FEELING THINGS: Rebuilding Self Trust, Placebo Affirmations & Elegant Exits for Difficult Conversations

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Podcast Summary: The Bobby Bones Show

Episode: FEELING THINGS: Rebuilding Self Trust, Placebo Affirmations & Elegant Exits for Difficult Conversations
Date: March 29, 2026
Featuring: Amy & Kat

Episode Overview

This episode of "The Bobby Bones Show" (specifically the "Feeling Things" segment with Amy and Kat) revolves around navigating complex emotions, rebuilding self-trust, the psychological impact of affirmations (and their placebo effect), and strategies for exiting difficult conversations with elegance. The duo also riff on trending reality shows, share personal anecdotes, and address listener voicemails—including special check-ins for Kat's pregnancy journey.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Catching Up & Reality TV Debates

Timestamps: 03:13–10:24

• Amy’s Bone to Pick:
  • Amy gently confronts Kat about her recent TV viewing habits, teasing Kat for watching "Age of Attraction" on Netflix despite previously rejecting Amy’s favorite shows ("Love is Blind", "The Traitors").
• Age of Attraction:
  • The conversation explores the concept and reveal moments of this dating show where couples don’t know each other’s ages.
  • Both comment on societal reactions to age-gap relationships ("If it was reversed and the man was 54 and the woman was 27, I’d be way more creeped out." – Kat, 09:46).
  • Amy is amused that Kat got hooked after watching an Instagram clip and expresses mock-offense at Kat's selective TV choices.
• Takeaway:
  • The duo use humor and self-awareness to navigate the "TV taste betrayal," highlighting how curiosity can override initial aversion.

2. Affirmations & The Placebo Effect

Timestamps: 10:32–17:40

• The Pilates Princess:
  • Amy describes the motivational boost from being called out by name in a Pilates class—only to realize she’s one of three Amys in the room, making her affirmation a possible “placebo effect.”
  • Kat, a former spin instructor, reveals she sometimes calls out names for motivation whether she truly knows the student’s form or not.
  • "I was really feeling good... what's crazy is why I say placebo is because some of those weren't even for me, but yet I felt [affirmed]." – Amy, 12:52
• Psychological Insights:
  • Even generic praise can motivate us if we believe it’s genuine.
  • Affirmations in group fitness, even semi-randomized, foster belonging and accountability.

3. Rebuilding Self-Trust

Timestamps: 33:16–39:32

• Therapy Learnings:
  • Amy reflects on therapy insights: the importance of narrowing the “recovery window” after emotional setbacks and building self-trust through small, supportive actions.
  • "She said that my window of recovery is getting smaller, which is great. That's what we want in therapy. We want you to have that awareness and then come back to self." – Amy, 33:51
• Practical Tips:
  • Take small supportive steps: go for a walk, get fresh air, eat something nourishing, practice whimsy.
  • Don’t rush your healing—trust that your pace is your own.
  • Pay attention to bodily cues (tiredness, hunger, tension) and act on them.
  • Celebrate flexibility and mind-changing as wisdom, not instability.
  • “Follow through on one small thing you promise yourself each day.” – Amy, 38:43

4. Listener Voicemails & Pregnancy Check-In

Timestamps: 22:13–29:44

• Heartfelt Messages:
  • The duo play listener voicemails congratulating Kat on her pregnancy, including a touching note from Kylie in Alabama who is pregnant at the same time:
    • "My baby is the size of a lime... and now her baby is the size of a lemon." – Kylie, 23:07
  • Another listener, Amber, expresses excitement for ongoing check-ins with Kat through her pregnancy journey.
• Kat’s Update:
  • Struggles with early pregnancy body changes, experimenting with comfy (non-maternity) leggings/jeans.
  • Humorous detour into fashion ad algorithms and a sale at Old Navy.

5. Elegant Exits & Difficult Conversations

Timestamps: 53:13–57:01

• Victorian-Inspired Phrases:
  • Amy brings up old-fashioned, yet elegant, ways to exit awkward or unpleasant exchanges, especially with men.
  • Examples include:
    • “You appear most committed to the sound of your own voice.”
    • “Your fragility is most revealing.”
    • “Accountability appears beyond your current capacity.”
    • “This conversation has reached its natural demise.”
    • “I take my leave of this foolishness. You may continue alone.” – Amy, 56:47
  • The hosts practice accents and discuss the power shift in using formal language to set boundaries.

6. Language, Accents & Cultural Curiosity

Timestamps: 54:52–63:20

• The hosts riff on languages that sound happiest (Spanish), most aggressive (German, Russian), and their own difficulty mastering foreign accents.
• Amusing failures at Irish and Italian impressions, sharing family stories and regional dialect oddities.
• Reflections on how speaking with formality, a different accent, or “with your hands” can change the context and perception of conversations.

7. Bunkers, Billionaires, and Survivalist Tangents

Timestamps: 47:47–52:46

• Kat and Amy joke (and half-seriously worry) about underground bunkers, prepping, and why billionaires building secret shelters is unsettling.
• Switzerland’s shelter policy is mentioned as a model for national preparedness:
  • “Switzerland has a vast network of nuclear-hardened shelters and bunkers capable of housing its entire population of over 9 million people.” – Amy, 51:19
• The conversation connects back to self-trust and security—both emotional and practical.

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Notable Quotes & Moments

• On the placebo power of praise:
  • “What's crazy is why I say placebo is because some of those weren't even for me, but yet I felt [affirmed].” – Amy, 12:52
• Therapy insight on self-repair:
  • “Your window of recovery is getting smaller, which is great. That's what we want in therapy.” – Amy, 33:51
• Victorian exit lines:
  • “I take my leave of this foolishness. You may continue alone.” – Amy, 56:47
• On evolving beliefs:
  • “Changing your mind is evolving. That's wisdom. Don't beat yourself up for it.” – Amy, 36:38
• Pregnancy milestone humor:
  • “My baby is the size of a lime...and now her baby is the size of a lemon.” – Kylie, 23:07
• Accent struggles:
  • “Now I sound like Dracula.” – Kat (on Irish accent attempts), 63:16

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Segment Timestamps — Quick Reference

• Opening and Reality TV Tangent: 03:13–10:24
• Affirmations & Placebo Effect: 10:32–17:40
• Listener Voicemails & Pregnancy Check-in: 22:13–29:44
• Rebuilding Self-Trust in Daily Life: 33:16–39:32
• Difficult Conversations & Elegant Exits: 53:13–57:01
• Language, Accents & Humor: 54:52–63:20
• Bunker/Prepper Musings: 47:47–52:46

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Style & Tone

As always, Amy and Kat keep the mood light, warm, humorous, and honest with playful banter, candid admissions, and genuine responses to listener feedback. Their rapport is friendly, approachable, and occasionally self-deprecating, creating an inviting environment for both serious topics and sillier detours.

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Takeaway Themes

• Self-trust is built and rebuilt through small, supportive actions and forgiving yourself for setbacks.
• Affirmation—even when possibly generic—can lift us, but real connection takes intention.
• Difficult conversations can be handled with boundaries, even a little vintage style.
• Humor, community, and vulnerability transform tough topics into shared growth.

