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Amy Brown
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Amy Brown
Oh.
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Amy Brown
One, two, three. If you ever have feelings and you.
Kat Van Buren
Just want some, maybe a cat got.
Amy Brown
You covered like a num brother. Ladies and fellas, we just follow in the spirit where it tell us from.
Kat Van Buren
The real stuff to the chill stuff and the in between, sometimes the best.
Amy Brown
Thing you can do is just stop and feel things. This is Feeling Things with Amy and Kat.
Kat Van Buren
Happy Tuesday. Welcome to Feeling Things. I'm Amy. And I'm Kat and we're kicking things off today with a question.
Amy Brown
Okay?
Kat Van Buren
From me to you, Kat and anybody else listening. Are you aware of skims having little holes down there when you put them on?
Amy Brown
Yes.
Kat Van Buren
What? Wait.
Amy Brown
Yes. I thought this was gonna be something very different. So you can.
Kat Van Buren
Okay.
Amy Brown
Go to the bathroom without taking them off. Yeah.
Kat Van Buren
Genius. I'm gonna tell you all the different feelings I had when I recently bought some because, okay, I have a pair of skims that I've bought before and they don't have a hole, so I don't think they all have a hole.
Amy Brown
Are they full butted full body shorts?
Kat Van Buren
No, like compression. What are they called? They're like Spanx. Yeah, but Spanx is the og so I have Spanx as well. None with a P hole.
Amy Brown
Nuh.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah, obviously the P hole is very new to me because I didn't know I bought these at Nordstrom last minute for something and I thought I got a bad batch. Like I thought they were ripped and I thought, oh no, I ripped them because they're so tiny and they're tight and you put them on and they. And I thought, oh no, I pulled them too tight and I ripped a.
Amy Brown
Hole and then I perfectly.
Kat Van Buren
Well. But I, I didn't realize it was. Well, it would make sense. There's a seam there that you could rip it.
Amy Brown
Oh yeah.
Kat Van Buren
But then to your point, I did feel around. I'm like, oh, this seems like a well constructed sewn hole. Oh my gosh, this is a hole so I can go pee. Like, if I had not felt that or not known, if I had had to go to the bathroom, I would have pulled them all the way down.
Amy Brown
This is interesting that you've never, you've owned many pairs of Spanx and I've.
Kat Van Buren
Never had a pair as a whole.
Amy Brown
Never had a pair without a hole.
Kat Van Buren
Really.
Amy Brown
Well, unless it was not.
Kat Van Buren
Like, I'll go show you my. I'll go show you mine.
Amy Brown
I mean, I believe you though.
Kat Van Buren
I know. I just feel like I thought I was going to be shocking you with information.
Amy Brown
No, wait. And you try to return it.
Kat Van Buren
No, because I realized that the hole was supposed to be there. But I almost, I was really bummed. I had, I bought them that day and had to wear them that day. So I was putting them on really quick and I thought, oh dang, I ripped them and I'm like, I can't take these back because I have to wear them. But this is a bummer. Maybe I'll deal with it later. Like, I'll take it back and be like, I swear, right when I put these on, there was a hole. And then they would be like, ma'.
Amy Brown
Am, wait, I wish that you returned.
Kat Van Buren
This is a pee hole. But luckily my trained eye, because I used to sew back in the day, I realized, like, oh, this is a purposeful hole.
Amy Brown
So then did it just, like, feel so amazing to have that?
Kat Van Buren
Yeah, all the different feelings I had. I think when I was telling you, I was like, I have something to tell you where I had a range of emotions. Like, at first, I was, like, bummed because I was like, dang it. I just bought these, and they're expensive and I got, like, a dud, but I have to wear them and are going to be able to return them. And then I was more perplexed and, like, curious. Like, and I'm feeling around. And then I was like, wow, this is amazing. This is a whole.
Amy Brown
Yeah, that solves a huge problem.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah, I can see that for a lot of reasons.
Amy Brown
Okay. Okay.
Kat Van Buren
Well, there you go.
Amy Brown
You learned that.
Kat Van Buren
I thought I was gonna be, like, telling you something. You'll be like, shut up. They had make ones with holes.
Amy Brown
I thought you were gonna be telling me something really crazy, too. I was like, what could this be?
Kat Van Buren
Okay, wait, Shannon and Cat are in here. Did y' all know they make those with holes?
Amy Brown
Wait, really?
Kat Van Buren
Okay. Shannon didn't know. Cats. Okay. Three women. Four. Four women in a room, and three of us didn't know they made them with holes.
Amy Brown
I think this is crazy to me because I've never had them without the hole.
Kat Van Buren
Where are you shopping?
Amy Brown
Miners. Minor skims and Spanx.
Kat Van Buren
Simple Pleasures or whatever that place is called. Oh, I see.
Amy Brown
No, I'm shopping the same place as you're shopping.
Kat Van Buren
No wonder you and Big P are doing so well.
Amy Brown
Because I have my Spanx with holes.
Kat Van Buren
Well, because that was my next thing that I wanted to talk about was you and Big P and blindfolds.
Amy Brown
Yeah, I blindfolded him about five or six times yesterday.
Kat Van Buren
Tell us more.
Amy Brown
Okay, so this turned out to be a much cooler thing than I thought it was going to be. Originally, we decided he loves March Madness. I don't love sports, but he. He loves it. So I wanted to, like, be in it with them. So I was like, I'll do a bracket with you, sure. But to make it fun, we had a bet. And so the bet was, obviously, we're not gonna bet money. Cause, you know, we share that. It doesn't feel like you win anything. So the winner. No, the loser, had to plan a full day of surprises of all the winner's favorite things as their price. Anyway, so I lost, obviously. And again, this was, like, not a competitive thing. I probably. I knew I was gonna lose. And so what I did is yesterday, I planned from like, 7:00am to we got home at 9:15pm yes. Yes. And I originally scheduled a break in there, but then I was like, oh, I have some things that we can go do.
Kat Van Buren
Y' all were gone. That, like. Or you had stuff planned that you were gone.
Amy Brown
We left the house at, like, 8 and our first. And I blindfolded him everywhere we went. So he. He would get in the car, put the blindfold on, then we would drive there, and then he would take the blindfold off.
Kat Van Buren
Well, all I know is, when I was watching this, I thought to myself, I was like, kat and Big P are doing life right? Like, whatever it is y' all are doing, like, it just seems so fun. Like, your relationship seems so fun. And I know you talked the other day, or I guess the other week on a recent episode about pretend vacations in town, and then now you're all blindfolding each other, and y' all do all these. You take pottery classes, and you do those movie nights that you talked about too. Like, y' all just. Y' all are doing it, right?
Amy Brown
Yeah.
Kat Van Buren
Whatever it is. I need more of that.
Amy Brown
Well, and this is an easy thing to. I mean, you don't have to lose.
Kat Van Buren
The game to do it. You could just do it.
Amy Brown
And it. You don't have to spend a lot of money to do it, either. One of the places. Multiple of the places we went, we didn't spend any money.
Kat Van Buren
So, like, give an example of something you did.
Amy Brown
So play pickleball free. Went to the driving range. That was, like, $10. We went to Pins, which is a bar in Nashville that has all different kinds of games.
Kat Van Buren
Pins, mechanical.
Amy Brown
And we played, like, Jenga. And then this other game for free. I got a Diet Coke. It was $3. The most expensive one is. We went to TJ Maxx. He loves TJ Maxx.
Kat Van Buren
Wait, what? Wait, like, why?
Amy Brown
He loves it?
Kat Van Buren
I mean, I like how big shirts.
Amy Brown
Yes.
Kat Van Buren
Okay. I love home goods, too, but he.
