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All Things Wedding: Morgan & Abby Talk About Planning, Stressors, & How It’s Really Going
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What's up?
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You ready to talk about some wedding conversations?
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Are you? No, not me neither. We are.
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I've gotten lots of questions and people wanting to know how our wedding planning is going. Not having ice too each other, but individual weddings.
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B
Nice shocker.
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No, Abby and I are not getting married. But we are getting married to other people.
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We are.
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So how is it going for you? Have you even looked at anything? Have you started? What's your feelings. Thoughts.
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I really haven't. I have not.
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Not even a little bit.
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No. There's just been a lot happening in both of our lives that it's just like. That's not, I guess, on the. The front burner right now. Yeah, it's a full time job. Yeah, it is.
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Abby. The amount of things, like, I've started to look. I've started to like, creep in. When I have a couple extra minutes here and there, I'll look at different things. And I think I have a baseline now, at least for what I want.
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Okay, that's awesome.
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But it's so overwhelming. I'm gonna tell you that right now. Like, I start to think I have one idea and I kind of go down the path and then something like goes a brick wall. I'm like, okay, turn around. Next idea. And everything just keeps moving. Moving pieces all the time.
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Oh, I bet. And even like dates too. That's what I'm nervous about. Like, they go so fast.
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There's people who have planned for like three years.
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Yeah, right.
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They've had their. They had their venue picked out before
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they got engaged, right? Uh huh.
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Couldn't be me. Was not me.
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Yeah, same.
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I have nothing. But the good news is, is I do think we've at least narrowed it down to being that we would like to have a. However you want to word it, elopement, private ceremony, micro wedding somewhere in the mountains with our immediate family only. And we get like, have the ceremony, we have a fun little weekend with everybody and then we come back here, we have a party with all the people, whoever wants to come and just celebrate. Not a ceremony, not like a reception. It's just like a party. Free food and free drinks and music. I love that party, party vibes. I'm not gonna decorate. Not spending thousands of dollars on flowers and, you know, who knows what, where, wherever, just a big party to celebrate. And then the goal and the dream is to go to South Africa for our honeymoon.
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Ooh, that's awesome. Oh my gosh. Yeah, you do have it kind of.
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I'm getting like a. You have structure. You know what I mean? Like, I'm getting ideas and thoughts.
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Oh my gosh. I've never thought to go to like, Africa. And I think like, it's like the safari and all that. And see, I'm just such. I don't want to see any animals die. I want to see circle of life.
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I'm the same as you. I don't. I don't feel that way. But I also I. Circle of life doesn't bother me as much as hunting poachers does.
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Yeah.
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In that capacity. So as long as I'm not witnessing that side of it, like, nature being nature, I can handle a little bit more. I'm not gonna handle it super well. I cry when any animal dies.
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I know.
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Like, I cry if I accidentally step on a snail, so here I am.
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You've done that. That's so sad.
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Oh, it was horrible. It was horrible, Abby. I literally went inside and cried and I. Cause yeah. I think I told you one time, or. I've talked about it on Best Bits, where I went to rescue a turtle in the middle of the road, and as I was walking out to get it, somebody hit it, ran over it.
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Oh, my gosh.
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And I can never get the sound and the experience out of my head.
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Yeah, it was horrible. Okay. We don't talk about it.
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Horrible.
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We don't have to.
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So. Yeah, I. I'm with you. The circle of life bothers me. But I'm also a huge advocate for seeing animals in their natural habitat, and the only way to do that is South Africa for a lot of animals.
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Oh, man. Yeah. No, I've heard nothing but good things. They're like, you have to do that at some point in your life. I know, but that's awesome.
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And. But trying to figure out, you know, there's a whole lot of regulations around that you have to get different shots and do different things. While I'm also on this crazy health journey of trying to rid my body of stuff and then also not bringing things back to Remy and Hazel, who are my dog and cat, because they're both have immunocompromised diseases. It's just like, I don't know if that will end up panning out in the way that I want it to in the. In the best safe way. Like, honestly, the thing that's been the hardest for me in general is that Remy and Hazel are my number one priority of life. They have been. You know that you've watched them and. And both of them having their recent diagnosis. Remy with Addison's disease, Hazel with kidney disease, has just added a bunch of layers to our life, you know, that nobody ever plans for. But my number one request for our wedding night, I've told my fiance that from the day that I met him, I said, if this works out, Remy and Hazel will be at my wedding. There's no. You're never going to argue that. You're never going to. That's not going to happen. Like, That's a requirement. And trying to get them like, where. And then my other one was that I wanted to be married in the mountains. But the mountains to me are Colorado.
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Right.
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Colorado and the west. I think of the mountains out west more than I do, really. The Smokies, if you will. And trying to figure out how to get both of them there that's safe for them and doesn't add stress to their life is just not really working out in the way that I had hoped.
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Really.
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It's just like I can't do certain travel with Remy. I can't put her on a flight. She's too big. And do that in a way that's not stressful to her. And that means road tripping, which means taking more time off, which also means. Than being in a car for 22 hours at, you know, on the front and back end, which are stressful situations. Not for Remy. Remy's like the best little road trip traveler ever. But Hazel, not so much.
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She.
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She gets stressed out in a car
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that would be a long ride too.
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Yeah. And she. She does the road trip to Wichita.
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Well.
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Which is 11 hours, you know, and that's double that. So now I think we're starting to look at potentially North Carolina mountains. Something at that over here. That's a little bit less of a drive and. But that's what keeps happening. It's like everywhere that I. Oh, for sure. It feels like a roadblock happens of like, oh, I. This is what I want. This is what we're gonna do. We're gonna make it happen and. Okay, never mind.
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Like, let me go back on that. Do you have a general date? Like, general.
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Because it's gonna be like a elopement micro wedding. We don't have to in. And I want it in nature. That's also something that I really want. That particular, like the ceremony, I don't have to worry near as much about, like planning too far in advance for.
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Right. Yeah. Which is. That's good. That makes it.
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Yes.
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A huge.
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So potentially the fall. I would love to have it. Fall's my favorite. Yeah.
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Woo. Yeah. Be ready.
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Yeah. Because again, like when you do the elopement and stuff, once you really get like a good elopement photographer who is also a planner and can like, sort that stuff out, everything else kind of comes together pretty easily. And you don't have to plan for vendors and, you know, all those different things that come into play.
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All that stresses me out. When you say vendors, I'm just like, oh, my gosh. Oh, My gosh. Because we went to, like, a bridal show just for fun.
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It was.
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It was like, a couple weeks ago just to see. And I mean, people were intense there. Like, the girls were dressed up in, like, they were ready to go with their girls. Basically had sashes on. Like, I'm the bride. And I just walked in. We just, like, stopped by and they were so excited, like, writing things down. I'm like, I'm literally just trying to get an idea of, like, what it all entails. And I was like, oh, my gosh. Okay, we need to go. Because it was just a lot. It was helpful. I mean, it's cool to see what there is, like, visually. But I was just like, oh, my gosh.
