The Bobby Bones Show: "FEELING THINGS: Breakups, Yam Pellets & How to Sound More Assertive"

Date: April 5, 2026
Hosts: Amy & Kat

Episode Overview

This episode of "Feeling Things" with Amy and Kat is an emotionally open, relatable conversation about breakups, hormone health, wellness trends, and the power of self-reflection. The co-hosts take listeners through Kat's recent experience with hormone replacement therapy, and Amy shares personal anecdotes about internet “hacks” that don’t always translate to real life. The bulk of the episode is devoted to a candid discussion on Kat’s recent breakup, how small moments can become turning points, and the process of honoring complicated feelings. Lighthearted segments on dry brushing, underarm etiquette, and language habits provide both humor and insight. Listeners are treated to authentic, vulnerable moments that center around learning, healing, and connecting through shared experiences.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Hormone Replacement Therapy and Yam-Based Pellets

[02:40 – 11:45]

• Kat’s Anticipation & Journey:

  • Kat shares her anticipation for feeling like "a whole new person" following the start of hormone replacement therapy using a plant-based yam pellet for testosterone support.

  • She explains her doctor’s approach (a gynecologist/pharmacist) and the medical reasoning behind the treatment, noting prior disappointments with testosterone creams and hope for the slow-release pellet.

  • The pellet was inserted into her upper hip (butt area) and is intended to raise her testosterone levels from 10 to a more optimal 70.

    “So I’ve got the pellet in my bottom that will hopefully get me up to a 70 where I need to be...and I’m at 10.” – Kat [06:17]

  • Amy questions about pain, tenderness, and pelvic restrictions post-insertion; Kat clarifies it isn’t painful but she must avoid squats or Pilates for days.

• Testosterone, Iron, and Vitamin D:

  • Discussion about interconnectedness of hormone and nutrient levels; Kat’s challenges with low iron and vitamin D and her supplement regimen.

  • Importance of bloodwork and individualized care emphasized.

  • Kat’s metaphor for her health:

    “There’s four key things she’s looking for. And three of the four of my tires are basically flat.” – Kat [09:28]

  • Both hosts stress: “We’re not a medical podcast. Talk to your doctor...Don’t take medical advice from us!” [12:07]

2. Internet Life Hacks vs. Reality & Dry Brushing Trends

[12:18 – 19:08]

• Amy’s Confusion about Social Media DIYs:

  • Amy expresses frustration after TikTok convinced her she could easily wallpaper her powder room—turns out, not so:

    “But the people that are making peel and stick wallpaper content. Are you guys lying or am I stupid? It's what I want to know.” – Amy [12:59]

• Dry Brushing Fails:

  • Amy, now pregnant, explores dry brushing (for lymphatic drainage) since she can’t use her vibration plate. She overdoes it, leading to discomfort.

    “I bought a dry brush...and this morning I was so excited to do—hurt.” – Amy [15:46]

  • Kat explains you should be gentle, “tap, tap, tap,” not scratchy or hard. They discuss “opening up the big six” lymphatic drainage points.

• Facing Overwhelming Wellness Advice:

  • Both find the barrage of wellness tips (dry brushing, vibration plates, etc.) overwhelming—Amy decides to be more gentle, less rigid, and do what feels right.

3. Breakups, Communication & The Symbolic Coffee Mug

[19:11 – 38:41]

• Kat’s Relationship Update:

  • Kat reveals her recent breakup in a candid, heartfelt way:

    “My boyfriend and I broke up. We both were just not in a great place…now I can talk about it in more detail here.” – Kat [21:27]

  • The catalyst and symbol: a coffee mug given on Valentine’s Day, which felt meaningless—a turning point of feeling unseen.

    "...I couldn’t have felt less known or seen when I was given the mug.” – Kat [31:00]

• Emotional Processing & Clarity:

  • Amy observes that the disappointing mug actually provided clarity:

    “You getting that gift...was a gift because it helped give you clarity.” – Amy [31:19]

  • Kat shares that even though neither she nor her ex did anything “wrong,” it was essential information about the state of their relationship.

• Post-Breakup Feelings:

  • Kat describes the breakup as hard but necessary, both hugging and crying during the split, and maintaining kindness and respect after.
  • Reframing breakups as sometimes not about toxicity but about growth and honesty when the “puzzle pieces” no longer fit.

