AMY: Our Life Check-In Exercise (and the Random Laughs It Sparked)

Summary

The Bobby Bones Show (Feeling Things with Amy & Kat)

Episode: "AMY: Our Life Check-In Exercise (and the Random Laughs It Sparked)"

Date: August 24, 2025
Host: Premiere Networks
Main Co-hosts: Amy & Kat
Special Guest/Producer: Chase

Episode Overview

This episode focuses on a "life check-in exercise" that Amy introduces as a simple, meaningful way for listeners (and the hosts) to reflect on accomplishments, gratitude, affirmations, habits, and goals. The practice leads to a lively, deeply personal, and often hilarious conversation, intertwining lighthearted moments, vulnerability, pop culture discussion (notably the Amy Bradley case and related Netflix documentary), and authentic friendship dynamics.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Feelings Check-In and Amy Bradley Discussion (02:08–10:03)

• Amy and Kat begin with a “feeling of the day” check-in, both naming their primary emotions:
  • Amy: “Worried”
  • Kat: “Curious and Happy” – because Chase (a longtime friend/producer) is in town.
• The discussion quickly veers into the Netflix Amy Bradley case, with both expressing suspicions and frustrations over the long-missing person case and its recent documentary treatment.
  • Issues with inconsistencies in the case over the years and possible new revelations (like Amy Bradley’s sexuality).
  • The hosts discuss how these details might have impacted the investigation and public perception.
  • Quote:
    "You would think you would want the world to know that from the get go in case any information could be helpful." — Kat (04:23)
  • Reflections on the family’s perseverance and how trauma impacts relationships.
    • Quote:
      "I would hope that my family would never give up on searching for me." — Amy (06:20)
  • Light comic relief: Kat jokes that she’s now worried about going on cruises and how she once accidentally spoiled “Sex and the City” for everyone.

2. Personal Life Check-In Exercise (10:03–36:02)

Amy introduces a monthly check-in exercise with five prompts:

Prompts:

1. Something I’m proud of accomplishing this month.
2. One thing I’m grateful for.
3. An affirmation for next month.
4. A habit I cultivated.
5. One thing I want to accomplish next month.

Amy’s Check-in:

• Accomplishment: Finally got curtains up at home after living there over a year.
• Gratitude: People—her community pouring into her and her kids.
• Affirmation: "I’m a fun person." (She describes the awkwardness of affirmations and using them as “subliminals.”)
  • Quote:
    "I am a fun person. Gosh darn it. People want to be around me because I'm so fun. But we're not there yet. But I'm workshopping it. But fun." — Amy (13:26)
• Habit: Stretching more frequently… but often ends in just lying on the floor (“Savasana” counts as yoga!).
• Next Month’s Goal: Finish the book “Family of Liars.”

Kat’s Check-in:

• Accomplishment: Hired someone to clean her house after procrastinating for a year.
  • Memorable Moment: Fun banter about outsourcing, Windex misuse, and their mutual cleaner.
  • Quote:
    "For her, cleaning my shower probably takes her 15 minutes. It would take me four hours." — Kat (19:39)
• Gratitude: Not dating her toxic ex anymore, now happily married.
  • She recounts a bizarre story where her ex abandoned her at church after a gratitude question turned into a fight.
  • Quote:
    "Sometimes this question triggers me a little bit." — Kat (25:21)
• Affirmation: “One task at a time is enough.” She’s overwhelmed by life changes and wants to avoid over-multitasking.
• Habit: Cleaning and putting dishes/laundry away immediately (sort of—a work in progress!).
• Next Month’s Goal: Drink more water and respond to texts/emails more promptly.
  • Quote:
    "I want to be better at getting the text and being like, you can answer this now...and then doing it." — Kat (64:19)

Check-In Exercise Takeaways

• The check-in prompts spark a series of side-conversations, jokes, and shared vulnerabilities (e.g., the ongoing “Siv"/"SIB” code word: a lighthearted call-out when one is being a little snarky).
  • Quote:
    "Siv is just a quick way Kat and I call each other out in case one of us is acting...bitchy." — Amy (32:34)
• Integration tip: Do the check-in monthly, alone or with others. For families, focus on one person per night around the dinner table.

3. Random Laughs: Truth or Truth, Dare or Dare, and Social Hacks (47:07–58:18)

• Inspired by a TikTok hack and Kat's favorite “Truth or Truth” game, they discuss fun ways friends can spice up gatherings—like "Dare or Dare" (all dares, no truths).
• Amy shares a recent awkward (but affirming) story: Being handed a business card, with a compliment, in front of her kids.
  • The moment highlights both the weirdness (is this a “Dare or Dare” situation?) and the sweet response from her boyfriend's daughter, who tore up the card—a symbolic sign of acceptance.
  • Quote:
    “She ripped it up and she was like, you’re not gonna be needing that...and it made me very...while the encounter made me feel weird...it was all worth it because I had that moment with her.” — Amy (60:13)
• Banter around approaches to dare/truth games, Amy's surprise at being approached, and advice for listeners to try these social games for connection.

4. Household and Wellness Tangents (Various throughout, especially 35:50–46:45)

• Extended talk about laundry, dryer balls (yes, really), managing household chores, and skin sensitivities.
• Light comic relief about which daily routines do/don’t “qualify” as habits.
• Book recommendations: "Family of Liars," "Winter Garden" by Kristin Hannah, "The Women" (also by Hannah), and commentary on the value of reading before watching adaptations.

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Notable Quotes & Moments

• On Community:
  "I'm just grateful for people in my life lately that have been able to either pour into my kids or pour into me and just how important community is." — Amy (12:22)

• On Check-Ins as a Practice:
  "You learn things about each other, but also conversations come up, feelings come up. And this is just a way to add more of that into your life." — Amy (47:09)

• On Affirmations (and joking with each other):
  "You are fun though. You're a seven." — Kat (13:55)

• On Guilt About Past Relationships:
  "I dated him for the plot for sure." — Kat (28:14)

• On Outsourcing Household Work:
  "Anytime you can outsource stuff, that is going to take stuff off of your plate...and give you time back." — Amy (19:24)

• On Friendships and Asking Questions:
  "If you wonder it, ask it." — Amy (12:18)
  They also propose making a segment, "Questions that never come up."

• On "Siv"/"SIB":
  "It's just real quick. Sib, like, sorry, I bet you. So she can say it to me, I can say it to her. And then it also brings some levity to a situation that may feel icky." — Amy (32:44)

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• 02:08–10:03 – Opening feelings and Amy Bradley case
• 10:03–36:02 – Monthly personal check-in exercise
• 25:13–29:46 – Kat’s ex-boyfriend gratitude story
• 32:34 – “Siv” explanation
• 35:50–46:45 – Laundry talk, chores, and skin sensitivities
• 47:07–49:05 – Dare or Dare, Truth or Truth games
• 50:03–60:58 – Amy’s “business card” story and blended-family dynamics
• 62:39 – Book recommendations (“Winter Garden,” Kristin Hannah)

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Episode Highlights & Takeaways

• The life check-in exercise is both a grounding and connecting tool—great for self-reflection or bonding with others.
• Vulnerability and humor are woven together, with the hosts unafraid to share messy or awkward moments.
• Random tangents (laundry, affirmation debates, pop psychology) add relatable levity.
• Classic "Feeling Things" dynamic: Playful ribbing, warmth, and encouragement to "feel things" together.
• Listening to this episode feels like being invited to a candid conversation with funny, supportive friends.

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Recommended For

• Anyone wanting new ideas for meaningful conversation starters with friends, family, or partners.
• Fans of true crime/personal growth hybrid content.
• Listeners looking for authentic, life-in-progress dialogue with plenty of laughter.

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Call to Action from the Hosts

• Try the monthly life check-in exercise for yourself, with a friend, or around the family dinner table ("one person per night" recommended).
• “If you know anything about Amy Bradley, call the FBI—not us!” — Amy (66:08)

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End of Summary

Transcript

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[A]

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[B]

And the in between, sometimes the best.

[A]

Thing you can do is just stop and feel things. This is Feeling Things with Amy and Kat.

[B]

Happy Tuesday. Welcome to Feeling Things. I'm Amy.

[A]

And I'm Kat.

[B]

And our feeling of the day, Well, I think we both have them. This is like last time. You want to just say them on the count of three because I have two. Pick your main One and go on the count of three. One, two, three.

[A]

Worried. Oh, shoot.

[B]

Okay, cool.

[A]

I thought you were going to go with the other feeling.

[B]

Well, that one is curious.