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Well, I think that's the coolest thing about weddings now is there's endless options. You can really do whatever you want to do, but with that comes a whole bunch of money for one day.
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Oh, my gosh. I know. Oh, man. Like, I've talked to some of my friends that have gotten married in, like, Kansas City, and I. I'm shooketh and that's like, Kansas City. Yeah. When they were really nice weddings. But, I mean, so Nashville is not what I'm not.
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Also, like, I. Do you feel like you're the kind of person who loves the sit down meal? I'm not a big. I don't need a five course dinner. I've never done well with those.
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No. Especially with people around. Like, there's no way you're even gonna be just, like, sitting.
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Yeah. Like the whole nice course meal. I'm like a buffet girl.
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Mm.
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Give me a whole spread of options and I'm happy.
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Right. Yeah.
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And so, like, those nice weddings also just don't do it for me in that, like, I love attending them. They're fun to experience and be a part of it. But if it was my wedding and I just want to, like, focus on getting married and hanging out with the people that I love most, that doesn't feel like the right track for me.
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Do you feel that? You know that? Yeah. No, I agree. Yeah. Because I've been to both types, and I like them both. That's really nice to just have, like, a really nice meal served to you. Yep. But also, I love the buffet because you can just go get whatever you want. And it's just. It feels more like, casual.
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Yeah.
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Which I'm more casual than, like, formal.
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Same. We're casual girl. Yes.
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Yeah, we are.
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I had a friend that had a late night Mac and cheese bar at her wedding. Then I still think about it.
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That's awesome.
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Dancing. And it was like the late night snack and it was a Mac and cheese bar. Like, build your own. I still think about that a lot.
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That's what I want to do. It's like something when everybody. You know that midnight snack that people are like hungry. You're like, okay, what can we bring out? That's like somebody I knew had a french fry bar. See like every type of friend, like, fry.
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I love that.
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It was the best.
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And see if I can do like a party here. I feel like I can implement some of those fun things and it be more fun.
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Yeah.
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Like little lively atmosphere.
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Then.
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I don't know. Wedding weddings, for me specifically, feeling like how I feel. They feel performative. They feel like it's. It's to show everybody everything and like it's yourself. It doesn't feel like a party sometimes. You know what I mean?
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Yeah.
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And I just want it to be a party. I want it to actually be fun. The whole. The whole point of getting married is to have fun.
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It is.
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And to like be in love and celebrate your love. And some weddings I've been to just feel a little bit more performative. And that's great because they loved them. But I'm not that way.
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Yeah, me neither.
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I don't want to perform for anybody.
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Beach in the sand.
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Yep.
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Wind blowing through my hair. Not like super formal and quiet. You know. I don't like that.
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Does your fiance lean into the beach idea too?
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He's good with it. Yeah. He. He thought it would be fun, like a Nashville wedding because all his like family and friends would want to come. That'd be fun for them. But I'm like, okay. You know how expensive that is in Nashville? Like we've looked at some of the venues and my jaw is like on the floor at one of them. I couldn't even believe it. I couldn't even believe it. I'm like, that's just for the venue. Yeah. I'm scared.
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Email to have like just rent out a place for a party. I'm scared for that email.
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Yeah.
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And that's not even like a full on wedding venue.
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I know.
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I'm talking about like renting out maybe like a little restaurant space for three hours or something.
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Which that'd probably be better. Something like that. But not an actual, like, venue. Yeah. It's. It's crazy.
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I'm glad you guys are on the same wavelength though.
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Yeah.
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It's tough when people are on two different ones and somebody wants a Micro wedding. And somebody wants a massive wedding.
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That's true. But he's also like, he's a get done person. I'm like, oh, I don't know. So he's kind of at the point, like, okay, do you want me to decide? Like if you can't make a decision, I'm like, I don't know.
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So do you guys want to get married this year?
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I mean, I wanted like fall or spring springs. Too soon. Fall. I feel like it's still a little soon of this year. Yeah.
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And we are technically, especially at this point after the cruise. We're going to be in March.
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Yes. Which is spring. So that's not going to happen. Unless it's just like an elopement.
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Yeah. Unless you just drive down to the beach and go get a load like, you know, you guys.
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Which could happen. That could. But I don't see myself doing that. I need my people there at least. Like my main like family and you know. Mm.
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Kind of like what I'm talking about. But on a beach.
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Yeah, exactly.
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Which is easy to do. I mean, heck, even if you have two months notice, you can easy make that happen. You know what I mean? Like, you just need enough time for everybody to buy cheap flights and be there.
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Right.
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We're also talking about renting if we do a mountain place. If we can hopefully find one that works with everything. Is renting out an Airbnb and we're all staying there together, so.
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Nice. Yeah, I've thought about that too. Yeah, that'd be so fun just to have like a 10 bedroom place or something. Exactly.
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And just fun. Everybody hangs out, we play games, we get some like taco bar happening in there or some Italian that we pick up from a restaurant. I don't know, I just, I love the, that the act to me of a wedding is just supposed to be about family and love and gathering more than it is about the presentation of it. And don't get me wrong, I'm gonna find me a really pretty wedding dress and that's gonna be the presentation that matters to me.
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Oh my God, I can't wait to try on dresses. I haven't.
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I do. I haven't either. Well, okay, I did one, but it was for a friend's thing. It wasn't for my wedding.
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Okay.
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Yeah. It was not part of like my wedding dress shopping, which was funny.
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Did you go dress shopping? No, no.
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But we are talking about going in April.
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Oh, nice.
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So where?
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Nashville.
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Yeah, I think my family and his family's gonna fly in all the girls and go pick out or go try on wedding dresses and have that whole experience for a weekend.
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Oh, my gosh. That's what I'm most excited for because I. You know how people go and just, like, try them on for fun. I was like, I'm not gonna. Why would I ever do that? Why would I get my hopes up, you know, and ever try one on before I'm actually engaged? So it's really exciting.
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The same way I haven't tried one on either. Until my. My friend's, like, event that I was doing something with her for, I was like, this is the first time I'm trying on wedding dresses ever. And I'm actually a fiance, too.
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Is that weird?
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It felt weird.
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Oh, my gosh. It's gonna be, like, crazy because I've always, like, watched it, you know, on shows, like, where they're, like, they go together and try on a dress and it's, like, super emotional and. Yep, I've just seen that part.
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So I know now we get to
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experience that this year. That's crazy.
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I'm with you. That is the part that I'm most excited about. I'm trying to think of, like, the other things that I'm most excited about, too. Okay, well, we'll take a break, we'll come back, and we'll keep talking more. Wedding. In 2023, a story gripped the UK, evoking horror and disbelief. A nurse who should have been in charge of caring for tiny babies is now the most prolific child killer in modern British history. Everyone thought they knew how it ended.
