milana notes the shower as a rare modern space for undistracted thought: “Anytime I have an original thought, it’s in the shower.” (06:47)

Living in NYC vs. LA

• Gracie (Brooklyn) and Milana (Los Angeles) compare weather and city dynamics with classic coast-to-coast humor.
  • Gracie calls NYC “swampy,” while Milana downplays it, poking fun at differences. (08:23)
  • Gracie: “My roommate is a rat. Honestly, my roommate is a rat. It’s insane.” (08:36)
  • They entertain a comic side-thread on rat documentaries and garbage—Gracie quips, “Why would you make a documentary about that? That’s harrowing.” (09:02)

Unconventional Roommate & Dating Dynamics

• Gracie reveals she lives with her ex-boyfriend:
  • “Yeah, we’re like bff, so…” (09:37)
  • “Absolutely not. We are both disgusted, I think.” (09:52)
• The group explores dating in NYC—Gracie jokes:
  • “There’s a filter by Hinge…you can do that by name. I’m seeing someone that has been all green flags recently. So I gotta block him. Good for my brand.” (10:35)

Comic Tales: First Dates, Kissing, and Social Cues

• Anecdotes fly about awkward first date kisses, inspired by a Nick Griffin bit about always ending coffee dates with a kiss for comedic value:
  • “Nothing worse than the lean.” “Nothing worse. That’s the best.” – Gracie and Josh (12:06)
• Milana vents: “I’ve definitely been attempted to kiss at the end of a date and been like, there were no cues for you that this was okay...” (11:46)

Touring, Creative Drive, and Comic Chemistry

• Both women talk about the resilience comedians develop, especially from challenging backgrounds:
  • Milana: “We’re constantly just trying to prove ourselves…and I have a big, big hole in my heart that I could only fill with stranger’s laughter. So I have to keep doing it or I die.” (13:10)
• Discussion of their short film Booties:
  • “It’s 45 minutes, no dialogue…just ass.” – Gracie (13:49)
  • The group riffs about doing stand-up together, highlighting their different stage energies (“feral comedy raccoon” vs. a “polished improv background”). (14:18)

Therapy Talk: Why Every Comic (and New Yorker) Needs It

• Gracie and Milana openly discuss mental health support:
  • Gracie: “Do you think I’m held together by duct tape? [On therapy]…I think it should be a requirement when people move to New York.” (18:47)
  • Her last therapist was only 23: “...your brain is not fully developed.” (19:17)
• The hosts and guests compare therapist experiences, joke about boundaries, Venmo requests, and “winning” at therapy.
• Milana: “I think my therapist is my best friend. And we laugh and I know stories about her life. …And then at the end of the session when I get a Venmo request, I’m like, how dare you?” (21:13)

Roots and Belonging: LA, Family, and Home

• Milana discusses her immigrant family’s journey from Uzbekistan to LA, and the unique cultural mix of West Hollywood:
  • “We immigrated when I was about 2 years old, so right into West Hollywood...now it’s just gay people.” (15:29)
• Gracie reflects on why she fits better on the East Coast:
  • “I was like the weird, moody theater kid...there’s something about [the chaos] where it’s like, I need the chaos to have inner peace.” (17:06)
• Nick shares about his daughters in Chicago; Milana relates as a parent wanting to keep family close. (17:56)

Grounding, Self-Care, and Final Laughs

• Conversation takes a left turn into “grounding”—walking barefoot outside to balance your internal electricity—and grounding mats for the housebound or agoraphobic.
  • Josh: “You go outside barefoot...it’s supposed to be anti-inflammatory.” (22:06)
  • Milana: “For people who can’t go outside.” (22:23)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Shower Rituals:
  “Queen Bee tells us, don’t use just one body wash…Mix them together, and then you have your own scent.” – Josh Arnold (05:16)
• On Therapy in New York:
  “You cannot have, like, 9 million people with unresolved mommy issues living on top of each other. That’s where things get dicey.” – Gracie Kanan (18:53)
• On Comedy & Motivation:
  “I have a big, big hole in my heart that I could only fill with strangers laughter. So I have to keep doing it or I die.” – Milana Vayntrub (13:15)
• On LA Culture:
  “My family’s from Uzbekistan…right into West Hollywood…now it’s just gay people.” – Milana Vayntrub (15:29)
• On Dating:
  “I am seeing someone that has been all green flags recently. So I gotta block him. Good for my brand.” – Gracie Kanan (10:35)
• On Roommate Arrangements:
  “My roommate is a rat. Honestly, my roommate is a rat. It’s insane.” – Gracie Kanan (08:36)

Timestamps for Key Segments

• [04:07] — Comedian introductions and playful banter
• [05:13] — Gracie on the Beyonce concert & shower rituals
• [08:14] — Life in NYC vs. LA (“too many rats” & city quirks)
• [09:31] — Gracie’s unconventional living arrangement (ex-boyfriend as roommate)
• [10:23] — Dating in New York and cynicism
• [12:01] — First date kisses and social misreadings
• [13:10] — Motivation behind comedy, broken childhoods, and touring
• [13:31] — Their short film Booties (and what it’s really about!)
• [18:47] — Therapy talk: generational gaps and necessity in NYC
• [21:13] — Boundaries with therapists and paying friends
• [22:06] — Grounding rituals and self-care

Overall Tone

The conversation is fast-paced, irreverent, and intimate—full of performers’ confessions, inside jokes, and sharp wit. The guests gladly roast each other and themselves, while also opening up about the challenges of their respective cities, backgrounds, and careers.

Conclusion

This B&T Extra episode is a delightful, insight-filled comic hang with Gracie Kanan and Milana Vayntrub, capturing the energy of artists living (and laughing) between Brooklyn and Los Angeles. Listeners will feel like they're backstage with working standups: swapping stories, cutting through pretensions, and agreeing that—no matter where you’re from—comedy and therapy might be survival skills.