Amy (5:00)

Yes.

Bobby Bones (5:01)

And I told him, I said, dad, I don't want you to just completely stop. I want you to have some, but not all of the responsibility. Yeah, he's still going to raise his garden. He's still. We're. We do the farm stuff together now, but he's more apt to let me join him and not just take it all in into his hands and onto his shoulders. Love it. If you can get like a 26 decrease from him and his physical activity, that is a major win. And then it'll slowly back off from there. Well, that's great. Bobby. I appreciate you you calling, and I hope this works out long term for you and your dad and your kids. And thanks for listening to the show. No problem. Thank you. Love you guys. Appreciate that. Hope you have a great day. I listen to the podcast while I drive a semi for 14 hours a day. So I felt that I drove a semi once. Keep me pretty good company. I had a cdl thought I was going to kill everybody on the road is.

Amy (5:56)

By once you literally mean like once?

Bobby Bones (5:58)

Well, no, more than that. A CD. I had to do it for like three days. Okay. So we shot the show over three days, but I'm like, in Chattanooga. I'm driving an 18 wheeler. A freaking trailer full of eggs. Truckers. Truck drivers have the hardest job because people just consider that to be like part of the road and they're weaving in and out when if that truck hits you or anybody else probably gonna kill you and gonna absolutely stop traffic and all those goods, they're not gonna get to their place. So justice for truckers is what I say. I think I'm gonna get that tattoo on my back. All right, I want to go to Ben in Arkansas calling. We appreciate that. Ben, what's going on? Good morning, studio. Morning. I was on my way to work and I had a bald eagle fly over my head and called my wife, told my wife about it. It was cool. Live in Arkansas, so used to seeing them, didn't think nothing about it. Eagles won Sunday. And then on my way to work yesterday, in almost the exact same spot, Amy was talking about seeing the eagle fly to the sun and said the Eagles were going to win the Super Bowl. And I decided to go ahead and go put a bet on the Eagles to win the Super Bowl. Oh, no. Oh.

Amy (7:07)

Oh, okay.

Bobby Bones (7:08)

Well, good for you, Ben. Yeah, they're basically. It's a. It's a coin toss, right? As far as the odds, I think the Chiefs are a point and a half favorite. Last time I looked, that's. That's nothing. So I hope for your. I don't want them to win. I got much money on cheap.

Amy (7:23)

You doing this is for fun. Like we're not his whole mortgage.

Bobby Bones (7:27)

He sell house. He saw an eagle and he's betting it all. Yeah. Okay. How significant of a bet has it been? I just bet a hundred dollars. That's pretty significant. Okay, well, I hope you win. I hope you see that. The crazy thing was I was driving to work this morning and saw an Indian chief on the side of the road. So take that as you will, okay? With a peace pipe.

Amy (7:45)

All right? Yeah, take it as you will.

Bobby Bones (7:47)

So thank you, Ben. Thank you for listening. I hope you have a great rest of the day. And I hope the Eagles. I don't hope they win. I'll be honest with you. I want to see some nice, but I hope they lose. But I hope for your sake that you enjoy the Super Bowl. All right, thank you. All right. Bye. Bye. Although Amy, psychic prediction even before she knew they had won their last game, said the Eagles were gonna win the Super Bowl. All right, we're here. Question to be had. Hello, Bobby Bones. I bought a TV a couple weeks ago. I'm hosting a Super bowl party. I went with the biggest and clearest picture. It was a little out of my price range, but to be honest, I never planned on keeping it. My wife thought the purchase was ridiculous when I told her, but then she thought it was even shadier when I said I'd be returning it after the game, within the return window. Should I return the TV like I planned, or do the right thing and take it back earlier than the game like my wife insists? Big screen bill. Okay, this is shady. I don't like it. There is deception involved, therefore, it is dishonest. He even called it the right thing because his wife, like my wife, usually knows the right thing to do. So I have, like, a thing to do, and she has the right thing to do. I don't say I have. Mine's the wrong thing, but hers is usually the right thing. I don't like doing it. Somewhere there's an integrity scoreboard, and I'd like to have the. The good points over on the integrity scoreboard. I would keep the TV if you can afford it.

Amy (9:22)

Huh?

Bobby Bones (9:23)

Like, I know that's not one of the real options here, but you should. You already paid for it. Keep the tv. The other two options are take it back after the Super Bowl. Or the wife says, take it back now before the game. So in order, I would go keep it and figure out how to pay it off. Take it back after the game. I know, but if you're gonna be shady, you might as well use it for the Game, I wouldn't be shady, but if I did, I would not take it back now. I would take it back after the game. But again, if you've never used it, I guess there's a point there. If he's not turned it on yet, he takes it back. It's different.

Amy (9:55)

That's totally fine.

Bobby Bones (9:56)

I think that if he uses it.