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I'm excited for the cake. Trying all the different ones.
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So if you do an elopement, will you still get a cake?
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Yeah. Yeah, you have to have the cake. You have to cut the cake. But I guess if you have that party, is that when you have the cake, like, when you come back? Also know the best part is you
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can do whatever the heck you want now.
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Whatever you want. It doesn't matter. Nobody you're reporting to.
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Exactly. And that's how it's supposed to be. It's not anybody else's wedding. It's not, you know, Meemaw from eight Sisters down, it's not their wedding.
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And that's why it's so hard, because the possibilities are endless. I mean, well, you got a budget. If you have a budget. Yeah. You can't have everything. But I'm like, oh, you can have anything.
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Well, and, you know, like, think the budget, too. Thing is also driving me crazy with the elopement stuff, because even elopements are now expensive. Trying to find if I. You do hire a photographer. Wedding planner. That's also expensive.
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Yes.
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Insanely expensive. I'm not saying also, like, insanely expensive. And that's. Then I start adding up price. I'm like, okay, if I do it this way, is it still gonna be the same amount if I just had a wedding here at this place on one day? But that's not what I want.
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I know everything is jacked up when it has to do with a wedding. Like, if you say wedding, you know, you could be like, oh, I want to rent this place for a birthday party. If you say it's for a wedding, it's probably, like, double. I mean, that's what I've heard.
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I know there's people doing this now. I'm on wedding talk. I saw one girl pose, and she was, like, thinking about planning my wedding. Then there's all these, like, dumpster fire memes popping up after. And I was like, that's my brain right now. Yeah, that's how I feel. But there is a lot of people on wedding talk talking about how this is the case if you mention wedding. And I'm the person who completely respects that. Anyone in the service industry, you pay for what you're getting right. And I very much believe in that. And there are things that make sense for cost, but it's like search pricing, and Ubers, right? Yeah, you need. People need the service, so they're gonna use it. But the difference is, do I need the service? You know, at the end of the day, do I need the service?
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Yeah, I know.
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A
Or is it something I can figure something else out, and that's what's hard about it, you know? And then you regret it. Like, one thing that my fiance and I have talked about is him and I both love photos. Videos. Like, that's how we just see life. We love to take pictures. We love to have pictures we loved. I. For our one year, I got him photo books of all of our trips. Each one was a different book of all of our photos we took of each trip. And, like, that's just how we love to see. See our life is through the pictures that we took and what we did. And so that's a priority, but a priority to have photo and videos. Everybody at 15 grand. 15 grand.
- [23:36]
B
What? Yeah. Whoa. Oh, my. Yeah.
- [23:41]
A
Insane. Again. I respect it. I know that's a grind. I work in photo and video. I know how much work that is, and I respect it. But it's wild. Yeah, that's wild to me.
- [23:54]
B
And that's only one thing. That's only one thing. You're. You're scheduling.
- [23:58]
A
That's one. And that's if you, like, just get one or the other or it. Yeah. So these are the rabbit holes. I go down, and then I just end up quitting because I get overwhelmed.
- [24:08]
B
Oh, good. Well, I'm not even in any rabbit holes, and it's comfortable.
- [24:14]
A
You're not quitting at all because you don't have to start.
- [24:16]
B
I, like, look down the rabbit hole, but I'm like, nah, I'll stay up here. That's good.
- [24:20]
A
So you're, like, watching my little tail be down there, and then I just, like, back.
- [24:23]
B
Back up. Just give me, like, the recap. Oh, that's so bad.
- [24:32]
A
Yeah.
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B
One of these days, I'll be able to jump in. One day, things I feel like will get less crazy and.
- [24:37]
A
And I do feel like after the cruise, I'll have some time because I've kind of been zeroed in on that and trying to work on just 80 million different projects to prepare for being gone. That's the other thing is so much of this job is being prepared to be gone, to then be ready to be gone. So then when you come back, it's not A disaster.
- [24:54]
B
No. Yeah, yeah.
- [24:55]
A
And I'm doing a lot of that, so I don't know. I don't know. I'm overwhelmed.
- [25:00]
B
We'll get it.
- [25:01]
A
I love being engaged, and I'm so excited to get married. Like, genuinely so excited. But weddings these days have just become such an event, and it's just not. That's not what I pictured when I was a kid. You know what I mean?
- [25:14]
B
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I hear you. I don't know.
- [25:17]
A
That's my thoughts right now. Anything running through your head that we didn't address?
- [25:22]
B
I don't. I don't think so. No. I. I'm just so on the. I'm still on the fence of, like, the beach or home. It's. It's hard because I feel like I want so many people to be there at the wedding. Like, I want to do what you want. You like the small wedding and then come back and have the party. But I'm also like, oh, I want them at the wedding, too. And then we could just do a reception right after. So both. Like, I want to do both. So how do you decide which one?
- [25:47]
A
And I think a lot of. Sadly, a lot of it comes down to money and budget at the end of the day.
- [25:51]
B
Yeah, that's true.
- [25:52]
A
And figuring out just what works best and how it works and what you want ultimately, because there are so many outside factors in it. Right. And just people who just want. I can't believe how many people are just like, I can't. You know, I can't wait for your wedding. I can't. I'm like, wait, what? I don't even know if I'm having a wedding. I did. How you can't wait for it.
- [26:13]
B
Yeah. That's crazy.
- [26:14]
A
You know.
- [26:15]
B
Right.
- [26:16]
A
And I get it, because that's kind of a societal thing where we've been. You know, you get married and everybody comes, and that's what happens. But then in my head, I'm like, you think there's a wedding? I don't even know what wedding's happening and when it's happening.
- [26:29]
B
And it's impossible to invite everybody, you know, and, you know, like, everybody thinks that if they talk to you, they might. Yeah, it's hard.
- [26:37]
A
Yeah.
- [26:38]
B
And that is hard. Where do you do the cutoff? That's another thing, too.
- [26:41]
A
Oh, that's why make the.
- [26:43]
B
That's how.
- [26:44]
A
Exactly. That's how we got to the micro wedding idea was because we started spiraling when we, like, we're like, okay, we're gonna do close. Just our Immediate family. And then we do like our wedding parties. But then the moment we started adding the wedding parties, it was like a trickle down effect. It just, things kept getting added. I was like, what? This went from micro to macro.
- [27:06]
B
Yeah. Real fast. Oh my gosh.
- [27:09]
A
I was like, okay, back all that.
- [27:11]
B
Back up.
- [27:11]
A
Immediate family.
- [27:12]
B
Wait, you know, how many do you want bridesmaids?
- [27:16]
A
Well, if we get. If we do an elopement style, there's really just not that.
- [27:19]
B
Yeah.
