C (2:35)

The best bits of the week with.

A (2:37)

Morgan Part 1 Behind the Scenes with.

B (2:40)

A member of the show.

C (2:43)

Happy Saturday, everybody. Amy is joining this week and what's up, Amy? Hello.

A (2:48)

Hi. Happy Saturday.

C (2:50)

Are you excited to talk about all things fall, Halloween, moving into Thanksgiving, Christmas? Because that Is where we are.

A (2:56)

Okay. I know. I'm kind of excited about it. I know when the holidays ended last year, like after Christmas and New Year's, I was bummed because I felt like it went by really fast. And here it is again.

C (3:07)

I know I'm ready for it. Gonna come and go fast again.

A (3:10)

When she's ready. We're slowing it down.

C (3:12)

We're trying to.

A (3:13)

We're gonna. We're gonna. I don't know how, but we're gonna slow it down.

C (3:17)

I mean, I do keep Christmas around. I've already started decorating for Christmas. I decorated the day before Halloween.

A (3:23)

Oh, wow.

C (3:24)

And I normally always wait till November 1, but we didn't really have any big plans for Halloween. I was like, let's just go ahead and decorate the house for Christmas as Halloween activity.

A (3:35)

Some people in my neighborhood already have their Christmas lights up.

C (3:38)

See, we're just ready. And I'll keep them up through, like, February. I keep Christmas as long as I possibly can. I just love the lights. The lights make me feel so homey and cozy and happy. Yeah, it's my favorite thing. So I am officially, by the time you guys are listening to this podcast, Decorated for Christmas.

A (3:54)

Okay, that's amazing. It'll probably be November. I'm gonna try to do it like the first week of November or so, so I'm not far behind you. First or second? I guess that's like now, like either this coming week or the week after. I'll do it. I gotta figure out where my kids are.

C (4:09)

It's funny too. Cause the debate always comes up of, well, you're forgetting about Thanksgiving, but have you ever dec For Thanksgiving?

A (4:18)

I mean, I've done some fall type things, but no, I'm not someone that has like, turkeys or. But I mean, I. Or like those little, you know. I'm talking about the. Where the food comes, the fruit comes down.

C (4:32)

Like a U shape.

A (4:33)

And I'm not like a horn, but it's a. Oh, a cornucopia there. Yes, Cornucopia. I don't have one of those. But there are people, they wait till right after Thanksgiving. And I'm okay with that, but I. Seems a little late for me.

C (4:47)

I know.

B (4:47)

Well.

C (4:48)

And growing up, we always decorated for Christmas before Thanksgiving. So my Thanksgiving decorations, in my mind, were always Christmas decorations. Because it is true. What am I going to do? Put a bunch of turkeys up?

A (4:58)

Yeah, I'm just honestly ready for the movies. I want, like, all the Hallmark, like, what. Whatever they are. Netflix. Like, whenever you're Putting them out. I know that a lot of the Hallmark type ones started this week, but.

C (5:11)

I don't even like November 1st.

A (5:13)

Where to? Because I don't have those channels my boyfriend has.

C (5:17)

Okay, do you have YouTube TV? And your boyfriend has old school TV?

A (5:23)

He has everything. He has all the things. But he has. Yes, like, and then he has the streaming stuff, but he has legit, like Comcast or something.

C (5:32)

Well, then that's where you're watching the Hallmark movies.

A (5:35)

But I need to figure it out at my house too, because. And luckily he. He likes them. I think that's something he enjoys doing with his daughter because she loves him so much. She's 17 and I guess this year it's. I'm. It's going to be different because this time last year I wasn't as close to her as I am now. And so I guess now I feel more like I can be a part of that mix. So. Yeah, maybe we'll watch movies, have activities.

C (5:58)

Yeah. Oh, that'll be so much fun. Okay. Yes. You can't. I know. You can also watch hallmark stuff on YouTube TV. At least I've caught it there before. Okay, so if you have YouTube TV, that's the other way. Because YouTube TV is the closest to a cable type situation that I've seen where they have a bunch of different channels. Yeah.

A (6:15)

I might be able to find some stuff on my Hulu.

C (6:17)

So, yeah, Netflix always comes out with a bunch. But my favorite, like, what is the Christmas movie that marks Christmas season for you?

A (6:25)

I love Elf.

C (6:26)

Elf is the one.

A (6:28)

Yes, Elf. And while you were sleeping. While you were sleeping.

C (6:33)

Why did I not remember that one?

A (6:35)

Because it's not. It's probably just personal to my family, but my mom loved that movie and I feel like my sister and I watch it in honor of her around Christmas time. Cause it takes place. It sort of like could be the debate, like Home Alone, like, is it a Christmas movie or not? Just because it takes place at Christmas time. So I put it in that category.