[A]

Okay. And I said worried, so the same reason.

[B]

Yeah. Happy. Because Chase is in town and he's running our video today. Hey, Chase, I wish we could flip the camera. I know. Can't. So this is fun. If you've listened to this podcast feed for years and years, it was four things with Amy Brown and Chase before Kat was the co host on the bonus episode for that podcast called the Fifth Thing. Before you were the co host, Chase would do the Fifth Thing with me every week for several of them.

[A]

A lot.

[B]

A lot. Like, yeah, I don't know that it was consistent every week, but it was a lot. So he has been a part of the podcast family and he happens to be in town, so he's running our camera and. And I'm curious because I want to know where Amy Bradley is, and I think that maybe is why you're worried.

[A]

So I'm worried.

[B]

Okay. You're worried about her.

[A]

Well, sure, but I'm more worried. It seems a little sus.

[B]

Yeah, we're feeling sus.

[A]

And you know what I'm not ever doing now.

[B]

Oh, no. You can go on a cruise. I will be on one next February. The Bobby Bone show cruise.

[A]

Okay. See that, that cruise sounds like it's gonna be very safe and great, but can I share some? I don't want to spoil anything. You know, I. I ruined Sex and the City for everybody.

[B]

Well, you didn't really. And also the Amy Bradley story has been around since 1998. And, well, the documentary is new, gaining attention because this particular documentary. There are other things out there you can watch. And the rabbit hole I ended up down was the inconsistencies in interviews over the last.

[A]

With who?

[B]

A couple of decades with the family and how stuff has changed. And in the Netflix documentary, we learned that she is gay.

[A]

Yeah. And apparently her parents don't want people to know that.

[B]

Well, it's information now, but you would think you would want the world to know that from the get go in case any information could be helpful. But it apparently, allegedly in previous interviews. Interviews or documentaries or things, it wasn't disclosed that she was gay. In fact, even at one point, they said she had a boyfriend right before the cruise or something like that.

[A]

She had a girlfriend.

[B]

She had a girlfriend. Yeah.

[A]

Well, it seemed like her parents were.

[B]

Not into it in the beginning at least.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

And now they seem okay with it. But what's your deal.

[A]

Okay. If you haven't watched the documentary, I don't think I'm ruining anything. But, like, don't you think the crew of the cruise was a little rude? Mainly the director of Fun or whatever. The guy.

[B]

The guy, the cruise director. Yes.

[A]

He was rude.

[B]

I think that he probably wasn't. His mindset, his thought that she jumped. She's overboard. Okay, so there's a lot of people online that have pieced together. They're like, look, this family is in denial. I don't know what they're digging for. I don't think she was human trafficked.

[A]

You don't think those pictures were.

[B]

I don't. I'm not telling you what I think. I'm telling you what other people have pieced together that have followed this case far longer than I. I, I'm, I'm a Netflix newbie. Like, I have only been concerned about Amy Bradley for about two weeks now. Well, because, I mean, I didn't know about her. I didn't know she was missing. And now I need to know, where is she? Is she being human trafficked in the Caribbean? I don't know. Or did she go overboard? Or did something else happen to her?

[A]

Or was that the beginning? Okay, I have a couple other thoughts. One, I have to disclose this. I may have fallen asleep at the end of the last episode. So if she was found, I didn't know, but it sounds like she wasn't. So I didn't miss anything that I need to go back and watch. Right.

[B]

Sadly, she's not found. It's almost like this is the family's last plea. I don't know if that's their last. It's their next plea because they've done others.

[A]

I would hope that my family would never give up on searching for me. And I would think as a parent, that would probably be how. If there was not clear evidence that I died, I think that would. I would not be able to sleep at night if I wasn't continuing to try to find. Why are you looking at me like that?

[B]

Well, and if there were eyewitnesses that claim to see you years later in a, a bathroom or walking down the beach or crazy.

[A]

This is what I'm worried about, though. Yellow's daughter. Don't you think she's going to get herself into some trouble?

[B]

Well, some people that haven't seen it, they're like, who's Yellow? Yellow was a bass player on the cruise in the band that would play, and apparently she was hanging out with them. Oh, this is the other thing. So she's gay, right? When you first watch the documentary, before they get into the piece that she's gay, aren't you thinking, she's not? I mean, some people are like, look, I could tell by the first I was reading threads of people. They're like, look, I'm a lesbian. And I could tell right away, when are they going to talk about how she's a lesbian? But they were just like, she is the life of the party. You. She would walk into the room and.

[A]

Everybody give her attention.

[B]

Everybody wanted her attention. Like, guys would talk to her and everybody's coming up to her, but at no point. And then it was like this twist of she's gay. But I think that earlier in other documentaries or interviews that were done, the narrative was just how lively she was. And you would think, okay, well, we need to be looking at men. Because clearly she was hanging out with men. And maybe she had a little rendezvous with the man. I mean, that's what I was thinking. I was like, well, who did she sneak off with? If she was so magnetic, she still.

[A]

Could have done that.

[B]

I know, but it seems like now we know she wouldn't be interested in a man.

[A]

Maybe she was. And she was just like, oh, tonight I'm gonna do this.

[B]

Maybe she's fluid.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Versus the other stories that she was looking for drugs, which, like, also could be true. But back to yellow. He was the bass player that people think had something to do with her being trafficked away. And in the documentary, his daughter calls him live and asks him what happened to Amy. If this guy is that powerful and he does those kinds of things, don't you think the daughter's now putting herself in harm's way? That was my first thought of, like, if he's this powerful guy, like, don't do that.

[B]

That part was weird to me. I. I don't know.

[A]

It gave us nothing.

[B]

Nothing gave us nothing. Like, I thought when she called and left a voicemail for that family, I'm like, we're about to get some real information. And the parents had to be thinking that, like. Like, we're about to really get something here. And then it's like, oh, you just heard from your mom. This story. And whatever, people that watch it, they're probably not as worried or concerned or curious as we are about this, but just watch it. And if anybody knows anything about Amy, call us.

[A]

We need to call the FBI, obviously.

[B]

That's what I mean.

[A]

I mean, literally, find their number.

[B]

Try 911 before us. I just. I am heartbroken for her family. I just don't know what is what.

[A]

You know what I was happy to see, though, because in these types of documentaries, they always interview everybody separately. The parents stayed together. And I think a lot of times when there's any kind of tragedy within a family, a lot of times the parents, because of their grieving process, they end up splitting up, but they're still together.

[B]

Yeah, I love that too.

[A]

Not a silver lining, but it just was nice to see.

[B]

Yeah. Yeah, that is nice. I'm like thinking, what do you think about my divorce?

[A]

Well, I think that is very different. Your children didn't go missing.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Are you projecting?

[B]

You're like, oh, I'm so glad they stayed together. And I was like, I bet you are. Look at them, they're so great.

[A]

Yeah, I think about that every night with you. I can't believe you did that.

[B]

I'm just kidding. Okay, So I thought, I have a little activity for us that's like a check in. And I think listeners could do this too, if they want to write it down, or we can put it in the show notes and they can go copy and paste it and do a check in with themselves or their roommates or their husband, wife, whatever, kids. So I'll share the check in. So I can go first and then you can share yours. But they're just questions you can ask yourself and then you fill in the blank.

[A]

Do you do the same or is this a one time thing? It's not like a week.

[B]

You could do. You could do a monthly check in. You could do this. Rinse and repeat 12 times a year.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Okay. Ready? This month I'm proud of accomplishing. And for me, curtains in my house, because I've lived here over a year and I finally got curtains up in all of the rooms.

[A]

And have you ever hung a curtain rod yourself?

[B]

Yes.

[A]

You have? Oh, did you do these?

[B]

No.

[A]

Okay. But I have very hard.

[B]

Yeah, I think like in college or something.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Yeah. Why do you hang them?

[A]

I just hung one once and I felt very accomplished.

[B]

This might also be you doing that thing where you wanted to, like, ask things. We don't know about each other. So is that like a thing you didn't know about me? If I'd ever hung a curtain rod.

[A]

I was driving down the road and I was like, I wonder if Amy's ever hung a curtain rod. That's something I think would be fun. If we have space, which I guess we do this anyway. We have space in the Podcast. If we're like, oh, questions that never come up. I've been wondering, have you ever done this? Or what would you do in this situation? Questions that, like, it would be weird if I just brought this up in conversation.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

You know?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Like, is there something about me you've always wanted to know?

[B]

Well, when I think about it, I feel like if I wanted to know, I would ask you. I mean, I'm sure there is, but.

