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Tom
Honey, why don't you put down your new iPad and come to the bedroom? I've got a fun game we can play. I think you're gonna love it.
Bob
Maybe later. I am killing these pigs. And I'm getting ready to download the brand new levels of Angry Birds. My fingers are flying on this bigger touchscreen.
Tom
I'm ready for your nimble fingers to touch skin, not scream.
Bob
Baby, you know, that's not a bad idea. I could use a new skin for my iPad. I've almost worn out this one already. This is the best app ever.
Tom
How about if you get off that app and let me get on your lap, I guarantee you'll score?
Bob
Oh, I am scoring big time with these birds right now.
Tom
You like birds Eh, here you go. Check out these hooters. Whoa.
Bob
They've got owls on here. I don't think I've gotten to that level yet. Better keep playing.
Tom
No, you tool. I'm talking about these babies. Check out my sexy new bra here. Let me just slip it off and let you feel how soft it is.
Bob
Mmm. Wow. This is awesome. Uh huh. Man, if I could make a slingshot out of this, I could launch these Angry Birds a couple of miles. I could kill a dozen pigs with this.
Tom
Ugh. Those pigs on there are as close to any porking you'll be doing. Have fun with your stupid birds and pigs. I'm outta here.
Bob
Oh, speaking of pigs, I better log on to Farmville and see how my livestock story. This has been the guy who would rather play Angry Birds than have sex. A great way to get your morning started. This is Bob and Tom Extra. Right now. We're going to check in with Christy Lee. Now, you said. You told me in the green room we have romance in the news.
Tom
Absolutely.
Bob
Who doesn't love romance, right?
Tom
Everyone loves where you flirt, damn it. Where you flirt can make or break your chances of getting together.
Bob
This is important, isn't it? You mean location, not orifice?
Tom
Yes, you flirt through orifices.
Bob
Or your eyes or your mouth. No, Tom, just trying to clarify. Sometimes. You ever have one? I wrote the beginning of the story. I think I made it very clear. I wrote it. I wrote it.
Tom
Why don't you read it? Hey, you're cute.
Bob
No, no, no, no, please.
Tom
New research shows that the location and setting matters more than looks, charm, or even how well you know the person.
Bob
Oh, come on.
Tom
Across five studies, chick people were much more likely to say yes to a romantic advance in places like bars or. Or dating apps. In other words, anywhere that feels socially appropriate.
Bob
Right? Instead of on safari or at a wake or at a. Well, that's actually in here, Josh.
Tom
Less welcome flirtations in offices, doctors, waiting rooms, or funerals. And here's a.
Bob
Can you imagine hitting on somebody? So sorry to hear about your husband, by the way. I got a nice roast beef at my house. I got. Want to come over?
Tom
It happens all the time.
Bob
I think we need to focus on his pickup line as he's got meat at his house and he wants to share it with.
Tom
Women do that all the time.
Bob
Hey, you want to come over and what, the old. The old delivering the casserole to the widower? Yeah, that's kind of an old trope, but.
Tom
Oh, yeah, I bet it.
Bob
It came from somewhere, didn't it sure did. Yeah.
Tom
Margaret does it on Grace and Frankie. It's a beautiful scene.
Bob
I just don't think that the point of this article. You don't do it standing next to the casket.
Tom
Attractive people fared better overall. Duh.
Bob
From the. From the Shinola Institute of Technology. No. Shinola. Pardon me. Mom. Would you like to go out sometime?
Tom
But they even bombed in the wrong place. A hot stranger at a funeral? No, not at a funeral. Familiarity helped a little, but it wasn't a deal breaker. In fact, people didn't like when a friend made a move in an awkward place. Like you should know better than that, man.
Bob
The doctor's office is real funny too.
Tom
The waiting room. Can you imagine? Nobody talks in the waiting room at the doctor's office.