C (6:56)

Yeah, it's like Harry Potter. Harry Potter to me always reminds me of Christmas, but it's not a Christmas movie. But it takes place during Christmas and it feels very Christmassy.

A (7:03)

Y.

C (7:04)

So I think it fits in that.

A (7:06)

So for me, I know that's a little bit of a different answer, but that is Christmas for me.

C (7:11)

Well, it probably brings back memories of your mom and I think.

A (7:14)

Cool. Elf. Home alone while you were sleeping. I guess Home alone. I don't really go back to that as much as I used to when I was younger, I loved it. But Elf I could go back to now and while you were sleeping, no problem. But Home Alone, I don't know that I could sit there and watch the whole thing.

C (7:32)

It's been a long time since I've watched Home Alone. I don't know that I. That's even one of the ones I would gravitate towards of normal Christmas movies. I don't know. But I'm also not a Chris like Christmas Vacation lampoons that kind of movie series either. I never got into those. But the one that always marks it for me and I always try and find it. It's how the Grinch Stole Christmas with like that live action of it. Not the cartoon one.

A (7:58)

Like Jimmy Carrey.

C (7:59)

Yes, his and Whoville. That's always my markup started. You've never seen that one, have you seen the cartoon? I'm sure, Yeah, A long time ago.

A (8:10)

Yeah. When I was a kid.

C (8:11)

You've never seen the Jim Carrey.

A (8:14)

Stop.

C (8:15)

You have to watch this. Especially, like, if his daughter loves Christmas movies and stuff. I bet she loves that movie.

A (8:19)

Okay, I'll ask her. Well, I mean, she loves the Hallmark type ones. That's very different than.

C (8:24)

That's true. It is very different. But I bet because at least for me, growing up, Cindy Lou was like my. I loved her. I wanted to be Cindy Lou.

A (8:34)

Yeah. I don't know. I wonder why I missed that. I don't know, like, what was going on, like, why I never dabbled in that, especially with kids. I'm gonna have to ask my kids if they've watched it.

C (8:46)

Yeah. Okay. For the sake of my Christmas heart, because it's my favorite, I need you to watch it at some point this holiday season.

A (8:52)

Okay, Deal. And you have to watch while you were sleeping.

C (8:54)

Deal.

A (8:54)

You'll like it.

C (8:55)

I think I like, have seen it, but I don't know that I've ever watched it. Like, seen it pop up. And I love Sandra Bullock, so that'll be an easy one. Okay. And fall activities wise, have you done anything even fall related this season?

A (9:07)

We carve pumpkins. That's it? That's all you've done with the kids? Yeah.

C (9:14)

You go to a pumpkin patch to pick them?

A (9:16)

No, we just went to the store and bought pumpkins and then carved them.

C (9:21)

Isn't that so funny? Now that you could go to a Target, you go to Trader Joe's or a Walmart and grab a pumpkin and you go. Before it used to have to be you had to go to a pumpkin patch to get a Pumpkin.

A (9:31)

Hmm. I think I've always got them at the grocery store.

C (9:34)

Really?

A (9:35)

Yeah. A pumpkin like a normal just carving pumpkin. Yeah.

B (9:39)

Yeah.

A (9:40)

But there's also, you know, around town, there's cute little side of the road. You know those ones, they have really cute stuff. Like there's one on 12 South.

C (9:50)

Yeah, no, I love those.

A (9:51)

And one on Granny White.

C (9:53)

The mums are probably less expensive than the ones that Ray told you.

A (9:56)

And then they flip.

C (9:57)

Yes.

A (9:57)

Yes. Ray's mothers are dying, by the way. I guess they've hit their 45 days. Or not. Even the. The pumpkin things, they. They flip right after they turn into wreaths and Christmas trees.

C (10:12)

Yes. Which is always. I always love the Christmas trees. Like, sometimes I'll just pull up to those and I'll walk through them. Like a little Christmas tree farm. I just like to walk through them. There's something about warm lights that will just. You could put up warm lights on a patio, and I'd be like, I want to go there. And it's somebody's house. I just love a.

A (10:28)

It's inviting.

C (10:29)

Yes. Something about that. We did do carving pumpkins, but something that I brought from my childhood that my boyfriend had never done was cook the pumpkin seeds. Did you guys cook them?

A (10:39)

Oh, no.

C (10:40)

You just threw them away?

A (10:41)

Yeah.

C (10:42)

So I put them into, like, three different ones and all these different seasonings and tried different fun flavors and stuff on them, and that's so yummy. The best one was an everyday seasoning from World Market. It kind of shocked me because I'd never had this seasoning before, but it was, like, perfectly salty. It had a lemon paprika to it, and it was really good.

A (11:01)

Ooh, okay. I wish I would have thought to do that, but. Oh, I forgot. I guess deer. You know, I have deer that visit my yard. I haven't seen them pop up. They must be eating pumpkins, and then they're using the bathroom.