Amy Brown
Just likes to look for shirts there. He loves them because he can get, like, a cool shirt for $10. He loves it. That's so. Yeah, that. That was one. I was like, we could go home. I was like, or I could take you to TJ Maxx. And he. He also guessed that one. He was like, you're gonna take me, T.J. maxx? I'm like, oh, yeah. He loves his shop.
Kat Van Buren
That's so cute.
Amy Brown
Only at TJ Maxx. He hates them all. Anyway, then we ended at Dave and Buster's, which was another game place. We love to play games.
Kat Van Buren
Dave and Busters. That's Makes me think of that NFL player that lived here that got killed, Steve McNair. Have you watched that documentary?
Amy Brown
Yes, but I don't remember Dave and Busters being part of it.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah, he met. He met his girlfriend there.
Amy Brown
She wasn't there. Oh, wait, did she die?
Kat Van Buren
Yeah.
Amy Brown
Okay.
Kat Van Buren
Murder, suicide.
Amy Brown
But we don't know who did what. That one's still out. And that's.
Kat Van Buren
That's. That's tricky. Yeah. I mean, I think that there's conspiracy theorists. If you watch the documentary, it seems pretty clear, but you can also tell that some people are like, well, but I think maybe okay happened.
Amy Brown
So we don't know for sure. I remember watching that and being like, we don't. There wasn't a resolution.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah, that's a documentary that is interesting to watch. I recently watched the. The Fall of Brett Favre.
Amy Brown
Oh, I watched that. And you know what? Yeah.
Kat Van Buren
Total loser.
Amy Brown
And, you know, that's my alma mater. Alma mater.
Kat Van Buren
Alma martyr.
Amy Brown
Alma mater.
Kat Van Buren
Alma.
Amy Brown
That's a hard word.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah.
Amy Brown
That's about Southern Mississippi. Yeah. That's our one claim to fame, and it's him.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah. Well, hey, you got a new volleyball court.
Amy Brown
Yeah. And when they showed a picture of that, I was like, patrick, that's what he.
Kat Van Buren
Have to build something like that small, though.
Amy Brown
He was like, yeah, it holds, like, I don't know, 10 people. It looks small. It looks small. It's still from welfare.
Kat Van Buren
Still a million from welfare to not worth it. Build it. I mean, what a shady, shady guy.
Amy Brown
That was upsetting to watch.
Kat Van Buren
So not complete. Not to completely derail us, because we're not a sports podcast.
Amy Brown
No, thank God.
Kat Van Buren
But whenever I think of David Busters now, I think of that, like, how more of, like, the butterfly effect of how one decision to go somewhere one day and meeting one person and then changes your whole life. I mean, all the little decisions that we make add up. And. Have you watched Friends and Neighbors or whatever it is with Jon Hamm?
Amy Brown
I had to stop watching it. Why? Because I was getting anxiety, and I wanted to be like, stop doing that. It's gonna be bad.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah. Cause he's stealing from his neighbors, and.
Amy Brown
You know something bad's gonna happen.
Kat Van Buren
So Jon Hamm is in it. Pretty sure it's on Apple or Macs, Apple or Max. Apple tv. It's Friends and Neighbors or something like that. And he sort of says a line somewhere that, like, it's not like, one big thing just, like, happened to him. Looking back, he realizes, like, it's a. Was a bunch of, like, little tiny decisions. That added up to.
Amy Brown
You know what that reminds me of? What, a million little things.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah.
Amy Brown
He says that it's not one big thing. It's a million little things that matter. So you can look at that both ways.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah. They all matter. It doesn't have to all end tragically.
Amy Brown
Yeah. Like that show did kind of tragic.
Kat Van Buren
It did well. So anyway, Big P and Kat are, like, the feeling I would give y' all assigned to y' all is just fun.
Amy Brown
That's what I. I asked him today what three feelings he felt yesterday. I'm gonna read what he said.
Kat Van Buren
Okay.
Amy Brown
His feelings were excitement, gratitude, and joy.
Kat Van Buren
I mean, if that's not living life to your fullest, and I don't know what it is.
Amy Brown
Also, it was. It was a Sunday, and to me, that was a big deal, because Sundays are usually very routine for us, so this was a way for us to get in my head. I'm like, I want to get the most out of life. Let's get something out of a day. We normally wouldn't do anything. We would get up, probably go for a walk, go to the grocery store, lay around, clean.
Kat Van Buren
See, but that sounds like a pretty fantastic day to me.
Amy Brown
I do the same thing every single time.
Kat Van Buren
I'm trying to think if you were to, like, blindfold me. You're like, amy, blindfold yourself.
Amy Brown
I'm gonna take you to the vacuum.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah. The Swiffer sweeper. And a little. You know the. When it, like, shoots out, the little. I like that cleaner spray stuff. And then you get to mop it. I love that. And you're like, okay, and now we're gonna go upstairs, and we're gonna wash your du.
Amy Brown
Well, your day would be really inexpensive.
Kat Van Buren
And then we're gonna lay down and just watch. We're gonna binge. What did I just binge? The better, sister.
Amy Brown
Oh, I want to watch that.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah.
Amy Brown
Well, your boyfriend can plan this day for you, and you've already given him the perfect itinerary.
Kat Van Buren
I mean, I would go walk. Like, he could plan a walk and then maybe, like, pick up food to go and bring it home.
Amy Brown
There's not, like, any, like, out of.
Kat Van Buren
Like, do I want to go to Pen's Mechanical?
Amy Brown
No, you don't want to go play games.
Kat Van Buren
I play pickleball.
Amy Brown
Okay.
Kat Van Buren
And I would go to the driving range. I play pickleball. But I don't. I don't want to go to Dave and Buster's. No, I don't.
Amy Brown
Okay.
Kat Van Buren
I don't want to go to Vince McKenna. Go, like, what is that? Saying about me. Because when I was younger, I loved to go to Chuck E. Cheese.
Amy Brown
That's okay.
Kat Van Buren
But, like, why don't I like it now?
Amy Brown
Cause it's not your thing.
Kat Van Buren
I don't. We. I had the kids with me on a work trip in Florida, and they were like, we want to go to Disney World. And I was like, nah, because they already.
Amy Brown
You wouldn't want to take your kids there.
Kat Van Buren
They already went to Disneyland.
Amy Brown
They're not the same.
Kat Van Buren
I know they're not the same, but I already did Disney. And, like, I don't. I guess this is one of those things where, as a parent, this is where you just sacrifice.
Amy Brown
Yeah, you stretch.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah, but we already did Disneyland.
Amy Brown
What about. Or what if you went to Universal Studios? Would you want to go to that?
Kat Van Buren
I mean, I guess a little bit, but not really.
Amy Brown
You'd rather go to, like, a pool and lay out or something?
Kat Van Buren
Yeah. Okay. Under a cabana.
Amy Brown
Be like, mom, can we go to Disney World? And you're like, I booked us massages at the spa. Yes.
Kat Van Buren
But, you know, you see those families or the moms, and they've got, like, the ears and the fanny pack, and they're, like, so excited, and it's like, their fifth time, and they love Disney. I don't. I don't understand. I don't. I cannot.
Amy Brown
Do you think I'm wearing a fanny pack to Dave and Buster's or something?
Kat Van Buren
No, but I guess I just thought this made me think of that, like, how I don't have a desire to do that. And then sometimes as a mom, it makes me feel like money aside, like, put the expense of it aside. I know a lot of people. It's like, Disney is. There's like, okay, either you can.
Amy Brown
A lot of money.
Kat Van Buren
It's a sacrifice that way, too, or whatever, but let's just act like it's something you can just go do on a Tuesday. I'm not gonna go do it. I don't. I don't want to go.
Amy Brown
That's okay.
Kat Van Buren
I know, but it. I feel like I'm not a good parent. Maybe there's some shame around that.
Amy Brown
Like, you feel like you should want.