[A]

But if it's not a natural place for it, you know, so. Okay, that's a new thing. We're gonna do that. If you randomly have a question or a thought and there's, like, nowhere for it to really fit, you can just say. Kind of like how we say S I B when we're being mean to each other, we can just say questions that never come up. Have you ever hung a curtain rod?

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

And then we just ask it.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Okay. So that'll encourage just more curiosity.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

With your friends and family.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

If you think it.

[A]

You can start that with your family, not just on the podcast.

[B]

If you wonder it, ask it.

[A]

Yeah. That's your T shirt.

[B]

Okay. So I did my. This month, I'm proud of accomplishing, which is curtains in my house. One thing I'm grateful for is people. I'm just grateful for people in my life lately that have been able to either pour into my kids or pour into me and just how important community is. So I think more so than just people is, like, your people, your community. My affirmation for the next month is, I'm a fun person. Why did you say that so quietly? Because I listen to my affirmations as subliminals, and so I was just doing it.

[A]

How would a fun person say it?

[B]

No, my subliminal would be, I don't know, because am I fun yet? I'm not fun yet. That's my manifestation for the next month.

[A]

So this is not an affirmation. So this is more. So, like, this is a subliminal.

[B]

Well, it can be either, because an.

[A]

Affirmation isn't that, like, you are beautiful.

[B]

Yeah, I am fun. I am fun. What I write down, I'm a fun person. I'm a fun person. Gosh darn it. Like, are you repeat it over and over. You look in the mirror. I am a fun person.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

But I take in my subliminals. I am a money magnet. Fun finds me in fun ways. Circulating fun is fun. I'm fun. I think you're fun. We are fun. I want to be more Fun. I'm a fun. I'm a fun mom. I'm a fun parent. I'm a fun co worker. I'm fun. I'm fun. Gosh darn it. People want to be around me because I'm so fun. But we're not there yet. But I'm workshopping it. But fun. Okay, like, that's my affirmation.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

You are fun, though. You're a seven.

[A]

Okay, but you're a. You're just as fun as I am.

[B]

No, no. You're winning.

[A]

There's no way.

[B]

No, Piper.

[A]

No. Piper, no. You were fun in that meeting. When you yelled that.

[B]

That was fun. Yeah, I can be fun. I want to, I guess, be more consistently fun.

[A]

Well, I want to be more low key. So, like, low key fun. No, I want to be more like you. It's a different way.

[B]

You want to be more like me, which is low key. Lame.

[A]

It's not what I meant. I know that what I meant. I meant, like, I want to just, like, be home more. But being home can be fun.

[B]

Yeah. So fun.

[A]

Now that I'm thinking about it, I am home all the time. I think you have a skewed idea of my life.

[B]

No, I don't. You play games. You have, you know, you blindfold your husband and take him around town. You always come up with fun ideas that I take from you, and then I implement them in my life. Yeah, you're fun. Thanks, Cookie logs.

[A]

That's fun. But that's at home.

[B]

One habit I cultivated this month was pretending to stretch while I was actually just laying on the floor. I really am trying to work on stretching more, and I think we'll get there. But I definitely laid on the floor to stretch more than I ever have before and then ended up mostly just laying there. But still, still, in yoga, laying on your back flat is a move. It's called Savasana, which is a move. So if I am laying in Savasana, it is a yoga pose. It's a pose.

[A]

It's a pose, not a move.

[B]

I am laying in Savasana. Okay, so it's not like I'm just doing nothing. And then the final check in is one thing I want to accomplish next month is by next month, I want to finish Family of Liars, which is the book I ordered. That's the prequel to We Were Liars, which I watched on Amazon. I didn't read the book, but after I watched it and learned it was a book, I. I wished I would have read it.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So then I ordered Us, the prequel, which is Family of Liars.

[A]

I wonder what's gonna. So I guess maybe we're getting the mom's perspective.

[B]

I don't know yet. I just got them in.

[A]

Okay, well, you didn't read the back of the book?

[B]

Not yet. I got stuck on the little drawing. They had a little graphic, like a.

[A]

Map on the picture.

[B]

They had a map of Beechwood Island.

[A]

Yeah. Okay. Because I'm imagining, like, there can't be that much that happens before.

[B]

I mean, I started a little bit, just. But not enough to where I know really what's happening. But I'm pretty sure what I'm reading right now is from one of the sisters. Okay, you mean that mom.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

Yes. Which one got her? Because I. In the show, and this isn't giving anything away, but do you remember which one got, like, her chin or jaw redone? Like plastic surgery? Remember when one of the sisters was like, well, yeah, that's me. Nice. Dad got you a new chin or something.

[A]

Remember that?

[B]

Okay, because I need to Google. I want to see which one. Since I've already watched the show and I'm reading the prequel, I'm vis. I. I have the real visualization from the show and not my own imagination. So I know what the three sisters look like, and I need to know which sister I'm reading about.

[A]

So can I share something again that's not going to be a spoiler, but remember last week I said that I wanted to guess what was going to.

[B]

Happen and we were liars.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Okay. Wasn't I close?

[B]

You were very close. You were very close. I was not that close. But you were. You're right.

[A]

So I just. I just want that on the record for everybody to know. Close.

[B]

Yeah, probably.

[A]

I can't tell you what it is because.

[B]

Yeah, no. If you have not watched that, watch it. If you would rather read it, read it first.

[A]

I'm sad. If I would have known that was a book, I would have read it first. That probably was such a good book.

[B]

But now we have.

[A]

Yeah. Yeah.

[B]

Family of Liars.

[A]

Thank you.

[B]

Prequel. You're welcome. So your turn to do. Oh, check in.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Okay. You went the first. Yeah.

[A]

You asked them.

[B]

And I'll tell you this month. I'm proud of accomplishing.

[A]

So this is going to sound very weird. I'm proud of accomplishing. Hiring somebody else to come clean my house. Because this is something that I have wanted to do for over a year. I kept asking one of my friends for her cleaners, and she finally said, I'm not giving you the number anymore.

[B]

Because why?

[A]

Because I. I asked her, like, 10 times, can I have your cleaner's number? And then she would give it to me, and then I would ask her the next month, which I don't know why I didn't just go look for it. I guess I was lazy. But then she was like, you're not. You're not going to call them? And I said, yes, I am. But then you texted yours for me, so I didn't have to do the work. But I rescheduled her.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And this is one of those things.

[B]

Okay, so. And she's so awesome, and she's so grateful, and she's really excited about clean your house. And she's so sweet. And she sent me a text. Gosh, I've been working with her for years. Years now. Like, four, maybe, at least, or going on five. And I feel like that's a good, consistent relationship. And I adore her. And she was really sweet, and she was like, I'm so excited to be cleaning your friend's house. Like, next time I come, I want to give you, like, a little discount. And I thought, okay, you don't have to do that. But I just thought that's also good business practice for her because she knows, like, word of mouth is the best. Is that how the fastest you can do. No. No business part in the mailbox. Yes.

[A]

Okay. Well, I will say that has been so helpful, because that's one of those things that I'm like, I can do it myself. There's something about having somebody else.

[B]

Well, you're also.

[A]

My house looks new now.

[B]

Working full time. Your husband works full time. And, like, I think for y', all, it makes sense. I think anytime you can outsource stuff, that is going to take stuff off of your plate, and you can.

[A]

And, like, gives you time back.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Because for her, cleaning my shower probably takes her, what, 15 minutes? It would take me four hours, you know, because, like, she probably has better I don't skills. And I'm like, using Patrick's like, do you clean everything with Windex? And I'm like, kind of, yes on everything.

[B]

My Big fat Greek wedding.

[A]

Cleaning my outdoor furniture with Windex. He's like, what are you doing? I'm like, it's just. It's wet and it's getting the dirt off.

[B]

Like, oh, well, I'm glad she's gonna be able to help you, because, yes, you need to not do it with Windex, but I'm proud of you, too.

[A]

Thank you.

[B]

Especially with all you have going on with your house. It's good to have it like clean.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Spiffy. So you can sell that bad boy. Yeah. Cuz you're a money magnet.

[A]

Money finds its way to circulate around me.

[B]

Yes. People want to buy your house. Your house is very desirable. Oh my gosh. You need to run subliminals while people are looking at your house. You'd have music.

[A]

You should do it, cuz you're really good at them.

[B]

Well, no, I. I mean, you'd have to make them. But I. I wonder if there's a house selling subliminal. And when people come and tour your house, like they think they're listening to waterfalls, but really subliminally in the music, there's like, you want to buy this house? This house is perfect for you.