- [27:21]
A
So I think I'd do a trip with my friends just to celebrate with them and just give people different opportunities to celebrate whether they want to come to the party or whether they want to come and do a trip together and kind of loop that trip in with like, what would be a bridal shower or whatever. I just don't. I don't want people to spend a bunch of money either, you know?
- [27:42]
B
Yeah.
- [27:44]
A
Because I know that's so valuable right now. And if I do a trip, I want them to want to go on the trip for it to be an actual trip versus just another bachelorette party.
- [27:54]
B
And I have to think because, like, I love going to weddings. Oh my gosh. Like, sign me up. No matter where it is, I want to go. But it's like some people, they don't. I always think that I'm like, what if they don't want to. What if it's too much trouble for them? Because it is a lot. If you have kids or pets, like, it's a lot. Well, and go out of town, their
- [28:10]
A
responsibility to say no, you know, and at least they got the invitation because that's what they. Everybody wants at the end of the day is the invitation.
- [28:17]
B
Yeah.
- [28:18]
A
To then say no. But that's the other thing. Kid free wedding. Ours will be kid free party or ceremony. Besides our immediate family and the. Our nieces, essentially. So that's another thing too, that adds a layer. People have a whole lot of opinions on that.
- [28:38]
B
Oh my. Oh, yeah.
- [28:40]
A
I would imagine if you had a wedding here, it wouldn't be kid free. Because he has kids. Right. You. It could just be his kids that come. Would you have a kid free wedding?
- [28:48]
B
Yeah, I would. Yes. Huh. I feel like every wedding I've been to has been kid free. Well, no, not really. Not really. Actually, no.
- [28:56]
A
Because they're like, yeah, all of them. None of them.
- [28:59]
B
Never mind. I do remember them like, and it's always like when it's really quiet in a church and yeah. They have to like, take them out or something.
- [29:07]
A
But that's another aspect for sure. And that Adds even more.
- [29:13]
B
That's stress. I get stressed on anything. But actually, I don't know. I don't know. We'll see. No, I would want it to be good for you.
- [29:21]
A
I think you're like a ping pong ball. This is like me when I keep choosing a different thing.
- [29:26]
B
This is me in real time, planning. Yeah. In real time.
- [29:29]
A
You're going down the rabbit hole with me. You are down the rabbit hole.
- [29:32]
B
I hate it. I hate doing that.
- [29:35]
A
Yeah, I hate it here, too.
- [29:35]
B
Oh, my head hurts. Oh, that's so bad. Oh, my gosh. That was real time of me being like, oh, no. Well, actually. Huh. Oh, no wonder he's annoyed.
- [29:47]
A
It's okay. You will figure it out. And it's like, both of our fiances have been great about it. They both want what we want at the end of the day. And my fiance's the same. He just wants to celebrate with our friends at the end of it all. And he's like, however we want to do that. We could have a party at the house for all I care. He's just very low key.
- [30:07]
B
Yeah. Yeah. Which is. That's good. Yeah, that is good.
- [30:09]
A
Just to be happy.
- [30:10]
B
We're similar, you know, it's not like, oh, I'm inviting 500 people to my wedding, and I'm having it in a castle. I don't know.
- [30:19]
A
I did think about that. There's a true allotment. People go to the Dolomites in Italy.
- [30:24]
B
Oh, my. Okay. Well, that's.
- [30:25]
A
And it's like $200 for the actual, like, to just do it in Italy.
- [30:29]
B
Where.
- [30:29]
A
The places. I know, but I can't bring Remy and Hazel, so.
- [30:34]
B
Oh, yeah.
- [30:34]
A
Knock that out for me.
- [30:36]
B
Oh, well, I know, but.
- [30:38]
A
Okay, am I wrong on this? Tell me, am I wrong? Because you've been to North Carolina and the Smokies, right?
- [30:44]
B
Yeah.
- [30:44]
A
And you've obviously been out west.
- [30:46]
B
Yes.
- [30:47]
A
The mountains out west. Do you think the Smokies in North Carolina mountains are mountains compared to, like, the mountains in the west?
- [30:57]
B
No. No.
- [30:59]
A
Right. I don't think there are mountains. Like, landscape, whatever. The actual.
- [31:04]
B
They're so beautiful. The ones in, like, North Carolina, like, the ones east, they're so pretty. But I don't actually, like, think of them as being full blown, like, take your breath away. Mountains. Like, when I was out for the Broncos game. I mean, you see those, and you're just like, oh, my gosh. I mean, I still think they're really pretty, but they're not quite like the ones in Denver. Yeah.
- [31:26]
A
It's like the peaks of them.
- [31:27]
B
Yeah. They're not as high, are they?
- [31:30]
A
No. The Appalachian Mountains and Smoky Mountains.
- [31:33]
B
No.
- [31:35]
A
Those are the only two, like major mountain ranges that I'm aware of over here on the east coast. I might just like brief knowledge right now without googling. But no. And I have a lot more 14 footers like the actual alpine mountains and stuff out west.
- [31:51]
B
But maybe it's just because my like viewpoint, like I've seen the rock like from far away and so you get that full effect. I don't know if I've gone far enough east to actually see that. I don't. It's harder to see them because it's just so hilly. You don't get just this full on
- [32:06]
A
view everything in my research because I'm. I keep trying to find videos of allotments just everywhere to see where I can manage and know they're not anywhere near each other. I really feel like the, the mountains of an east are just more rolling, ginormous structures.
- [32:23]
B
Yeah.
- [32:24]
A
And then the mountains out west are like peaks right through like jagged edged peaks. You know what I mean? And that's what I think of as a mountain.
- [32:34]
B
Yeah, me too. They're more. They have like this blue look to them. Like in Denver, you know, it's like blue and I don't know, it's like
- [32:41]
A
the Coors light can.
- [32:42]
B
Yes. There we go. What is it? You're.
- [32:44]
A
You're of your. If the mountains are blue, it's cold.
- [32:47]
B
Yeah, yeah.
- [32:48]
A
Or whatever.
- [32:48]
B
Change or. Yeah, yeah.
- [32:50]
A
On the can.
- [32:51]
B
I know what you're saying. I know what you're saying.
- [32:53]
A
The mountains are white or blue. I can't. I think it's blue. If they're blue and then you drink it because it's cold or whatever. But. Yeah. And that's, that's another thing I struggle with is because it's not the true mountains that I think of to get married in. But I'm just a mountain girly. Like I belong in a mountain town. That's what it is.
- [33:11]
B
That's why I want to get married in one.
- [33:13]
A
Maybe I'll move back there someday.
- [33:14]
B
Hey, maybe you could.
- [33:18]
A
This, this is, this is why I haven't talked about any wedding planning.
- [33:21]
B
Same. Oh my gosh. I get that text like daily. Hey, have you, you have any plans? No. They're probably like, what are you doing? I'm like, oh my gosh.