Kat Van Buren
To go, like, because there's no way that not wanting to take my kids to Disney equals bad parent. Yeah, But I'm having that conversation with myself in my head, even though I know that's not true, but it just feels like, well, why. Why are these other awesome parents all gung ho about going to Disney?
Amy Brown
It'd be the same thing that you might let's say they really, really wanted to go. Mom, please put. And they're begging you. You don't have to, like, put on the. I wanted to say monkey ears. The mouse ears.
Kat Van Buren
I think the ears are cute.
Amy Brown
Okay.
Kat Van Buren
That doesn't bother me.
Amy Brown
Okay, you can. But I'm saying you don't have to go, like, all or nothing. You could not really be, like, this is gonna be awesome, but say, oh, my kids want to go. That would. Is fun for them and you not really enjoy it. Just like, if I. If Patrick asked me to go, he asked me to go to a UT football game, I didn't really want to do it, but it was fun to go with him. And he. That's where you stretch. And that's what I kind of liked about this thing where we were watching basketball. I don't really care about the basketball. I'm not excited about that. But I'm excited to do something that brings him joy. So you might be excited to do something that brings your kids joy going to their track meets.
Kat Van Buren
True, true. No, I love that. Yeah. I want to do things that bring them joy. Just anything but Disney. Okay.
Amy Brown
That might be your hard role, but.
Kat Van Buren
I mean, I already did it. I'm like, we did it once. Like, do we have to do world? Because we did land. Yeah, I know. They're different.
Amy Brown
I love Disney World. So, I mean, I don't want to go by myself, but going with kids is so fun.
Kat Van Buren
See, that would. Those words would never come out of.
Amy Brown
My mouth to see the kids be so excited.
Kat Van Buren
You should take my kids. Okay, perfect.
Amy Brown
I would be honored.
Kat Van Buren
Well, I love Big P's feelings. Excitement, gratitude, joy.
Amy Brown
Yeah, but he's. I just asked him, like, what are three feelings that you felt yesterday? I thought he would just write that, but he sent me a whole thing, and he didn't know I was going to read this. So. Sorry. He said, excitement, gratitude, joy. Excitement because of not knowing exactly where we were going to end up. Gratitude, because I'm very thankful for someone that put so much effort into everything she does, especially if it's to make me happy. And joy, because every activity we did was perfect and had me grinning ear to ear throughout the whole day. And that's so. Like, that's worth it.
Kat Van Buren
That's why I should take my kids to Disney. Like, that's a response like, yes, you would.
Amy Brown
You would love hearing that from your kids. Not that I just did it for me, but, you know.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah. I love that, though.
Amy Brown
Yeah.
Kat Van Buren
I just. Y' all are. You're the past couple of months. Like, how I've been seeing y' all navigate life. Well, actually, ever since y' all been together. But I will say, you've been upping your game a little bit the last few months. But overall, y' all are good at just living life. And I get it. You're seven on the Enneagrammer.
Amy Brown
That's another thing. My personality is different than yours.
Kat Van Buren
I know. Like, why am I not more fun?
Amy Brown
You're fun. Your idea of fun is different than mine.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah, but I want your fun. I just don't have it.
Amy Brown
Well, then I'll force you to have it. I'm gonna bring you to pins, and we're gonna play games. The thing is, if you went to PINS with me, you would have fun.
Kat Van Buren
Okay.
Amy Brown
Yeah. It's getting you there.
Kat Van Buren
Okay. Getting me out of it. Oh, so now you're gonna blindfold.
Amy Brown
I'm gonna show up at your house and blindfold you next weekend. It's gonna be awesome.
Kat Van Buren
Okay.
Amy Brown
Also, I will add one of the reasons this was already planned, because I lost March Madness. But one of the things that I talked about recently in my own therapy, because there's a lot of things in my life that are outside of my control, I've been kind of struggling with trying to do a million things in that realm to try to control it, and that's. It's something that I have literally no control over. So my therapist and I talked about, okay, well, if that's happening, why don't you do some things that are in your control to kind of settle that, like, itch? And part of that is, like, creating fun in my life. So that's why I'm working on planning a trip to New England right now.
Kat Van Buren
Fun?
Amy Brown
Yes. Foreign.
Kat Van Buren
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Yeah.
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I don't really have much in my purse. Oh, let's see. Hand sanitizer. It's lavender.
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Let me check this pocket.
Amy Brown
Oh, mints.
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Oh, I have raisins. I'm a mom. Wait, wait one sec.
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I've got cupcakes in the car.
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Amy Brown
@ least.
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Kat Van Buren
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Kat Van Buren
Speaking of, well, fun. And I guess we were talking about parenting a second ago. Like me with my kids. Did you see Megan Markle has email addresses for her kids and she emails them.
Amy Brown
She would not like that. You just called her Megan Markle.
Kat Van Buren
Well, whatever. Sussex.
Amy Brown
Sussex.
Kat Van Buren
I guess maybe she was talking on her podcast or somewhere. But I was talking about it with my daughter. It came up around the table that, like, Megan is emailing her kids right now. They don't have access to the email address. They're little. But she created these accounts and, you know, like on a Tuesday, she'll be like, hey, it's Tuesday. Like, here's a picture of you and your sister eating breakfast. Or, and then she'll attach the photo or whatever. And then one day when they're like 16, 17, 18, whatever, she's going to give them the login for the email. And then they will have all these emails to read through from over the years where she's send them little notes. And Sashiro's like, please don't do that. I won't read them. She's like, please don't do that. I will not. I will not read them.
Amy Brown
How many is she sending?
Kat Van Buren
I mean, who knows at that point? I mean, they're little now, but by the time. And then will email even be, you know, like, I used to have Hotmail. I don't.
Amy Brown
Does that exist?
Kat Van Buren
I think so, because I think my boyfriend has Hotmail.
Amy Brown
No, he doesn't.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah. Because I think I remember being like, what? Oh, no, he's Yahoo.
Amy Brown
That's the same. Same vibe. I had a Yahoo.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah, I had Hotmail. But now.
Amy Brown
But, like, why is that different than Gmail?
Kat Van Buren
I don't even think Hotmail is still around anymore, but. But Yahoo. Must be a little bit. But anyway, I'm thinking, like, things evolve and then, like, will it still be there? And she's putting all this stuff. But, I mean, I was thinking about it, and I was like, oh, it might be nice if you had, like, a handwritten note or card. But then at one point, it gets overwhelming. Like, you sit down and open up your email, and you're like, mom, there's hundreds of emails. Like, some personalities are gonna maybe, like, think this is the sweetest thing in the world. They're gonna read every single one. And then others might be like, well, this is a lot.
Amy Brown
I like that. I. I have con. I'm feeling conflicted. I like that idea. That's really sweet to have that. Those words from your mom.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah.
Amy Brown
And can we do, like, one a month?
Kat Van Buren
Yeah.
Amy Brown
Or less or what?
Kat Van Buren
Every birthday.
Amy Brown
Every birthday.
Kat Van Buren
But hers is like, no. Just like, here's what you need for breakfast.
Amy Brown
June 1st. I don't need that. I need, like, yeah, that's a lot. I wonder if she's. How old are her kids? That's a lot to keep up with.
Kat Van Buren
Don't know the ages.
Amy Brown
I feel like I would. Knowing me, I'd start that every day. And then they turn seven. Honestly, they'd turn three and I'd be like, honestly, six months in, you'd be dying to be done.
Kat Van Buren
Like, that was fun while it lasted. I don't know. I'm not a royal enthusiast. I don't know a lot about the royal family. I mean, I'm intrigued by certain things, but, yeah, I'm not, like, obsessed. Like, I watched the crown, I tried.
Amy Brown
To watch the crown. I Had to do so much research to understand it that I stopped.