[A]

Your stuff would look great in this house.

[B]

Can't you imagine yourself having so many fun family memories around this table?

[A]

You're going to find a husband if.

[B]

You live in this house. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[A]

Okay. That's a great idea. Have you heard of planting?

[B]

I don't know. That's a great idea. But yes, you're being kind. I mean, it can't hurt.

[A]

It's great.

[B]

Like it can't hurt.

[A]

It can hurt if they do notice what's happening.

[B]

Is this a new business we have? We could market it to realtors, buy our subliminals.

[A]

You'll sell so many houses.

[B]

So many.

[A]

We could sell it for like $5.

[B]

Science backed.

[A]

We don't have to say that. Therapist backed. We don't say science.

[B]

I was joking.

[A]

Okay, Inside joke. No, I think we should do it. If it works, then we'll do it right, because then we'll have a testimony perfect.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Yeah. I played them in my house and it sold in seven days.

[B]

Okay. One thing I'm grateful for is did.

[A]

I ever tell you the one time I got in a fight.

[B]

All right, parents, let's talk snacks. Because if you've got kids, you know how important snacks are. Even if you don't have kids, snacks are still important. You always kind of need a grab and go. Like something that's going to be good for you. And if getting out the door with kids looks anything like my house, well, someone's always running the car with one shoe on. Someone's asking where their water bottle is, and someone's inevitably always hungry. But we need to leave, so we can't really deal with that. That's why I love having Mott's no sugar added applesauce pouches around because they're made with real apples, which I love, no sugar added. And the pouch, it's a total game changer. It's mess free, portable, it fits in lunchboxes, backpacks. It's also a snack that's a good source of vitamin C and kids actually want to eat it. I know this because my kids actually want to eat it. Just the other day my son had a couple of friends over and they were sitting in the back seat and I'm driving them around and I threw some in the front seat of my car because I knew, okay, these boys, they're always hungry and they were so excited when I tossed one back to each of them. Mott's real apples make real good applesauce. Learn [e-mail] all right, in our house, a top pick for back to school lunches is Boar's Head. It makes packing lunch so easy because my kids don't complain and their lunchbox come home empty, which is huge. We're big fans of the maple honey ham. They love that it's got the perfect hint of sweetness. My fridge is never without it. And their American cheese, it's a great combo. On some days though, we keep it simple with a sandwich and other days we may mix it up, throw in some oven gold turkey or ever roast chicken for wraps or snack boxes. However I use it, Boar's Head just tastes better. Boar's Head has been dedicated to crafting premium deli meats and cheeses for more than 120 years. Premium whole cuts of beef, pork and poultry spices sourced from around the globe. Boar's Head uses only the finest ingredients and time honored recipes, preparing every product with the utmost care. So if you want to level up your deli game this school year, check out the Boar's Head counter at your local deli. You'll taste the craftsmanship in every bite. Boar's Head, committed to craft since 1905. Hey, it's Amy partnering with CVS. And if you are trying to build a skincare routine but you are getting overwhelmed, well, I'm here to let you know you are not alone. The good news is though, CVS has all the products you need and at accessible, affordable price points. Now, for me, having a routine means a few minutes for myself in the morning and at night. It's sort of my reset. Now, the other night, I will admit, I almost went to bed without washing my face. And that would have been the first time in a very, very, very long time. But I knew morning me would not be happy. I've got to stick to my routine, and my skin loves that. And a few months ago, I went to CVS with my dermatologist, and he pointed out so many products that are good for me and my skin. And so I speak from experience. I know you will find things there that will work. And we've got a vacation coming up. And my dermatologist recommends sunscreens like the La Rocher Posay sunscreen. They have that at cvs. He also taught me how to say it. And then my daughter and I, we love doing little face masks when we're on vacation, kind of in our hotel room, like we're at the spa. They have some of those as well, just individualized packs, which are super fun. Visit cvs.com or your local CVS for all of your skincare needs.

[A]

Did I ever tell you the one time I got in a fight with my ex boyfriend because he asked me this question, he abandoned me at church and drove off.

[B]

Wait, what?

[A]

Yeah. Oh, sometimes this question triggers me a little bit.

[B]

Oh, I did not mean to do that.

[A]

So, no, I can work through it.

[B]

A little backstory, though. I don't know how much you say about this, his ex boyfriend's personality, because obviously he's not diagnosed of anything, but he was not.

[A]

He had a lot of traits.

[B]

He was not kind to you. Yeah, toxic traits.

[A]

A lot of toxic traits. So we were on our way to church, and he asked me, what are you grateful for? I think he was, like, trying to do something cute or something. What are you grateful for today? I think I said, that's such a weird question. And I was about to say, because there's so many things I'm grateful for. He lost it and was like, how dare you say that was a weird question. So disrespectful. And then he started saying a lot of, like, mean things and, like, curse words, and I'm like, oh, my gosh. I couldn't pick one thing. So he was like, I can't even be around you. Drop me off at church.

[B]

Left. He drove off.

[A]

I don't know how I got home.

[B]

How much longer did you date him after that incident?

[A]

I don't know. Couldn't have been more than a couple months.

[B]

You don't know how you got back home? I mean, let's just say you got a ride from a friend. Like, that part's not important. What was the. I mean, obviously you getting home is important. I don't want a Netflix special of Where Is Cat Dafada. Because Yeah, that would be terrible. But once you got home or your next interaction with him. Sheldon lived together. But, like, what was that like? Like, hey, why did you leave me at church? And.

[A]

Oh, no, I think I got myself and left. I must have, like, called him after. Maybe I Ubered. This was so long ago. But I do know that I got my stuff and left. My car was at his apartment, so somehow I got back to my. The apartment, got my stuff. I had a key to his apartment, got myself and left. And then he sent me an apology, and it was probably like, I'll buy you the world.

[B]

Yeah. And you're like, okay. Does it include a housekeeper?

[A]

He probably did have a housekeeper. Anyway, what am I grateful for? That I'm not dating him and I'm married to my current husband?

[B]

Praise the Lord. That's a crazy story. And that I see now how that question could be triggering. I'm sorry, it's not triggering.

[A]

It's just, I think every time somebody asks me that, I'm like, oh, remember that one time?

[B]

I know, but I don't want. You have to think of him if you don't need to. So you can omit this from your monthly check ins.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

My affirmation. And now that you say that, I do recall you telling me that story years ago, and I couldn't. But I wouldn't have been able to regurgitate that. But that is such a good story. Not good, but you know what I mean.

[A]

Cool story. No, it's a crazy story. Yeah, it's great.

[B]

That's what I mean.

[A]

Yeah. But I have a lot of stories about him that are crazy.

[B]

No, but it's like, I would think I would never forget that story because it's so, you know, cuckoo.

[A]

What? I think that relationship was very much it has it developed the plot of my own story. You know how, like, the kids will say, do it for the plot. I'm like, I dated him for the plot for sure. Do you know what I'm saying?

[B]

How many more. Yeah. Yes, I'm cool. How many more interesting things could I gather? Or cool, not cool, crazy stories can I get from this relationship?

[A]

I mean, it's an embarrassing. He. It was not a good relationship.

[B]

No. But it made it kept life interesting.

[A]

Yeah. And I will say I'm a big believer in this. Not throwing the baby out with the bathwater. I have a lot of good memories from that relationship, too. Obviously there was something good about it, else I wouldn't have been in it for as long as I was. But he Took me to Disney World.

[B]

That's fun.

[A]

Yeah, it was fun. That was fun.

[B]

Yeah. Was he a love bomber?

[A]

Oh, my gosh. His first gift. Well, first of all, our first date was the day before my birthday.

[B]

I love how I asked, was he a love bomber?

[A]

When I'm like, obviously.

[B]

Obviously he was.

[A]

He brought a birthday card to our first date. So my birthday's in December, so Christmas is right after that. His. The first gift he gave me was, like, a very large sum of money to Abel. So I can pick out a purse. Because I, like, mentioned that I wanted a bag from there.

[B]

A very large.

[A]

I don't want to say what it is, because that feels weird, but, like, it was, like, enough to buy a person then something else, like. And though, to me, back then, that was a lot of money. I mean, it is a lot of money.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

For somebody you've been dating for two weeks. It was weird. I was like, I wasn't gonna get you anything. And then he took me on a trip to Asheville at the end of December. We were dating for, like, three weeks. So, yeah, he was. He was a gift bomber.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And I did like that.