Bob
What are you in for? You get the same grass and Same. Same. Is your groin still itching like mine? I got a wicked rash. Have you ever had to call a past lover and tell them that you have no STD and they need to get tested? You've never had to do that. Boy. Thankfully I haven't either. Anybody? No. Those are some tough calls. And do them.
Tom
Yeah.
Bob
You know, if you're thinking out there, you already did them. Well. Oh, you mean make the calls.
Tom
Yes.
Bob
So what is a good place then?
Tom
To the type of invite mattered as well. A dinner day was usually more welcome than a come on over pitch, which Tom just threw out.
Bob
I got some roast beef over here.
Tom
Especially for women. And especially in places where romance feels out of place. Bottom line, people respond to flirting, but it has a lot to do with the vibe of the room. Which makes sense. Bars equal good. Funerals equal not so good.
Bob
What do you think? About what other. The gym.
Tom
Yeah, the gym.
Bob
The farmers market is a big one. These are both good. Yes, good.
Tom
Yeah.
Bob
The gym.
Tom
No.
Bob
Like places that you enjoy is where you would want to meet people you.
Tom
Have things in common with.
Bob
You're saying no to the gym?
Tom
Not at the gym.
Bob
You're focused. You're. I say no to the gym.
Tom
I think the gym is very sexual.
Bob
You're not feeling your most.
Tom
Oh, I'm sweaty and gross.
Bob
Yeah, you're all sweaty. Yeah, but if he's going to hit on me like this. The pheromones. If he likes. If he likes, you know, Stinky Christie, he's going to be okay when you. You know.
Tom
But there are powder up.
Bob
Or maybe not. Maybe he just wants stinky. True.
Tom
And then there are the people that just go to the gym to get pick up. We've all Seen them? Yeah.
Bob
Face of makeup.
Tom
Oh, man.
Bob
I think Tom is missing the boat. I think you should teach a course on picking up women. Roast beef and tell.
Tom
I can't believe he said roast beef.
Bob
That's so funny. The powder up that was. And you know what he does. Hey, you want to come to my house for some roast beef? No. Probably. Probably a vegan. I hear you fart a lot.
Tom
You're gassy.
Bob
Yeah, probably a lesbian. Vegan. Lesbian. Didn't we have a. I think we just had a thing recently also about geographical locations. You know, irrespective of where. If you're at the gym or the funeral, whatever. Certain places are significantly more romantic. I imagine. If you're in Paris, France versus, say, Paris, Illinois.
Tom
Ethiopia.
Bob
Yeah. You want to go out? Why? Do you have food? No. Then, no.
Tom
My friend Tom has roast beef.
Bob
Yeah. How about that back in the States.
Tom
Let's talk about that first date. Is using a coupon acceptable?
Bob
No. Absolutely no. No.
Tom
And you would laugh. I would laugh.
Bob
What about a. Okay, go ahead.
Tom
And a new survey suggests attitudes about frugality are shifting among Americans with respect to budget conscious dating. In a Talker Research poll, 55% said it's perfectly fine to use a coupon on a first date. Over 35% would be impressed if a date used reward points to pay.
Bob
Oh, all right. I see. Nope.
Tom
60.
Bob
What?
Tom
Find frugality a positive trait.
Bob
So the coupon. You're obviously going to be at a. You're not going to be at, you know.
Tom
No, no.
Bob
There's some. There are nice restaurants that have frequent car shopper cards or whatever.
Tom
Yeah. Or you get a 10 coupon on really nice. Yeah, yeah. You're looking at me like I'm crazy. I can show you one.
Bob
Or tonight, not like Sardis or the Brown Derby or some place that you think still open. No, no, no. I like the. We have the two chateaubriand for two. She'd like the hamburger. As Greg on says, I'd like the filet.
Tom
More than 25% describe frugality as being sexy. And over half said they've been turned off by someone trying to show off their money. $125 is the most people are comfortable spending on a first date who's turned.
Bob
Off by somebody showing off money. I think they mean. They mean. They mean being real showy, like whipping out a big wad. Yeah, it's. That's hot. Yeah.