Kat Van Buren
Like, what did you. What did you have to research?
Amy Brown
Okay.
Kat Van Buren
No, I'm just curious because they. No, that wasn't. Sorry. That wasn't judgmental. I guess I'm asking, like, they sort of. It sort of covers everything. So, like, it goes back in time.
Amy Brown
I feel like it is educational.
Kat Van Buren
Like, what were you researching? I'm just curious.
Amy Brown
Were you, like, who they were? Oh, like.
Kat Van Buren
Like a native English. Like the king. Like her.
Amy Brown
The dad and where the dad came from. And like, there's a lot of different. Like her different stages in her mom. And then the thing with the brother and the family and that he gave it up. And I don't get like, well, how did she become. I didn't really understand who they all were.
Kat Van Buren
Right.
Amy Brown
So I had to do. And then my thing is, once I start, then I'm researching more about what I'm researching. So then I'd be. Get 15 minutes into an episode. And I've been reading Wikipedia, which maybe that's not the source I should be going to for an hour, and then I still have 45 minutes left of the episode. It was too much.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah, that's. I was just curious.
Amy Brown
Honestly. It's a valid question. It is a valid question.
Kat Van Buren
Well, because I was just like. Oh, I felt like I was learning through it, but I will Google things at times if I want to know more.
Amy Brown
And I wanted to know. I wanted to fact check things and I wanted to know. I only got to a couple episodes.
Kat Van Buren
In, obviously, but yeah, because it's not a documentary.
Amy Brown
It's a scripted show, so more about his death and all. Spoiler.
Kat Van Buren
It's like you ruined, just like that Sex and the City that one time he does die. Cat loves to spoil when people die. Have you. Speaking of deaths, like, we've talked about this before on the Bobby Bones show and like, Fun Fact Friday, but I saw a reel the other day that reminded me of it, and it just popped into my head when you said this. But, like, JFK and Lincoln, you know, they were both our presidents. Fun fact. Yeah, but they were both assassinated. And all these similarities around their presidencies and their assassinations, like, Lincoln was shot in 1869 and JFK was shot in 1969. So everything's 100 years apart.
Amy Brown
Okay, what else?
Kat Van Buren
Stuff like that. Like, Lincoln was shot in Ford Theater and then JFK was shot in a Ford Lincoln car.
Amy Brown
Wait, really?
Kat Van Buren
Or. Yeah, and then.
Amy Brown
Wait, Lincoln.
Kat Van Buren
Lincoln and Ford are made by each other. One or the other. Both of them had vice presidents named Johnson, so Johnson became president after them.
Amy Brown
Crazy.
Kat Van Buren
And then both of them had their wives had miscarriages while they lived in the White House or lost babies or something like that.
Amy Brown
You know what a fun job would be?
Kat Van Buren
What?
Amy Brown
Somebody who finds fun facts like that.
Kat Van Buren
Well, we do Fun Fact Friday on the Bobby Bone show every Friday. Tune in.
Amy Brown
But are you finding the fact or you're just being like, oh, well, I'm.
Kat Van Buren
Just Googling the fact. But I would think that, like, most people that are finding facts, where are they getting them? Getting them?
Amy Brown
No, what I meant.
Kat Van Buren
I like the library stuff.
Amy Brown
What I meant is, like, the person who put all of that together, the stuff about the Lincoln and. Yeah, jfk, or like, Patrick is always talking about, like, stats, and they're like, the most random. He's like, this guy is like the 42nd person ever to have four of these, three of these and 12 of these. And it's like, who's researching that detailed of a statistic, you know? Yeah, that would be a fun job, I think, to find random stuff like that. And then, you know, people pay you, I guess, to come up with that stuff.
Kat Van Buren
Okay, while you were talking about that, I Googled all the other similarities, because they're crazy. I don't know who came up with all these. These are from different sources. They both were assassinated on a Friday. They both were shot in the back of the head. They were both with their wives when they died.
Amy Brown
None of these are too crazy.
Kat Van Buren
Both assassins came from the South. Both assassins had the last name Booth. Shut up.
Amy Brown
That's when it starts to get wild.
Kat Van Buren
Lee Harvey Oswald. John Wilkes Booth. Wait, Lee Harvey Oswald is not Booth. Assassins with last name Booth. Lincoln's assassin was John Wilkes Booth. And Kennedy's assassin was Lee Harvey Oswald with a similar sounding. What? That must be a typo.
Amy Brown
Yeah, it's not a.
Kat Van Buren
Either way, there are three names. Lee Harvey Oswald.
Amy Brown
Okay, maybe that's John Wilkes Booth.
Kat Van Buren
Same name on the vehicle. Kennedy was shot in. A car named Lincoln, owned by Ford Motor Company, while Lincoln was shot at Ford's Theater.
Amy Brown
That. I mean, it's. That's interesting. But imagine the guy that's putting that together. We would have never just thought of that.
Kat Van Buren
They were both assassinated by a single bullet. People from their South. Both of the presidents were in their 30s. Oh, my gosh. JFK's personal secretary, Evelyn Lincoln, warned him not to go to Dallas. Her last name was Lincoln. What? Anyway, I could keep going on and on. Both assassinations shocked the nation.
Amy Brown
Now, that's where it gets me.
Kat Van Buren
Anyway, there's more. It's kind of crazy, too. Like, even, like, Johnson and Johnson, the two Johnsons. Like, they were both born. One was born in 1808, and the other Johnson was born in 1908. It was just, like, all these weird things.
Amy Brown
Yeah, that's like. That's crazy.
Kat Van Buren
Wow. This is like a. Like a parallel thing happening, but a century apart.
Amy Brown
Anyway, how'd we get there?
Kat Van Buren
I have no idea. I don't know.
Amy Brown
I think we're talking about the crown.
Kat Van Buren
And then you said, somebody died. You said, the king died. And then I was like, speaking of death.
Amy Brown
I have some fun facts for.
Kat Van Buren
You, but that's, like, how my brain works. And then whenever we were talking about Meghan Markle and parenting and whatever, it made me think of my mom and this thing that I also saw online called, like, the Boop Method. Have you heard of it? The poop. Like, if you're everyone ever wanting to ease tension in a relationship, like, maybe you and Big P. I know that Yalls theme is fun and we fight, but okay, if you're ever fighting, I want you to just, like, look at Patrick and boop him on the nose. Just look at him and go, boop.
Amy Brown
If we were in an argument and he did that to me, he booped you, I would lose my mind.
Kat Van Buren
It's a happy tip, but it makes me think of speaking of death. When my mom was dying, my dad. This was crazy. She was in hospice. This is before we moved her to my sister's house to die peacefully there because she was able to express we were gonna have her die at the hospice house in Austin called the Christopher House. I didn't know there were these houses where people go to die, but I learned a lot. Shout out Christopher House. But my mom was like, I really want to go home. So we took her to my sister's house because my sister's house was easier flow for people to come visit and in and out. So by that point, my mom didn't really have any say in Austin. In Austin?
Amy Brown
Your sister. I didn't know your sister lived in.
Kat Van Buren
Oh, yeah. She didn't move to Colorado until after my mom died. It was part of her healing.
Amy Brown
Oh, okay.
Kat Van Buren
Which then my mom died in her house. And I always wondered with my sister, I was like, when you were selling your house, did you have to disclose was that someone died but it wasn't a murder? I don't think you have to disclose if someone dies peacefully, but, like, what if they're murdered?
Amy Brown
I Think you do have to disclose.
Kat Van Buren
That, but I don't know if they had to say, like, a woman was. Had cancer and was on hospice care and died peacefully in the. Yeah, no, because there's probably a lot of people that die peacefully.
Amy Brown
Somebody could have died peacefully in this house, in this room.