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If you ever have feelings and you just want some, maybe a cat got

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you covered like a num brother.

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Ladies and fellas, we just follow in

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the spirit where it's Alice. From the real stuff to the chill

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stuff and the in between, sometimes the best thing you can do is just stop me. Feel things. This is Feeling Things with Amy and Kat.

[B]

Happy Tuesday. Welcome to Feeling Things. I'm Amy.

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And I'm Kat.

[B]

And I'm ready to just get to the feelings because I know that you have a bone to pick with me. And I don't know what the bone is, but I just want to get through the feelings. And I don't know if that has to do with your feeling or what, but let's do.

[A]

Okay,

[B]

Let. Let go.

[A]

Okay, so I will say this is a little taste of your own medicine.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Okay. From when you told me that we needed to discuss something and then left me on red and I was freaking out about it.

[B]

Right. I just sent you a text because I needed to talk about something, but it was really not a big deal.

[A]

Well, neither is this.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Okay. Well, I will say my feeling of the day. I have to. I feel very grateful. And that's because of all of the, like, comments and messages and emails we got after I announced my pregnancy were. They were so sweet. I was texting you and I was like, the people that are like, I don't even know you and I'm crying. Yeah, that was so sweet. And that meant a lot. So. So that's my grateful. I am going to use the feeling in because I'm not. I'm intrigued. I'm intrigued. And this is my bone to pick with you. Okay. We have been talking about the past couple weeks or so Love is Blind. And I have been suggesting shows for you to watch such as Traders. And you have been very anti both of these shows.

[B]

Right.

[A]

And then I open Instagram and I see that you are watching Age of Attraction.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

So how did we get there? Because from my perspective, Age of Attraction, I could not even click on that. It gave me the ick. It is felt so cringe. Okay, so if you are so uninterested in these wonderful shows such as Traitors and Love is Blind, what got you interested in Age Of Attraction.

[B]

Well, I was sucked in through an Instagram clip, actually, of this woman and a man, but he's way younger, so a boy, but that feels weird.

[A]

He. He's a young man.

[B]

A young man in his late 20s and a woman in her late 50s or mid-50s, I think.

[A]

I got the same video.

[B]

So I got this video, and they weren't telling us the age of these people. They were just showing that they were having a connection. And it was like, well, how old is she and how old is he? So then I got sucked in because I needed a. No, I needed to know the age difference. And so the only way for me to find out is to watch.

[A]

Okay, well. And for people who don't know what we're talking about, Age of Attraction is a dating show on Netflix. And from my understanding, it's. You just date a bunch of people. You don't know what their ages are, and at the end, you. You tell people.

[B]

So they bring everybody together, and you have to do, like, these little speed dates or go on these types of dates. Only one rule. You cannot discuss your age.

[A]

But, like, I think my part of my thing was, like, you have to know. They're like.

[B]

Right. It's kind of obvious, right? Yeah. Yeah. Well, so that one particular couple that I'm talking about, like, won't say their names or who they are, so it's not like you're really spoiling anything. It's been all over the Internet. But he ended up being older than her son, than her oldest son. Like, that would be weird if I was her son.

[A]

Younger.

[B]

How do I say it?

[A]

Older. He.

[B]

He ended up being older than her oldest son. Maybe I said youngest son.

[A]

That's. No, that's good. That's normal. You want that. You want the boyfriend to be old than the kids. Okay, so was he younger than her kids?

[B]

Okay, maybe. Maybe you're right. I get it now.

[A]

I was like, am I hearing this wrong or what's going on? I'm like, what is this?

[B]

What's wrong with me is, can I blame Santa?

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Goes. That's normal.

[B]

Okay, But. Okay, you're right, you're right, you're right. Fine. We'll make them the same age.

[A]

Even though that's weird.

[B]

They're. They're a year apart or something. I can't remember, obviously, if he's older or younger, but they're only a year apart. It reminds me of when my dad, his fourth wife, my brother, brought a girlfriend to dinner, and my brother's girlfriend was older than my dad's. Wife. Now that makes sense, right?

[A]

Yes. But was his girlfriend a lot older than him?

[B]

No, not a lot.

[A]

Your dad's wife was a lot younger.

[B]

Yeah, like it would have made more sense for my brother to be dating my dad's wife.

[A]

Wow. Wowzer. Wait, so do these people stay together after they find out that.

[B]

I don't know. I don't know. And I'm not gonna be that invested in the whole thing. Don't, like, pick too many bones with me about this, because it's not like I'm obsessed with the show or anything. Like, I don't know if there's season two that I'll watch the finale. The finale is tomorrow.

[A]

But you watched all the episodes.

[B]

Yeah, I had it on the back. You know how I watch shows like that? Like, I was doing things. I was computer, like, walking in and out. But I watched it enough. But it's interesting because Netflix normally rolls things out all at once. But this has been in.

[A]

That's how they did Love is Blind. Or it was like, oh, three episodes, then two, then two, then one, then one, then. Right, Whatever. Okay, so I will say that I think it must be on Tick Tock. They're posting. Netflix is posting videos of the age reveals. So they're kind of giving spoilers.

[B]

Yeah.

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On Tick Tock.

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So I will say this. Shannon looked it up. This particular couple. She's 54 and he's 27, and he's two years younger than her oldest son. So that makes sense. He's two years younger. Like, so if he's 27, she has a son that's 29. And I try. I don't know why that was confusing me to say. I. I was really doubling down too. I'm like, no.

[A]

It's like, am I crazy? I don't know.

[B]

Y' all are like, he should be older.

[A]

This show also. Did you feel weird about it at any point?

[B]

No. Everybody's a.

[A]

They're all adults and they surely have to be on. Are they on there to find love or they're on there to become Instagram influencers?

[B]

I don't know. I mean, this guy was a software salesman and she's a stylist.

[A]

Well, maybe she wanted more clients and so she went on this Netflix show. Well, if your parents went on this

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show, I don't know. I mean, maybe it could be fun, maybe not.

[A]

You could get a new friend. Yeah.

[B]

I will say if it was reversed and, like, the 54 year old was a man and the 27 year old was a Girl, I'd be way more creeped out.

[A]

Yes. Well, that does. I think that happened too, right?

[B]

Sure. But this was the couple that got me to watch the show. Okay. Like, this is the couple that. You know. I don't know. If it was reversed, I would have been like, yuck, I'm not watching. But instead, I was, like, intrigued.

[A]

Like, I wonder if any couples got together that were, like, normal.

[B]

There are two. Two that I watched. They seemed relatively the same age. She was definitely younger than him, but not by much.

[A]

By 30 years.

[B]

It wasn't anything crazy or in a.

[A]

Yeah, okay, well, I just needed to talk about that because I was a little offended that you were too good for my shows. And then you were watching this right now.