C (11:15)

Oh.

A (11:15)

So I keep finding little piles of, like, pumpkin seeds and stuff. I'm like, okay, have they.

C (11:22)

Did you set your carving pumpkins out? Have they tried to eat your pumpkins?

A (11:24)

No, they're at my boyfriend's house. And no, he doesn't really have deer that visit.

C (11:29)

You should when they're done. And when you're done with them, you should give them to them. They'll be a good recycle way to get rid of the pumpkins. Because I've also heard people will recycle their pumpkins and take them to the zoos.

A (11:40)

Yes, you can do that. You can use them. For compost. Yeah. There's a lot of different ways besides just throwing them in the trash can.

C (11:47)

Yes. Okay, so not a lot of fall activities happening. Besides, we both carved pumpkins and that was it.

A (11:53)

Yeah. I feel like that's pretty good, though.

C (11:55)

I know.

A (11:55)

What other fall activities are there?

C (11:57)

Frolicking in the leaves.

A (11:59)

I don't know. Bobbing for apples.

C (12:01)

Halloween parties. I didn't even dress up this year.

A (12:04)

No, me neither.

C (12:05)

And I love dressing up. That's always normally a fun part, but I just. It snuck up on me, and I was like, okay, it's here. Okay, goodbye.

A (12:11)

Yeah. No, I've never been into it, and I don't know why it makes me wonder, because, you know, it's almost like there's two types of people. Like, those that just, like, go all out and always have, like, the best costumes, and they'll work on it for a while and make it like, I saw your costume carousel of all your costumes in the past. I was like, oh, those are legit. I don't have that. But I've never, like, dressing up for parties has always been really, really hard for me, and I don't know why. Like, even in college, like, there was date parties and there's a theme. Like, I just.

C (12:38)

There were even theme parties. You didn't, like, go all out?

A (12:41)

No, it was not. I'm not saying it wasn't fun. I just wonder what it is about me that doesn't get into it. Because I would like to. I would, like, I, I. I feel like, oh, that would be cool to be that person, that kind of person. Like, what's wrong with me? Do you feel like you're not a loser? No, no, I do. I am.

C (13:02)

You're not.

A (13:02)

Well, it feels that way, but.

C (13:04)

Okay.

A (13:04)

But you're not. Yeah.

C (13:05)

It might just be more of a. It's more of on your side of creativity. You have different versions of creativity, and maybe that one just really doesn't spark a thing for you. So instead it becomes more of a chore, and then you don't want.

A (13:19)

It's, like, not fun.

C (13:20)

Yeah, maybe that's more what it is.

A (13:22)

Yeah.

C (13:22)

But that's definitely interesting that that's always been a reoccurring.

A (13:25)

No, it's like, a thing. And I think about it, like, I've thought about it ever since, like, high school, college, all the parties and people that have, like, these amazing costumes.

C (13:35)

Is your boyfriend like, to do this stuff? Okay, so it's not like you're.

A (13:39)

Now, I haven't made it up with people that it's not the ying to the yang kind of thing, where it's like, oh, yeah, you do this so you'll take care of it. No, neither one of us. We're both, like, lame. Like, last year we did spend Halloween together, but we were newly dating. Like, so this year it made sense. We were together, but last year it was on Halloween. That was the first time I met his kids. And we kept it casual. They were trick or treating and we were out and about, walking around in the area where they trick or treat, and the kids were scattered about at different houses and with friends running around, you know, so it was sort of like I just met them in the street in passing, and they knew that it was gonna happen. But he's like. And they're all in their costumes, like, hey, are you Amy? I mean, I was in my workout clothes and, like, sneakers. Like, I wasn't dressed up, he wasn't dressed up. And this year we did not dress up. So, yeah, no, to answer that question, we are both lame.

C (14:35)

But at least it makes it more casual for that being the first meeting instead of it being like, okay, we're going to have a dinner, somebody's coming over.

A (14:42)

Yeah, it worked out well.

C (14:42)

It was a whole thing. At least then they had plenty of things to distract. That just made it a little bit easier.

A (14:49)

Yeah. And then I think Halloween last year was on a Thursday. And so then that following Saturday, his daughter was having a party and it was at his house and he needed help chaperoning. So he checked with her, like, is it okay if Amy comes? And she was like, oh, yeah, you know, and we had just met on Thursday, so I helped her set up for the party. I helped her, like, sew a little bit of her costume, and I brought snacks and stuff for all their friends. I mean, there was a lot of teenagers there, and so she was busy doing her own thing. We didn't really hang out other than that. But I felt like that was a really good first weekend for us to connect because it allowed me to show up for her, you know, and it.

C (15:27)

Still, again, is easy and casual. There's not this, like, big hanging, this has to happen, you have to connect kind of situation. Okay, I have a follow up question, but I want to take a quick break and we're going to come back and I'll ask then.