- [33:29]
A
Well, in all fairness, most people get engaged and they have their wedding plan in like two months.
- [33:33]
B
Yeah, they do.
- [33:34]
A
I have two friends that Got engaged. One that got engaged the month before I did. One that got engaged the month after me. Both have already sent out their saved to dates and I've already planned everything.
- [33:44]
B
No, they haven't. That stresses me out. They need to chill. They need slow their roll. Good gosh.
- [33:52]
A
I was like, dang, good for you guys. I. I don't know anything.
- [33:56]
B
Oh, my gosh. No. I've seen a lot like on the Nashville. Like there's girls groups or whatever on Facebook and they're all like, hey, just got engaged yesterday. Like, when. When am I supposed to send the save the dates and like all this stuff. Like, hey, we already picked the venue. I got engaged last week. But blah, blah, blah. I'm like, oh, my gosh. Okay, I give up.
- [34:15]
A
That's insanity to me. My brain came. I was just enjoying being engaged for a hot minute. I now have a ring on my finger. I'm just getting used to bringing the
- [34:23]
B
ring with me everywhere.
- [34:25]
A
How can I even think about, like the second part of that?
- [34:28]
B
I actually applaud them. That's pretty cool. I wish I was like that. I wish I was just like, okay, oh, we got this place, this date. We got our invite list. Okay, we're good. I wish I could do that.
- [34:39]
A
I love that for people.
- [34:40]
B
I do love that for you.
- [34:43]
A
Could not be us secret.
- [34:46]
B
What is your secret? Oh, my gosh.
- [34:48]
A
I know.
- [34:49]
B
Okay.
- [34:50]
A
You would have think too. We were the Pinterest generation. We grew up on Pinterest and we pinned everything we. I had a wedding board. Everybody did. Nothing on that Pinterest board is the same for me today. I am not the same human.
- [35:02]
B
That's kind of funny.
- [35:03]
A
Did you ever have a wedding Pinterest board?
- [35:05]
B
Not really, No. I. I was that type that. I don't like to get my hopes up. I don't like to plan for things that I don't know are gonna happen.
- [35:13]
A
Worst case scenario, girly, I see you.
- [35:17]
B
This won't happen.
- [35:19]
A
I'm gonna blame for it.
- [35:20]
B
I don't know. I don't know. I was. Yeah, I mean, I did like a generic one, I guess just ideas.
- [35:27]
A
But you should have seen the things that were on my Pinterest board from when I was a teenager.
- [35:31]
B
What was it?
- [35:32]
A
There was all kinds of colors in different directions that did not match each other, mind you, and just different ideas. I really thought I wanted a barn wedding, which I love. Barn weddings are so beautiful.
- [35:46]
B
I don't.
- [35:46]
A
I. I'm. I've drastically changed to who I was as a teenager.
- [35:50]
B
That is that is very interesting. That's cool. It is cool, though.
- [35:54]
A
It's cool to look back on. Yeah, it's funny, but nothing the same. Like, I even thought I wanted an engagement ring that had a sapphire diamond or green. I can't remember what the green ones are called.
- [36:06]
B
Is it emerald?
- [36:06]
A
Yes, emerald. I thought I had those pinned because those are the rings that I thought I wanted. Then I went in person when we went ring shopping. I was like, nevermind.
- [36:15]
B
You didn't like it?
- [36:15]
A
I think maybe that's like a fun anniversary gift at a certain point.
- [36:19]
B
Yeah.
- [36:20]
A
Because I loved them, but they just didn't scream engagement ring to me when I was actually putting them on and stuff. But yeah, I've gone through a few lives, you know.
- [36:29]
B
You have. Well now. Now what you have is, I guess, what matters. Like, but it is interesting to look back and see what you used to have.
- [36:38]
A
Did you think you wanted a beach wedding when you were a kid? Do you remember that? Because you're a beach girly now. You've always been like, as an adult. Yeah, but were you as a kid?
- [36:49]
B
Yeah. Oh, I definitely was, but I just didn't think a wedding was there, you know, like, my mom got married for the second time to my stepdad at
- [36:56]
A
a beach and then that introduced it.
- [36:58]
B
Yeah, but that was more like recent, I guess. I always thought like a wedding had to be in a church. Walking down the aisle. Like, that's just what I pictured a church to be. You know how. Or a wedding. You know how. Like even the emoji or whatever on your iPhone, it's like a church. Yep. And then like the love or a heart. I just always thought it had to be like this formal. Walk down the aisle and do that. So that's kind of what I always pictured. But now I'm like, no, that's. That's not me. To be in like a. Inside. I don't know.
- [37:29]
A
Not to be in an inside.
- [37:31]
B
Not to be in a church. I'm just kidding. Not to be inside and like, quiet. Like, I don't like where you can hear like just every.
- [37:39]
A
A pin drop.
- [37:40]
B
Yes, that. Always something like that.
- [37:43]
A
Yeah.
- [37:43]
B
More casual.
- [37:44]
A
Yeah, you and I are both casual for sure. So there's our entire wedding update.
- [37:49]
B
Awesome. We're making progress. You're making progress, but yes, exactly.
- [37:55]
A
That's literally what I'm making. That's about it.
- [37:59]
B
Not quite progress, but progress. Oh, man.
- [38:05]
A
So maybe we'll both be married by the end of this year or maybe next year.
- [38:09]
B
You never know. No, I do Kind of feel better though, because I thought I was way behind.
- [38:14]
A
No, I'm. I'm with you. Honestly, like, work just kind of dominates my life a little bit, and so it's hard to focus on other things. I'm also trying to have a social life and take care of my health and both of my dog and cat are going through stuff and it's just hard to make something a priority. That's another full time job, truly.
- [38:32]
B
Yeah. Yeah. I mean, that's wedding planners, which I thinking about hiring planner to help me.
- [38:39]
A
I see why they're important. I see. I see why the services are necessary. I get it all. Understandable. So we'll see. But maybe. Maybe my fall.
- [38:49]
B
I've done it. Yeah.
- [38:51]
A
Tied the little knot.
- [38:53]
B
Oh, my gosh. That's crazy. I think about.
- [38:55]
A
I don't know. Okay, we're gonna take a break. We'll come back and talk about some other things. Outside of wedding things. I really loved my consistency in that and both of those breaks right before I said wedding things.
- [39:08]
B
Wedding things.
- [39:09]
A
Yeah.
- [39:09]
B
Yes.
- [39:10]
A
I really appreciated that about myself. Okay, outside of wedding planning, what's going on in your life right now?
- [39:19]
B
Oh, not much. Trying to survive.
- [39:21]
A
Trying to survive. You mentioned you were. You were about to start training.
- [39:25]
B
Yes. Oh, yeah. I need to start doing that now that the weather's getting nicer.
- [39:28]
A
Yeah.