[B]

We're like, I didn't hate it, but that's how they get in.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

They hook you and not even that. You're this materialistic person where it's like.

[A]

Oh, yeah, I'm only worth of affirmation. Worked in there for sure.

[B]

Yeah. Anyway, so you're grateful he's gone. Speaking of affirmation, that's the next check in. My affirmation for the next month is.

[A]

Does mine have to be subliminal? Subliminal?

[B]

No.

[A]

Okay. I would like to tell myself one thing at a time. Like, do one task at a time. Like, you can do one task at a time. You can do what? Here? How about this? One task at a time is enough.

[B]

So what's up with that?

[A]

Was that good?

[B]

No. I want to know more behind it. I'm curious.

[A]

No, this. Can't you say, I'm feeling judged.

[B]

Wait, what?

[A]

So what's up with that?

[B]

Sorry, Siv. Because I was.

[A]

Not that. If I get that I'm messing with you.

[B]

If that came across. Siv, I. I didn't. I. Okay. Because a little bit, I quite literally was doing that thing where you said, if you get a question about me, ask it.

[A]

Oh, you have to say questions that don't come up.

[B]

Questions that don't come up.

[A]

What's up with that?

[B]

Why are you wanting to do one thing at a time or one thing at A time is enough. Like, I want more details because I.

[A]

Think this is twofold. It's in the large scale and the small scale because, you know, I have a lot of huge life things happening.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So I'm getting lost sometimes in like, let's just say with a move, I'm like making Pinterest boards for my dining room, which is going to be like the last room that I redo in this house, versus, like, focus on, you need to have bedroom furniture that fits this house or you need to hire a mover to even get there kind of thing. So, like, one thing at a time. Right. Like, is enough. I want to do it all. And I think large scale is like the move and then these other big things in my life, I'm like, feel like I have to get everything sorted out at the same time. Right. Does that make sense?

[B]

Yes.

[A]

So getting one thing accomplished, like calling a mover. I did message some movers and they really like to call immediately. And I wasn't prepared for that type of, like, eagerness. I thought they were gonna text me back or something. So I messaged like four of them and then I got immediately, like seven phone calls. So I was like, one thing at a time is enough. I messaged them. I don't have to talk to them yet. So if I just got a mover scheduled, that would be okay. Then I can sit down. I don't have to like check everything off the list.

[B]

Okay. So.

[A]

Yeah. Is that. Was that a good answer?

[B]

Yes. Whatever answer you gave would be the good one. Siv.

[A]

I'm sorry, I mean, Siv, Siv.

[B]

Did we clarify what that means in case someone's new today?

[A]

Not today.

[B]

Siv is just a quick way that Kat and I call each other out in case one of us is acting or maybe we know we're acting. Bitchy.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So it's just real quick. Siv, like, sorry, I bet you. So she can say it to me, I can say it to her. And then it also brings some levity to a situation that may feel icky.

[A]

Yeah. I think it's going to make it easy if you're being siv for me. Like, sib versus like, you know.

[B]

Yeah. Like, hey, is everything okay? Yeah, it's more like, hey, Sib. It's like sib, check in. Like these are like check ins that you can do every month, but you could do sib check in daily, hourly.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Sometimes with anybody in your life. Sib.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

By minute, by the minute. I fluctuate sometimes just depending on what's going on. It can be that fast.

[A]

You say, I'm in it by the minute.

[B]

Oh, I mean, like, do a check in by the minute.

[A]

Oh.

[B]

Like you could be not sib. And then 60 seconds later, sib. Sort of like just then I didn't feel sib. And then within 60 seconds, I guess I gave SIV vibes, which I think there's a major difference in giving SIV vibes and actually being sib. Because sometimes it could just be misinterpreted.

[A]

And sometimes, like, I make a weird face. I don't mean to make it, you.

[B]

Know, and then I feel judged.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

And you're like, no, that's just my face. WF Weird face.

[A]

That's just not having Botox anymore. Wf.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Weird face. Okay, sorry. You can say WF. And I'm like, no, that actually was siv.

[B]

Okay. One habit I cultivated this month was.

[A]

I don't know if I should say what I was gonna say.

[B]

Why? I don't think it could hurt you.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

I didn't know what it was until you just asked me. So I looked down and read it because you typed it. But I had tried to stay away from it.

[A]

I'm gonna save that one for later. I'm gonna save that one until after what I hope is going to happen and happens. Okay.

[B]

So that'll be good content. I will say it is very entertaining.

[A]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Something to keep you guys on your toes.

[B]

This habit you've cultivated, I wouldn't even call it a habit you cultivated. It's a hobby.

[A]

It's now a hobby. It's become a hobby.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

It's become very time consuming.

[B]

It's a time consuming hobby. Yeah, I'm. But you're not the only one that's ever done it.

[A]

Yeah, but I don't think people tell.

[B]

Oh, and also, I think you're doing it in a very normal way. I think other people have gone next level and they do, like, other things, if you know what I mean.

[A]

Okay. If you guys want to guess what.

[B]

It is, but also, we'll clarify. It's nothing illegal or dirty.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Because that sounded weird when I was like, other people do things. Okay, so do you have another habit.

[A]

I've cultivated this month? I don't think I've cultivated it. What was yours laying on the floor?

[B]

I've been trying to stretch more. Mine was stretching more, but then that ended up like, I stretched for a second and then I lay.

[A]

Okay, here's a habit. And this is all thanks to, like, everything Revolves around selling my house. I am cleaning my dishes and putting them immediately away. Right now. Instead of like leaving them out to dry, I'm like drying them and put them. Putting them away. And here's the habit I've cultivated. I've done it twice.

[B]

Shannon, can you look up what, how many times you do something where it makes it an actual habit?

[A]

I'm cultivating this habit.

[B]

Okay, There you go.

[A]

I'm folding my laundry as soon as it's done. Putting it away and putting it away. Yeah, yeah. I'll take it a step further. I'm putting it away. Okay.

[B]

That's what I need to do. Because I love doing laundry. And then I don't put it away. So then I form neat piles all over the place. I'm not messy about it.

[A]

So, you know.

[B]

But sometimes my closet can get pretty messy. But like, if you go up to my room right now, I've got a pile like sitting on a chair.

[A]

Well, you don't like doing laundry. You like putting laundry in the laundry machine.

[B]

Then what are you saying? I know what I like and I like doing laundry. I like doing laundry. Why are you saying I don't like it?

[A]

I love putting laundry in laundry machine too, because it feels like I'm doing something, but then I'm like, really? I'm just taking this mess and putting it in this.

[B]

Do you like sorting? Do you like sorting the colors?

[A]

I don't think it takes a lot of time. I just.

[B]

I don't like it because I don't not like it.

[A]

I don't like get a high off of it.

[B]

I don't think you like laundry like I do. I like laundry.

[A]

You. What are you like about laundry?

[B]

Because I think in my doing it, I like it. I just don't always put everything away right away. But some people dread laundry and their. Their laundry piles up and then they have lots of it to do. I try to stay ahead of it.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

I like doing laundry.

[A]

I believe you. I believe you. I'm sorry.

[B]

Okay. Shannon said there isn't a fixed number of times you need to repeat an action for it to be considered a habit. But research shoot suggests it can take anywhere from 18 to 254 days for something to become a habit.

[A]

I'm on days like seven, so I'm almost halfway there, like on my little.

[B]

Wool balls that I put in my dryer because I quit using dryer sheets.

[A]

Do they work?

[B]

Yeah. Okay, well, what do they do? I don't know. Sure.

[A]

They make your stuff not staticky.

[B]

No, I still have static.

[A]

Oh, maybe.

[B]

Maybe I need to update my balls because that's under weird. Sounds like it, but I think they wear down. So I might need fresh wool balls. Fresh balls. But what I've been doing, and it's so lovely is. And maybe Shannon even gave me this tip is I put.

[A]

So lovely.

[B]

See, I enjoy my laundry experience. I put drops of vanilla essential oil.

[A]

I was thinking, like, vanilla.

[B]

Yes. That's all I could think of, was vanilla extract.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Vanilla essential oil. And it's a little dropper and I drop it onto the balls and then I put them in there. And then your laundry smells like whatever essential oil you want, which I opted for vanilla. And I think that's a lovely scent because my laundry is very boring now that my skin is sensitive. So to avoid the rash that I was getting, I have unscented plain detergent and no dryer sheets. So I love that the little vanilla essential oil on the balls helps my laundry. Yeah, it's like more fun. Like, every load I go in there and I give it a new little drop.