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Well, I am feeling affirmed. Oh. And since I'm struggling with making sense today, this may not make sense at all, but I feel like it's a. It's affirmation, but a little bit of the placebo effect. Okay, okay. Let me explain it to you, and then you tell me. Okay. So I was at Pilates, and they were like, you, good job, Amy. And, you know what's my love? Language Affirmation. Exactly. So if I get affirmed during class, what do you think that does for me?

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I'm doing a good job. I'm gonna work harder. Like, yes, I'm. I'm a star. Pilates princess.

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Right. I'm gonna work.

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I'm coming back tomorrow.

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Watch. You thought my form was good there. Watch it now. So then we move on to a different move, and they're like, yeah, okay. Yes. Oh, that's it, Amy. And I'm like, okay, I got it again. Then throughout class, I mean, there was three or four times where I got called out. Well, then, you know, they give you wipes at the end of class, so you wipe your bed down, and then over by the trash can, you throw away the wipe. Well, normally always on top of the trash can. Normally always.

[A]

That's. I think that's okay.

[B]

Normally, always. I think that's contradicting.

[A]

I didn't get any red flags.

[B]

Normally they have this sheet of all the beds and whose name is on each bed so that the instructor knows. So probably so they can call people out and be like, good job, Amy. Nice form, Amy. Ooh, looking good, Amy. Guess how many Amy's were in my class.

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Oh, no.

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Three.

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Oh, no, Three Amy's.

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So who knows? When they were actually shouting me out,

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they should say, like, Amy B.

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Right? Or Amy P. Yeah, but they. No, they left it at Amy.

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Wait, that's funny. That instructor's probably like, yes. I only have to think about one name, right.

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If I say Amy, I've nailed, you know, most of the class. Yeah. There's 14 beds total. Three of them are Amy. So I was really feeling good. What's crazy is why I say placebo is because some of those weren't even for me, but yet I felt.

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Did you have the urge to walk up to the instructor and say, like, so when you said, good job, it was me, right? Definitely.

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I think she would have been like, yeah, for sure. And then when I left, they would say something about me being a weirdo, but.

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So do you want some insider baseball on fitness instructors?

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Yeah. Cause Kat used to teach spin class. Tell me.

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So I taught. Yeah, I taught spin. And we had. I had on my computer, I could see the. All. All the people and their names. And sometimes I would just open up that tab on my computer. Cause I also would play my music off my computer and just call people's names out, but I didn't know who they were. Cause it's nice. It is really nice and motivating to hear your name regardless. However, I will say sometimes I would do that, but when you know them, I would say, good job, and I would mean it most of the time.

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Don't ruin this for me. I need to be affirmed in class.

[A]

But I think this is. Goes to, like, the placebo of it.

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Like, you're right. I'm not gonna know, but now I'm gonna know. Oh, she's probably just saying the name,

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like, to motivate you, though. Yeah.

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But I like being told I'm doing good job, and.

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And it being like, I earned this.

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Yeah. Like, nice form, Amy. Good technique.

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But I think if you say nice form, you need to be. I wouldn't say nice form to somebody if I wasn't looking at them, because what if they're, like, sitting down?

[B]

Okay. I feel like at my studio, they take it seriously. I feel like, well, like, I'm picturing you in a spin class. It's like, dark. You can't always see everybody, you know?

[A]

Yeah. And I. I would. Again, I would only say nice form or something specific like that if I could see them. But I might say, like, I don't know, keep it up or something like that. When it's dark and I can't see.

[B]

Yeah. Yeah. It's never fully dark in there. And I've never gotten a. Like, just blanket, like, keep it up, Amy. Keep it up. Cindy.

[A]

You're like, I get like the actual. Like, I. Like the lunge with your right leg. Amy.

[B]

Very good. Like, good extension.

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Amy, did you. Do you know that instructor?

[B]

Yeah.

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Okay.

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I mean, would it define. No. Like, I've taken her class multiple times.

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Like, you say hi. Like, she probably does it.

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Yeah. Like, some I see more than others. Like, I was leaving the other day and my. One of my favorite instructors, her name's Nicole, she was like, oh, great job, Amy. Per usual. And I was like, per usual.

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That's me.

[B]

I was like, she thinks I did good. And it's like, that's my usual. That's my. Sometimes. Always.

[A]

Yeah. Okay. Well, I'm glad that it felt good no matter.

[B]

It felt good no matter what. It just made me think, like there was something that Bobby said on the. The Bobby Bone show the other day. Some article. I'm paraphrasing.

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Yeah.

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Don't have the scientific research with me at all whatsoever. But that obviously we know about the placebo effect. But sometimes even just taking a candy or a sugar pill or something before bed and acting as if it's some magic pill that's going to help you sleep will help you sleep.

[A]

Really?

[B]

I'm like, I gotta start trying that.

[A]

Yeah.

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Like, I gotta pop a Skittle and be like,

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sleeping pill.

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Yes.

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I will say when you're. This is for me. And I feel like this is somewhat universal. When you're working out in a class like that and somebody says your name, what is coming to my mind is, like, you. You're feeling seen in that space and like, they know you and you feel special. That is like a. I don't know, a feeling that you can't make up somewhere. Like it's. What's the. The term I'm looking for? When it doesn't. When you can't buy it with money.

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Tangible.

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Nope.

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No.

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When it's priceless, that's like a priceless feeling. When you're like, oh, they know me here and they care about me here and they see me here, versus, like, you go to a workout class. Like a. I don't know. This is how I felt in, like, big places, like a soul cycle or something. When there's like 75 people in the class, you feel like just like one of the, I don't know, millions. And they don't really care if you're there. So it's very important. I'm glad that your instructor was calling out names.

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Yeah, Well, I think it's a big part of it where I go. They've generally been great at that. I really feel like it's why I decided to sign up even after the first time I went. You know, Kat called me Pilates princess a minute ago because when I first signed up at this place after my first class, and they do this with every first time visitor, after you get done, you go to your locker and open it up and they have put a card inside that says, Congratulations 0 Pilates Princess. Like, you did great, good job. And there's little stickers and you just feel special. And I was like, yeah, fine, I'll buy a year.

[A]

When even if they do that to every single new person, it still means that they care about every single new person that comes in the door versus like, oh, who cares if they come back or not? Like, we're fine. So I like your studio and I've never been there.

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All.

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At Macy's, for a fraction of the price, you can find spring handbags from Coach, Guess and Ralph Lauren that feel lighter, softer, more playful. Think seasonal texture, shape and color updates. They have soft leather boho bags. I'm very into the boho bag right now. They're easy to dress up or down. They're just as perfect with denim as they are with a flat, flowy dress. They also have jewelry, which is a perfect way to experiment with trends while keeping your personal style true to You. I personally love layering necklaces, and Macy's has lots of options for that. They have bangles and cuffs. You gotta check it all out. Shop in stores or online@macy's.com. Speaking of other things that I love, you were talking about how you got some nice messages. Messages from people and notes. We have some voicemails, and I love them, and they're for you.

[A]

I'm nervous.