- [39:29]
B
Because I'm doing the half marathon again, the St. Jude one in Nashville that I do every year. It's in April, so I need to start training for that.
- [39:35]
A
It's exciting.
- [39:36]
B
Yes.
- [39:37]
A
But you did just add something to your plate for sure.
- [39:39]
B
Yes, I did. Which, I mean, I just, like, don't work out that much anymore. It's bad, like, and I love working out. So that's been another thing. I'm like, oh, I just need to get back to my routine of working out. It makes me feel better.
- [39:52]
A
I feel that I've been trying really hard to work out in the mornings before we come into work because that seems like the only time in my life. And even trying to do that, I haven't succeeded super well these last couple months. Also, it doesn't help because in my whole health journey, I learned that a lot of the stuff I was doing was more harmful for my body. A lot of the workouts and stuff that I was doing because. Because of the stage that I was in, of how bad my body was just taking hits left and right that I wasn't allowing it to have even recovery, if you will. Because it's what, you know, you grow up. If you play sports at all. You're just trained into that mentality of you work out and you lift weights and you go hard.
- [40:32]
B
Right.
- [40:32]
A
And I kind of had to really flip the script on that. And so now it's hard for me to get up to go work out because I'm like. Well, technically, it's not, like, the best thing for me.
- [40:42]
B
It's a rest day, and tomorrow's a rest day. We'll get started.
- [40:47]
A
Walking is super important. And that I don't do enough of. And I've been trying to because we work sedentary jobs.
- [40:54]
B
Oh, I know.
- [40:55]
A
And I don't get near enough steps in. So that's kind of become a focus for me. Is trying to just walk more.
- [41:01]
B
Yeah.
- [41:02]
A
But then you learn. Lose body mass. The whole thing.
- [41:06]
B
It is. I know. I feel like I am. Like, I have no muscle anymore. Like, none, you know? And I want to get back to that. I just feel so weak. I hate feeling weak. It's not a good feeling.
- [41:15]
A
You're not weak, though.
- [41:17]
B
I'm pretty weak. Don't.
- [41:19]
A
Did you try and lift your phone and you couldn't.
- [41:20]
B
You wouldn't.
- [41:21]
A
Okay, then you're not, like, 1 ounce. Okay. Okay. Did you try and live to box and you couldn't?
- [41:29]
B
Remember one time you and I, we, like, arm wrestled in the green room. It was like dirt. Like, a bit we were doing.
- [41:35]
A
Oh, yeah.
- [41:35]
B
And I just wanted to see. And I think, like, you almost snapped my arm. Like, I think I gave up. And I was like, no, let's not even try.
- [41:43]
A
Okay. But in all fairness, that was, like, prime Morgan gym rat era.
- [41:48]
B
Yeah. That was, like, two years ago. It was like, what a. I was
- [41:51]
A
in full gym rat mode. So give yourself some grace.
- [41:55]
B
Okay. Thank you. There. Now.
- [41:58]
A
I don't know that I would be able to do that.
- [42:00]
B
Okay, let's go. I'm just ready.
- [42:01]
A
Wrestling.
- [42:03]
B
No, I don't have any muscles.
- [42:05]
A
Well, I'm excited for you. This will be good.
- [42:07]
B
Thanks. Yeah. I just need to get back and run, get those endorphins going.
- [42:11]
A
Because endorsements make endorphins make you happy. Why can't I speak words in this studio? Yes.
- [42:16]
B
Yeah. It's something about these walls. They're so gray, sad. They make you tongue tied. I don't know.
- [42:24]
A
That's true, but. Okay. Exciting. Marathon training is upcoming. You added more to your plate. But also fun.
- [42:31]
B
Yeah. Oh, I do it every year. It's. I have to. It's just, like, there. But it just came up really fast this year.
- [42:37]
A
Do you have to start training again. Even though you've done it every year, do you feel like you have to retrain each year?
- [42:44]
B
Yeah, yeah, it goes away. Really? Yeah, it does.
- [42:46]
A
It's like trying to speak a language. If you don't practice, it goes away. Right.
- [42:49]
B
Because you don't want to get injured. Like when you just go out and do no miles and then you just do 13, you can get injured like shin splints or like my hips always hurt and stuff. So it. You just don't want to get that.
- [43:01]
A
Well. And I guess each year you're getting older and your body changes as you get older.
- [43:05]
B
Definitely. Probably like 20 years ago I would have been fine just going out and running one, but now I'm like, oh, you gotta train and you gotta strengthen those muscles that like you're using, which I just don't do. I don't do. Like the hip, you know, there's a lot of hip muscles that are in there.
- [43:19]
A
Oh, I get all kinds of videos on social media for hip mobility and I'm like, is that some kind of sign? Do I need this or something?
- [43:26]
B
Oh, maybe. Yeah. Hip stability.
- [43:29]
A
I'll send them to you. You can start working on your hip mobility.
- [43:32]
B
That's what I need. I'm on a hip mobility plan.
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A
Yeah, that sounds from Morgan's algorithm.
- [43:39]
B
You get wedding stuff and hip mobility
- [43:42]
A
and punch the monkey is about all that's on my algorithm right now.
- [43:45]
B
That's the cutest thing in the world. Is it sad because they, they were like bullying him, right?
- [43:50]
A
Oh, it was heartbreaking.
- [43:51]
B
And that's why he went to hug the little monkey.
- [43:53]
A
They gave him the, the stuffed orangutan because he got abandoned by his mom. They hand raised him for a couple weeks and then they were reintroducing him to the troop and that's when they started bullying him because he's a little different. Because once an animal has been not necessarily touched, but just interacted with humans on a certain level, there's something that happens and when they try and integrate again, it either can go super smooth or it doesn't. And it takes time. So it's super sad to watch him get bullied.
- [44:26]
B
I hate it. Oh, I've only really seen like the pictures of him like grabbing, running with his orangutan. It's so cute. I know. He's not on my algorithm. No, but he probably will be.
- [44:38]
A
Yeah, we talked about it. It's listening well, and like that. The thing that I love about punch too is that I feel like it's Bringing more awareness, too, because that enclosure that he's in is horrible. I've seen a lot of people talking about how, like, depends on the monkey, and they're more known for rocky environments and terrain, but I'm like, there's not even a little bit of grass. Not even, like, some. Like, everybody needs to touch grass.
- [45:02]
B
Is it just, like, concrete? Yeah, that's all I've seen. Yeah.
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A
And so that breaks my heart. So I feel like it's bringing some awareness to that of just being more aware of the things that you're supporting and in going to.
- [45:14]
B
And it's. Where. Where is that?
- [45:16]
A
It's in Japan. I think it's in a zoo in Japan. But zoos everywhere are hard, you know, like, of course there's always some good ones, but a lot of them aren't.
- [45:26]
B
I know. It makes me sad.
- [45:28]
A
And then I watch. Oh, my gosh. I mentioned that on part two of the podcast this week of talking about conspiracy. Did you hear that? Us talking about that?