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C (18:44)

Okay, so I want to know what it was like for you to kind of host a teen party because I don't think your kids have had a party at your house.

A (18:52)

No, they haven't. Like this, like, not like she was hosting a lot of her friends and they were all in ages 15, 16, 17. And so yeah, my kids, we haven't hosted a big party like that at my house before. He was very strict with the rules. No backpacks because then they could be hiding alcohol. No drinking, obviously. But one thing was you can't come in with a backpack. So we had to make sure that nobody had a backpack. And it was an all outdoor party, so they weren't inside. I mean they could come inside to use the restroom, but that was about it. Like all the food and snacks and music and everything was outside.

C (19:32)

And what was that like?

A (19:34)

It was fun. I mean we were pretty much inside, but we would peek outside and look every once in a while. And then, you know, there was some drama with this one girl, maybe she was from a different school, I can't remember, and this one boy. And so then when they showed up, we were really peeking. Oh, she came and so then we were staring to make sure it was good. And then they didn't stay long and they turned around and left. And yeah, some people would pop by because there was multiple parties that night. And I guess some, maybe there was drinking allowed so you could tell the kids that maybe wanted to be a part of that scene. But they would pop by and then they would be like, okay, we're gonna peace out or go do our own thing. And maybe they weren't going to drink. I don't know. Just my spidey senses were telling me.

C (20:13)

Yeah, you know, it's funny, you even describing that is funny to me because when I was in high school we were the house that would often host parties. And it's always funny looking back at that now because we, my parents had a pool and so we'd be in the backyard a lot. But I just always thought about my parents were inside and I just wonder what was going through their head while we were just out there having these like parties with all kinds of people. And were they questioning what we were doing? Were they worried about things? Like what was that process like as a parent when Your kids are just out there like having a party and you're like kind of have to let control go of them and what's happening.

A (20:49)

Yeah, well, we laid the ground rules down with her before it started and then everybody coming knew the rules so. And he, he was pretty serious about it. So he's not a practicing lawyer at this moment, but he is one like, like he's was a lawyer at one point and so he can get very like, you know, he'll present a case to his kids or have his reasons and if they want to counter it, they can present their side, but they do it in a deliberate, respectful way. And if they have a valid point, he will bend. But he wants them to not just whine about something if he lays down the law. Like he wants them to come back and state their side and their perspective. And so, you know, there were some things I think she was frustrated with, but then ultimately she understood and why he had some of the rules that he had and will continue to have. Just because people are crazy and there's. You could, he could end up liable for something that he's not responsible for. So we were, we laid down all the rules and then also we weren't just like letting them be and like, well, hope they're following it. Like we would pop out there every once in a while and just be like, hey, like. But not in an obvious way be like just refilling the chips or very movie esque. Yeah, like anybody need a soda? But you're kind of like walking around making sure that like there's no kids like hidden in the bushes or something.

C (22:17)

Yeah, he's definitely seen a lot of things. So he's very aware of the possibilities and things that can happen for sure, given that line of work.

A (22:25)

Well, yeah, I mean and I think just even being a parent, like there's a situation that happened in his circle, not his direct friends, but where there was a lawsuit that impacted multiple families and it like the one family decided to sue. I don't really think I would do that. But you just never know they got the right lawyer and even I think the lawyer that took the case was part of their group and was. Then it caused all this division in the. But amongst the parents and the adults. And I, he's just like, I don't want any part of that. Like this is something that could literally ruin the rest of your life just for your kids having a party. And I'm like, I went to so many parties when I was in high school where everybody was Drinking and the parents did not care whatsoever. And I'm not saying that that's how it should be, but I'm just shocked at how laid back they were about it with no worries when anybody could have, you know, talking about having a pool, which he has, like anybody could fall in, hit their head. Like they're just. You have to go through. You don't want to be doom and gloom and play out every worst case scenario that could happen. But it's like you never know and then you're the responsible one. And if someone's litigious and not understanding that it was genuinely a freak accident. And I guess if all the parents are in agreement and they know that there might be drinking, and I'm not saying this, there would be drinking at his parties, but I guess. And if I'm thinking of teenage parties, like sometimes if every single parent knows and they're aware, then you are sort of giving your consent, right? Yeah, but I know at the parties I was at, some of the parents knew, but then like my mom certainly didn't. Well, yeah.

C (24:05)

And I would say also like the pool parties we would have, like, there was never alcohol there. It was always when the parties that I went to that had alcohol, there was never parents home. You know, I was always done.

A (24:16)

Never went to any with parents. Oh man, I did.

C (24:18)

We had. There were some. But like, I still don't think the parents truly knew. We were pretty. I mean, we were putting alcohol in water bottles. Like we weren't, you know, we were pretty sneaky. We were very well versed in how we knew to get away with it. But like the big parties, the big house parties that I really think of, there was no parents home. They had no idea what was happening. So those are different situations.