[B]

So this is a little gift to you and the baby.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

From our listeners. We have a voicemail from Linda. Some people say where they're calling from. I don't know where Linda's calling from. Just picture Linda in the world.

[A]

Can I picture her, like, in Australia maybe?

[B]

Because, you know, we're international.

[A]

Yeah, we are.

[B]

Okay. So. But I don't think she has an accent. Okay. But here's Linda.

[A]

Cat's having a baby. Cat having a baby. Yay. Congratulations. Just listening to the podcast, and that was so exciting. I'm so happy for you. Love the show.

[B]

Isn't that sweet?

[A]

That was so okay to take your time out to send that message. And this is gonna make me cry.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Is that your goal?

[B]

Well, I think you're gonna love this next one. Okay. This is from Kylie, and she's in Alabama.

[A]

Okay. Hello, my name is Kylie. I live in Alabama, and I am feeling super excited because Kat and I are pregnant at, like, the same time. Because as of right now, at 12 weeks pregnant, my baby is the size of a lime. Have the day. You need to have limes. And that means now her baby's the size of a lemon.

[B]

Yeah. Because last week you were a Lyme,

[A]

and this week I'm 11, which my app said, because it gives you, like, different categories in the fruit category, I'm a lemon. But then it also said it was the size of a Pokemon card. And then it also said it was the size of a baby carrot. And a baby carrot and a lemon are very different.

[B]

Very, very different.

[A]

So I'm like, is it this big or is it this big? Isn't that crazy?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

I need a new app maybe. I don't know.

[B]

I don't know. That is really weird. We need more details about that, for sure, so.

[A]

Well, I'm gonna go with lemon.

[B]

We'll go with lemon. Especially since we went with lime last week. So we'll just go.

[A]

That would mean it got smaller if it's now a baby carrot.

[B]

We have other voicemails, but, I mean, you can play them all. So I. I've got this one from Amber in Iowa.

[A]

Hey, Amy and Kat. I just finished today's episode and number one. Yes, I know Puma absolutely love him and his crew. I didn't know the name of the thing though. I'm really bad at that. Number two, can you continue doing check ins with Kat? I'm so excited for you. Congratulations. Excited to watch you become a mom. Hear you become a mom. Both. I don't know. But it's fun and I think Amy has perfect questions since she's never experienced that and I'm also never experienced that. I wanted it when I was younger but I dealt with the fact that it's not happening for me. Anyways, yeah, those are fun check ins for as much as Kat is willing to share. It's fun. Fun to hear you go through it. So anyways, have a good day or have the day you need to have. This is Amber from Iowa. Thanks, buddy. That's sweet.

[B]

So we've got to create little check ins that we can do periodically. Like it'll just be like, okay, you know, time for the baby check in with cat.

[A]

Okay, but remember we were told that our singing was annoying.

[B]

We can get our. I can get a jingle for it or something. Like we can get an official jingle like time for the baby check in with cat.

[A]

Okay. That one's actually kind of cute.

[B]

Well, I feel like I could do that live every time. It's quick too. Like it's time for the baby check in with cat. Okay.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So the check in today is that

[A]

I'm a lemon or a baby?

[B]

A lemon. Are there any other things you're experiencing? Because I have something I could bring up if you're not ready or prepared. It's about you though.

[A]

My legging your jeans. So yeah, I'm in this stage where I. I'm not like showing, but I am showing, if you know what I mean. Like, I don't have a baby bump but my stomach has expanded so my clothes don't really fit and I'm just in this weird. In between my jeans sometimes feel too tight even though some of them I can sell button. So I bought. I've never bought something from Halara before. Have you seen that on? You get the ads. We all get the ads, right?

[B]

I don't know what you're talking about.

[A]

You don't get Halara ads on your TikTok.

[B]

Is it for maternity clothing?

[A]

No, it's like, no, these aren't even maternity jeans. These are normal people jeans that are just really stretchy. They do like activewear and I've never Bought anything.

[B]

Well, now that you're saying it, I'm sure I'll get the ads.

[A]

Yeah, you're welcome.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

But they are literally leggings. They're so stretchy. You saw how far I stretched them.

[B]

They look like jeans.

[A]

And the cut of them. I feel like a lot of times jeggings, like jean leggings don't actually have the, like, shape of jeans, but they do, and I love them. And they'll. I think they'll stretch with me for a while, so. Great purchase. They're very, really good about them.

[B]

Your shirt is cute. Is your. Where's your shirt from?

[A]

Old Navy.

[B]

New recent.

[A]

I actually got this when I was doing my egg retrieval because I. When you do the egg retrieval, your stomach looks pregnant because your ovaries are so. What's the word?

[B]

Swollen.

[A]

I guess so. So I needed really baggy clothes, so I got a bunch of these.

[B]

Don't ask for me for words. Earlier you were looking for the word priceless, and I was like, frugal. Like, I don't know what I said, but it couldn't. It was like, nowhere near the right word that you were looking for. Oh, tangible. You're like, what's the word? And I'm like, tangible money.

[A]

You can't buy it with money. Tangible. Which you can buy with money.

[B]

Because I was looking intangible for it. Like. Because, like, something you can't touch.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Yeah. Is like, you tried whatever I tried. So now you're like, what's the word? I'm like, I don't know. I'm assuming your ovaries are inflamed. Swollen.

[A]

Enlarged, I guess. Enlarged. Why can't I think of the word that they would use?

[B]

Juicy.

[A]

They were juicy. I. I looked more pregnant in the 10 days of my egg retrieval than I do now. It was crazy.

[B]

That is crazy.

[A]

So shout out to anybody who's going through that, because it is a it. I mean, it's a mind game with your body image. So. Also, I do believe Old Navy is doing a half off sale right now.

[B]

Well, I might go on there and look for that shirt because I love

[A]

the green boyfriend cut. Oxford is what it was.

[B]

Well, it looks great with your stretchy jeans. I thought literally they were maternity, but you're saying they're just for anybody.

[A]

Yeah. Yeah. Because I hear that maternity jeans are. People don't like them. That a lot of people are just wearing lower cut jeans, which I don't know if I'm gonna do that.

[B]

Yeah. Oh, I saw a girl at our Track meet the other night and she was full belly out, like little teeny tiny tank top. Yeah. With these low rise drawstring pants. And her, like, she must have been eight or nine months along, like giving birth any day. And it was interesting. I. I didn't have anything wrong, you know, but there was.

[A]

You're like, I don't know that I would do.

[B]

I don't think I could do that. She looked adorable. I didn't know I could do it. And then.

[A]

Yeah, I feel that way. That's like the style now that people like their bump as an accessory. And I think it is so cute when I see people because I get a lot of tick tocks now that are about maternity style and I'm like, okay, those outfits are so cute. But I'm not wearing a crop top with my belly out to work.

[B]

Right.

[A]

I can't do that. I just am more, I think, modest than that. And I'm not at the point now or that I could do that anyway because I don't have the bump. But it is. It's the thing. It's like instead of a necklace, you have your baby bump, you know?