- [45:38]
B
I did, yeah. I haven't. I didn't see it. Do I want. No. It's gonna be sad. Don't tell me it's horrible.
- [45:42]
A
Don't tell me it's horrible. But you should watch it.
- [45:44]
B
What's it on?
- [45:45]
A
It's on Netflix.
- [45:46]
B
Oh, gosh.
- [45:47]
A
Oh, horrible. I'm telling you, it. It's horrible. You will be sad. It's heartbreaking, but it's also having the information and the knowledge to do better, you know? And if we close our eyes, it's only gonna get worse.
- [45:58]
B
So.
- [45:58]
A
Yeah, it's like one of those. It's a catch 22. I hated watching it, genuinely. There was times I had to look away.
- [46:03]
B
Oh, man.
- [46:04]
A
But it just. Yeah. And so then everything that falls from that just makes you think about everything you think about, like, you know, SeaWorld and aquariums and all kinds of things. And then again, I go down another rabbit hole.
- [46:16]
B
I know. See, all of that makes me sad, too. They're confined.
- [46:20]
A
See, and this is also why wedding planning is hard. Is that just, like, I'm good. I'm happy. I'm in a really good relationship. I'm so in love. Life is great. But, like, also, life is not great. I'm like 90 of the things. And so wedding planning just feels, like, so.
- [46:35]
B
Right.
- [46:36]
A
I don't know how to explain it. It just doesn't. It feels detached.
- [46:39]
B
Yeah. Because there's just so much, like, heavy stuff going on out there that it's hard. Plan something happy.
- [46:44]
A
Exactly.
- [46:45]
B
Oh, but that's happening.
- [46:47]
A
And that's supposed to be a happy thing, and I don't want it to be doom and gloom over that. So I want to plan it when I'm happy.
- [46:53]
B
Right.
- [46:53]
A
I know, but I don't see a for foreseeable future where I'm like, not doom and gloom.
- [46:59]
B
I know. Oh, okay. Maybe 20, 28.
- [47:05]
A
Just wait a few years.
- [47:06]
B
No, it has to get better. We must get better.
- [47:08]
A
Yeah. That's why I'm watching more documentaries, Just trying to be more informed, understand what's going on so then I can make more informed decisions.
- [47:17]
B
I don't know.
- [47:17]
A
Do you like seafood?
- [47:18]
B
No.
- [47:19]
A
Okay, well, then you'll be good.
- [47:20]
B
I don't.
- [47:21]
A
You'll be good.
- [47:21]
B
But I. But that's why I don't. Because I don't like that they get caught and you kill them.
- [47:26]
A
Yeah. It's a. It's a lot of. Just the. The commercial fishing industry in general and how just horrible it is in a lot of ways. And we could be doing better, right? There's always ways we could be doing better.
- [47:36]
B
But.
- [47:37]
A
So, yeah, if you eat seafood, it's hard. It's gonna be a hard watch for sure. But if you don't, you know, you're already one step closer to doing better.
- [47:43]
B
But, yeah, I feel bad. I feel for them. I feel. Feel for the crabs being taken out and they're suffocating.
- [47:50]
A
Yeah.
- [47:50]
B
Like, stuff like that.
- [47:52]
A
It's a lot of that. It's more. It's more information on all of it. Crabs aren't in this one, but sharks and whales.
- [47:58]
B
No, I don't want to. Nope. I already know what they do. Sharks. The fins. Yeah. Nope. No. See, that, like, literally breaks my heart. I want to cry right now because I know. It's just so messed up. That's so messed up.
- [48:09]
A
Yeah. Humanity makes me sad.
- [48:12]
B
And I've ever done that. I hope you have a terrible day. Oh, that makes me mad.
- [48:17]
A
I know. I know. So, anyways.
- [48:21]
B
Anyway. Come on. Happy. Anything happens.
- [48:24]
A
We talked about weddings for 30 minutes, so I think we're good.
- [48:26]
B
Okay.
- [48:27]
A
But we, you know, all over the place, we are all.
- [48:29]
B
It's hard.
- [48:30]
A
Like, genuinely, I'm just in a place where it's hard to feel happy all the time. And I'm somebody who is genuinely an optimistic person, and I see the world in a way that we should be living it, but it's hard to not feel the heaviness of what's just going on out there in general. Anywhere with everything.
- [48:52]
B
Oh, my gosh. Right now on my TikTok is like 90s nostalgia and stuff, you know, And I'm like, oh, my gosh, I want to go back to that.
- [48:58]
A
A simpler time.
- [48:58]
B
Time. Yes. Like, just before phones and all that. Like, when it was aim, I just remember, like, getting on my computer and then you'd put, like, the away thing on. I'm, like, eating dinner. Brb. And I'd, like, make it different colors. And, like, you didn't talk on there until you came back to the computer. Like, just simple like that. And people had so much fun. There were no phones, like owl. They're just, like, living in the moment,
- [49:19]
A
out in nature all the time. And you were living your life.
- [49:22]
B
Oh, yeah. Yeah.
- [49:25]
A
Simpler times. That is. I think that's a big part of also why people are craving nostalgia right now. Truly is it goes. It takes us back to a different time, a happier time. Also, you know, your kids, if you were a kid in the 90s, then you're thinking back to reverting as a kid, and you just didn't have the same. You didn't have the knowledge that you have now.
- [49:45]
B
That's true. More innocent, just like ignorance is bliss, truly. And maybe it was happening, but I don't remember it being this crazy out there. Yeah.
- [49:54]
A
I mean, there's always things happening.
- [49:56]
B
Right. There was always bad.
- [49:57]
A
There's always been bad in the world. But we are more highlighted now because of our ability to have things at our fingertips at all times and it
- [50:06]
B
Being recorded and then we see it. Yeah. So it.
- [50:09]
A
There's a. It's a blessing and a curse. Right. It's. It's knowledge. And we have more information now than we've ever had before, and we get to have that knowledge and we get to do something with it. But on that flip side, it's also understanding that we now have that knowledge that isn't good and there isn't things. There are certain things you can't do anything about.
- [50:27]
B
Right.
- [50:28]
A
And you only have control over so much, but.
- [50:31]
B
Which is a problem for me. Yeah. Because I want, like, I want to help everything same. And I want to just be like, make it stop. But we can't. Exactly. If everybody did, if we all did, then we can make a difference. We can all, you know. True.
- [50:45]
A
One collective.
- [50:46]
B
Yes.
- [50:47]
A
There is a belief that, like, everybody's consciously awakening together right now, and. And it's gonna be a. A moment in time that something happens. I don't know that that's true, but there's a lot of people talking about that.
- [50:58]
B
Hopefully in a good way.
- [50:59]
A
Yeah.
- [51:00]
B
Yeah.
- [51:00]
A
A good Way. I think I know.