Kat Van Buren
So while she's at the Christopher house, and she's still a little bit with it, because by the time we moved her to my sister's house, she had fallen unconscious and was still alive but not responsive much. So my dad, luckily, this is right before she. This is her final day of consciousness. And she had been waiting 25 plus years for my dad to say he was sorry for leaving her for another woman way back. And she had forgiven him. But so much so that even after my dad got out of that relationship, and then my mom, they were both way older, and he wanted to maybe start dating her again. And my sister and I were so excited about that, but my mom was like, I can't date someone who can't own up to and apologize for what they've done. Not that she needed that because she had forgiven him, but she wasn't gonna give date to him again. And he now saw that as a good opportunity of, like, well, this was really hard for him. But if there's anything that'll push you to do something hard, it's, you know, okay, this is the final moment, so I've gotta go ask her for forgiveness and apologize to her. And so he did it, and it was this really serious moment, and my sister and I got to witness it. We were the only people in the room. And so it was really special and emotional, and, like, we were just sort of like flies on the wall. It's not like we were right there next to them or anything. And it was really sweet. And he was, like, putting his hand through, like, what hair she had left. It was really precious moment. And then my mom just looked up at him and she goes, boop. And she even did that boop right on his nose. And I feel like that was her way of being like, it's okay.
Amy Brown
Okay.
Kat Van Buren
Or it was her way of being like, I'm dying. So, like, thanks for doing it now.
Amy Brown
That was their thing, though.
Kat Van Buren
No. Oh, she'd never done that before. I don't know. That's why it's so funny that I saw the happy tip. And it was such a happy moment for us. It was like a boop moment. And I don't know. It like.
Amy Brown
Did you guys laugh when she did that?
Kat Van Buren
Yeah. And, like, my sister and I still joke about the boop.
Amy Brown
We're like, oh, boop.
Kat Van Buren
Like, when something's, like, really hard. Because it was, like, a real serious, hard moment, and it just, like, brought levity, and so you could bring levity with the boop.
Amy Brown
I like that more than in a. In an argument, because I think depending on who you are.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah, well, yeah. My mom, like, I don't even know if she fully processed what was happening. I think she did, but I think that's what she could muster up. Like, that's the response she could give, was boop. Sort of like, it's okay, buddy. Thanks, boop.
Amy Brown
Your dad's like, okay, huh?
Kat Van Buren
It was really precious. I love the boop. So if you ever need levity or you're looking for a happy tip, maybe with your kids or your partner, give the boop a try. Like, I need to do it to Patrick.
Amy Brown
Okay. I'll do it in a different scenario.
Kat Van Buren
I'll try to boob Alex.
Amy Brown
Yeah.
Kat Van Buren
You boot Patrick and we report back.
Amy Brown
But here's the problem. He doesn't show a lot of sadness. It might take a while for me to get there.
Kat Van Buren
Oh, okay.
Amy Brown
But I'll try it.
Kat Van Buren
Well, I have an update on if you need to disclose death. Shannon says in most states, you are not required to disclose if someone died in your house, even if it was a peaceful death. However, if it was a violent death, like a murder or death by suicide, disclosure may be required, depending on the state you live in.
Amy Brown
Yeah.
Kat Van Buren
Huh.
Amy Brown
I think in Tennessee you do. I think, but I'm making that up. I have a feeling.
Kat Van Buren
Would you be able to live in a house that somebody was murdered in?
Amy Brown
No.
Kat Van Buren
Me neither. Even. Let's say you get a really good deal. Like, let's say this house is epic. It's perfect. It's your dream house that has a pickleball court.
Amy Brown
My dream house. Nobody was murdered in.
Kat Van Buren
Okay.
Amy Brown
I get nightmares anyway. And what if it was in, like, the master or the. What's it? Primary bedroom? Then what am. I put my kid in that bedroom because I'm not sleeping in it?
Kat Van Buren
We could remodel. What if you really.
Amy Brown
No. Too many houses available for me to do that.
Kat Van Buren
No, but I'm telling you, would you do perfect house?
Amy Brown
You would do it?
Kat Van Buren
I.
Amy Brown
No, you're like, actually, somebody was murdered right where you're sitting. Yeah.
Kat Van Buren
Right in this room. Yeah. No, where we live in Tennessee, you're generally not required to disclose if someone died in your house when selling it, though.
Amy Brown
Oh, shoot. Well, good thing okay. Somebody could have died in my old house. My new one. They couldn't have because it was new.
Kat Van Buren
Oh, you mean like the last house?
Amy Brown
Yeah. Well, I mean, there could have been murder in my last house.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah, that's true.
Amy Brown
I would believe. It's better that. I don't know.
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Kat Van Buren
I have a fun little game I want to play.
Amy Brown
Okay.
Kat Van Buren
And I don't know, speaking of seeing things online, I don't really know how you felt about the BOOP as a therapeutic tip, but I've seen therapists rating coping skills. Like, if someone's feeling anxious, they can try XYZ. And then therapists will rate 0 to 10 if they think that it's helpful or not worth your time. So I'm gonna give you 10 being amazing. Do it every time. 10 out of 10 recommend0 means like, meh, and then obviously everything else in between. So I'm just gonna rattle off the coping skill and then you say, okay, you ready? Weighted blankets.
Amy Brown
It depends.
Kat Van Buren
No, no, the game is just like, give a number.
Amy Brown
I know, but it depends if it depends on what it is that they're having anxiety about. So it could be a 10, could be a zero.
Kat Van Buren
Okay.
Amy Brown
But I love a way to blanket for myself. So do you want me? I'll give it an eight.
Kat Van Buren
Oh, okay. There we go.
Amy Brown
Myself.
Kat Van Buren
There we have. Okay.
Amy Brown
In this moment.
Kat Van Buren
There'S so much nuance. Like, you can't. Kat's like, I can't. I can't. Journaling.
Amy Brown
It depends.
Kat Van Buren
I knew you're about to say it depends.
Amy Brown
A seven.
Kat Van Buren
Okay. And I was waiting for you to.
Amy Brown
Be like, I said, it depends, and I'm gonna give it a seven. But also for some people, it could be a two.
Kat Van Buren
So, like, have you seen these trending videos?
Amy Brown
They just say, I get the point, but I think it's. Yeah, it depends.
Kat Van Buren
Okay. It depends. Okay. Disassociating.
Amy Brown
Well, honestly, depends. It's good. Say zero, but it could be actually very helpful.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah, it's a coping skill. Disassociating. Give it a number.
Amy Brown
Well, in this moment, for me, you.
Kat Van Buren
Want to disassociate from this. You want to disassociate from this episode.
Amy Brown
Has saved people's lives. But also it then can really interfere with it.
Kat Van Buren
So it depends.
Amy Brown
Yeah, it depends.
Kat Van Buren
It sounds like this trend is problematic because people might see it and be like, oh, this therapist just quickly said, weighted blanket 10.
Amy Brown
Well, I've seen it with, like, skin, like, dermatologists or estheticians, and I've seen it with, like, different, like, health guru people. And it's gotten me before. And then I'm like, oh, I'm getting sucked in from this. Like for an esthetician, this product might be great for one person, but not great for another.
Kat Van Buren
Right. Well, don't worry. If we were to do this trend, it wouldn't. We wouldn't catch people.
Amy Brown
Honesty isn't. People don't buy it.
Kat Van Buren
People be like, depends.
Amy Brown
That's not helpful.
Kat Van Buren
It depends. Well, it depends. They'll be like swipe. No, I like it. I love your honesty. Drinking alcohol.
Amy Brown
Do you want me to lie?
Kat Van Buren
No.
Amy Brown
Okay.
Kat Van Buren
I think this is funny. Drinking alcohol as a coping, I mean zero.
Amy Brown
And it depends because some people, if.