Amy (9:57)

For the super bowl, you're right. That's so unattractive.

Bobby Bones (10:01)

He's already married. He's not really looking.

Amy (10:03)

Yeah, but she's not into it.

Bobby Bones (10:04)

Yeah, I think you're. You're right. So if the tv, if you haven't used it at all, I think you take it back before you use it. If, like, you've already set it up, you're getting ready for the big game youe know, watch a couple shows on it. You just keep it and watch the game and take it back. But I think you buy the tv. You figure out how to buy the tv. It's a little out of your price range. You said that. Figure out how to make up for it. Buy the TV so you're not doing dirty dog things.

Amy (10:27)

If you're having a Super bowl party, can you have a jar.

Bobby Bones (10:32)

Tv? Fun. You couldn't. And I think your buddies would think that was actually funny.

Amy (10:38)

Like, my wife said I was supposed to return this and I didn't.

Bobby Bones (10:42)

I think if you told the whole story in a text message to all your buddies, I think willingly guys would drop 20 bucks in that. Totally.

Amy (10:48)

What would you do if you got a text message like that from a friend?

Bobby Bones (10:50)

He'd laugh. I would think it was hilarious.

Amy (10:53)

You would donate.

Bobby Bones (10:53)

I would go, ha, you're shady. I thought better of you. But if I'm coming to your house, I'm happy to put some money in the jar. So, yeah, I would say try to buy the tv. Secondly, take it back if you haven't opened it, then. Thirdly, but this is not a cool thing, but this is something lunchbox would do, I feel. Oh, big screen bill. 9am the day after the super bowl. You are waiting at those doors to return that tv. Sorry, guys. A little too big. Doesn't fit in my space. Used it, though. Doesn't matter. They give you a return window for a reason. They want you to go home, try it out, see if it fits in with the paintings on the wall, the decor, and maybe it's just too. A little, little too bright. It's too shiny. I don't know any reason. Just take it back. Day after the Super Bowl, Enjoy the game. On the big screen and get 100% of your money back. No problem. Roll on their eyes. And people bringing TVs back after the Super bowl at 9am like, you. There's like eight dudes all with TVs.

Amy (11:48)

And they're like fingerprints all over it.

Bobby Bones (11:50)

Yes. Good luck. Take it back. No, buy it, then take it back. Hey, it's Bobby Bones. Join me and former NFL quarterback Matt Cassel every Wednesday for our new podcast, Lots to say with Bobby Bones and Matt Castle. Between us, we have over 17,500 passing yards, multiple New York Times bestsellers, and one Michael Mirrorball trophy from Dancing with a Star. So where else you can find a show with that much athleticism and football insight? Based in Nashville, we're more than just your basic NFL show. We talk sports, but we talk pop culture and music and a little bit of everything because we got lots to say. I. I texted you, and you texted me back. Now, I don't know if you have the update, but, like, all the little thumbs up and heart and stuff, like, it's all colored. They changed it, and the. The heart's a little pink. It felt like I told you I loved you. I'm going to be honest. It was a little pink. There was something sentimental when you. When you send it. It was like, do I send the heart now? I don't like the color edition. It's extremely pink. Listen to Lots to say with Bobby Bones and Matt Castle on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, it's Mike and Ian. We're the hosts of how to do everything from NPR's wait, wait, don't tell me. Each week, we take your questions and find someone much smarter than us to answer them. Questions like, how do you survive the Bermuda Triangle? How do you find a date inside the Bermuda Triangle? We can't help you, but we will find someone who can. Listen to the how to do everything podcast on iHeartradio. 2025 is bound to be a fascinating year. It's gonna be filled with money, challenges, and opportunities. I'm Joel. Ooh. And I am Matt. And we're the hosts of How To Money. We want to be with you, you every step of the way in your financial journey this year, offering the information and insights you need to thrive financially. Yeah. Whether you find yourself up to your eyeballs in student loan debt or you've got a sky high credit card balance because you went a little overboard with the holiday spending, or maybe you're looking to optimize your retirement accounts so you can retire early. Well, how to Money will help you to change your relationship with money so you can stress less and grow your net worth. That's right. How to Money comes out three times a week, Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays. For money advice without the judgment and jargon, listen to how to Money on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, y'all. This is Reed from the God's country podcast. We had the one and only Bobby Bones in the studio this week, and we cover everything from his upbringing to his outdoor experience, experiences with a stepdad, AR Keith, to the state of country music. We may even end the episode with a little jam session led by Bobby himself. Y'all be sure and listen to this episode of God's country with Bobby bones on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. Don't go shopping at Target with khaki pants and a red shirt on. Don't go shopping at Target with khaki pants and a red polo shirt on. Switch up song. An old lady came up to me. She said, how much for this cream of Wheat? The segment is for Amy and only Amy. Amy all the time. Amy all the time. Amy all the time.