- [51:03]
B
Like, but I don't know.
- [51:04]
A
There's always also that saying where it's bad things have to happen for good things to come out into the open or whatever. Whatever that saying is. So who knows? Anyways, okay, let's see. Not happy now. What's something happening in your life right now? And on a good something, happy. What is something happy that happened in your life in the past week?
- [51:26]
B
I don't know.
- [51:28]
A
Something, something, anything, Anything.
- [51:31]
B
I got nothing. Happy.
- [51:34]
A
You're not helping us end on a good note. I don't.
- [51:38]
B
I haven't felt good this week. It's been a rough week. Okay. Like allergies or something.
- [51:42]
A
What about going back to the month in the past month? We're ending February, so this is a great place. I'll share that. We went and we. I talked with Mike D. About it, but it's still like, oh, gosh, this rings in my head all the time. Is visiting the residents at Abe's Garden, which is a senior living facility, and we gave him Valentine's.
- [52:00]
B
That's so cute.
- [52:02]
A
It was so special, and it keeps propelling me forward. Honestly, I love that. Yeah. So maybe that's a. A good thing that people can take. If. If you need some hope in your life or you're feeling a little doom and gloom like Abby and I, or things are just a little rough and life is hectic and whatnot, then volunteer. Volunteering always makes me feel back to earth. Something about just being with people and doing something that makes all of us feel good and benefit from. Is good for your body, good for your mind.
- [52:35]
B
Yeah. No, I love that so much. Old people are so cute and sweet. Before I was.
- [52:41]
A
Before I was seniors.
- [52:43]
B
Yeah. Sorry. I'm sorry. That wasn't very nice. No. But before I, like, worked in radio, I. I did my internship at a health and wellness center. And it was a cardiopulmonary rehab place. Yeah. Center. And they were, like, exercising under supervision. Like, we would take their blood pressure and stuff during it, and that was like my all time. It was the greatest thing ever because they, like, treated me like their granddaughter. And I was like. They were like my grandparents. They were so sweet. I just felt like part of their lives. And I was like, I love this. When they, like, graduated from the program, like, I wanted to. It was the saddest thing ever. Like, I was happy for them that they were, like, they made it through and were able to be on their own, but I was like, oh, my gosh. I don't. I'M gonna miss you, Bill.
- [53:21]
A
Not Bill.
- [53:22]
B
Yeah, I know.
- [53:23]
A
They're so sweet.
- [53:24]
B
I know. I didn't mean to say, like, old people, but old people are sweet.
- [53:29]
A
It's all right. I was guilty of it, too, before I started working with that community. But it's just rewarding. They have so many stories to tell, and they have a lot of love
- [53:38]
B
to give, but that was the most fulfilling thing I had ever done.
- [53:41]
A
And maybe that's what we all need, is more fulfilling things in our life.
- [53:44]
B
We do.
- [53:45]
A
So maybe that can. You know, I know that I'm holding onto that in hopes to do some more volunteer stuff to continue that, because it's the only time where I truly feel, like, a little weight lifted of just. Okay, this is where I'm supposed to be. This is what I'm supposed to be doing.
- [54:00]
B
Yeah.
- [54:01]
A
Move in this direction.
- [54:02]
B
And you know they're gonna remember that forever. Like, that's so cute to, like, come in and just give them, like, something small. But it means so much.
- [54:10]
A
Yeah.
- [54:10]
B
Especially for those. They don't have family that visit or anything, you know?
- [54:13]
A
Yeah. And see, that makes me down a sad place, so I'm not gonna go there. So I need a good thing from you for this past month.
- [54:19]
B
No, I don't have one. I don't have anything.
- [54:21]
A
There's Valentine's Day.
- [54:22]
B
Valentine's Day was great. Yes. He brought me flowers, wrote a super cute card. He's really good at writing, and it was just super sweet.
- [54:30]
A
Did you feel loved this month?
- [54:31]
B
I felt loved. I did. Huh.
- [54:33]
A
Did you feel supported this month?
- [54:35]
B
Yes.
- [54:36]
A
Did you have any good meals this month?
- [54:40]
B
Food? Sure. Yeah.
- [54:41]
A
Eat any good food?
- [54:42]
B
Yeah, we always have good food. Oh, I tried a pho for the first time. Okay.
- [54:46]
A
Did you like it?
- [54:46]
B
Pho. Pho. Pho.
- [54:49]
A
Yeah, it was so good.
- [54:50]
B
I think it's pho. Oh, it's like, my new favorite thing.
- [54:52]
A
Really?
- [54:53]
B
It's really good.
- [54:54]
A
You're not super adventurous with food, so I'm impressed.
- [54:56]
B
I'm not.
- [54:57]
A
Ms. Fry butts and salads.
- [55:00]
B
Yep.
- [55:01]
A
So fuzz. An adventurous take for you.
- [55:03]
B
Good. Yeah. It's weird they put so much stuff in it because I'm very picky. Yeah. Like, I would rather just have ramen noodles, like, with nothing in it.
- [55:10]
A
Just straight up noodles.
- [55:11]
B
Yeah. But this, they put, like, an egg and, like, all this.
- [55:15]
A
And you liked it?
- [55:16]
B
Yeah.
- [55:16]
A
See, we found good.
- [55:17]
B
We did.
- [55:20]
A
Okay, we're getting out of here before
- [55:22]
B
I go back down a rabbit hole
- [55:23]
A
and Abby finds me and keeps digging holes for me to go down?
- [55:27]
B
No, everything's great. I can't see outside, but I'm sure it's.
- [55:32]
A
It's all gray in here. In the studio, running that does not help anybody. Why didn't they make these studios of the walls blue or purple or red or.
- [55:40]
B
Right. What's a pleasant color? Because it could be anything but gray.
- [55:44]
A
You know what's funny is my favorite color has kind of become brown. And it's funny because that's a neutral, and that's like a kind of a sad color. Everybody associates brown with, like, mud or poop.
- [55:53]
B
No, I love brown. I was wearing all brown yesterday.
- [55:55]
A
I loved your brown outfit.
- [55:56]
B
Thank you. Oh, yeah.
- [55:58]
A
See, we did it. We found some good things.
- [56:00]
B
Yay.
- [56:00]
A
All right, Abby, what's your Instagram?
- [56:03]
B
It's Abby Lee Anderson.
- [56:07]
A
And I. I'm obgirlmorgan. You can follow the show obbyboneshow. Thanks for being here on our TED Talk.
- [56:14]
B
Thank you. Don't worry, be happy.
- [56:16]
A
Bye, everybody. That's the best bits of the week with Morgan. Thanks for listening. Be sure to check out the other two parts this weekend. Go follow the show on all social platforms. Bobbybones Show. And follow webgirlmorgan to submit your listener questions for next week's episode. This is an iHeart podcast. Guaranteed Human.