Tom
I'll take this much.
Bob
Yeah. Like in Goodfellas. I need this much money and you.
Tom
Hold your fingers apart nearly 50 are happy to split the bill on a first date Now.
Bob
Now you're talking aces. Language. I wouldn't allow it. But I. I do believe that that's probably accurate. Most. Yeah, I've had a lot. I've had a lot of girls in my dating life. Offer. Offer. Yeah. Yeah. And you've turned them down. I said no. No. If you pay half, then you don't owe me anything sexual, so I'd rather have the no. And what is that? That illustrates full communication. Exactly. And by the way, I saved money on these condoms. There's an expiration date that's passed. But, hey, you know, we're fine. There's no reason to think that they're rotting. Can I pay half? No, I'd rather have the Uber Beach. I love the Uber Beach. We had that for dessert. Uber Beach? Is that the one where they take the torch and they. They crisp up the top? You can't beat Uber Beach. Oh, yeah. Oh, that's. I'd like the Uber now. How about a guy that's your first date, and he goes, listen, about a month ago, I bought this Groupon. It's a lovely thing. We can go paint and drink wine at this place. Oh, yeah.
Tom
Yeah, that would be fun.
Bob
Would you guys be okay with the Groupon scenario?
Tom
Yes, that would be fun.
Bob
Okay. Yeah. Okay. I don't think so. You're against it. I'm against the. Although, any activity is better than, like, a movie if you can actually communicate to the person and you do something together that might be fun. Have you ever planned a movie knowing.
Tom
That you didn't really want to go on the date? Like, you're like. Maybe you talked to them and was like, oh, gosh, let's just go to the movie. Because I really don't want to talk to her.
Bob
No, I haven't. No. A movie's a great date because you don't. You don't talk. Yeah. Weird thing happened to me. I went to a place and they offered me the senior menu, and they offered my date the kids menu. That was awkward. Yeah. And rad. Isn't Tom funny? Funny. How about a character, by the way, Joe? Gosh. In the wake of your joke, a character named HJ Uber. Hi, HJ Uber. How are you? I like it all. I don't. I. I. Let's not sleep on be. We were discussing first dates.
Tom
Yeah. Whether it's acceptable to use a coupon or not. Impact claims.
Bob
What is this? I don't claim. It's the truth. I am a romantic. I pay for every meal. Do you know? Yeah, I do too. Is that romantic?
Tom
You mean you pay for your meal?
Bob
I pay for every meal when I'm on a date.
Tom
Every meal.
Bob
Both hers and McDonald's is a dollar menu.
Tom
Okay.
Bob
I have no reason to doubt you, Pat. I'm the same way. I like. Oh, yeah, yeah, it feels right. Yeah, it does feel right. It feels right. Well, the essence of the story was it's important if you're making a. Making a move, that you do it in a. In the appropriate place. They literally said, don't do it at a funeral home. Yeah, unless she's real hot. Were there other places they said don't?
Tom
I miss. Yeah.
Bob
Doctors waiting.
Tom
Doctor's waiting rooms and at the office.
Bob
Now my girlfriend. My girlfriend will often sneak and get. Get it to the person first. She's also extremely generous. Oh, you're talking about paying the bill. Paying the bill, yeah. Going back to the building. I just want to make that. Oh, no, because the way you said it, it sounded like she was. While you were on a date, she would sneak away and ask another guy out. And by the way, happened the one time. No, no, I'd like to. I'd like to speak on behalf of the room, Pat. When you just said that you wanted to remind people that your. Your girlfriend pays sometimes too, you didn't sound frightened of her at all. So I just like to get that out there.
Tom
And we were well aware of the. She does pay.
Bob
I'm curious if you are guys, if you are meeting your girls father for the first time. Yeah. You sneak off and pay for dinner so that he can't. Oh, I. I see. I've never. So when the bill comes.
Tom
It's already taken care of.