Amy (15:12)

So I highly recommend having a code word if you're in any kind of relationship. My ex husband and I just came up with one for our co parenting conversations and it really has helped. Like, I straight up ended a conversation the other day by just yelling out the word pickle. And then he said, okay, bye. And he hung up.

Bobby Bones (15:30)

Okay, I need more information about why the word pickle. And like, is it if you're fighting about something?

Amy (15:34)

I don't know, it's not. I wouldn't call it so much like a. Like a fight fight, but more if there's tension on the line or in person or however you're having the conversation, it means that we need a breather, we need to step away because we're not gonna be productive with this conversation until we take some space. And then when we reconvene, we'll likely be able to come up with a better result. Or like, we're just wasting each other's time if we keep talking. Cause we're just not in a good place.

Bobby Bones (16:02)

So if you yell pickle, he knows. Or, you know, if he says pickle to shut it down.

Amy (16:08)

Yeah. And for us, pickle came up organically. It was actually like the day before the call, we discussed needing a code word. We were like, it's almost like we need a code word. But we never finalized what that was. I don't even remember what words were thrown. But then the next day, it was almost like we were having a few days of just really struggling with communication. And I think that we are fairly good communicators. So I'd say 98% of the time, we're pretty solid at our co parenting. But I mean, when that 2% hits, it is. It's rough. And so the next day, we were on a call, and I was like, what's our code word? What's our code word?

Bobby Bones (16:40)

And I don't know.

Amy (16:41)

Just out of nowhere, I just blurted out pickle. And he knew like, oh, this must be what we've come up with. And so he just said, okay, bye, and hung up. And I was like, wow, that went well. And so now we have our word, and it's pickle. And we haven't had to use it since. But in the future, I know if we have to bust out the word pickle, we know what to do. Okay, bye. It's not disrespectful. No one's just hanging up. You're just like, okay, pause. Bye. Talk to you later.

Bobby Bones (17:08)

I think if it were me having to use that word, much like when I was 13, I would abuse a pickle. I give V for any reason to get out of it.

Amy (17:15)

No, no, no, no, no. Because when you're co parenting, you're trying to co parent effectively. You have to have conversations. So you can't just constantly be blurting out the word pickle or you'll never get anything done.

Bobby Bones (17:23)

Or if I was losing and like, I knew I was losing pickle.

Amy (17:27)

That's abuse of a use of pickle.

Bobby Bones (17:30)

Trust me, been there.

Amy (17:30)

It's abuse of pickle. Yeah, we. No, this is supposed to be. To help you in times that are just getting a little, you know, you're getting off the path and you need to get back on the path, but sometimes you need to pause, take a breather, and. And then continue.

Bobby Bones (17:44)

Can you use pickle if you know that you're just not having a good day and it has nothing to do with what the situation is, and you know, you're not thinking rationally.

Amy (17:52)

I mean, I guess you could just. If you already know you're not in a good headspace, you could just. Don't. You don't even need to.

Bobby Bones (17:59)

Can you pre pickle?

Amy (18:00)

Pickle. I guess you could pre pickle, but you don't need to yell out pickle. Pickle is for those dire moments, I would think if you have that self awareness, then at the beginning of the call or when you're trying to text, to arrange a call, like, hey, I'm just not in a good head space today. Can we punt this to tomorrow?

Bobby Bones (18:16)

We pickle this till tomorrow. So what if the show. What if it's like one of these segments we get into and I'm like, oh, my God, this is not going well. Yeah, can I just yell pickle? And when Ray hits the button and gets us out of here, sure.

Amy (18:27)

I mean, whatever. You can make it a different word if you want to. I just think that in any relationship, I found that this worked well for us the other day and now we have a word. And it really was so great. The. He handled it so great. Like, I yelled at Pickle. He said, okay, bye. We hung up, we talked the next day.

Bobby Bones (18:44)

Maybe he thought you were coming over. Pickle. Okay, no. Okay, okay.

Amy (18:48)

No, no, no, no, no.

Bobby Bones (18:49)

I think it's great. I all seriousness, I think that's great. Everybody has and everybody. I should do it to build more effective communication techniques. I love that you guys found something that works for you.

Amy (18:59)

Now it's going to be really, really hard for me though, is if even if I yell out hickle. And he says, okay, bye. I might be like, wait, I have one more thing to say. But you know, the rule of the word is when the word is said.

Bobby Bones (19:11)

You just hang up.

Amy (19:13)

Yeah, you, you.

Bobby Bones (19:14)

It's like run from a grenade.

Amy (19:15)

Right? Okay, bye. And just be done with it because, you know, you've hit a limit where you may say something you regret or you're just, again, like I said, wasting each other's time. I mean, I'm sure you and Caitlin, like, maybe sometimes need to just different meaning on pickle. Oh, okay.