A (24:38)

But I feel like times are changing with that though, because every. We didn't have the cameras back then. Sort of like now you can always know where your kids are with life360 or just even find my.

C (24:49)

Oh yeah. My parents had no idea I'd be out in a field somewhere.

A (24:52)

Exactly.

C (24:52)

They would have for sure took me home.

A (24:54)

We know where all the kids are. And I mean, shoot, we know if they're on foot or driving. Like that's how detailed like live 360 is. And then if you try to have people to your house and your parents are gone with all the, you know, ring cams and whatnot, it's just not the same.

C (25:10)

It isn't. And like I think of TPing like that used to be a big thing during homecoming week, we'd go and TP each other. Sometimes it got even. Like, there was a lobster in our pool at one point. That was a whole thing.

A (25:21)

A real live lobster.

C (25:23)

A bunch of guys put a lobster in our pool. My dad was not very happy. He chased him down the street. But, like, it was such a big part of our high school where we'd go and TP each other. And now you can't do that. There's ring cameras.

A (25:35)

Oh, so they still do it. My boyfriend's kids, they went.

C (25:41)

He.

A (25:42)

His son had a sleepover the other night, and the whole point of the sleepover was to go toilet paper this one girl's house. Because the weekend before, some girls had had a slumber party and toilet papered their house. And I guess the camera thing, it doesn't really matter. They just kind of do it, and then they get. They figure out who it is, and then they retaliate, but in good fun. But they still. Toilet paper. Toilet paper ring is still a thing.

C (26:06)

Okay, well, that makes me feel better, because that was one of my favorite parts of high school.

A (26:09)

And some of the trees are still far out enough to where maybe the ring cam won't.

C (26:14)

Yeah. And I guess if you wear, like, all black, maybe because the. The ring cameras aren't super clear, so you could get away with it. Maybe. But I just. It's such a bummer. Like, in a way, I know it's better now because more people are safe. We're more aware of things that are happening, but I just. All the things that I got away with are wild.

A (26:31)

Yeah. My yard got forked once. And then also, some of my friends in my neighborhood put a porter potty in my yard once.

B (26:39)

What?

C (26:40)

Are you serious?

A (26:40)

Yeah. Some of my guy friends, and I don't know why. I think they just thought it would be, like, so funny. My mom was not happy, and she was like, you need to call them right now. They need to come pick it up. Cause, like, how in the world are you supposed to get rid of a porta potty? So they did. They had to come. I had to call them. And I was like, if y' all don't come do it, my mom's gonna call your mom. So. And they were my friends. Like, it wasn't, like, a. An enemy thing. It was just. They were trying to be funny.

C (27:01)

Yeah. Well, and that's what it was. It was never like, you were doing it to be spiteful.

A (27:05)

Oh, well, one time, this girl, she hugged my house in eighth grade.

C (27:08)

Okay, well, I, too, Paintballed my house, so. Yes, that's true.

A (27:12)

Paintballed it. Oh, my.

C (27:14)

Oh, yeah. He also drove through my yard. It was a whole thing as an adult. Yeah. Were you in high school?

A (27:19)

Okay. I didn't know if this was, like, your ex boyfriend from a couple years ago.

C (27:24)

Not sure that was much better, but yeah. Yeah, I was a high school boyfriend.

A (27:27)

And he drove through your yard.

C (27:29)

Oh, yeah. Yeah, We. I talked. It was funny. I talked about that story on the podcast with my parents because it was like, recalling it because my dad, like, ran after him in his whitey tighties, and it was just like, we can really laugh about it now. But when it happened, it was terrifying. It was not a good moment in the house, and my parents were not happy with me. And. Yeah, so there some crazy things. And my dad took a lot of pride in his yard. He loves his yard. So when that guy tore up his grass, he was not happy.

A (27:56)

Oh, yeah. I'd be mad, but.

C (27:59)

Oh, okay. It's cool to see the perspective now. I wondered what times we're like now with kids and.

A (28:04)

I mean, but every parent is different. Like, I know friends or adult friends that, you know, allow certain things that we're just not gonna allow. Yeah, but I mean, yeah, everybody's different.

C (28:17)

Yeah, but still, it feels like once upon a time, at least in the early 2000s or middle 2000s, we were all kind of living the same life, and we were getting away with a lot of things. Now it's like the times have changed for sure. Okay, I want to get into. Also, I am a horrible cat mom. I want an update on how Maggie's doing on her diet. I. So Hazel loves. I put up a screened porch for my deck. So she starts outside. Yeah, thank you. And she loves it. She will come running to that back door like a dog. Like, I say, outside, she's there. She wants to be outside. Well, she does this sometimes. And I won't realize when I let Remy out that she's snuck out there and I didn't see her. And the other day, I just hear scratching at the door, which normally she scratches on the inside. And I'm like, hazel, you're not going out right now. Like, we'll get. We'll get to it in a little bit. The scratching keeps happening for, like, an hour. This is going on. So finally I get up to go over there and be like, hazel, girlfriend, let's chill out. She was outside in the dark, scratching at the door.