[B]

Sure. You sure? Yeah. It's your accessory.

[A]

It's. What was that rule? You have to have, like seven things.

[B]

Yeah, the rule of seven.

[A]

The bump is one of the things.

[B]

Yeah. Earrings, purse, jacket, hat, scarf, Belt.

[A]

Yeah. Baby bump. Baby bump.

[B]

So Shannon has confirmed Old Navy is having a sale right now, 50% off online and in store, but only till March 25th. So, like, one day, if you're listening to this, on Tuesday, you got till tomorrow. And then. Yes, your ovaries were inflamed. She confirmed.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Online.

[A]

That is what it is.

[B]

That's the official.

[A]

There's a word that they use, though, but I'm thinking enlarged. Enlarged.

[B]

Inflamed.

[A]

I'm trying to think of the word. Because they were the. Maybe it's stimulated because they're stimulating your follicles. So all of. So then they want them to be a certain size. And once they get to be a certain size, then you have the retrieval and they go in and they suck them out.

[B]

Yeah, that makes sense. Which also shout out Amber for knowing Puma.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Crazy love that.

[A]

Wait, that means she's seen the videos of Puma versus she knows him.

[B]

Apple Gate or Apple, whatever the landscaping company is that he works for.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Because they're TikTok and Instagram famous. Like, they obviously have a following because they make fun videos while they're at work.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And Puma. He's just so cute. I swear to you, if I see him, I will be like, puma.

[A]

And I'll be like, what up?

[B]

And Amber knows puma too, so cool. This is something that came up in my therapy session the other day. And then I saw shrink chicks post about knowing if you can trust yourself. Like, if you're feeling like you can't, or maybe you once could and you feel like you've lost trust in yourself. They shared a long list of small ways you can build that trust back. But I pulled five of my favorite from the list and then put my own little twist on em after something that came up in therapy because my therapist was challenging me with something, I could do that to support myself a little bit in that moment. Like, what's one little thing you can do to support yourself? So that might be, for example, like, going on a walk. Like, can you get up if I'm feeling in a certain way. She was also celebrating and acknowledging that my window of. Not my window of tolerance, but my. My window of, let's say I go off the rails and do a behavior that, like, isn't in alignment with who I want to be now, but it's like, God, I thought I evolved from that, right? Like, why am I having this thought? Or why did I have that behavior? Or why did I do that, or why did I snap or what? You know, like, why was that my reaction? Or why did I react and not take time to respond? You know, But I recover more quickly. And so she said that my window of recovery is getting smaller, which is great. She's like, that's what we want in therapy. Like, we want you to have that awareness and then you come back to self because we're gonna mess up more quickly, right? She was like, have grace. Like, you're human. Doesn't mean you're gonna always. Okay, now that you've decided this is who you are and how you're going to be, that you just. That's the path you stay on. And I told her that I had a moment, but I self corrected faster than, like, ever before. And she was like, oh, let's celebrate that because your window of recovery is becoming more narrow, which is what we want. Because some days, sometimes, like, who knows, you may not even be aware of how you acted or what you did for like a week or a month. Or you may stay in because you did it. You might be like, oh, well. And you may stay in that behavior for. Or that slump or whatever you want to call it for a week, a Month or however long when, if you want to course. Correct. Anyway, so we were celebrating that, and then I was just like, well, now I feel like I've lost a little bit of trust in myself. And how do I. How do I know I can take care of myself? She's like, well, that's one example. But she's like, what are some little things you can do for yourself that will support you in those moments if you're having some of those thoughts? And she was, like, going outside, getting fresh air, practicing whimsy. Like, when we've wanted to be more playful. Do I need to take a nap? Do I need to eat something? Do I need to drink something? Water? Probably not, like, drinking something else. So then it reminded me of something that the shrink chicks put up. And it's pretty much, if you're not sure you can trust yourself anymore, these are some ways that you can, and that was one of them. To ask yourself, what would feel just a little more supportive right now? Just small shifts like that are more than you think. What would be one for you if, like, you were feeling off? Like, what's something, you know, you could go do for yourself that might feel supportive to you in the moment?

[A]

The first thing that I came to mind was take a shower. But you can't always do that.

[B]

I know. So do not underestimate washing your hair, too.

[A]

Yeah, today was a hair wash day. I felt really good. But when I can't do that, when I can't go, because I like that reset, I'll do, like, an ice roller that feels, like, soothing, you know, Or I mean, drinking a cold glass of water. Yeah, something that feels like. Yeah, soothing and good to you.

[B]

One of the examples from shrink chicks was, stop rushing yourself back to fine, because sometimes we want to. Even though I was celebrating that I course corrected more quickly. I probably need to give myself space, because sometimes that might not always be the case. Or if I'm in a rut or grieving, something like, oh, I need to feel better by this point. You don't need to necessarily rush that. We need to trust that we're going at the pace that is good for us. Another thing was paying attention to what your body is telling you. Like, if you're tired, hungry, tense, all of those things are signals. Your body's communicating something to you. So start listening and paying attention and then acting on it and be like, oh, yeah, I ate and I felt better, so I can trust myself. Or I drink water. I felt better.

[A]

I. I took a nap, and then I Felt better like that.

[B]

Except for my naps. Can't go too long. I don't. I'm not a big napper anyways. But if I nap, if I do nap and it's too long of a nap, then it's a problem. But there's like a sweet spot for me. It's gotta be less than 30 minutes. Why? How long are your naps?

[A]

Well, that's a cat nap. This is also not really fair because I just went through trimester one of pregnancy and I was taking like two hour naps every day. That is not normal for me. So I don't know, I think a good nap is like 45 minutes to an hour.

[B]

Really? Yeah. Interesting.

[A]

By the time 30 minutes, like I've just fallen asleep and I'm back up.

[B]

Listen, don't ask me. I'm not really that big of an hour. Give yourself permission to change your mind is another thing. Because changing your mind is evolving. That's wisdom. Don't beat yourself up for it. You're allowed to change your mind.

[A]

I feel like that's something that gets people twisted in trusting themselves when they're like, why now believe this? Or I now know this or I now would do this. And so then they're like, how do I even know that's right? Because I used to think this. That's not fair. It's like you said, it's natural to evolve. And as we gain more wisdom, we allow ourselves to change our minds. That should build more trust. Knowing that I'm flexible when I gain more information versus I can't trust myself. Because I once thought this thing, I

[B]

feel like online isn't necessarily making it easy for some people to change their mind. Like if someone opens up and is sharing like, oh, I was wrong about this. There's so many comments and these are trolls, so you should not listen to them anyways. But it's hard to ignore when someone's like trying to publicly say, hey, I know, but now I'm thinking instead of being like, oh, cool, like way to evolve and do some critical thinking and whatever, instead of saying, well, you were part of this problem to begin with. So yeah, you know, it's like, wait, that's not very. You should celebrate that welcoming too.

[A]

It's, it's all, yeah, it's like, is that our job to hold them accountable for those things?