Bobby Bones (19:31)

Usually if I say pickle, I'm pointing somewhere. Okay. Pickle. Pickleball. I would say in high school, when some. If I was on punt return and no one catches the ball, you yell Peter. And everybody runs away because you don't want the ball hitting the person, them not knowing it and the other team getting to recover it. So you yell Peter. I think the reason you yell Peter, because Peter's like a wiener. And it was like everybody run away from the wiener. I'm almost positive that's why it was. But it was always Peter, like all through me playing high school ball, even when we go work with these colleges, they yell Peter. They get away from the ball. That's gotta be it, right? So if I Yell Peter. That means we're just gonna shut the bit down, Ray. Capiche?

Amy (20:11)

Can anyone yell?

Bobby Bones (20:12)

No, no, no. That'll. We'll go off the rails. So Peter will be our new word. If I'm like, we got to get out here, Peter. Ray, then you hit the. You hit the. And get us out of here. We'll just test it right now, and you can hit Amy all the time. Amy. I like it that. That feels like an effective communication technique. I love that you guys are working on that. You're co parenting in a positive, effective way. And Peter. Amy all the time. Amy all the time. Amy all the time. Come on, it's time for the good news.

Amy (20:39)

With Amy. Interest in women's sports is on the rise. All in, like, the Gen Z category, but also in men.

Bobby Bones (20:50)

Yeah, I mean, I. Caitlin Clark's my.

Amy (20:52)

Favorite American athlete, so Gen Z's interest in women's sports, it's growing. It's up 11% since 2022.

Bobby Bones (20:59)

All from Caitlin Clark. I'm telling you. All from Caitlin Clark.

Amy (21:01)

Yeah, probably. Yeah, that's what they're saying. My dad always loved women's basketball, so I feel like, oh, man, what a time to be alive. He would.

Bobby Bones (21:09)

The two people I give credit to, and there are a lot of people behind the scenes we don't know of, are Caitlin Clark and DJ Gasso. Assistant softball coach, University of Arkansas.

Amy (21:19)

Yeah, but okay, my.

Bobby Bones (21:22)

My brother in law.

Amy (21:22)

Yeah.

Bobby Bones (21:23)

Who? You know, softball. Razorback softball fan.

Amy (21:27)

Yeah. And says here, men are increasingly paying attention to the wnba, so.

Bobby Bones (21:31)

And assistant coach, women's Arkansas softball. Yeah. So Caitlin Clark and DJ Gasso shout outs. Women's sports.

Amy (21:38)

Women's sports. I think it's more of the team. This is about women. DJ's a man, but DJ is a coach for women.

Bobby Bones (21:45)

The leader of women.

Amy (21:46)

I know, I get that, but this is about women.

Bobby Bones (21:48)

He's my brother in law, though. Okay.

Amy (21:50)

Anyway, what about his mom? Let's give his mom a shout out because she's a woman.

Bobby Bones (21:53)

She has. All moms are women.

Amy (21:55)

Yeah. Coach Gaso.

Bobby Bones (21:57)

Yeah, Coach DJ Gasso.

Amy (21:58)

No, what's her first name?

Bobby Bones (22:00)

Don't matter. I'm a DJ Gaso guy myself. Yeah, I mean, Patty, she's won like a million national championships, but you know what? I'm more of a DJ Gaso guy. Okay, thank you. That's a great story. Story. No, seriously, I am invest. I have the WNBA league pass.

Amy (22:14)

What does that mean?

Bobby Bones (22:15)

I have access to every game on Amazon.

Amy (22:17)

Oh, so you can watch it all?

Bobby Bones (22:18)

Yeah, no, I just watch the fever, for the most part. Sometimes the Las Vegas Aces if I want them to lose, but that's about it. Okay. Occasionally the sparks. But see, even that. I know, that is wild.

Amy (22:28)

It's pretty cool.

Bobby Bones (22:29)

All right. That's it. That's what it's all about. That was. Tell me something good, Bones. There's a disease called pantherophobia. They say men and women both suffer from it. They don't share. A lot of times they do suffer from it. They're encouraging people not to be scared to say they have pentarophobia. But pentarophobia is the intense fear of your mother in law.

Amy (22:48)

Oh, wow.

Bobby Bones (22:50)

Yep. Let's go around now. Lunchbox. Your mother in law, you've had many stories about her. They stayed at your house for how long? Over the ring. Two weeks, man. Two weeks. And how many days were you actually comfortable with them staying? Probably about four. Four days. And they stayed 14. They stayed 14 days, man. 14. Do you feel like you have pentheraphobia? I wouldn't say I'm fearful of my mother in law. It can get uncomfortable at times. It's awkward. She hits on me. She makes weird comments. She accuses me of smoking weed. I mean, it's just weird.