A (29:19)

Get in.

C (29:20)

Can I come back in? And I felt so horrible but cats are so sneaky.

A (29:26)

Yeah, they are.

C (29:27)

Like, you can't hear them. Not, like, sometimes, unless she has her little, like, cat zoomies, she'll go crazy. And I can hear her, and she sounds like a horse. But beyond that, she is. Like, it is sneaky. You can't hear a paw print anywhere. And that was one of those moments. But I felt like a horrible mom because she was sitting there in the dark on here. It was cold outside, vulnerable.

B (29:47)

Yeah.

C (29:48)

Like, I don't want to be out here. She can't see super well, so I. I felt really bad. Give me an update on Maggie and how her diet's going.

A (29:56)

It's not going well. She doesn't like it at all. She meows all the time. She's hungry, so I don't really know what we're gonna do. I don't feel like she's lost any weight. I used to have a leash that fit her, and I would take her on walks. So I thought the other day, either I need to figure out if that one will extend because she obviously doesn't fit into the leash anymore. It's like a little harness thing that we had on her when she was a kitten.

C (30:20)

Yeah.

A (30:21)

So I think I need to get an adult size.

C (30:25)

Do you think she'll walk on it now?

A (30:27)

Well, she did when she was a kitten, but I was thinking that's the only way I'm gonna get her to exercise, because I try to do other things, and she'll, you know, play with stuff for a minute, and then she just rolls over, and she's like, I'm over this. Bye. She's like, I'm done. I'm done. And I think she needs more activity than that. So if I take her out on a walk and look, you're out in the wild, like, this is just what.

C (30:47)

You have to do.

A (30:48)

I don't. I don't think she'll just plop down. We'll cross that bridge when we get there, though. But I've considered getting her another leash. Is my whole point to start walking her again? Because I don't think she's lost any weight, and I have cut back on her feeding, so it may just take a little time. But I do think that we're gonna need to burn some calories.

C (31:07)

So is it now? Because I know a lot of people with their cats will just leave food out all the time. Because cats are notorious grazers. They don't typically eat full meals.

A (31:14)

Yeah, well, I've had to hide food around her. Her. All of her Stuff her litter box. And her food is in the game room. So I've been doing little nooks and crannies where I hide food. But it has to be out of sight for Kara or out of reach for Cara, my dog, because otherwise she'll eat it and then I don't know who's eating what. And so it's hard to find things that are high up that Maggie can also jump to and have space to hang out on that Cara cannot get to. So it's been difficult. A listener did send me something about getting a. Like a feeder, like an automatic feeder that just like drops out stuff at a certain time.

C (31:57)

Yeah.

A (31:57)

And that that's the only thing that worked for their cats. And I need to look into that.

C (32:03)

Yeah. I have heard good success stories on feeders. But I will say in general, though, just to give you like some grace in this situation, getting a cat to lose weight is one of the hardest things. Like you're better off trying to make sure they don't gain the weight ever than trying to get it off of them. It's really difficult because they are. They don't exercise, they like to be lazy, they like to hang out. They're notorious grazers, so they don't really like, eat meals like dogs do. It's just a different lifestyle.

A (32:31)

The listener said you need an automatic feeder. Our feeds the smallest amount four times a day at 5am, 10am, 5pm and 10pm, I guess. And they said it really helped with the early morning starving meows, which that's what she's been doing. It'll be like three in the morning and she's just meowing and she wants pretty much nothing to do with me during the day. But then she sleeps with me every night and I'm like, what's the deal? Cats are so weird. I love her so much, but I wish she wanted to cuddle and hang out during the day. That would be awesome. But at night she is right next to me. It's so sweet. But then that doesn't last.

C (33:10)

They are. Cats have fun personalities. They're so quirky. Well, I hope maybe you can get the automatic feeder and that starts to help, hopefully for your guys sake. Because I do know what it's like when your animal very much wants to stay awake at night.

A (33:23)

I know. And I want her to live a long, healthy life. So I've got to kind of get it together. I do take the vet's advice seriously and, you know, I want her to feel good.

C (33:34)

Yes. Okay. Well, I love that Update. Hopefully we get some better update next time that she's lost like two pounds. Yes, even that will be great. Yeah, we'll take that as a win. Okay, one more break and we'll be right back.

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It feels like it's trying to divide me.

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Try Greenlight Risk free today@greenlight.com iheartra that's greenlight.com/iheart. Okay, so I want to talk about your boyfriend. You mentioned the ying and Yang thing, and I wanted to come back to it. So how long have you guys been dating now along?