[A]

I'm reading this book, listening to this book called the Tenant.

[B]

All right, parents, let's talk snacks. Because if you've got kids, you know how important snacks are. Even if you don't have kids, snacks are still important. You always kind of need a grab and go. Like something that's going to be good for you. And if getting out the door with kids looks anything like my house, well, someone's always running the car with one shoe on. Someone's asking where their water bottle is, and someone's inevitably always hungry. But we need to leave, so we can't really deal with that. That's why I love having Mott's no sugar added applesauce pouches around, because they're made with real apples, which I love, no sugar added. And the pouch, it's a total game changer. It's mess free, portable. It fits in lunchboxes, backpacks. It's also a snack that's a good source of vitamin C. And kids actually want to eat it. I know this because my kids actually want to eat it. Just the other day, my son had a couple of friends over and they were sitting in the back seat and I'm driving them around and I threw some in the front seat of my car because I knew, okay, these boys, they're always hungry. And they were so excited when I tossed one back to each of them. Mott's real apples make real good applesauce. Learn [e-mail] all right. In our house, a top pick for back to school lunches is Boar's Head. It makes packing lunch so easy because my kids don't complain and their lunchbox boxes come home empty, which is huge. We're big fans of the maple honey ham. They love that it's got the perfect hint of sweetness. My fridge is never without it. And their American cheese. It's a great combo. On some days though, we keep it simple with a sandwich and other days we may mix it up, throw in some oven gold turkey or ever roast chicken for wraps or snack boxes. However I use it, Boar's Head just tastes better. Boar's Head has been dedicated to crafting premium deli meats and cheeses for more than 120 years. Premium whole cuts of beef, pork and poultry. Spices sourced from around the globe. Boar's Head uses only the finest ingredients and time honored recipes, preparing every product with the utmost care. So if you want to level up your deli game this school year, check out the Boar's Head counter at your local deli. You'll taste the craftsmanship in every bite. Boar's Head committed to craft since 1905, big things are happening at your local CVS. Extra big. So hurry on over because extra big deals are here. These are deals so extra that they absolutely cannot be missed. And every two weeks there's going to be more. So you've got to keep coming back so that you can keep on saving on all the brands and products that you and your family use every day. And Speaking of saving, ExtraCare is the way to save at CVS. So use your ExtraCare card to unlock savings every time you shop. And if you're not a member yet, now is the time to join. And the best part, it's completely free. Just sign up online or in store and you'll start saving instantly. And always be sure to check the CVS Health app for deals and savings. Visit your local CVS store or cvs.com extra big deals to shop this week's deals and stock up on your favorite products.

[A]

I'm reading this book, listening to this book called the Tenet by Frida McFadden. And I'm bringing this up because he is allergic to every scent, like what's it called? Logic Detergent. And somebody's sabotaging him by pouring out his detergent and pouring in lemon scented detergent and it's giving him a very large rash.

[B]

It's just for my fiction. Yes, okay.

[A]

Yes. But that's how they're like if you ever want to sabotage Amy, switch out her.

[B]

No, because I would open it up and I would smell the lemon. Okay.

[A]

That's why I was like, okay. This is not like he would see. Smell that his clothes smell good. But you know, Patrick likes to say suspend disbelief.

[B]

That reminds me of something my daughter wanted to do. My son claims to be lactose intolerant. And what do you mean claims?

[A]

Well, we don't.

[B]

We've never had it tested.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

But he self diagnosed him, so I roll with it. You want the lactaid or the A2 milk, like, which is lactose free or easier to digest on your stomach. So we buy that. And then Stashira has her normal milk and they both go through enough of the milk to where they can each have their own or whatever. So it's fine. But Sashira's like, I have one of my containers and he has an empty one. Can I pour my milk into his lactate milk and watch him drink it for a week and see if he has a reaction. Because if he doesn't react and it's mental, like because he sees it in the specific container, then we'll know. Like if he's not like, oh, mom, my stomach hurts or mom, I have to go to the bathroom or my. I'm itchy, you know, And I was like, sashir, I can't do that. I love your little plan here, but that seems cruel. And she's like. She goes, I'm telling you, I'm not wrong. It's not real. And I don't know. And I should probably take the time to get it officially.

[A]

Yeah. I think the better way is to like actually test it. But I mean, she's being creative.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

It's sounds very sisterly.

[B]

Yes. So I just. That made me think of it, the switching out without him know and I couldn't allow it.

[A]

But she does do that one day without your permission.

[B]

She may have. Yeah, like, I don't know. She already did it. Who knows if he. If she has. He's fine. Yeah, he's okay. Dryer balls. Wool dryer balls offer several benefits, including reducing drying time, softening clothes, minimizing static cling, and helping reduce wrinkles.

[A]

So I need to get those because I stopped using dryer sheets.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

But now my clothes are just really staticky sometimes.

[B]

Mine still are. But again, maybe I don't have enough balls in there.

[A]

Maybe you need to refresh your balls.

[B]

I need to google laundry load and number of balls because then if I only have one or two and Maybe it needed four, because they come in, like, a six pack. So I have. And they. They're sneaky little suckers because they get caught in sleeves and they in sheets. So then they end up upstairs because if the kids put them in their laundry basket, and then they never. So they. Or Cara, my dog, starts playing with them. So it's just good to have extra on hand.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Okay. Shannon says here for larger loads, you do need five or six balls.

[A]

How many do you have?

[B]

I normally only do, like, two or three max. I mean, I have more, but maybe that's why I've got the static. This is riveting.

[A]

Yeah. We are so your friends. It'll change their life.

[B]

Share this with at least one person in your life, because it's gonna change.

[A]

Static clothing.

[B]

It's gonna change everything. Or maybe they have a rash, because I lived with my rash for a long time thinking it was something else.

[A]

This is how life is.

[B]

I now bathe in unscented soap, which Chase is staying in my house. And you're probably gonna be, like, in the guest.

[A]

In the guest bathroom.

[B]

Well, it's all I had. I just have these bars of soap, and I was out of body washinger, and I wanted to, like, put a fresh towel in there for Chase and make sure there's shampoo, conditioner, like, whatever. And then I was like, oh, and here's a boring box of soap. Unscented, plain.

[A]

He's gonna be really disappointed.

[B]

You get your own bar.

[A]

He's like, I'm going to a hotel. This place sucks.

[B]

This is. What is this? And unscented laundry. My sheet.

[A]

These sheets don't even dryer balls. I'm going to Laundromat.

[B]

Yeah. Oh, I know. So. But. But someone else out there, they may have a rash, and they may be like, I never. What do I do? And this is gonna potentially help them. You need to just descend to your life.

[A]

It reminds me of when I, like, got glasses for the first time. I thought that's how everybody saw. And then I remember putting glasses on and I could see out an assembly, and I was like, oh, no. You can see the people talking. They're doing a bunny race, too. And I was like, you can. People can see the bunnies up there.

[B]

So wait, how is this similar to that?

[A]

That didn't make sense.

[B]

I don't know.

[A]

I'm trying to figure out, like, you thought that, like, life was just this way. You had to live with this rash. And then you're like, no, people are rash free. And then.

[B]

Yeah, it's the same. Same. Yeah, that's definitely the same.

[A]

Okay, anyway, one thing.

[B]

Wait, are we still on our.

[A]

Yeah, I'm not done.

[B]

Okay. And here, this.

[A]

Back to the dryer balls.

[B]

This is the feeling things pod. And also, what I think you'll notice in this, if you do this activity with your friend or your partner or your kids, is it's like you learn things about each other, but also conversations come up, feelings come up. And this is just a way to add more of that into your life. A little activity to never know it in there. Which, you know that girl Chelsea explains on?

[A]

Yeah, I think I showed her to you.

[B]

You are the one that introduced me to her. Yes, you are.

[A]

I found her on Be There and Find. Okay, she was a guy.

[B]

Well, she popped up with some hack. She's all about hacks. Like, everything's a hack. And she's like. And this is like a fun hack. She's like. It's something my friends and I used to do back in college when the nights were just mundane. Like everything was starting to feel the same and we wanted to spice things up so they would be out. And they started playing instead of Truth or Dare. Dare or dare? Stop it.

[A]

Stop it. Did she really do this?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

If my friends are listening, they're gonna freak out.

[B]

Why did y' all play dare or Dare?

[A]

Because my favorite game is truth or truth.

[B]

Oh.

[A]

But none of my friends will play it with me. I'm like, okay, guys, it's got time for truth or truth. And they're like, we don't want to do a truth. And I'm like, okay, well, then pick a truth. They don't want to do a truth, so I just play it with myself.