Amy (23:27)

What?

Bobby Bones (23:29)

That's a lot of different things and they have nothing to do with each other. I don't think she really hits on you. I think you just interpret any female talking to you is hitting on you. Maybe she accused you of smoking. Yeah. We were at their house for Thanksgiving one year and I left to go do something and then I came back and we're sitting in the living room and she goes, sure smells like weed. And there's only one person that left. Dang. And I was just like, what? And she was kidding. I thought she was kidding. No. And that's what I said. And I thought she was kidding. And my wife goes, oh, that's funny. She goes, well, he is the only one that left after she looked right at me and I was like, okay, she wasn't joking. It was very awkward. Like, she knows you, but if you just looked at you and didn't know you, you'd think that. Yeah, I get it a lot. Yeah, but you don't. No, Amy, you're. I don't know, ex mother in law.

Amy (24:26)

Yeah. I mean, I still text with her all the time and my ex father in law, but I know that this is focusing on the mom and we had a great relationship the whole time. And she's still the grandmother of my children. She'll always be in my life.

Bobby Bones (24:39)

Good point. Good point.

Amy (24:40)

Yeah, we have a. Yeah, I saw her over Christmas break. We were all in Colorado at the same time and I, my sister and I went and met them at my sister's coffee shop and had coffee with them and it was great to catch up. And she still, she texts me most every morning and every night. Just like a little emojis, like heart.

Bobby Bones (24:54)

What? No, that's too much.

Amy (24:56)

No, love and prayers. Just real quick love and prayers. Yeah, she's just, that's when she's praying for us and I, I love that. Like it's just sweet and I just double tap it or I give a heart back and. Or sometimes we'll text about more in depth stuff, but most time it's just thinking of you guys praying for you. Let me know if the kids need prayer about anything specific. She's very thoughtful that way.

Bobby Bones (25:19)

How does your ex feel about you and his mom still being bff?

Amy (25:24)

Well, I've known her since I was a child and she was very close to my mom. So in a way, after my mom died, like, I still, I see them as. And my dad is passed on too, but my mom was first and so she really took on that role for me. Like if I needed advice, like I go to them. Like when they came, they came to town for Thanksgiving and we're staying with him and they left his house. They're like, we're going to go over to Amy's and they came over to my house for pickle a couple of hours and like we hung out and they knew, he, they, he knew, they came over. I, I think that he's okay with it.

Bobby Bones (25:58)

I think the fact though that she is the grandma to your kids, that, that is, that's an element that I didn't consider. So, yeah, all good. I love it. My mother in law is a boss and we don't have kids yet. And I expect when we do, she can be over here helping. It's not even about that. Like, she's hilarious. She like runs a business now. Like, she's cutting funny, which is my favorite kind of funny, which is where my wife gets it. Like, I do not have pantherophobia. We went on vacation this summer and it was my idea. Not that what my wife wasn't for it, but I was like, let's go on this vacation and take your parents with us. And part of that is probably I never had parents, but holy crap. Like, I have the opposite. I have pentora liking. Is that a word? Panthera positive I'm positive that's what I identify as. So anybody have a bad relationship with their mother in law? Raymundo, you good? Yeah. She's awesome. She buys me any present I ever want. Whenever it's a birthday, Christmas. Yeah, there's 10 boxes and it's just me. I'm not even a kid anymore, and she treats me like I'm 20. Okay. You know, I get presents to a Christmas, a lot of them. It's awesome. Yeah. Scooby, Steve, mother in law. Oh, I love mine. I used to live with him for years in San Francisco. So she was amazing, just like Ray. Great experience. She used to wash my laundry, she used to take care of me, feed me, and even my other mother in law before, when I was married my first time, she was amazing too. She used to buy my cruises, take care of me. So I've always attracted great mother in laws. So if our mother in law's like a mommy, we like them. And if they're not, we're like, ah, that's tough. So, Lunchbox, I think you're in the. The minority here. Yeah, I think I got the phobia. Hey, could you. If your mother in law was like, hey, Lunchbox, let's just go spend three days getting to know each other better, just you and I, would you do that? No. That was so weird. Yeah, so weird. Got it. You don't have to sleep in the same bedroom or anything, but let's say two hotel rooms next to each other, but all day for like, three days. You guys just go and, like, walk and. Can we go to a game? Oh, man, I wouldn't know what to talk to her about for three days. There's no way I can do, like two to three minutes at a time. We have a little conversation. I couldn't do three days. Hey, it's Bobby Bones. Join me and former NFL quarterback Matt Castle every Wednesday for our new podcast, Lots to say with Bobby Bones and Matt Castle. Between us, we have over 17,500 100 passing yards, multiple New York Times bestsellers, and one mirrorball trophy from Dancing with the Star. So where else you can find a show with that much athleticism and football insight? Based in Nashville, we're more than just your basic NFL show. We talk sports, but we talk pop culture and music and a little bit of everything because we got lots to say. I. I texted you and you texted me back. 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Amy (31:20)

Oh, my gosh. He was yelling at his players in the most aggressive way. Like, all the parents around me, anytime he would yell at them, like, they would do something wrong, and he would be like, you have one job to, like, make a pass. But the way he. I can't even telling sixth grade. Oh, I mean, okay.