Bob
I've never met. I have done that. I've only met fathers at the homes. Yeah. Oh, okay. Yeah, yeah. But I don't think I would. You wouldn't. I wouldn't want to be. I feel like it's a little presumptuous. Okay, I. I have done that. But then I saw the Sopranos episode where Tony loses his mind. Yeah, because Finn plays. Pays the bill. Meadow's boyfriend. Right. And he just. Hey, I pay. Right. So when you grow up and have your daughter, then you pay. That's how it works.
Tom
That's.
Bob
I'm kind of with Tony on that. Tony. Okay, there you go. I mean, he was also upset, maybe for other reasons. Oh, he was upset.
Tom
I didn't see this.
Bob
And the fact that they were a jack in the box. Hey, thanks, big spender. I'm not sure if he had to kill big pussy yet or not. But you let the dad be the dad, right? Or the patriarch in that sort of. Yeah, I could see that. I have brought mother's flowers, that kind of thing. Okay. When I meet them. Yeah. And I'm telling you what that kills. I mean, that goes over with everybody.
Tom
Oh, sure.
Bob
You take off the thing saying, we're sorry about your loss. Nobody sees it for what it is. A manipulative, thinly veiled in her pants, you know, and you weep. You wink at the mom. Yeah. This doesn't work out with your daughter. You know, I say nice things like, oh, I see where she got her huge boobs. And by the way, can you go up to a room, grab an extra pair of panties? Because I'm keeping these. You tell her you must be her sister. You can't be her mother. Oh, don't tease like that. Hell yeah. Oh, yeah. Okay.
Tom
Speaking of boobs, Scientists have determined that the love heterosexual men have for breasts is innate and not imposed by cultural modesty norms.
Bob
Yeah. You think it might have something to do with the fact that we fed off of them for the first year of our lives?
Tom
Yeah, right. Researchers studied the Dani tribe of western New Guinea.
Bob
Hi, I'm Danny.
Tom
I'm Danny.
Bob
This is. We're all Danny.
Tom
Where it was norm for women to go topless up until 20 years ago, when tribal women began covering up. They interviewed the Danny men who came of age when all women were topless, as well as those who grew up in a society where women covered up and discovered both groups felt the same about breasts.
Bob
Hey, Danny, what are these broads doing covering up their boobs? Not away when I was a Danny, I can tell you that. You know what? This started all changed when Danny got in charge.
Tom
Yeah.
Bob
What are you doing over there, Danny? We got upset. Danny, you know who should take over? Danny should take over. Hey, Danny, you're out. Danny, you're in. Danny's long to live Danny.
Tom
The head reachers researchers stated, quote, what we can say is breasts are sexy naturally. So men like breasts.
Bob
I duh. I disagree strongly. How so? Here's the other thing. I think up until. I'm not sure when this happened, but within my lifetime, everything has gone from boobs and now it's butts. Everything has changed. I see what you're saying. So you started out as a boob.
Tom
Guy, but were you breastfed?
Bob
I was not breastfed. And as Tom knows, that's the only thing keeping me out of the mental Hospital.
Tom
Well, that's.
Bob
I'm an ass man, but I think it's because when I was growing up, I was butt fed. Doctors begged my mother not to do that. That's interesting. Isn't butt fed one of the Star wars characters? She squeezed the bottom for me. It's all in the eyes. Oh, really? Yeah. I'm not. I don't objectify. Who are you? I can barely stand it.
Tom
I know.
Bob
I'm serious. Who are you auditioning for? No, no. So, yeah, you're. You only interested in the eyes? The eyes and the intellect and the person.
Tom
They're only interested in what your eyes see on the other person's breast.
Bob
It's the woman's eyes. I believe it was stated in a nice cover by the J Gals Band. First you look at the purse, I believe is the song. That's sweet, sweet Percy now. So the essence of this.
Tom
If that were true, wouldn't women be fascinated with breasts?
Bob
Yes. That's why I don't think they kind of are. I don't think it's the breastfeeding thing. What this is saying is, for example, in contemporary American culture, breasts are covered up all the time for the most part.