[B]

So. So, yeah, that's another way to do it. So there's truth or Dare. And I guess there is an option of truth or truth, but nobody usually.

[A]

Wants to do the dares.

[B]

Well, she explained it, like, with. When you're out with your friends, dare or dare is fun because there are rules around it. Like, you can't do something so ridiculous or something that is hurtful to anybody. It's supposed to be light hearted and fun. Like a dare might be, I dare you to walk up to that person and just give them a compliment. It has to be genuine, like, oh, I really love your. And that might be uncomfortable for someone to be like, I love your shoes. Or the next guy or girl that walks by, you have to say, hey, love your outfit, or hey, so good to see you.

[A]

But they don't Know you?

[B]

Yeah. It's innocent, but still spices things up and then sort of has a snowball effect. Like, you never know where it's gonna lead. Sort of like this activity, this check in. We don't know where it's gonna lead.

[A]

I'll see if my friends will play dare or dare. If you were to be playing truth or dare, what are you picking?

[B]

Well, it depends.

[A]

I mean. Sorry. If you're gonna be. If you're playing truth or dare. Did I say dare?

[B]

You did say truth or dare, and I said it depends because I would probably be who I'm with, how comfortable I feel telling a truth to them, depending on what the question's gonna be. And then I guess if the dare is safe, like, it's just supposed to be a fun dare, I probably choose the dare because that might lead to more laughter and fun. And you know me, I'm a fun person. I am fun.

[A]

We should have a dare or dare night.

[B]

Oh, so this makes me think of something that could have been a dare. Oh, so you know what I'm saying?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Okay. The guy that came up to me, okay, So I was out with my kids. We went to church.

[A]

And that was not a dare.

[B]

It could have been a dare or dare.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Because the way this happened, it was so bizarre because I'm with my kids. I could see him being around the corner with his buddy. I dare you to go up to her while she's with her kids. Like, how awkward would that be? And he comes up and in front of the kids, gives me his card and says he doesn't know my situation. Obviously, I don't have a wedding ring on. But he's like, I hope you call. And I just, like, took the card. Like, I froze. I. I didn't know. I mean, he said something else, but I think I'm too embarrassed to say it. And he said it in front of me.

[A]

I couldn't stop staring at you. Yes. Staring at you.

[B]

Is that a lie? Did your toxic boyfriend say that to you?

[A]

No.

[B]

Oh, but I'm with my son and daughter, which maybe he doesn't. He didn't know they were my kids. But to. In front of my kids, hand me a card and say, I couldn't stop looking at you inside there. Like, wait.

[A]

Looking at you or staring at you? I feel like they feel a little.

[B]

Maybe we need to pull one of the kids in and ask.

[A]

I couldn't.

[B]

I stopped looking at you. I don't think you said staring because staring would sound creepy. He was like, I Couldn't stop looking at you in there. Like in the restaurant. And until you follow me.

[A]

Do you think he knew who you were?

[B]

No, because he didn't know my name.

[A]

What were you wearing?

[B]

My church clothes.

[A]

What are your church clothes?

[B]

Very churchy.

[A]

Like.

[B]

Like I'm gonna describe it and you'll be like, wow, what is your religion? It was a very long skirt with a white shirt and a cardigan over it. And my hair back in a bun, like so. And sandals. So yeah, yeah, My toes were showing. Yeah, but he didn't say, like, he didn't say. He didn't say. I couldn't stop looking at your feet.

[A]

Well, that would be weird.

[B]

He said I can stop looking anyway. Gave me a card.

[A]

What did you feel like?

[B]

Shocked that someone would do that in front of my kids.

[A]

I don't think that's so he was shooting his shot.

[B]

I don't know. I don't think you shoot your shot in front of the kids.

[A]

I.

[B]

Okay, I don't know your situation. What if Stevenson's like, what if I was married and she was like. Like she's with my dad.

[A]

Okay, that's. Okay, that's weird too, but one of my friends just told me about a story where her brother saw somebody at like a deli of sorts, and she. He was with his kids and she was with her kids and her family. And he wrote his number down and gave it to her and she called. Okay, well, he. That's bold. I think it's bold. It could be weird, but luckily, speaking.

[B]

Of my kids, dads, I can't share this story exactly. This is not mine to tell, but my ex husband is dating somebody right now and they got together in a very interesting way. All right, parents, let's talk snacks. Because if you've got kids, you know how important snacks are. Even if you don't have kids, snacks are still important. You always kind of need a grab and go. Like something that's going to be good for you. And if getting out the door with kids looks anything like my house, well, someone's always running the car with one shoe on. Someone's asking where their water bottle is, and someone's inevitably always hungry, but we need to leave, so we can't really deal with that. That's why I love having Mott's no sugar added applesauce pouches around, because they're made with real apples, which I love. No sugar added. And the pouch, it's a total game changer. It's mess free, portable, it fits in lunchboxes backpacks. It's also a snack that's a good source of vitamin C and kids actually want to eat it. I know this because my kids actually want to eat it. Just the other day my son had a couple of friends over and they were sitting in the back seat and I'm driving them around and I threw some in the front seat of my car because I knew, okay, these boys, they're always hungry and they were so excited when I tossed one back to each of them. Mott's Real apples make real good applesauce. Learn [e-mail] all right, in our house, a top pick for back to school lunches is Boar's Head. It makes packing lunch so easy because my kids don't complain and their lunch boxes come home empty, which is huge. We're big fans of the maple honey ham. They love that it's got the perfect hint of sweetness. My fridge is never without it. And they're American cheese. It's a great combo. On some days though, we keep it simple with a sandwich and other days we may mix it up, throw in some oven gold turkey or ever roast chicken for wraps or snack boxes. However I use it, Boar's Head just tastes better. Boar's Head has been dedicated to crafting premium deli meats and cheeses for more than 120 years. Premium whole cuts of beef, pork and poultry spices sourced from around the globe. Boar's Head uses only the finest ingredients and time honored recipes, preparing every product with the utmost care. So if you want to level up your deli game this school year, check out the Boar's Head counter at your local deli. You'll taste the craftsmanship in every bite. Boar's Head Committed to craft since 1905, big things are happening at your local CVS. Extra big. So hurry on over because extra big deals are here. These are deals so extra that they absolutely cannot be missed. And every two weeks there's going to be more. So you've got to keep coming back so that you can keep on saving on all the brands and products that you and your family use every day. And speaking of saving, extra care is the way to save at CVS. So use your ExtraCare card to unlock savings every time you shop. And if you're not a member yet, now is the time to join. And the best part, it's completely free. Just sign up online or in store and you'll start saving instantly. And always be sure to check the CVS health app for deals and savings. Visit your local CVS store or cvs.com Extra big deals to shop this week's deals and stock up on your favorite products. My ex husband is dating somebody right now and they got together in a very interesting way. Oh, like very. I have to give permission.

[A]

I know that story, but it's so crazy. I guess I kind of did that too. You did.

[B]

So, hey, it's more of a come back. Okay, wait. Stick with us.

[A]

So you felt shocked. Were you flattered?

[B]

Yeah, I mean, I think anybody would be flattered by that. Unless now I'm thinking it was a dare or dare.

[A]

What time of day was it? It was after church.

[B]

Yeah. So probably one o'. Clock. You know, he was there. Dare or dare with a friend.

[A]

Anyway, he was brave.

[B]

But that could be a dare or dare to do. Do you see, like, if you're out with your friends and single, whatever, it's harmless. Or if nobody's going to get hurt, you could be like, you have to go up to this guy and give him your business card and be like. But then they have your information, so that's dangerous.

[A]

A fake one.

[B]

Oh, yeah, fake.

[A]

Find somebody else's business card.

[B]

Yeah, but then that's. Then they call that person. They're like, even better.

[A]

It's like, you gave me your number and they're like, no, I didn't.

[B]

Oh, yeah, that's good. Yeah.

[A]

Wait, that's mean. That's mean. Don't do that.

[B]

I don't have the card. Because then later I went and met up with. With my boyfriend and his family and my kids. We went to celebrate and I was getting something out of my bag and I'd put the business card in my bag and I pulled it out. I mean, it was only a few hours later. I wasn't keeping it.

[A]

Wait, you didn't say, like, oh, I'm seeing somebody?

[B]

I did. I froze. I froze. I really didn't say anything. I just said, oh. I kept looking at Stevenson Sashira and I looked at him and it happened so fast. And I was like, okay. And then I just put it in my bag. And then we walked away. And then. And when I walked away, I felt bad. I was like, oh, my gosh, like, why didn't I say I have a boyfriend?

