The Bobby Bones Show Episode: First Stall Theory, Face Fitness, & Feeling Your Way to Better Decisions (5th Thing) Release Date: January 28, 2025
1. First Stall Theory
[01:46 - 06:21]
Kat introduces the concept of the "First Stall Theory," inspired by Colleen Hoover's book November 9th. The theory posits that the first stall in a public restroom is the least used and therefore the cleanest, based on the idea that most people prefer the middle stalls for their centrality. Kat shares her personal experience of opting for the first stall twice during a doctor's appointment due to the occupancy of the other stalls.
Kat:
"I went twice. I went before my appointment, first stall. And then after my appointment, guess why I had to go in the first one because the other two were occupied."
[03:00]
Mila and Kat delve into whether this behavior is widespread among women, discussing the discomfort and inconvenience of using public restrooms efficiently. They coin "centrality preference" as the tendency to choose middle stalls when available.
Mila:
"I wonder if that's a thing around a lot of women. I find it such an inconvenience to have to go to the bathroom. But it is really bad for you to hold it that long."
[06:29]
2. Life Decisions and Emotions
[06:56 - 07:58]
Mila introduces a poignant quote from Adam Grant, emphasizing the importance of long-term values over short-term emotions in making life decisions.
Mila:
"Life decisions shouldn't be based on short term emotions. They should be guided by long term values. Feelings are better mirrors than maps. They reflect your present states, but they don't come with future directions."
[07:00]
Kat and Mila discuss the relevance of this philosophy, acknowledging how emotions can sometimes lead to impulsive decisions that may not align with one's long-term goals. They reflect on the challenge of balancing emotional intuition with rational planning.
Kat:
"Sometimes just making decisions when you're all emotional just feels like the right thing to do. But then later, that's when you're like, wasn't the best decision."
[07:52]
3. Listener Update: Taylor's Story
[18:56 - 23:33]
Kat shares a heartfelt email from Taylor in Virginia Beach, who expresses gratitude for the show's support during a tumultuous period in her life. Taylor recounts overcoming significant challenges, including her husband's deployment, her mother's passing from breast cancer, and her son's diagnosis with autism.
Taylor's Email Excerpt:
"God used your podcast to help me through that time is an understatement. [...] I won't just survive, but by the grace of God, I may just even thrive."
[18:56]
Kat and Mila respond with empathy, acknowledging Taylor's resilience and sharing their own experiences with supporting loved ones during difficult times. They highlight the importance of community and shared stories in fostering strength and hope.
Kat:
"Taylor's words are going to encourage somebody else who's going through a tough season to know that they can make it out on the other side."
[22:00]
4. Face Fitness and Self-Care
[27:33 - 36:14]
The conversation shifts to face fitness, where Kat discusses her new skincare routine inspired by YouTube tutorials. She explains the connection between neck muscle relaxation and facial aesthetics, describing techniques to alleviate tension and promote a relaxed appearance.
Kat:
"I've learned that relaxing the muscles in the neck is very for your face, like you wouldn't think. But if these muscles are tight, that's what pulls down, and that starts to pull your face down."
[33:08]
Mila and Kat exchange tips on incorporating skincare into daily routines, emphasizing the importance of consistency for visible results. They humorously debate the practicality of adopting new habits amidst busy schedules.
Mila:
"I've never thought to put skincare on my hands. I don't even really wear lotion on my hands."
[28:32]
5. Book Discussions: November 9th and Fourth Wing
[36:14 - 49:43]
Kat introduces two books that have captured her attention: Colleen Hoover's November 9th and Fourth Wing. She provides a synopsis of November 9th, highlighting its unique premise where two characters meet and reconnect annually on the same date without prior contact details.
Kat:
"Fallon meets Ben, an aspiring novelist, the day before her scheduled cross country move. Their untimely attraction leads to them spending Fallon's last day in LA together."
[48:45]
The discussion then moves to Fourth Wing, a high-fantasy novel featuring dragons, which Mila finds intriguing despite initial reservations about its romantic elements. They debate the merits of pure romance versus "romantasy" genres, considering the narrative depth and character development.
Mila:
"This book had a love scene in there too, and was an audiobook, so it makes it even weirder. It was like 20. I had to fast forward."
[38:08]
Kat and Mila reflect on their admiration for writers' abilities to craft compelling stories, sharing their own creative aspirations and the challenges they face in storytelling.
Mila:
"I've been a fan of him. [...] When I heard about this, I was like, oh, No, I want to believe the best in him, but I also can't just be blinded by the fact that I've been a fan of his."
[46:43]
6. Current Hot Topics and Reflections
[49:43 - 52:50]
The hosts briefly touch upon recent controversies involving public figures like Ryan Reynolds and Justin Baldoni, discussing the impact of public opinion and media narratives on personal reputations. They express concerns over the spread of information and the importance of understanding all facts before forming judgments.
Kat:
"Candace referred to Ryan as terrifying, unhinged, the true villain. [...] He's spiraling and we're not considering like all the different variables."
[44:34]
Mila and Kat emphasize the need for critical thinking and withholding judgment until all information is available, highlighting the complexities of public personas and personal struggles.
Mila:
"I was upset when that first stuff came out of like, oh, maybe I read this all wrong."
[46:42]
7. Upcoming Content and Closing Thoughts
[52:50 - 54:19]
As the episode nears its end, Kat and Mila hint at future projects and content they are developing, expressing excitement about sharing new ideas and engaging with their audience. They encourage listeners to stay tuned for fresh and riveting updates.
Kat:
"We're cooking up something, so we are close to sharing what that is. And we are getting closer and it makes me think of Taylor's year and gosh, I hope for her sake, time flies."
[24:56]
They conclude by inviting listeners to submit their own updates and stories, fostering a sense of community and ongoing dialogue.
Notable Quotes
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Mila Grant:
"Life decisions shouldn't be based on short term emotions. They should be guided by long term values. Feelings are better mirrors than maps."
[07:00] -
Taylor's Email:
"I won't just survive, but by the grace of God, I may just even thrive."
[18:57]
This episode of The Bobby Bones Show offers a blend of personal anecdotes, insightful discussions on decision-making, heartfelt listener stories, and engaging conversations on self-care and literature. Kat and Mila create an inviting atmosphere, encouraging listeners to reflect on their own lives while fostering a supportive community.