Kat Van Buren
Alcohol doesn't impact them, like if they're. They're not an alcoholic at all, they don't have any trouble with alcohol. Sometimes maybe a margarita with your girlfriends could be fun.
Amy Brown
Exactly right. And like after a hard day, if, if my thing is coping skills after a hard day, it's really not at me like that but like coping skills. I like having like a box of them and you. It's never good to use all of them. Always.
Kat Van Buren
I was just grabbing excess.
Amy Brown
But to have a group of them, a toolbox which I can pull from, that's what is helpful. So like alcohol always and in excess? No, but I'm not saying blanketly it's a zero. But if I had to rank it, I would say one. But also it could be a three for somebody. Yeah, this is causing me distress. I need my distress to. I need my coping skill.
Kat Van Buren
Blocking your ex as a coping skill, that's like a really firm boundary.
Amy Brown
That's a. Is that a coping skill or is that a boundary? I guess so. I guess I. I don't think it's always healthy for people to block people.
Kat Van Buren
So I depend on relationship with my ex. Yeah, it depends. Are you co parenting?
Amy Brown
Yeah, it depends.
Kat Van Buren
Doom scrolling.
Amy Brown
Not always bad. It also depends.
Kat Van Buren
I'm gonna give it time limit.
Amy Brown
Yeah, I'm gonna give it a five.
Kat Van Buren
Three maybe doom scrolling for more than a certain amount of time. Yeah, it's bad eating something sour. Have you heard that? How about how if you eat something sour, it can take the anxiety away because your brain instantly has to fixate on the sour.
Amy Brown
We have sour candy in our office.
Kat Van Buren
Oh, so this is probably a 10. Just do that real quick. Let's practice doing it like sour candy and go 10 or 5.
Amy Brown
You need to practice just giving you this number. How about I need to take some sour candy and then do this trend.
Kat Van Buren
Eating something sour.
Amy Brown
6.
Kat Van Buren
Freezing cold showers.
Amy Brown
I love that. So 6. 7.
Kat Van Buren
6, 7. Going for a Walk.
Amy Brown
Okay, this is the problem. Can I blankly say they all depend? I am gonna give a walk an eight.
Kat Van Buren
Okay. But it depends.
Amy Brown
Yeah. What if it's raining?
Kat Van Buren
Oh, gosh. Boop. Okay. And then what about the last one going to therapy?
Amy Brown
Ah. Are you trying to trick me?
Kat Van Buren
No, it's just the last one.
Amy Brown
I mean a 10. A 10, 10.
Kat Van Buren
You're like, but it depends.
Amy Brown
But that's not a. I wouldn't. Okay.
Kat Van Buren
Going to therapy is a coping skill, is it not?
Amy Brown
I wouldn't say that that's a skill.
Kat Van Buren
Or a coping tool.
Amy Brown
Yeah, I guess so. Maybe I'm getting too into semantics. I'm gonna give it a nine.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah. You weren't. You weren't born for this game.
Amy Brown
But are you proud of me for trying?
Kat Van Buren
I am.
Amy Brown
Okay.
Kat Van Buren
You gotta.
Amy Brown
I had fun.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah. I had two.
Amy Brown
That's just like a. It feels like a trick game.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah. I do like it though, like you said, when the doctors do it or their thoughts on it. But then I see sometimes they contradict each other and then I'm all confused.
Amy Brown
Yeah.
Kat Van Buren
Because they're like red light therapy. You know, it's like world renowned doctor, athlete, triathlete, iron man hates red light. Well, universally, I would say overall, they like red light. But then there's conflicting feelings on sauna and cold plunge. And I'm like, well, what's what?
Amy Brown
Well, here's what gets you. Which I probably am the problem because of how I rated therapy. I've watched those videos and then at the end when they're like, and this is a 12 or whatever, then they're selling that thing. So. And I guess I sell the person.
Kat Van Buren
I saw that did this, gave it was one through ten the whole time. And then when it came to therapy, she goes 11.
Amy Brown
Oh, yeah. Which. Yeah.
Kat Van Buren
And she's like, here's my email. Sign up with me.
Amy Brown
But that's a good marketing strategy.
Kat Van Buren
That's like three chords therapy.
Amy Brown
Seriously. Call me.
Kat Van Buren
Google us.
Amy Brown
Email me, Katherine chordstherapy.com. thank you.
Kat Van Buren
Oh, speaking of. Well, not an email. We got a voicemail. Yeah. That I want to play. I mean, we've got awesome emails. We'll cover some on couch talks on Thursday. But I do love a good voicemail. And this is from a listener named Mary. And I will let her do the talking. Hit it.
Mary
Hi, Amy and Kat. This is Mary. I emailed you a long time ago when you were first starting out. Amy, I have been listening to you since the very beginning because I am a fan of the Bobby Bones show and listen to the Podcast when I'm driving. So I've been listening to all your podcasts, and a long time ago, I emailed you because you were talking about wondering how old some of your listeners were. And so I wrote in and said, hey, I'm 62. Am I your oldest listener? Well, I am still listening, and I'll be 68 this summer. And I love listening to you guys. You guys have been teaching me a lot, helping me with my feelings. I love the new show, and I just wanted to tell you that I'm so proud. That's one of my feelings. I'm so proud of you guys because you have taken something and grown it, and you've reached so many people. And I love listening to your relationship grow between the two of you and how free you feel to talk about the things that you are feeling and that you are willing to share them with us so that all of us know that we aren't alone in our feelings. And so, from Mary, maybe one of your oldest listeners, congratulations on the show, and I love listening. Keep up the good work. Love y' all. Bye.
Kat Van Buren
Isn't that so sweet?
Amy Brown
So sweet.
Kat Van Buren
And her feeling is proud. She's proud of us.
Amy Brown
I know. I felt like that was my mom calling in.
Kat Van Buren
Me too.
Amy Brown
Thanks, Mary.
Kat Van Buren
Thank you, Mary. And I don't know for sure if she is the oldest. I think we've heard from a little bit older before, but maybe we just have a pool of the older and they can all hold the title crown, wear the crown.
Amy Brown
We together, we reach all of the ages.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah, I know. Kat was looking at this, like, hat that our friend Camille sent us as, like, a mock up for something. And Kat's like, oh, there's cherries on here. Gen Z is very into cherries right now. And I was like, oh, good, because we've got a voicemail from Mary, who's 68, which I don't know what that makes her. Like, I'm a millennial. What are you?
Amy Brown
A millennial? You see, you're an elder millennial.
Kat Van Buren
I'm an elder millennial.
Amy Brown
And that wasn't supposed to be rude.
Kat Van Buren
No, that's just factual. That's what my daughter would say. My mom. My daughter would say, facts. That's just facts. Moment. It's fine. I know she was trying to get me to wear this outfit the other day, and I was like, so sure I can't wear that? Like, that's not. No, I'm 44.
Amy Brown
Facts.
Kat Van Buren
It was from this place called the garage, or garage.
Amy Brown
Oh, yeah, that's A new store, and they have one in at the moment.
Kat Van Buren
And I was like, I. Like, I'm not.
Amy Brown
I shop at Cold Water Creek.
Kat Van Buren
I'm not wearing this from the garage. She was like, no, this is cool. Like, I'm gonna help you. Yeah. She's already reserved an Instagram and she hasn't done anything with it yet. And I'm like, well, this is all on you. You've got to do it. And it's called Fashion for my mom.
Amy Brown
Stop it.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah, you want to follow her? She hasn't done anything with the. Yes, and I'm not doing anything with this. I was like, you'll have to. If you want to do this, it's fine. And if you want to dress me. She wants to dress her millennial mom.
Amy Brown
I think you will. You get dressed with ease.
Kat Van Buren
I have to tell myself that. Yeah, that's my mantra. I get dressed with ease. But she thinks she could help me because she did help dress me the other night. In fact, I think I maybe wore this shirt like I told you.