Bobby Bones (31:38)

Because a high school coach. I'm like, I get it.

Amy (31:40)

No, no, no, no, no. This was, like, anger. I. I can't even mimic it. I don't even know how to get across how angry and aggressive he was. And it would be like, okay, okay, one bad pass. Like, you have one job. So, like, I was like, oh. But all the barons around me, we would kind of look each other, like, what is. What is happening? But the parents of the team that the. The coach, the yeller, the aggressive guy, they were unfazed. So obviously they are used to it. But we were concerned. Even the security guard that was standing next to us, that's there just at the school for the game, like, he was like, oh, my blood is boiling. I do not like the way he's talking to these kids. Like, this needs to stop. Like, he was ready to go in there if he needed to, to kind of shut this guy down because he was so mean.

Bobby Bones (32:24)

Mean coaches coach differently. Sixth grade. That does feel a bit young for someone super aggressive. However, a coach knows his players, like, parent knows their kids.

Amy (32:37)

Right.

Bobby Bones (32:38)

It wasn't the team you were rooting for, though, so that is kind of why I was a shock. Is that what you're saying? Yeah. Like, you had never seen him before?

Amy (32:44)

No, I just.

Bobby Bones (32:45)

Did you want to say something? Would you in any world have gone up to him?

Amy (32:48)

I. No, probably not. But, I mean, I definitely was. Every time it would happen, we would just. My jaw would sort of drop, and I would look and I'd be like, oh, my gosh, this is so awkward. Like, it was so. It was that kind of aggressive to where it's awkward. I mean, I didn't feel the need to step in and protect these kids. I don't think that they were in danger. But the security guard definitely didn't like it. Like, he was triggered. Like, he's like, I do not like this at all whatsoever. And I was more, like, mortified for the man because I'm like, this is embarrassing.

Bobby Bones (33:17)

Did his team win?

Amy (33:19)

Yes.

Bobby Bones (33:20)

Okay. I'm good then.

Amy (33:22)

Okay. As long as they win. It doesn't matter.

Bobby Bones (33:24)

Well, it doesn't sound like he's hitting.

Amy (33:26)

No, no, no.

Bobby Bones (33:27)

Different kids need to be coached in different ways. I needed to be coached a specific way. Second grade, I'm like, no chance. But that sixth and seventh grade, it's travel ball to almost time for the real world. I didn't see it, so I can't look at it and just absolutely go. But, you know, some coaches are great, too, at how effective they are at communicating and if his most effective way is very aggressive. Was he always aggressive with everyone?

Amy (33:53)

No. I mean, when they would come, I was watching that because I was like, when they would huddle up or there would be time out, like, he would, you know, high five, fist bump. He'd be like, oh, good job, good job, doing good. But it was more during the heat of the moment plays that I could understand having passion and wanting to get a kid's attention and yell at them to do it right. But I don't know, maybe it's just his demeanor was very aggressive and angry, and I thought a tad too much, even for high schoolers. Like, if. If the kids were older, I still think it would have been too much, but whatever, I guess it's working. And if y'all are not phased by it, I'm sure y'all were yelled at. Kids, sports, I. I'm just not used to seeing anything like that.

Bobby Bones (34:35)

Big guy, little guy, big guy. Okay. It probably looked even more aggressive because he was bigger. I have no problems with aggressive coaches if the aggression is out of love. But they're also meeting that aggression with kindness, love, and support in other ways. Because if you're a hammer and the whole world's a nail, that's all you're doing, is hammer and nails. And that only lasts for a bit of time before it's not effective anymore. So. Hey, Anyone? Let's go. All right. I think I'm pro coach here.

Amy (35:02)

Okay.

Bobby Bones (35:02)

He didn't hit anybody. He won. Yeah. Yeah.

Amy (35:06)

I just didn't know how far is too far. I wanted to take video, but then I thought, that seems wrong. I didn't know if I'd have to get his permission.

Bobby Bones (35:15)

No, you wouldn't if it was in a public place. I was at a high school game maybe two years ago, and the coach on the other team, the basketball coach, walked up to the scores table in the middle of the game and took a full drink and threw it on the court.

Amy (35:26)

No.