    “It was so easy for so long, and then we just kept hitting some little roadblocks...But it was easier to just, okay, let’s go our separate ways here for now.” – Kat [33:36]

• Amy’s Reflection on Kind Breakups:

  • She shares her own experience with a compassionate breakup, highlighting not every ending is fraught with drama.

4. Communication Habits: How to Sound More Assertive

[44:25 – 49:22]

• The Problem with Adverbs and "Just":

  • They discuss lawyer/author Jefferson Fisher’s advice about removing adverbs (words ending with -ly) to sound more assertive and confident.

    “If you want to sound more assertive...stop using adverbs in your everyday vernacular, like words ending in -ly.” – Kat [45:54]

  • They practice rephrasing and note that “watering down” speech can make one seem less sure or professional.

• Habitual Language and Professionalism:

  • Lighthearted run-down of habits that can make someone look unprofessional (talking too much, responding late, messy workspace, etc.).
  • Both share where they fall short, creating a relatable and self-aware moment.

5. Listener Engagement: Underarms, Deodorant, and Public Etiquette

[52:57 – 61:08]

• Deodorant Application in Public:

  • Amy admits to cringing when seeing people put on deodorant in videos. Listener emails and voicemails pour in supporting her view, describing the act as “vulnerable” or “intimate.”

    “I also cringe whenever someone is putting on deodorant in their posts...Can’t some things just be a given?” – Listener Jackie [54:10]

• Classroom Hygiene Stories:

  • Listener Jen from Houston, a high school teacher, shares how students applying deodorant in class interrupts the “intimacy” of the moment.
  • Kat likens public deodorant application to the vulnerability of peeing in front of someone—a surprisingly controversial but unifying topic for listeners.

• The Power of Shared Experiences:

  • Realization that discussing even trivial topics can bring listeners together and spark community, as many report feeling validated in their “quirks.”

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

On Anticipation & Health:

“I'm full of anticipation because...apparently, I'm going to be a whole new person.” – Kat [02:40]

On Misleading Internet Hacks:

"But the people that are making peel and stick wallpaper content. Are you guys lying or am I stupid? It's what I want to know." – Amy [12:59]

On Breakup Realizations:

“This mug was information.” – Kat [31:00]
“A handwritten note would have meant something...this mug did not fall into the category of me feeling wanted.” – Kat [29:45]

On Growth Through Ending:

“I think that’s helpful for people to hear...you don’t hear as much people talking about the, like, 'oh, we really loved each other. And we had to make this hard decision because there was this piece that wasn’t fitting.'” – Amy [35:43]

On Assertiveness:

“Adverbs water down your speech...You feel like you might need to press hard to open it up, but you don’t. You just really need to gently tap, tap, tap.” – Kat [46:34]

On Listener Connection:

“Sometimes I feel like we need to talk about something that's really impactful...Crickets. Nothing. You’re talking about flying deodorant on Instagram—People are like, I have something to say.” – Kat [60:50]

Timestamps for Key Segments

• Hormone Replacement & Health - Yam Pellet Journey: [02:40–11:45]
• Internet DIY Fails & Dry Brushing Wellness: [12:18–19:08]
• Breakup Story, The Coffee Mug & Emotional Growth: [19:11–38:41]
• Origins of 'Cat’s Out of the Bag' & Everyday Language Use: [39:56–44:25]
• Communication & Building Assertiveness: [44:25–49:22]
• Professional Habits & Listener Etiquette Stories: [49:22–61:08]
• Closing Thoughts: [61:08–61:59]

Episode Tone & Language

The tone of the episode is warm, vulnerable, self-deprecating, and reflective, with both hosts offering equal parts humor and earnestness. Amy and Kat maintain an easy conversational flow, supporting each other through personal stories, offering gentle advice, and building community through shared quirks and listener messages.

🔑 Takeaways for Listeners

• Health is interconnected—sometimes, a “pellet in the butt” is just what you need to jumpstart feeling better, but always consult a professional.
• Not all internet hacks are as effortless as they seem, and wellness trends should be approached with gentle realism.
• Breakups don’t have to be an “all or nothing” story of blame—sometimes, small signs clarify the need for change, and kind endings are valid, too.
• Everyday language shapes how you’re perceived; being mindful of “just,” “really,” and “basically” can empower assertiveness.
• You are not alone in your oddest habits—whether it's dry brushing confusion or cringing at public deodorant, someone out there resonates.

Listener Participation:
Email: heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com
Voicemail: 877-207-2077

End Note:
As Amy puts it, “We hope you have the day you need to have.” [61:59]