Amy Brown
That shirt's cool.
Kat Van Buren
Well, this I got on Amazon and she kind of, like, tucked it up, but it's like. I guess the look is like you tuck it intentionally, but it looks accidental. And then, oh, I just.
Amy Brown
It just happened.
Kat Van Buren
Like, oh, I just, like, have this on. And then she's like, trust, this looks good. And then she was trying to tell me about this outfit from garage, and I was like, if you want to do anything on fashion for my mom, like, we're not. It's not gonna be from garage. Like, that seems like a very Gen Z type store.
Amy Brown
I know what Generation Mary is. What Baby boomer is.
Kat Van Buren
A baby boomer. Same thing as a boomer. Because elderly millennial. Same thing as a millennial, but elderly. Whatever. Elder.
Amy Brown
Like, I'm a geriatric millennial.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah. I can. I can probably link this shirt in the show notes because I must say, it's one of my favorite Amazon purchases in a while. And I think it's. I know fast fashion. I have a love hate relationship with it. That's what we call it. Right? You. You and I were talking about this the other day, right? Not on air. Just as friends. Yeah, but just, like, getting fed up with, like, all the things from Amazon. But also there's some. That's like, okay, this is worth it. And I can wear it as summer. Like, I wore this as a sleep shirt. I could wear it as, like, over shorts. I can wear it lounging around. I can wear it kind of messy tucked with jeans for dinner.
Amy Brown
With my jeans from the garage. Well, I think that's one of the things I was listening to another podcast talk about. This is the stress of having these black and white virtues. Or I can never shop there. I have to do everything right, or I buy all my stuff there. And that's okay if you make intentional decisions to try to shop elsewhere when you can and when it's available and when you have the means to. And if every now and then, you do end up buying a shirt from Amazon, it's a like, give yourself a break.
Kat Van Buren
Right. Well, I love those socks we get from Amazon too, so I don't want to give those up.
Amy Brown
Yeah, I bought some at TJ Maxx, too, the other day.
Kat Van Buren
Oh. On your shopping trip with Big P. So you got to buy, sell for your YouTube.
Amy Brown
I got socks and a new water bottle. He picked it out for me, though. And then he got nine shirts.
Kat Van Buren
How many water bottles do you have?
Amy Brown
Well, I have my purple water bottle. My new water. I wanted a water bottle that I could hold, like, the handle.
Kat Van Buren
This definitely millennial of you.
Amy Brown
Exhibit it. One of my Gen Z clients came in with this. Oh.
Kat Van Buren
And it had a handle.
Amy Brown
Because when you're walking on a walk, it's annoying to have to hold the handle. It kind of hurts my ears. Oh.
Kat Van Buren
See, I was thinking that was giving elderly. But you're saying it's giving Gen Z.
Amy Brown
This is. I think this is Gen Z.
Kat Van Buren
Okay.
Amy Brown
But then when I drink out of this, I feel like a baby because it's like a bottle.
Kat Van Buren
We'll add a little cherry on there, and you'll. It'd be very Gen Z.
Amy Brown
Anyway, that's just one of my water bottles.
Kat Van Buren
I just feel like you have a lot of water bottles.
Amy Brown
Well, I like to have them at all times.
Kat Van Buren
Shannon just looked up the color of my shirt combo, and it's dusty blue. Great. Now, if I get the link. Oh, she linked it. If I check the link, I might have to be like, I might have to get another different color combo. Oh, but it is not on sale right now. I bought it on sale. Don't buy it unless you can get it on sale.
Amy Brown
Okay.
Kat Van Buren
It's $36 right now. But you know how every once in a while, Amazon will be like, $12? Yeah. It's 79 off right now. And you're like, okay, so how much was this to really look at this color combo, though? That's cute. You don't like it? Okay. You don't like it.
Amy Brown
I like it for you.
Kat Van Buren
What about this color combo.
Amy Brown
I like that.
Kat Van Buren
Okay. See, I liked. I thought you were.
Amy Brown
Okay. The other one looked like say by the Bell.
Kat Van Buren
Ooh. This one looks very like a B. What's it. It looks like black and white stripe. No, but what's the school? Notre Dame. Rudy. Rudy. Have you ever seen that movie?
Amy Brown
You've never seen Rudy that looks like a bumblebee?
Kat Van Buren
You've never seen Rudy?
Amy Brown
No, I've never seen Rudy the movie.
Kat Van Buren
I know we're on a sports podcast, but about the little football player that could.
Amy Brown
Rudy the blind side.
Kat Van Buren
Have you ever heard of Rudy?
Amy Brown
No.
Kat Van Buren
Rudy, go home and just say to Patrick, boop him. And then say, rudy. Rudy.
Amy Brown
Do you want me to just film myself doing that?
Kat Van Buren
Yes.
Amy Brown
Okay.
Kat Van Buren
And then he's gonna say, why are you talking about Rudy from Notre Dame?
Amy Brown
Okay, we'll see. What if he's like, I've never. What are you doing? What's that from?
Kat Van Buren
That's so crazy to me. All the. We should have a movie night. You should pick that as your movie and serve, like, Irish things.
Amy Brown
Is it? Oh, because. No. Yeah.
Kat Van Buren
Are y' all gonna do that again?
Amy Brown
We're doing it this Sunday.
Kat Van Buren
Okay. Well, who's hosting? Patrick, shut up. Yeah, at your house.
Amy Brown
You could come.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah, I have to do a thing with Dirk Spinley.
Amy Brown
Oh, I have to do a thing with Dirk Smith. You can come after CMA Fest.
Kat Van Buren
Hey, Dirks.
Amy Brown
I have to go watch a movie at my friend's house. Sorry, I didn't know CMA Fest. Okay, well, another time.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah. Okay. Kat, where can people find us on Instagram?
Amy Brown
At you. Not that. At Feeling Things podcast.
Kat Van Buren
That's right. Which we are climbing.
Amy Brown
Oh, we are. Yeah. Yeah.
Kat Van Buren
I'm loving that people are enjoying the Instagram videos. So you're doing a really, really, really, really good job with them. Like, it's so fun to have the reels and cats making those. By the way, if y' all think there's some team of people.
Amy Brown
No Gen Z girl doing it. No, it's me.
Kat Van Buren
No, we have the other cat that's working the switcher on the cameras that go, switch, switch. So it goes from, like, my face to cat's face, my face to cat's face. And then Cat is on her computer and she's making the videos. And then we come up with captions and whatnot. Those are for the reels. And then obviously, in this room with Cat, too, we have Shannon, who gives us all of our facts. Fun facts. Like that Mary is a baby boomer.
Amy Brown
Wait, no, I decided that in my head. I'm just kidding.
Kat Van Buren
Oh, I saw. I was like, oh, you just guessed it. She even typed it because she was born in 1963, which makes her a baby boomer. Smiley face. That's what.
Amy Brown
Yeah, no, I was getting. I didn't know.
Kat Van Buren
And then Shannon goes. Link Amy's cute shirt in the show notes, question mark, question mark. It's in color. Dusty blue Convo. Here's the link.
Amy Brown
She's writing your script as you guys are talking.
Kat Van Buren
No, I mean, that's just. She's just letting us know, like, it's in there. And then she gave us a bunch of facts about earlier when we were talking about Hotmail. That still exists technically, but it's now integrated into Microsoft Outlook. You can access your Hotmail account by logging into outlook.com using your Hotmail credentials.
Amy Brown
Crazy.
Kat Van Buren
But you didn't know that. I wonder if I could get into my old Hotmail.
Amy Brown
Could you use that for your fun fact this Friday?
Kat Van Buren
No, I don't. It's not fun. It's not very fun. But, like, maybe it's. Maybe I go Fun fact. In most states, you're not required to disclose if someone died in your house.