[B]

Or yeah, no. And then it's. So then it's difficult for them to be like, oh, well, I guess I'm not allowed to change my mind, which you are Give yourself permission to change your mind. And then the final thing is follow through on one small thing you promised yourself each day. So this doesn't have to be anything crazy. It can be something manageable. You know, like I mentioned water. It could be like, okay, I want to drink six cups of water today. Like, follow through on that for yourself. And then you'll be like, okay, I can trust myself. Or, I want to go to bed tonight at 9:30pm well, get in bed at 9:20 so that you're in, you know.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Do little things to show yourself. You mean what you say?

[A]

Yeah, I think what happens a lot of times when people want to make a change is they want to make all the changes at once because you're motivated, but that's not possible. So then that backfires because you're not going to do all that stuff. And so then it's like, well, never change versus, like you're saying, if I start with like, this week, I'm going to go to bed at 9pm three times. Like, you can do that, but you can't go to bed at 9pm every night, drink 17 glasses of water, cook all your meals at home, make sure that your gas has carried your. Your car has gas in it before it's time to leave for to go somewhere, do all your laundry. Like, you can't do all of that stuff. This, that. If you're going to change it at once, it's going to get that.

[B]

Yeah. Have I told you my gas thing that I'm doing? My little reward?

[A]

Yes.

[B]

I feel like I talked about it

[A]

on the podcast now I can't remember what it was.

[B]

You would love it.

[A]

What? What is it?

[B]

You don't remember? Try to guess.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

I give myself. Picture me at a gas station getting myself a treat.

[A]

If you fill up your gas before you get three quarters.

[B]

No, just a quarter.

[A]

A quarter. Then you can get a Diet Coke.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

Okay. Yeah, I did it. You did it from the, from the fountain?

[B]

No, I just get a bottle or a can or a can.

[A]

The bottle is the worst kind of Diet Coke.

[B]

Listen, I don't know that I trust the ice at the fountain. Huh. But that's.

[A]

I've never been worried about that.

[B]

I mean, but I mean, I'll go to a restaurant and get it

[A]

different a little bit.

[B]

Maybe, Maybe not.

[A]

The health code standards, are they different? Well, not standards, but I bet that like, Chick Fil A has a higher health code score than your local Exxon.

[B]

The gas station. Yeah. I don't know, but, But I Just go in and get. Yeah. Either a tall boy can or the screw top. I like the screw top because that'll last me a few days because I can put the lid back on and then keep it in my fridge.

[A]

But you don't go home and pour it into a cup with ice.

[B]

No, I'll just take a few sips in the car. It's. I get. I get your point. It's not the same fountain, through and through, all the way. Fountain, Diet Coke, canned Diet Coke, then bottle.

[A]

Yeah, but you're right, if you have a can, you have to drink it all then, right?

[B]

Because you can't if you've got the bottle. So anyway, that's. If you struggle.

[A]

Sorry, I'm not trying to mess with your reward. That's really great.

[B]

Sounds like it. If you struggle with getting gas. Because I am a get gas when my car says refuel immediately. So my car goes, you know, empty or, like, close to getting empty. And then it'll send me a message on the dashboard that says, please refuel. And then it will go refuel immediately. And that's normally when I get gas. But as of the last six months or so, I have been going, and if I get there and I still have a quarter of a tank left, I get my Diet Coke treat.

[A]

Have you ever ran out of gas on the road?

[B]

Yes.

[A]

Recently?

[B]

No.

[A]

Was this a teenage thing?

[B]

Yes.

[A]

Okay, that's appropriate.

[B]

But I mean, I've been close.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And it's not. People always love to send messages because when I'm like, oh, I'm on it. Please refuel. I'm like, oh, Instagram. Like, I don't know why that's.

[A]

I'm a daredevil. Look at me. I'm so edgy.

[B]

I don't know. That's why. That's one of my most viral videos ever. Has to do with the gasting. I think it has over 11 million views.

[A]

Well, that's like kind of rage bait, don't you think?

[B]

Why?

[A]

When you post a picture and you're like, have negative, that gets people riled up.

[B]

Well, I did like, a video where I. I did like, I married my video up with another girl's video from TikTok. I can't remember her name, but I gave her credit in the video. I wasn't like, just like, oh. But I pulled her video. Like she says, she said in her video, do you know why I keep my gas tank on E? And she's like, because if anybody gets in my car and, you know, puts a gun to my head and is like, just drive. She's like, where am I going to drive besides to the gas station so that I can get out of my car and run? Yeah. You know, and so I did a little, like, stitch video with her where I was like, anytime I'm nearing empty, I think of this woman. And then I played her clip because it's like, do I really want to get gas? Because what if I get taken? And then I'm like, well, sorry, we're gonna need to go to the gas station.

[A]

Having gas in your car essentially could end your life.

[B]

Exactly. They could get. They could drive all the way to the country. Rural parts.

[A]

Yes. And then you're really.

[B]

And then you're in the middle of the nowhere. Yeah, I think about that a lot when I'm on. In the land. Like, if I'm somewhere, like, if I'm ever. If I'm driving where there's lots of land or looking at homes that have lots of land, you're like, I could die here. No, I don't think I could die. I think, are there bodies there? We wouldn't know. And then, you know, I don't know if this is on your algorithm, but a lot of bunker stuff is showing up on my algorithm.

[A]

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[B]

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[A]

We have very different.

[B]

And I strongly believe anybody that is building an underground bunker needs a background check.

[A]

Why?

[B]

Because now you're telling me you have this very discreet. Oh container.

[A]

Okay, okay.

[B]

Under. In your backyard that has like this hidden trap door with all these living amenities where they could totally live. Like life down there. Like you could be hiding somebody.

[A]

That's fair. I was thinking I need to find a friend that has a bunker just in case.

[B]

Yeah, same.

[A]

I don't know anybody. I also Are the people that are doing bunkers, are they kind of trying to keep that on the deal?

[B]

Because if they need them are. Some aren't. Because, I mean, but if they need

[A]

it, they don't want people to know because they don't want them all up

[B]

in there showing up like, hey, I know you have a bunker.

[A]

Yeah. And it's like one more mouth to feed, one more person to sleep in the cot. Yeah. I don't have those on my algorithm though.

[B]

Really?

[A]

Is it, I wonder, is it because you're watching Paradise?

[B]

I got intrigued because this one bunker guy popped up on my feed who's built them for all the billionaires like Zuckerberg and everybody else.

[A]

Okay, that brings up a whole other. I don't know why I got.

[B]

So you had a visceral reaction.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

I'm sweating. Cat just got all palms are getting all whammy.

[A]

For some reason. Billionaire and bunker freaks me out because they already get away with so much stuff because they have billions of dollars.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

That I'm like, they don't get to have a bunker because they could be doing. If somebody's going to do something with a bunker, I feel like it's going to be that. That's very judgmental and I acknowledge that and I will work on that. And that is how I feel right now.