Tom
Right.
Bob
And they wanted to see if, in a culture in which they were not covered up, if they were still that, you know, desensitized. And they. And the fact is they were not. They apparently. I don't know how they measured it, but the people in the Dani tribe that were exposed to breast all the time, they still, I guess, really dug them in a lady. You know what? I. Boy, I'm gonna confess to something here, and I think that you guys, I would be interested to know how many men particularly agree. I prefer clothed boobs. Like, I. To me, I'm more turned on by, like, a great pair of boobs and a sweater.
Tom
Sure.
Bob
Than I am, like, nude on a beach.
Tom
Do you get excited, though, when she takes the sweater off?
Bob
Like, are you anticipating it? Yeah, yeah. I mean, I want to. I want to feel them and stuff, but I, I, I just, I. There's something about a woman in a great bra or a shirt. I like a nice T shirt with the bra off. Yeah, that's very exciting. Yeah. What happened to the eyes? Lying.
Tom
You were lying to us.
Bob
I'm a new fan of the boob. My girlfriend has a nice rack.
Tom
Yeah, we've heard people.
Bob
No, we've seen people yell at me at strip clubs, though, because, hey, put that back on. You get more money if you put it back on. Does this meant. Does this article mention. I know it's scientific. Does it mention the. The concept of motorboating?
Tom
No, it doesn't.
Bob
Okay. And when you do it, do you make the sound of a Chris Craft or do you go with more contemporary? Yeah. As opposed to an Evinrud or a giant. Okay, good. I think Chris Craft is better. I love that noise. Is that.
Tom
There's no way she allows you.
Bob
Is that trademark should be like the Harley Davidson. Yeah. I think Harley Harley trademarked their song. There must be women who love being motorboated. Sure. Just get your face in there and go to town.
Tom
I can't imagine that that's.
Bob
I think they. But out of all the women out there, it may only be 1%. Yeah. I'm sure there's like women who get turned on standing in strawberry jello. But I mean, you're going to find. Isn't that. You didn't mention that. And I got a boner now. Look what you did to Pat. Can't stand up. Strawberry jam.
Tom
Dam.
Bob
Strawberry jello, please. That's the jam wouldn't turn around. That's the difference between jam and jello. That's it for another Bob and Tom show. Extra. Catch us on itunes, Google play and stitcher for Bob and Tom. Extra. This is Christopher. Take care, everybody. Jim Rome takes on sports. Why? Because you're not playing me with rapid fire. Takes ain't a lot to get to and I'm not sure you're gonna like all of it. Honestly, I don't even care if you like all of it or not. I have a job to do. Scorching debates on any given week, you have lots to beef about. Take advantage of. Get up in here. He's the spitfire of sports. Smack. This is not my fault. We will get to all of that. The Jim Rome show podcast. Get up in here and we'll beef later on. Quote your beef, follow and listen on your favorite platform. You've been warned.
Podcast Summary: The BOB & TOM Show Extra – "First Dates Do's & Don'ts"
Introduction
In the July 15, 2025 episode of The BOB & TOM Show Extra, the hosts delve into the intricacies of first dates, exploring the essential do's and don'ts to navigate these initial romantic encounters successfully. Beyond the main topic, the episode is peppered with humor, relatable anecdotes, and insightful discussions that provide listeners with both entertainment and valuable dating advice.
Skit: The Angry Birds vs. Intimacy Dilemma
The episode kicks off with a humorous skit titled "The guy who would rather play Angry Birds than have sex." Bob and Tom engage in a playful conversation highlighting the common modern dilemma of balancing personal hobbies with romantic relationships.
Bob [02:02]: "Maybe later. I am killing these pigs. And I'm getting ready to download the brand new levels of Angry Birds."
Tom [02:10]: "Honey, why don't you put down your new iPad and come to the bedroom? I've got a fun game we can play. I think you're gonna love it."