Amy Brown
That's not fun.
Kat Van Buren
Even if it was a peaceful death. However, if it was a violent death, disclosure may be required.
Amy Brown
I think we can do better. No, I think we can do better.
Kat Van Buren
Okay. All right, well, catch us on socials, on YouTube, feeling things, podcast, all the things. I'm Radio Amy. She's Kat Van Buren. On socials. I'm Amy Brown. That was taken by somebody else.
Amy Brown
Would you have not done Radio Amy?
Kat Van Buren
No, I wanted Amy Brown.
Amy Brown
Oh, Amy. Give her her name back.
Kat Van Buren
Let me see. Who has the Instagram. I know that. Amybrown.com. she's a fairy artist. But on Instagram, I don't.
Amy Brown
You know what's crazy? The Britney. I don't know her last name from Vanderpump rules. Her Instagram name is just at Brittany. How did she get that name?
Kat Van Buren
Well, she got it early on.
Amy Brown
Did she?
Kat Van Buren
Well. Or yeah, maybe she got it from. Look. Amy Brown Art. That's the fairy artist. See her work? That's who sometimes people think I am. They do. They think I make this fairy art. Oh, that's not me, guys.
Amy Brown
Yeah, could be you.
Kat Van Buren
She does watercolor fantasy art. She's been doing it for 30 plus years. You can follow her on Patreon.
Amy Brown
Who's Amy Brown?
Kat Van Buren
That's what I'm trying to figure out. And I. Guys, if this is available, Amy Brown. There's I.
Amy Brown
Guys, let me see.
Kat Van Buren
I see Amy Brown comedy. It's not me, but if people think she's me, I'm fine with that because I want people to think I'm funny.
Amy Brown
Wait, is there not an Amy Brown?
Kat Van Buren
Guys, there has to be an Amy Brown, otherwise I would have Amy Brown. Why is it not coming up? Amy Brown.
Amy Brown
Oh, there is one.
Kat Van Buren
What is it? Why can't I find them?
Amy Brown
She's a school teacher.
Kat Van Buren
She is?
Amy Brown
Yeah. She lives in Nottingham.
Kat Van Buren
Oh, she's all the way over across the pond.
Amy Brown
She's a qualified netball umpire.
Kat Van Buren
How many followers does she have?
Amy Brown
357,000.
Kat Van Buren
Wait, let me see.
Amy Brown
You could buy that from her.
Kat Van Buren
Wait, what? Wow, she's very. What's a TPN girl?
Amy Brown
I don't know. I didn't say that because I know what it meant.
Kat Van Buren
She's very pretty. Do you see how she's pretty?
Amy Brown
She's cute. You should message her and say you're pretty. Can I have your Instagram name?
Kat Van Buren
What? Guys, I would have swore that the fairy artists had that. I just know that it was taken back in the day and who. We didn't know Instagram was really going to be a thing or how long we were going to have it. And so I just did Radio Amy. Or maybe I did Radio Amy on Twitter first and then I just followed it over to Instagram.
Amy Brown
Yeah, I mean, I like Radio Amy, but.
Kat Van Buren
Well, what if I'm not always in radio? Then I can change it to whatever I am.
Amy Brown
Yeah. Podcast Amy.
Kat Van Buren
What would I be?
Amy Brown
Motivational speaker Amy.
Kat Van Buren
Oh, I don't think I'm a motivational speaker.
Amy Brown
I'm just throwing things out.
Kat Van Buren
Yeah, but you see that for me because I don't.
Amy Brown
You could be a speaker Amy. Author Amy.
Kat Van Buren
Oh, look at all this you have for me.
Amy Brown
Zookeeper Amy.
Kat Van Buren
Oh, I don't like zoos.
Amy Brown
You have so many animals. Okay, okay.
Kat Van Buren
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Podcast Summary: The Bobby Bones Show
Episode: AMY: Say This to Shut It Down, Try This to Shake Up Your Relationship, & Kat Rates Ways to Cope With Anxiety
Release Date: June 15, 2025
Host/Authors: Amy Brown & Kat Van Buren (Premiere Networks)
The episode kicks off with Amy Brown and Kat Van Buren introducing their segment, "Feeling Things," where they delve into personal emotions and relationship dynamics. The hosts emphasize the importance of acknowledging and processing feelings as a pathway to personal growth and healthier relationships.
Timestamp: [02:15]
Kat initiates the conversation by discussing an unexpected feature in certain Skims underwear—small pee holes. Initially unaware, both hosts share their experiences and the range of emotions that surfaced upon discovering this design.
They explore the practicality of such features, concluding that intentional design elements like pee holes enhance comfort and functionality, thereby improving daily life.
Timestamp: [06:12]
Amy shares a heartfelt story about planning a surprise day for her partner, Patrick, after losing a March Madness bracket bet. Instead of competitive tension, they transformed the day into a series of blindfolded activities designed to bring excitement and joy.
The hosts discuss various low-cost activities they incorporated, such as playing pickleball, visiting the driving range, and ending the day at Dave and Buster's. Amy highlights how this experience fostered gratitude and joy in their relationship.
Timestamp: [14:15]
The conversation shifts to parenting, with Kat expressing her reluctance to take her kids to Disney World despite its popularity among other parents. The discussion touches on the pressure parents feel to conform to certain expectations and the importance of choosing activities that align with personal values and interests.
They advocate for finding a balance between fulfilling children's desires and maintaining personal well-being, suggesting alternative activities like planning spa days or quiet family outings.
Timestamp: [26:00]
Kat introduces an intriguing "Fun Facts" segment, highlighting the uncanny similarities between the assassinations of Abraham Lincoln and John F. Kennedy. The hosts recount parallels such as the coinciding 100-year gap, both presidents being shot in the back of the head while in the company of their wives, and both assassins having Southern origins.
The segment underscores the fascination with historical coincidences and the often mysterious patterns that emerge in significant events.
Timestamp: [39:02]
Amy and Kat engage in a playful yet insightful game where they rate various coping skills for anxiety on a scale from 0 to 10. This interactive segment aims to evaluate the effectiveness of different strategies based on personal experiences and general perceptions.
The hosts discuss each coping mechanism's merits and drawbacks, emphasizing that effectiveness can vary widely depending on individual circumstances and preferences.
Timestamp: [46:17]
A touching voicemail from a listener named Mary is featured, showcasing the positive impact of Amy and Kat's podcast on their audience. Mary, who is 62 and soon to be 68, expresses her gratitude and pride in the hosts for fostering a safe space to discuss feelings and personal growth.
This segment highlights the supportive community built around the podcast and the valuable connections formed with listeners.
Timestamp: [49:16]
The conversation turns lighthearted as Amy and Kat discuss the challenges of securing unique Instagram handles. Kat humorously navigates the confusion between different Amy Browns online, stressing the importance of personal branding and the difficulties of standing out in a crowded digital landscape.
They share tips on maintaining a consistent online presence and the playful interactions that arise from overlapping digital identities.
Timestamp: [30:26]
Kat opens up about the emotional journey of her mother's final days, sharing a poignant moment where her mother used a playful "boop" gesture despite the gravity of the situation. This touching anecdote underscores the power of levity and affection in moments of profound loss.
The story serves as a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the healing power of simple acts of love and connection.
The episode wraps up with Amy and Kat reflecting on the day's discussions, encouraging listeners to engage with the podcast's social media platforms and stay connected. They reiterate the importance of feeling and expressing emotions as integral parts of personal and relational well-being.
This episode of "The Bobby Bones Show" offers a blend of practical advice, personal anecdotes, and engaging discussions that resonate with a diverse audience. From innovative product features to meaningful relationship strategies and heartfelt listener stories, Amy and Kat provide a comprehensive exploration of emotions and coping mechanisms, ensuring listeners feel understood and supported.
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