Bobby Bones (35:27)

Because he didn't like how the refs were calling. Now, that was aggressive. And so they had to spend, like, 15 minutes cleaning up the court. Like, everybody's running. He. In the middle of the game, he took a full container from the press box from somebody who's running the press box. Just chunked it on the court. It was hilarious.

Amy (35:43)

The other night or however, whenever that was. Like, I don't know. Last weekend or the weekend before when Tennessee was playing Auburn. The Tennessee coach basketball.

Bobby Bones (35:51)

Yeah.

Amy (35:51)

Yeah. The Tennessee coach got mad at one point and threw his water bottle down, and they had to clean up the court.

Bobby Bones (35:56)

And did you say that's way aggressive and you, like.

Amy (35:58)

No, I didn't. He was, like, way too aggressive. I just thought he was. It was very reactionary. Like, he had his water, and then all of a sudden, he's like. He just threw it down. I understand that. Like, I've thrown things in my own house.

Bobby Bones (36:10)

You've jumped into pools fully clothed.

Amy (36:13)

Yeah, but I wasn't yelling at anybody.

Bobby Bones (36:15)

Like yourself inside.

Amy (36:17)

But I know at home I have lost it before. And it was almost like this. Like, I was watching him lose it, but it's almost like this is his method.

Bobby Bones (36:25)

Yeah, I don't think he's losing it. I think that's how he does it. And again, had you told me they lost, maybe I felt different about this.

Amy (36:30)

Okay.

Bobby Bones (36:31)

But I'm for a winner. All right. Got this voicemail from Melanie. I need some help. I have a big issue with not going for something because I'm afraid of.

Amy (36:43)

Failure, be that a certification test or a promotion opportunity.

Bobby Bones (36:50)

Even though I can, like, talk myself into knowing it's a good idea, I.

Amy (36:54)

Can'T seem to do it.

Bobby Bones (36:56)

I need therapy, obviously, but you guys.

Amy (36:59)

Are always my first job, so if anyone has advice, I'd appreciate it.

Bobby Bones (37:03)

Okay, Melanie, I'm gonna give you two very easy things to think about that hopefully will make this process easier for you. Number one, nobody likes to fail. So don't feel like you're alone. And the only regret that you're gonna have later in life is not that you failed at something, it's if you never tried. Because we fail at things all the time. We're also obsessed with ourselves, meaning we think if we suck at something, we fail at something. Other people look at us and think less of us. I'm wildly insecure. It's why I do this job. You really don't get into an art and be a creator unless you're wildly insecure. And that is me. But I also realize nobody cares. Like, we're all so obsessed with ourselves that if somebody else fails I don't think about it for more than one split second, and I move on with my life because I'm so obsessed with myself. But that's how everybody is. So let's just say the reason you don't want to fail is because you don't want to be embarrassed. Other people aren't spending any of their time thinking about you. And that is the most freeing. Although it doesn't feel like that. It feels like it's an insult. Nobody cares about you. Well, the people very close to you in your life do care about you. They didn't love you regardless whether you fail or not. But the people that like, oh, man, I'll be looked at as a failure, yeah, maybe for 0.2 seconds, because everybody is so obsessed with themselves. So the first part of this is, you're gonna regret not doing it more than if you do it and you do it poorly. That's number one. Number two, if you do it poorly and people judge you for it, they're only gonna judge you for a split second because they're too worried about themselves. Nobody cares. So my advice to you is think of yourself three years from now. What if you're in the same exact spot three years from now having this internal monologue of, I don't know if I can do it. I don't think it's a good idea. You're going to look back three years ago and go, man, I wish I would have just tried then. Because here's what happens. Let me play the situation out. You go and you attempt one of these certifications or promotion opportunity, and it goes bad. So first you tried, but secondly, you're going to be able to learn so much from it. Not happening. Now. Do you want to get it? Absolutely. But what you're going to be able to take from it is, okay, it didn't happen. Why didn't it happen? What was I not doing that I could have done better? How did I communicate? That maybe wasn't the best form of communication, that I can communicate better with my boss. Who can I learn from to actually get better? How do I create leverage for a promotion? So anytime you fail at something, as long as you don't quit, you learn from that something. So my advice to you is, and I say this in the most loving way, suck it up. Because it sounds like you want to do it. It sounds like you think you're good enough to do it. It sounds like you think you can do it, but what's holding you back is this fear of either other People judging you, which I will say again, nobody cares enough about you. Your family does. Your A list always does. Your inner circle always does. That's one. And then number two, you're going to regret it so bad in a year, two, year, three, year, six, year, 10 year, 20 years that you didn't try. You will never regret something that you failed at if you kept going. Because eventually you're going to get it. You will always regret not trying. So that's my advice to you. I believe in you. You want to do it. It ain't even about therapy. It's about just committing and going. The hardest thing to do is just go. It's like, I hate working out. Do you know how I start working out? Crap. Let's just go. Let's just get it over with. Let's go. Hardest thing is starting. So go get it. Don't whine about it. If you do whine about it, whine about it alone, like in your room. You got it. No problem. Eventually. All right. That's my advice to you, Melanie. Go get them. I'm rooting for you. Hey, you need another one of these tough love talks? I'm right here. I've done everything wrong in my career. Everything. Heck, I wrote a whole book on failure called fail until you don't, where I talked to a bunch of people, how I feel about it. You heard that? But I talked to a bunch of people that are wildly successful, that weren't wildly successful, and they had so much failure in their life. I had Stapleton in my book. I had the former governor of Arkansas. I had Charlemagne, the God. I had Walker. Hey. I had all these people that you look at and go, man, they are so successful. But when you hear about all the crap that they had to get through just to get to the point where we see their success. My greatest talent is tenacity, and I believe you have that, too. So thank you for the voicemail. Leave a voicemail anytime. Anybody. 877 77. Bobby, Melanie, I'm rooting for you now. Suck it up and put in the work. Make the effort and go get it. And if you don't get it, repeat the step. Suck it up. Put in the work. Go get it a second time. All right, that's it. It's time for the good news with Bobby. Tell me something good. Their house got burned down in the California wildfires. So after it was clear, they went back to the remains to see if anything had survived the flames. So they go back and they're looking, and he goes to look in this special place. It's Brian and Stephanie and they live together. Not married, but they go through just looking for some stuff. And he knows where kind of this safe area is. And he goes in, he finds the ring that he was going to use to propose to her. Still perfect shape. So that's what he did right there at the site that the house had burned down. There's a picture. He gets on his knee and proposes to her. He's like, I can't wait. All this happened, brought us even closer together. And it sucked. But what doesn't suck is being with you. He didn't say that, but he should have said that. Exactly.