This exchange sets a lighthearted tone, emphasizing the humorous side of relationship dynamics where personal interests sometimes take precedence over romantic intimacy.
Main Discussion: First Dates Do's & Don'ts
Transitioning from the skit, Bob and Tom introduce the episode's primary focus: the do's and don'ts of first dates. They reference recent research and engage in a candid conversation about appropriate settings and behaviors when flirting and dating.
Appropriate Settings for Flirting
Tom shares findings from a Talker Research poll, highlighting that the location and setting significantly impact the success of romantic advances.
Bob humorously misinterprets this, leading to witty banter about the importance of context in romantic interactions.
The hosts discuss how places like bars and dating apps are conducive to flirting, whereas environments such as funerals, doctor's offices, and waiting rooms are inappropriate and likely to lead to awkward situations.
Humorous Anecdotes and Insights
Bob and Tom share amusing scenarios illustrating the pitfalls of inappropriate flirting locations, such as attempting to make a romantic advance at a funeral.
This joke underscores the importance of choosing the right moment and place for romantic gestures.
Frugality in Dating: To Coupon or Not to Coupon
The conversation shifts to the topic of frugality in first dates, addressing whether using coupons or being budget-conscious is acceptable behavior.
Tom cites a survey indicating a shift in attitudes towards budget-friendly dating:
Tom [08:34]: "A new survey suggests attitudes about frugality are shifting among Americans with respect to budget-conscious dating."
Tom [09:08]: "Over 25% describe frugality as being sexy, and over half said they've been turned off by someone trying to show off their money."
Bob expresses skepticism about using coupons on first dates, preferring more traditional approaches.
Despite the humor, the discussion highlights the evolving perceptions of financial prudence as an attractive trait, while also acknowledging the potential drawbacks of appearing overly frugal or ostentatious.
Splitting the Bill and Communication
The hosts emphasize the importance of open communication regarding who pays on the first date. They discuss how many people are comfortable with splitting the bill and how this approach can promote equality and transparency.
Tom [10:17]: "I'll take this much."
Bob [10:26]: "Most... Yeah, I've had a lot. I've had a lot of girls in my dating life offer... Yeah. Yeah. And you've turned them down."
Bob shares his preference for clarity in financial matters on dates, suggesting that splitting the bill can prevent misunderstandings and set clear expectations.
Attraction to Breasts: Nature vs. Culture
In a diverging yet engaging segment, Bob and Tom explore the innate versus culturally influenced aspects of physical attraction, specifically focusing on male attraction to breasts.
Tom presents research on the Dani tribe of western New Guinea, where women went topless until recent cultural shifts.
Bob and Tom humorously dissect the study, debating whether biological instincts or cultural norms predominantly influence this aspect of attraction.
The conversation highlights the complexity of human attraction, balancing scientific findings with personal opinions and societal changes.
Conclusion
The episode concludes with a blend of humor and final thoughts on the discussed topics. Bob and Tom reiterate the significance of appropriate settings and transparent communication in fostering successful first dates. They also leave listeners with a chuckle through their lighthearted banter about modern dating pitfalls.
Notable Quotes
Tom [04:07]: "New research shows that the location and setting matters more than looks, charm, or even how well you know the person."
Bob [08:48]: "I don't think so. You're against it. I'm against the... I like the... We have the two chateaubriand for two."
Tom [10:17]: "I'll take this much."
Bob [16:49]: "I duh. I disagree strongly. How so? Here's the other thing. I think up until... everything has gone from boobs and now it's butts."
Overall Insights
The BOB & TOM Show Extra effectively combines humor with practical advice, offering listeners both laughter and thoughtful insights into the complexities of dating. By addressing topics such as appropriate flirting locations, financial transparency, and the nuances of physical attraction, Bob and Tom provide a comprehensive guide to navigating first dates with confidence and authenticity.
Listeners who may not be familiar with the episode will find the discussion both entertaining and informative, equipped with relatable scenarios and expert-backed advice to enhance their dating experiences.