The Bobby Bones Show: "AMY – Staying Curious, Making Changes & Sipping Proffee"

Podcast: The Bobby Bones Show (Feeling Things with Amy and Kat)
Date: August 31, 2025
Hosts: Amy Brown and Kat
Episode Focus: Staying curious in daily life, personal growth and changes, the social complexities of simple etiquette (like telling someone about food in their teeth), navigating adulthood milestones (like changing your name after marriage), protein coffee ("proffee"), reflections on friendships and podcast drama, and a playful language upgrade.

Main Theme & Purpose

This episode centers on Amy and Kat's appreciation for curiosity—being open to life's awkward moments and changes, big or small. Through lighthearted personal stories, the women discuss everything from social dilemmas and nutrition habits to significant life changes (like Kat finally changing her last name after marriage), with a recurring emphasis on self-awareness, female friendship, and making the best of transitional moments. The show is warm, chatty, and often veers into the hilariously relatable.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Lettuce-in-the-Teeth Dilemma

[02:29]–[06:59]

• Amy shares a mortifying story about walking around with "a big piece of lettuce right here on my tooth" ([03:28], Amy) while showing house contractors around.
• The crux: Would you tell someone you don't know very well that they have something in their teeth?
• Kat reflects: “I guess if I was being hired by somebody and I don’t want to make them feel uncomfortable, then I’m just not going to say anything. But now I’m also uncomfortable knowing that I had it the whole time and they didn’t say anything.” ([04:18], Kat)
• The discussion pivots to chia seeds and the perils of having "pesky little fellas" stuck in your teeth, leading to a humorous pledge to edit them out of the duo's protein ball recipe ([07:41]–[08:41]).

2. Protein Coffee (“Proffee”) and Nutrition Swaps

[10:48]–[12:14]

• Amy extols the virtues of mixing protein powder into coffee: "I use my vanilla almond milk and I mix it in with my coffee... 25 grams of protein. Not just any protein. High quality isopure protein." ([11:20], Amy)
• Kat notes this could balance out her favorite "sesame bagel with butter," notoriously low in protein.
• Both encourage listeners to try proffee, using code FEEL20 for a discount.

3. Adulting Milestone: Finally Changing Your Name

[12:23]–[15:30]

• Kat expresses relief at having finally changed her last name post-marriage, after 1.5 years: "I have changed my last name." ([12:34], Kat)
• Details the bureaucratic marathon of making the change on every life document: “...it's like there's a million things to do, and it's hours and hours and hours. And I'm like, what can we make men do that is equal to this? Because I don't get it.” ([14:33], Kat)
• Amy and Kat discuss the mental and emotional load it takes, compounded by anxiety and, for Kat, ADHD.

4. Navigating Anxious Social Situations

[19:09]–[22:23]

• Kat confides that she often gets nervous about going to someone’s house for the first time: “...I’ll text them, be like, I'm here, just making sure this is the right place before I go knock on their door.” ([19:17], Kat)
• Amy finds such nerves less common for herself but appreciates details like party balloons or signs to help anxious guests ("I love when it's like, oh, left here where the balloons are... That's legit." [20:40], Amy).
• They agree small touches can make social events more welcoming.

5. Names, Identity, and Hyphenation

[22:31]–[23:42]

• Elaborate conversation about maiden vs. married names, middle names, hyphenation, and how traditions vary.
• Amy shares her own name evolution due to family connections: "I ended up keeping my mom did her maiden was Christopher... So I followed suit like she did and I did Amy Moffat Brown. And then eventually I went back and I changed it because I missed the Elizabeth..." ([23:00], Amy)
• Kat ponders the complications and mouthfuls of long hyphenated names.

6. Are Wives a ‘Cheat Code’ to Life? Gender, Roles & Relationships

[26:03]–[29:10]

• Amy references a viral article: “A wife is the cheat code to life... Married men outperform single men across the country in nearly every category.” ([26:14], Amy)
• Stats cited: higher income (10-40%), lower risk of depression, better health, even longer life.
• Kat contextualizes: women typically get their needs met through deep friendships, while men often rely on wives for emotional support, resulting in extra emotional labor for women.