A (37:03)

I mean, like, officially? Not a year yet, but right around officially.

C (37:09)

But it seems like you guys met.

A (37:11)

Yeah. So I've known him for a year.

C (37:13)

Okay.

A (37:13)

Yeah.

C (37:14)

What have you learned? I'm so curious about yourself and, like, the process over the last year.

A (37:20)

Well, I brought this up a little bit on the show recently and even on my podcast, but I've learned how defensive I get. So I'm really, really, really working on that. Because it's not just with him, but he's sort of brought it to light, but with, you know, just in my own head, like, with things or with my kid, like a friend. Like, they may not mean what I think they're meaning. Like, my filter makes something, like, for lack of a better way to put it, like, an attack on me when it's not. Like, if he's sharing something with me at times and I get defensive right away, he's like, wait, what? He gets real confused by it because it's not where he was coming from at all. So we are definitely working on that. By we, it's mostly me. And then I think I've also learned, like, what it feels like to be in a secure, calm, healthy relationship. And so that's been exciting. Like, oh, you know, at first you kind of feel like it's a little boring. But then now that we're through all of that and in the other feelings, like, it just feels good. And sometimes I even step back and I'm like, huh?

C (38:40)

Yeah.

A (38:40)

Like, oh, well, this is an interesting feeling. Like, my nervous system is more calm now. I know I have the defensive thing, and that's not all the time, but it is something that shows up that I've had to work on. However, my overall nervous system is in a different place and how quickly, like, even if There's a defensive thing. I do move off of it faster or nothing escalates. It doesn't escalate. And I'm like, what is this? And I'm like, oh, this is a healthy, mature relationship. Okay.

C (39:16)

Okay. So I'm curious, too, because you mentioned that I feel like very much in my relationship now because I did have such tumultuous relationships before that a lot of things have started popping up for me now because I am safe and I feel secure, and I feel like I'm in an environment where it's like my whole body is finally healing physically, emotionally, mentally. That now that's why things are starting to come up, because I'm in a place where I can address them. Do you feel like that's what's happening with some of these? Like, the defensiveness you never quite knew or felt, but now you're realizing, yeah.

A (39:55)

That could be it. Yeah. And it could be that someone is in a very loving, kind way drawing attention to it. For me, because he even noticed it. I did it to something Ben, my ex husband, had said. We were all three together, and Ben did something. We walked away. I was like, oh. And I made a comment about something Ben had said to me, but I was getting defensive, and he looked at me and he goes, I don't think that's how he meant it. And I was sort of like, huh. So that was. That was an example of him just nudging me and encouraging me of like, you may want to re filter that. Let's re evaluate that. So, I mean, it's also just having someone that isn't scared to say something, but it doesn't do it in a way that makes it. And thankfully, it's not like I then got, you know, defensive towards him, like, oh, well, why are you taking Ben's side? Because there is a time where maybe I could have snowballed into that. Who knows? I don't want to. Should, coulda, woulda, like, I have no idea.

C (40:54)

Um, but it's also because he's proven that he's not trying to do that to you. He's proven that he's a safe space and he wants the best for you.

A (41:02)

Yeah, he wants the best for me. He wants the best for my kids. He will come in with, you know, parenting advice, and it doesn't feel intrusive or controlling, and it just feels like love being loving.

C (41:18)

Do you feel like. Because you do, just in general, I mean, you're a mom, you have a career, you're dating. You also have your Ex husband he's dating. Like, there's so many kind of things you're balancing all at the same time. Do you feel like you're in, like, this good place now? How do you, like, where are you at right now in your life with so much having gone on?

A (41:38)

I feel like I'm in a really good place. I mean, I think there's always, you know, when you're a parent, there's always things with your kids that are happening. So there's some of that at the moment that I'm juggling, but everything else feels like it's in a really good place. And I think Ben and I being in a good place and then us being in good relationships and having, you know, partners that are kind and caring, like, that helps all of that. So, like, even if there is rocky things happening in parenting, it feels more manageable.

C (42:17)

Yeah. You have this, like, stable ground, stable foundation, that if something rocky does happen, you're like, oh, okay, we can handle this.

A (42:24)

Yeah, it doesn't support. And there was a thing a couple of weeks ago where that was even so evident to me, like, of the growth that I've had.

C (42:32)

So it's.

A (42:33)

Yeah. Part growth on my end, but also part circumstantial of this. Oh, this is my foundation now. So not only do I have the experience and the tools that are allowing me to make this decision with more confidence and ease, also I'm being supported by. And that includes my ex husband. Like, we have a good foundation right now. So even if I was a little, you know, I didn't have the tools and whatever, I would have support. So. But it's. Right now it's a good thing because I've got both.

C (43:08)

Yeah, I love this. This is a good area right now.