[A]

You should yelled back at him, I have a boyfriend.

[B]

I thought about that. I thought about that. Because we were walking away and I was like, I feel bad. Like, I should have said that. And now when I tell Alex the story, he's gonna be like, well, what'd you say? And I'm gonna be like, I said nothing. And then he's gonna be like, why wouldn't you say I have a boyfriend? And I was like, I don't know. I literally just froze.

[A]

What'd your kids say?

[B]

They were just like looking at me and they're like, that was weird. Like they didn't, they did not understand. They were like, what? So either he was dare or dare. But the cute part of this is so my husband. Shoot my boyfriend.

[A]

We should keep a tally of how many times.

[B]

That's only the second time.

[A]

I know, but we haven't been doing this very long.

[B]

Apparently if I do it anywhere between 18 and 250 days to have it. But I. That's the only the second time that's ever happened. And we've been talking about my ex husband and my boyfriend. It happens.

[A]

Innocent mistake.

[B]

And my admirer at lunch.

[A]

So your boyfriend.

[B]

My boyfriend has kids and connecting with them, especially his daughter, has been very important to me. Their mom passed away. She was the oldest and very one that was very close. They were all close to their mom, don't get me wrong. But she was the older and closest and that was her mom. So also her being now much older and almost 17. Like, it's not like she's ever gonna have a stepmom. Well, she could, but I mean, it wouldn't be this. It's not the same type of relationship, I think as like the 12 year old who I never had. Like, she's like to her. Her mom. She has a mom.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And we've had talks. I'm not trying to be that role, but I mean, I want to be.

[A]

A bonus mom though.

[B]

Sure. However you want to look at it all. That's just part of the details in case we have any new listeners that know that that relationship is very important to me. But I've been careful with it and I've even heard from other listeners that have been in my situation where it's like coming in as the. The next mom is a. It's an interesting thing that you don't get until you are actually trying to do it. And we're not even engaged, so apparently you're married. So I'm just clarifying that I'm around the kids enough and I pulled out the business card at dinner and she was like, wait, what's this? And I was like, oh, well, this guy gave it to me. It was so weird. So I told Alec the story because I wanted him to know, like, I'm not gonna do anything with it. But Here it is. And she grabbed it and she ripped it up. And she was like, you're not gonna be needing that. And I just thought that that was so cute.

[A]

Yeah. And it warmed my. That's like an affirmation.

[B]

Yes. Of like, I like you for my dad and for our family. So I'm gonna rip this up. And so thank you for random guy.

[A]

What if she was like, you should call him.

[B]

Could you imagine? That would be a sign.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

That would be a sign of, like, oh, you should probably hold on to that. You could see a teenager that was really. If they were really struggling and, like, didn't like you, they might be like, wouldn't lose that. You should probably. Yeah.

[A]

Keep it in a safe place.

[B]

Give him a call. You're not for my dad, you know? But instead she ripped it up and she said, you don't need this. And it made me very. While the encounter made me feel weird, especially because I made it more weird walking away without saying I have a boyfriend. It was all worth it because I had that moment with her.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Which probably to her it was just like a silly. You know. But it meant a lot to me. And maybe one day I'll get to share that with her. I don't think she's a listener.

[A]

You never know.

[B]

I know. I don't think we have a lot.

[A]

Of teenagers say thank you to. What did you say thank you to the guy?

[B]

Honestly, we'd have to ask the kids. Like, I think I was just like.

[A]

Okay, talk to you later.

[B]

I think when he said I couldn't stop looking at. I was just like, oh, really? I don't know. It was just weird.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Are we still on your check in?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Okay. See, you never know what could come up in check ins. One thing I want to accomplish next month is.

[A]

Can I do two? Do I have permission to do two?

[B]

You don't need permission. This is.

[A]

What's your game?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Truth or truth? Dare or dare you do you.

[A]

I am surprised. I'm saying this because I feel like this is your thing. And I've never really struggled with this, but I've been struggling drinking water. So I want to drink more water.

[B]

It's my thing to struggle with water.

[A]

It is your thing.

[B]

Yeah, it's my identity. I struggle with water.

[A]

Okay, so that's one. But then more. Seriously. Well, I guess that's serious. It's my health.

[B]

And you need what? I think you can live longer without food than you can without water.

[A]

What are you trying to say?

[B]

I'm just Letting you know it is serious.

[A]

Okay, okay.

[B]

Water is serious. Like, I think with water you need. With.

[A]

How many days can you.

[B]

Like three to five days without water, but you can go two weeks without food.

[A]

Can you imagine not drinking anything for three. I'm so thirsty right now. Talking about water.

[B]

Okay, 30 days without food you can go. But only three to five days. No water.

[A]

Questions that don't come up.

[B]

Yes, yes, yes.

[A]

This is just a recommendation I want to throw out there before I forget. Has nothing to do with anything. Everybody should read the Winter Garden. Speaking of food and water, it's a great book. It's by Kristen Hannah. So it's historical fiction. You'll learn a little bit and you'll cry a little bit. It takes a little bit to get into the book. My favorite book to this that I've ever read.

[B]

What era of history or. You said it's historical.

[A]

What are we gonna learn about a certain war?

[B]

Which war?

[A]

It's in the book.

[B]

Oh, you can't say. I don't know what it is. That's okay. I started Family of Liars and I was like, I can't tell you whose perspective it's from.

[A]

That's a little different. I'm just like, I like this so much.

[B]

The sister that got the chin job.

[A]

Shoot.

[B]

Well, like, probably World War II. No, no World War I. No Civil War.

[A]

What is it? Chris and Hannah? The Winter Garden. I will say, second really good book by Chris and Hannah is the Women, and that's about the Vietnam War. That is also really good. Okay. It's not a war, but it's like, there's something going on historically.

[B]

Always something historically. So. So the other. Yes, the Women. That is a very good book. And it is about Vietnam War, but.

[A]

This, it's about a famine. Is good.

[B]

So where were we? Sorry. As I.

[A]

As I water. I.

[B]

Okay, you're going to drink more water. And so.

[A]

Oh, I want to answer people more timely.

[B]

Oh, okay.

[A]

Like, I feel.

[B]

Respond.

[A]

Yes. Because I will get an email or a text and I'm like, I'll answer this later. And then it'll be a week later. And I'm like, oh, my gosh, I meant to answer that. But then it feels too late to then answer them because then it's like, oh, what do I say now? And so then I don't answer them. And then if I need to text them, then the last text is them asking me a question. And then, you know.

[B]

Yeah, you know, I get it. I know. I. I'm.

[A]

I want to be Better at like getting the text and being like, you can answer this now. You got it. And then doing it. Maybe that should be my affirmation. You can answer people right away. You want to.

[B]

You are capable when you want to.

[A]

That's my problem. Okay. Anyway, that's okay. We finished.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Yay.

[B]

We did the check in. So see, this is a simple activity. So good. I mean it'll be an hour long meal around the table especially.

[A]

You can always do with two people.

[B]

If you do it with more people, just carve out the time. But also you could make it rapid fire. But some of these people need to think about.

[A]

I think if you are in a family and you want to implement this in your family, one person gets to go a night.

[B]

Okay, that's good.

[A]

And we'll never do it again.

[B]

You go on Tuesday and then Timmy, you go on. Yeah, yeah. Got it.

[A]

Cool.

[B]

Chase, do you want to do the check in? I mean, not right now, but like not, not right now, but like do. Would you see yourself doing the check? It's like a fun activity for sure.

[A]

Well, he can't say no.

[B]

Well, yes, he could.

[A]

Oh yeah, you could.

[B]

Yeah, he can.

[A]

Is there another. Is there another question you would add to the check in or swap or maybe swap out? Like you can swap out some questions.

[B]

Yeah, I think it's pretty good. I like it.

[A]

I like it.

[B]

I think it's fun. So there you go. Check ins. Dare or dare. Truth or truth?

[A]

Winter Garden.

[B]

Where is Amy Bradley again? If you know anything, call. Yes, call the FBI. Do you know back in the day. Well, I guess you saw this in the documentary her family was on. Dr. Phil.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

That was interesting.

[A]

Do you like Dr. Phil?

[B]

I used to.

[A]

Yeah. That makes sense. Tracks.

[B]

That tracks. Okay. All right. Well, we hope you're having the day. The day you need to have.

[A]

Work on that. Bye.

[B]

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