[B]

Well, I don't know if this is true or not because again, it was just in my algorithm, but there apparently is some secret paradise esque type bunker situation that all the wealthy people have. I'm not talking about Zuckerberg. I'm talking about just maybe not billionaires, but maybe they're multi, multi millionaires and there's this community of where they will go. No, but should they need to. They bought in and it exists somewhere. It's like a club in America. Yeah. Like a prestigious club that you can get into. Hold your slot. I mean What a racket. Be like. Oh, yeah. To all these people with money. You just act like you have this like. Like situation. I don't. Let's hope so. Because they're wise with their money. Obviously, most people that wealthy don't just have the wealth because they're. Well, unless buying bunkers sight unseen.

[A]

Unless they've just been gifted that money

[B]

through, you know, inheritance.

[A]

Yeah. Which they could still be wise with their money, but. Okay, is that on your algorithm that you're seeing that? Because I didn't. I've never heard this.

[B]

Okay. Yeah. That's why I don't. True. Also Switzerland. I believe I talked about this on the Bobby Bone show. I think they have a shelter for everyone in their population.

[A]

Well, how big is their population?

[B]

Well, I don't know exactly, but still, to have something and then some. And they have extra space, but it's required. Like they have somewhere safe for everybody to go. Shelter, bunker type situation.

[A]

Underground?

[B]

Yeah, in the. Yeah, in the ground. Under the ground.

[A]

It's the difference. No, in the ground, not underground.

[B]

So here it is. Switzerland has a vast network of nuclear hardened shelters and bunkers capable of housing its entire population of over 9 million people.

[A]

What's the population of the United States?

[B]

Way more than that. Shannon's gonna look it up.

[A]

Should we move to Switzerland?

[B]

I'm thinking maybe we should just. Cause they seem happy. Neutral. Yeah, they're like, for being neutral and. And positive. I mean, they have a plus sign on their flag.

[A]

What's. What's the cuisine of Switzerland? That would be a.

[B]

We have. In the US we have 342 million.

[A]

Okay, that's a little different.

[B]

So. Yeah.

[A]

Crazy. Okay, so I'll. I would consider Switzerland, but I don't like. I don't think, like, I want to go on vacation there to try their food. What? Because what is their food?

[B]

Well, we're gonna look that up.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

What is it like while Shannon's looking up Swiss cuisine? Cuisine. Well, do they have Swiss cheese?

[A]

Like, Swiss cheese? But I do. Is that a pretzel? I know that's like a German thing, but is that just like a soft pretzel?

[B]

Yeah. Or like a Wiener schnitzel?

[A]

You just wanted to say that. I did.

[B]

Okay. Okay, well, Shannon already found it, so we'll do the other thing in a second. But popular Swiss cuisine is divined by hearty Alpine influenced dishes featuring genesis, generous amounts of cheese, potatoes, and bread.

[A]

I'm in.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

I can do that. Yeah, I can do it. I'll. I'll move.

[B]

Let's go.

[A]

Add two more bunkers. We're going.

[B]

Population nine million plus two more. Oh, wait. And cat. And you're having a baby, so I

[A]

have to bring my husband. Yeah. I can't take the baby. That's kidnapping. If you take it away from the

[B]

father, well, he can come too.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

This is. Speaking of other ways of being, I came across four Victorian inspired phases, phrases for dealing with men. And these just made me laugh.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Did you watch Bridgerton?

[A]

No.

[B]

And you know, I love Gilded Age.

[A]

And I didn't watch any of those, like, olden days shows and I don't know why. Part of it is I have a hard time understanding what they're saying.

[B]

Really. Well, I'm going to speak at me like I was. Well, because it's not really.

[A]

You dumb.

[B]

That is not what I meant. I just meant like, really? Because it's not like it's some crazy accent that's like. Or you could just put the subtitles on. Like, would that help?

[A]

I never have tried. I just remember watching the. What was it? The.

[B]

The crown.

[A]

The crown. And that was hard to follow for me.

[B]

Right?

[A]

You're like. Yeah. Again, you're not very smart.

[B]

Okay, so this is just formal.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Speaking Victorian, you know, proper. So if your man is talking to you in a condescending way, this is what you can say to him. You appear most committed to the sound of your own voice. Isn't that cute?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I say that to Patrick, but you

[A]

just say it with it like an English accent.

[B]

I just feel like it's like, proper. Yeah, but. Okay, you appear most committed to the sound of your own voice.

[A]

You know what? I've been looking up because I'm watching a show that is. We have to have the subtitles on. It's Broad Church. It's in England, I'm pretty sure. And you can't like some of the. Some of the words. We don't have that word. Like, they're just they. The way they say things are. It's just everything is either cuter or. Or sweeter or, like, meaner. Like maybe because it's not my language, but I'm envious of it.

[B]

Do you know the happiest language this is just from the dome. Don't quote me because maybe research has changed, but yeah, Australian.

[A]

No, no, that's an English.

[B]

Spanish.

[A]

Ah.

[B]

It's like the happiest. Like, you know.

[A]

Yeah, yeah, I can.

[B]

Gracias.

[A]

And the angriest I feel like would be German.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Or Russian.

[B]

Freaks me out maybe, because those places Are both freaky. I wonder.

[A]

I feel like German. The way they have to talk. They have to be so, like, direct. Yeah.

[B]

The.

[A]

The words. You have to say them. So, like.

[B]

Yeah, okay, okay. When your man is defensive, your fragility is most revealing.

[A]

I feel like that might make him more defensive

[B]

when he won't apologize. Accountability appears beyond your current capacity. Now I feel like it turned into a Southern Bell. Accountability appears to be beyond your current capacity.

[A]

You're good at that.

[B]

Who is the girl from White Lotus? What would she say?

[A]

What would she say? We love talking. Like Tsunami. Tsunami. I never even watched that, but I knew that. And there's another thing she would say.

[B]

What's her name? Parker Posey. I think that's the actress.

[A]

That's not her name in the show.

[B]

No, I think it's her real name. And she was fabulous as that character, Tsunami. The final one, when you're done dealing with his. Oh, wait, hold on. I have another one for when he won't apologize. Sorry. There's two options. This conversation has reached its natural demise.

[A]

That sounds like a robot. This conversation has reached its natural demise.

[B]

I've sort of lost my Victoria self. Implode. I sort of lost my Victorian era when I mixed with Southern Belle. This conversation has reached its natural demise. Okay, when you're done dealing with his bs, I have two options for you.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

I take my leave of this foolishness. You may continue alone.

[A]

That's a good one.

[B]

You may. You may continue alone.

[A]

But that still sounds to me like a robot. You may continue alone. Goodbye.

[B]

You may continue alone.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

Mandarin Chinese, German, Arabic, Russian, and Korean are frequently cited as sounding the most aggressive when they really. They could be saying something so sweet and nice, but it just sounds a little more.

[A]

I like listening to people speak Mandarin. Yeah. Yeah. They have more like. Yeah.

[B]

I wish I had really paid more attention. In Spanish, Spanish was ranked number one, followed by Portuguese, English, Indonesian, and French. Oh, if I could speak French. I've never even been to Paris, but I want to go there and have a croissant.