7. Podcast Drama & Curiosity

[33:13]–[41:08]

• Amy and Kat recount several public podcast split-ups:
  • Alex Cooper & Sofia Franklyn (Call Her Daddy)
  • Monica & Liz Plank (Armchair Expert, Man Enough)
  • Alex Earl’s short-lived podcast partnership
• Reflect on being “curious about what happened” but respecting people’s privacy.
• Amy: "I respect that it's none of my business if we don't get all the details." ([41:08], Amy)

8. Being Selective with Sharing Vulnerable Moments

[41:39]–[43:10]

• Amy observes: "A lot of people who are not speaking about certain things... it's respect, it's their privacy, it's them having boundaries. Other people don't say things because they're waiting for the best moment..." ([41:48], Amy)
• On reality TV stars monetizing their stories: “Sometimes we just have to be patient because, like, if they're gonna share this part of their life that's so personal... let them make some money off of it.” ([43:10], Amy)

9. Joy, Family, and Living with Curiosity

[45:12]–[46:16]

• Amy describes her mother's philosophy during cancer treatment—spreading joy in the hardest places, illustrated by a Walker Hayes song: “She would make it a point to be like, 'Oh, I love your scarf'... especially to the people that were there alone...” ([45:12], Amy)
• Message: Spread joy and stay open, even through tough times.

10. Language, Vocabulary Upgrades, and Fun Accents

[47:02]–[52:07]

• The hosts challenge each other to use more “elevated” or “exquisite” vocabulary in daily life:
  • “Maybe be our own little word wizards and give ourselves new words to use.” ([50:47], Amy)
  • Celebrates Amy’s son using the word “prone” in a conversation: “He just looked at me and he said, 'so does that mean that you’re going to be more prone to get cancer?'... I was just really impressed by that.” ([49:39], Amy)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On social embarrassment:
  "I'm sure I was like, how are you? And I have the lettuce right in my tooth." — Amy ([03:52])
• On chia seeds:
  "That's what you said they would be. And I was like, no, no, no chia seeds for life. Like, I'm keeping them in... But we don't need to send people down that path, cause emotional distress picking chia seeds out of their teeth." — Amy ([08:21]) "The only time you should be eating that chia seed is if you're home... and you can brush your teeth after because those pesky little fellas." — Kat ([08:41])
• Being an emotional support partner:
  "...the support I give [my husband] is a deeper, emotional, more, I think, all-encompassing kind of support. So that's probably why this is different for men than women, because we already have that as women with our female friendships, but men lack that." — Kat ([28:00])
• On women's emotional labor:
  "That can be very exhausting because women are doing it for women and now they're doing it for men." — Kat ([29:03])
• Respect for privacy:
  "It’s not living rent free. Like, some things in my mind do. Like, where is Amy Bradley? But, you know, still don’t know. But I respect it because people ask me about things in my life that I’m just not going to address." — Amy ([41:09])
• Language upgrade mission:
  "Sometimes I think that I just like am grabbing for a word that I don't have in my head yet and I need more words... So you want to be a thesaurus?" — Kat ([48:45], [49:06])

Timestamps for Important Segments

• [02:29] – The lettuce-in-the-teeth dilemma; social etiquette
• [07:41] – The chia seed debate and "pesky little fellas"
• [11:17] – "Proffee" (protein coffee) tips and tricks
• [12:23] – Kat changes her last name: adulting milestone
• [19:09] – Social anxiety about visiting friends’ houses
• [22:31] – Debating name changes, middle names, and hyphenation
• [26:14] – “Wife is the cheat code” article and gendered emotional labor
• [33:13] – Podcast drama: Call Her Daddy, Monica & Liz Plank, Alex Earl
• [41:39] – Privacy, sharing personal stories, and when to speak out
• [45:12] – Amy reflects on her mom’s legacy of spreading joy in tough times
• [47:02] – Language challenge: “exquisite,” “delectable,” “famished”
• [49:39] – Amy’s son uses “prone” in context; Word Wizard discussion
• [52:07] – Wrapping up with Lindsay Lohan and comebacks

Episode Tone & Style

Light, friendly, sometimes goofy, but with thoughtful asides on modern womanhood, mental health, and self-improvement. Amy and Kat weave humor with sincerity, allowing for both deep insights and playful tangents (like fake British accents).

Takeaways

• Stay curious, both about yourself and others—it’s how we grow.
• Embrace vulnerability and don’t be afraid to update routines or admit to awkward moments.
• Female emotional labor is both undervalued and vital.
• Small thoughtful gestures—at parties or in personal connections—make a big difference.
• Keep trying new things, whether it’s proffee, changing your name, or expanding your vocabulary.
• Respect people's privacy but allow your curiosity to fuel your personal learning and growth.

Closing Note:
"If there's any takeaway from this episode, it is stay curious and drink your proffee." — Amy ([53:01])