The Bobby Bones Show – Sore Losers: Is This The Real Reason People Have Kids?

Date: December 19, 2025
Hosts: Lunchbox, Ray (with guests Morgan and Amy)

Episode Overview

This lively episode of The Bobby Bones Show: Sore Losers dives into the real motives people have for having kids, modern parenting, the realities (and myths) of how hard child-rearing actually is, and how having children can become a convenient lifelong excuse for bailing on obligations. The crew also touches on podcast burnout, sports stories (including a memorable ball-drop at a Yankees game), and eye-opening personal experiences. Frequent banter, lighthearted sarcasm, and cross-promotions with other podcast personalities keep the tone energetic and relatable, especially for sports fans and parents.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Setting Up Sore Losers Nation Events (03:23–08:31)

• Event Venue Banter: Lunchbox and Ray discuss hosting the next convention at the Almost Friday bar and Holiday Inn Suites in downtown Nashville. They review its suitability—TVs, sports bar environment, and how wild it gets during college games.
• Brunch & Cake Ideas: Talks about catering brunch at Pins Mechanical and getting a cake that says, “Happy Birthday Losers” for laughs, even if no one has a birthday.
  • Memorable Moment:

    “Put Happy birthday losers. It’s not your birthday. We’re not your friends. But you live in this make believe world where we are, so why not as well lie about that.” – Lunchbox (08:08)

2. Social Media & Podcasting Culture (15:16–21:19)

• Podcast Cross-Pollination & Burnout: Discussion on how many people (even their friends and family) are starting podcasts, most quit, and the reality of not getting paid for years.
  • Stat Drop: “One in three podcasts quit, so eat that.” – Lunchbox (19:06)
• Burnout & Authenticity: Sharing first-hand experiences about why podcasts die and what it takes to stick with one.

3. Interactions with Other Hosts (28:18–42:38)

• Cross-Promotion with Morgan and Amy:
  • Morgan talks about sports-themed gifts for her boyfriend, golf dynamics in relationships, and their competitive/fun experiences on the course.
  • Ray discusses the desire for personal space apart from partners, even in shared hobbies.
  • Banter about podcast names and promoting “Feeling Things” and “Take This Personally.”
    • “The only one we make fun of is Amy’s. We say instead of feeling things, we say ‘feeling yourself.’” – Lunchbox (28:33)
• Amy’s Titans Story: Amy recounts being accidentally hit in the stomach by a Titans field goal kicker during warmups, wishing the moment was caught on video, paralleling Ray’s own failed Yankees ball catch.
  • “He threw the ball to me, hit off my chest and back onto the field. … Everybody around me, boo. They booed me.” – Ray (36:28–36:29)

4. Sports Fandom & Player Stories (46:59–51:37)

• Darnell Washington Appreciation:
  • Morgan highlights her admiration for NFL player Darnell Washington and recounts his tough upbringing, resilience, and the impact of positive mentors.

    "He grew up really poor. He and his brother...in and out of housing...always make it to football practice. There were days he wouldn't eat..." – Morgan (48:47)

  • Ray and Lunchbox tie it back to lessons in dedication and overcoming adversity, comparing it to their own families’ sports experiences.

5. Parenting Real Talk: Is It Really That Hard? (57:20–64:55)

• Challenging the “Parenting is Hard” Narrative:

  • Lunchbox posits that modern parenting is easier than ever—more resources, technology, support—contrary to constant complaints he hears.

    “Can we get to the narrative where, guys ...having a kid’s awesome and easy. I haven’t heard one person say that.” – Lunchbox (57:43)

  • Ray asserts that, while exhausting, parenting isn’t as impossible as many make it out, especially for mature, older parents.

    “There are a lot of dumb ass people in this world...A lot of dumb ass people are able to raise a child. So it can't be that impossible.” – Ray (58:14)

  • Morgan reminds the guys about the unique physical and emotional experience of motherhood and emphasizes empathy.

• ‘Built-in Excuse’ Theory:

  • Lunchbox jokes about the real value of having kids as a lifelong excuse:

    “For the next 18 years of your life, you can blame it on this being and say, I had kids...You don’t have to go to any event, any commitment. You can get out of work a ton for the next 18 years because of this thing.” – Lunchbox (60:07)

• Arguments & Family Dynamics:

  • Morgan shares communication advice for couples and families, encouraging more “I feel” statements instead of direct accusations.

    “You can’t say you’re doing something. You should say, I’m feeling something.” – Morgan (62:11)

6. Parenting, Coaching, and Encouragement (51:49–56:02)

• Ray talks about his move from "player" to "coach" in his kids' basketball leagues—and the realities of coaching little kids with varying levels of interest and skill.
  • Discussion about rim heights and the right approach to helping young kids succeed and enjoy sports.

Notable Quotes & Moments

| Timestamp | Speaker | Quote/Moment | |-----------|------------|----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------| | 08:08 | Lunchbox | “Happy birthday losers. It’s not your birthday. We’re not your friends. But you live in this make believe world...” | | 15:16 | Lunchbox | “One in three podcasts quit, so eat that.” | | 19:02 | Lunchbox | “People think we are just stacking cash because this podcast is so big.” | | 28:33 | Lunchbox | “The only one we make fun of is Amy’s. We say instead of feeling things, we say ‘feeling yourself.’” | | 36:28 | Ray | “He threw the ball to me, hit off my chest and back onto the field. … Everybody around me, boo. They booed me.” | | 48:47 | Morgan | “He grew up really poor. He and his brother...in and out of housing...always make it to football practice. There were days he wouldn't eat...” | | 57:43 | Lunchbox | “Can we get to the narrative where, guys ...having a kid’s awesome and easy. I haven’t heard one person say that.” | | 60:07 | Lunchbox | “For the next 18 years of your life, you can blame it on this being and say, I had kids... It’s the perfect cop out.” | | 62:11 | Morgan | “You can’t say you’re doing something. You should say, I’m feeling something.” |

Important Segment Timestamps

| Timestamp | Content | |-------------|-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------| | 03:23–08:31 | Setting for convention, event plans, “Happy Birthday Losers” cake discussion | | 15:16–21:19 | Podcast burnout, the reality of making money, and why most people quit | | 28:18–34:03 | Golf, relationships, and podcast cross-promotion with Morgan | | 36:28–42:38 | Ray’s failed Yankees ball catch & Amy’s Titans field goal story | | 46:59–51:37 | Darnell Washington’s inspiring backstory, relating to sports and resilience | | 57:20–61:39 | Is parenting really hard? Debunking the myth and the “built-in excuse” angle | | 62:11–64:55 | Communication in families: “I feel” vs. “you are…” statements |

Tone and Style

The show’s trademark is a mix of irreverent humor, friendly jabs, affectionate nostalgia, and off-the-cuff honesty. The group never takes themselves too seriously, opting for frequent self-deprecating asides, side stories, and authentic hot takes. Even potentially controversial parenting riffs or family-life debates are handled with the playful sarcasm fans expect.

For New Listeners

This episode is a classic blend of Sore Losers’ sports banter, inside jokes, life advice (questionable at times), and guest drop-ins. If you're curious about what having kids is really like, the unfiltered fears and perks of parenthood, or just want some irreverent takes on podcasting and sports, it's a must-listen—especially the closing segment on why having kids might just be the most convenient excuse in life.