[A]

I feel like French is not my favorite language. It feels. Yeah. Italian, I feel like, was very, very pretty.

[B]

And give me some Italian, because I can't. Like, I can't. I can't go.

[A]

Grazie.

[B]

Parmigiane. Balinese. Pasta primavera.

[A]

Madon.

[B]

Okay, okay, okay. Bongiorno.

[A]

Yeah. I don't know. Like, I can't say a sentence. I know a couple words, and I know a curse word, and that's about it.

[B]

You can say a curse word, which One.

[A]

Well, I don't know if it's an actual. Well, now I'm blanking on it. It's something my grandma always says. I don't know that it's. It's what? I don't. Never heard that. Vava vava kulo. But I don't know if it was, like, a slang. My grandma also taught me this word, and now I can't remember it was. But it meant you look. It was something you'd say if you look like a mess. And it. The. The translation is you look like a cat sprayed across the wall. Splattered on the wall.

[B]

A cat splattered on the wall?

[A]

Yes. That was like the English translation, but it meant, like, you look like a mess. But I can't. I don't. That's not helpful because I don't remember what it is. Sorry.

[B]

I remember when I went to Africa, if they wanted to compliment your outfit, they would say you looked smart.

[A]

Oh, thank you.

[B]

Smart.

[A]

Smart.

[B]

That means I get things.

[A]

Was that. That was a word or they just thought that smart met.

[B]

That's how they said, like, oh, beautiful. It was smart. Or like, you look nice smart. But I don't know. That wasn't. What did they speak in Kenya?

[A]

It's like, you want to know a fun fact about Italian that I learned when we went. I think it was 2000. It's 2024.

[B]

Swahili. Duh. Tangible.

[A]

So

[B]

I don't. I look. I don't know that my brain is working this episode. So I'm sorry.

[A]

It's okay. We. It makes it better.

[B]

It's priceless.

[A]

Yeah. So when Italian. You learn Italian. Just because you learn Italian doesn't mean you can go to Italy and speak Italian everywhere. Because every single, like, little city or like, suburb or whatever has a different dialect.

[B]

Dialect.

[A]

And so when we were in Cortona, we went and did this cooking class. We were talking to the people that live there, and she was like, if you go one town over, I might. I have. That's why Italians talk with their hands so much. Because the word that I might use for road might be a different word that they use for road. So we talk with our hands to explain things so we can understand each other. So learning Italian in high school or if you take an Italian class doesn't mean that you're going to be understood in certain areas or that you'll understand.

[B]

Right?

[A]

Certain areas. And I thought that was so interesting because English is here. It's just English.

[B]

English.

[A]

I mean, there might be, like, slang words But, Well, I wonder.

[B]

I mean, we would say like, pop, coke, soda pop.

[A]

Yeah, but we would all understand that,

[B]

like, highway, road free. Some people say freeway.

[A]

But we understand what. That if somebody were to come and say freeway, we would understand what that meant.

[B]

Yeah. I also talk with my hands a lot.

[A]

Are you Italian?

[B]

Well, maybe it's just part of my. No, I believe I'm Irish.

[A]

Oh, yeah.

[B]

Which didn't end up on a friendly or a aggressive list. The language.

[A]

Well, don't. Don't Irish people speak English?

[B]

Ireland.

[A]

I think they speak English. I mean, I could be wrong, but.

[B]

But their. Their accent is very different.

[A]

Yes. Oh, oh, oh, oh. Can you do an Irish accent?

[B]

I. I just did. Hold on.

[A]

I did.

[B]

I said Ireland. Ireland. I'm from.

[A]

They say, like. The perk or the garden instead of. I watched a video trying to learn the accent of Irish because I feel like that's such a fun accent, that in Australian, but it's so hard. And it was something about like, instead of ar, it's like, er. So they say, would you like to go to the park or the garden?

[B]

Yeah, the perk of the garden. Okay, well, yes. Being. Talking like this. I don't know if I'm better at this because my sister and I did it so much growing up when we would say, oh, sister, I don't know. Do you know where father is? Like, we talk like this all the time.

[A]

Natural.

[B]

We'd, like go order our food in public. This way

[A]

people are like, somebody call some help.

[B]

Right.

[A]

I thought of the curse word. So what is it?

[B]

Well, if it's in another language, it's fine.

[A]

It's fungool, which means, I think, the F word. So my grandma could say that. And it's not like she was cussing because I didn't know what I meant.

[B]

Right.

[A]

The more you know, I could be wrong, though. So fact check me or don't. Or. Or just let me live just in the perk of the group.

[B]

Live your life. Speak how you want. Yeah, do your thing. Okay, well, good. Perk of the garden.

[A]

Try to say something else for the Irish accent.

[B]

It's very. Try to say, do you want lucky charm?

[A]

Lucky charm. Wait, what is it? That's slogan. They're after my. They're after me lucky charms.

[B]

They're after me lucky terms.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Yeah, I guess that's all I got.

[A]

Say, do you want to go to lunch? I Do you want lunch?

[B]

All I have in my head is, do you want to go to lunch?

[A]

Now?

[B]

Now I sound like Dracula. Think about how you want to go at the lunch.

[A]

Think about how hard it is for actors.

[B]

I don't know how they do it.

[A]

How do they do it?

[B]

I think it's like a gift. Yeah, obviously. One we don't have. Like, people that can sing or dance. Like, impressions are. Some people are so good at impressions. I mean.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

It's crazy. Yeah. Like, sometimes my algorithm will get on impressions of people just impersonating different people. There's this one girl that does a Claire Danes impression that is just so spot on.

[A]

That's such a random impression too.

[B]

Like, the other day, I thought it literally was Claire Danes, and then I was like, oh, no, no, this is that girl that impersonates her.

[A]

That's crazy.

[B]

And then this one guy was doing Obama, but it was like a white guy. So you knew it wasn't Obama, obviously, but it was perfect.

[A]

Wow. You almost could pass as him if

[B]

my eyes were closed. Right. But even his facial expressions looked in the pauses, like it wasn't just the words. It was like the pause and then the tongue. Like it was. Everything was perfect. And like Eddie on the Bobby Bowen show, he can do really good impressions of, like, Luke Bryan.

[A]

Isn't that just, like, country accent, though?

[B]

No, he, like, really sounds like Luke and then it's not just like, oh, I'm Luke Bryan. Like, he really sounds like him and then. Or like, Disney characters and stuff. Like, he can, like goofy people can sound like those characters. It's crazy. I don't have that gift. Still trying to figure out my gift.

[A]

I was gonna say that could be something you learn in, like, improv.

[B]

No, I don't know. I think it's like a. It's again, you. I couldn't learn how to sing at improv.

[A]

Yeah, but you might learn how to do impressions.

[B]

I don't know. I think the only one I have is Russian. Russian sister. That's, like, mediocre at best.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Okay, well, there you go. Yay.

[A]

That was fun.

[B]

Okay, well, we hope wherever you are that you have the day you need to have. Bye.

[A]

Bye.

[B]

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