Amy (42:57)

That was from a movie.

Bobby Bones (42:59)

I just nailed that. But that's a great story. And there's a great picture of him proposing. It sucks cuz all the houses are just gone around him.

Amy (43:07)

It's terrible.

Bobby Bones (43:09)

But we are focusing on the good because they are now together. She said yes, obviously, that she has a mask on. And you know the picture where they do the hand, it's like, look at my finger. She's wearing a, like a full mask.

Amy (43:22)

That's good. I mean, this is one of those situations where it'll either like bring you closer together or tear you apart.

Bobby Bones (43:28)

Yeah, I think it brought them together.

Amy (43:29)

I think it did.

Bobby Bones (43:30)

That's a great story. The second part is good luck to those crazy kids. We love love. That story's from the mirror. That's what it's all about. That was. Tell me something good, Bones. And that is the end of the first half of the pod. The first half of the podcast. That is the end of the first half of the podcast. That is the end of the first half of the podcast. You can go to podcast two or you can wait till podcast to come out. Hey, it's Bobby Bones. Join me and former NFL quarterback Matt Castle every Wednesday for our new podcast, Lots to say with Bobby Bones and Matt Cassle. Between us, we have over 17,500 passing yards, multiple New York Times bestsellers, and one Mirror Ball trophy from Dancing with a Star. So where else are you going to find a show with that much athleticism and football insight? We talk sports, but we talk pop culture and music and a little bit of everything. Listen to Lots to Say with Bobby Bones and Matt Castle on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcasts. Jon Stewart is back at the Daily show and he's bringing his signature wit and insight straight to your ears with the Daily Show Ears Edition podcast. Dive into John's unique take on the biggest topics in politics, entertainment, sports, and more. Joined by the sharp voices of the show's correspondents and contributors, and with extended interviews and exclusive weekly headline roundups, this podcast gives you content you won't find anywhere else. Ready to laugh and stay informed? Listen on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. People my people, what's up? This is Questlove Man. I cannot believe we're already wrapping up another season of Questlove Supreme. Man, we've got some amazing guests lined up to close out the season. But you know, I don't want any of you guys to miss all the incredible conversations we've had so far. I mean, we talked to Amazon Marie, Johnny Mar Ev, Jonathan Schechter, Billy Porter, and so many more. Look, if you haven't heard these episodes yet, hey, now's your chance. You gotta check them out. Listen to Questlove supreme on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. $1.4 billion in NFL quarterback contracts the untold stories behind the biggest deals in football history AJ I'm AJ Stephens, Vice President of Client Strategy at Athletes first, introducing the Athletes First Family podcast, the Quarterback series. My co host, Brian Murphy, Athletes first CEO, and I are sitting down with the agents who have negotiated contracts for Justin Herbert, Deshaun Watson, Dak Prescott, Tuathungavailoa, and Jordan Love. Listen to Athletes First Family podcast on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.