A (43:12)

It feels good. I think, you know, with everybody, there's always ups and downs, always, such as life.

C (43:20)

That's how as soon as everything feels great, something always happens. But when you do have that foundation, I was so curious. Cause it does feel like you're in a better place with your foundation, that. That makes everything else not so intense. Yes. Because I've. There's certain times in my life where I've definitely been in a place where there was no foundation or the foundation was very rocky, and everything feels like Mount Everest. And it could be a. You stub your toe, and it feels like it is. The entire world is ending. And so to have a very calm, stable foundation, it changes the game in a lot of ways. So I was curious how that was impacting your life. Now, just with this new relationship that.

A (44:02)

You'Ve been in, it's impacting in a positive way, for sure.

C (44:05)

Oh, that's so good. Okay, well, before we jump out of here, is there anything else you've wanted to talk about or you want to bring up or random? It could be so random.

A (44:12)

It doesn't matter what I wanted to talk about. So random. Oh, well, I guess I should say something that came up. Was it earlier this week or last week? Whenever I had the clip in bangs.

C (44:24)

Yeah.

A (44:25)

So I got a lot of messages of people wanting me to link the bangs, and I just want to say they're not. I don't want you wasting your money. Like, when I took the picture that I posted with them, I had my headphones over them, so it was covering, like, the awkward part of how it blends into your hair because I couldn't figure out a great way to clip them in. So that is my message of, like, I'm not going to link something unless I really like it or it works. And this is something that I bought and I would not link because I don't want to steer y' all wrong. Like, and it had good reviews, and other people seem to love it, but I spent a lot of time trying to figure out how to make it clip in and look seamless, and I could not figure it out. So I don't want to put y' all through that. Which I know you're. Y' all are adults. You can make your own decision. But I mean, also, you could just Google, like, bang clippings on Amazon and then do your own research. So I'd feel better about that. Instead of me linking something where you spend your money and then you're like, oh, these are horrible. Well, and so that's that the clip.

C (45:25)

And bangs really are one great. If you're, you know, have some event coming up and you're going to your hairstylist and they're going to do something kind of like if you throw in some extensions for a specialty event, that's kind of how I see the clip in bangs. Or if you're thinking about getting bangs. I ordered bangs on Amazon before I bought mine or before I cut them, because I was like, I need to see, even in general, what this looks like.

A (45:47)

Well, so that I will say that's not a waste of money. So if that's your. That's what you want. And, yeah, I haven't put up a link, but you could Google on Amazon and just find any bangs that sort of resemble your color. And you know, the goal isn't to actually wear the clip ins, but if you want it to just give you an idea of what you're going to look like with the bangs, then spend away. Because it might be like, oh, great, now I like this vibe. I'm gonna go cut my bangs.

C (46:13)

Yep.

A (46:14)

And then you have that answer. So it's an investment. Like you're investing in that decision, so it's not a waste of money.

C (46:20)

Wait, so did you decide?

A (46:22)

I really liked the way they looked. I mean, speaking of that. Yeah. But I don't know that if I do it winter time is gonna be a good time. Cause it's less humid out. Cause I have very curly hair. So if I go for it, then perhaps it will be sometime soon. But I have a hair appointment in November. Like mid to later November.

C (46:47)

I have it.

A (46:48)

It's before Thanksgiving. I know. So tbd.

C (46:51)

I think you should do it. I think they looked great. I loved my bang era. I mean, granted, it did require more effort from me, which is the one thing I didn't like about them. It just required me to style my hair all the time. But I loved them, like, genuinely. I loved having my bangs and it was just fun to do something different because I don't do a lot different with my hair. It's always been blonde. It's always been long. Besides, when my mom made me get a bowl cut because I wouldn't brush it. Beyond that, like, I've literally had the same kind of hairstyle my whole life. So it's fun to do something different and add a little spice. I vote for bangs.

A (47:27)

Okay, maybe I will.

C (47:30)

I know it's a big decision because people are so split on bangs, but it's fun. It's hair. It grows back. You know, you can always have your hair again, right? So it'll be fine.

A (47:42)

Okay.

C (47:42)

If you don't end up liking them, you can just side sweep them.

A (47:44)

You're convincing me.

C (47:46)

That's my hot take on bangs. All right, we're gonna get out of here. Tell the people where they can hear you and find you.

A (47:52)

I'm Radio Amy on socials and my podcast is called Feeling Things with Amy and Kat. You can check that out wherever you listen to podcasts and also follow us on Instagram. Same handle Feeling Things. Well, it's not Feeling Things with Amy and Kat on Instagram. It's just Feeling Things podcast.

C (48:07)

Love that. All right. And subscribe to the show YouTube page obbyboneshow and you can find us social media obibiboneshow everywhere. And that's it for us. Goodbye everybody.

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That's the Best bits of the Week with Morgan.

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Thanks for listening.

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