The Bobby Bones Show: Episode Summary
Episode: Hobbies, Red Flags & Why Amy May No Longer Be Datable (5th Thing)
Release Date: February 4, 2025
Host/Authors: Amy Brown & Kat Van Buren

Introduction and Hobbies

The episode kicks off with Amy Brown and Kat Van Buren delving into the topic of hobbies. Amy shares a listener's quote highlighting Kat's diverse interests. Kat humorously mentions her current ventures, including doing nails for everyone in Nashville and her upcoming pottery classes.

Amy Brown [00:07]: "Kat has all kinds of hobbies. Right now, she's doing everybody's nails. Like, everybody in Nashville. You need your nails done. Go over to Cat's kitchen."

Kat adds, emphasizing her dedication to aesthetics and crafts.

Kat Van Buren [00:28]: "It will take me three hours, but it's looking good."

Face Fitness and Shopping Habits

Transitioning from hobbies, Amy discusses her engagement with face fitness—a lifestyle choice rather than a mere hobby. She humorously recounts unboxing a face cupping tool, revealing her penchant for purchasing beauty gadgets.

Amy Brown [00:28]: "Every time I think I have a new hobby, it turns out I just like to buy stuff."

Kat remarks on the influx of face fitness products, linking it to potential shopping addictions.

Kat Van Buren [02:15]: "It's interesting because face fitness is something that you really could do with yourself and no real products. But now you're probably getting targeted for all of these fun, fun tools you can get to make your experience even better."

Personal Anecdotes: Conversations with Her Cat and Dating Story

Amy shares a lighthearted yet revealing story about her attempts to communicate with her cat, Maggie, intertwining it with her recent dating experiences. She describes instructing her boyfriend to inform his colleague that she's "raised by cats," hinting at underlying relationship red flags.

Amy Brown [02:28]: "This is my algorithm now, because it's what I talk about and everything that pops up in my for you page or whatever."

Kat questions the nature of Amy's behavior, leading to introspective discussions about self-awareness and personal quirks.

Kat Van Buren [03:58]: "You kept this one in. You had enough self awareness to not say it out loud."

Red Flags vs. 'Icks' in Relationships

A significant portion of the episode is dedicated to unpacking the concepts of red flags and "icks" in romantic relationships. Amy and Kat explore how societal algorithms and social media influence perceptions of what constitutes a red flag, often leading individuals to overlook positive traits.

Amy Brown [10:07]: "I just think that it's another one of those buzz things we see on social."

Kat Van Buren [10:22]: "Yes. And I think when that thought of it turning you away, when you're thinking about that, then you are clogging..."

They discuss personal experiences, such as Kat dating someone who refused to wear deodorant while working out, illustrating that not all unconventional behaviors are detrimental.

Kat Van Buren [11:01]: "They refused to wear deodorant when they worked out because I swore that sweat doesn't smell. It only smells after it's dry."

Amy adds her perspective, emphasizing the importance of not labeling minor quirks as red flags prematurely.

Amy Brown [16:57]: "When you stop looking at everything as a red flag, and this could be in any human, we're talking about dating..."

Perspective on Relationships and Growth

The conversation shifts towards fostering a positive outlook in relationships by focusing on what partners bring to the table rather than fixating on flaws. Amy and Kat advocate for recognizing growth potential and understanding behavior within context.

Kat Van Buren [22:12]: "There are some things like, okay. That you need to pay attention to, but most of the things that people call red flags are just dependent on who the person is."

Amy Brown [22:27]: "Nobody comes without flaws, by the way."

Humorous Recollections and Personal Growth

Amy recounts a humorous anecdote about an old date where her attraction waned due to minor details like a white belt, illustrating how personal biases evolve over time.

Amy Brown [23:03]: "I thought he was really cute. He's the guy I was at the gym... And then he wore a white belt."

Kat playfully teases Amy about her heightened sensitivity to such "icks," underscoring the subjective nature of relationship perceptions.

Kat Van Buren [23:43]: "You're the red flag."

Up Leveling and Future Plans

Towards the episode's conclusion, Amy and Kat discuss "up leveling" their podcast, contemplating a rebranding effort that includes changing their names to sound more sophisticated. They humorously debate the merits of "up leveling" versus "leveling up," ultimately deciding to retain their current personas while hinting at future developments.

Amy Brown [34:21]: "We're about to give you our podcast. We're going to keep giving you our podcast for free, but we may up level to some other things..."

Kat introduces her new hobby of pottery, laying the groundwork for potential future collaborations and classes.

Kat Van Buren [37:07]: "I've been trying to get into pottery for a while... I'm gonna have my dermatologist on."

Conclusion

The episode wraps up with light-hearted banter about their upcoming projects and the potential impact of their rebranding. Amy and Kat express excitement about evolving their podcast while maintaining their unique dynamic, promising more engaging content in future episodes.

Notable Quotes with Timestamps:

• Amy Brown [00:07]: "Kat has all kinds of hobbies. Right now, she's doing everybody's nails."
• Kat Van Buren [11:01]: "They refused to wear deodorant when they worked out because I swore that sweat doesn't smell."
• Amy Brown [22:27]: "Nobody comes without flaws, by the way."
• Amy Brown [23:03]: "I thought he was really cute... And then he wore a white belt."
• Amy Brown [34:21]: "We're about to give you our podcast... but we may up level to some other things..."

This episode offers a blend of personal anecdotes, insightful discussions on relationship dynamics, and humorous exchanges between Amy and Kat. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their perceptions of red flags and embrace the growth potential within their relationships.